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I Push People Away When I Am Hurt

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    I Do....

    I push people away when I am hurt. Its a bad habit of mine. Its a way I cope with things that are going on in my life. I push people away. Sometimes I wish someone would push back, stop me from trying to push them away.I push people away....Its something I have done all my life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed..
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Apr 2, 2011

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    I Dont Want To But I Have To

    whenever i am hurting i push every person i love away. i hurt them because i am afraid they will hurt me. they want to help but i just cant seem to break down my wall and let people in. i scream and tell them to go away and leave me alone whist a part of me wants them to hold me...
    thisaccountisgone thisaccountisgone 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2012

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    I Do

    I always have. I'm the type of person who has to sort things out for myself. Nobody else can do it as I know me better than everyone else. I will ask for help if I really do need it, that however is really rare. When I'm hurt all I want is space to sort through what I'm going...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 3, 2012

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    I just want to be alone at

    that time and sometimes I do it without noticing.
    DangerouslyMe DangerouslyMe 16-17, F Apr 19

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    Unintentional

    I have a Big tendency to do so. I Feel the need to just be isolated when I get hurt. It's hard to open up When You are hurt. And I hate to be pressured so when I get hurt I just am a pissy person altogether. No talking to me or comforting me. Wait and allow me to Come to you I...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    I Push And Push And Push

     When I go through something troubling, I push all those I love away.  I think I got myself into this mess, I need to be the one to get myself out of it.  I don't do it intentionally, I just don't want to burden them with my problems ever.  I want to be that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    Always

    I always push people away when I am hurt, most of the time, I do it without meaning to, I guess it just happens. I am Just so scared to let anyone in, and so scared of getting hurt again, that I just lock my emotions up, and don't show them, And I don't let anyone else see them...
    DyinToBeLoved DyinToBeLoved 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    Sometimes it's even a test,

    to see if they will stay..
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23 13-15, F 1 Response May 2

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    Lick My Wounds

    There are a few animals I've been compared to, or compared myself to. One of them is a dog. When I'm hurt, I bite. Of course, I'll try to growl first.
    pratyekayan pratyekayan 18-21, M Sep 21, 2010

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    I Push People Away..even When I Dont Want Too

    This is something that has plaqued me awhile now. Whenever I get hurt, I can't seem to get the words out without struggling so I shut down. It is a bad habit of mine but and I try hard not to do it. I don't do this to everyone I know, but I do it to the people I love and am...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    Very Guilty of This

    it doesnt make sense to me at all. When i am hurting i shut everyone out and kind of put myself in a coccoon. Its not their fault but when im hurt i can not get rid of people fast enough, i will pick fights and ignore them because i can not cope with their presense i am trying...
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M Sep 12, 2008

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed.. but if I love them most of them die or end up hating me and rejecting me anyway...  its painful. so I learnt to push them away when I was young as a means to protect...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2011

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    Always Have

    I don't know why, but I've always pushed people away when I need them the most. I guess I just figure I should be able to handle things on my own and don't want to bother anyone else iwth my petty problems. I've been doing it for as long as I can remember.
    doglover1984 doglover1984 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    I'm Doing It Now As I Don't Know What Else To Think...

    Like I have done so much for my co worker but now her child is all grown up, I feel like she just isn't bothered by me anymore. It hurts me that she sends pictures of him and updates on his life to other co workers but not me-the one who has looked after him for years and who...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F Jun 30, 2011

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    When I feel I'm getting to close to someone

    or someone is getting to close I do everything to shut down and push away sometimes to see if they'll stay and what not ... Just tired of hurting
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 1 Response May 2

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    I Swear, Im Doing It Right Now.

    I know i am, and i dont care. The less people that care the better. All i have to offer is disapointment. And thats all i recieve. I cant talk to anyone of my friends right now, the few i have. I get angry at Andy for telling me that im better than i think i am. I yell at him...
    Takemewithyou Takemewithyou 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    And I Feel Even Worse

    When someone hurts me,i can't tell that person how i feel,and very soon i just stop talking to her/him.i want to get an apology without saying what hurt me.but i rarely get one,because nobody can read my  mind,so..i end up fighting with people i am close to (they are the...
    wilddarksick wilddarksick 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    Im not alone when i say," i push people away when i dont want to". The most common response is always because your afraid of getting hurt or that you have trust issues. These...
    glittz101 glittz101 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 9

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    I spent 16 years in an abusive relationship. I've seen hell, I've lived hell. I am emotionally disconnected. I push people away because I can't tolerate being used, deceived, or...
    beautifuldisaster76 beautifuldisaster76 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 30

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    I don't push them away, they choose to be with someone else when i'm in need.
    4everShiNee18 4everShiNee18 13-15, F 19 hrs ago

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    I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks. He works crazy long hours. So we only get to talk-talk on his days off, last night was one. We get to talking and I notice he's...
    TexasGypsyMommy TexasGypsyMommy 22-25, F Nov 2

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    I've known some people for 5 years who couldn't tell you a thing about me. I try to have normal relationships, but I can't bring myself to open up to anyone. I don't know how to...
    msilver msilver 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 25

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    I always do this, I isolate myself and don't allow myself to hurt other people because I'm hurt myself and then I find myself feeling alone and I wonder why?
    dreamer0800 dreamer0800 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 29

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    I want to be alone most of the time. And when Im not wanting to be alone I have trust issues. Everyone I have ever dated I pushed away. I have no idea the underlined cause, but I...
    leannabee leannabee 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 29

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    Especially you Leslie. I try to tell you everything, I really do. And I think I've gotten a little bit better at it since the last time I posted this story but I'm not sure. I...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 2

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    I push away everyone even though I don't mean to. Maybe it's the commitment I'm scared of or I can't give them my trust. Either way it's left me depressed and alone .
    jebony jebony 18-21, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    I always manage to push the ones I love away. It seem I just want to know or feel like I'm worth something. I meet someone who loved me for who I was no matter the situation I was...
    TexasGypsyMommy TexasGypsyMommy 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 26

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    I just have a hard time trusting people. I've been screwed over by people who meant the world to me and because of those past experiences I always will keep my guard up.
    AlexisH94 AlexisH94 18-21, F 20 hrs ago

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    I didn't let myself show love for my dad as he was an alcoholic and I was made to believe by my mother that he was the source of all our problems. She never once looked at herself...
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce 41-45, F Nov 3

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    This sounds like story of my life!!!!
    kiernanstevens13 kiernanstevens13 13-15, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I do this bc i think its better for me
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F 1 Response 37 mins ago

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    It's a defense mechanism...
    ClaireH19 ClaireH19 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I can't keep looking at him and think of what could have been anymore...
    bluegirlie98 bluegirlie98 16-17, F Oct 27

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    I don't do it on purpose.. I just have no idea who's gonna leave and who's gonna stay..
    myhappylittlepill myhappylittlepill 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    scared to get close to anyone because everyone who said that "I'll be there" left.
    msj02 msj02 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    This is second nature to me.
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F 5 days ago

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    Even you. I shut people out when they hurt me. It is how I manage to keep my head above water despite the chaos left in our wake. First was my mother. I shut her out at quite a...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    I only shut people out when Im scared I case I take my anger out on them
    nickigirl525 nickigirl525 13-15, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    After going through so much as a child and being hurt so many times I have learned to create barriers when people hurt me. I wish that wasn't the case. I tried so hard to be a...
    Morenita79 Morenita79 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 26

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    It is a reflex. I guess after years of people being ****** to me, and me just taking it, forgiving them again and again, I have developed away to stop myself from being that person...
    JE1158 JE1158 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 2

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    I shut them all out!!.. I will never let them ever get close to me or the people that they associate with to get close to me too .. Im so sick of thur sorrys & yet they choose to...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 8

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    I'm just done even on ep. I always get hurt even before I say anything. I can admit feelings for a girl, they block me. I can say hi to a guy and they hate me. I can have crushes...
    luischimbo luischimbo 16-17, M 8 Responses Nov 16

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    Most often my reaction to getting hurt or being dissatisfied is 'cutting my losses' and moving forward with life. The truth is, however that I am not cutting out losses in my life...
    CarlyOnline CarlyOnline 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 10

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    I should stop shuting people out at sone point i will have no friends. I am on the point of turning into a ricer of tears. And i just say i'm ok. I hurt myself by shuting others...
    DCK1309 DCK1309 13-15, M 1 day ago

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    I shut out a lot of people, mainly because they're the reason why I'm like this.. They keep breaking the walls, I keep building higher ones. I've hidden myself for so long, no one...
    PureLies PureLies 13-15, F Nov 5

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    Iv been hurt so much just takes a pinch to get me in block world mode
    1kingdarkness 1kingdarkness 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 15

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