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I Prefer Intellect to Good Looks

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    It's Really Nice When Someone Finds You Inteeresting

    but it's not enough a lot of the time. they often just let you talk and talk and talk and talk and never say anything back.
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M May 24, 2012

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    Can I Have Both?

    I want to have both and would like to find someone with both. Ok, what woman wouldn't? I would like to add integrity in there. I prefer integrity, intellect, good looks in that order. So.... where do I find such a man? 8-)
    inherentintelligence inherentintelligence 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 20, 2009

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    Plain And Simple

    If you are a guy that look stunning in that business suite, if you do exercise and are well groomed and fit, yet lack of intellect or maturity be sure that this little girl will not be looking your way, probably as friends.
    BellaFairy BellaFairy 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 3, 2011

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    Question

    But what happens to us that are as dumb as rocks and our faces can stop a clock?
    typoquene typoquene 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    Totally

    Hey, I'd prefer a not-so-good-looking nerd to a hot dumb jock anytime. --sightypicalhighschoolstereotypesigh-- Brain stimulating conversations are hot. XD Besides, I love learning new things. ^^
    DarkAngel123 DarkAngel123 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 1, 2010

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    Intellect Over Good Looks?

    In concept this sounds so cool. Yes!!.us above average IQ guys have a shot. My experiences show that it is hard to even get a gal to talk to you if your not good looking. Here in So. Cal. image is what drives relationships.At work, when conducting business with clients, some...
    abigguy4u abigguy4u 56-60, M Jul 16, 2011

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    Great Minds...

    A brilliant mind makes me a little weak in the knees. While I am engaged in the topic of choice... I am also thinking... Damn, one more word... And I am about to drop you. Right here, right now. Looks fade...intellect can sharpen. Cuts me to the quick. ;-) S
    slsr slsr 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Can't Fix Stupid

    By "intellect," I don't mean you have to be nerdy smart. One of my friends pointed out that in order to be attracted, she needs the guy to have something to teach her. By this, she meant someone who can talk to her and interest her -- not just satisfy the other end of her body...
    auroramaru auroramaru 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2010

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    Conversation? Yes Please.

    Sure, I don't mind someone being good lokoing either. But I need to be with someone who understands me and I don't have to dumb myself down to speak to. I love being able to hold a conversation with my boyfriend about something other than cars. He is my favorite person to talk...
    Amay408 Amay408 18-21, F Jun 30, 2010

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    I Couldn't Be With Someone Who Is Not Intelligent

    ... whoever it does not hurt if it is wrapped in a nice package. All products need a bit of marketing flash, no? :)
    Puck42 Puck42 36-40, M Oct 11, 2012

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    Brainy Is Sooo Sexy

    I don't know what it is about smart women that turn me on, but there it is.  One of the hottest women I ever met was double majoring at university in sociology and world literature.  She could wax poetic in three languages, sigh...  I'm not saying looks are...
    Zomchef Zomchef 22-25 3 Responses Oct 20, 2009

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    Yum

    Intellect is the sexiest thing. Being able to have a meaningful conversation with someone is incredible. You forget there is a thing called time.
    Euonia Euonia 22-25, F 1 Response May 30, 2013

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    Intelligence Required

    If u tlk 2 me lik dis I'm going to automatically assume you're not intelligent; sorry, I don't care if it's just easier to do on your phone (nowadays with smartphones this shouldn't be an issue even) or faster to type on your keyboard. Beyond petty texting, for me, an intelligent...
    Christine268 Christine268 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 11, 2013

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    Intellect is what we are,

    what we think and how we see the world.Looks are no tool under a wrong perspective.Life goes beyond what we know...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    Absolutely!

    If you're the type of person that preferes one night stands then looks are abviously more important as you won't know them for long. But when looking for someone to have a relationship with a sense of humour, wit, shared interests, intellect and overall personality is...
    DreamingEquality DreamingEquality 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 4, 2009

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    Hot Brains

    Intelligence is the biggest turn-on for me. Hands-down. Physical beauty will catch my eye, but if the intelligence is not behind the good looks, I lose interest.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 17, 2010

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    I'll Take Good Intelect And Integrity Over Looks Everytime.

    No matter how good looking a women is if she has a negitive attitude, no brains or integrity then I will have no interest. Nor can I stand very attractive people who thinks the rest of the world owes them something.  I love women who can think for them...
    diamondintherough85 diamondintherough85 22-25, M Nov 5, 2009

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    I Find It Funny...

    That even just glancing over the stories here, most have a ton of grammatical mistakes. I've always loved intellectual people. Someone who can outsmart me is actually a huge turn on. But especially because of that, I certainly like to make myself appear intelligent. Is there...
    Veritasage Veritasage 18-21, F Jul 7, 2012

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    Brains And Brawn

    I am a former army combat soldier of four in a half active years and two in a half reserves. I was an M1-A1 tank crewmember (for those who do not know what the M1-A1 tank is google it for images). I have done martial arts since I was six years old and I am 27 now. And thankfully...
    EarthBear2784 EarthBear2784 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    Good Looks Can Only Attract

     Physical looks can only attract me. Its the brains that keep me. Ever woken up next to someone in the morning only to find you NOTHING to talk about? 
    mocha39 mocha39 22-25, F 10 Responses Oct 24, 2009

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    Luckily He Has Both ;)

    I love a good deep conversation, but I do appreciate an attractive appearance as well. Luckily the love of my life has both. He can entertain me for hours telling me about computers or just talking in general, but he also looks pretty dang sexy. Not too buff, not too skinny. Lots...
    hopelessromantic137 hopelessromantic137 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 19, 2012

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    The Brain - The Most Sensual Body Part You Can Have

    If you think about it, your mind is the only thing that actually brings you to the height of ecstacy. It's not foreplay without planning. It's not lovemaking without technique. It's not attraction without interperetation. Isn't that why experienced lovers are the most enjoyable...
    V8fusion V8fusion 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 5, 2010

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    I Always Imagine Sex With A Wild Womwn

    I am married but my wife does not like sex much. Hence I always imagine and wish to have sex with wild womwn begging for more.
    abu4 abu4 26-30 May 4, 2011

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    Plain Brown Wrapper

    I used to think this song was so important to me because it described me. Little did I know some 20 years later I would meet someone that would give this song a whole new meaning.  When I was in college I used to dance under the stars to this song, as my friend played this...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 22 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    So I think that either way outer beauty is not

    forever. You don't always love the way someone looks but if someone has beautiful intellectuality, Or smarts. It's awesome I'm pretty sure it would last a lot longer than a six pack and awesome hair. With that being said stimulate your brain and own your smarts! Guys that are...
    PencioliaLuna PencioliaLuna 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    But Good Looks Are Definitely A Perk..

    I could never be with an idiot. I just couldn't do it. I'd prefer average looks with average/above average intellect as opposed to gorgeous and stupid or less than average looking and a genius.
    jbar291 jbar291 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 16, 2013

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    Brains Before Brawn

    Yes, I know the mind can go as well...but that is not a certainty.  On the other hand, bodies fail and looks fade.  The person who was so unbearably hot as a twenty or thirty-something may not be as attractive twenty years down the road.On the other hand, a good mind will only...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 10, 2011

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    Smart Is Sexy!

    Personally, I think that people who are really smart are super sexy. I don't really know what it is, but it probably has to do with the fact that people who are really good looking abuse their good looks. Or maybe it's just that I can't help but being attracted to 'nerdy' guys...
    Venus124 Venus124 18-21, F Dec 7, 2010

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    You can always lose your looks

    but will forever have your intelligence
    kittyluv78 kittyluv78 36-40, F Jul 20

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    Smarts V.s. Looks

    As we all know looks fade....Looks attract you to a person, but i have to say, If someone with super good looks open there mouth and is a complete idiot...I would be like: "See ya". I really don't know where I was going with this story, but here is what I think: Looks=Yay...
    CowgirlMagic CowgirlMagic 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    Sweet Sweet Brains ;-)

    Alright,  it's not like i consider myself an intellectual.  I just like a lot of pursuits that are not on level with the average person I've met.Foreign Films, Reading like books are going to disappear, plays, ballet, ethnic celebrations, eating at foreign restaurants...
    Shierke Shierke 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2010

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    Intellect

    Intellect,I prefer it,Over good looks,It’s what the person knows,Not how they look,That matters,As far as I’m Concerned.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M Nov 10, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    Its good to have a great personality but its also important to have good looks. Honestly, i think you cant like someone and be with them if you think they are "ugly". Its not fair...
    ninjadentistinspace ninjadentistinspace 16-17, F 4 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I don't care how good looking a person is, after all looks fade with time. I think it is much more important to have a great personality. I am far more interested in someones...
    jmc39 jmc39 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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    You can find a gorgeous boy with a **** personality or not so great looks and amazing personality. How often is it you find both!! I'm one of them lucky girls then!! When you get a...
    Mollou Mollou 18-21, F Aug 6

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    I 100% agree with this. Personality lasts forever and looks fade away...
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    My personality type: ISFJ (Introversion, Sensing, Feeling, Judging) ISFJ Strengths Very supportive. ISFJs are always willing to help other people, sharing their knowledge and...
    NerdyGirl78 NerdyGirl78 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    It infuriates me that after spending my precious time getting to know someone they go and delete themselves . I don't mind people reinventing them selves I find it quite amusing...
    LexiMX81 LexiMX81 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 20

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    I want to be more than a piece of meat I want to be looked at as the intelligent person I am and not the beautiful eyes or my gorgeous body or my delicate face or how my hair is...
    Ownership Ownership 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    I believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And if you're true and genuine, I think that's beautiful.
    ireallylikebacon ireallylikebacon 22-25, M 5 Responses Aug 9

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    So...I've been on E.P for a few months now without a profile pic & have had 2 messages & nobody talking to me at all. I decided to do an experiment & put a profile pic up last...
    Lovingmyselffirst Lovingmyselffirst 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    The older i get the worse it gets. I always kept telling myself it would get better with age. Well it hasn't. There was this girl that i always had the biggest crush on since...
    SuperCracker78 SuperCracker78 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    I do. It's cleaner and it looks better. No offense to guys that don't. I just prefer it this way.
    lonesomelady789 lonesomelady789 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 30

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    Lets go through the list, shall we? First of all, my breasts. Their shape is what bothers me. I wish they were perky and...rounder or something. They don't look like breasts to me...
    StokesQuirky StokesQuirky 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    I love those meaningful, intellectual conversations that you don't expect to have. The conversations that start at 12 in the morning and end at 3 in the morning. Where you talk...
    dianeemariee dianeemariee 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    I have the deepest affection for intellectual conversations. The ability to just sit and talk. About love, about life, about anything, about everything. To sit under the moon with...
    hulaiku hulaiku 18-21, M Aug 4

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    Admire is a strong word, like, I like unusual and intellectual people.
    SeanJohnston SeanJohnston 22-25, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I don't feel as intellectual as before, I can't even correctly phrase this sentence, jeez....I need to read....explore....imagine....creat....destroy.
    ItIsMe69 ItIsMe69 18-21, M a week ago

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    I'm always lucky having window seats at work. For the past four years, I always have the best view! You could see sunrises, rainstorms, cityscapes, landscapes, cloud formations, a...
    Jensa16 Jensa16 26-30, F Jul 29

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    It is just how I am programmed. I am known to hurt feelings but one thing that is good is when I pay you a compliment, you know that it is really my true opinion. Don't ask me f...
    Ashadypast Ashadypast 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 30

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    I def belong to this group. I have really become insecure about myself. And to be honest the older I get the worse it is. I have this problem that I don't see what others see in...
    excessbaggage excessbaggage 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 3