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I Push People Away When I Am Hurt

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    When I feel I'm getting to close to someone

    or someone is getting to close I do everything to shut down and push away sometimes to see if they'll stay and what not ... Just tired of hurting
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 1 Response May 2, 2014

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed.. but if I love them most of them die or end up hating me and rejecting me anyway...  its painful. so I learnt to push them away when I was young as a means to protect...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2011

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    It's almost as though I feel I'm not deserving

    of their help. It's just so much easier to push people away and say it's fine because why should people spend their time helping me when they should be making themselves happy, I feel like when I show that I'm upset around people it brings them down, I don't want to be that...
    Nethaly Nethaly 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2014

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    I Push And Push And Push

     When I go through something troubling, I push all those I love away.  I think I got myself into this mess, I need to be the one to get myself out of it.  I don't do it intentionally, I just don't want to burden them with my problems ever.  I want to be that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    Very Guilty of This

    it doesnt make sense to me at all. When i am hurting i shut everyone out and kind of put myself in a coccoon. Its not their fault but when im hurt i can not get rid of people fast enough, i will pick fights and ignore them because i can not cope with their presense i am trying...
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M Sep 12, 2008

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    Sometimes it's even a test,

    to see if they will stay..
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23 13-15, F 1 Response May 2, 2014

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    I Do

    I always have. I'm the type of person who has to sort things out for myself. Nobody else can do it as I know me better than everyone else. I will ask for help if I really do need it, that however is really rare. When I'm hurt all I want is space to sort through what I'm going...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 3, 2012

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    Yes I often do this but eventually like to

    confront a bad situation and make it better. I hate miscommunication and silence, but that is just me.
    Johnny050 Johnny050 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 18, 2015

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    Whats the point of keeping a person around

    when you know all they are going to do is keep breaking your heart over and over again?
    DesiredUserNameandStuff DesiredUserNameandStuff 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 13, 2015

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    Always

    I always push people away when I am hurt, most of the time, I do it without meaning to, I guess it just happens. I am Just so scared to let anyone in, and so scared of getting hurt again, that I just lock my emotions up, and don't show them, And I don't let anyone else see them...
    DyinToBeLoved DyinToBeLoved 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed..
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Apr 2, 2011

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    I'm Doing It Now As I Don't Know What Else To Think...

    Like I have done so much for my co worker but now her child is all grown up, I feel like she just isn't bothered by me anymore. It hurts me that she sends pictures of him and updates on his life to other co workers but not me-the one who has looked after him for years and who...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F Jun 30, 2011

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    Always Have

    I don't know why, but I've always pushed people away when I need them the most. I guess I just figure I should be able to handle things on my own and don't want to bother anyone else iwth my petty problems. I've been doing it for as long as I can remember.
    doglover1984 doglover1984 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    And I Feel Even Worse

    When someone hurts me,i can't tell that person how i feel,and very soon i just stop talking to her/him.i want to get an apology without saying what hurt me.but i rarely get one,because nobody can read my  mind,so..i end up fighting with people i am close to (they are the...
    wilddarksick wilddarksick 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    Lick My Wounds

    There are a few animals I've been compared to, or compared myself to. One of them is a dog. When I'm hurt, I bite. Of course, I'll try to growl first.
    pratyekayan pratyekayan 18-21, M Sep 21, 2010

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    I Swear, Im Doing It Right Now.

    I know i am, and i dont care. The less people that care the better. All i have to offer is disapointment. And thats all i recieve. I cant talk to anyone of my friends right now, the few i have. I get angry at Andy for telling me that im better than i think i am. I yell at him...
    Takemewithyou Takemewithyou 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    I Push People Away..even When I Dont Want Too

    This is something that has plaqued me awhile now. Whenever I get hurt, I can't seem to get the words out without struggling so I shut down. It is a bad habit of mine but and I try hard not to do it. I don't do this to everyone I know, but I do it to the people I love and am...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    I Dont Want To But I Have To

    whenever i am hurting i push every person i love away. i hurt them because i am afraid they will hurt me. they want to help but i just cant seem to break down my wall and let people in. i scream and tell them to go away and leave me alone whist a part of me wants them to hold me...
    thisaccountisgone thisaccountisgone 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2012

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    I Do....

    I push people away when I am hurt. Its a bad habit of mine. Its a way I cope with things that are going on in my life. I push people away. Sometimes I wish someone would push back, stop me from trying to push them away.I push people away....Its something I have done all my life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    It is something I wish I didn't do.

    But for whatever reason I do.
    imnotyourfriend imnotyourfriend 41-45, M Nov 26, 2015

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    Unintentional

    I have a Big tendency to do so. I Feel the need to just be isolated when I get hurt. It's hard to open up When You are hurt. And I hate to be pressured so when I get hurt I just am a pissy person altogether. No talking to me or comforting me. Wait and allow me to Come to you I...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    I'll just end up driving those people away anyway- as I have done multiple times in the past. Most people just give me the "Oh no it's a psychopath stare."
    misanthropicpessimist misanthropicpessimist 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm a survivor, it's what I do. Even if I don't want to, if I push someone away it's because I don't trust them. Which means subconsciously I found an angle the person(s) is...
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    Its pretty weird that why sometimes despite of having countless close people around us...we feel alone and shut them off and feel uncomfortable around them. While on the other hand...
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    Hey everyone, it's my first time posting, so I will keep it short. It's also 3:45 am. I wanted to talk about my sociopathic, violent brother. This guy lied and told us in great...
    LiftedCurse LiftedCurse 31-35, M 2 days ago

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    not just wolves but many other animals to
    hawaiinpunch hawaiinpunch 18-21, M 3 days ago

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    also by the way..it'd be wolves* not wolfs.
    Cocrispy Cocrispy 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    If you have ever hurt or killed a wolf, I loathe you to the highest degree of loathing. You must burn forever in the fires of hell! And I will personally make sure you go there!
    Wolflover1999 Wolflover1999 16-17, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    quoc777 quoc777 41-45, M 4 days ago

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    I don't know if it's pushing. we have all suffered loss, some of us many losses at a very young age. I just try not to get too close to anyone. because dealing with...
    snoopymg snoopymg 36-40, F 5 days ago

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    It's a bad habit, ever since I lost someone who meant the world to me. I hated the fact that I hurt, I hated that I couldn't control my emotion so for a while I became numb. still...
    SarahWishfulJane SarahWishfulJane 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Especially people who want to be there. I've lost a brilliant friend and crush because of this. He sounded horrible, but he was just trying to help. Why did I do it? Now I think...
    CallumSimpson CallumSimpson 13-15, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    sometimes i think tht wht iz our life?nd many people dnt know meaning of our life..we have just 60-100 years for living this one life.after tht we all hav to die...so we should...
    Nowshin Nowshin 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    The truly bad thing is I don't understand how can mean sooo much to other people. But when things get too chaotic I have to quiet things down
    Gws1269 Gws1269 46-50, M 6 days ago

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    it's not on purpose but I always keep distance between me & others till I find them disappear from my life. it's because I feel if they come near they will find my weakness...
    rashahan rashahan 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I feel lonely, but here I am, pushing people away from me. It's just that the friends I have don't understand anything I say, and I'm tired of comparing myself to them.
    MaliciousInternet MaliciousInternet 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 30

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