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I Often Feel Inappropriate Guilt

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    Guilt Is There In Everything I Do

    I feel guilt about everything. I feel the pressures of all the "should haves", "should-not-haves". Whatever it is, I am sure I feel guilty about it. I feel guilty that I'm in pain and need pain medications.  I feel guilty that I'm taking some time to...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 17, 2008

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    Just An Example...

    I still feel guilty concerning my parents' christmas presents...  Between my sister and I, did we get them enough?  Was the value of their presents equal?  I can picture letting them down in some way but only in my head... maybe I misphrased that...  I just worry and feel...
    DeepestSecret DeepestSecret 22-25, F Jan 9, 2011

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    Probably Not Quite What The Creator Of This Group Meant...

    Inappropriate guilt. Ah, yes... I don't know if what I get most often would be classified as "inappropriate" or just plain crazy. But, I have a very very difficult time giving away toys (such as my son's toys in his toy box when he out grows them, or plushies). Even if I'm not...
    Elwing Elwing 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 17, 2010

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    Where to Begin?

    I feel guilty about many things that I suppose shouldn't cause guilt but do. I am not sure what this means about me as a person. Perhaps I expect too much of myself? But isn't that a bit egotistical - thinking I am responsible for things I can't control? At the moment I feel...
    WyldHoney WyldHoney 31-35, F 8 Responses May 4, 2008

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    Have Since I Was a Kid

     I've always had an overbearing conscience. I remember once when I was a kid, I actually called my mom to confess I had just eaten two sugar cubes. She just laughed and was relatively unsurprised at the phone call. I'd often apologize to a friend for some trivial thing days...
    Jenniedvm Jenniedvm 18-21, F Dec 9, 2008

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    Don't Know Why

    I can feel guilty for no reason at all,I can just be going about my day then suddenly start to feel guilty.  Some might say this stems from a guilty conscience but I don't think that is the case.  I really haven't done anything to be truly guilty for years.  But...
    darlene darlene 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 24, 2008

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    As Do So Many Others...

    ...I feel the guilt of what my rapists did to me. All however many of them. 10 I think, if you count the 2 that I don't even know their names, which I usually don't because I'm in denial of that day. So ya, I probably shouldn't feel guilty about that. But I do.
    jellybean93 jellybean93 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 1, 2013

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    My Son

    Today my son had his first Speech Therapy session. The therapist is wonderful - experienced with autistic children, relaxed, fun. It took a few gos, but she engaged Simon exceptionally well, considering she was a total stranger. I'm very happy that we can see her. I'm sure if...
    EternallyHopeful EternallyHopeful 31-35, F 13 Responses Feb 17, 2011

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    Who I Am Now, And Who I Want To Be Soon.

    I want to get out there and experience stuff in the world. I want to get into trouble and be in danger, make friends and enemies. I feel so shackled by unplaced fear and unease all the time its so stupid and pointless. I sometimes picture the type of person I want to be, or...
    SeekingSerendipity SeekingSerendipity 18-21, F Dec 11, 2012

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    Carring Guilt Around Can Only Hurt You. How Does Holding Onto Guilt Help??

    My pain and guilt....Guilt has taken me a long time to deal with. I said something many years ago after my father passed. My sister & her family were living in his house to take care of him. She called one day after he passed crying that the bank called and they wanted the...
    Loveisallaround Loveisallaround 46-50, F 3 Responses May 2, 2011

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    Why Should I Feel Guilty?

    Someone called off work today for the next shift.  I was asked to stay 2 hours over.  I said no.  Then I sat there feeling extremely guilty.  Know that I don't have s boss or supervisor on the weekends or most nights to be truthful, so this all takes place on...
    darlene darlene 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 1, 2009

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    Just Thinking About It!

    My gut says I should do this thing.  But I gave my word to do something else. My dilemma is should I do what I think the person (who is dead, by the way) wanted me to do or should I keep my word? Either way I feel guilty for just thinking about it - betray the dead person...
    NebulaNoxx NebulaNoxx 51-55, F 2 Responses May 8, 2008

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    I Didn't Make The Mess!

    My grandfather is blind now and my grandmother isn't well. Their house is a mess because they haven't been able to clean in a long while so they've asked me to clean for them. I said of course, I have no problem cleaning and I'm happy to help. But when I'm at their house I feel...
    flowersareweeds flowersareweeds 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 20, 2010

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    Our Parents Raise Us In Guilt Trips

    well my parents raised in guilt trips , saying things like u should feel guiltly for not taking ur niese with you on your trip. they never get to go any where , i'll pay  thier way take them with u . then when u do take sis with she would reather be any where then with u...
    lunnas lunnas 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 3, 2008

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    Simply For Being Me.....

    I have never been at peace with myself but then having confidence has never been promoted in my upbringing. I was always told that I was stupid, lacked common sense and that I cried over ridiculous things. As I got older, I was berated for my body shape, lack of chest, my...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 8, 2012

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    Always Feel Bad About Something

    I always seem to feel bad about something in my life, whether it is still living with my parents while being unemployed, or other matters. One time, I went so far as to starve myself because I felt that bad I was taking my parents money still to live. That didn't work out very...
    CAnonymous CAnonymous 22-25, F Jul 30, 2011

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    My brother survived a brutal kidnapping

    and I feel like he's coped with it better than I have. I feel guilt that I was relieved it didn't happen to me. I feel guilt because I always thought he deserved better than me, and it would've been better if it had happened to me. I feel guilt because I would never be able to...
    lauren71 lauren71 41-45, F Jan 29

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    cowgirl4christ cowgirl4christ 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    Ginger387 Ginger387 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 24

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