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I Push People Away

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    I have a secret that I hide from regular folks

    (a.k.a anyone not my family). And Ive been hiding it for a very long time. I dont want people to find out and treat me different(as they've done before). So, I push people away.
    dat1kiid dat1kiid 18-21 Feb 16

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    If the whole world was blind,

    how many people would you impress?
    sayton666 sayton666 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 21

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    Just don't drag me into this situation.

    I don't want to be involved and i will pretend i know nothing. Thank you .
    myraaxx myraaxx 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    Today in school, a chinese girl from academic

    level come and approach me. But i do not feel comfortable because i want to be by my selves. I wouldn't say she is innocent , but observing her, makes me think that she really got no friends because she is a transfered student from malaysia. Here comes the thing, i want to push...
    myraaxx myraaxx 13-15, F Mar 25

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    I don't want to get attached to anyone anymore,

    it only destroys me in the end.
    mindstruggle mindstruggle 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 11

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    scared to get close to anyone

    because everyone who said that "I'll be there" left.
    msj02 msj02 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 20, 2014

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    I Push People Away

    Like most of you I had a bad childhood to. I got to know my birth parents, saw a lot of violence at an early age. Then at the age of 6 I got To be in my first group home, was there 3 different times. Nothing to brag about but at least I was safe and had food to eat, next I got...
    runawaybride3 runawaybride3 31-35 2 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    Demanding To Be Loved

    On this rather depressing evening, something hit me. The proverbial "light bulb" went off in my head.. I realized more details about a pattern of mine. The pattern is pushing people away..especially the people who i care about the most.. Often, people i have had or currently am...
    SweetGG SweetGG 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    I push away every one

    that I love. I am so afraid of letting someone in..and I hate myself for it
    Jaderuby Jaderuby 18-21, F Dec 21, 2014

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    It's Not Me.. It's Someone I Care About...

    I've been having a hard time dealing with it, she keeps pushing me away and I miss her.. I really do.. . I wanna talk to her, hear her voice, tell her I'm just here, but I don't know what to do.. I haven't done anything wrong.... So I needed a friend's advice.. I asked a friend...
    jazzME jazzME 26-30, F Oct 30, 2011

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    xcrownlessx xcrownlessx 16-17, F Jun 5

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    I have a terminal illness

    and no one knows how long I have and I've been pushing people away because of it. I'm a grenade and the less people in my life the less casualties when I'm gone.
    Loislane29 Loislane29 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 24

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    I Used To Push Away The Wrong People...

    ...nowadays, I only push away toxic people who try to drag others down with them. Like so many others with a lack of self-respect, I used to push away decent and supportive people, and it is a surprise that I am still on speaking terms with at least a couple of them today. To...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 2, 2012

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    Painfully Ironic

    I have a really bad habit of pushing people away in my life with an ungodly intent.  I am good at it becuase I can use words to cause destruction in the most henious way possible.  I don't do it usually unless I've been hurt, but if I have, watch out as there's no limit to my...
    Breakurselfagainstmystones Breakurselfagainstmystones 36-40, M 10 Responses May 15, 2011

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    All my life that is all I have ever done

    or known. Pushing people away was easier than letting people in. Letting people in means trusting them and that's hard too. Someone told me that pushing people away will make you lonely and leave you with no one. I don't want to push people away anymore.
    HuddersfieldGirl18 HuddersfieldGirl18 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 11

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    I don't mean to hurt you,

    but I probably will. So you'd better run while you can, mate
    Nessa11231 Nessa11231 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 25

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    I have a "leave them

    before they leave me" mentality. It takes a special person who knows this about me and doesn't accept my resignation. If you allow me to leave, you won't be bothered by me again. If you want to see me, you have to make me feel it.
    CaliGirl71 CaliGirl71 41-45, F Mar 17

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    I've spent so much time pushing people away

    and new that I've opened my eyes I see how much I've really missed out on
    sweetshadows15 sweetshadows15 16-17, F Jan 19

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    I Push People Away

    I have a big problem with pushing people away.... I have huge trust issues and when they come close to me I end up pushing them away when I don't want to...I just don't want to get hurt like I did in the past... and I push them away so I won't be sad when they walk out my life...
    rae16 rae16 18-21, F 4 Responses May 7, 2012

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    Yep. I just broke up with my Girlfriend cause I

    Refuse to let myself get hurt, but it still hurts like hell.
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 27, 2014

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    I've realized that over the years,

    the fee people that have approached me have always ended up leaving me because of my "defensive barrier." Because of this, a person who could have been a good friend to me last year ended up acting indifferent towards me- I can't feel free with the pressure of not being...
    Sil833 Sil833 18-21, F May 10

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    Sure Way - If You Get to Close ....

    I know that this is a defense mechanism, but I can't stop. When I care for you, and you start getting to close to the 'real' me, the one who hurts, who is scared, who really needs you -- I will push you away.  It hurts me to do this - but it is so much...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 22, 2009

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    I Like Being Alone But I Hate That I Love It

    i had a hard childhood screw it i had a hard life. still do. i battle myself constantly. i love being alone. when im with people i get anxious and sometimes a little intimidating. i push everyone who loves me away. i am alone, because i made it this way. but i hate it also. i...
    shadowhuntersoforegon shadowhuntersoforegon 22-25, F Mar 31, 2012

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    I don't want to But i just do bc I'm

    so scared that I'm not good enough for them
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 1

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    Yeah... It kind of sucks to be honest.

    I just don't want to drag anyone into the hell that's called my thought process.
    RandomExistence RandomExistence 16-17, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I try so hard not too

    but I know they'll leave when they realize how annoying,immature,and hideous I am as a person, so I have too.today my aunt told me she thinks I'm embarrassed of my family but it's the exact opposite I feel like I come short to my families expectations
    xosydneeox xosydneeox 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    Dear romantic interests,

    I'm sorry in advance. I'm sorry for all I will put you through. It will be an up and down roller-coaster, but it will be worth it if you stay and push through. Speaking of pushing things, I may push you away at some point before we start a relationship. I'm not "friend-zoning...
    findingfae findingfae 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    I don't want to get hurt anymore

    than I already have.
    purplepaperdragons purplepaperdragons 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    I don't do it on purpose.

    . I just have no idea who's gonna leave and who's gonna stay..
    myhappylittlepill myhappylittlepill 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2014

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    I'm almost there. I keep pushing people away

    so I can disappear. Driving away soon...I can make it look like an accident. Just "accidentally" crash the car and die. Be gone and no one would know.
    jackjack600 jackjack600 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    I'm trying to. I dealt with people

    and I'm afraid. I believe I am meant to be alone in this world. To walk this earth to view but not to feel. To care for someone is too much. Too much emotions. Too much thoughts, just too much
    EricRadliffe EricRadliffe 18-21, M 1 Response May 19

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    I keep my distance from others

    because I don't want to be hurt again and I don't want to hurt others. People try to make friends with me and all I do is ignore them so I can be left alone.
    MidnightDragons MidnightDragons 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    even when i dont want to,

    so that they cant **** me up.. and it scares me even more if it has been a while and they havent hurt me, i just find love disgusting, unreal
    KatherineSnow KatherineSnow 18-21, F Jan 21

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    I do understand why do I push away guys

    that have a crush on me. I mean I don't want to do it but is just automatically happens. I hate that not only that but why the **** would they even confess after 2 days of talking and why do they even hit on me when they even barely know me. In a way they kinda deserve it but...
    Didi33 Didi33 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    I crave close relationships with people

    but I always end up pushing friends away cause I feel like they don't know the real me or something. When I'm alone I feel lonely and want to be with friends but when I'm with friends I just want to be alone. What gives?!
    marskie05 marskie05 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 23, 2014

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    Become a ***** and people don't want anything

    to do with you. That's what I did and it's working :)
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F Mar 25

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    I am pushing away the only people

    that I want to let in because I just don't want them to see me as a crazy person now they won't reply and I just want to break down and cry about it....
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    I push people away because I know nowadays

    everyone is fake. There's no such thing as real friends anymore. I'm just glad that I have my real friends (even if I'm not close to most of them) before it was too late. I don't want to make any new friends because I don't trust anyone. No one wants to be your friend because of...
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 25

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    Younger Women are more Willing to Marry Older

    Men. A recent survey measured people’s attitudes about marrying a partner either older or younger than themselves. The survey results showed that women were significantly more willing than men, to marry a partner who was 5 years older than they were. On the other hand, it also...
    Donnaccaa Donnaccaa 26-30, F Feb 3

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    Many young women today are a bit tired of the

    usual relationships that they have with men of their age. This is why it is no surprise nowadays that we see a lot of Younger Women Older Men Dating . Are you a man looking for a younger woman, or a woman seeking an older man? Everyone has their preferences in relationships...
    celinecc11 celinecc11 26-30, F Feb 2

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    It what the deserve. I have to

    before they hurt me. For once I want someone to say " no I'm staying." But after all they hurt me :( just go and leave me alone to like someone else. I'm use to it anyways lol
    EricRadliffe EricRadliffe 18-21, M Feb 1

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    No matter who it is, friends,

    family.., I start to feel insecure and push them away.. I don't even realise I do it and it's starting to become a scourge.. I hate it.. 😢
    IrishRedhead IrishRedhead 18-21, F Feb 3

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    Im Too Scared To Be Hurt.... So I Push U Away

    i let my first boyfriend get way too close to me and he took over my life at a young age. He controlled my thoughts, my actions and my friendships. He dictated my life for 8 years and i lost my identity as well as all my friends. So when the next man came along i was very stand...
    Happymum1313 Happymum1313 26-30, F Aug 1, 2012

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    Sometimes I think I'm too messed up to be in a

    relationship. On the other hand I feel that a relationship would give new meaning to life. I wish I could get a dog, but I live in an apartment. Maybe after I move out. At least I won't be this lonely. But then I'll be at work all day so the dog would be lonely :/ Oh the...
    lukeskywalker89 lukeskywalker89 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 3

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    I've always pushed people away.

    I feel better by myself. I've always been independent and hated asking for help....I know that I can't always depend on myself though. So, I don't understand why I push people away when all they want to do is help me.
    GreenEyess GreenEyess 16-17, F Feb 4

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    Even if we're Best Friends

    after a while I will start to doubt you and unintentionally push you away.