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I Never Let Anybody Too Close to Me

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    Just Because

    In my lifetime, I have had too many individuals that I allowed past the inner walls that I built to protect me from those that only want to use what they can, without reguard to my feelings.  I have finally built them strong enough that even my own weaknesses can not break...
    beentherendonethat beentherendonethat 56-60, M 1 Response May 9, 2009

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    My Mask Refuses to Crumble

    Being numb and distant is an easy way to avoid getting hurt. However, it's also an easy way to never really connect with anyone. I've opened up to people before and they've crushed me. So it makes it really hard to open up to anyone. EP is a different story, everyone (well mostly...
    XxSperanzaXx XxSperanzaXx 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 10, 2008

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    Somethings Never Change

    I talk - on a very superficial level, to many people.  I talk for a living - it's not a problem making small talk, making people feel good.  I don't let anyone in on the interpersonal level though -- I avoid this like the plague. It hurts WAY...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 3, 2008

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    I Don't Know Which To Choose

    I want nothing more in this entire world than to just be one with someone. And because of this, I would jump at every oppurtunity I could, fall 500 feet, and break my heart. So I have to protect myself from being stupid enough to get too close to someone, because it would break...
    Angelwings7 Angelwings7 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2011

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    Afraid!

     I'm afraid of letting someone close to me and getting hurt...Either physical and emotionally. Mostly because i'm like an open book and get easily hurt.....
    andreinac13 andreinac13 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 4, 2008

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    just a little...

    ....just only so much then no more. too fearful of what they may think, i hide again. and it's a terrible thing to want to step closer, yet have to give in to my fears and pull back, away and be left with just my loneliness as company. again again. never knowing how to lay it...
    Cinderelly Cinderelly 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 31, 2008

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    Well, I Used to Not Let Anybody Close to Me...

    but I'm learning to open up to people. But only to very, very, very few people. It can get very lonely sometimes though.
    minnie22mouse minnie22mouse 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 10, 2008

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    Rogue

    I never let anybody close to me. Not to spare me, but to spare them. So they don't get hurt. I allow myself to love others unfortunately, because I don't  have much of a choice on that. But as soon as their is a whiff of them getting too close, I remove myself. I know...
    RogueAlphaFemale RogueAlphaFemale 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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    False

    They're all fake, wearing masks. Hypocrites who have no real interest. They say things like "you can tell me anything", "cheer up", "it will get better". They make false promises just to shut you up. No one truly gives a crap what happens to anyone else. They all want help fixing...
    L96Arctic L96Arctic 22-25, M 4 Responses Jan 21, 2012

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    I didn't used to be...but life has taught me to be more cautious. I have let too many people get close to me when I was younger & I ended up getting hurt. So I have been more...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 10

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    I will always be there for those I love and care about, once you have me as a close friend, family or partner I will always be there for you no matter what. I'd never let you...
    13Selene13 13Selene13 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 15

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    I am very emotionally closed off and find it close to impossible to let people get close. That's because I am aware of the fact that I have problems with people and I cannot...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M a week ago

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    Being cautious comes into it,but when all is said and done,I occasionally meet someone I sincerely think is an OK kind of person,and I AM afraid to let them get close.Half the...
    KurMujun KurMujun 18-21, M Sep 30

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    I've somehow become so good at shutting people out, never letting anyone see the real me, that I don't even know who she is anymore.
    Calsi704 Calsi704 18-21, F Oct 8

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    Letting people get close to me hurts either me or them... I don't want to hurt anyone. Just go away...
    Lilwillbe Lilwillbe 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 2

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    I'm not posting this one for attention, none of them are it's just simply how I am but has shown up several times why I'm thankful I don't get close. People up and leave whenever...
    13Selene13 13Selene13 22-25, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    It's easy for me to be intimate with people I'm never going to see again. But with people I see myself having a future with? I'm very cautious about what I let them see about me. I...
    Livvy2 Livvy2 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 8

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    There once was an angry young inflatable boy who went to an inflatable school that had an inflatable principal. One day, the inflatable boy took a thumb tack to school that he hid...
    Calcetines Calcetines 36-40, M Oct 6

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    I don't want to **** a guy that isn't going to call me the nest day. I wont **** a guy that ***** girls and marks notches on his belt. Sex is something that I want to appreciate...
    spiteyourface spiteyourface 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 5

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    This is because people sometimes expect too much and get hurt when I can't meet them.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 4 Responses Oct 15

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    I'm not the type to get close to ppl. I'm also not the type to trust others. So if u get those things out of me you better count your lucky stars. And you better count them slowly...
    SadisticPsychoBitch SadisticPsychoBitch 31-35, F Sep 25

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    maybe because i'm an introvert. and i don't like letting someone know my private life.
    Mmontag Mmontag 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    My brothers used to tease me about my toothbrush. They once put shaving gel on it instead of toothpaste, it was horrible. I always keep my toothbrush where I am!
    Skjeggstad Skjeggstad 22-25, F Oct 14

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    Yes, that is me. Maybe, I'll elaborate more about this later. I can only say that no one has ever passed the test. :(
    Ushuaia Ushuaia 26-30, F 13 hrs ago

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    They won't like what they find anyway
    romanalanski romanalanski 18-21, F 2 hrs ago

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    I've always been a sweet heart but certain girls showed me reality and now I'm less patient with relationships. I know not all girls are the same, but it just becomes harder the...
    elementnov elementnov 22-25, M 4 Responses Sep 25

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    When it comes down to it I actually have it determined whether I will open to specific people. Usually at the beginning of a convo if a person seems like they need help I will...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M Sep 25

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    because it sucks when they stop talking all of a sudden.
    lukeskywalker89 lukeskywalker89 22-25, M 3 Responses Sep 29

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    So many fans? (is that the EP term when someone added you as friend)...anything sexual in profile, sorry; cannot be. So many responses...anything erotic, sorry; ignored.
    samemay54 samemay54 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 29

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    hai everyone this is hari i am in search of people with whom i can share my personal feelings
    hariiyengar hariiyengar 13-15, M 1 Response Sep 29

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    It's difficult to soar like an eagle when you are surrounded by turkeys." Lesson to be learned from this? Choose your friends carefully...
    Rightherenow Rightherenow 26-30, M 5 Responses Oct 3

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    I dont know why it is hard for me to be completely truthful to people. i feel like i should be able to tell my life to a total stranger without being judged.
    jwmcmaha jwmcmaha 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 8

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    I've learned to be. Not sure it's the best way, but it works for now.
    Sicarium Sicarium 36-40, M 3 Responses Oct 8

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    Cause People lead to Friends, friends lead to relations, relations lead to expectations, expectations lead to pain, pain leads to change and i don't wanna change my lazy life B)
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M Oct 14

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    I would like to share my experience. Perhaps doing so will be therapeutic. Perhaps someone will comment with something helpful. If you want to be a troll and say evil things, go...
    JamesB14 JamesB14 46-50, M 5 hrs ago

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    Hey! It's been a while. I have came out of the closet. Well, to myself, and a few select people. The ones that are important. It all started New Year's Eve of last year, 2013. I...
    Becks8806 Becks8806 26-30, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm 20 & have never had a real relashionship. I've had some flings but nothing truly serious, to me at least. One of those I really got my Heart broken. I tend to push people away...
    Scarlett13 Scarlett13 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    I truely loved someone once. 5 years ago. It seems like forever ago. I've been in a downward slope since she left me. I've a had a son with someone, I've moved out with someone...
    Eclipse993 Eclipse993 18-21, M Oct 14

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    The memories of my childhood are so special to me. Thanks to my father, he chose me to be his daughter. He could of had a son. He could of picked a girl with blonde hair...but he...
    Eyedontgiveahoot Eyedontgiveahoot 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 27

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    I always upset myself about things that have happened in the past, sometimes I get overly emotional and I can never let go of the past. Is there any way I can learn to move on?
    flameprincess99 flameprincess99 13-15, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Too bad I never realized what calm u could have until now
    JoshM1974 JoshM1974 36-40, M 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I wish i had more close friends. People who i can trust, i don't want to just be someones close friend. I want them to be my close friend too, the person i go to when I'm upset...
    blurredASH blurredASH 16-17, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    So I've decided I'm probably never gonna marry. I love my job and it keeps me traveling (to were I'm never home for more than a month at a time) so my relationships fail apart fast...
    KnoxvilleStrong KnoxvilleStrong 26-30, M 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Heres a bit of my experience with finding that true friend. People like me, we are very deep, and want to express ourselves, but we can't, because we feel like it's on a whole...
    glassvision glassvision 16-17, M 6 hrs ago

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    Barefoot- Kelly, Brady, & I never wear shoes in the house(nor does anyone else in our families), & including our close friends)we are barefoot all the time. Shoes have always been...
    theswordinthestone theswordinthestone 41-45, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    YEAH! I realised something. Over thinking is a curse, it can cause delusions like trying to justify everything to make yourself feel better, when in fact truth gets lost. Unless...
    aSilence aSilence 70+, F 8 hrs ago

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    Is there anyone out there over 35 that have never had a boyfriend? Most of these similar experiences are from younger females that haven't even begun to experience life. I just...
    SW4225 SW4225 36-40 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I hate it, ALL of it. I want to dissappear from this world forever. I never asked for this or anything, i just wanted to live, I never thought it would be this hard, too hard. I...
    donjr474r donjr474r 16-17, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago