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I Put Other People's Happiness Before My Own

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    I don't even know where to start.

    Im beyond emotionally drained. I'm kind of a wreck. And realistically I know my life could be much worse but right now I cant handle everything. My uncle just died, my dad has been sick for six months and now they're testing him for cancer, and we are probably going to have put...
    Smileandbehappy Smileandbehappy 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2013

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    Selfless

    It makes me happy to be selfless. I do what I can to make others happy, although lately because of circumstances beyond my control, I have nothing to offer anyone in the way of happiness. But in life, I think one of the most important things anyone can do is be selfless and...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F Oct 24, 2010

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    2 Lovers Walk and the Other .... Well ....

      i have blocked him from my heart ! mind! and soul!! we have a romantic story..... but i met her first and she is a good soul , she is in love and she has'nt had a broken heart .... mine is mushed ,broken ,  dirty with spit and foot prints  , it cant be used...
    AnaRosa AnaRosa 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 3, 2008

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    Is This Love?

    I am a Catholic and have been dating a Muslim girl in a Muslim country. I know all odds are against us but I have been more than willing to fight it out till the last. The community is against this relationship and despite the family knowing me well, they have been forced to...
    lgiv2 lgiv2 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 17, 2012

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    Too Often

    Its something I've come to notice in my life, that I put others happiness before my own. Now that I have put some real thought into it, doing that has brought me nothing but disappointment because while I was helping others achieve their own happiness I was not helping myself...
    Breathe6 Breathe6 22-25, M Feb 4, 2012

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    Love to Help

    ...i dont want to put anyone down with my depression here...we all have problems and i dont want to add to them...it just hurts to know that i am the cause of the pain... ...i put the happiness of other people before my own...i know how it feels like to be sad, lonely, depressed...
    ConLocura ConLocura 18-21, F Aug 24, 2009

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    Happiness

    Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. :)
    gr8jesus gr8jesus 51-55, M Oct 22, 2010

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    Always

    I put other people's happiness before my own. I always have and I am pretty sure I always will. I love to make sure the ones that I care about are always happy and have what they want and need. And I will go without something to let someone else have it if they want it. I don't...
    Sweetheartxoxo Sweetheartxoxo 26-30, F May 27, 2008

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    It Depends On the Situation...

    It depends on the situation John, but in the case of my mother-in-law, no.  Ha, kidding.  I don't even have a mother-in-law.  You should have seen the look on your face!
    Sillyspock Sillyspock 18-21, F Oct 1, 2008

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    Next Step?

    I am so caught up in others emotional needs, I neglect my own. I think through therapy I have found, that not only do I Not want others to feel through some of the pain I've gone through. But the bigger part of it is, I don't think I am worth it, or deserving of happiness. I...
    rainmoon rainmoon 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 11, 2010

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    I Do

    g-ma and i received an unexpected small sum of money recently, 99 dollars, instead of going out to eat, we bought a new tire for our grandaughters bike and than paid for them and their mother to go to the local waterslide, we stayed home and held hands, we were very very happy...
    leosdisciple leosdisciple 51-55, M Aug 2, 2011

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    Happiness

    I have spent forever trying to be somebody Im not, trying to make others happy and putting myself last or not at all. I dont know if I know who I am anymore. How do I find myself? How can I be happy again and laugh and smile and not feel the hurt that I continue to feel over and...
    krystal1115 krystal1115 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    I Think You Create Happiness Within Yourself When You Create It For Others!

    Promoting happiness is the best thing. Making people smile is amazing. I have created a page with a simple concept whereby people share one good thing that they experienced today, whether it be minor or major. Share the things that make you smile! www.onegoodthingaday.weebly...
    benhappy10 benhappy10 22-25 Apr 1, 2012

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    Putting Other People's Happines First, Is Not Always The Best Idea.

    I am in a sexless marriage and have been in this marriage for a long time. The main reason for my being stuck in this loveless situation is because I put my husband's happiness before my own. My spouse is quite content with our nothing of a relationship. I am currently in the...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 9 Responses Mar 13, 2011

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    Could You Do Otherwise?

    My confession is that as a long term sufferer of depression, and with constant thoughts of wishing my life was over, I live every day for those around me whom I love and care for. I cannot bear the thought of the hurt they would be in if I wasn't here any more. I have a massive...
    ButterflyEffect3 ButterflyEffect3 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 14, 2011

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    Ignoring My Own Needs

    This is generally a good thing, but when taken to the extreme, like in my case, it can have the opposite effect. I am a constant people-pleaser, putting everyone else before me and ignoring my own needs. Maybe I do it to get others to like me. Maybe I don't feel worthy of...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2008

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    I Would Rather

    be unhappy every day than know someone else was unhappy because of me. not everyone. but certain people. i wish i could stop. i wish i cared more about myself. 
    outerblonde outerblonde 18-21, F May 3, 2010

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    Im Happy Either Way.

    Sure i put others ahead of me but i treat others as i would want to be treated reguardless if there still gonna be a complete *** to me.  If it would make someone happy then ill usually do it. Just last week my friend called and wanted to see her GF, what did i get outta it...
    DirkyBear DirkyBear 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 8, 2008

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    You Are An Understanding Girlfriend!

    You Are An Understanding Girlfriend! You care about your guy, so much that you tend to put him first And while this makes your relationship smooth, sometimes you let big things slide Still be your understanding self, but if something really bothers you - let your guy know He'll...
    reluctantrampant reluctantrampant 22-25, F Mar 9, 2011

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    I Hurt Myself To Please Others.

    Today I had a great morning with the wife, rare lately, then My mother said she could pick up the kid from the bus so my buddy and I could go to the fitness center to workout. Was going great, got to the gym called my mom to remind her, did some cardio, mixed my protein drink and...
    RomanticCurse RomanticCurse 26-30, M Apr 24, 2012

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    But That's Not How It Works, Right?

    I want to be able to let people be happy, and I'll take on their problems instead. Unfortunately, I don't have that kind of power. I can't suffer for the people who don't deserve to suffer, because we can't be happy unless we taste despair.  I would gladly take the pain out of...
    Girlonwire Girlonwire 18-21, F 1 Response May 25, 2011

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    Always Has Been...

    I have been putting other people's happiness before my own because i feel that I'm not that important and that other people deserve to be happy than me so i usually just let people be happy even if I'm not.
    goneawayforgood goneawayforgood 22-25 3 Responses Jun 16, 2009

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    How Can This Be Over?

    I am polyamourous (there are groups if you want to research that, wikipedia has some good information last time I checked as well) and have been with my "primary romantic partner" for over two years, though we are counting Christmas as our anniversary, since we’re...
    silvermoon silvermoon 31-35 Dec 24, 2007

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    A Problem Or Not?

    I always put other people's happiness before my own. In any relationship I care about the other person's happiness more than my own. This is in any relationship. Whether it be with a boyfriend or friend. I truly believe that it's my biggest fault. With my most recent ex I...
    notwithouthope notwithouthope 22-25 Aug 8, 2010

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    Your Happiness Comes First.

    My mother had MS while I was growing up.  It was only natural to make sure she was OK.  Sure, we were kids and did our own thing too, but Dad made sure Mom always had someone with her.  So, giving of yourself for someone else to be happy, is a...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 7 Responses Oct 28, 2008

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    People tell me that I need to be happy in order

    to make others happy .. In a way I guess it's true .. Sometimes though when im feeling upset I put aside my feelings when I see others that are upset.. I listen to them and give them comfort .. I hate seeing others upset because I hate being upset.. I want others to be happy I...
    eflor1436 eflor1436 16-17, F Dec 1, 2013

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    I Try

    I have a selfish side that wants my own happiness to be first...it's just human nature.  But if there's someone I really love, it's easy to put their happiness first.  There are a few I can think of... I try to put everyone's happiness before my own...even strangers...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 2 Responses Oct 2, 2008

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    I Just Want To Be Happy Like Other People

    I'm fed up of seeing other people's happiness rubbed in my face. I was not good with girls at school or socially in my early 20s I found it hard to talk to women my shyness blocked me from living a normal life. I see couples holding hands i get upset its sad will i ever find love...
    defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 21, 2013

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    Happiness

    I always make sure everyone around me is happy at my own expense, and I am not complaining about it, I feel it is part of my job description at the moment.  However, down the road, I might someday get some happiness sent my way.  What comes around, right??
    bgrgrl bgrgrl 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 1, 2009

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    zuzi57 zuzi57 51-55, F Apr 28, 2012

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    I'm A Bit Drained..

    I used to want to help everyone else out first. I really based my life around other people's happiness. If someone needed me, no matter who they were or what they wanted, I'd do everything in my power to be there for them. I was the first to offer a shoulder to cry on, even if it...
    harleegee harleegee 18-21 4 Responses Jan 6, 2011

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    I Believed In A Drug Addict Who Cheats On Me And I Continue To Take Him Back

    I feel like an idiot and I hate myself for it.  He left for two weeks and only called three times, I over heard him talking about another woman and he hung up the phone on me.  I called him back and he wouldnt answer the phone.  I even went down to see him twice...
    kelleyle kelleyle 41-45 Jul 10, 2010

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    Close By A Thread.

    It is said in the law of psychics that we create the world around us based on the choices and feelings we create and express, and if a thought or idea sticks in your head long enough the world gives you the opportunity to take it. Last weekend I had that chance by given another...
    HollowRoyal HollowRoyal 18-21, M Dec 21, 2011

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    Always

     I put other people's happiness before my own. I always have and I am pretty sure I always will. I love to make sure the ones that I care about are always happy and have what they want and need. And I will go without something to let someone else have it if they want it. I...
    RealityTVJunkie RealityTVJunkie 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 14, 2009

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    Looking For Happiness?

    Rome was not built in a day nor in a year. It took years of toil and sweat and millions of bricks (some small some large and some were rock stones too) The same goes in how we go about in gaining happiness. Many drops of happiness, builds a better life. It requires, blood sweat...
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M Aug 7, 2013

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    It's A Mixed Bag.

    Sometimes it's good to put other people's happiness before your own. I love the fact that through my selflessness, I am better able to provide for my family. I love that doing things for them makes them happy. It, in turn, makes me happy as well. What's not so good is when you...
    AmericanLeanings AmericanLeanings 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2011

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    Always Have And Probably Always Will

    I care about other people so much, I'd do anything to make them happy. I'd make any sacrifice to make my friends happy. It makes me happy when people around me are happy. I'm always looking for a way to make my friends happy, or at least to not make them sad. I've done this for...
    skyhook2612 skyhook2612 18-21, F Jan 5, 2013

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    A Necessary Sacrifice I Make Gladly

    Unlike everything else, it doesn't hurt. Seeing them happy is good enough. Most times, I get what I need out of it when it's all done so it doesn't bug me. Because sometime you need to sacrifice your own dreams, happiness, wants and desires so others can have theirs, and know...
    DGSteele DGSteele 22-25, M Apr 21, 2012

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    I'm done caring what other people think or if they like me or not, because no matter what they're still going to have their opinion about me and if it's a negative one I'm not even...
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    I've been influenced by the media alot so most of my decisions are based on things that other people do. Trends and cliques I felt as though I should have the same mind frame as...
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    I realize that a lot of my experiences are a lot of bad **** that I went through. But in the last three years I've been on my own and my life is changing. And I love to make other...
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    I just really really don't like other people (aside from my mother and sister); being around anyone at any time, talking to anybody, anything like that... I hate going outside...
    TriforceTapioca TriforceTapioca 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 6

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    Every time I get close to people, I start over-scrutinizing their faults, sort of like a defense mechanism. My brain's like "oh you don't want to be with that person, he texts...
    janeastin janeastin 22-25 Sep 5

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    What i'm thinking now is nothing to be scared about. What kills you the most is others judgement or what they think about you and many people talk about it out loud or just spit it...
    l1127bm l1127bm 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 2

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    For many years I remember I would get caught up with someone wanting to feel good. I wanted to help everyone. What I am finding is that there is helping those that want to help...
    1petitegreeneyes 1petitegreeneyes 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 18

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    I have seen quite a few, (mostly young) people asking about how you know if you're really in love, and plenty of the "I'd like to fall in love again" posts, so I decided to share...
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    I really do! Not only on EP but also in real life. But sometimes I feel that people don't want to be helped. They just want to complain and are stuck in a vicious cycle/rut...
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