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I Never Felt Like I Had a Mom

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    Unhealthy Relationship With My Mom

    I never bonded with my Mother.  My early experiences with her are filled with memories of criticism.  I was told that I was "weird", "from outerspace" and "in my own little world".  I was the middle child and did not experience the...
    Skyler Skyler 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 8, 2007

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    I Caused My Mums Heart Attack

    When I was born my mum had a heart attack and was in hospital for 10 months and I was brought up by aunts. She came home and I went home when I was 1 year old. Then she was an invalid This was the 1950s and hearts were not repairable. She was pretty much bed ridden for the...
    sugerbear sugerbear 61-65, M 2 Responses Jan 16, 2008

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    My Mother the Martyr

    She was never there. Never went to a parents evening, never happy with me. If I dared to complain I was tired, I was shouted at "your tired, what about me.....blah blah blah" I wasn't allowed to be tired. If I said I'm stressed "Your stressed, how do you think...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F 14 Responses Sep 23, 2007

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    Easily Put

    My mother doesn't act like a mother and refuses to believe she's in her mid-forties and instead sixteen again. Pathetically stubborn, to her the world revolves around herself and it's everyone else's fault. Sugar coating her voice, she lies often. She has never been there for...
    Marowit Marowit 18-21, F Jan 11, 2009

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    It's Sad That She Isn't A Mother

    but it's worse that she is my worst enemy. my mother is my worst enemy. she goes out of her way to hurt me. she spreads lies about me, tells people not to hire me to clean their apartments or to babysit. she spread gossip about me, redicules me, and really has been successful at...
    veronica4ever veronica4ever 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2012

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    My Parents Divorced When I Was 2

    I was with her until I was 5, I have been a grown up for a few years, and we have been 852 miles apart ever since :(
    hardchoices hardchoices 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 26, 2008

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    Never

    We never really clicked. Maybe because I remind her of my father with the light skin and freckles? Maybe because I was there and remember her marriage to him and all the bad memories that linger. I'm the last one to remind her of him and I think that has always bothered her. Of...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 11, 2009

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    My Mom

    I WON'T SAY THAT ME AND  MOM'S RELATIONSHIP WAS HORRIBLE BUT WHEN  I LOOK AT ME AND MY CHILDREN'S RELATIONSHIP I FEEL IT COULD OF BEEN A WHOLE LOT BETTER. I GREW UP  IN A FAMILY OF SEVEN. FIVE BROTHERS AND ONE OLDER SISTER. WE NEVER HAD MUCH BUT I CAN'T COMPLAIN I HAD AN OKAY...
    sophisticatedangel sophisticatedangel 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 16, 2011

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    My Mom Left

    My Mom left when I was young, and my Step mom didn't give a crap about me. Still doesn't. Now my real mom is dead, and my Dad and step mom are divorced. Woo.
    coderedgirlx7 coderedgirlx7 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 3, 2011

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    Well, I Had a Mom...

    but she was more like a child with severe psychological problems whom I was always trying to help, even though she had the authority.
    paradoxical paradoxical 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 15, 2008

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    The Dance

    I never felt like I had a mom, not even a mother.  Sure biological, she gave birth to me.  That doesn't mean she knew how to be a 'mom'.  31.5 years later she's yet to figure it out. It's a dance we do, her and I.  I play the mother, the responsible one, the...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 27, 2007

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    Reclusive Mother, Abusive Brother

    Short and to the point. My dad killed himself, my brother found his body....but even before that my brother had anger problems and abused me, and my mom was slowly becoming a recluse. Now, my brother is so angry my mom is fearing for her life. They live together in a trailor my...
    MEDSING MEDSING 26-30 Sep 26, 2012

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    It's Never Too Late To Heal

    My very first memory is of me crying at a screen door while my step father laughed at me. I think my mother was going somewhere, leaving me behind with that maniac. I think even at the tender age of 3 or 4 I knew he was a maniac. The verbal and physical abuse were...
    catlvr214 catlvr214 41-45 1 Response Aug 23, 2008

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    Now She Wants To Bond!

    My problem is that when I hit 35 or so, my mom decided to rewrite history and declare herself "worlds greatest mom and grandma".  Meanwhile, I never felt like we bonded growing up.  She never once told me she loved me.  My grandmother...
    mchell mchell 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 26, 2009

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    I Was the Mother

    ..& she was the child.... Except for when she was screaming about what an ungrateful little ***** of a of a daughter I was.  Only when she needed to confess about all her slutty affairs, and all her problems with my father was I "worthy".. As long as i was...
    Vox Vox 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 23, 2007

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    I Didn't

    All I remember from my mother was her being a drunk, and didn't give a damn about me. She wasn't around ever I grew up pretty much on my own was alone pretty much my whole life. She did try though, she tried getting closer to me right before she passed away. I didn't have it...
    XLunaXLovegoodX XLunaXLovegoodX 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 13, 2010

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    Superficial Martyr

    My mother frustrates me to no end ... she has been a mother for 34 years to three girls (I'm the oldest) but  has rarely shown any warmth or depth in the last 21.  My mother kicked my father out of the house 21 years ago, and they ended up divorcing shortly...
    annajc annajc 31-35 2 Responses Jan 1, 2009

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    What people say, and what I say

    She was immature due to overprotecting from her mother. She got married to an *******. When she realized her mistake, it was too late. Worked a lot to try to give me a future. Then fell sick, and died. So she did what she could under the circumstances. I can't say I missed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 1, 2008

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    I Live In Heartbreak-

    not feeling worthy of her love as a kid has screwed me up for life- i just dont see a way out- it has damaged all my relationships. now i have borderline, attachment problems and no therapy has been of much help, except to demoralize me. there went that last vestiges of  my...
    eden eden 31-35, F Sep 24, 2007

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    Not Till Ep

    My Mom and I were never close. She was never really there for me, and understood me. She didn't believe me, when I told her my father was abusing me. She never took care of me when I was sick, or when I was depressed. She never put me before herself. Her children never came 1st...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 12, 2012

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    For the longest time,

    the lady who was responsible for giving birth to me and I never bonded nor really had a relationship. It was a very difficult and poor relationship. She had made a majorly poor choice after she discovered that she was pregnant with me after sleeping with a guy she had just met...
    Spiritualhope Spiritualhope 36-40, F Jul 18

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    I wish I had more positive childhood memories

    with my mother growing up. She made many poor decisions throughout my lifetime and unfortunately we've never been very close. It's hard for me even to this day to forgive her for some of the things she's done, and I can't help but partially blame her for how I turned out. I...
    addictionbarbie addictionbarbie 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    She Was a Ghost

    Even from a very early age, I knew there was something "not right" with my mother.  She was so distant and removed from life, as if she was just a ghost, walking aimlessly on this earth.  She has always been somewhat of a workaholic and pragmatic to the...
    hippieheart hippieheart 41-45, F 8 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    My Mom's Hated Me Most of My Life

    Today I'm 42years old (43 next month) My mom gave me away when i was 7yrs old, before i left i was an abused child, physically, mentally, physically, sexually, i went into the system all my childhood and adolescence as still an abused child in some form, moved out of my last...
    embrissa embrissa 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2008

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    Nope....

    My Mom and I were never close. She was never really there for me, and understood me. She didn't belive me, when I told her my father was abusing me. She never took care of me when I was sick, or when I was depressed. She never put me before herself. Her children never came 1st...
    xSilentlySufferingx xSilentlySufferingx 18-21, F Jul 5, 2010

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    Beauty Queen

    My mother was a wrong side of the tracks beauty queen who married  a  hard  working engineer.  Together they achieved financial and social heights beyond imagination.  I was raised by staff.  My driver, Harun, we grew up overseas, was my parent. ...
    mmss mmss 41-45 Jul 22, 2008

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    I Am Very Sad

    My mother is about to turn 86 she is in a nursing home for people with Dementia related problems. The nursing staff think she is just so wonderful. My mother might have undertaken a change in her personality (some brain cells got killed off) but she is still the person I grew up...
    cello cello 51-55, F 4 Responses Oct 11, 2007

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    My Mom Was Not There

    There seem to be a lot of mom groups huh? Damn Freud! Due to family racial differences and my parents marrying just because my mom was pregnant with me, I was forced to live with my dad as a baby. My mom is Mexican and that side of the family did not like my dad at all. So, my...
    EricS EricS 26-30, M Sep 25, 2008

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    Me And Mum Never Bonded

    when i was born, my 39 year old mum had post natal depression and was unable to look after me so she gave my then 15 year old sister the job.  my sister had left school by then and took me everywhere with her, so much so that her boyfriend (now husband) thought i was her own...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 3, 2011

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    Paranoid Schizophrenia

    I grew up with a severely mentally disturbed Mom, diagnosed Paranoid Schizophrenic when I was 14. Even as an adult, I simply don't tell my Mother anything, and in turn I have made sure that I have the type of relationship with my kids where there's nothing they can't tell me and...
    justjudyblue2 justjudyblue2 36-40, F Apr 18, 2008

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    That avatar is ironic; I used to call her mommy dearest...

    Oh, where to begin?  I have never felt much like I have a mother, in the supportive, loving way that other people have.  I certainly have a mother, but (owing to a perception problem, or reality,) she has always felt to me like a person who put herself first, and I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 24, 2007

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    Not At All...

    My Mom and I were never close. She was never really there for me, and understood me. She didn't belive me, when I told her my father was abusing me. She never took care of me when I was sick, or when I was depressed. She never put me before herself. Her children never came 1st...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 21, 2010

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    Awful Mother

    My mother ignored me, abused me mentally and physically, and, to this day, only talks to me when she wants something from me.  Just the other month she accused me of being "crazy" because I happen to remember certain abusive episodes that she says never occurred...
    girlkitty79 girlkitty79 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 1, 2008

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    fallen727 fallen727 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    I've thought about meeting her over and over. Replaying crazy scenarios in my head. I bet she was young I bet she was beautiful. I bet she had a good reason for not wanting me. I...
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    Well...yes.I have travelled since birth and seen a variety of lives and experiences.I was a very stimulated child with culture and cultures,history,books...and awesome mother <3...
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    I still feel this way, because it's true. I will never matter to anybody. No friends, no family, no boyfriend......just.....nobody.....
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    FriendlyBryan FriendlyBryan 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 5

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    I don't know if I was born in the wrong era or the in wrong side of the world or in the wrong family. I always managed to become an outsider. I don't like it and I wish to change.
    alexiadahl alexiadahl 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 12

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    I was stoked to visit my first comicon today, as none of my friends were really "nerdy" enough to be into it. I meticulously planned my matching costume with my biffle and I...
    dolceharajuku dolceharajuku 26-30, F Jul 13

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    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M Jul 20

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    You are soo naughty like my pals.....who would drop in just to check her out
    Phalguni9 Phalguni9 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 22

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    She literally doesn't talk to me and she can't even tell me where she's going with her friends. It's either something really small or something really big but either way she...
    Someoneatschoolfoundme Someoneatschoolfoundme 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    But then i just got brave and spoke up. Lmao. Tried advising. Shared my experiences. Still dont have a nich. But fit in more than i thought. Lol. Its a nice...
    converted converted 46-50, M Jul 12

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    I used to not fit in In till yesterday. I went to party got high and drunk, lost my virginity ended up going to jail because the cops where called and I was caught doing illegal...
    nerd1500 nerd1500 16-17, M Jul 12

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    Glad I didn't "fit in"...**** that ****.Gotta' be your own individual,don't let society make one up for ya'.
    McKnight94 McKnight94 18-21, M Jul 12

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    I am and I'm glad I am because being different makes me special :)
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    I am different from the crowd because I don't follow it or stay inside of it. I'm just my own person in a world full of people.
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