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I Push People Away When I Am Hurt

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed..
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Apr 2, 2011

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    And I Feel Even Worse

    When someone hurts me,i can't tell that person how i feel,and very soon i just stop talking to her/him.i want to get an apology without saying what hurt me.but i rarely get one,because nobody can read my  mind,so..i end up fighting with people i am close to (they are the...
    wilddarksick wilddarksick 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed.. but if I love them most of them die or end up hating me and rejecting me anyway...  its painful. so I learnt to push them away when I was young as a means to protect...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2011

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    Unintentional

    I have a Big tendency to do so. I Feel the need to just be isolated when I get hurt. It's hard to open up When You are hurt. And I hate to be pressured so when I get hurt I just am a pissy person altogether. No talking to me or comforting me. Wait and allow me to Come to you I...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    I'm Doing It Now As I Don't Know What Else To Think...

    Like I have done so much for my co worker but now her child is all grown up, I feel like she just isn't bothered by me anymore. It hurts me that she sends pictures of him and updates on his life to other co workers but not me-the one who has looked after him for years and who...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F Jun 30, 2011

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    I Dont Want To But I Have To

    whenever i am hurting i push every person i love away. i hurt them because i am afraid they will hurt me. they want to help but i just cant seem to break down my wall and let people in. i scream and tell them to go away and leave me alone whist a part of me wants them to hold me...
    thisaccountisgone thisaccountisgone 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2012

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    Very Guilty of This

    it doesnt make sense to me at all. When i am hurting i shut everyone out and kind of put myself in a coccoon. Its not their fault but when im hurt i can not get rid of people fast enough, i will pick fights and ignore them because i can not cope with their presense i am trying...
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M Sep 12, 2008

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    I Push People Away..even When I Dont Want Too

    This is something that has plaqued me awhile now. Whenever I get hurt, I can't seem to get the words out without struggling so I shut down. It is a bad habit of mine but and I try hard not to do it. I don't do this to everyone I know, but I do it to the people I love and am...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    I just want to be alone at

    that time and sometimes I do it without noticing.
    DangerouslyMe DangerouslyMe 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 19

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    When I feel I'm getting to close to someone

    or someone is getting to close I do everything to shut down and push away sometimes to see if they'll stay and what not ... Just tired of hurting
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 1 Response May 2

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    Hurt people hurt. So

    when im feeling like that. I do. "Push, kick", you name it l.(Not literary off course) Its wierd but thats when I need people more but dont want to feel vulnerable to be hurt again. So ironic! Twisted Irony.. Still here, still breathing.. Still going forward. God, what do you...
    Quanitta Quanitta 26-30, F Apr 19

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    I Swear, Im Doing It Right Now.

    I know i am, and i dont care. The less people that care the better. All i have to offer is disapointment. And thats all i recieve. I cant talk to anyone of my friends right now, the few i have. I get angry at Andy for telling me that im better than i think i am. I yell at him...
    Takemewithyou Takemewithyou 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    Always Have

    I don't know why, but I've always pushed people away when I need them the most. I guess I just figure I should be able to handle things on my own and don't want to bother anyone else iwth my petty problems. I've been doing it for as long as I can remember.
    doglover1984 doglover1984 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    Lick My Wounds

    There are a few animals I've been compared to, or compared myself to. One of them is a dog. When I'm hurt, I bite. Of course, I'll try to growl first.
    pratyekayan pratyekayan 18-21, M Sep 21, 2010

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    I Do....

    I push people away when I am hurt. Its a bad habit of mine. Its a way I cope with things that are going on in my life. I push people away. Sometimes I wish someone would push back, stop me from trying to push them away.I push people away....Its something I have done all my life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    Always

    I always push people away when I am hurt, most of the time, I do it without meaning to, I guess it just happens. I am Just so scared to let anyone in, and so scared of getting hurt again, that I just lock my emotions up, and don't show them, And I don't let anyone else see them...
    DyinToBeLoved DyinToBeLoved 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    I Do

    I always have. I'm the type of person who has to sort things out for myself. Nobody else can do it as I know me better than everyone else. I will ask for help if I really do need it, that however is really rare. When I'm hurt all I want is space to sort through what I'm going...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 3, 2012

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    Sometimes it's even a test,

    to see if they will stay..
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23 13-15, F 1 Response May 2

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    I Push And Push And Push

     When I go through something troubling, I push all those I love away.  I think I got myself into this mess, I need to be the one to get myself out of it.  I don't do it intentionally, I just don't want to burden them with my problems ever.  I want to be that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    I push people away because I don't wanna be the one that ends up hurt
    kitty465 kitty465 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 17

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    I do it all the time and I regret it after, people say I'm a real nice girl but I push them away when people get too close, I've been broken and let down by my father and friends...
    Cloclo1234 Cloclo1234 13-15, F Jul 17

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    I push people away, guys especially. They did nothing wrong but I hate getting attached. Once they start liking me, I get scared and annoyed. Ill feel pressured and I hate it. And...
    blcvk blcvk 16-17, F Jul 12

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    I believe that I am poisionious as I push away everybody that I care about. I pushed Nico away with what I did to my ex-boyfriend Julian. And today when he tried to reach out to me...
    ChristiBoo2014 ChristiBoo2014 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    Time and time again I have pushed people for myriads of reasons and regretted it. A guy friend wanted to date me..he had been there for me when I was down in the dumps I pushed him...
    Anthromorphic Anthromorphic 22-25, F Jul 9

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    Whenever anyone gets too close to me I find ways to push them away. I build a wall around myself to keep them from getting closer and I distance myself from them in an attempt to...
    curiousgirl1214 curiousgirl1214 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 29

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    All the time. I have a boyfriend and I'm surprised I haven't pushed him away. And I never want to. I love him so much I just hope it latest forever like he promised..
    18corbri 18corbri 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    Usually when I get too close to people I tend to push them away.
    sisi19 sisi19 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    So earlier today I was volunteering at this place (I don't want to be real specific) and there was this guy there also helping out. He was nice and kept making little jokes and...
    ZeroDigits ZeroDigits 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I don't know why. I just do. I don't have many friends. And when people try to get close. I push them away for no reason.
    haileyknight11 haileyknight11 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    I try to push everyone away. The ones who remain are the strong ones who survived all of my storms and stuck around to when I became my best after the storm calmed. It takes...
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    I always think "what if"? What if I never pushed that person away? It only takes one person to betray you and you completely change, you learn not to trust and keep your guard up...
    SheAlwaysBelieved SheAlwaysBelieved 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    He pulled the covers over her naked, sleeping body. She seemed at peace with herself he thought as he brushed the hair from her face. In the corner a candle flickered, sending...
    00afreshstartUK 00afreshstartUK 51-55, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have been hurt by the people closest to me in the past, which makes it very hard for me to trust. I haven't let anyone get close to me in years. Probably why I'm here!
    Li1981 Li1981 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 10

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    I'm really bad with feelings. My parents raised me to put their feelings first, and honestly to survive I had to convince myself I wasn't angry at them or they didn't hurt me. And...
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    Yep. I just broke up with my Girlfriend cause I Refuse to let myself get hurt, but it still hurts like hell.
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23 13-15, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I push my boyfriend away at pretty much every opportunity. I love him. I don't know why I'm mean to him and I don't want to continue. I think he should break up with me but I don't...
    yellowbelly23 yellowbelly23 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 16

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    Ive pushed just about all of my friends out of my life and idk why:/
    JoeGriffin67 JoeGriffin67 13-15, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    Leave them before they leave me. People always f*cking leave
    Claire1111 Claire1111 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 17

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    I've learned the hard way not to trust anyone but God, Jesus and my angel.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    I wish I had a genuine friend. It's been such a long time since I've felt a true connection with someone. Makes me feel isolated...
    Planetoi Planetoi 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I think I'm a burden and a pest so if they stop contacting me I assumed I'm just that and cut contacting them. Or sometimes I think it's best I leave because really they hate my...
    GrumpyMe GrumpyMe 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    It's just, it's easier to keep to myself then trust someone and them betraying me.
    gumdropss gumdropss 13-15, F Jul 19

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    I feel bad always telling her that I can't hang out, and I really have no idea why I keep doing it.
    alittlelame alittlelame 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I have this really nice friend on Xbox live and my internet was being stupid lately. I got it fixed and now I just make it so I appear offline! Why do I go this. Bloody hell
    noah4314 noah4314 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    I'm just scared to be left alone by someone so I take care of this myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I dont know why I do it , especially if I love the person .. i just do so
    ClassicLady ClassicLady 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    This is about the 5th time this has happened. I talk to a girl for a couple weeks, get to know her, we start to like each other. Then it is like a switch goes off in my brain. I...
    System113 System113 18-21, M Jul 3

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    You know how when my heart was broken and didn't want to pick up the pieces? Well soon I picked them up, but the hurt and pain was still present. I was just a shell of a man. No...
    LuckyGuy001 LuckyGuy001 13-15, M Jul 13

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    I want things like everyone else but I find that I don't ask for them. I find most interactions between me and anyone else to be stagnant or uneventful. I really don't think I have...
    STSFK STSFK 18-21, M Jul 20

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