I Never Knew My Father

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    Feel Like I Missed Out.

    My dad died when I was three of a heart condition and I don't remember him. My older sister by a year has a few vague memories of him and as everyone seems to remind me looks just like him. Both my parents were/are on the short side where I am 5'8" and pretty much tower...
    RedRebel RedRebel
    3 Responses Jun 23, 2009

    Replaced Father

    I had heard about my biological dad a few times here and there, but my mom didnt really like talking about him. Basically, he was a ***** doner. I had never met him until I was about 10. It was another night that my mom had gone out to a bar (typical) and came into my room about...
    ChangeIsAGoodThing ChangeIsAGoodThing
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 11, 2013

    After 30 Years I Finally Met My Dad, But Now What?

    I found out this weekend that my father was a coward! He had known about me all this time. What hurt most is that he never came looking for me and that he probably wanted to keep my birth a secret forever. His poor wife didn’t even know about me till Saturday. And though...
    semajames semajames
    2 Responses Feb 20, 2012

    After 47 Years, I Have Found My Father

    I am 46 years old, will be 47 next month.  I have been divorced three times and now live with a wonderful man.  I have four grown children; girl 25, boy 22, girl 20, girl 18 and two grandchildren; girl 5 and boy 2; with one more grandchild on the way in October 2008. I...
    TarLion TarLion
    19 Responses Jun 17, 2008

    The Truth And The Lies

    I never knew my dad and my mother always told me that he died in car accident. While i was young my mother had two relationships with other men. Who tried to fill up the void of father figure in life, but they sucked badly and i had two live with other kids, that sometimes were...
    Jan 23, 2013

    I Still Would Like To See Aleast A Picture Of My Birth Dad

    I am 55 year in old female with a 11 year old daughter and my husband died in 2005 y husband died as a Pastor in one of his services. When I was entering into one of our services ,My mother said to me Barbara your Dad is not your real Dad" in shock I asked who is my Dad she said...
    11barbara 11barbara
    56-60, F
    Jul 22, 2013

    every so often, I wish my mom told me he died.

    it will be a lot less easier to accept than someone who abandoned me
    annimay3 annimay3
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 10, 2015

    He Was Known As John The Turk...

    My biological father was a master of deception. My mother fell for him quite instantly because of his cheeky smile. They fell in love and she became pregnant with me when she was just turned 18. He wasn't too happy to learn of my creation and demanded she have an abortion. She...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 27, 2009

    How Can You Love A Stranger......................

    that you wouldn't recognize if you passed them on the street? My parents divorced when I was three, and my brother was an infant. Most people probably don't recall memories from that age, but I do. I remember all the arguing, the crying, and the silence in between. I also...
    TwilightDream TwilightDream
    36-40, F
    1 Response Nov 21, 2011

    I didn't know my father

    that well. I remember when I was 10 years old my Dad took me to see the house where he was born in, because my Dad wasn't born in a hospital. He took a picture of me standing in front of the house that he first lived in. My Dad wasn't very talkative about his life. Although when...
    deleted deleted
    Apr 19, 2016

    My parents were teenagers (17).

    When my mother was pregnant with me, my father's parents moved (with him) to another state. My grandma kept his correspondence to my mom and left my mom to think she had been abandoned. G was afraid to lose my mom, lose control, I don't know. They don't give any more information...
    aakkiii aakkiii
    Dec 8, 2014

    I've had numerous friends(both male

    and female) vent to me about how their father is "too strict" or "overprotective". Or that they just "hate" their father. No matter what I tell them to help their situation I'm always a little angry. I never even had a father to hate. People take their family for granted so much...
    tylerw17 tylerw17
    18-21, M
    Aug 5, 2014

    I hope that this is ok to post.

    I am a lawyer trying to help a young girl whose father was killed 2 weeks before she was born. I am trying to put myself in her place, somehow, to figure out what she will go thru in the future in terms about thinking about her father, what she will miss, how she will deal...
    welcenbach welcenbach
    70+, M
    Jan 17, 2015

    Searching For The Wizard Of Oz

    I found out my 'father' wasn't my biological father in late 2003, I was 27. The person who told me was a family friend sworn to secrecy not to tell me until after the person who I thought was my 'father' had died (they died in 2002). She didn't know who my real father was. My...
    ffffr0zen ffffr0zen
    41-45, M
    Apr 29, 2013

    this is really a good thing,

    if I had ever met him I probably would have castrated him.
    kk1874 kk1874
    31-35, F
    Apr 16, 2016


    My Dad and Mom were teenagers when she got pregnant and they got married.  When I was two he came home drunk one night and beat the crap out of her and she left him the next day. He joined the Army and disappeared from my life.  His parents kept in touch with me and I...
    HeavenBesideYou HeavenBesideYou
    41-45, F
    11 Responses Feb 5, 2009

    Loving Or Lacking?

    If anyone who is a psychologist or has some insight on human behavior, I would like some feedback to help me figure this out. Thank you.I have been having relationship troubles for a while now. I don't get myself involved with many people. Within the last six years I've only been...
    TheDreamerKid TheDreamerKid
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 31, 2013

    I Love The Coward That Abandoned Me 30 Years Ago...

    Its been about two months since I met my father. He left my Mom whilst she was pregnant with me. After meeting him, I had these extreme moodswings...from extreme happiness and joy to extreme hurt and sadness. The latter because he abandoned me and never bothered to come find me...
    semajames semajames
    5 Responses Apr 13, 2012

    I always wanted to meet him

    and get to know them. But when I finally found out everything, I learned that he died years ago. I wish I would have gotten the chance to get to know him.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 19, 2015

    He Wants to Be Part of My Life Now But the Train Has Passed

    My father was married when he impregnated my mom. I didnt meet him until I was 17. I was not impressed though he wanted to take me in his arms and try and make up for all the lost time. I am a tough cookie and my family that I had gave me enough drama and didnt want anymore. He...
    francineo francineo
    41-45, F
    8 Responses May 9, 2008

    Not Then, Not Now, And Probably Never

    My mother had me when she was still in high school and naturally my real father was never around when I was growing up. I was so young that I can't be sure but as I recall, I remember going to visit him once at some store in a ***** mall. I can't remember his face or anything...
    AdorableCaterpillar AdorableCaterpillar
    18-21, F
    Apr 15, 2012

    I Finally Found My Long Lost Father 23 Years Later

    i finally found and met my father and two sisters i found his phone number on the internet white pages i have three aunts a 87 year old grandmal i stayed with him for a month had a ball came back home and we still talk almost every other day i love all of them so much a part of...
    holiday8724 holiday8724
    22-25, F
    Mar 17, 2012

    My mother gave birth to me at the age of 15

    and I was always told that my bio father was killed in a car accident when I was 1. When I was 30, I found out from my aunts and uncles that my real father was still alive, married and had several children, brothers and sisters that I have also never met.
    jburnette1 jburnette1
    36-40, M
    Apr 8, 2015

    I've Always Wondered..

    well my dad was a drug dealer he sold pretty much anything that made the good money and ended up gettin killed over a shitload of money he made.  That happened when i was newborn,  i've often wondered how different i would of been if he was alive and raised me. maybe...
    Doxtah Doxtah
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Apr 1, 2010

    The Secret

    I am 36 years old almost 37 actually and I have never met my real father. He lives happily with his wife and three sons in Minnesota. He had a short lived romance with my mother back in 1972 and I was born in 1973. He never admitted that I was his child and his Aunt claimed...
    thefamilysecret thefamilysecret
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 13, 2010

    I don't know much about him.

    People who were close to him said he loved me but he died before I ever had the chance to have a memory. I don't know what type of person he was what kind of things he liked or if he even thought of me before he took his last lethal dose of drugs and alcohol. He left me with a...
    kdc119 kdc119
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 29, 2014

    The Journey

    The journey about my biological father is a long one. All I knew as a child was that he took off when my mother was two months pregnant. I had a card from a company he used to own with his name on it. I knew he had Dutch roots. My mom told me he was smart and had little hands and...
    ChihuahuaSweetheart ChihuahuaSweetheart
    31-35, F
    Jan 4, 2012

    I've never known my father.

    I've never met him, never talked to him. I didn't know what he looked like. I have all this pent up anger inside me, but I have never been able to let it out. 3 years ago, I received his contact and started talking to him through email. It was ok at first. Then all of a sudden...
    annimay3 annimay3
    31-35, F
    Sep 10, 2015

    Better Off This Way

    I was twelve when my mother told me that the man I called dad was not really my biological father. My first reaction was shock. The man who had been in my life from very first memory...not my father? His name was on my birth certificate. My second thought was that my mother...
    Esotericgirl Esotericgirl
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Aug 23, 2010

    I actually knew him partly.

    So he loved me in parts. Nah. That wasn't enough. Holding onto the past. I guess I have d*ddy issues now and that's most likely why I like d*ddy/daughter r*ole play. It's funny. I'd always wanted to please a man because I'd never even been able to please my own father. I think...
    Lollipopgoddess Lollipopgoddess
    16-17, F
    1 Response May 15, 2014

    A Dad I Never New:(

    My dad.... he was perfect, amazing and just a grate father, in my imagionation. He was a alcoholic & a drug addict! I was placed in care aged 3 with a few distant memories of him, well 2 to be precised! Along with a few from later on in life. I saw him again when he turned up at...
    LittleMissPerfect58 LittleMissPerfect58
    18-21, F
    Sep 23, 2013

    I Don't Even Know His Name

    I grew up with a step dad most of my life, we were always close when I was younger. It wasn't until my parents got divorced that I realized he was an alcoholic, which was the reason for the divorce. I didn't even realize that he was my step dad, I always thought he was my real...
    melissaxo melissaxo
    22-25, F
    Mar 14, 2013

    The Great Darth Lightyear.

    I'm going to start my story with something I remember from when I was really little. I remember I was about 2 years old and I was watching Toy Story. I thought it was really cool that buzz never met his dad until the end, and then they where really good friends. I remember I was...
    bluuphantom bluuphantom
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 16, 2013

    Broken Childhood

    I've never met my father. I have a step dad, but he isn't my dad. I'm about to turn 16 and just last summer my mom told me about my dad and how her choose his girlfriend over me...which he supposidly hated. Since my dad left before I was born, it was just my mom and I and I didn...
    ShaiJohnson ShaiJohnson
    18-21, F
    Aug 21, 2011

    My mother left my father to pursue higher

    education and to work in a field that she wouldn't have been able to as a housewife. I used to blame her for not allowing me the opportunity of meeting my father and I still haven't met him to this day. Growing up without a dad or any masculine figures in my life was incredibly...
    BaddieBaddie BaddieBaddie
    Dec 28, 2014

    I Don't Even Know Who He Is Really...

    My mother told me that when she was dating the person who was supposedly my father, she made up the story of her being pregnant because she thought it would make him feel obligated to her so they would have to get married. Well it didn't take long to figure out that my mother at...
    allenbird allenbird
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Jun 17, 2010

    Too Late

    - My mother grabbed me up and took me away while I was still a baby. She was running from my father. He was abusive and she’d had enough. So one day when he was out, she left. Believe it or not, I actually have vague memories of the trip. I remember being in the back of a taxi...
    FriendlyBryan FriendlyBryan
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Dec 2, 2013

    On June 13th, 2013 I sent a letter via Facebook

    that would change my life.....It Read: Hi "name", I tried messaging you about 6 months back but I don’t think you received it. So, I thought I’d give it one more shot. Here goes....I’m writing you because growing up my mother was very open with me that she wasn’t sure...
    nic0lejean nic0lejean
    31-35, F
    Feb 1, 2014

    My Mentally Ill Father

    My biological father molested my older half sister (his step daughter) when I was only two. He spent several years in jail and was released early for good behavior. My entire life, my family has only talked about him to talk about what a terrible, discusting awful person he was...
    enorahb enorahb
    22-25, F
    Jun 7, 2010

    He Doesn't Know That I Exist.

    Well as this forum states i never knew my father. He and my mom had a thing and then he went back to his ex-wife. My mom didnt tell him she was pregnant. And she didnt tell me about him until i was older. I am now 23 and have been wondering what we have in common. I dont need him...
    indigoblaque1369 indigoblaque1369
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 20, 2010

    Will Thetruth Come Out?

    The story that is my life is a long one filled with loss and little gain other than monitary. This story will start with a decision and a selfish one. I had what was supposed to be a fling with a attatched woman not long ago. It ended up becoming much more for a short time very...
    Jan 29, 2013

    Not There

    my dad left me when i was a little toddler and when i was in middle school i realized that other children had a dad to be there for them but i didnt have that and i would just be pissed but i thought blaming him and then blaming my mom for letting him go but really its his fault...
    MsKarrie12 MsKarrie12
    Dec 27, 2012

    I Guess I Wasn't Good Enough.

    I'm 27 making 28 on 11/21/ and i can actually say. "I never knew my father". My father was an Police Officer around the time my mother and father Met. They lived together at a young age. My Father was fired from the Police Force Due to him going Hunting with his Work Firearm. At...
    mrbibbins mrbibbins
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2010

    Can't Miss What You Never Had.....right

    Or so I thought. I never had a real relationship (or anything remotely close to resembling a relationship) with my biological father, but for some reason it bothers me. I don't know if its resentment for him not being in my life, or if for some reason I actually want to get to...
    4namesake 4namesake
    22-25, F
    Sep 18, 2012

    My dad abandoned my mother

    and I before I was born. I feel that this has affected me more negatively than positively and I often wonder what it would be like if things were different.
    StonelyLoner StonelyLoner
    18-21, M
    1 Response Aug 22, 2014

    Father Wound

    I never knew my father, he did not want to take responsability when he knew I was coming to this world,my mom was brave and proud enough to take the challenge and go on her own, sheeven deleted the idea of starting a new relationship off her mind.Her stories about him are sad...
    thedadwoundstays thedadwoundstays
    36-40, M
    Jun 16, 2012
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