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I Prefer Intellect to Good Looks

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    Conversation? Yes Please.

    Sure, I don't mind someone being good lokoing either. But I need to be with someone who understands me and I don't have to dumb myself down to speak to. I love being able to hold a conversation with my boyfriend about something other than cars. He is my favorite person to talk...
    Amay408 Amay408 18-21, F Jun 30, 2010

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    Great Minds...

    A brilliant mind makes me a little weak in the knees. While I am engaged in the topic of choice... I am also thinking... Damn, one more word... And I am about to drop you. Right here, right now. Looks fade...intellect can sharpen. Cuts me to the quick. ;-) S
    slsr slsr 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Smart Is Sexy!

    Personally, I think that people who are really smart are super sexy. I don't really know what it is, but it probably has to do with the fact that people who are really good looking abuse their good looks. Or maybe it's just that I can't help but being attracted to 'nerdy' guys...
    Venus124 Venus124 18-21, F Dec 7, 2010

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    Good Looks Can Only Attract

     Physical looks can only attract me. Its the brains that keep me. Ever woken up next to someone in the morning only to find you NOTHING to talk about? 
    mocha39 mocha39 22-25, F 10 Responses Oct 24, 2009

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    Luckily He Has Both ;)

    I love a good deep conversation, but I do appreciate an attractive appearance as well. Luckily the love of my life has both. He can entertain me for hours telling me about computers or just talking in general, but he also looks pretty dang sexy. Not too buff, not too skinny. Lots...
    hopelessromantic137 hopelessromantic137 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    Brainy Is Sooo Sexy

    I don't know what it is about smart women that turn me on, but there it is.  One of the hottest women I ever met was double majoring at university in sociology and world literature.  She could wax poetic in three languages, sigh...  I'm not saying looks are...
    Zomchef Zomchef 22-25 3 Responses Oct 20, 2009

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    Can I Have Both?

    I want to have both and would like to find someone with both. Ok, what woman wouldn't? I would like to add integrity in there. I prefer integrity, intellect, good looks in that order. So.... where do I find such a man? 8-)
    inherentintelligence inherentintelligence 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 20, 2009

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    I Find It Funny...

    That even just glancing over the stories here, most have a ton of grammatical mistakes. I've always loved intellectual people. Someone who can outsmart me is actually a huge turn on. But especially because of that, I certainly like to make myself appear intelligent. Is there...
    Veritasage Veritasage 18-21, F Jul 7, 2012

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    Yum

    Intellect is the sexiest thing. Being able to have a meaningful conversation with someone is incredible. You forget there is a thing called time.
    Euonia Euonia 22-25, F 1 Response May 30, 2013

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    Brains And Brawn

    I am a former army combat soldier of four in a half active years and two in a half reserves. I was an M1-A1 tank crewmember (for those who do not know what the M1-A1 tank is google it for images). I have done martial arts since I was six years old and I am 27 now. And thankfully...
    EarthBear2784 EarthBear2784 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    Intellect

    Intellect,I prefer it,Over good looks,It’s what the person knows,Not how they look,That matters,As far as I’m Concerned.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M Nov 10, 2011

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    I'll Take Good Intelect And Integrity Over Looks Everytime.

    No matter how good looking a women is if she has a negitive attitude, no brains or integrity then I will have no interest. Nor can I stand very attractive people who thinks the rest of the world owes them something.  I love women who can think for them...
    diamondintherough85 diamondintherough85 22-25, M Nov 5, 2009

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    You can always lose your looks

    but will forever have your intelligence
    kittyluv78 kittyluv78 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 20, 2014

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    Brains Before Brawn

    Yes, I know the mind can go as well...but that is not a certainty.  On the other hand, bodies fail and looks fade.  The person who was so unbearably hot as a twenty or thirty-something may not be as attractive twenty years down the road.On the other hand, a good mind will only...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 10, 2011

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    I Always Imagine Sex With A Wild Womwn

    I am married but my wife does not like sex much. Hence I always imagine and wish to have sex with wild womwn begging for more.
    abu4 abu4 26-30 1 Response May 4, 2011

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    Sweet Sweet Brains ;-)

    Alright,  it's not like i consider myself an intellectual.  I just like a lot of pursuits that are not on level with the average person I've met.Foreign Films, Reading like books are going to disappear, plays, ballet, ethnic celebrations, eating at foreign restaurants...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2010

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    Plain And Simple

    If you are a guy that look stunning in that business suite, if you do exercise and are well groomed and fit, yet lack of intellect or maturity be sure that this little girl will not be looking your way, probably as friends.
    BellaFairy BellaFairy 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 3, 2011

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    It's Really Nice When Someone Finds You Inteeresting

    but it's not enough a lot of the time. they often just let you talk and talk and talk and talk and never say anything back.
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M 2 Responses May 24, 2012

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    I Couldn't Be With Someone Who Is Not Intelligent

    ... whoever it does not hurt if it is wrapped in a nice package. All products need a bit of marketing flash, no? :)
    Puck42 Puck42 36-40, M Oct 11, 2012

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    Intellect Over Good Looks?

    In concept this sounds so cool. Yes!!.us above average IQ guys have a shot. My experiences show that it is hard to even get a gal to talk to you if your not good looking. Here in So. Cal. image is what drives relationships.At work, when conducting business with clients, some...
    abigguy4u abigguy4u 56-60, M Jul 16, 2011

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    Magpie62 Magpie62 31-35, M 2 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    But Good Looks Are Definitely A Perk..

    I could never be with an idiot. I just couldn't do it. I'd prefer average looks with average/above average intellect as opposed to gorgeous and stupid or less than average looking and a genius.
    jbar291 jbar291 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    Hot Brains

    Intelligence is the biggest turn-on for me. Hands-down. Physical beauty will catch my eye, but if the intelligence is not behind the good looks, I lose interest.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 17, 2010

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    Absolutely!

    If you're the type of person that preferes one night stands then looks are abviously more important as you won't know them for long. But when looking for someone to have a relationship with a sense of humour, wit, shared interests, intellect and overall personality is...
    DreamingEquality DreamingEquality 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 4, 2009

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    With the conversations I've had with people on

    here, I've realized that I prefer to talk to people for a long time before seeing what they really look like... Or just not seeing what they look like. I know I shouldn't judge people by what they look like but I do. I know.. It's a bad habit of mine. But I blame the human in me...
    xxblasianxx xxblasianxx 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2014

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    Question

    But what happens to us that are as dumb as rocks and our faces can stop a clock?
    typoquene typoquene 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    Plain Brown Wrapper

    I used to think this song was so important to me because it described me. Little did I know some 20 years later I would meet someone that would give this song a whole new meaning.  When I was in college I used to dance under the stars to this song, as my friend played this...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 22 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    Intelligence Required

    If u tlk 2 me lik dis I'm going to automatically assume you're not intelligent; sorry, I don't care if it's just easier to do on your phone (nowadays with smartphones this shouldn't be an issue even) or faster to type on your keyboard. Beyond petty texting, for me, an intelligent...
    Christine268 Christine268 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 11, 2013

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    The Brain - The Most Sensual Body Part You Can Have

    If you think about it, your mind is the only thing that actually brings you to the height of ecstacy. It's not foreplay without planning. It's not lovemaking without technique. It's not attraction without interperetation. Isn't that why experienced lovers are the most enjoyable...
    V8fusion V8fusion 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 5, 2010

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    Intellect is what we are,

    what we think and how we see the world.Looks are no tool under a wrong perspective.Life goes beyond what we know...
    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 20, 2014

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    Can't Fix Stupid

    By "intellect," I don't mean you have to be nerdy smart. One of my friends pointed out that in order to be attracted, she needs the guy to have something to teach her. By this, she meant someone who can talk to her and interest her -- not just satisfy the other end of her body...
    auroramaru auroramaru 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    Totally

    Hey, I'd prefer a not-so-good-looking nerd to a hot dumb jock anytime. --sightypicalhighschoolstereotypesigh-- Brain stimulating conversations are hot. XD Besides, I love learning new things. ^^
    DarkAngel123 DarkAngel123 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 1, 2010

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    So I think that either way outer beauty is not

    forever. You don't always love the way someone looks but if someone has beautiful intellectuality, Or smarts. It's awesome I'm pretty sure it would last a lot longer than a six pack and awesome hair. With that being said stimulate your brain and own your smarts! Guys that are...
    PencioliaLuna PencioliaLuna 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 23, 2014

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    Smarts V.s. Looks

    As we all know looks fade....Looks attract you to a person, but i have to say, If someone with super good looks open there mouth and is a complete idiot...I would be like: "See ya". I really don't know where I was going with this story, but here is what I think: Looks=Yay...
    CowgirlMagic CowgirlMagic 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    I enjoy stimulating conversations.

    Gossip and the daily workday conversation gets boring after awhile. I definitely prefer intellect to good looks. I've usually found that I will be more likely to be attracted to a person that stimulates my brain. That being said, there are so many intellectuals that I could...
    MiddleSister45 MiddleSister45 41-45, F Nov 3, 2014

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    If you want someone who's a good **** with a hit body, by all means, pursue your dream of having that. But remember, looks fade, and you're gonna have to choose your hot chick...
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    i havent ever been one to judge someone soley on looks, however i feel you should have some type of physical attraction... but personality is more important.
    SelinaKyle1 SelinaKyle1 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2014

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    Ugh I hate how mom is so obsessed with how I look YES I cld be a reflection of how I feel/ what I'm going through HOWEVER I feel like she is being rude if she comments on how I...
    Hey4yu Hey4yu 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    41 Questions Personality Test Personality type: "Reliable Realist" Serious and quiet, interested in security and peaceful living. Extremely thorough, responsible and dependable...
    MsInvis MsInvis 46-50, F Dec 27, 2014

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    Even though i dress nicer and i use make up. It doesn't improve anything, i don't get more attention and people don't treat me better for it.
    Mikaela1920 Mikaela1920 16-17 3 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    Id just about raise a draft
    christeaser christeaser 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Good looks are temporary but a beautiful heart equals eternity
    savigirl14 savigirl14 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 4

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    Comparison is the thief of joy- Theodore Roosevelt I really like this quote because of just how true it is and in how many areas of life you can apply it to. How many people go...
    G4mb1t G4mb1t 18-21, M 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    I love that I'm intelligent enough to need to be intellectually stimulated but at the same time it sucks because very few ppl can actually intellectually stimulate me. So I end up...
    WickedlilAngel WickedlilAngel 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 8

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    Napoleon.... .... "The world suffers a lot. Not because of the violence of bad people, But because of the silence of good people!" Einstein.... ..... "I am thankful to all those...
    rogi4u rogi4u 36-40, M 1 hr ago

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    What makes someone unusual and intellectual? These are both traits that are in the eye of the beholder in some sense, right? I mean if something unusual is out of the norm, define...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jan 4

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    Yes!! People who pose you a question that begins debate!! Exchanges in knowledge and intellect!! Wonderful!!
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 10

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    i have 3 really good friends that i cherish Sean - my friend since collegee and now my longest friend. 5 years and counting. He is an epic gamer so we first got clsoe from that...
    surfdas surfdas 22-25, M 3 Responses Jan 5

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    Personality is key and means so much more than looks. But in reality when you first meet someone you don't fall for their personality because you don't know them, you see the...
    t3rriv t3rriv 16-17, F 5 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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