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I Push People Away When I Am Hurt

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    I always push people away when I am hurt, most of the time, I do it without meaning to, I guess it just happens. I am Just so scared to let anyone in, and so scared of getting hurt again, that I just lock my emotions up, and don't show them, And I don't let anyone else see them...
    DyinToBeLoved DyinToBeLoved 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    I Do

    I always have. I'm the type of person who has to sort things out for myself. Nobody else can do it as I know me better than everyone else. I will ask for help if I really do need it, that however is really rare. When I'm hurt all I want is space to sort through what I'm going...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 3, 2012

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    I'm Doing It Now As I Don't Know What Else To Think...

    Like I have done so much for my co worker but now her child is all grown up, I feel like she just isn't bothered by me anymore. It hurts me that she sends pictures of him and updates on his life to other co workers but not me-the one who has looked after him for years and who...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F Jun 30, 2011

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    Always Have

    I don't know why, but I've always pushed people away when I need them the most. I guess I just figure I should be able to handle things on my own and don't want to bother anyone else iwth my petty problems. I've been doing it for as long as I can remember.
    doglover1984 doglover1984 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    I Push And Push And Push

     When I go through something troubling, I push all those I love away.  I think I got myself into this mess, I need to be the one to get myself out of it.  I don't do it intentionally, I just don't want to burden them with my problems ever.  I want to be that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    It's almost as though I feel I'm not deserving

    of their help. It's just so much easier to push people away and say it's fine because why should people spend their time helping me when they should be making themselves happy, I feel like when I show that I'm upset around people it brings them down, I don't want to be that...
    Nethaly Nethaly 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2014

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    I Do....

    I push people away when I am hurt. Its a bad habit of mine. Its a way I cope with things that are going on in my life. I push people away. Sometimes I wish someone would push back, stop me from trying to push them away.I push people away....Its something I have done all my life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    Sometimes it's even a test,

    to see if they will stay..
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23 13-15, F 1 Response May 2, 2014

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    I Push People Away..even When I Dont Want Too

    This is something that has plaqued me awhile now. Whenever I get hurt, I can't seem to get the words out without struggling so I shut down. It is a bad habit of mine but and I try hard not to do it. I don't do this to everyone I know, but I do it to the people I love and am...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    Unintentional

    I have a Big tendency to do so. I Feel the need to just be isolated when I get hurt. It's hard to open up When You are hurt. And I hate to be pressured so when I get hurt I just am a pissy person altogether. No talking to me or comforting me. Wait and allow me to Come to you I...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    I Dont Want To But I Have To

    whenever i am hurting i push every person i love away. i hurt them because i am afraid they will hurt me. they want to help but i just cant seem to break down my wall and let people in. i scream and tell them to go away and leave me alone whist a part of me wants them to hold me...
    thisaccountisgone thisaccountisgone 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2012

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    Lick My Wounds

    There are a few animals I've been compared to, or compared myself to. One of them is a dog. When I'm hurt, I bite. Of course, I'll try to growl first.
    pratyekayan pratyekayan 18-21, M Sep 21, 2010

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    I Swear, Im Doing It Right Now.

    I know i am, and i dont care. The less people that care the better. All i have to offer is disapointment. And thats all i recieve. I cant talk to anyone of my friends right now, the few i have. I get angry at Andy for telling me that im better than i think i am. I yell at him...
    Takemewithyou Takemewithyou 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    When I feel I'm getting to close to someone

    or someone is getting to close I do everything to shut down and push away sometimes to see if they'll stay and what not ... Just tired of hurting
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 1 Response May 2, 2014

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    Very Guilty of This

    it doesnt make sense to me at all. When i am hurting i shut everyone out and kind of put myself in a coccoon. Its not their fault but when im hurt i can not get rid of people fast enough, i will pick fights and ignore them because i can not cope with their presense i am trying...
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M Sep 12, 2008

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed..
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Apr 2, 2011

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed.. but if I love them most of them die or end up hating me and rejecting me anyway...  its painful. so I learnt to push them away when I was young as a means to protect...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2011

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    And I Feel Even Worse

    When someone hurts me,i can't tell that person how i feel,and very soon i just stop talking to her/him.i want to get an apology without saying what hurt me.but i rarely get one,because nobody can read my  mind,so..i end up fighting with people i am close to (they are the...
    wilddarksick wilddarksick 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    Is there anyone else out there like me? I've been hurt so many times by people who are supposed to love me (my parents, siblings, and husband especially) that finally after so long...
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    I want you to know its the right thing Deep within my hearted souled passions a the desire The desire to let you know that it IS NOT OKAY Not okay to let me die Because your tongue...
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    I don't let myself fully be someone's. I keeped Part of me and lost the most precious woman I have ever known. I could be me except I had to always be clear and know what I meant...
    bigheartsmallworld bigheartsmallworld 36-40, M 4 days ago

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    Now it's just constant lying.... why?? Because no one gives a fck you just spend this time trying to get someone to listen but they don't care.... I've tried so many times to talk...
    GrandmamaTemptationCx GrandmamaTemptationCx 70+, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I push people away because I don't kno how to open up. I've hurt alot and don't wanna be hurt again. I don't trust easily and I like to stay to myself. I feel like no one will ever...
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    This is very true for me. Do you agree?
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    I always do this. I'll be on my bed, rubbing my bloated belly and then I'll start feeling some pain. I breathe through it and grit my teeth, until it gets so bad that I need to...
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    I am that person that everyone posts about getting hurt by. I eat peoples souls. I am the one who can just play and walk away. When I say no attachment, no strings, no...
    wanderlander wanderlander 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 19

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    I just don't want to get hurt again, I just want a friend that is honest, I don't mind u telling me the truth, although I may be angry or upset or even gone mad, but the truth is...
    AliceTpp AliceTpp 16-17, F Aug 19

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    Like family. Me cant do much but focus on free and hope pals are better than family.
    Converted Converted 46-50, M Aug 18

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    And now you are just another brick in the wall.
    painterchick painterchick 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    Seems to be my nature. I have no desire to but truth or facts about me hurt people and make them afraid of me. Im just me simple honest and sincere.
    Averageguy41011 Averageguy41011 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 17

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    Stand outside my walls and shout and scream until your voice is hoarse. Try to break them down, plead with me to let you in. You caused me pain when I thought I could trust you...
    Saintlysinner Saintlysinner 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    I'm the one whose always at the receiving end... be it betrayal or disloyalty... so my coping mechanism is to shut out those who hurt me. I have the right to protect me from...
    Shewholives99 Shewholives99 36-40, F Aug 16

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    Friends family lovers I leave them alone and stay open to others. Why do some people like to take advantage of other people? Do they not have a conscience?
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 16

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    I don't trust a lot of people, but when I do I will be completely honest and open with you, but I will shut them out when they hurt me. I start to feel depressed and alone because...
    ssweetdisspositionn ssweetdisspositionn 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 16

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    I don't need ppl like that in my life
    DTFgurl DTFgurl 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    When I say leave me alone, leave me alone. When I tell you I'm annoyed and need to calm down because of you, then leave me the hell alone so I can calm down. It only pushes me away...
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