I Never Had a Real Wedding

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    Real Wedding, Just Not How I Planned

    My boyfriend (at the time) and I got married by Justice of the Peace after we found out I got pregnant. I didn't want to just "throw" together a wedding so we figured financially and logistically this would work out the best. He is in the army and I wanted to be together as a...
    pickle88 pickle88
    2 Responses Nov 20, 2011

    I keep having nightmares

    where everyone else in the world had a wedding except me. every other woman was a bride except me. they at least had dresses and a honeymoon and family there. everyone else had a wedding except me. my husband and I were both military at the time and if we didn't get married...
    Anuska23 Anuska23
    26-30, F
    Jun 11, 2015


    My fiance` and I have been together for a year & 6 months. We plan on getting married in August this year. We are not planning anything big [I never really wanted a big wedding] We planned to go court, I would buy a white dress, take pictures at the botanical gardens and then...
    Jan 17, 2013

    I got married in South Korea were my then

    fiancé was stationed 5 months after he was deployed. He was dead set against having a wedding in the states and more or less twisted my arm, but I went with it because I was young and standing up to him on the issue didn't work out. It was sad for me because at the time I...
    secret921 secret921
    18-21, F
    Oct 13, 2015

    Another Sacrifice For The Army

    My husband and I are both in the Army, that is where we met. We were both in the same armory and our brigade was scheduled to deploy. We went through the training together, worked together and started dating. I got pregnant. Which means I could no longer deploy. Him and I were...
    candy214 candy214
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 15, 2010

    First off, I'm very practical

    and make choices from my head and not heart. I had told my boyfriend in the beginning that I'm never getting married and never having kids. I never demand what I want. I guess I just thought he'd be so compelled to ask me to marry him. Not the case. I knew he was the one and...
    ezlyf ezlyf
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 13, 2015

    my rapists really did devalue me.

    I wasn't worth a wedding to my husband and I wasn't worth it to myself to say no
    Anuska23 Anuska23
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 21, 2015

    my husband and I were

    both in the military at the time. we just weren't able to afford a wedding and we didn't know how soon the coast guard would separate us. so we went to the court house so when he would go to "a" school in Petaluma and I would be required to stay behind on the east coast. I...
    Anuska23 Anuska23
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 25, 2015

    My husband and I had a short sorta ceremony.

    Only his parents were there and his dad's biker friend (our officiant). They smoke and would not allow us to have our wedding outside, thus I asked them to at very least open up the windows a few hours before the set time. Not only did they not, but it was very smoked filled and...
    Zanikat Zanikat
    31-35, F
    Mar 8, 2014

    4 Years Ago

    I was married by a justice of the peace in the county courthouse. I told myself that it would be easier that way. Less stress. My family doesn't like eachother very much.  We already had our first child and money was really tight. But now I kinda wish I had that wedding...
    allyKat allyKat
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Jul 22, 2007

    My First Husband And I Tried Twice

    To be fair I did have a real wedding when I married my husband, a beautiful wedding, but my first husband and I never had a formal wedding, despite having a vow renewal.My first husband, Ted, gave me his class ring when we were 16 years old. After we graduated from high school...
    rumspringa02 rumspringa02
    70+, F
    1 Response Feb 8, 2012

    Dared To Have A Court House Wedding.

    This may be long. I am thirty-one right now. When I was 21 my parents and my four siblings moved to New Zealand. My brother did come back the the United States to live because he got his girlfriend pregnant before he left. My parents made him move to New Zealand because he was a...
    nicoledawnanne nicoledawnanne
    Nov 30, 2011


    Okay - so in the eyes of the law it was a marriage real enough - but the wedding was something that wasn't so "real", not in my eyes at least. We only had six weeks to organize everything and so it was beyond small. I never minded at the time, I was marrying the person...
    MementoMori1983 MementoMori1983
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 24, 2009

    I could have had my father at the court room

    wedding that I had but I didn't because I didn't want my new mother in law to get upset and not like me. well guess what she still doesn't like me despite me giving up the world for her feelings. I wasn't worth it to my husband to even try to be romantic and I wasn't worth it...
    Anuska23 Anuska23
    26-30, F
    Jun 21, 2015

    I Had A Short Wedding

    mine was really short and sweet . but I really always dreamed of having a church wedding and warring a new white dressI am like any young girl at heart . i feel kinda cheated becalse I didnt get my church weddingi dont want it fancy . but i know after all its the meanning that...
    lunnas lunnas
    41-45, F
    1 Response May 1, 2011

    We just had to get it over with....

    My husband and I have been together now for about four years, and we've been married for a little over a year of that. We had some problems in the beginning of our relationship, but in the end, they only made us stronger. My husband comes from a family where the son is on his...
    barbsandler barbsandler
    May 25, 2010

    Lost More Than Just A Wedding...

    I had the wedding of the century planned: was going to get married at the United States Military Academy at West Point with a very posh reception to follow. Dress was purchased, venue paid for, invitations sent. Then we found out my mom's cancer was back. With a vengeance...
    savvy66394 savvy66394
    Dec 19, 2009

    Sometimes I think back like tonight.

    .. married too young to know any better.... after 14years...divorced and unmarried for 8 years... I wonder if I ever will get married the proper way..
    SelfishShellfish SelfishShellfish
    41-45, F
    May 11, 2015

    To Fruity For Fruit Loops

    Married my husband while he was incarcerated and had to share the day with complete strangers. Didn't have family there. I spend my big day driving 8 hours round trip and eating del taco for dinner and my wedding cake was a fudge brownie. To canny for words
    Meryweather Meryweather
    36-40, F
    Dec 9, 2012

    I Never Had a Real Wedding, and It Sucks

    It's not that I didn't have a real wedding, I just didn't have the wedding that I want to have now. My (now) husband immigrated to the US from another country. Given the terms of the visa he received I thought, let's have a small civil ceremony and then a big wedding later...
    chipmunk23 chipmunk23
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 9, 2007

    it's really hard trying to focus

    that while my husband and I didn't have a wedding I had dreamed of (which wasn't much to begin with but at the very least having family and a white dress and flowers) and I keep getting down about it. I feel like I wasn't worth it to my husband. with my husband being in...
    Anuska23 Anuska23
    26-30, F
    Jun 18, 2015

    Next Time If I Get Married It Will Be Different

    I only touched wedding dresses. I never wore one in my life. I visited churches but I never been in front of the altar in front of the pastor or reverend to bless my holy union. I never had a wedding ring, I never have a reception. Never had a honeymoon. You want to know what I...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Apr 30, 2011

    Life Is Not A Fairy Tale

    I am the second wife. My husband did the big wedding and honeymoon thing the first time around and didn't see the point of doing any of it again. His first wife was perfection to his family and they made it clear they wouldn't have any part of me. My family was too far away. My...
    Jan 14, 2013


    FOR  A  LONG  TIME  ,   i  hope  to have  a  romantic  wedding,  and  i  think  it  will be ,but last  month i  broke  up  with  my  boyfriends,so  sad,   he   even  doesn't  know  that  i  choosen  my  dream  wedding  dress  in  shopindream...
    gigicater gigicater
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 23, 2011

    I Am A Moron

    I met my husband in high school we married 6 years later. He needed a tax break took me to Reno. His drug addict brother and wife were witnesses they were high the whole trip. No dress,no family, no honeymoon,no nothing. He divorced me after 25 years because he was being sued...
    Cwcwt Cwcwt
    56-60, F
    Aug 11, 2013

    My Wedding

      When I was a little girl I used to dream of getting married. The long white flowing dress with flowers in my hair, my family there throwing white rose peddles on me. It was my dream but my own marriage turned to be much different. My husband and I married in Reno so I...
    erinjt erinjt
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 7, 2007
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