I Push People Away In Fear of Getting Hurt

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 296 People

    Hi, My Name Is ..... And I'm A Nit Picker

    It all started probably when I was old enough to know what I would want in a guy. Do I want him to have nice hair? Does he have to have sparkly blue eyes? Does have have to be able to recite Shakespearean poetry to swoon me off my feet before I would even kiss him? Well...
    trinityanne trinityanne
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 15, 2013

    The story of my life.

    I push people away to protect myself ..it may seem selfish but getting hurt has taught me a lot of lessons . Now , you would think those lessons would have opened my eyes to who will hurt me and who wouldn't...but its not that simple . My first thought of a person is that their...
    EricTheHooper EricTheHooper
    18-21, M
    1 Response Sep 23, 2014

    Accusations Hurt

    I keep making crazy accusations about my boyfriend. I think I am pushing him away because I am afraid of losing him. I dont how to stop doing this. I dont want to hurt him anymore. Any advice?
    giagirl79 giagirl79
    26-30, F
    May 28, 2010


    the power of eating salad,, i lost 10lbs,,and i feel great,,i dropped from a size 6 to a size 4,,cant help to wonder if i can fit into a 2,,,lol.......futureĀ  dreams
    starchild182 starchild182
    31-35, M
    Dec 27, 2011

    A Long Road

    I have a habit of not allowing women to get to close to my heart after going thru a marriage where she was unfaithful(married 15 yrs).When I feel that someone is getting to close I ended the relationship so that I wouldn't get hurt that way again. Trust is something that I have...
    Lifeiscalling Lifeiscalling
    51-55, M
    Jan 25, 2012

    I'm pretty sure I don't have a heart anymore

    because of how many times it gets broken.....
    Queennnnnnn Queennnnnnn
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 2, 2014

    The only problem with this,

    is when I end up hurting myself by pushing someone away who I really care about. I don't want to get hurt, but I also don't want to keep pushing people away in the hopes that they'll keep me in their life & not hurt me. There's one specific person in my life that I am terrified...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 21, 2015

    I Put Up Walls And Complain About Life

    I do this so that people cannot come in and hurt me. I trust no one
    MarigoldPhoenix MarigoldPhoenix
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jul 25, 2012

    Well after being cheated on

    and usually being ignored by most guys .. My fear is alway that they have bad intentions if someone like me because I'm not the typical "twink" skinny boy .. I just don't want to be another number or booty call ... I don't get any good morning texts .. I always have to start...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 19, 2016

    Fear Of Being Abused And Taken Down Again

    I have learnt to repel some people... I will push people away when I sense they are not being honest with me... I will push people away when I am either not well myself or when I am hurting badly... most of the time I just remove myself away from people to avoid being assaulted...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals
    36-40, F
    Jul 21, 2011

    Pushing My Boyfriend Away With Unrealistic Problems!

    I for some reason cant trust my boyfriend,when i know hes a loving man,and cares about me,but for some reason I believe untrue things about him, and obsessively think about these untrue things. Because I try to find solutions to unrealistic problems with him. I don't want to lose...
    megan00 megan00
    2 Responses Oct 9, 2010

    I've been hurt and screwed over by too many

    people and now if I even am able to get close to someone I tend to push them away after I start to get to close to them.
    trayomis trayomis
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 4, 2014

    I'm positive that even

    after this year is over, I will continue my life alone. Why would I ever risk being destroyed again? Doesn't seem at all healthy to put myself in a position to get hurt.
    dissolution dissolution
    26-30, F
    Feb 17, 2015

    I usually keep people at a distance

    and when I notice they're getting closer and starting to break down the wall I put up I start pushing them away. I push them away because just once I want someone to push back and tell me they're not going anywhere. That never happens though and I wind up alone again. I don't...
    cklein245 cklein245
    26-30, F
    Jan 25, 2015

    someone has to look out

    for me. if trying to push people away will stop me from getting hurt then that's what has to be done.
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    Dec 3, 2014

    But I never really grasp the concept

    that I'm hurting them. It's a screwed up world, my friends.
    ImagineA ImagineA
    Jun 2, 2015

    I Pushed Him Away, But His Pain Is My Pain.

    I find that it's easier to stay away from situations that will bring about so many emotions in me. I'm too scared to love because I know I will get hurt in the end. But I feel terrible now: Someone really cared for me. So much that he said I did not have to do anything and that...
    bebravechihiro bebravechihiro
    18-21, F
    Oct 25, 2009

    All the time. I have a boyfriend

    and I'm surprised I haven't pushed him away. And I never want to. I love him so much I just hope it latest forever like he promised..
    18corbri 18corbri
    18-21, F
    Jul 22, 2014
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