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I Prefer Gentlemanlike Behavior

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    Is it disappearing?

     I always smile and feel good when I see a man giving a flower to a woman, taking her coat or waiting till she sit down first. I think there still are gentlemen, but less and less....   I am happy when  my classmate stops in front of the door to...
    bublina bublina 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 2, 2009

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    Shame On You

    It is most unfortunate but some men think that because they are on the internet, that it gives them the right to be rude to women. Case in point, an EP member had been pestering me for friendship.  He kept sending me messages to my whiteboard and I asked him why he wanted...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 15, 2011

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    You Sir, Are No Gentlemen.

    What does any women want? A gentleman. A man who knows how to use his manners. Respects a women and doesn't rush her to be intimate. A real man who would stand by his women side no matter what. He wouldn't want any other girl but her. He would do anything in his power to make her...
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 9 Responses Sep 7, 2013

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    That's Who I Am

    Let me begin with two things. First, being a gentleman is not how a person acts, being a gentleman is who a person is. So that's why I titled this story the way I did. Secondly, I am from the South. I am a southerner, redneck, etc., whatever y'all want to call us but I...
    SirLaughalots SirLaughalots 36-40, M 6 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    Who Doesn't

     I know there are people out there that will say they truely don't want that guy who takes your arm and leads you into the fancy party as an escort with no other agenda beyond being polite. But ... WOW!!! :) I do! I want one! And opening the car door, buying lunch, standing...
    4Daereen 4Daereen 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2010

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    Just Sayin'

    It's hard for me to detect a gentlemanlike behaviour here in EP. If you try to look simply with your interest, then they would probably fall out to only a few. And yet there are so many I can mention, in and outside my circle. Since I do not limit my interactions with men only...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 3, 2012

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    Gentleman

    I want a guy close to my age(meaning like 17-19) to talk to. Someone to laugh and joke with, someone to be sweet to me when I'm feeling upset, someone who is not afraid to take time to get to know each other! A GENTLEMAN!
    xXxLoveLikeTheNymphsxXx xXxLoveLikeTheNymphsxXx 16-17, F Nov 30, 2013

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    Old Fashioned Ideals.

    I am no Prima Donna, that's for sure.I guess I just grew up in a house hold where my dad always treated my mother with respect and courtesy.He always opened the car door for her, often bought her flowers, and was always tender and loving towards her.I feel that a lot of that kind...
    Bronte36 Bronte36 36-40, F 6 Responses Apr 13, 2012

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    Nothing Turns Me On More Than A Guy Who Is Gentlemenly

    its just an instinctive thing ... a man who has charasma and charm and integrity and acts like a gentlemen and treats you right is better than any sexual non-sense or egoism etc... men don;t realise they have the soul of a woman in his palm by being a caring and discrete...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 11, 2011

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    I Love A Gentleman...

    There are still gentlemen out there...you just have to look a little harder to find them... I'm raising one right now for our future generation of young ladies! :-) A gentleman makes me feel like a lady... I don't think there's any better feeling for a girl... A gentleman...
    pixelita pixelita 36-40, F 18 Responses Oct 29, 2009

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    A Rare Kind..

    I love a man who knows how to act like/be a gentleman, especially in public. A true gentleman can melt me & touch my heart. It's in all the little subtle hints and actions.  In a private setting, just between us, he can be as wild and naughty as they choose. In a nut shell...a...
    Mirages Mirages 41-45, F 39 Responses Dec 4, 2012

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    People need to start thinking of other peoples

    feelings it's just down right discusting n rude.
    Kissieface Kissieface 31-35, F Feb 17

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    I sort of have this dilemma

    and dichotomy problem. I like guys who are dominant and aggressive, but gosh I hate being told what to do. I mean sometimes I'm fine with it, like during sex that's fine and preferred, but outside of that gosh nothing makes me as mad. If it's in the heat of the moment, that's...
    littlejewels littlejewels 18-21, F 12 Responses May 7

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    It Is Sad It's So Rare

    People (including my wife) seem to always be surprised or impressed that I insist on opening the car door for my wife. I was raised to be a gentleman, so it does not seem like extra work to me, but I guess it does to the rest of the world.
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 7 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    "Me Too, I Just Love This Quality In A Man! They Are A Dying Breed."

    When I saw this EP Experience Group, I just had to join it. I was just talking about this with my Aunt. She said something about it that rung true, "They are the last of a dying breed." Its not often that I see that "Gentleman" quality in men these days. It is a quality that is...
    AceofPentacles AceofPentacles 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2012

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    Sometimes

    Well at least at dinner.  If you can prove you can be a good man in public, I will let you be a very bad boy in bed ;)
    JustBernieGirl JustBernieGirl 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2011

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    A Male's Insight On Gentlemanly Behavior

    I've read a lot of comments pertaining to the disappearance of "gentlemanly" behavior and I would like to offer some insight. Obviously I'm not speaking on behalf of all men, and there are still many gentleman out there, but I'm merely providing my perspective. 1. Being a...
    SuperAquaboy SuperAquaboy 22-25, M 5 Responses Sep 6, 2011

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    Good girls going for the bad boys,

    what's in it for the good guys?
    Kkdplolkk Kkdplolkk 13-15, M 3 Responses Jun 29

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    And, Sometimes Nice Guys Do Win The Girl

      It's always been important for me to be a nice person even if I didn't really feel like it, and to do the right thing even if it wasn't popular. I've long subscribed to a code of behavior that wasn't always easy to follow.  There were many time when I felt I was the...
    gladiate gladiate 51-55, M 4 Responses Oct 31, 2009

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    I Like It When Men Act Like Gentalmen Around Girls That I Want...

    IT MAKES IT EASYER TO TAKE WHAT I WANT.....LOL..... SERIOUSLY THOUGH WHY NOT TAKE WHAT YOU WANT WHEN THE FLOPS WONT STAND UP..........?
    TEMPOLTON TEMPOLTON 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 15, 2012

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    But That Doesn't Mean Weak

    I like gentleman like behavior, especially in how it relates to traditional interaction between men and women. I like when a man holds a door open for me, asks if I need assistance if I appear puzzled, overwhelmed or struggling with a physical task. I like when a man doesn't use...
    JennierW70 JennierW70 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2013

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    My Brand Flippin' New Office Chair!

    I have been looking for a long time now for a new office chair cause my old one really sucked. I finally found this awesome online article that helped me find the most Fan-Freaking-Tastic chair ever! I want to let my victory be yours as well, so find the link to the article as...
    Thrice4All Thrice4All 26-30, M Dec 6, 2012

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    Why People Hate To Each Other

    when i see the people,i cant understand why people hate to each other.in this world there are so many issues like poverty, unemployment,in which we can fight together to overcome these issues.but instead to fight with these problems.we are involved in our personal issues.murder...
    sujeet1984 sujeet1984 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 30, 2011

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    greeneyedlady72 greeneyedlady72 41-45, F 8 Responses Apr 13

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    Its a

    Lost art, I think. Well, not lost. You have it down :) But it really is not an important thing to a lot of people anymore! I appreciate the door held open, my chair pulled out, all those little niceties. It's important to me.
    Opalina Opalina 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2009

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    It Is A Must

    I love gentlemen. A man who has manners, speaks well, dresses well and knows how to treat a woman is a true gem. What is a real turn off is a man who has no manners. A man who shows up disheveled and sloppy. A man who has poor grammar and no brains. Contrary to what some of you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 27, 2012

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    So Rare

    I don't want to sound too whiny and maudlin, but I regret the apparent disappearance of this type of behavior. It is becoming increasingly rare to find men who actually know how to treat a woman with respect. I blame the parents :P If a man has good manners, he dresses well, he...
    DeclarableKitten DeclarableKitten 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 7, 2013

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    My Brother

    My brother is the most gentleman-like man I know. He's very kind but has an air of confidence I appreciate. He is never, ever rude but quite assertive. He's clever and witty but never uses insulting humor. He's one of those amazing dads who care and despite working very long...
    DisorderlyCyn DisorderlyCyn 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 8, 2013

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    I Want To Be Like That

    some people in this world are not able to understand anything even we can say that they dont want to understand.they always live with some false issues which creates problems for human beings as well as for themselves also.they dislike gentleman behavior. why they are like this...
    sujeet1984 sujeet1984 26-30, M Nov 30, 2011

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    My Guy Friends

    I feel I'm a lucky girl to have nice guy friends. Here and off line. Sadly, there are many man that are disrespectful. But not all men are like that. There are still some good ones out there. All the guys in circle on EP are gentleman. What I like about these men is that they are...
    surrealreality surrealreality 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    If you are a guy, and you're reading this,

    congratulations!! You are a gentleman or at least an aspiring one. Would you like to know a few secrets about what some ladies like? I would love to know what gentlemen prefer from their ladies. I wish we were mind-readers, but we're not. I do know that ladies never want a...
    livingasme livingasme 46-50, F 4 Responses Jun 28

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    Troubled He May Not Be Real...

    I'm 19yrs old and I consider myself to be pretty old fashioned comparing myself to the generation I've grown with. Guys that are gentleman-like I consider extremely rare, but the thing is I think I've found one, and I'm really conflicted by it. I'm not conflicted because he was...
    kuramalove kuramalove 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 3, 2011

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    Manners

    I don't expect to be treated differently by a man because I am a woman ... just with manners and respect ... if a gentleman is a man who has manners and respect for people, both men and women ... that's good ... that's all I ask for ...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 14 Responses Oct 12, 2009

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    Shygirl917 Shygirl917 18-21, F May 7

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    I Always Try My Best.

    I will always open doors for women and take my hat off indoors, and try my best to be a gentlemen all the time.
    CyberDeath118 CyberDeath118 26-30, M Sep 16, 2013

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    Nice Guys

    I've always tried my utmost to be as respectful and polite as I possibly could to the ladies I speak with. Yes, I have urges and desires, but I only approach these subjects tactfully, and once we've reached a level of comfort with each other. Unfortunately, by that time, I...
    Valdaine Valdaine 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 4, 2013

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