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I Often Feel Like An Outsider

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    Messed Up Kid Living In An Equally Messed Up Life

    I'm not really messesd up as in messed up. But I think I am messed up because for all these years I haven't been myself, I act like I'm somebody else trying to impress others, specially my parents. I'm really good with acting with what I want people to see about me, when I'm sad...
    iHatshepsut iHatshepsut 18-21, F Dec 22, 2010

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    Since Quite Sometime

    Since I was younger, I have always felt like I just never really fit in. When I was in school, I was always considered as the really "weird" one. I thought that college would be different, but nothing has really changed, I barely talk to anyone and I hardly know anyone...
    gamingzone3 gamingzone3 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 25, 2010

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    I Feel Like An Outsider.

    Because of my weight.  I know I have to loose weight and the extra weight isn't healthy for me, but I'm a good person and I feel that no one sees it.  All they see is an overweight person and think that I'm sloppy or lazy.  I am a good person with a good heart...
    candles24 candles24 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 23, 2010

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    Partially My Own Fault

    I don't take much time to get to know people, and when they try to get to know me I break contact. There were people throughout my life and even nowadays who tried to be a friend, but at my most negative I find them intrusive. I think we're all like that sometimes; intrusive...
    Sinaname Sinaname 26-30 7 Responses Jul 3, 2012

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    So last night I was sitting on the couch with

    my best friend and we were talking about how this bbc star John barrowman got married and how him and his husband were adorable together. My stepdad turns to me and says "excuse me?? Did you just say two men were cute together?!?" And by that time I was livid. I told him "yes I...
    lovelacedarsenic lovelacedarsenic 13-15, F Dec 31, 2013

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    Is Something Wrong With Me?

    I'm an 18 years old African American female and I just graduated from high school in May. My whole life I've been a pretty shy girl. I'm not very outgoing. I've always enjoyed learning new things, traveling to new places, being with family, and other things like that. But when I...
    Honeybrilove Honeybrilove 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2012

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    Out Of Towner

    High school: Not smart enough to fit in with the nerds. Not pretty/outgoing/cruel/vapid/you name it enough to fit in with the cool kids. Definitely not brave enough to fit in with the rebels, though that's where my heart was.  I was the new girl in a school...
    Fallflower Fallflower 36-40, F 9 Responses Mar 25, 2010

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    Feeling Like I Don't Even Exist In Other's Eyes

    Hey the name is kelvin, and i have been feeling lonely ever since elementary school, even today in college i feel as if i don't belong with a lot of people. I constantly get ignored and most of the time the conversations that so called friends have are just not the things that i...
    kelvinpaulino270 kelvinpaulino270 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 18, 2012

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    Starting All Over Again

    Finding a job is hard but establishing rapport and making friends to people you are going to work with is much harder. It was always hard to communicate especially to those who don't have the same way of thinking.. Now, it is even harder as they are much older than me. It will...
    md08 md08 18-21, F Mar 2, 2013

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    Nothing is as it appears,

    as I move through my day I wonder why? Why do people act so indifferent to me, well today is the begining of a new day. Blessings to all
    snowman70 snowman70 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 20

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    I often feel like an outsider.

    I keep to myself and not much a talker. At work, at my friend's place or where ever I go. I'm too shy.
    DiscoNight1970s DiscoNight1970s 46-50, F Aug 20

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    Carousel

    I feel like I'm in the middle of a carousel. The world around me is moving, but I'm standing still, and all I can do is watch it spin out of control... Like everyone is on track, but I'm just stumbling trying to make my way to the gold ring, or a seat, but it's all full, I'm too...
    Missing22Aquarius Missing22Aquarius 18-21, F Aug 27, 2013

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    By Choice

    In my real life I am not an outsider at all.  I think any woman can understand that a mom is never an outsider but instead the center of the family.  I'm definitely not an outsider with my extended family or among my friends.  I am and always have been too social to be on the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 6, 2012

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    I often feel like an outsider.

    Give you several reasons. I'm quiet, shy, I love cats, & I don't talk much. Avoid confrontations with insensitive angry people as possible. I'm a peaceful & harmony person. When they talked to me in a irrational behaviours. I ask them please lower your voices, I can not talk...
    DiscoNight1970s DiscoNight1970s 46-50, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    {Insert Stereotypical Heading}

    I'm not going to lie, I've had plenty of chances to have friends, to be social, to fit in, to be accepted. Yet everyday I begin to despise humanity more and more. Everyone around me feels fake. The pointless, shallow conversations, the small talk, I've never been so sick of...
    JacenS JacenS 16-17, M Apr 13, 2013

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    I'm Always The Odd One Out.

    When im with people i always feel like were never the same, i hang around people completely different than me and i dont know why. All through primary school i tried to hang around the popular group which i wasn't, all through high school i hung around the smart kids even though...
    imhotas imhotas 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 13, 2012

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    When I Go To The Ocean Now...

    When I go to the ocean now, there aren’t as many shells as there were when I was a child. Surely they aren’t all gone. Likewise, there’s no way that all the mysteries of the world will be solved and therefore gone, including the mystery of where all the sea shells have gone...
    rwollman rwollman 56-60 3 Responses May 19, 2012

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    You Would Think.

    You would think change is good for society.I guess not.Just a simple get together can seem like I am drowning in a sea of people.I feel like such a loser sometimes.I feel like I don't belong with such amazing people.I am one of those people that if 3 or more people are gathered...
    Jenna1225 Jenna1225 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 13, 2012

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    Im The Outcast Among Outcast!

    Have you ever been surrounded by people whether at a party, club, school, church, etc and felt like your the only one there? All my life i've been the outsider, the outcast, the underdog, the peculiar oddball even among my family & friends i just never fit in with anyone... I...
    TheWorldVsJ TheWorldVsJ 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    I Don'T Belong

    There are often times where i just feel like an outsider, like i don't belong to where i currently live. Where i just wanna move to another state or country. I have friends, yes, but still i have this weird feeling that i don't belong here. I don't feel like i'm fitting in or...
    KriziaShines KriziaShines 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2013

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    Am I Really That Different?

    its kinda strange whenever im on a froum i frequent and i post on an active thread everyone stops posting. also when i create a new thread for the most part people don't respond to it even if its completly legit. i really do feel like and outcast no matter where i go i allways...
    kurokineko kurokineko 18-21, M 6 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    I Realized Lately I'm Not A "Third culture kid" Nor a product of my culture.

    I was never really accepted into the pack in my age group. I was always an outsider, a forgeiner in my own land. I mostly occupied myself with music, even obscure music and reading books and reading about ways in which I think our culture is worng. maybe that's why i love so...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M Sep 9, 2012

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    My Bubble

    I've always felt like an outsider because I've always been an outsider. Ever since I was a very young child, I've always been very aware that I'm different from others. I don't think, or interact the way most of the people on this planet interact with one another. My brain...
    lyricalongings lyricalongings 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 13, 2010

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    *sigh*

    I didn't really realize how much I felt like an outsider, how much I might have acted like I felt that way, until I took a look at some old pics from high school... Pics of the speech and debate team, pics of the choir... Heck, even way back in third grade when I was a girlscout...
    Elwing Elwing 31-35, F 7 Responses Aug 22, 2008

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    Being Jugded

    I feel like, when I meet others-they already have their "click" and i'm the outside loser. When I DO talk to othe people ,i really don't know what to say!
    lostprophet lostprophet 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    This is true actually.

    Mostly in my social group of friends which i have but probably because i am different to them. Sometimes i get irritates at my friends and society and how it controls the majority of peoples lives and are too caught up in everything to be free.
    oxzymoron oxzymoron 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    Outsider

    All my life I have often felt like an outsider, isolated from everything and everyone But the weird part is that I have a close group of friends and I am afraid to be friendless in life that in my head I feel that I have to overcompensate for any of my flaws as a person by...
    siriusblue siriusblue 16-17 4 Responses Jul 15, 2010

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    Ghost

    A while back, I was walking down a street in Dublin, and it occurred to me it could be any city, and the result would be the same - no-one would know me in any deep way. Tonight I had a great dinner in Guangzhou, and the staff was pleasant and attentive, and I knew they'd...
    freightdog freightdog 46-50, M Aug 25, 2012

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    Oh No

    i always feel like people are judging me when im trying so hard to be myself.   it tears me up inside just to start a conversation, and it exhausts me to try and keep the conversation up.   my mouth prefers to remain closed and my ears open, but it is not...
    ForeverAlone ForeverAlone 22-25, F 1 Response May 23, 2008

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    Im A Outsider For Life

    Ever since I could remember I am a outsider , My parents ignored me every change they had I only fell onto my daddy's favor due to that My brother fell out of favor for being a disapointment in Fathers eyes, My sister who could do no wrong cause she's daddies little Girl...
    AZNlooNaticMurdeReR AZNlooNaticMurdeReR 22-25 2 Responses Sep 26, 2012

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    I Don't Want To Join.

    These people, these faces, they are all the same. Blind and unknowing. Not understanding the world around them. I am told to be more outgoing. To make friends. To pretend that I even give a damn about their meaningless lives. But I don't. I never wanted to be an outcast but I am...
    Aimee12 Aimee12 18-21 Aug 26, 2012

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    Home?

    I just want a place that I can call home.. A place where I feel safe and a place where I don't feel alone all the time. I want happiness, joy and laughter but every time I find a place I want to call home, I wake up and realize I was never meant to have a home of my own..
    nicolef01 nicolef01 18-21, F Sep 11, 2013

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    Cast Away

    i feel like noone wants me around lately....so i wanna know is there any1 else?.....
    Anastas17 Anastas17 18-21, T 1 Response Apr 16, 2013

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    Sometimes I Feel Like A Loser?

    People think im an easy target to blame which i am but why do they just blame it on me when they hardly know me. People dont want to work with me in groups and try to get out the group when i try to work with them they just tell me to shut up and say why do you need an eduacation...
    shermc shermc 13-15, F 1 Response May 30, 2012

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    Always Been This Way

    i don`t know if its all the freaky things that has happened to me or if pepole are  intimadated by me,but i often feel when i am really trying to be nice and freindly that i`m out of place.
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 1 Response Mar 13, 2009

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    Me Myself & I

    I am use to this feeling I have experienced it all my life. It use to get me down but I don't feel like I use to about being an outsider. I look for the more positive things that comes from being an outsider. Such as I can avoid confusion more. When it is a crowd it's always...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 22, 2011

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    Everybody is so so much closer

    than me...when my friends and I meet new people they always relate to them better and they always hangout with them, not me. The people who I thought were my friends gang up on me and make fun of me and think that they know what I think and how I feel but they don't. Nobody...
    Mikesmithg1 Mikesmithg1 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 25

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    Being An Outsider In High School???

    feeling like an outsider is an everyday feeling to me. i think it goes along with being a loner as well. im more tuned out of the recent updates as in whats hot and whats not and etc. and not knowing these things is kind of hard to go around high school. i do have friends but...
    Merac Merac 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 28, 2011

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    i do not know how to put this.

    . basically i have no friends.. havent had any in years because my `true ` friends ****** me over.. long story short im pretty much on my own now all day everyday i live in a small town . my point is ive started to dress in a way that i like and not the way 'everyone else does...
    pinkglitteress pinkglitteress 22-25, F May 13

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    No Common Ground

    I went to a small social gathering today. Some of the women I knew well, others I didn't. Now don't get me wrong, I have some wonderful, caring friends. It just seems to be that every time I go to a social event that's more than just a few people, I feel so awkward and left out...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F May 12, 2013

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    I have never felt like I belonged.

    I have little in common with others my age, with others of my gender, with others in general. It's not that I can't make friends. It's not that I can't convince anyone to like me. It's that I'd rather spend my time on more important things than building fake relationships with...
    OldSoul246 OldSoul246 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 3, 2013

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    🐾I have never really belonged.

    since birth I was different,while other children would cry,I would howl.whining was my whimpering,barking and growling were my anger later on in life.in the worlds eyes this is super abnormal.so naturally, my parents trained it out of me and I became a normal human being.or so...
    Insidewolf Insidewolf 13-15, F Dec 6, 2013

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    On the Outer Fringe

    I've always been an outsider.. I'm sure it's because I'm a little on the crazy side, but I've learned to embrace my differences.. Who wants to be like everybody else? How boring is that..   Now we have a place to fit in with others who don't fit in.. Uh Oh.. might we...
    DrewBerry DrewBerry 46-50, F 36 Responses Jun 8, 2008

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    A while back I started a new job.

    This one woman seemed to want to befriend me. I went to lunch with her a few times, then she started acting snarky towards me or ignoring me. I start to notice that the other employees, who started out acting nice, start to shun me. They all eat lunch in a group together...
    GreatBlueHeronLover GreatBlueHeronLover 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    Even Among Outsiders

    Throughout school I was always an outsider, an outcast. Prior to high school, I attended a private school, so there weren't enough students for there to be anyone else for me to befriend. Once in high school, and back in the public school system, I found other outsiders and...
    mononoaware mononoaware 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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