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I Push People Away When I Am Hurt

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    It's almost as though I feel I'm not deserving

    of their help. It's just so much easier to push people away and say it's fine because why should people spend their time helping me when they should be making themselves happy, I feel like when I show that I'm upset around people it brings them down, I don't want to be that...
    Nethaly Nethaly 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2014

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    I just want to be alone at

    that time and sometimes I do it without noticing.
    DangerouslyMe DangerouslyMe 16-17, F Apr 19, 2014

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    I Swear, Im Doing It Right Now.

    I know i am, and i dont care. The less people that care the better. All i have to offer is disapointment. And thats all i recieve. I cant talk to anyone of my friends right now, the few i have. I get angry at Andy for telling me that im better than i think i am. I yell at him...
    Takemewithyou Takemewithyou 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    And I Feel Even Worse

    When someone hurts me,i can't tell that person how i feel,and very soon i just stop talking to her/him.i want to get an apology without saying what hurt me.but i rarely get one,because nobody can read my  mind,so..i end up fighting with people i am close to (they are the...
    wilddarksick wilddarksick 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    I Do....

    I push people away when I am hurt. Its a bad habit of mine. Its a way I cope with things that are going on in my life. I push people away. Sometimes I wish someone would push back, stop me from trying to push them away.I push people away....Its something I have done all my life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    I Dont Want To But I Have To

    whenever i am hurting i push every person i love away. i hurt them because i am afraid they will hurt me. they want to help but i just cant seem to break down my wall and let people in. i scream and tell them to go away and leave me alone whist a part of me wants them to hold me...
    thisaccountisgone thisaccountisgone 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2012

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed..
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Apr 2, 2011

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    Sometimes it's even a test,

    to see if they will stay..
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23 13-15, F 1 Response May 2, 2014

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    Always

    I always push people away when I am hurt, most of the time, I do it without meaning to, I guess it just happens. I am Just so scared to let anyone in, and so scared of getting hurt again, that I just lock my emotions up, and don't show them, And I don't let anyone else see them...
    DyinToBeLoved DyinToBeLoved 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed.. but if I love them most of them die or end up hating me and rejecting me anyway...  its painful. so I learnt to push them away when I was young as a means to protect...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2011

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    I Push People Away..even When I Dont Want Too

    This is something that has plaqued me awhile now. Whenever I get hurt, I can't seem to get the words out without struggling so I shut down. It is a bad habit of mine but and I try hard not to do it. I don't do this to everyone I know, but I do it to the people I love and am...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    Lick My Wounds

    There are a few animals I've been compared to, or compared myself to. One of them is a dog. When I'm hurt, I bite. Of course, I'll try to growl first.
    pratyekayan pratyekayan 18-21, M Sep 21, 2010

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    When I feel I'm getting to close to someone

    or someone is getting to close I do everything to shut down and push away sometimes to see if they'll stay and what not ... Just tired of hurting
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 1 Response May 2, 2014

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    Always Have

    I don't know why, but I've always pushed people away when I need them the most. I guess I just figure I should be able to handle things on my own and don't want to bother anyone else iwth my petty problems. I've been doing it for as long as I can remember.
    doglover1984 doglover1984 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    I Do

    I always have. I'm the type of person who has to sort things out for myself. Nobody else can do it as I know me better than everyone else. I will ask for help if I really do need it, that however is really rare. When I'm hurt all I want is space to sort through what I'm going...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 3, 2012

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    I Push And Push And Push

     When I go through something troubling, I push all those I love away.  I think I got myself into this mess, I need to be the one to get myself out of it.  I don't do it intentionally, I just don't want to burden them with my problems ever.  I want to be that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    I'm Doing It Now As I Don't Know What Else To Think...

    Like I have done so much for my co worker but now her child is all grown up, I feel like she just isn't bothered by me anymore. It hurts me that she sends pictures of him and updates on his life to other co workers but not me-the one who has looked after him for years and who...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F Jun 30, 2011

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    Very Guilty of This

    it doesnt make sense to me at all. When i am hurting i shut everyone out and kind of put myself in a coccoon. Its not their fault but when im hurt i can not get rid of people fast enough, i will pick fights and ignore them because i can not cope with their presense i am trying...
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M Sep 12, 2008

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    Unintentional

    I have a Big tendency to do so. I Feel the need to just be isolated when I get hurt. It's hard to open up When You are hurt. And I hate to be pressured so when I get hurt I just am a pissy person altogether. No talking to me or comforting me. Wait and allow me to Come to you I...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    Well I did it again I keep doing it and I don't understand why. Every person that gets close to me I wait a while feel really strong about them then push them away . I am so...
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    Today I told a girl I was too comfortable talking to her and it needed to stop. She asked why and I told her that everyone will let you down. I don't think she understands.. If she...
    davviid davviid 18-21, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    All my friends seem to be pushing me away lately.. Every single one.. I don't know what I'm doing! Meh.. :c
    ForeverKittenn ForeverKittenn 13-15, F 2 Responses May 7

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    Ok so I noticed when my friend was hanging out with his other friends that he wasn't himself so I asked h about it later that day and he said oh I'm just going through...
    moneke16 moneke16 13-15, F 1 Response May 8

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    Why is it that HURT people, HURT people? Is it all that they know HOW to do is HURT others.....simply because they are hurting. It is because they were never truly taught HOW to...
    Tr3asur3dLuv Tr3asur3dLuv 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 22

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    This is something that has come with age for me, and I wasn't always like this with people. Unfortunately, I was hurt one too many times and refuse to let it happen so easily. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 4

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    I know I do this a lot. I'll ignore group conversations, I'll be by myself, I'll talk less, I'll be having my earphones in all the time, I'll be lost in my thoughts and I'll be...
    CloeSmile CloeSmile 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    I have been debating this for the last few days... just so confused. do I shut them out or do I hang on for dear life. it's going to get me hurt in the end. I can feel it coming. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 4

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    My friends completely ditched me. They treat(ed) me like I'm dirt. I feel like I am done trusting people. I don't want to let anyone back in. That's why I've been shutting out all...
    brokenheartsx brokenheartsx 13-15, F May 13

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    A year ago, I used to like this guy, but he started avoiding me once he found out I liked him because he was creeped out. Anyways, I got over him, but now for some reason, one of...
    malakhkhalil malakhkhalil 13-15, F Apr 29

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    Jerkules Jerkules 36-40 2 Responses Apr 29

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    I put up a wall between us, that way there words can not affect me anymore. although they look at me as being a *****.
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    and so I push people away.. I have lots of things I want to say, at the same time, I don't know what to say.. I am not good with poeple and so I NEVER had any friends, like 0...
    FallingWind FallingWind 18-21, F 1 Response May 12

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    Last year, i found messages from my boyfriend of two years to a sexy ********, his activity on Facebook showed him checking out her and his exes profiles frequently, once even when...
    mangojordan mangojordan 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 22

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    i dont know who the hell came up with these awful fantasy stories! they make us believe **** and now, as grown ups, get depressed because those stories didn't come true for us. we...
    DepresZay DepresZay 16-17, F 3 Responses May 9

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    I love you, I care about you, since we met you have been like the sister I never had, we shared everything and we're unseperatable, you made my days at work worth going, I...
    jbrighton676 jbrighton676 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 26

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    I love you because when I look into your eyes I can see you're scared shitless, same as me. I can see your scars and I can feel your pain just like I feel my own. I love you...
    AshleyJea AshleyJea 22-25, F 4 Responses May 8

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    It's not that I don't trust people, or that I've been cheated or lied to in the past. I push others away for fear of my disappointing them. If somebody becomes a very close friend...
    Elsiphael Elsiphael 16-17, T May 9

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