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I Push People Away When I Am Hurt

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    And I Feel Even Worse

    When someone hurts me,i can't tell that person how i feel,and very soon i just stop talking to her/him.i want to get an apology without saying what hurt me.but i rarely get one,because nobody can read my  mind,so..i end up fighting with people i am close to (they are the...
    wilddarksick wilddarksick 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    I Push People Away..even When I Dont Want Too

    This is something that has plaqued me awhile now. Whenever I get hurt, I can't seem to get the words out without struggling so I shut down. It is a bad habit of mine but and I try hard not to do it. I don't do this to everyone I know, but I do it to the people I love and am...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    I Push And Push And Push

     When I go through something troubling, I push all those I love away.  I think I got myself into this mess, I need to be the one to get myself out of it.  I don't do it intentionally, I just don't want to burden them with my problems ever.  I want to be that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    It's almost as though I feel I'm not deserving

    of their help. It's just so much easier to push people away and say it's fine because why should people spend their time helping me when they should be making themselves happy, I feel like when I show that I'm upset around people it brings them down, I don't want to be that...
    Nethaly Nethaly 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 18, 2014

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    I Swear, Im Doing It Right Now.

    I know i am, and i dont care. The less people that care the better. All i have to offer is disapointment. And thats all i recieve. I cant talk to anyone of my friends right now, the few i have. I get angry at Andy for telling me that im better than i think i am. I yell at him...
    Takemewithyou Takemewithyou 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    I'm Doing It Now As I Don't Know What Else To Think...

    Like I have done so much for my co worker but now her child is all grown up, I feel like she just isn't bothered by me anymore. It hurts me that she sends pictures of him and updates on his life to other co workers but not me-the one who has looked after him for years and who...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F Jun 30, 2011

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    I Dont Want To But I Have To

    whenever i am hurting i push every person i love away. i hurt them because i am afraid they will hurt me. they want to help but i just cant seem to break down my wall and let people in. i scream and tell them to go away and leave me alone whist a part of me wants them to hold me...
    thisaccountisgone thisaccountisgone 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2012

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed.. but if I love them most of them die or end up hating me and rejecting me anyway...  its painful. so I learnt to push them away when I was young as a means to protect...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2011

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    Very Guilty of This

    it doesnt make sense to me at all. When i am hurting i shut everyone out and kind of put myself in a coccoon. Its not their fault but when im hurt i can not get rid of people fast enough, i will pick fights and ignore them because i can not cope with their presense i am trying...
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M Sep 12, 2008

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    I Do

    I always have. I'm the type of person who has to sort things out for myself. Nobody else can do it as I know me better than everyone else. I will ask for help if I really do need it, that however is really rare. When I'm hurt all I want is space to sort through what I'm going...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 3, 2012

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    Always

    I always push people away when I am hurt, most of the time, I do it without meaning to, I guess it just happens. I am Just so scared to let anyone in, and so scared of getting hurt again, that I just lock my emotions up, and don't show them, And I don't let anyone else see them...
    DyinToBeLoved DyinToBeLoved 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed..
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Apr 2, 2011

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    Sometimes it's even a test,

    to see if they will stay..
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23 13-15, F 1 Response May 2, 2014

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    I just want to be alone at

    that time and sometimes I do it without noticing.
    DangerouslyMe DangerouslyMe 16-17, F Apr 19, 2014

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    When I feel I'm getting to close to someone

    or someone is getting to close I do everything to shut down and push away sometimes to see if they'll stay and what not ... Just tired of hurting
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 1 Response May 2, 2014

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    Always Have

    I don't know why, but I've always pushed people away when I need them the most. I guess I just figure I should be able to handle things on my own and don't want to bother anyone else iwth my petty problems. I've been doing it for as long as I can remember.
    doglover1984 doglover1984 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    Lick My Wounds

    There are a few animals I've been compared to, or compared myself to. One of them is a dog. When I'm hurt, I bite. Of course, I'll try to growl first.
    pratyekayan pratyekayan 18-21, M Sep 21, 2010

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    I Do....

    I push people away when I am hurt. Its a bad habit of mine. Its a way I cope with things that are going on in my life. I push people away. Sometimes I wish someone would push back, stop me from trying to push them away.I push people away....Its something I have done all my life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    Unintentional

    I have a Big tendency to do so. I Feel the need to just be isolated when I get hurt. It's hard to open up When You are hurt. And I hate to be pressured so when I get hurt I just am a pissy person altogether. No talking to me or comforting me. Wait and allow me to Come to you I...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    The only problem with this, is when I end up hurting myself by pushing someone away who I really care about. I don't want to get hurt, but I also don't want to keep pushing people...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I usually keep people at a distance and when I notice they're getting closer and starting to break down the wall I put up I start pushing them away. I push them away because just...
    cklein245 cklein245 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    I always push peoples away, even though I really don't want to, I always want someone next to me and t listen t me and stuff but I dunno why I push them away I hate that so much...
    imjustmex33 imjustmex33 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    I always do this! Not only does it get on my nerves but I think on my friend's nerves too. I don't mean to do it, it's just, I think ever since the incident, I tend to push people...
    MacabreCannibal MacabreCannibal 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    im always pushing people away i never let anyone in
    Becca1369 Becca1369 13-15, F Jan 4

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    I've spent so much time pushing people away and new that I've opened my eyes I see how much I've really missed out on
    sweetshadows15 sweetshadows15 16-17, F Jan 19

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    Dear romantic interests, I'm sorry in advance. I'm sorry for all I will put you through. It will be an up and down roller-coaster, but it will be worth it if you stay and push...
    findingfae findingfae 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    sometimes I don't think it's possible for someone to actually love me. So when people that actually care for me try to show me I take it as they trying to play with my emotions...
    Ludjina1415 Ludjina1415 18-21, F Jan 19

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    I'm a loser and I'm ashamed of my life and because of that I pushed away people even when I needed them the most. I don't answer calls nor text from my friends and it's been almost...
    almasolitaria312 almasolitaria312 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 19

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    This always happens once I get close with somebody (be it as friend or in a relationship sense) I usually like to control the pace at which I get to know someone, but once I...
    Mikssi Mikssi 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 20

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    I need to push my 2 friends on here away. We're really close but I'm not gonna hurt anyone anymore.
    lexrae lexrae 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    This has happened to me for as long as I can remember. I feel as if people just get bored with me. It's like things are really good for awhile and then out of nowhere, I'm only an...
    Jennifer337 Jennifer337 31-35, T 1 Response Jan 8

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    I just don't get the point of letting someone get close to you. They're going to walk away eventually. I'm just saving myself from getting hurt.
    henal216 henal216 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 11

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    even when i dont want to, so that they cant **** me up.. and it scares me even more if it has been a while and they havent hurt me, i just find love disgusting, unreal
    KatherineSnow KatherineSnow 18-21, F a week ago

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    1, 2, 3, 4... Watch your friends walk out the door. 5, 6, 7, 8... Their leaving confirms that it's too late. 9, 10, 11, 12... I hurt so much, but they can't tell.
    jackjack600 jackjack600 18-21, F Jan 3

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    I wanna know why people push other when they offer help. You know about the boat, dont let the boat pass you, God is listening to you preyer. Im the guy on the boat, i wanna help
    EnigmaticCasper EnigmaticCasper 18-21, M 3 days ago

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    In a world full of people who have somebody, I find it difficult to ignore the fact that I don't have anybody. Always. At first I used to think it made me a stronger person because...
    yettiluch yettiluch 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 19

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    Younger women dating older men mainly because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These...
    minnieccaa minnieccaa 26-30, F Jan 19

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    Younger women dating older men mainly because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These...
    minnieccaa minnieccaa 26-30, F Jan 19

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    Younger women dating older men mainly because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These...
    minnieccaa minnieccaa 26-30, F Jan 19

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    I always feel like a joke is being pulled when something good happens, and I just can't let anyone in without them destroying me.
    beautifulxxsoulxx beautifulxxsoulxx 18-21, F Jan 19

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    When I choose not to. I have a fortress of solitude and I am comfortable in my monotonous solitude.
    Minimes Minimes 31-35, F 6 days ago

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    Younger women dating older men mainly because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These...
    paulacc11 paulacc11 26-30, F Jan 3

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    Younger women dating older men mainly because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These...
    vanessacc11 vanessacc11 26-30, F Jan 4

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    If the whole world was blind, how many people would you impress?
    sayton666 sayton666 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 21

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    It's called self defense... If someone really wants to keep me...they should take their time to make feel sure about them...sorry but how things are...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I look back and wonder how she was able to break down my walls. And everyday I think of how I'm so grateful she did. She resisted any obstacle thrown at her. She came into my life...
    Audrina14 Audrina14 13-15, F Jan 4

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    *insert an essay of complaints here*
    tothestars tothestars 13-15, M Jan 19

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    I've done this as a way of protecting my feelings, I am getting better at expressing