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    I Push People Away

    I have a big problem with pushing people away.... I have huge trust issues and when they come close to me I end up pushing them away when I don't want to...I just don't want to get hurt like I did in the past... and I push them away so I won't be sad when they walk out my life...
    rae16 rae16 18-21, F 4 Responses May 7, 2012

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    Sometimes I think I'm too messed up to be in a

    relationship. On the other hand I feel that a relationship would give new meaning to life. I wish I could get a dog, but I live in an apartment. Maybe after I move out. At least I won't be this lonely. But then I'll be at work all day so the dog would be lonely :/ Oh the...
    lukeskywalker89 lukeskywalker89 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 3, 2015

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    I Can'T Stop

    Over th years i'm not too sure how or when I did pick it up, but I've been pushing people from getting close to me almost every and any aspect. Family, relationships, friendships, etc... And its become almost a subconcious addiction,like a safey mechanism that should only be a...
    lon3lygam3r lon3lygam3r 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 30, 2013

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    All my life that is all I have ever done

    or known. Pushing people away was easier than letting people in. Letting people in means trusting them and that's hard too. Someone told me that pushing people away will make you lonely and leave you with no one. I don't want to push people away anymore.
    HuddersfieldGirl18 HuddersfieldGirl18 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 2, 2015

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    I feel lonely, but here I am,

    pushing people away from me. It's just that the friends I have don't understand anything I say, and I'm tired of comparing myself to them.
    MaliciousInternet MaliciousInternet 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 30

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    I don't do it on purpose.

    . I just have no idea who's gonna leave and who's gonna stay..
    myhappylittlepill myhappylittlepill 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2014

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    I dont want to become too attached to

    people/things. I hate taking pictures/memories. I hate it when I hard a hard time letting go when everything comes to an end.
    moccatiramisu moccatiramisu 18-21, F Dec 10, 2015

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    I have a terminal illness

    and no one knows how long I have and I've been pushing people away because of it. I'm a grenade and the less people in my life the less casualties when I'm gone.
    Loislane29 Loislane29 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 24, 2015

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    Letting go is never easy.

    .. I have tried several times, but each time I end up back where I started. When you truly love someone, no matter how much they hurt you.... You can never really leave. I tried to let go because I loved them, because in me loving them I was hurting them as well as myself. Now I...
    MrMobos MrMobos 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 17, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    eioncc11 eioncc11 26-30, F Aug 12, 2015

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    it's not on purpose but I always keep distance

    between me & others till I find them disappear from my life. it's because I feel if they come near they will find my weakness & sooner or later they will use it to hurt me which happened be4 but now I always feel lonely but I don't know what to do? I wanna have ppl in my life...
    rashahan rashahan 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    Yep. I just broke up with my Girlfriend cause I

    Refuse to let myself get hurt, but it still hurts like hell.
    KarleeJo23 KarleeJo23 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 27, 2014

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    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 13, 2015

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    I was searching for a support group to help me

    understand why I push people away. I found this site & I thought to myself, "why not?." In all reality I know why. I've been carrying a burden since I was 9. Tonight I realized I lost some of the people I loved. My boyfriend & close friends. I always push people away when I feel...
    Chaparita9 Chaparita9 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 23, 2015

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    I'm so guarded that I don't realize something

    good when it's right in front of me, That's probably the reason why I'm single with no kids, I pictured my life differently when I was growing up I had it all planned out, All the men who ever liked me don't even acknowledge me anymore due to the fact that I easily push them...
    ManicDiva85 ManicDiva85 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 13, 2015

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    I have been told i have charisma.

    I attract people like nothing. I really care for people even if i don't know them. People to tend to trust me and want to be friends but i feel so guilty. I always have an urge to push them away. To get close to them enough and just burn the bridge later. ...I'm such a bad...
    hugosfbay hugosfbay 22-25 Jan 13

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    Yeah... It kind of sucks to be honest.

    I just don't want to drag anyone into the hell that's called my thought process.
    RandomExistence RandomExistence 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 28, 2015

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    Well as usual I'm stuck in a situation

    where I don't win. At the moment I don't want to be here, though I've never wanted to be here, at the moment the feeling is worse than it has been in a long time. I just want to destroy myself through any way I possibly could... So I could try to make myself feel whole again...
    MrMobos MrMobos 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 2, 2015

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    I don't want to But i just do bc I'm

    so scared that I'm not good enough for them
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 1, 2015

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    I don't know if it's pushing.

    we have all suffered loss, some of us many losses at a very young age. I just try not to get too close to anyone. because dealing with being alone is easier for me than missing and mourning.
    snoopymg snoopymg 36-40, F Feb 2

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    Family ,,, friends ,

    ,, that special someone ,,, I just don't know
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 6, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    annacc11 annacc11 26-30, F Sep 18, 2015

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    i'm trying to work on this.

    i don't want to always push people away. but because of my past and some of the things that i've been thru, i just dont trust people as easily as i use to but i'm trying to do better with this. it's not easy tho...
    LillyJo LillyJo 18-21, F Jan 27

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    lm so good at that people ask

    why my answer is I hate goodbuys
    imjusthere1 imjusthere1 41-45, M Jan 27

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    yeah I do, but I always just put trust back

    into someone. not everyone is bad ! I'm always prepared for a bad ending . but I have to learn to forgive and move on and make room for some awesome people in my life
    LOSTlo0ve LOSTlo0ve 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 11, 2015

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    I push people away because I don't kno how to

    open up. I've hurt alot and don't wanna be hurt again. I don't trust easily and I like to stay to myself. I feel like no one will ever understand me
    gilbertk96 gilbertk96 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 22, 2015

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    I've always pushed people away.

    I feel better by myself. I've always been independent and hated asking for help....I know that I can't always depend on myself though. So, I don't understand why I push people away when all they want to do is help me.
    GreenEyess GreenEyess 18-21, F Feb 4, 2015

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    I push people away. Not openly,

    but inadvertently and psychologically. I cause myself to be and feel alone.
    Bird488 Bird488 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 12, 2015

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    If the whole world was blind,

    how many people would you impress?
    sayton666 sayton666 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 21, 2015

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    I don't do it aggressively.

    People don't realise that the jokes I make, I make them to build a wall between us. It's comfortable. People like funny people. So I'm safe in the knowledge of them enjoying my company, without really knowing who I am. It's difficult for me to open up. Sometimes when the...
    sophiebelle27 sophiebelle27 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 5, 2015

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    Seems to be my nature.

    I have no desire to but truth or facts about me hurt people and make them afraid of me. Im just me simple honest and sincere.
    Michelle41011 Michelle41011 41-45, T 1 Response Aug 17, 2015

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    So fed up of everyone I've supported

    and given my all to over the years. I don't want to know anyone anymore. They can all f*** off. Just venting.
    js246 js246 22-25, F Sep 28, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    julieccaa11 julieccaa11 26-30, F Dec 10, 2015

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    I've spent so much time pushing people away

    and new that I've opened my eyes I see how much I've really missed out on
    sweetshadows15 sweetshadows15 16-17, F Jan 19, 2015

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    I try so hard not too

    but I know they'll leave when they realize how annoying,immature,and hideous I am as a person, so I have too.today my aunt told me she thinks I'm embarrassed of my family but it's the exact opposite I feel like I come short to my families expectations
    xosydneeox xosydneeox 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    allisoncc11 allisoncc11 26-30, F Aug 13, 2015

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    I don't mean to hurt you,

    but I probably will. So you'd better run while you can, mate
    Nessa11231 Nessa11231 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 25, 2015

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    I learned that I confuse people to get them to

    communicate with me. Strange thing is that it only works with friends not with my family.
    bigheartsmallworld bigheartsmallworld 36-40, M Sep 4, 2015

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    Sure Way - If You Get to Close ....

    I know that this is a defense mechanism, but I can't stop. When I care for you, and you start getting to close to the 'real' me, the one who hurts, who is scared, who really needs you -- I will push you away.  It hurts me to do this - but it is so much...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 4 Responses Feb 22, 2009

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    Even if we're Best Friends

    after a while I will start to doubt you and unintentionally push you away.
    Holmesdown Holmesdown 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 18, 2014

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    When I get super depressed I push people away.

    All I want to be is alone. I don't want to talk, I don't want to do anything. But as soon as the depression fades, I start to want to be around that person again. And so goes my endless cycle of pushing people away, and begging them to come back. I worry that one day, I'll want...
    AngelAmongClouds AngelAmongClouds 13-15, F Aug 13, 2015

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    the older i get the more ive pushed people away.

    i dont blame other people i blame myself. there is always something that makes me want to not be friends. i dont trust anyone. i think i was predestined to be alone. sometimes i think i should just come to terms with it. im a better friend from a distance.
    thegreatruiner thegreatruiner 70+, F Aug 12, 2015

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    I crave close relationships with people

    but I always end up pushing friends away cause I feel like they don't know the real me or something. When I'm alone I feel lonely and want to be with friends but when I'm with friends I just want to be alone. What gives?!
    marskie05 marskie05 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 23, 2014

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    Im Too Scared To Be Hurt.... So I Push U Away

    i let my first boyfriend get way too close to me and he took over my life at a young age. He controlled my thoughts, my actions and my friendships. He dictated my life for 8 years and i lost my identity as well as all my friends. So when the next man came along i was very stand...
    Happymum1313 Happymum1313 26-30, F Aug 1, 2012

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    I push away every one

    that I love. I am so afraid of letting someone in..and I hate myself for it
    Jaderuby Jaderuby 22-25, F Dec 21, 2014

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