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I Push People Away When I Am Hurt

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    Sometimes it's even a test,

    to see if they will stay..
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23 13-15, F 1 Response May 2

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    I Dont Want To But I Have To

    whenever i am hurting i push every person i love away. i hurt them because i am afraid they will hurt me. they want to help but i just cant seem to break down my wall and let people in. i scream and tell them to go away and leave me alone whist a part of me wants them to hold me...
    thisaccountisgone thisaccountisgone 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2012

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    I Push And Push And Push

     When I go through something troubling, I push all those I love away.  I think I got myself into this mess, I need to be the one to get myself out of it.  I don't do it intentionally, I just don't want to burden them with my problems ever.  I want to be that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    Always

    I always push people away when I am hurt, most of the time, I do it without meaning to, I guess it just happens. I am Just so scared to let anyone in, and so scared of getting hurt again, that I just lock my emotions up, and don't show them, And I don't let anyone else see them...
    DyinToBeLoved DyinToBeLoved 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    Always Have

    I don't know why, but I've always pushed people away when I need them the most. I guess I just figure I should be able to handle things on my own and don't want to bother anyone else iwth my petty problems. I've been doing it for as long as I can remember.
    doglover1984 doglover1984 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    I Do....

    I push people away when I am hurt. Its a bad habit of mine. Its a way I cope with things that are going on in my life. I push people away. Sometimes I wish someone would push back, stop me from trying to push them away.I push people away....Its something I have done all my life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    Unintentional

    I have a Big tendency to do so. I Feel the need to just be isolated when I get hurt. It's hard to open up When You are hurt. And I hate to be pressured so when I get hurt I just am a pissy person altogether. No talking to me or comforting me. Wait and allow me to Come to you I...
    matthewsmommy matthewsmommy 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    Hurt people hurt. So

    when im feeling like that. I do. "Push, kick", you name it l.(Not literary off course) Its wierd but thats when I need people more but dont want to feel vulnerable to be hurt again. So ironic! Twisted Irony.. Still here, still breathing.. Still going forward. God, what do you...
    Quanitta Quanitta 26-30, F Apr 19

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    I Swear, Im Doing It Right Now.

    I know i am, and i dont care. The less people that care the better. All i have to offer is disapointment. And thats all i recieve. I cant talk to anyone of my friends right now, the few i have. I get angry at Andy for telling me that im better than i think i am. I yell at him...
    Takemewithyou Takemewithyou 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    I Push People Away..even When I Dont Want Too

    This is something that has plaqued me awhile now. Whenever I get hurt, I can't seem to get the words out without struggling so I shut down. It is a bad habit of mine but and I try hard not to do it. I don't do this to everyone I know, but I do it to the people I love and am...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    I'm Doing It Now As I Don't Know What Else To Think...

    Like I have done so much for my co worker but now her child is all grown up, I feel like she just isn't bothered by me anymore. It hurts me that she sends pictures of him and updates on his life to other co workers but not me-the one who has looked after him for years and who...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F Jun 30, 2011

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    When I feel I'm getting to close to someone

    or someone is getting to close I do everything to shut down and push away sometimes to see if they'll stay and what not ... Just tired of hurting
    Ellen1503 Ellen1503 22-25, F 1 Response May 2

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    Very Guilty of This

    it doesnt make sense to me at all. When i am hurting i shut everyone out and kind of put myself in a coccoon. Its not their fault but when im hurt i can not get rid of people fast enough, i will pick fights and ignore them because i can not cope with their presense i am trying...
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M Sep 12, 2008

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    I Do

    I always have. I'm the type of person who has to sort things out for myself. Nobody else can do it as I know me better than everyone else. I will ask for help if I really do need it, that however is really rare. When I'm hurt all I want is space to sort through what I'm going...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 3, 2012

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    I just want to be alone at

    that time and sometimes I do it without noticing.
    DangerouslyMe DangerouslyMe 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 19

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed.. but if I love them most of them die or end up hating me and rejecting me anyway...  its painful. so I learnt to push them away when I was young as a means to protect...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2011

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    I Am Hexed

    i don't want to push them away and hurt them but often I do... in a nasty way... i don't know why I am hexed..
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Apr 2, 2011

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    Lick My Wounds

    There are a few animals I've been compared to, or compared myself to. One of them is a dog. When I'm hurt, I bite. Of course, I'll try to growl first.
    pratyekayan pratyekayan 18-21, M Sep 21, 2010

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    And I Feel Even Worse

    When someone hurts me,i can't tell that person how i feel,and very soon i just stop talking to her/him.i want to get an apology without saying what hurt me.but i rarely get one,because nobody can read my  mind,so..i end up fighting with people i am close to (they are the...
    wilddarksick wilddarksick 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2010

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    Someine tell me why i do this to I don't know why I do it but I've pushed away pretty much everyone who was ever there for me now and I don't know why because it hurts them...
    AmberFenning AmberFenning 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I push people away when all I really want is someone to hug me and tell me it's okay.
    skeletonskater skeletonskater 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    I push people away because I have no hope for myself. I don't believe them when they actually believe in me. I push people away because I don't want they're sympathy but down...
    lportra24 lportra24 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    I push people away because people will end up screwing you over, and I just don't want to get hurt anymore.
    Lanigga14 Lanigga14 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    The thing is sometimes there are cases where you got to push people away for your own good.
    germany100 germany100 18-21, F Aug 18

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    I love to argue and get heated and fight (verbally only) and my boyfriend hates to do those things more than anything. I always end up making him feel bad if i beg to fight and...
    yellowbelly23 yellowbelly23 16-17, F Aug 18

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    I'm making a lot of progress! We haven't been hanging a lot because he works full time and should be spending loads more time with his family since he's going to college in just a...
    yellowbelly23 yellowbelly23 16-17, F Aug 10

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    So my bf is in the army and it's all new to me. He told me today that he is nervous that I am not copping well with him being gone for a long period of time. He wanted to purpose...
    hnj320 hnj320 22-25, F Aug 18

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    It's happened in every relationship I've ever been in. There will be a great guy who I really like, and who has the potential to be an amazing boyfriend. About a month into the...
    e11e20 e11e20 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I don't like people to get close to me cause I don't want to hurt them I don't want to disappoint them. I don't want them to get dragged into my problems.
    Kelnea Kelnea 13-15, F Aug 18

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    I'm pushing my family away sometimes they are nice people and this is an awful thing to write . I talk to them sometimes but I'm trying to spend as little time with them as...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    Whenever I get attached to someone I think, this is going to hurt like a mother ******
    Wynnieskye Wynnieskye 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    I try my best to keep friends because everyone needs at least one friend but I always end up turning around and realising no one is there to catch me, I have pushed every one I...
    Jenna1248 Jenna1248 13-15, F 17 hrs ago

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    Often when I get upset over something my few friends will ask me what's wrong... My usual replies are go away or I just keep on walking. You can tell when I'm about to loose it...
    Lilwillbe Lilwillbe 13-15, F a week ago

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    I figure I'll shut them out before they have a chance to bring me down. So that way I'll spare myself more worries and drama. I can recall a few times in my life when people tried...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    Thats a main point.... As soon as I open up to people they treat me like crap and don't want to talk to me. Thats why I keep quiet.
    sisi19 sisi19 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    I'm so rude to my bf for no reason except for things inside my head...grr I always ruin good things
    mistypop182 mistypop182 26-30, F a week ago

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    A guy, a jerk said he cared for me. I really want to believe it but i know it's fake. Love i will never feel it ever.
    fuglygirlonthebench fuglygirlonthebench 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    I always do! I learned that from my father and now I'm in therapy ! Why do we do it?
    rubysmom rubysmom 51-55, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Friends travel in and out of my life constantly. I am a difficult person and I tend to shut down. I turn off the world. I wish I could find a way to fix myself. But it's just who I...
    FutureGleason FutureGleason 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    As many of you know by now, I have an obsessed office stalker. She delights in getting off on my life, either in the office or outside of it. If there's any rumors about me in...
    deepscar deepscar 46-50, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    It's like a trigger goes off in my head... And I completely shut down when I feel I've been wronged or hurt in some way sometimes I don't even realize im doing it's like my heart...
    Forbiddenkisses Forbiddenkisses 22-25, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I had to shut out two people in my life because they hurt me so much
    andreaespe andreaespe 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    you hurt me deeply b.itch, ur f.ucking words touched me.dont do that again gobshit.ı say this whn they hurt me :/
    idunnowhttodo idunnowhttodo 22-25, F Aug 16

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    It's hard to see someone I love so much be hurt, or hurt themselves. I'm here for them, I wish that they could understand that I wouldn't give up on them. It tears me apart inside...
    Bluetoxicity Bluetoxicity 18-21, F Aug 3

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    I remember the "Circle of Trust" discussions in a Ben Stiller comedy movie - De Nero tells Stiller he's found himself "outside the Circle of Trust". I laughed so hard at that...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F Aug 10

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    It hurts you know, that you shove me in the corner. One day you'll look back and I won't be there. I hope that day comes soon, I'm sick of being your after thought, your last...
    isacake isacake 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    It's so hard to find people that actually care about you and not just about your looks. I really want someone to actually be there for me, flaws and all. So far-no luck.
    KaylaY17 KaylaY17 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    Well okay the guy I like thinks he's a player and he's proud of it. He hates the idea of relationships and thinks that being attached to one women is stupid. Though he hasn't been...
    OtakuGirl911 OtakuGirl911 16-17, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I shut out everyone whenever I feel like they are going to attack me.
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago