I Never Had a Dad

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 167 People

    Feeling The Gaping Hole Of Not Knowing My Dad.

    I didn't find out about my real Dad until I was in my late twenties. I found out while I was googling my mother's name and found the divorce case. I saw my name but with a different last name. I was floored. When I confronted her, she acted typically free of blame. This whole...
    Gossipfoodie32 Gossipfoodie32
    26-30, F
    Nov 15, 2012

    Saw him once since I was seven

    and that was by accident at a store. Not a text, call, letter, visit. Scum bag.
    tortop tortop
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 18, 2014

    To Have A Father

    Well......I do have a father who is there physically, but not mentally. Honestly , I'm done trying to put the square in the circle hole. I quit. My parents have been divorced since I was seven so about five years ( I know my age says 18-21, my finger slipped while I was selecting...
    Icecream2000 Icecream2000
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 27, 2012

    How To Be A Dad When You Never Had One....

    The story goes like many of the others that I have seen shared on here.  My father was abusive to my mother so she had to leave him, (before I was born)  he was such a violent man that his answer to my mother telling him that she was pregnant with me was to simply...
    Lyons155 Lyons155
    4 Responses Apr 27, 2010


    So, its always been "Mommy" . May of this year I met my dad. All these years & I just met him, he was in jail and even when he got out he didnt make and effort, he told me my mom didnt tell him. I know she didnt but everyone was telling him I look like him, even his family...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 16, 2012


    People are always saying how they have great fathers as role models. Then i think of myself and i see i never had a father. He had two chances to see me, he even had a chance to adopt me. But he didn't . I wish there were more fathers like my brother. My brother has two kids and...
    zaynmalik123 zaynmalik123
    1 Response Jun 18, 2012

    It'S Simple

    yes, it's simple. my real father left my mother and me as the only child when i was 6 months. never having any contacts. never seeing each other since then. i only know his photo and i don't really know what it is like to have a father. then i have a step father, it went bad, and...
    shion13 shion13
    Feb 10, 2013

    Basicly, i never had a father.

    I had to learn everything by my own. I remember when i was about 4-5 that my dad was abusive, he beat my sister up on a regular, chased my mom with knifes, was a cocaine user, gambled away our cars, and more. He was a criminal. When i was 6 years old he shot a guy in the leg and...
    Alifefilledwith Alifefilledwith
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Mar 10, 2014

    He Never Cared

    I always wanted to know my dad but he never cared about me he let soon after my birth and i saw him every other weekend but he was cruel to me then i lost contact with him for 8 years and he still never cared all he wanted me for was my money and i wish i knew why he doesnt...
    unwrittensuicide unwrittensuicide
    18-21, F
    Feb 22, 2010

    I Never Had A Dad, And No One Can Replace That Hole

    I actually don't even know who my father is and it kills me not knowing. it is 1 out of 4 or 5 guys. i was always told a fake name, and fake stories that change every time i ask for the truth. I have 2 sisters but my mother only took care of them and asked my grandparent to keep...
    WhitneyEloise15 WhitneyEloise15
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jan 22, 2011

    Look Right Through Me

    My father was having an affair with my mother that was on and off. He is 21 years older than she is and he is a bully. She was going to college and he was a professor of physics. He'd recently ended an engagement, or rather had it ended for him (she left him because she found out...
    junholaday junholaday
    13-15, F
    Apr 24, 2013

    I Have Never Had A Father

    My mother met my father because she was a medical patient of his. He was already married with three children. They had an affair and I was the result of the affair. My mother thought that he would leave his family for her but of course, he did not.  I have never met him, and he...
    onlinealias5 onlinealias5
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 3, 2013

    The Feeling Of Having A Dad..

    I wish i had a Dad. I have grown up without a Dad. My Mum left my Dad when she was pregnant with me and then he came back and they stayed with each other for a year or so.  Then she got pregnant with my little sister. He used to hit my Mum when she was...
    mimi1992 mimi1992
    Oct 15, 2010

    I Can't Even Find Him..

    even if i tried there is no way i could go and find my father, it hurts.. it's my biggest wish to know who he was. i always wanted to be daddys little princess, but some things are better left for fairy tales. i need him.. i hate men and everything to do with them. even though...
    lilbebe lilbebe
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 27, 2010


    I never had a father. My Mom left him when my brother and I were still infants. I don’t remember seeing him; I’ve never even seen a picture. From what little I’ve been able to gather over the years, it’s probably a good thing that I never knew him. I just can’t stop...
    9thMan 9thMan
    26-30, M
    Oct 29, 2011

    Two Hours

    He was never there when I needed someone and boy where there times when I needed someone, anyone to be there. He left soon after I was born, there were a few deaths in the family and he got scared. Afraid that he would be saddled with a wife and child - dieing a broken man...
    arthurn arthurn
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Aug 13, 2009

    I Always Wanted a Dad

    I never really knew my "***** donor" He took of September 10, 1981, only two days after my birth.  For years i had questions no one could answer but him.  I never had that talk about guys with my father.  I only had my mother, grandmother, and uncle for...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2009

    I Want a Dad For a Day!!!

    i wish i had a dad .... its not like he's dead he lives somewere... where u might ask someplace in west india ... .. i just cant stand the fact that he created me and left as if it were nothing... and today im 20 and still havent spoken one word to him or have heard a word...
    goof777 goof777
    18-21, M
    7 Responses Mar 11, 2008

    I Don't Need You

    After I turned 18 my father found me on facebook and suddenly out of nowhere started trying to talk to me. I come from a small town, where he and most of my extended family reside. He had PLENTY of opportunities to contact me, but I would only hear from him once every few years...
    ThatPrincessCharm ThatPrincessCharm
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 3, 2013

    He left us when i was 1 year old

    and then my mom and i moved to my grandparents. I only saw him on pictures but i know i hate him so much, how could he do that ??
    xsweetdreamsx xsweetdreamsx
    18-21, F
    Jun 13, 2014


    never met my dad or even knew his name until i was 19 years old. he is a rich ******* that has three cars and a big *** house. what does my mom have?? nothing. of course so cliche
    nikemojogolf nikemojogolf
    1 Response Aug 27, 2010

    Like You, I Want A Dad.

    I know things are tough.  I know people are resiliant.  I know I have little reason to complain about my life.So I'm not complaining.  I'm wishing - I wish I had a Dad. Looking through some of the stories here, I'm in good company.  Me?  I was given away around the age of 5...
    zoltonite zoltonite
    Jun 19, 2011

    Dont Know What To Think

    My dad left my mom when i was 2 years old atleast thats what she says... My dad left me to a meth junkie and my mom did so much to keep that hidden from me until i got older and realized things.... It wasn't fair... Nothing seemed fair about anything , i dont have a father , my...
    Joepepsix Joepepsix
    18-21, M
    1 Response Feb 5, 2013

    My dad was a alcoholic,

    when i was 3 months or so he threatened my mom, said he was gonna kill us, so she left. When i was six i wanted to meet him again, and i did, for about three weekends. He drank too much, i woke up with him touching me, that was my first "No!" that i remember, as i crawled off...
    Aiawa Aiawa
    26-30, F
    Sep 19, 2015

    Never Had A Chance To Meet Him...

    im 18 going for my last year of highschool and after one of my teachers told my class the story of when he found his birth mother and that he never went to find his father and regretted it, this was on his 40th B-Day and i dont really know why he told us but anyway it really got...
    eric12341234 eric12341234
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Aug 26, 2010

    Just Some Guy I Call " Dad"

    It's always been an awkward relationship between my dad and I ever since I can remember. I have never been daddys little girl, and thats somthing I have always wanted. Not from him but I guess in general is what I mean. It's actsually sad that whenever Im not with my boyfriend...
    angelbby39 angelbby39
    18-21, F
    Apr 6, 2012

    I Hate Him

    He was never there for me. Never taught me to ride a bike, or how to act like an actual guy, or anything I should know about my teenage years, which I'm still going through (if you read my confession you would know I'm actually 15). I feel so helpless, useless. I didn't even know...
    WarmIceberg WarmIceberg
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jun 26, 2012


    my mom had to kick my dad out whenever she found out she was pregnant because he started cheating and he kept denying being the dad.he wasn't there when i was born, he was behind bars for drugs.he spent 10 years in jail, and when he got out, i wanted to meet him.so my mom...
    haileymarie44 haileymarie44
    Jun 8, 2008

    Why Didn't You?

    Why didn't you stop drinking Dad? Why didn't you help me when I needed help? Why didn't you hold me? Why weren't you at home when the rest of us wanted nothing more than to have a family life like the other kids? Why was the pub a better place to be? Why did you only ever...
    Jzag Jzag
    1 Response Sep 17, 2012

    I Had Two And Still Never Had One

    My mom and my biological father divorced when I was very young (I think I was about 2). My dad took off to live a young single life and I never saw him except on holidays. We never developed a relationship. He had visitation rights for every other weekend but he never came and...
    lafoienlamour lafoienlamour
    22-25, F
    Dec 9, 2010

    Eight Months Isn't Much Time

    When I was born my father was 63 and my mother was 41.  This was in 1958 and the average lifespan of a retired policeman that enjoyed eggs and bacon and smoked two packs of Camels a day was not very long.  My father died at age 64 when I was 8 months old.  He had...
    jgrantoldfart jgrantoldfart
    51-55, M
    Sep 8, 2010

    Saving Face

            Many times others would not know how to react to the fact I didn't have a Dad in my life. I would always shrug it off, and say I was lucky. Not to have anyone harass my boyfriends, to make rules , and "ruin" my life like how the other girls complained about their...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Feb 27, 2012

    Never Knew My Dad, Only The Stories

    I always wondered what was wrong with me, I was always "different," not popular or particularly smart, certainly not a high achiever.  Scraped through high school, failed out of college after a year (free ride down the toilet), did okay in the military but since then I've slowly...
    JSinTexas JSinTexas
    1 Response Apr 11, 2012

    Bastard Child

    I'm a genuine bastard child. Parents never married and my mom raised me. My dad stayed out of my life. He told my mom that he always hated the custody battles and the broken weekends of traveling between parents that he had to go through, and he wasn't going to do that for me. I...
    LostLotus LostLotus
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 24, 2011


    My dad died when I was five. I remember the funeral, but nothing about him.
    Mdear Mdear
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 23, 2010

    Running Out Of Time

    I don't know who my dad is, I don't even know his name.Every time I try and ask my mom about it she breaks down in tears and I leave feeling aweful.Its like she tries to play the victim...or maybe she is the victim.I don't know what to do anymore so Ive given up on my search.I...
    starlingOo starlingOo
    26-30, F
    Aug 22, 2011

    I Wish I Never Had A Dad.

    Im not like you. I've lived all my life with my "dad" (let's just say biological father) . But he has put me and my family through endless tears, pain and betrayal. I wish I never had a dad at all :(
    PeterYeah PeterYeah
    18-21, M
    7 Responses Nov 26, 2010
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