I Push People Away

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    Yep. I just broke up with my Girlfriend cause I

    Refuse to let myself get hurt, but it still hurts like hell.
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jul 27, 2014

    I dont want to become too attached to

    people/things. I hate taking pictures/memories. I hate it when I hard a hard time letting go when everything comes to an end.
    JaneCRU JaneCRU
    18-21, F
    Dec 10, 2015

    lm so good at that people ask

    why my answer is I hate goodbuys
    imjusthere1 imjusthere1
    41-45, M
    Jan 27

    it's not on purpose but I always keep distance

    between me & others till I find them disappear from my life. it's because I feel if they come near they will find my weakness & sooner or later they will use it to hurt me which happened be4 but now I always feel lonely but I don't know what to do? I wanna have ppl in my life...
    rashahan rashahan
    31-35, F
    Jan 31

    I've spent so much time pushing people away

    and new that I've opened my eyes I see how much I've really missed out on
    sweetshadows15 sweetshadows15
    18-21, F
    Jan 19, 2015

    i'm trying to work on this.

    i don't want to always push people away. but because of my past and some of the things that i've been thru, i just dont trust people as easily as i use to but i'm trying to do better with this. it's not easy tho...
    LillyJo LillyJo
    18-21, F
    Jan 27

    Sure Way - If You Get to Close ....

    I know that this is a defense mechanism, but I can't stop. When I care for you, and you start getting to close to the 'real' me, the one who hurts, who is scared, who really needs you -- I will push you away.  It hurts me to do this - but it is so much...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 22, 2009

    I try so hard not too

    but I know they'll leave when they realize how annoying,immature,and hideous I am as a person, so I have too.today my aunt told me she thinks I'm embarrassed of my family but it's the exact opposite I feel like I come short to my families expectations
    xosydneeox xosydneeox
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 24, 2013

    Even if we're Best Friends

    after a while I will start to doubt you and unintentionally push you away.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 18, 2014

    I push people away. Not openly,

    but inadvertently and psychologically. I cause myself to be and feel alone.
    Bird488 Bird488
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 12, 2015

    I'm so guarded that I don't realize something

    good when it's right in front of me, That's probably the reason why I'm single with no kids, I pictured my life differently when I was growing up I had it all planned out, All the men who ever liked me don't even acknowledge me anymore due to the fact that I easily push them...
    MississippiGal MississippiGal
    31-35, F
    Nov 13, 2015

    Painfully Ironic

    I have a really bad habit of pushing people away in my life with an ungodly intent.  I am good at it becuase I can use words to cause destruction in the most henious way possible.  I don't do it usually unless I've been hurt, but if I have, watch out as there's no limit to my...
    Breakurselfagainstmystones Breakurselfagainstmystones
    36-40, M
    10 Responses May 15, 2011

    I push people away because I don't kno how to

    open up. I've hurt alot and don't wanna be hurt again. I don't trust easily and I like to stay to myself. I feel like no one will ever understand me
    gilbertk96 gilbertk96
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 22, 2015

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    eioncc11 eioncc11
    26-30, F
    Aug 12, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

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    julieccaa11 julieccaa11
    26-30, F
    Dec 10, 2015

    Seems to be my nature.

    I have no desire to but truth or facts about me hurt people and make them afraid of me. Im just me simple honest and sincere.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 17, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 13, 2015

    I push away every one

    that I love. I am so afraid of letting someone in..and I hate myself for it
    Jaderuby Jaderuby
    22-25, F
    Dec 21, 2014

    I have been told i have charisma.

    I attract people like nothing. I really care for people even if i don't know them. People to tend to trust me and want to be friends but i feel so guilty. I always have an urge to push them away. To get close to them enough and just burn the bridge later. ...I'm such a bad...
    hugosfbay hugosfbay
    22-25
    Jan 13

    the older i get the more ive pushed people away.

    i dont blame other people i blame myself. there is always something that makes me want to not be friends. i dont trust anyone. i think i was predestined to be alone. sometimes i think i should just come to terms with it. im a better friend from a distance.
    thegreatruiner thegreatruiner
    70+, F
    Aug 12, 2015

    It's Not Me.. It's Someone I Care About...

    I've been having a hard time dealing with it, she keeps pushing me away and I miss her.. I really do.. . I wanna talk to her, hear her voice, tell her I'm just here, but I don't know what to do.. I haven't done anything wrong.... So I needed a friend's advice.. I asked a friend...
    jazzME jazzME
    26-30, F
    Oct 30, 2011

    I have been letting too many people into my

    life, and I have been getting too strongly attached. I hate when that happens. I push people away because I don't want to burden them with my problems. I don't want to get too connected to them otherwise when they stab me in the back, it'll hurt too much.
    Smileydork Smileydork
    16-17, F
    1 Response Aug 11, 2015

    So fed up of everyone I've supported

    and given my all to over the years. I don't want to know anyone anymore. They can all f*** off. Just venting.
    js246 js246
    22-25, F
    Sep 28, 2015

    I learned that I confuse people to get them to

    communicate with me. Strange thing is that it only works with friends not with my family.
    bigheartsmallworld bigheartsmallworld
    36-40, M
    Sep 4, 2015

    Im Too Scared To Be Hurt.... So I Push U Away

    i let my first boyfriend get way too close to me and he took over my life at a young age. He controlled my thoughts, my actions and my friendships. He dictated my life for 8 years and i lost my identity as well as all my friends. So when the next man came along i was very stand...
    Happymum1313 Happymum1313
    26-30, F
    Aug 1, 2012

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    allisoncc11 allisoncc11
    26-30, F
    Aug 13, 2015

    Depression has been an unwelcome companion

    along the way It’s just like the Red Queen from Alice in Wonderland, you have to keep moving in order to just stay in the same place. I can cope…as long as I keep moving. If I stop the treadmill drags me back into to the red hot furnace behind me. I can feel the heat as I...
    Synapse81 Synapse81
    31-35, M
    1 Response Apr 12

    Only just realising how much I do it.

    Being too close to anyone just ends in pain usually caused by me. It sounds like a pity party but it isn't. It simply is what it is.
    IllusiveLittleMe IllusiveLittleMe
    31-35, F
    Oct 22, 2014

    I don't mean to hurt you,

    but I probably will. So you'd better run while you can, mate
    Nessa11231 Nessa11231
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 25, 2015

    Demanding To Be Loved

    On this rather depressing evening, something hit me. The proverbial "light bulb" went off in my head.. I realized more details about a pattern of mine. The pattern is pushing people away..especially the people who i care about the most.. Often, people i have had or currently am...
    SweetGG SweetGG
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Oct 26, 2013

    Sometimes I think I'm too messed up to be in a

    relationship. On the other hand I feel that a relationship would give new meaning to life. I wish I could get a dog, but I live in an apartment. Maybe after I move out. At least I won't be this lonely. But then I'll be at work all day so the dog would be lonely :/ Oh the...
    lukeskywalker89 lukeskywalker89
    26-30, M
    Jun 3, 2015

    All my life that is all I have ever done

    or known. Pushing people away was easier than letting people in. Letting people in means trusting them and that's hard too. Someone told me that pushing people away will make you lonely and leave you with no one. I don't want to push people away anymore.
    HuddersfieldGirl18 HuddersfieldGirl18
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 2, 2015

    I crave close relationships with people

    but I always end up pushing friends away cause I feel like they don't know the real me or something. When I'm alone I feel lonely and want to be with friends but when I'm with friends I just want to be alone. What gives?!
    marskie05 marskie05
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 23, 2014

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    annacc11 annacc11
    26-30, F
    Sep 18, 2015

    Dear romantic interests,

    I'm sorry in advance. I'm sorry for all I will put you through. It will be an up and down roller-coaster, but it will be worth it if you stay and push through. Speaking of pushing things, I may push you away at some point before we start a relationship. I'm not "friend-zoning...
    findingfae findingfae
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 19, 2015

    I Push People Away

    I have a big problem with pushing people away.... I have huge trust issues and when they come close to me I end up pushing them away when I don't want to...I just don't want to get hurt like I did in the past... and I push them away so I won't be sad when they walk out my life...
    rae16 rae16
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 7, 2012

    I'm a very negative person,

    I push people away so I can rot in my negativity. The ones I love the most get the worst. They are better off without me. I've grown to be alone. That is the way it has to be.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 7

    I don't do it aggressively.

    People don't realise that the jokes I make, I make them to build a wall between us. It's comfortable. People like funny people. So I'm safe in the knowledge of them enjoying my company, without really knowing who I am. It's difficult for me to open up. Sometimes when the...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 5, 2015

    I push everybody away I try not to

    but it's just easier to be alone. More safe and is easy to just disappear
    anestacia anestacia
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 4

    If the whole world was blind,

    how many people would you impress?
    sayton666 sayton666
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jan 21, 2015

    I'm trying to. I dealt with people

    and I'm afraid. I believe I am meant to be alone in this world. To walk this earth to view but not to feel. To care for someone is too much. Too much emotions. Too much thoughts, just too much
    EricRadliffe EricRadliffe
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 19, 2015

    I don't mean to. I'm not entirely sure why.

    But I do have some idea. It maybe because of my mouth and how I am so open about my thoughts. Then it would be because I'm too nice and I see ppl taking advantage of it. Then I'm really mean when I check them.
    phenom0086 phenom0086
    26-30, M
    1 Response Feb 14

    Family ,,, friends ,

    ,, that special someone ,,, I just don't know
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 6, 2015

    Letting go is never easy.

    .. I have tried several times, but each time I end up back where I started. When you truly love someone, no matter how much they hurt you.... You can never really leave. I tried to let go because I loved them, because in me loving them I was hurting them as well as myself. Now I...
    MrMobos MrMobos
    18-21, M
    1 Response Sep 17, 2015

    yeah I do, but I always just put trust back

    into someone. not everyone is bad ! I'm always prepared for a bad ending . but I have to learn to forgive and move on and make room for some awesome people in my life
    LOSTlo0ve LOSTlo0ve
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 11, 2015

    I don't do it on purpose.

    . I just have no idea who's gonna leave and who's gonna stay..
    myhappylittlepill myhappylittlepill
    16-17, F
    1 Response Nov 19, 2014

    I don't know if it's pushing.

    we have all suffered loss, some of us many losses at a very young age. I just try not to get too close to anyone. because dealing with being alone is easier for me than missing and mourning.
    snoopymg snoopymg
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 2

    When I get super depressed I push people away.

    All I want to be is alone. I don't want to talk, I don't want to do anything. But as soon as the depression fades, I start to want to be around that person again. And so goes my endless cycle of pushing people away, and begging them to come back. I worry that one day, I'll want...
    Smileydork Smileydork
    16-17, F
    Aug 13, 2015

    I feel lonely, but here I am,

    pushing people away from me. It's just that the friends I have don't understand anything I say, and I'm tired of comparing myself to them.
    MaliciousInternet MaliciousInternet
    13-15, F
    1 Response Jan 30

    I have a terminal illness

    and no one knows how long I have and I've been pushing people away because of it. I'm a grenade and the less people in my life the less casualties when I'm gone.
    Loislane29 Loislane29
    22-25, F
    Feb 24, 2015

    Well as usual I'm stuck in a situation

    where I don't win. At the moment I don't want to be here, though I've never wanted to be here, at the moment the feeling is worse than it has been in a long time. I just want to destroy myself through any way I possibly could... So I could try to make myself feel whole again...
    MrMobos MrMobos
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 2, 2015

    It's only after It happens do I realise what

    I've done. My trust issues with people don't seem to diminish, it's not living when all you believe is people are out to get you.
    CMC93 CMC93
    22-25, F
    Feb 16

    I Can'T Stop

    Over th years i'm not too sure how or when I did pick it up, but I've been pushing people from getting close to me almost every and any aspect. Family, relationships, friendships, etc... And its become almost a subconcious addiction,like a safey mechanism that should only be a...
    lon3lygam3r lon3lygam3r
    26-30, M
    1 Response Mar 30, 2013
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