I Put Other People's Happiness Before My Own

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    Ignoring My Own Needs

    This is generally a good thing, but when taken to the extreme, like in my case, it can have the opposite effect. I am a constant people-pleaser, putting everyone else before me and ignoring my own needs. Maybe I do it to get others to like me. Maybe I don't feel worthy of...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2008

    Looking For Happiness?

    Rome was not built in a day nor in a year. It took years of toil and sweat and millions of bricks (some small some large and some were rock stones too) The same goes in how we go about in gaining happiness. Many drops of happiness, builds a better life. It requires, blood sweat...
    HardingP119 HardingP119
    36-40, M
    Aug 7, 2013

    Sometimes I feel this is a flaw,

    but I can't change who I am. I gain so much joy seeing others happy, help in anyway I can, but I do neglect myself. I'm a work in progress, pay no mind to the mess.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 10, 2015

    I try to be tentative to my wife

    but she takes it as i have no confidence in myself. I dont get what i am doing so wrong.
    phatpapi phatpapi
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jul 8, 2015

    I care more about other people's happiness

    than my own. I'm 14 and I have plenty of freinds. I'm nice to everyone. But there is a select few that have all my love and I would gladly do anything for them. I'm very affectionate and that seems to be the fault of me.
    funnyfreak01 funnyfreak01
    Jan 24

    making other people happy,

    is my happiness ?
    CharlenneDelaCruz CharlenneDelaCruz
    16-17, F
    1 Response Feb 14

    I am such a people pleaser.

    I always want others happy even if it is at my expense. I'll do things I hate just to see someone happy.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Nov 4, 2014

    It has come to my attention

    that EP is hitting a "pause" button on all of our getaway lives. I know how upsetting it was to me when I heard the news so I'd just like to share my k.i.k info if anyone still needs someone to talk to. Username: morgan18365
    AttachmentIssues AttachmentIssues
    18-21, F
    Mar 27

    I always put other people's happiness

    before my own, but oddly enough, I still have no friends.
    missradiology missradiology
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 8, 2015

    I have been with a guy

    for pretty much 10 yrs now and I have lost myself bc I always try to make him happy even when he doesn't do it in return.. I do everything for him but he takes me for granted and puts me n my feelings on the back burner! But yet I stay knowing what the future holds...
    chevyangel chevyangel
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 30, 2015

    I Just Want To Be Happy Like Other People

    I'm fed up of seeing other people's happiness rubbed in my face. I was not good with girls at school or socially in my early 20s I found it hard to talk to women my shyness blocked me from living a normal life. I see couples holding hands i get upset its sad will i ever find love...
    defoekeane defoekeane
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jun 21, 2013

    I want to break free

    so badly, but the thought of leaving you to fend for yourself would be a million times worse than this suffering I face daily being here. That's why I stay so you can be happy.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Oct 24, 2015


    Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. :)
    gr8jesus gr8jesus
    51-55, M
    Oct 22, 2010

    sometimes, I feel like I should be a little bit

    selfish and put my happiness first for once.
    cottoncandypinkk cottoncandypinkk
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 24, 2015

    Like when I get on EP

    for example! I could be super depressed but I'd still try to write helpful comments and answers on here. Just because I'm not happy doesn't mean I can't make other people happy. But it's not just on EP I do the same thing on FB to and in real life I always try to cheer people...
    CannibalisticUnicorn CannibalisticUnicorn
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 14

    Thank you Stiltcourt

    for the inspiration for this post. It's my life, another way. With extras for recent times. My life did this My heart and soul Sacrificed in bliss To hearts missing gold I coughed and spluttered And withered away; As life's lake me choked Inwards to play My play was...
    cloudsoflife cloudsoflife
    26-30, M
    Jul 28, 2015
    IPleadthe5th IPleadthe5th
    41-45, F
    9 Responses Aug 8, 2015
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jul 16, 2015

    They don't have interest in me.

    They are interested in themselves. - in morning, noon and night.
    anshu0312 anshu0312
    22-25, M
    1 Response Feb 11, 2015

    it's pretty unfortunate.

    you could screw me over 50 times and i'd still be ready to help you out at any time.
    lerlyblandor lerlyblandor
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 10, 2015

    I know that it's not healthy to put others

    before me, but sometimes when I do, I feel a sense of joy knowing they're happy. Thus making me happy. But at times, I really need to learn to put myself before others. I sometimes find myself always helping them, and always neglecting my needs. Maybe that explains a few of my...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 15


    I put other people's happiness before my own. I always have and I am pretty sure I always will. I love to make sure the ones that I care about are always happy and have what they want and need. And I will go without something to let someone else have it if they want it. I don't...
    Sweetheartxoxo Sweetheartxoxo
    26-30, F
    May 27, 2008

    Through out my whole entire life I always put

    others before my own needs; The reason behind why I do so is because I never had any one to fully support me or stand behind me. So since I know how it feels not to have that so anyone I come into contact with I always want them to know how special they are to put a smile on...
    Lstill1976 Lstill1976
    36-40, F
    Oct 24, 2014

    The worst thing about always putting other

    people first is their reaction when you occasionally try to stick up for yourself. my husband acts like I just came at him with a machete when I finally try to have my own back. He literally only days the word "divorce" when I defend myself.
    RajelleInHell RajelleInHell
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jul 8, 2015

    Love is when the other person's happiness is

    more important than your own.... true and eternal ... you stop worrying about yourself and start caring about your loved one... not just the one you have sporadic sex with or the one who can turn you on...THE ONE...
    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jul 7, 2015


     I put other people's happiness before my own. I always have and I am pretty sure I always will. I love to make sure the ones that I care about are always happy and have what they want and need. And I will go without something to let someone else have it if they want it. I...
    RealityTVJunkie RealityTVJunkie
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 14, 2009

    Your Happiness Comes First.

    My mother had MS while I was growing up.  It was only natural to make sure she was OK.  Sure, we were kids and did our own thing too, but Dad made sure Mom always had someone with her.  So, giving of yourself for someone else to be happy, is a...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom
    51-55, F
    6 Responses Oct 28, 2008

    This is starting to become my downfall.

    I care for others, and I'm a very empathetic, and (I'd like to think so) selfless person, but I care a little too much, and can be a little too gentle. As a result, I have trouble expressing my feelings to others because, even though I know that I will feel better knowing that...
    azurerush azurerush
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 31, 2015

    Though I do this a lot it can be harmful to

    oneself. You should put someone's else's happiness before your own. But you should be careful not to hurt yourself in the process. Because it is hard to make someone else happy if you are broken yourself.
    AbleSankovik AbleSankovik
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jul 7, 2015
    ImPhenom ImPhenom
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jul 8, 2015

    You know you're in love with someone

    when their happiness makes you much more happier, and their sadness feels more like your own pain.
    nevets68 nevets68
    46-50, M
    Sep 28, 2015


    I have spent forever trying to be somebody Im not, trying to make others happy and putting myself last or not at all. I dont know if I know who I am anymore. How do I find myself? How can I be happy again and laugh and smile and not feel the hurt that I continue to feel over and...
    krystal1115 krystal1115
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 10, 2013

    Putting Other People's Happines First, Is Not Always The Best Idea.

    I am in a sexless marriage and have been in this marriage for a long time. The main reason for my being stuck in this loveless situation is because I put my husband's happiness before my own. My spouse is quite content with our nothing of a relationship. I am currently in the...
    neuilly neuilly
    61-65, F
    8 Responses Mar 13, 2011

    I think it's similar to karma.

    Helping other people, bring them happiness, make them smile etc. In a moment, you'll get the happiness back which you helped create for other people.
    deleted deleted
    Jan 29

    I'm A Bit Drained..

    I used to want to help everyone else out first. I really based my life around other people's happiness. If someone needed me, no matter who they were or what they wanted, I'd do everything in my power to be there for them. I was the first to offer a shoulder to cry on, even if it...
    harleegee harleegee
    4 Responses Jan 6, 2011

    Sometimes I wish it was the other way around

    but hey, my life's pretty amazing.
    deleted deleted
    Oct 24, 2015

    I used to do this a lot in the past than,

    I do now. People didn't do the same for me. I was back stabbed many times. In certain cases sacrificing for others is good but, in others no
    beautybeyondforever beautybeyondforever
    18-21, F
    Aug 8, 2015

    I tend to do this a lot

    and I never learn my lesson. I love making others happy but there comes a time when you yourself need to be happy and you need to see and accept that. Making others happy is a beautiful thing but you are also important, never forget that.
    deleted deleted
    Aug 8, 2015

    Right... I'm not sure how to word this without

    becoming the person who is just complaining.. Ok... The best way to begin is from the beginning.. I am a person who for what ever reason, puts other peoples happiness first before mine.. I don't and never have had a problem with this except now. I know in my heart what I...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 12

    This is bad because I end up neglecting my own

    needs. I need to work out more of a balance so I can also be happy.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 24, 2015

    Could You Do Otherwise?

    My confession is that as a long term sufferer of depression, and with constant thoughts of wishing my life was over, I live every day for those around me whom I love and care for. I cannot bear the thought of the hurt they would be in if I wasn't here any more. I have a massive...
    ButterflyEffect3 ButterflyEffect3
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 14, 2011
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