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I Pretend I'm Okay

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    I haven't used this profile in over a year

    and that has probably been a year too long. I came to this site years ago because I couldn't talk to my family and burden them with my problems. In the past year that I've been away I've tried other methods for dealing with problems and depression however I never really came to...
    IWishIUnderstood IWishIUnderstood 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 15

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    Slowly I am losing everyone I care about.

    I am in a dark place and feel really alone for the first time in my life. I have been a widow for two years and I think things are getting worse. I have no one I am comfortable talking to about it. I guess death cooties are real and I just want my best friend back. He knew me...
    NotmyCircusNotmymonkeys NotmyCircusNotmymonkeys 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 7

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    Hi, How Are You? Fine Thanks, and You?

    Isn't it funny how a person can have so many acquaintances and be surrounded by people but still experience such profound disconnection? We pass each other on the street and say a quick reflexive Hi How are you? Fine, thanks, and you? I'm fine. See you later. It kinda saps the...
    CharlieAfrica CharlieAfrica 22-25, F 20 Responses Jun 13, 2009

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    My boyfriend got rid of Facebook coz I was

    asking him loads of qestions about it and makin us argue he said it not worth argueing over so he go rid of it but he's not telling people real reason why he got rid of it
    kayloulou kayloulou 22-25, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I always pretend i'm okay

    even when i'm ready to just ball my eyes out. If someone asks me about my problems it just makes me so much more upset. So i always pretend to be okay....
    Alisonsmith2014 Alisonsmith2014 18-21, F 9 Responses Jan 16

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    And I'll continue to do so,

    because the moment I think about reaching out someone crushes me before I get the chance. Sometimes I hate being a "strong" person emotionally, because I'm that one that will never tell you when I'm thinking about hurting myself. I survived once and got help before I did...
    vault101 vault101 26-30, F 2 Responses May 31

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    I just can't be happy

    for too long can I? Just as I thought I was getting back on track, being more happy more often something always has to ruin it. I just wish I wasn't me
    Carrrie Carrrie 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 9

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    I Like to Keep Things Pretty...

    It gets a little messy if I decide to say "I'm not okay, what do you think? I'm so ******* fed up with everything. I don't want to go home today. I feel invisible, but I didn't want to burst your bubble today, b/c you're so happy today." Can you imagine the awkward...
    BowsAndBones BowsAndBones 16-18, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2007

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    Well Usually I Do!

    Except I've gotten to the point I know I'm about as far from OK as it's possible to be and still manage to survive, don't get me wrong I'm not suicidal or anything like that. I just know I can't continue the way I am, I'm desperately trying to change the things that are wrong in...
    Illiteratetroll Illiteratetroll 46-50 9 Responses Jun 15, 2012

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    There's a lot of crap going on at the moment

    as my parents are divorcing and for my mum it can't go fast enough. Problems is she swings into these depressive phases and threatens to kill herself! I'm having to support her whilst feeling pretty crappy myself :( to be fair it sucks but I can't stop myself from telling...
    LunaWolff LunaWolff 18-21, F 19 hrs ago

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    I Think I'm Ok?

    To tell the truth I don't really know anymore. I'm not sure if I'm just really good at suppressing things right now or if I'm completely numb. I go through my motions and I have a lot of "nothing days." "Nothing Days" are exactly how they sound. You really don't do much and there...
    andeesha andeesha 22-25, F Oct 31, 2013

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    I just wish things we're how they used to be.

    faking a smile gets old but I can't stop because I don't want people to worry
    madison1998 madison1998 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    What does this mean When someone says oo my

    van broke down and then someone goes get ya finger out then and they go my finger will be somewere else in a min
    kayloulou kayloulou 22-25, F 17 hrs ago

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    They say that distanced relationships get

    easier over time and I know I should be feeling better. Sorry people but I don't. Of course, I'm not allowed to let you know that, am I?
    Heartbeatangel Heartbeatangel 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 27

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    Would anyone else be botherd by this my

    boyfriend was with his ex for 4 years and had a flat with each other but he told me the last year he did not like her felt like he had stay with her coz of the flat but in the end she told him she never felt the same anymore and ened it but he told me he was happy about it just...
    kayloulou kayloulou 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 4

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    Broken Inside

    We all pretend to be okay...wether its at the beside of a dying loved one or in the middle of a test with 20 million problems on your mind and wishing you could just let go and burst into tears. i've been through both of these and the 1st one we do because of compassion..we don...
    loobiesa loobiesa 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 13, 2007

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    I've Been Pretending....

    I put on a smile and tell you everything is ok, but the truth is my heart is breaking. I play along with the game you are playing...the game you are playing with everyone, not just me. I see this happening and wonder what have I done wrong?? It’s not me…it’s you…you need...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    Fake It 'till You Make It

    time and time again i have felt like i was bleeding inside... and plaster a smile on my face to hide the fact.  and around people i dont really know well, i still do.  it is just so much easier than dealing with their pity.  sympathy i can handle; pity, no. ok...
    SunnyKris SunnyKris 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2007

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    It's the hardest thing to tell someone the

    truth. How much I'm hurting on the inside...so I pretend. It's easier to say that I'm okay than to let anyone see the tears in my smile.
    ImxoxSurviving ImxoxSurviving 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 9

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    Everyone on here I talk to shares the same

    addictions and dealing with the same problems I am and we message and and chat and then get to know each other and then they stop replying and they say they need a friend and I say i will always be there for them and they do too but then they don't ever reply again like why do...
    thatone6 thatone6 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 4

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    I pretend I'm okay but in reality I wish I

    could fix what's broken but I know if I do that I will tear my house apart, my children, my home, everything. Why is it so hard to express how you feel to someone that you been with, what seems like your whole life? That's a question I can't answer but I've asked myself time and...
    devilseye1996 devilseye1996 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    I'm quite new to this site,

    but I feel like I need this. I feel like I need to share my story, and get all of this off of my chest. I'm not use to doing this though, I never really open up to anyone. I bottle my emotions and stay in my shell. When I was 12 years old, I started cuting myself..I'm ashamed of...
    laurenkouhi laurenkouhi 13-15, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    On the outside I look all happy

    and on the inside I'm crying/hurting!
    abbyboo1234 abbyboo1234 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 15

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    No one wants to hear

    if you're not okay...
    Jennyboii Jennyboii 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 28

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    I think today is the first day in a while

    that I haven't pretended that I'm okay. I actually feel pretty good today. And when suffering from severe depression it actually feels good to have a real smile on my face for once instead of a fake one.
    emotionsrunwild emotionsrunwild 18-21, F 5 Responses May 13

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    Isn't it funny ? When you purposely hurt

    someone by saying mean things and acting so cold because you want them to go away but they keep coming back. And you did it again because you know you're going to hurt them more if you stay. The memories , then , hits you and you try to deny all your resentment because you...
    chanceux chanceux 16-17 1 Response Jul 31

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    heyitsabike heyitsabike 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    Hey, my name is Kiana I wanted to write about

    this topic cause I know what it is like to not be okay... I always pretended to be okay when really all I wanted to do is die... But since I had my daughter I've really been happy. My daughter gave me a reason to live. She needs me. I don't fake a smile anymore my smiles are...
    Pandalover7 Pandalover7 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 1

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    When someone asks me how I am I say I'm fine

    and every once in a while I want someone to understand that I'm not ok
    alwaysloverh alwaysloverh 16-17, F 5 Responses Feb 28

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    Would anyone be upset

    if they seen they boyftiend history on fb and he had been looking up girls he knows but he don't have them on Facebook ..?? I got really upset and he go rid of Facebook so I said to him go bk on it and I wqnr go thou them again and he keep sayin no no coz it only goin make you...
    kayloulou kayloulou 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I pretend I'm okay for the sake of my family

    and very close friends. I would hate them all to see how I really feel and how much it hurts inside. How hard it is for me to carry on living. I would never ever let them see this side to me because I care about them all to much. So to save them from all the heartache and hurt...
    sademptynothing sademptynothing 13-15, F 1 Response May 31

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    I just joined..I'm recently going through a

    breakup a few weeks ago I lived with my ex, I received a text message from him..he was out in the field for a couple weeks, he'd call me seemed ok then a text message came in, told me he thinks we shouldn't be together anymore and to get all my stuff out by the weekend so I did...
    Denise13190 Denise13190 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 23

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    Yeah

    I'm okay (see I can act)
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 2, 2013

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    I try to stay positive

    for other people, to make them feel like everything is okay. But as I do this, I pretend that everything is okay, and I pretend I'm happy when I'm not.
    ificutmyhairhawaiiwillsink ificutmyhairhawaiiwillsink 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 5

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    At 2 am last night I still couldn't sleep.

    It was thundering outside. I was staring at the ceiling, listening to the songs we'd sent each other, tears streaming down my face, remembering, wondering what the hell happened.
    ForBetterOrForWorse ForBetterOrForWorse 16-17, F Aug 1

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    I'm Sorry

    Maybe I should write this as a confession instead of a story.   I'll probably end up deleting it anyway ... the truth hurts ... lol.   I've battled depression for most of my life.  The last 10 years at least, I've won that battle more often than not. I...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy 51-55, F 19 Responses Mar 9, 2010

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    It's become a problem.

    Everyone in my life thinks I'm this happy and bubbly person. I'm not. I have this other side of me that is dark. Not happy and rainbow. I have a side that sits in my room, waiting for the day to pass by. I have a side of me that lays in my bed, crying and sulking about why my...
    tomaddyandbeyond tomaddyandbeyond 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    People ask if I'm ok.

    I respond ya I'm fine. But HELLO! I'm dieing inside. Fine NEVER means fine
    grace206013 grace206013 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 7

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    Not Ungrateful

    You can feel me, nervous bundle of awkward energy squirming under the table; I'm talking to people, being charming, and there's your touch, hidden, but potent. You used to touch me to make me calm. You used to find me when I was gone, one foot out the door in a conversation I...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 4, 2012

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    At school I act happy

    and act like I'm okay.... Then I break down at home.
    depressedandhurt101 depressedandhurt101 13-15, F 4 Responses May 1

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    KaliKween KaliKween 16-17, F a week ago

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    Sometimes you just need to stay positive,

    not only for your own sanity, but for those around you as well. Giving off positive vibes has the potential to give those you care about or come into contact with the strength to cope with whatever problems they may be dealing with, as well as reinforcing your own mental...
    dodongo55 dodongo55 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 5

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    Everyday my mom and her bf treat me like crap

    and I try to ignore it but sometimes its to much>
    TheMistake TheMistake 16-17, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Nobody Really Wants to Know ...

    It seems people are so busy, so preoccupied, etc. these days they either don't care to listen or are too worried to share the truth of the matter for fear of not being listened to.  I can't blame those who don't share ... I'm one of them. I realize, after an illness, people...
    AbbyNormal AbbyNormal 31-35, F 24 Responses Sep 15, 2007

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    KariOHou KariOHou 51-55, F 4 Responses Jun 12

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    HidingTheScars HidingTheScars 13-15, F 3 Responses May 2

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    No Self-worth & Feeling Unwanted

    I wouldn't call this a story or anything of that nature, if that makes any secne to anyone. But I can be honest that I've alway felt that people never actually saw me when they looked at me. I've alway felt that I could never win when it came to having a good friendships and...
    DarkAngel0309 DarkAngel0309 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    I'm Really

    really, not okay. :(no I don't want to make my story longer thanks for asking. ******* EP **** thing
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo 31-35, M 4 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    Sick Of Pretending..

    Im sick and tired of pretending that telling you goodbye, for the second time!! Was the best thing for the both of us. But why than do i replay every little conversation we ever had, through text mostly, trying to find hidden meanings behind the words you said. Just thinking and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Jul 14, 2012

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    I am pre-transition. I'm pre-everything

    actually. I've known that I wanted to be male my whole life, but I only realized that I can't go on as a female just a few months ago. I haven't told anyone. I have great friends, family and an amazing girlfriend in my life that I know would support me. I just can't bring myself...
    Allyis08 Allyis08 22-25 1 Response Jun 2

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    When u say I thought I was in love with her does

    that mean I did love her but not like u
    kayloulou kayloulou 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 6

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    Should it matter aboit my bf past

    and how many girls he been with
    kayloulou kayloulou 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    I don't really feel i can tell people anything

    when I'm annoyed. I just keep it to myself and stay quiet.
    samdavis3 samdavis3 16-17, M Jul 3

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