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I Never Let Anybody Too Close to Me

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    Somethings Never Change

    I talk - on a very superficial level, to many people.  I talk for a living - it's not a problem making small talk, making people feel good.  I don't let anyone in on the interpersonal level though -- I avoid this like the plague. It hurts WAY...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 3, 2008

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    My Mask Refuses to Crumble

    Being numb and distant is an easy way to avoid getting hurt. However, it's also an easy way to never really connect with anyone. I've opened up to people before and they've crushed me. So it makes it really hard to open up to anyone. EP is a different story, everyone (well mostly...
    XxSperanzaXx XxSperanzaXx 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 10, 2008

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    Rogue

    I never let anybody close to me. Not to spare me, but to spare them. So they don't get hurt. I allow myself to love others unfortunately, because I don't  have much of a choice on that. But as soon as their is a whiff of them getting too close, I remove myself. I know...
    RogueAlphaFemale RogueAlphaFemale 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    Just Because

    In my lifetime, I have had too many individuals that I allowed past the inner walls that I built to protect me from those that only want to use what they can, without reguard to my feelings.  I have finally built them strong enough that even my own weaknesses can not break...
    beentherendonethat beentherendonethat 56-60, M 1 Response May 9, 2009

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    just a little...

    ....just only so much then no more. too fearful of what they may think, i hide again. and it's a terrible thing to want to step closer, yet have to give in to my fears and pull back, away and be left with just my loneliness as company. again again. never knowing how to lay it...
    Cinderelly Cinderelly 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 31, 2008

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    Well, I Used to Not Let Anybody Close to Me...

    but I'm learning to open up to people. But only to very, very, very few people. It can get very lonely sometimes though.
    minnie22mouse minnie22mouse 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 10, 2008

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    False

    They're all fake, wearing masks. Hypocrites who have no real interest. They say things like "you can tell me anything", "cheer up", "it will get better". They make false promises just to shut you up. No one truly gives a crap what happens to anyone else. They all want help fixing...
    L96Arctic L96Arctic 22-25, M 4 Responses Jan 21, 2012

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    Afraid!

     I'm afraid of letting someone close to me and getting hurt...Either physical and emotionally. Mostly because i'm like an open book and get easily hurt.....
    andreinac13 andreinac13 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 4, 2008

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    I Don't Know Which To Choose

    I want nothing more in this entire world than to just be one with someone. And because of this, I would jump at every oppurtunity I could, fall 500 feet, and break my heart. So I have to protect myself from being stupid enough to get too close to someone, because it would break...
    Angelwings7 Angelwings7 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I dont let many get close to me... Not because im snobbish or antisocial... Im just very guarded... Ive been hurt much in my life and i put up walls to protect that from happening...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 28

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    Its not like i dnt let ppl get close to me..its more i cant ..i dnt knw why..maybe somewhere back in my mind i knw i would be hurt if i get attached to someone. P.s BTW i like...
    xxkiaraxx xxkiaraxx 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    In short I have liked few guys in my life.. but have never let them know that I liked them. In fact all of them liked me. But I have never tried to convert it into a relation...
    ShadowlessSoul ShadowlessSoul 31-35, F 6 days ago

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    It seems that every time id let anyone get close to me I always ended up getting hurt. So I've put a lock on my heart keeping anyone not worthy of it from getting in. I maybe only...
    hugsandkisses26 hugsandkisses26 22-25, F 8 Responses Sep 3

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    I am a bit antisocial. I'm quiet. Unless you talk to me first,I may not talk to you. Im not trying to be a snobby *****. I dont want to come off as cold or unfriendly. I am just...
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 10

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    Can you blame me? Father walked out on us when I was 3, I was molested by a relative at 8, bullied from elementary school up until HS. String of intensely close friendships where...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 28

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    There is that kind of girl who can't be pinned down. Maybe you are one yourself. Or you lost a girl who was one. A runner.Elusive. Quiet. Shadowy. Not saying exactly what's going...
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 4

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    So I have an older sister that moved to the other side of the country a few years ago.. She's a year older than me and it's because our family decided to split up. She lives with...
    ravenzewolf ravenzewolf 13-15, F Sep 8

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    There is this girl kylia , we've gotten super close lately and I've spent the past 2 days with her . Everytime I hugged her , I never wanted to let go. Even when we would pull away...
    alyssabay alyssabay 13-15, F Sep 1

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    I come so close to letting new people in because I really do want to, but right when they've almost made it, right when they're about to cross the gap, I shut them out. I guess I...
    left4deadspace left4deadspace 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 9

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    The only person who really knows me and is so close she can almost touch my heart. She's my best friend and I'm so happy for her! I don't let people in my life cause I don't want...
    ccmonster14 ccmonster14 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 12

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    For me, I don't like when people get close because I don't want them to know anything about me, not because I'm afraid of being hurt. I actually wish I was more talkative and had...
    Selphira Selphira 16-17, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    It's not like I mean to. It's just years of not being in the spotlight you tend to push out people when they put you in the spotlight. I honestly wish I could have close friends...
    dambookworm17 dambookworm17 13-15, F Sep 3

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    Finding the right people to be your friends is a task in itself and once you find them another task is to see if they are they are good enough to be really close to your heart...
    uselessguy uselessguy 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    I push people away' I can't be close to anyone really, because when I feel like their Falling in love I always seem to mess it up. Sometimes I wish I Could make things work I am...
    jazzyphay2 jazzyphay2 22-25, F Sep 8

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    Many people view me as snobby, when in fact I am only being selective. I've been burned too many times to reach into the oven again without proper protection (metaphorically).
    picses2222 picses2222 13-15, F a week ago

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    People who I let get close to me either hurt me, or I hurt them. It's all I've known. Any good, I'm afraid of because it's abnormal for me.
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    Yeah. Ugh. Some of the people I've talked too on here are so rude. Don't message me stupid ****. Don't talk to me if you don't understand why I chose to not send or do certain...
    LittleKandi LittleKandi 16-17, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm scared of relationships now.... they never work out
    angelkinzz angelkinzz 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    Or at least I try not to. Failed at that many times and from it only 2 stayed. Those two are by far my closest friends:)
    Theycallherelly Theycallherelly 13-15, F Sep 3

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    I move a lot. I don't have very close friends so it will be easier to go when you don't have anyone to stay for.
    MajorCutie MajorCutie 13-15, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have really bad promblems with ppl getting close to me than leaving me for some one else
    acoburn acoburn 13-15, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I want to get close to people, but whenever I try to, they show their true colours and end up being selfish and the cynic in me is right as opposed to the hopeful, curious, happy...
    FD2014 FD2014 18-21, M 5 days ago

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    I miss a good hug. The kind when your arms start getting tired. I was always told to wait until they let go, you never know who needs it.
    PuckDrop PuckDrop 18-21, M Aug 30

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    Never! It's unhygienic!!!! Sarah x
    SarahTheHooker SarahTheHooker 18-21, F Sep 9

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    People will hurt you 95 percent of the time
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F Sep 12

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    When I meet a girl I like, I'll say as little as possible to reduce the likelihood That something dumb comes out. It's counterproductive as ****.
    DropJimmy DropJimmy 18-21, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Why so serious? Some people may think I am snob and serious person. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am just shy or tired. I might accelerate to extreme seriousness if needed. It's a...
    JAD01 JAD01 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 22

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    Im happy to be with people with sense of humor or those that agrees with me. Unfortunately not all are like that.
    Elleshore81 Elleshore81 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 24

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    I just don't trust anyone enough to give them all of me. I am a chameleon. It is my defense mechanism. If I act like everyone else no one will question me. As I get older I see...
    TheYellowKing TheYellowKing 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    "People build up walls, not to keep people out but to see who cares enough to break them down"
    dambookworm17 dambookworm17 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 4

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    Im afraid of ppl getting to personal with me especially my coaches.
    h3yjay h3yjay 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I have a problem with cause in scared they'll betray my trust
    Gian422 Gian422 18-21, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Just recently gave a guy my number and we talked for a few months,then he goes 8 days without a single word and thinks its perfectly fine,this is why i have issues
    jesikahluv jesikahluv 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    It has affected my relationships so much and not just my love type of relationships but friendships as well...I just can't seem to open up am bubbly,life of the party but I can't...
    CurvyandChic CurvyandChic 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I absolutely trust no one in my life. No one. Everyday that goes by is another day I know I am bring used and manipulated. It makes me sick. I am so lonely. So very very very...
    NotSoPerfect777 NotSoPerfect777 36-40, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    I don't feel like getting my feelings hurt or being judged for being different. I don't want to be taken advantage of because I don't want others to be see me as weak and...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F Sep 1

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    I miss really good hugs. :/ I miss hugging and thinking everything would be fine. Like those hugs from my mom. I miss it.
    CrestofCourage CrestofCourage 18-21, M Aug 30

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    Until the moment goes ******* embarrassing for holding like for 10 minutes and the guy thinks I'm gonna r*ape him.
    dropdeadwilma dropdeadwilma 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 30