I Pretend I'm Someone Else Forum & Chat Board | Pretending on social networks

I am very scared right now, as I just killed off the person I was pretending to be online.



I have gotten threatening emails and phone calls saying that people are coming to get me and I just don't know what to do.



I know this behaviour is wrong and I'm not sure if what I did by killing the alter ego off was good or not.  Probably not. 



Can I be in trouble with the law for doing this? 

 

i dont think you can be in trouble with the law for doing it unless you did some kind of illegal act as this alter ego person... (i.e. soliciting minors or money scamming)
but it worries me that you're getting threatening calls...

 

I had to "kill" my alter too.  She was pretty and fun and everyone loved her so much (even me) but she was taking control so I had to end it.   I miss being her so much.  And miss all the people I used to talk to.  It feels like an addiction and I quit cold turkey.   I've been in therapy for a while and I've learned the reasons I did it.   I know it's not healthy for me but I still want it so bad.   I miss her made up life and all the love people had for her.  So, I thought I'd share this with you.  You are not alone.  You should watch the movie Catfish.   It's all about people like us.
Love,
"April"  <3

 

I haven't killed my alter ego off yet. i'm too scared of what will happen to the people i love and how betrayed they'd feel :( i just got so caught up in it idk what else to do i'd rather make him die than tell the truth about all this.

I watched the movie cat fish but it just made my throat hurt that i'm actually like that person thats doing those awful things :( wish i'd never watched it now

 

April, you are doing the correct thing in seeking therapy.  This lifestyle of make believe is not healthy, nor is it fair to those you are fooling. I wish you luck in your recovery.

Lola, the "imposter" of the documentary "Catfish" received sympathy, and fame and is now selling her art as "herself'.  She too has serious issues that need to be dealt with.

Creating "alters" is an escape, but it is like jumping from the frying pan into the fire...the ending has no chance of being pleasant.

Often, your "pretending" to serve your own purposes (disassociation, boredom, ego-enhancement, or whatever) ends up adversely damaging the person or persons you have played.  They often beared their true souls to you, trusted you and in many of these twisted relationships, developed a true love for you.  The betrayal, sense of idiocy, shame, feeling of violation can only be compared to an emotional rape.

I hope you eventually see the consequences of your actions and seek help in resolving the motivating factors that allow you to engage in such behaviour.

 

I've been subject to this addiction for six years now and I've only just decided to google it because I was in complete denial. I had no idea that so many people did the same thing as me!

 

I dont think anyone has the right to judge someone for pretending to be someone else online. Nobody has the control to make a person hang on for years waiting for them. You may think you do but we all have choices. If someone engages in a relationship online they take their chances, I met a man online and was totally myself. I skyped with him and after 2 months went to meet him. I was disgusted and could not believe what he was truly like. I also saw Catfish and my heart pained for her...her loneliness was extremely deep, her married life and sick children...she needed to escape. I do not condone this behaviour nor do I judge anyone. Loneliness and physical pain and loss are like cancers in the heart. I dont think these relationships can end well because the person pretending is the person who will get hurt the most. That is my personal opinion. mandy

 

Hmm I can't judge either one of you because I have this sick obsession with pretending to be this happy guy online when in reality I'm not even happy at all, I am British but I pretend to be American well I thought of it but I have a dialect and that would've contradicted my whole American guy facade. I'm really depressed and refuse to post any of my actual pictures online so I pretend to be the guy in the pictures I have posted. I'm NOT an ugly guy at all just extremely depressed with self-esteem problems and I don't really trust easily and I lack communication skills in real life, I'm the total opposite of who I really am. However I plan to come clean to the two girls and tell them that wasn't me in the pictures and that I don't post my pictures because I'm depressed and am not satisfied with myself and that I'm really sorry for making them think that I am the guy in the pictures I've actually deleted just about all of his pictures and am not going to pretend I'm him because I never will be that guy by the way the guy in the pictures name's Danny and he's from Beverly Hills,CA. i befriended him just to get his pictures he's actually depressed himself and playing on his emotions only makes me feel even bad but I can't change that but I can stop taking his pictures and delete him from my friend's on facebook. AND I am not going to be him anymore I'm tired of pretending it makes me even more depressed. My mood: extremely depressed