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I Pretend I'm Okay

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    When someone asks me how I am I say I'm fine

    and every once in a while I want someone to understand that I'm not ok
    alwaysloverh alwaysloverh 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 28, 2014

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    Fake It 'till You Make It

    time and time again i have felt like i was bleeding inside... and plaster a smile on my face to hide the fact.  and around people i dont really know well, i still do.  it is just so much easier than dealing with their pity.  sympathy i can handle; pity, no. ok...
    SunnyKris SunnyKris 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2007

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    some critical of me going crazy .

    ... I accepted it :)
    gigus gigus 22-25, M Mar 13

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    I'm haunted by the past,

    dissapointed with the present, and afraid of the future. Day in, and day out, I have vivid flashbacks of my youth, of the fun I had, memories I relish, fears I faced, and joy that every new day brought me, but now it's all slipped away. I always used to imagine fatherhood, love...
    Eclipse993 Eclipse993 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 27

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    I feel like I can't talk to my boyfriend,

    because he is really unaffectionate toward me. We fought 2-3 days ago, and since then he has not done anything to reconcile the situation. He had a couple of drinks last night and was his affectionate self, and this morning he's back to his cold exterior. Whenever I try to say...
    pensivepaws pensivepaws 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 18

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    Not Ungrateful

    You can feel me, nervous bundle of awkward energy squirming under the table; I'm talking to people, being charming, and there's your touch, hidden, but potent. You used to touch me to make me calm. You used to find me when I was gone, one foot out the door in a conversation I...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 4, 2012

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    It's the hardest thing to tell someone the

    truth. How much I'm hurting on the inside...so I pretend. It's easier to say that I'm okay than to let anyone see the tears in my smile.
    ImxoxSurviving ImxoxSurviving 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 9, 2014

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    i hate pretending i give a **** about living

    each and everyday. I'm so heartbroken, stressed, confused, anxious about life that i feel myself falling apart. I know where i want to be in life, but my anxitey keeps me behind. I just want to wake up and feel happy again. I miss feeling really okay and this fake persona i pu...
    Tristechica22 Tristechica22 22-25, F Mar 29

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    It's become a problem.

    Everyone in my life thinks I'm this happy and bubbly person. I'm not. I have this other side of me that is dark. Not happy and rainbow. I have a side that sits in my room, waiting for the day to pass by. I have a side of me that lays in my bed, crying and sulking about why my...
    tomaddyandbeyond tomaddyandbeyond 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    I just keep f**king up

    and im sick of it. I hate pretending to be okay when I'm really not, im broke. I'm not the same person I used to be. you've changed me. I've changed. and everybody's been so hurtful these past weeks I've stopped caring and I haven't been able to say what I truly feel towards...
    chlojjs chlojjs 13-15, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Mylo248 Mylo248 16-17, F Mar 3

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    At school I act happy

    and act like I'm okay.... Then I break down at home.
    depressedandhurt101 depressedandhurt101 13-15, F 4 Responses May 1, 2014

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    I can't pretend any more.

    Today I will be checking in to a hospital. im afraid it will turn out to be more of the same medicate and forget philosophy.
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 10

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    SilentScream0327 SilentScream0327 18-21, F Mar 16

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    All my life, I've always forced myself to put

    on a smile so that everyone knew I was this "sweet" person. No one (not even my parents) knew what I was dealing with inside. They still don't. Inside, I'm really confused to the point that I don't even know myself. I don't know what I like, what's my favorite color, or what I...
    WeirdOtaku WeirdOtaku 18-21, F Feb 10

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    I Like to Keep Things Pretty...

    It gets a little messy if I decide to say "I'm not okay, what do you think? I'm so ******* fed up with everything. I don't want to go home today. I feel invisible, but I didn't want to burst your bubble today, b/c you're so happy today." Can you imagine the awkward...
    BowsAndBones BowsAndBones 16-17, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2007

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    Nobody Really Wants to Know ...

    It seems people are so busy, so preoccupied, etc. these days they either don't care to listen or are too worried to share the truth of the matter for fear of not being listened to.  I can't blame those who don't share ... I'm one of them. I realize, after an illness, people...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 24 Responses Sep 15, 2007

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    I pretend I am, but I'm not.

    ... I want to feel okay, I want to look okay, I want to ACT okay. I want things to go back to when they were easier. Back to when I didn't feel like a failure on a daily basis. I just wish I knew how I could fix things. All I know for now is that I'm done pretending...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F Feb 9

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    It is easy to pretend you are ok

    when you are in the company of others. Putting on a mask is like putting on your make up- a staple part of your day that becomes routine for when you are on your way out to start your day. You can fake a smile and a laugh, engage in conversation and put on all the pretences of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I'm so heartbroken. Ex of 3years dumped me

    cause I couldn't make him happy. I miss him so much and I'm trying to move on but I can't. I've never felt this way before about anyone. I have anxiety and depression ever since the breakup. Before the breakup he said he loves me and wants to marry me. I have to pretend like...
    ccarol9073 ccarol9073 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    "Are you okay?" No. The last time I am really

    okay was before I met you. Before I became so needy about you. Before I became too worried about you. I could be okay without you, I just chose not to. Because I know that deep down, I still need the not-okay me being beside you.
    shinebeforesunrise08 shinebeforesunrise08 18-21, F Feb 9

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    Everyday i go to work

    and pretend to be okay. i keep a smile plastered on my face and i pretend to be happy. i know that in order to be professional..this is what i have to do. i have to check my problems at the door. i cant stand people that have problems and they come into the office and take it...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    It's easier and safer

    than saying how u really feel.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    I feel like no one wants me around.

    ...everyone is just using me and I. hurt by it
    Mylo248 Mylo248 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    Quarter life crisis? I'm

    so depressed.. Drinking my 3rd can now.. I don't know why I'm crying.. I've been crying since this afternoon.. I feel like I'm nothing.. Nothing to be proud about.. I feel useless.. No achievement.. I don't know.. i'm over protected.. I feel maybe, insecure.. I don't know...
    margaux04 margaux04 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Because I have to.. I pretend Im okay

    because there is no other choice for me right now.. I pretend Im okay because its easier for me to smile and be with the people.. I pretend Im okay because I dont want to constantly feel the pain.. And most importantly, I pretend Im okay because this is only a part of the entire...
    theoabern0741 theoabern0741 26-30 2 Responses Mar 30

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    Is anyone good with iPhones

    and the ICloud and website data
    kayloulou kayloulou 22-25, F Apr 3

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    I've Been Pretending....

    I put on a smile and tell you everything is ok, but the truth is my heart is breaking. I play along with the game you are playing...the game you are playing with everyone, not just me. I see this happening and wonder what have I done wrong?? It’s not me…it’s you…you need...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    I put a smile on my face

    so I don't have to talk about how I really feel inside.
    justakookiegirl justakookiegirl 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Yeah

    I'm okay (see I can act)
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 2, 2013

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    Excuses. They consumed my life.

    Bruises on cheek? I was hit by a football. Cuts on my arm? The glass cracked and managed to slice a perfect line. A limp when I walked? Someone knocked me over. Sprained wrist? Injury from PE. Excuses. Excuses. Excuses. Excuses.
    betruetoyourself14 betruetoyourself14 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 27

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    gigus gigus 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 13

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    Honestly? i felt so tired.

    Drained. Alone. Pained. Broken. I wanted to scream the pain inside me! i wanted to blame! and curse! those people who did this to me... but i just realized i have no more energy to do this....
    ElizabethSwanTurner ElizabethSwanTurner 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 21

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    I'm Sorry

    Maybe I should write this as a confession instead of a story.   I'll probably end up deleting it anyway ... the truth hurts ... lol.   I've battled depression for most of my life.  The last 10 years at least, I've won that battle more often than not. I...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy 51-55, F 19 Responses Mar 9, 2010

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    No one wants to hear

    if you're not okay...
    Jennyboii Jennyboii 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 28, 2014

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    irreelevance irreelevance 16-17, F Mar 11

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    Well Usually I Do!

    Except I've gotten to the point I know I'm about as far from OK as it's possible to be and still manage to survive, don't get me wrong I'm not suicidal or anything like that. I just know I can't continue the way I am, I'm desperately trying to change the things that are wrong in...
    Illiteratetroll Illiteratetroll 46-50 8 Responses Jun 15, 2012

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    Myself and sleep In a love story.

    ..Destroys it the bell every morning
    gigus gigus 22-25, M Mar 16

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    I went to therapy a few days ago

    and she said that you can't hold in your feelings because one day they will come up again. You have to deal with them. I hate going to therapy because after I get so emotional. Like I've been crying all day. But I realize that I need therapy. But the problem is I feel like I can...
    Robin1226 Robin1226 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 14

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    faking a smile everyday.

    it sucks so bad and I don't think anyone understand how I'm actually feeling inside
    dizzydreamerrr dizzydreamerrr 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 24, 2014

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    Hi, How Are You? Fine Thanks, and You?

    Isn't it funny how a person can have so many acquaintances and be surrounded by people but still experience such profound disconnection? We pass each other on the street and say a quick reflexive Hi How are you? Fine, thanks, and you? I'm fine. See you later. It kinda saps the...
    CharlieAfrica CharlieAfrica 22-25, F 20 Responses Jun 13, 2009

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    piercethevicx piercethevicx 16-17, F 21 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    I've learnt though that it's not the best thing

    to do. Not only is it exhausting but it can also hurt the people around you. About a month ago something happened that has just left me feeling shattered. I like to keep certain thing private and honestly just didn't want to talk about. So I've been trying very hard to put on a...
    Viviq66 Viviq66 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    KariOHou KariOHou 51-55, F 4 Responses Jun 12, 2014

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    I always pretend i'm okay

    even when i'm ready to just ball my eyes out. If someone asks me about my problems it just makes me so much more upset. So i always pretend to be okay....
    Alisonsmith2014 Alisonsmith2014 18-21, F 8 Responses Jan 16, 2014

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    I'm sick of people draining me.

    ....they fight over my attention because being with me makes them happy. What do I get out of thus deal NOTHING. all you talk about is yourself. I'm cutting it off. if where friend it's going to be a two way street. I'm not here just to make you feel good. WHO KNOW WHAT I FEEL...
    evesimone74 evesimone74 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 3

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