Post

I Never Knew My Father

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 222 People

    I Don't Even Know His Name

    I grew up with a step dad most of my life, we were always close when I was younger. It wasn't until my parents got divorced that I realized he was an alcoholic, which was the reason for the divorce. I didn't even realize that he was my step dad, I always thought he was my real...
    melissaxo melissaxo 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Truth And The Lies

    I never knew my dad and my mother always told me that he died in car accident. While i was young my mother had two relationships with other men. Who tried to fill up the void of father figure in life, but they sucked badly and i had two live with other kids, that sometimes were...
    1 Response Jan 23, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Too Late

    - My mother grabbed me up and took me away while I was still a baby. She was running from my father. He was abusive and she’d had enough. So one day when he was out, she left. Believe it or not, I actually have vague memories of the trip. I remember being in the back of a taxi...
    FriendlyBryan FriendlyBryan 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 2, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Still Would Like To See Aleast A Picture Of My Birth Dad

    I am 55 year in old female with a 11 year old daughter and my husband died in 2005 y husband died as a Pastor in one of his services. When I was entering into one of our services ,My mother said to me Barbara your Dad is not your real Dad" in shock I asked who is my Dad she said...
    11barbara 11barbara 56-60, F Jul 22, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Who Am I?

    The name on my birth certificate is my biological father's alias. My last name is a fictional person's name. My stepfather has never accepted me, I'm not allowed to use his name because he doesn't want me identified with him.  As I heard it, my real father was a heroin...
    Musical Musical 36-40, M 2 Responses May 18, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Guess I Wasn't Good Enough.

    I'm 27 making 28 on 11/21/ and i can actually say. "I never knew my father". My father was an Police Officer around the time my mother and father Met. They lived together at a young age. My Father was fired from the Police Force Due to him going Hunting with his Work Firearm. At...
    mrbibbins mrbibbins 26-30 2 Responses Oct 29, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Emptyness Comes Naturally To Me.

    all my life i wondered about my father, about what happened to him and all my other unasnered questions. when my mum fel pregnant with me she called my father but he didnt care, he never answered her calls and ignored her till she went away when i was born she notified him but...
    smileingbutdying smileingbutdying 13-15 1 Response Mar 2, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Love The Coward That Abandoned Me 30 Years Ago...

    Its been about two months since I met my father. He left my Mom whilst she was pregnant with me. After meeting him, I had these extreme moodswings...from extreme happiness and joy to extreme hurt and sadness. The latter because he abandoned me and never bothered to come find me...
    semajames semajames 26-30 5 Responses Apr 13, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Replaced Father

    I had heard about my biological dad a few times here and there, but my mom didnt really like talking about him. Basically, he was a ***** doner. I had never met him until I was about 10. It was another night that my mom had gone out to a bar (typical) and came into my room about...
    ChangeIsAGoodThing ChangeIsAGoodThing 13-15, F Jul 11, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Looking For My Father

    I live in Aurora,Indiana and I'm looking for my father.I don't know his name and would really like to find him,I have live in Aurora Indiana my whole life and the same goes for my mom.We live in Dearborn County,if you think you could help me please do.I would really like to get...
    Heather2414 Heather2414 22-25 Jan 1, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    He Doesn't Know That I Exist.

    Well as this forum states i never knew my father. He and my mom had a thing and then he went back to his ex-wife. My mom didnt tell him she was pregnant. And she didnt tell me about him until i was older. I am now 23 and have been wondering what we have in common. I dont need him...
    indigoblaque1369 indigoblaque1369 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 20, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Searching For The Wizard Of Oz

    I found out my 'father' wasn't my biological father in late 2003, I was 27. The person who told me was a family friend sworn to secrecy not to tell me until after the person who I thought was my 'father' had died (they died in 2002). She didn't know who my real father was. My...
    ffffr0zen ffffr0zen 36-40, M Apr 29, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Emptyness Comes Naturally To Me.

    all my life i wondered about my father, about what happened to him and all my other unasnered questions. when my mum fel pregnant with me she called my father but he didnt care, he never answered her calls and ignored her till she went away when i was born she notified him but...
    smileingbutdying smileingbutdying 13-15 1 Response Mar 2, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Wow...So, I'm 32 years old

    and have never known my father. My mother is mentally handicap and she doesn't really understand conception and timing and such. I've been told by family that its a man named Kipp. It's the name I've heard my whole life. Well, when I was pregnant with my 2nd daughter I decided...
    WeWillAlwaysHaveParis WeWillAlwaysHaveParis 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Father!

    I wish I could have had a father in my life. My father was in my life till I.was eight. Then my parents separated and we moved to another country. My father stayed in the country were my parents emigrated when they got married. After that I saw him two or three times. It's such...
    mmhb37 mmhb37 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 2, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Thanks For The Hole In My Heart 'daddy'

    From what my mum has told me when I was younger my dad saw me once as a baby and never again. According to my auntie (who I can freely talk to about my dad as I feel guilty asking my mum about him for fear she will think I don't appreiciate the life I have and has built me), he...
    jessicaadassa jessicaadassa 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 14, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    He Was Known As John The Turk...

    My biological father was a master of deception. My mother fell for him quite instantly because of his cheeky smile. They fell in love and she became pregnant with me when she was just turned 18. He wasn't too happy to learn of my creation and demanded she have an abortion. She...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 27, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Feel Like I Missed Out.

    My dad died when I was three of a heart condition and I don't remember him. My older sister by a year has a few vague memories of him and as everyone seems to remind me looks just like him. Both my parents were/are on the short side where I am 5'8" and pretty much tower...
    RedRebel RedRebel 18-21 3 Responses Jun 23, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Journey

    The journey about my biological father is a long one. All I knew as a child was that he took off when my mother was two months pregnant. I had a card from a company he used to own with his name on it. I knew he had Dutch roots. My mom told me he was smart and had little hands and...
    ChihuahuaSweetheart ChihuahuaSweetheart 26-30, F Jan 4, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    After 47 Years, I Have Found My Father

    I am 46 years old, will be 47 next month.  I have been divorced three times and now live with a wonderful man.  I have four grown children; girl 25, boy 22, girl 20, girl 18 and two grandchildren; girl 5 and boy 2; with one more grandchild on the way in October 2008. I...
    TarLion TarLion 46-50 17 Responses Jun 17, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    A Dad I Never New:(

    My dad.... he was perfect, amazing and just a grate father, in my imagionation. He was a alcoholic & a drug addict! I was placed in care aged 3 with a few distant memories of him, well 2 to be precised! Along with a few from later on in life. I saw him again when he turned up at...
    LittleMissPerfect58 LittleMissPerfect58 13-15, F Sep 23, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    No Memory Of My Dad..

    I never knew my real father. He left my mom when I was a baby and I have no memories of him.. he died a few months ago and I don't really know how to deal with that. I don't feel especially sad but it's kind of upsetting to know that I now have no chance of ever knowing him. I...
    Living4God Living4God 26-30, F Mar 17, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    ..........

      My father left me when i was about 3 years old. According to my mother at first he was very good dad and loved me and was happy to have me in his life. But then he "changed his mind about me". Also he constantly cheated on my mom. I have not seen him since he left. But i...
    shhh69 shhh69 18-21, F Oct 17, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Great Darth Lightyear.

    I'm going to start my story with something I remember from when I was really little. I remember I was about 2 years old and I was watching Toy Story. I thought it was really cool that buzz never met his dad until the end, and then they where really good friends. I remember I was...
    BluuWolf BluuWolf 18-21, M 1 Response May 16, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Don't Even Know Who He Is Really...

    My mother told me that when she was dating the person who was supposedly my father, she made up the story of her being pregnant because she thought it would make him feel obligated to her so they would have to get married. Well it didn't take long to figure out that my mother at...
    allenbird allenbird 36-40, M 6 Responses Jun 17, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Wish I Had Known

    I did know my Dad. I mean, he was there as I grew up. We lived under the same roof at times. But the man I knew was a tortured man. I never knew why.  All I knew of him was the alcoholic spending all his time in his room. Sitting on the side of his bed, wiping himself out...
    Soozles Soozles 46-50, F 8 Responses May 19, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    After 30 Years I Finally Met My Dad, But Now What?

    I found out this weekend that my father was a coward! He had known about me all this time. What hurt most is that he never came looking for me and that he probably wanted to keep my birth a secret forever. His poor wife didn’t even know about me till Saturday. And though...
    semajames semajames 26-30 1 Response Feb 20, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Not Then, Not Now, And Probably Never

    My mother had me when she was still in high school and naturally my real father was never around when I was growing up. I was so young that I can't be sure but as I recall, I remember going to visit him once at some store in a ***** mall. I can't remember his face or anything...
    AdorableCaterpillar AdorableCaterpillar 18-21, F Apr 15, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    On June 13th, 2013 I sent a letter via Facebook

    that would change my life.....It Read: Hi "name", I tried messaging you about 6 months back but I don’t think you received it. So, I thought I’d give it one more shot. Here goes....I’m writing you because growing up my mother was very open with me that she wasn’t sure...
    nic0lejean nic0lejean 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 1

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Don't Remember My Biological Father.

    I ddon't know who my biological father is he left when i was 4 years old and my mum was 8 months pregnant with my little brother. He left with no concern of me or my mum and took everything including the television, microwave and stereo system and all he left wwas a note sayin...
    Abuze Abuze 22-25, M May 13, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    It Was My Mom's Fault..

    Very brief..lol I was raised by a man who was not my father..but he'd been around since I was born, so inevitably he became "daddy".. We were a "perfect" little family.. Very different though.. My mother is Jamaican.. and my real father is Jamaican.. my step father is...
    Thumpur Thumpur 22-25, F Jan 12, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Wish My Dad Would Have Tried To Be Part Of My Life

    At my age I would think I would no longer wish my dad would have been a part of my life. Maybe it is the image of what I've created in my mind of what our relationship could have been. Questions that linger in mind: 1. Would I have had better choices in dating; marriage? 2...
    inthedark2012 inthedark2012 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 4, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    How Can You Love A Stranger......................

    that you wouldn't recognize if you passed them on the street? My parents divorced when I was three, and my brother was an infant. Most people probably don't recall memories from that age, but I do. I remember all the arguing, the crying, and the silence in between. I also...
    TwilightDream TwilightDream 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Broken Childhood

    I've never met my father. I have a step dad, but he isn't my dad. I'm about to turn 16 and just last summer my mom told me about my dad and how her choose his girlfriend over me...which he supposidly hated. Since my dad left before I was born, it was just my mom and I and I didn...
    ShaiJohnson ShaiJohnson 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 21, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Mysterious Raf Man

    I spent many years searching for my Father with only a birth certificate to go on. Finally, i hit upn the idea of contacting the RAF as his number was on my birth certiciate. They traced him in days, and within a week i received a letter from him, he seemed happy and excited...
    carolprior carolprior 56-60 1 Response Nov 28, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    RA

    My Dad and Mom were teenagers when she got pregnant and they got married.  When I was two he came home drunk one night and beat the crap out of her and she left him the next day. He joined the Army and disappeared from my life.  His parents kept in touch with me and I...
    HeavenBesideYou HeavenBesideYou 41-45, F 13 Responses Feb 5, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Secret

    I am 36 years old almost 37 actually and I have never met my real father. He lives happily with his wife and three sons in Minnesota. He had a short lived romance with my mother back in 1972 and I was born in 1973. He never admitted that I was his child and his Aunt claimed...
    thefamilysecret thefamilysecret 36-40, F 1 Response May 13, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Finally Found My Long Lost Father 23 Years Later

    i finally found and met my father and two sisters i found his phone number on the internet white pages i have three aunts a 87 year old grandmal i stayed with him for a month had a ball came back home and we still talk almost every other day i love all of them so much a part of...
    holiday8724 holiday8724 22-25, F Mar 17, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Not There

    my dad left me when i was a little toddler and when i was in middle school i realized that other children had a dad to be there for them but i didnt have that and i would just be pissed but i thought blaming him and then blaming my mom for letting him go but really its his fault...
    MsKarrie12 MsKarrie12 13-15 Dec 27, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Don't Know Anything About My Father.....

    Ah yes, I'm 28 years old, and still don't even know his first name, all I know is the state and town he came from. I remember as far back as when I was a baby asking my mom about him. My mom had divorced 4 years before I was born, gone through some rough moments, and met a guy...
    poedmusician poedmusician 26-30 Jan 7, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Can't Miss What You Never Had.....right

    Or so I thought. I never had a real relationship (or anything remotely close to resembling a relationship) with my biological father, but for some reason it bothers me. I don't know if its resentment for him not being in my life, or if for some reason I actually want to get to...
    4namesake 4namesake 22-25, F Sep 18, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Good Bye Dad - January 2, 2012... 6:05am

    My whole life, I feel like I have never belonged and only fleetingly loved. I was born and raised in the Caribbean into a relationship that started out wrong. From what I learned 35 years later, my father left his wife to be with my mother. He had four grown children and...
    MvngOn MvngOn 36-40 Jan 2, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Will Thetruth Come Out?

    The story that is my life is a long one filled with loss and little gain other than monitary. This story will start with a decision and a selfish one. I had what was supposed to be a fling with a attatched woman not long ago. It ended up becoming much more for a short time very...
    Jan 29, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Loving Or Lacking?

    If anyone who is a psychologist or has some insight on human behavior, I would like some feedback to help me figure this out. Thank you.I have been having relationship troubles for a while now. I don't get myself involved with many people. Within the last six years I've only been...
    TheDreamerKid TheDreamerKid 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 31, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Father Wound

    I never knew my father, he did not want to take responsability when he knew I was coming to this world,my mom was brave and proud enough to take the challenge and go on her own, sheeven deleted the idea of starting a new relationship off her mind.Her stories about him are sad...
    thedadwoundstays thedadwoundstays 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 16, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    He Wants to Be Part of My Life Now But the Train Has Passed

    My father was married when he impregnated my mom. I didnt meet him until I was 17. I was not impressed though he wanted to take me in his arms and try and make up for all the lost time. I am a tough cookie and my family that I had gave me enough drama and didnt want anymore. He...
    francineo francineo 41-45, F 8 Responses May 9, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Better Off This Way

    I was twelve when my mother told me that the man I called dad was not really my biological father. My first reaction was shock. The man who had been in my life from very first memory...not my father? His name was on my birth certificate. My second thought was that my mother...
    Esotericgirl Esotericgirl 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 23, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    I never knew that everyone on the internet was an expert on everything. Anyone else out there get annoyed at the people who "know everything" and undermine everyone else's comments...
    Jack0fTr4d3s Jack0fTr4d3s 22-25, M Apr 1

    Your Response

    Cancel
    You know that feeling when your boyfriend says he "loves" and he makes you feel so special. Soon, you start hearing rumors that he's cheating on you. You think that 'oh it's just a...
    bulimicbixtch49 bulimicbixtch49 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 11

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My heart is always in pain. Why can't he try to love me the way I love him? Why did he even marry me? We used to be so happy, how can it be gone in only 2 years?
    ReeseThompson0424 ReeseThompson0424 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 11

    Your Response

    Cancel
    So, one night during the summer, my boyfriend and I were going through some turmoil in our relationship. I was so angry because he was supposed to pick me up from Anacostia Station...
    RoyautePrincess RoyautePrincess 26-30 a week ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My dad is not a good father so I admire a man who's a good father and sometimes I wish my dad was like that.
    MelanesianTabby MelanesianTabby 18-21, F 6 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    2 years ago, I met a boy, someone I really loved, yet being young I couldnt even recognise love let alone grasp the concept. So anyway things between me and him were great for a...
    missyy27 missyy27 16-17, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I did something that was so hard for me to do a couple of weeks ago. I said Kaddish for both my father as well as my son together. It has been hard to say it for my dad for the...
    PerryGrosser PerryGrosser 51-55, M Apr 10

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My father used to be my idol when I was small, but know I hate him with a fiery passion. When I was 8 years old I found out that he sleeps with other women. I found this out...
    Yasora Yasora 13-15, F 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    It amazes me how the ripples of our choices can reach so far. Whether it is a youthful naive choice or choice made with intent & forethought. Someone, somewhere, will be affected...
    Cina4352 Cina4352 22-25, F 2 days ago