I Prefer Intellect to Good Looks

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    If you're the type of person that preferes one night stands then looks are abviously more important as you won't know them for long. But when looking for someone to have a relationship with a sense of humour, wit, shared interests, intellect and overall personality is...
    DreamingEquality DreamingEquality
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Nov 4, 2009

    Smart Is Sexy!

    Personally, I think that people who are really smart are super sexy. I don't really know what it is, but it probably has to do with the fact that people who are really good looking abuse their good looks. Or maybe it's just that I can't help but being attracted to 'nerdy' guys...
    Venus124 Venus124
    18-21, F
    Dec 7, 2010

    Good Looks Can Only Attract

     Physical looks can only attract me. Its the brains that keep me. Ever woken up next to someone in the morning only to find you NOTHING to talk about? 
    mocha39 mocha39
    22-25, F
    10 Responses Oct 24, 2009


    Intellect,I prefer it,Over good looks,It’s what the person knows,Not how they look,That matters,As far as I’m Concerned.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket
    46-50, M
    Nov 10, 2011

    The Brain - The Most Sensual Body Part You Can Have

    If you think about it, your mind is the only thing that actually brings you to the height of ecstacy. It's not foreplay without planning. It's not lovemaking without technique. It's not attraction without interperetation. Isn't that why experienced lovers are the most enjoyable...
    V8fusion V8fusion
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 5, 2010

    Great Minds...

    A brilliant mind makes me a little weak in the knees. While I am engaged in the topic of choice... I am also thinking... Damn, one more word... And I am about to drop you. Right here, right now. Looks fade...intellect can sharpen. Cuts me to the quick. ;-) S
    slsr slsr
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 10, 2013

    It's Really Nice When Someone Finds You Inteeresting

    but it's not enough a lot of the time. they often just let you talk and talk and talk and talk and never say anything back.
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix
    26-30, M
    2 Responses May 24, 2012

    With the conversations I've had with people on

    here, I've realized that I prefer to talk to people for a long time before seeing what they really look like... Or just not seeing what they look like. I know I shouldn't judge people by what they look like but I do. I know.. It's a bad habit of mine. But I blame the human in me...
    xxblasianxx xxblasianxx
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 9, 2014

    I Find It Funny...

    That even just glancing over the stories here, most have a ton of grammatical mistakes. I've always loved intellectual people. Someone who can outsmart me is actually a huge turn on. But especially because of that, I certainly like to make myself appear intelligent. Is there...
    Veritasage Veritasage
    18-21, F
    Jul 7, 2012

    Intelligence Required

    If u tlk 2 me lik dis I'm going to automatically assume you're not intelligent; sorry, I don't care if it's just easier to do on your phone (nowadays with smartphones this shouldn't be an issue even) or faster to type on your keyboard. Beyond petty texting, for me, an intelligent...
    Christine268 Christine268
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 11, 2013

    Brainy Is Sooo Sexy

    I don't know what it is about smart women that turn me on, but there it is.  One of the hottest women I ever met was double majoring at university in sociology and world literature.  She could wax poetic in three languages, sigh...  I'm not saying looks are...
    Zomchef Zomchef
    3 Responses Oct 20, 2009

    Brains Before Brawn

    Yes, I know the mind can go as well...but that is not a certainty.  On the other hand, bodies fail and looks fade.  The person who was so unbearably hot as a twenty or thirty-something may not be as attractive twenty years down the road.On the other hand, a good mind will only...
    Plaid Plaid
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 10, 2011

    You can always lose your looks

    but will forever have your intelligence
    kittyluv78 kittyluv78
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 20, 2014

    So I think that either way outer beauty is not

    forever. You don't always love the way someone looks but if someone has beautiful intellectuality, Or smarts. It's awesome I'm pretty sure it would last a lot longer than a six pack and awesome hair. With that being said stimulate your brain and own your smarts! Guys that are...
    PencioliaLuna PencioliaLuna
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 23, 2014

    Intellect is what we are,

    what we think and how we see the world.Looks are no tool under a wrong perspective.Life goes beyond what we know...
    4biandu 4biandu
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jul 20, 2014

    I enjoy stimulating conversations.

    Gossip and the daily workday conversation gets boring after awhile. I definitely prefer intellect to good looks. I've usually found that I will be more likely to be attracted to a person that stimulates my brain. That being said, there are so many intellectuals that I could...
    MiddleSister45 MiddleSister45
    46-50, F
    Nov 3, 2014


    But what happens to us that are as dumb as rocks and our faces can stop a clock?
    typoquene typoquene
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 28, 2010


    Hey, I'd prefer a not-so-good-looking nerd to a hot dumb jock anytime. --sightypicalhighschoolstereotypesigh-- Brain stimulating conversations are hot. XD Besides, I love learning new things. ^^
    DarkAngel123 DarkAngel123
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 1, 2010

    Conversation? Yes Please.

    Sure, I don't mind someone being good lokoing either. But I need to be with someone who understands me and I don't have to dumb myself down to speak to. I love being able to hold a conversation with my boyfriend about something other than cars. He is my favorite person to talk...
    Amay408 Amay408
    18-21, F
    Jun 30, 2010

    Hot Brains

    Intelligence is the biggest turn-on for me. Hands-down. Physical beauty will catch my eye, but if the intelligence is not behind the good looks, I lose interest.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jul 17, 2010

    But Good Looks Are Definitely A Perk..

    I could never be with an idiot. I just couldn't do it. I'd prefer average looks with average/above average intellect as opposed to gorgeous and stupid or less than average looking and a genius.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Nov 16, 2013

    Intellect Over Good Looks?

    In concept this sounds so cool. Yes!!.us above average IQ guys have a shot. My experiences show that it is hard to even get a gal to talk to you if your not good looking. Here in So. Cal. image is what drives relationships.At work, when conducting business with clients, some...
    dumbnugly dumbnugly
    56-60, M
    Jul 16, 2011

    Brains And Brawn

    I am a former army combat soldier of four in a half active years and two in a half reserves. I was an M1-A1 tank crewmember (for those who do not know what the M1-A1 tank is google it for images). I have done martial arts since I was six years old and I am 27 now. And thankfully...
    EarthBear2784 EarthBear2784
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jul 1, 2012

    I Always Imagine Sex With A Wild Womwn

    I am married but my wife does not like sex much. Hence I always imagine and wish to have sex with wild womwn begging for more.
    abu4 abu4
    1 Response May 4, 2011

    I Couldn't Be With Someone Who Is Not Intelligent

    ... whoever it does not hurt if it is wrapped in a nice package. All products need a bit of marketing flash, no? :)
    Puck42 Puck42
    36-40, M
    Oct 11, 2012

    I'll Take Good Intelect And Integrity Over Looks Everytime.

    No matter how good looking a women is if she has a negitive attitude, no brains or integrity then I will have no interest. Nor can I stand very attractive people who thinks the rest of the world owes them something.  I love women who can think for them...
    diamondintherough85 diamondintherough85
    22-25, M
    Nov 5, 2009

    Plain And Simple

    If you are a guy that look stunning in that business suite, if you do exercise and are well groomed and fit, yet lack of intellect or maturity be sure that this little girl will not be looking your way, probably as friends.
    BellaFairy BellaFairy
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Dec 3, 2011

    Plain Brown Wrapper

    I used to think this song was so important to me because it described me. Little did I know some 20 years later I would meet someone that would give this song a whole new meaning.  When I was in college I used to dance under the stars to this song, as my friend played this...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    41-45, F
    22 Responses Sep 7, 2009

    Sometimes a good look just can be a mask

    and at least when you are getting old the good look will go away. But your intelligence will stay forever or even growing.
    Loretta78 Loretta78
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 10

    Can I Have Both?

    I want to have both and would like to find someone with both. Ok, what woman wouldn't? I would like to add integrity in there. I prefer integrity, intellect, good looks in that order. So.... where do I find such a man? 8-)
    inherentintelligence inherentintelligence
    41-45, F
    1 Response Oct 20, 2009

    Can't Fix Stupid

    By "intellect," I don't mean you have to be nerdy smart. One of my friends pointed out that in order to be attracted, she needs the guy to have something to teach her. By this, she meant someone who can talk to her and interest her -- not just satisfy the other end of her body...
    auroramaru auroramaru
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jul 5, 2010

    Luckily He Has Both ;)

    I love a good deep conversation, but I do appreciate an attractive appearance as well. Luckily the love of my life has both. He can entertain me for hours telling me about computers or just talking in general, but he also looks pretty dang sexy. Not too buff, not too skinny. Lots...
    hopelessromantic137 hopelessromantic137
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 19, 2012

    Sweet Sweet Brains ;-)

    Alright,  it's not like i consider myself an intellectual.  I just like a lot of pursuits that are not on level with the average person I've met.Foreign Films, Reading like books are going to disappear, plays, ballet, ethnic celebrations, eating at foreign restaurants...
    Shierke Shierke
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 27, 2010

    काकः कृष्णः पिकः

    कृष्णः को भेद पिककाकयोः वसन्तसमये प्राप्ते काकः काकः पिकः पिकः [Kakah krishna pikah krishna, Ko bheda pika kaka yoho? Vasanta samaye praptey, Kakah kakah pikah pikaha] The...
    IamnotCharlieSheen IamnotCharlieSheen
    46-50, M
    1 Response Nov 12, 2015


    Intellect is the sexiest thing. Being able to have a meaningful conversation with someone is incredible. You forget there is a thing called time.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response May 30, 2013

    Smarts V.s. Looks

    As we all know looks fade....Looks attract you to a person, but i have to say, If someone with super good looks open there mouth and is a complete idiot...I would be like: "See ya". I really don't know where I was going with this story, but here is what I think: Looks=Yay...
    CowgirlMagic CowgirlMagic
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

    While I appreciate good looks they don't really

    know how to have a good conversation. I mean they open the door but once you've been let in please have intellect. That is what keeps you inside. As well as in my bed...
    time2bjill time2bjill
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 2, 2015

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