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I Push People Away

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    Good Ridance.

    I love meeting new people but if I feel I'm getting too close to a person I push them away. I just cut them off from my life. I try to find something wrong with that person and run away from something that could possible lead to a wonderful friendship. I guess it's because we...
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 25, 2012

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    I Feel Comfortable Being Alone

     I am friendly with everyone, easy to talk with, a good listner and can make peaple laugh. But there is always this red line, a front that I can't let people pass it. Once I feel that I am getting closer with anyone, I withdraw immediatly, especially with friends. I ...
    ransha ransha 26-30, F 9 Responses Mar 5, 2009

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    Demanding To Be Loved

    On this rather depressing evening, something hit me. The proverbial "light bulb" went off in my head.. I realized more details about a pattern of mine. The pattern is pushing people away..especially the people who i care about the most.. Often, people i have had or currently am...
    SweetGG SweetGG 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    Hurt

    I don't have this issue, but the best friend I ever had does. We met in febuary 2012. She practicly moved into my house shortly after that. She never left, we did everything together, we were buds, we read eachothers minds. I never had anyone treat me the way she did. I knew she...
    oximoronjes oximoronjes 26-30, F Sep 14, 2012

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    Isolation.

    I don't want to get too close to anyone. So many loved ones have walked out of my life when they told me they wouldn't. I can't blame anyone but myself. It really is my fault and I don't want anyone to tell me otherwise. I don't know what to believe anymore.
    nostalgickittens nostalgickittens 13-15 1 Response Nov 1, 2013

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    I try so hard not too

    but I know they'll leave when they realize how annoying,immature,and hideous I am as a person, so I have too.today my aunt told me she thinks I'm embarrassed of my family but it's the exact opposite I feel like I come short to my families expectations
    xosydneeox xosydneeox 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    Yup I do this all the time with guys

    once they do something that hurts me say something to offend me or mess up in any little way I start I push them away it's cycle since my last relationship (5years) I haven't had anything longer then a month (happily)
    lostgirl1993 lostgirl1993 18-21, F Feb 27

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    The Cafe...

    Every where I go reminds me of her now, even now I am sitting in the cafe and I remember being here with her. I hate this feeling, I am tired of missing people because I push them away because I am scared of how they make me feel. X
    BrokenAngel35 BrokenAngel35 31-35, F Oct 3, 2013

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    I Didn't Mean To..

    i push people away alot and i did not mean to.  I guess it comes natually because I'm a loner at heart i guess...
    shadowwings shadowwings 18-21, F 5 Responses May 30, 2010

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    Good and Bad?

     I've always pushed people away. Okay, not pushed, but shoved.  I guess in some ways it proves to be useful.  I don't have "fake" friends.  On the other hand, I assume I miss a lot of potential relationships.   
    Seattlegirl Seattlegirl 16-18, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2008

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    I keep pushing away the one good thing I have

    in my life. I'm so insecure and I guess you could say paranoid when it comes to my boyfriend about the dumbest things. We have a rocky last with him cheating on my with my best friend, ex friend now. So the past has brought on so many problems. He hides his plans from me and it...
    courtneyxchaos courtneyxchaos 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 22

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    Pre-emptive?

    I think it comes from my lack of self confidence. I am afraid of being me, afraid that if I am me, nobody will like me. You would think that after living in my skin for 47 years that I would be comfortable in it by now, but I really am not. Some people do like me, of course...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 19, 2012

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    Whatever

    Well, there's a reason I do it. Most of the people I associate with are dickheads! They just dont give a **** about anyone other than themselves, including the *person* I confided in most. I just hate the human ******* race
    LeaveAndTakeMeWithYou LeaveAndTakeMeWithYou 18-21, F 3 Responses May 17, 2008

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    I Can'T Stop

    Over th years i'm not too sure how or when I did pick it up, but I've been pushing people from getting close to me almost every and any aspect. Family, relationships, friendships, etc... And its become almost a subconcious addiction,like a safey mechanism that should only be a...
    lon3lygam3r lon3lygam3r 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 30, 2013

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    I Like Being Alone But I Hate That I Love It

    i had a hard childhood screw it i had a hard life. still do. i battle myself constantly. i love being alone. when im with people i get anxious and sometimes a little intimidating. i push everyone who loves me away. i am alone, because i made it this way. but i hate it also. i...
    shadowhuntersoforegon shadowhuntersoforegon 22-25, F Mar 31, 2012

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    That Is That

    A few minutes to post my important personal experience,  I can do that, however, connecting with people is what I cant seem to experience.  I am a loner of sorts,  I do have trust issues and they are not nagotiable.   I do not hate ,  ...
    judahcole judahcole 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 8, 2010

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    ... Yeah...

    I sure do. I get attached way too easy.. and my heart goes all out. and I've been done with it. I'm kinda tired of "my friends" stepping on it.. like I'm some kind of rock to kick when they're bored or pissed off about something. Not my fault your life sucks. Everyone has...
    Cosreal Cosreal 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 11, 2012

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    Oh My, There's A Group For Everything, Eh?

    Okay, well I could probably write a book on this particular topic because it has truthfully been the story of my life.  I consider myself to be a pretty good guy with a pretty bad past when it comes to family and that has caused terrible trust issues.  I make a great...
    lonely031 lonely031 31-35 Dec 4, 2011

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    Admittedly...

    I’m the type of person who is destined to feel lonely in this world and I’d rather be lonely by my own doing than by others’. So I push people away and I make myself difficult and disagreeable...I maintain impossible standards for myself and friendships. I guess I'm ok...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 22, 2013

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    I Push People Away Until He Came. . .now I'm Pushing Him Away

    I don't know what to do...PLEASE HELP!!! Every time I felt myself starting to LIKE a guy I would drop them. Just stop talking to them, calling them back etc. It was to the point that we couldn't have any contact or communication whatsoever. The guy simply didn't exist anymore...
    designerj1987 designerj1987 22-25, F Nov 27, 2012

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    Since I was a young girl I always loved the

    thought of being in love, getting married and having the fairy-tale life. I thought this until my dad broke my heart he was the first person to do this and I never thought somebody could do this to anyone let alone their daughter. My mum helped build my broken heart over the...
    undefinedhope undefinedhope 18-21, F Feb 13

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    I hate people. Just everything in our nature.

    Our human nature to get jealous. Our human nature to make bad mistakes, which can f-up everything. &So much more. I just don't understand why we're created like this. Of course sometimes it can do good but and can also do bad. Oh, and what about our human nature feelings. Like...
    ThatGirlAhtumn ThatGirlAhtumn 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2013

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    I Push People Away

    Like most of you I had a bad childhood to. I got to know my birth parents, saw a lot of violence at an early age. Then at the age of 6 I got To be in my first group home, was there 3 different times. Nothing to brag about but at least I was safe and had food to eat, next I got...
    runawaybride3 runawaybride3 31-35 2 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    Please Just Go Away...but Stay.

    You're so flipping irritating and clingy. I appreciate and am grateful for all the care that you show to me, but I don't like the extents you go to to show me how much you like/care about me. It was cute for a little bit, but then it just got annoying. And then you act all hurt...
    behindthefacade behindthefacade 16-17, F Jun 16, 2012

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    I Don't Let People Get Close To Me

    I seem to push people away..guys in particular. Every time I'm talking to a guy or have the possibility of getting into a relationship with them...I push them away. The guys will tell me how much they like me and will even ask me out. And then I completely shut down and brush off...
    ladidoddy ladidoddy 18-21, F Oct 26, 2012

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    I'm tearing apart my relationship with my

    boyfriend whom I love. I can't seem to let myself be happy.
    Encumbered Encumbered 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    I Will Say Something..

    I opened up a little bit and let you in,I told you how i felt but you turned it around,Then i felt rejected so i pushed a bit more,But i will swallow my pride and say goodbye,I will hide what i feel behind the dark side,You gave up on me and i will give up on you!Goodbye! x
    BrokenAngel35 BrokenAngel35 31-35, F Nov 16, 2013

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    I Am Alone

    I push people away I quit my job three weeks ago (I worked with my ex) and I have not communicated with anyone I knew or worked with. I believe that to prevent myself from being hurt I should remain alone.
    neiljward85 neiljward85 26-30 Sep 7, 2012

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    I Tried, Really Tried

    I have written a story here previously about how comfortable I feel when I am alone, but then decided to give it another try and reach out to friends and relatives. And by reaching out, I mean having more interaction with them, but soon I found out that it was not a good idea. I...
    ransha ransha 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 31, 2010

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    Why Do I Hurt Ppl I Care About

    Why do I exist I bring no happiness no joy, I'm a pestering sore that festers in your life I'm not a bad person my intentions are good but all of my life I've been miss understood, your judgment and cold eyes made me who I am today a cold person with a personality of decay and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 30, 2012

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    I Push People Away

    I have a big problem with pushing people away.... I have huge trust issues and when they come close to me I end up pushing them away when I don't want to...I just don't want to get hurt like I did in the past... and I push them away so I won't be sad when they walk out my life...
    rae16 rae16 18-21, F 3 Responses May 7, 2012

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    Afraid Of Rejection

    I push people away because im afaid they will reject me for who i really am. I build a wall to those who believe they are close to me. I have a mask that sheilds me from reality. I'm hurting in the inside, but i say nothing because i dont want to be alone anymore then i already...
    forgettable009 forgettable009 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 14, 2012

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    I have commitment issues

    so when someone starts to get close I get scared and I try to push them away. I don't like doing this because I often care about the people I'm pushing away. Like my exes I've broken up with all my bfs after they told me they loved me I don't know why and then they continue to...
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    Im Too Scared To Be Hurt.... So I Push U Away

    i let my first boyfriend get way too close to me and he took over my life at a young age. He controlled my thoughts, my actions and my friendships. He dictated my life for 8 years and i lost my identity as well as all my friends. So when the next man came along i was very stand...
    Happymum1313 Happymum1313 26-30, F Aug 1, 2012

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    The Reoccuring Process

    Everything starts out just fine. I meet people and we pretty much hit it off well for a few days or weeks. Then things change. I begin to feel as though we have no connections or relate to each other anymore .I become more distant. I start to show my colors a whole lot more. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 30, 2012

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    Feel Like My Heart Has Forgotten How To Open

    so, briefly, was in a bad rship from when i was 18-30, not physically abusive, but mentally, emotionally, financially crippling. i managed to leave, started up on my own, no children, thank goodness. met a guy, fell (i thought) totally in love, was quite sure he was the one, bla...
    starchild81 starchild81 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    Smile And Act Oblivious

    Fine, maybe I really did understand that some people who approached me were trying to be friends. Maybe I'm a little paranoid when I wonder what the hell the point of that is. (what are you after?!) Maybe I should stop being just an acquaintance who only interacts with them...
    Dyssey Dyssey 70+, F Aug 15, 2013

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    Sure Way - If You Get to Close ....

    I know that this is a defense mechanism, but I can't stop. When I care for you, and you start getting to close to the 'real' me, the one who hurts, who is scared, who really needs you -- I will push you away.  It hurts me to do this - but it is so much...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 22, 2009

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    I've Pushed Away Everyone I've Ever Known

    and I don't even know why. I can't stand to be close to people, it freaks me out and drives me up the wall. I hate when people know everything about me. I've driven away all of my friends, and now I'm so closed up I can't make any more. Some days I feel like a recluse, just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 26, 2011

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    I tend to push my current boyfriend away.

    He doens't deserve that. So every time he opens up and tells me what bothers him, I feel extremely guilty straight away. He is a sweet person, he is (thank god) not the clingy, overcaring, jealous type. He' s funny and cuddly, he barely gets mad (... found out yesterday that he...
    Guuguubarra Guuguubarra 26-30, F Dec 26, 2013

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    Inner Voice

    I do it all the time. I'm quite hard to like so when I finally find someone who is compatibile with me, I start pushing away that person. I don't want to, I always think that I want a true friend, but when that occasion happens, I'm too scared to let that person in. I think...
    sat321 sat321 18-21, M 5 Responses May 23, 2010

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    My Thoughts Over A Standerd Week

    I'm a worthless insensitive thoughtless piece of **** who doesn't deserve to be loved, I try to make decisions of what I think is best for others without consulting or hearing their opinion, for what I did I should never be forgiven, I feel like I should vanish from this life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 30, 2012

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    I Inadvertently Pushed Away A Very Cute Woman

    It was a usual wednesday night, and my brain hurt and my energy was spent; I had succesfully studied for 8 hours. In the meantime, a beautiful, albeit very short, asian girl had sat down next to me. As I got up to leave, I she slammed her multivariable calculus book shut and...
    Calicoder Calicoder 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 8, 2012

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    It's Not Me.. It's Someone I Care About...

    I've been having a hard time dealing with it, she keeps pushing me away and I miss her.. I really do.. . I wanna talk to her, hear her voice, tell her I'm just here, but I don't know what to do.. I haven't done anything wrong.... So I needed a friend's advice.. I asked a friend...
    jazzME jazzME 26-30, F Oct 30, 2011

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    All The Time.

    Its what I do. When I feel like I'm getting to close to someone I just back off and go MIA. I wish I wouldn't do that but when you get hurt so many times being alone seems to be the best option. I've learned to not depend on anyone and to keep my expectations rather low. No...
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2013

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    I've Changed Because Of You

    It feels like EP is the only place where people can understand this.  More than that, there are people here who actually do it. I feel the strong urge - a sad urge - to push you away ...  because I'm afraid of hurting you. So go on, please just go away.  Go back...
    TheThird TheThird 36-40 1 Response Aug 8, 2010

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    I crave close relationships with people

    but I always end up pushing friends away cause I feel like they don't know the real me or something. When I'm alone I feel lonely and want to be with friends but when I'm with friends I just want to be alone. What gives?!
    marskie05 marskie05 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I Used To Push Away The Wrong People...

    ...nowadays, I only push away toxic people who try to drag others down with them. Like so many others with a lack of self-respect, I used to push away decent and supportive people, and it is a surprise that I am still on speaking terms with at least a couple of them today. To...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 2, 2012

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    Because they will eventually leave.

    they always do.so why not be the bigger person and save them the hustle
    jollie90 jollie90 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2013

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    Hate Who I Am..

    I feel the more I get to know myself the more issues I've come to discover. One of my biggest issues is the way I feel about myself. When I sit down and think about who I am it's hard for me to find a single thing I love about myself. . I find it hard to believe someone would...
    best0fme best0fme 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 4, 2011

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    I never used to be like this,

    but ever since I lost my first best friend in 8th grade, I feel like something happened to me. Like I never want another person to be that close to me because I'm afraid of getting hurt. It could also be that everyone around me is kind of a jerk… and I don't mean thats their...
    dessertqueen dessertqueen 16-17, F Feb 27

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    I Push And Push..

    I don't mean to say the things i do, i don't mean to tell you to leave me alone the words just flip out my mouth and i regret it as soon as i have said it. I get this ache in my heart esp when i feel you have just gave up on me that easily, i guess i am used to people just saying...
    BrokenAngel35 BrokenAngel35 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 30, 2013

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    I don't do it intentionally. Sometimes if I'm in a rut, I keep to myself and leave others alone. Its a fault I have, but no one's perfect. I rather dwell and deal with my own...
    BobFrost BobFrost 36-40, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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