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I Push People Away When I Am Hurt

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    And I Feel Even Worse

    When someone hurts me,i can't tell that person how i feel,and very soon i just stop talking to her/him.i want to get an apology without saying what hurt me.but i rarely get one,because nobody can read my  mind,so..i end up fighting with people i am close to (they are the...
    wilddarksick wilddarksick 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    When I feel I'm getting to close to someone

    or someone is getting to close I do everything to shut down and push away sometimes to see if they'll stay and what not ... Just tired of hurting
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F May 2, 2014

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    Very Guilty of This

    it doesnt make sense to me at all. When i am hurting i shut everyone out and kind of put myself in a coccoon. Its not their fault but when im hurt i can not get rid of people fast enough, i will pick fights and ignore them because i can not cope with their presense i am trying...
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M Sep 12, 2008

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    Always

    I always push people away when I am hurt, most of the time, I do it without meaning to, I guess it just happens. I am Just so scared to let anyone in, and so scared of getting hurt again, that I just lock my emotions up, and don't show them, And I don't let anyone else see them...
    DyinToBeLoved DyinToBeLoved 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    I just want to be alone at

    that time and sometimes I do it without noticing.
    DangerouslyMe DangerouslyMe 16-17, F Apr 19, 2014

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    I Swear, Im Doing It Right Now.

    I know i am, and i dont care. The less people that care the better. All i have to offer is disapointment. And thats all i recieve. I cant talk to anyone of my friends right now, the few i have. I get angry at Andy for telling me that im better than i think i am. I yell at him...
    Takemewithyou Takemewithyou 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    I Dont Want To But I Have To

    whenever i am hurting i push every person i love away. i hurt them because i am afraid they will hurt me. they want to help but i just cant seem to break down my wall and let people in. i scream and tell them to go away and leave me alone whist a part of me wants them to hold me...
    thisaccountisgone thisaccountisgone 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2012

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    I'm Doing It Now As I Don't Know What Else To Think...

    Like I have done so much for my co worker but now her child is all grown up, I feel like she just isn't bothered by me anymore. It hurts me that she sends pictures of him and updates on his life to other co workers but not me-the one who has looked after him for years and who...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F Jun 30, 2011

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    Lick My Wounds

    There are a few animals I've been compared to, or compared myself to. One of them is a dog. When I'm hurt, I bite. Of course, I'll try to growl first.
    pratyekayan pratyekayan 18-21, M Sep 21, 2010

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    I Do

    I always have. I'm the type of person who has to sort things out for myself. Nobody else can do it as I know me better than everyone else. I will ask for help if I really do need it, that however is really rare. When I'm hurt all I want is space to sort through what I'm going...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 3, 2012

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed.. but if I love them most of them die or end up hating me and rejecting me anyway...  its painful. so I learnt to push them away when I was young as a means to protect...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2011

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    Always Have

    I don't know why, but I've always pushed people away when I need them the most. I guess I just figure I should be able to handle things on my own and don't want to bother anyone else iwth my petty problems. I've been doing it for as long as I can remember.
    doglover1984 doglover1984 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    I Do....

    I push people away when I am hurt. Its a bad habit of mine. Its a way I cope with things that are going on in my life. I push people away. Sometimes I wish someone would push back, stop me from trying to push them away.I push people away....Its something I have done all my life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    Unintentional

    I have a Big tendency to do so. I Feel the need to just be isolated when I get hurt. It's hard to open up When You are hurt. And I hate to be pressured so when I get hurt I just am a pissy person altogether. No talking to me or comforting me. Wait and allow me to Come to you I...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed..
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Apr 2, 2011

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    It's almost as though I feel I'm not deserving

    of their help. It's just so much easier to push people away and say it's fine because why should people spend their time helping me when they should be making themselves happy, I feel like when I show that I'm upset around people it brings them down, I don't want to be that...
    Nethaly Nethaly 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 18, 2014

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    I Push People Away..even When I Dont Want Too

    This is something that has plaqued me awhile now. Whenever I get hurt, I can't seem to get the words out without struggling so I shut down. It is a bad habit of mine but and I try hard not to do it. I don't do this to everyone I know, but I do it to the people I love and am...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    Sometimes it's even a test,

    to see if they will stay..
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23 13-15, F 1 Response May 2, 2014

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    I Push And Push And Push

     When I go through something troubling, I push all those I love away.  I think I got myself into this mess, I need to be the one to get myself out of it.  I don't do it intentionally, I just don't want to burden them with my problems ever.  I want to be that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    They think I snapped at them for attention but, I pushed them away and now they pushed me further from them....what do I do??????!!!....
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 18

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    I really regret pushing away that one person that was so important to me. We got to know each other via internet and found out we had quite a few things in common. Almost half a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 23

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    I'm positive that even after this year is over, I will continue my life alone. Why would I ever risk being destroyed again? Doesn't seem at all healthy to put myself in a position...
    dissolution dissolution 22-25, F Feb 17

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    Great. I just pushed someone who actually cares for me. And I made her cry too. And I made it even worse when I asked her to stay away from me, thinking that by staying away from...
    EmotionlessDude EmotionlessDude 13-15, M 3 Responses Feb 18

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    I am pushing away the only people that I want to let in because I just don't want them to see me as a crazy person now they won't reply and I just want to break down and cry about...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    I can't stop pushing the people that I want in my life away...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F Feb 18

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    Of all the ways that women often react to inner panic, SHUT DOWN is my primary reaction; just plain disconnection. If something happens that upsets me, or when someone says or does...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 25

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    anneluna anneluna 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    If you began to know the muti faceted mess that makes me you may began to dislike the same elements about myself as I..... everything.
    2lil2L8 2lil2L8 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I don't want to But i just do bc I'm so scared that I'm not good enough for them
    lilbiatch lilbiatch 16-17, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I do this subconsciously in most cases. It's like I see there's chance that a guy could be amazing. You know what I'm talking about people. You know that person who you start...
    geekychick14 geekychick14 13-15, F Feb 19

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    "are you supposed to be in my life? I won't close the door if you're supposed to be, but... " i've had that struggle recently with an ex-friend. We started out really good...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I can be bear it if other people hurts me unless it's those people that are important to me.. it's another story that leave me teary-eyed.
    missedconnection101 missedconnection101 18-21, F Feb 26

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    Girls easily fall in love but having a hard time to move on.. so please if you're going to hurt us, leave us alone.
    KarenIsMyName KarenIsMyName 18-21, F Feb 26

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    I don't know why I do it. I cannot forgive. Small petty things do not get to me but if you really hurt me, everything I feel towards you shuts down and I no longer want to look at...
    fwxo fwxo 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    i do??? how the hell can i do that? especially when no one even bothers in any way to connect with me???
    gurldeleted gurldeleted 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    I tired and tired to shut him out but I couldn't and now he might of been lying to me so I wouldn't kill myself... he has made the situation so much worse than it would of been...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    with not so much as a goodbye. i don't need your apology. it's not as if i can hear it anyway.
    trAnSyLvanIanconcuBinE trAnSyLvanIanconcuBinE 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    is what they really feel. I have been kinda seeing someone off and on... for about 4 months. We fight sometimes like everyone, but we make up and are ok pretty quickly. He got...
    irishred122 irishred122 51-55, F 23 hrs ago

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    Seems to be happening more frequently as I am depressed. I misunderstand things or take the wrong way. Then I become stubborn and push people away for some reason.
    Averageguy41074 Averageguy41074 36-40, M 3 Responses Feb 13

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    so i tend to push people away. my wall is built way too high andvway too long.
    timidher timidher 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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