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I Push People Away When I Am Hurt

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed.. but if I love them most of them die or end up hating me and rejecting me anyway...  its painful. so I learnt to push them away when I was young as a means to protect...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2011

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    Very Guilty of This

    it doesnt make sense to me at all. When i am hurting i shut everyone out and kind of put myself in a coccoon. Its not their fault but when im hurt i can not get rid of people fast enough, i will pick fights and ignore them because i can not cope with their presense i am trying...
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M Sep 12, 2008

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    I Push People Away..even When I Dont Want Too

    This is something that has plaqued me awhile now. Whenever I get hurt, I can't seem to get the words out without struggling so I shut down. It is a bad habit of mine but and I try hard not to do it. I don't do this to everyone I know, but I do it to the people I love and am...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    Always Have

    I don't know why, but I've always pushed people away when I need them the most. I guess I just figure I should be able to handle things on my own and don't want to bother anyone else iwth my petty problems. I've been doing it for as long as I can remember.
    doglover1984 doglover1984 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    I Push And Push And Push

     When I go through something troubling, I push all those I love away.  I think I got myself into this mess, I need to be the one to get myself out of it.  I don't do it intentionally, I just don't want to burden them with my problems ever.  I want to be that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    When I feel I'm getting to close to someone

    or someone is getting to close I do everything to shut down and push away sometimes to see if they'll stay and what not ... Just tired of hurting
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 1 Response May 2

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    I'm Doing It Now As I Don't Know What Else To Think...

    Like I have done so much for my co worker but now her child is all grown up, I feel like she just isn't bothered by me anymore. It hurts me that she sends pictures of him and updates on his life to other co workers but not me-the one who has looked after him for years and who...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F Jun 30, 2011

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    And I Feel Even Worse

    When someone hurts me,i can't tell that person how i feel,and very soon i just stop talking to her/him.i want to get an apology without saying what hurt me.but i rarely get one,because nobody can read my  mind,so..i end up fighting with people i am close to (they are the...
    wilddarksick wilddarksick 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    Sometimes it's even a test,

    to see if they will stay..
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23 13-15, F 1 Response May 2

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    Always

    I always push people away when I am hurt, most of the time, I do it without meaning to, I guess it just happens. I am Just so scared to let anyone in, and so scared of getting hurt again, that I just lock my emotions up, and don't show them, And I don't let anyone else see them...
    DyinToBeLoved DyinToBeLoved 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    I just want to be alone at

    that time and sometimes I do it without noticing.
    DangerouslyMe DangerouslyMe 16-17, F Apr 19

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    I Dont Want To But I Have To

    whenever i am hurting i push every person i love away. i hurt them because i am afraid they will hurt me. they want to help but i just cant seem to break down my wall and let people in. i scream and tell them to go away and leave me alone whist a part of me wants them to hold me...
    thisaccountisgone thisaccountisgone 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2012

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    I Do....

    I push people away when I am hurt. Its a bad habit of mine. Its a way I cope with things that are going on in my life. I push people away. Sometimes I wish someone would push back, stop me from trying to push them away.I push people away....Its something I have done all my life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed..
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Apr 2, 2011

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    I Swear, Im Doing It Right Now.

    I know i am, and i dont care. The less people that care the better. All i have to offer is disapointment. And thats all i recieve. I cant talk to anyone of my friends right now, the few i have. I get angry at Andy for telling me that im better than i think i am. I yell at him...
    Takemewithyou Takemewithyou 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    Unintentional

    I have a Big tendency to do so. I Feel the need to just be isolated when I get hurt. It's hard to open up When You are hurt. And I hate to be pressured so when I get hurt I just am a pissy person altogether. No talking to me or comforting me. Wait and allow me to Come to you I...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    Lick My Wounds

    There are a few animals I've been compared to, or compared myself to. One of them is a dog. When I'm hurt, I bite. Of course, I'll try to growl first.
    pratyekayan pratyekayan 18-21, M Sep 21, 2010

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    I Do

    I always have. I'm the type of person who has to sort things out for myself. Nobody else can do it as I know me better than everyone else. I will ask for help if I really do need it, that however is really rare. When I'm hurt all I want is space to sort through what I'm going...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 3, 2012

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    I'm use to losing people that it doesn't even hurt anymore. I hate the feeling I get when I know it's inevitable. That because of how I am, people won't like me. But I know that I...
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    If I feel myself getting super close to anyone, I'll get distant. I'm sorry if it makes you seems like I don't care about you anymore. I know I'm horrible at keeping relationships...
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    Yeah...this is what I do...trying hard to turn this around
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    I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. I thought that I had found the one. He treated me like a princess in every way. I've always had low self esteem and I'm pretty sure...
    danka021 danka021 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 17

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    I do this without knowing I'm doing it till they fight and then I feel like crap for hurting them! Vicious circle trying to protect yourself and feeling for the other
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 18

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    Im a kind of a loner....... :( I noticed that i push everyone that loves me away. I refuse to talk to my mom about my true feelings, i hide things from my therapist i avoid my...
    Dsanders13 Dsanders13 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Bullies. Egos Pigs. Morons. Why be pushy. At least teachers can care. The only pushy exception.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Sep 8

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    This is definitely an experience I have a lot of experience with. Unfortunately right now my brother is behaving in a way that at the lease can be called predictable at the most...
    missquietriot missquietriot 26-30, F Sep 17

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    I don't completely shut people out though. I usually just take a step back and let them try to earn the trust back. If it happens too many times then I start getting hurt and the...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 12

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    if someone hurts me and they KEEP BOTHERING ME there going 6ft down in the ground
    TheColorfulDino TheColorfulDino 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    If you've managed to hurt me it's probably because I told you things. So I must've trusted you, and now you broke that trust. I'm not going to ever trust you the same way again I...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F Sep 14

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    No reason to keep someone around that makes me suffer, actual betrayal.. not 'you look weird in that hat' kinda hurt because you love that hat lol
    khewster khewster 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    When they start raising their voices just for me to play a game, I just can't handle it, its just too much noise and pressure. So I have to say, "no, maybe next time haha." But if...
    natetiox natetiox 22-25, F Sep 12

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    My dad is the definition of a dead beat dad. I haven't seen him in a year and 1 months and he doesn't pay child support, doesn't have a license, doesn't own a car, and he doesn't...
    lilbum97 lilbum97 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    Yep. I shut off from the world to heal and re-coop.
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F Sep 5

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    And it kills me to think that you never did care.
    emelon12 emelon12 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 10

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    I seen death's face I know it to well I need to talk
    PCOutlaw69 PCOutlaw69 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 12

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    10 things I don't need in a friend. This is for those people who thinks that I am just dumb and easy to be bullied. Even though you call me your “friend”. BUT actually, no...
    Artz4Life Artz4Life 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 23

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    It's easier to push them away than be pushed away by them Recently I've changed and been given the chance to push you away on more than one occasion but I won't do it. I'm...
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 18

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    'm 20 and studying at the university! I'm supposed to be living the best period of my life! But instead i'm having my worst! I hate myself , i hate my body, i hate what i see in...
    k55f k55f 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    'm 20 and studying at the university! I'm supposed to be living the best period of my life! But instead i'm having my worst! I hate myself , i hate my body, i hate what i see in...
    k55f k55f 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    'm 20 and studying at the university! I'm supposed to be living the best period of my life! But instead i'm having my worst! I hate myself , i hate my body, i hate what i see in...
    k55f k55f 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    One of the things about dating online is you sometimes meet people who you're capable of pretty profound emotional connection with but then you realize you have no actual genuine...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 22

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    Before her I didn't know what it was like to be loved. Or how it felt when someone cared about you. To when she came into my life I pushed her away not know I had what I wanted...
    anonymouss2014 anonymouss2014 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 17

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    It has affected my relationships so much and not just my love type of relationships but friendships as well...I just can't seem to open up am bubbly,life of the party but I can't...
    CurvyandChic CurvyandChic 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 15

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    I don't know how to express my feelings to people or to trust them , I had a lot of best friends before but they all went to another school or I pushed them away cause I didn't...
    greenmonsterboi greenmonsterboi 13-15, M a week ago

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    Sometimes it feels as though there is a disconnect between my outward voice and my inside voice. Maybe because words could never describe certain things and even though you can try...
    wanderquietly wanderquietly 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 18

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    I got into a big fight, and i lost a lot of people i mean my friends are my whole world met they all left me ( some stayed ), i mean i'm afraid now for being myself because we only...
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 3

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