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I Put Other People's Happiness Before My Own

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    Selfless

    It makes me happy to be selfless. I do what I can to make others happy, although lately because of circumstances beyond my control, I have nothing to offer anyone in the way of happiness. But in life, I think one of the most important things anyone can do is be selfless and...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F Oct 24, 2010

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    Im Happy Either Way.

    Sure i put others ahead of me but i treat others as i would want to be treated reguardless if there still gonna be a complete *** to me.  If it would make someone happy then ill usually do it. Just last week my friend called and wanted to see her GF, what did i get outta it...
    DirkyBear DirkyBear 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 8, 2008

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    I Try

    I have a selfish side that wants my own happiness to be first...it's just human nature.  But if there's someone I really love, it's easy to put their happiness first.  There are a few I can think of... I try to put everyone's happiness before my own...even strangers...
    RopinTexan RopinTexan 22-25, M 2 Responses Oct 2, 2008

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    A Problem Or Not?

    I always put other people's happiness before my own. In any relationship I care about the other person's happiness more than my own. This is in any relationship. Whether it be with a boyfriend or friend. I truly believe that it's my biggest fault. With my most recent ex I...
    notwithouthope notwithouthope 22-25 Aug 8, 2010

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    Always

     I put other people's happiness before my own. I always have and I am pretty sure I always will. I love to make sure the ones that I care about are always happy and have what they want and need. And I will go without something to let someone else have it if they want it. I...
    RealityTVJunkie RealityTVJunkie 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 14, 2009

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    It Depends On the Situation...

    It depends on the situation John, but in the case of my mother-in-law, no.  Ha, kidding.  I don't even have a mother-in-law.  You should have seen the look on your face!
    Sillyspock Sillyspock 18-21, F Oct 1, 2008

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    I Would Rather

    be unhappy every day than know someone else was unhappy because of me. not everyone. but certain people. i wish i could stop. i wish i cared more about myself. 
    outerblonde outerblonde 18-21, F May 3, 2010

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    Always Have And Probably Always Will

    I care about other people so much, I'd do anything to make them happy. I'd make any sacrifice to make my friends happy. It makes me happy when people around me are happy. I'm always looking for a way to make my friends happy, or at least to not make them sad. I've done this for...
    skyhook2612 skyhook2612 18-21, F Jan 5, 2013

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    People tell me that I need to be happy in order

    to make others happy .. In a way I guess it's true .. Sometimes though when im feeling upset I put aside my feelings when I see others that are upset.. I listen to them and give them comfort .. I hate seeing others upset because I hate being upset.. I want others to be happy I...
    eflor1436 eflor1436 16-17, F Dec 1, 2013

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    zuzi57 zuzi57 51-55, F Apr 28, 2012

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    I Think You Create Happiness Within Yourself When You Create It For Others!

    Promoting happiness is the best thing. Making people smile is amazing. I have created a page with a simple concept whereby people share one good thing that they experienced today, whether it be minor or major. Share the things that make you smile! www.onegoodthingaday.weebly...
    benhappy10 benhappy10 22-25 Apr 1, 2012

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    I Believed In A Drug Addict Who Cheats On Me And I Continue To Take Him Back

    I feel like an idiot and I hate myself for it.  He left for two weeks and only called three times, I over heard him talking about another woman and he hung up the phone on me.  I called him back and he wouldnt answer the phone.  I even went down to see him twice...
    kelleyle kelleyle 41-45 Jul 10, 2010

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    Next Step?

    I am so caught up in others emotional needs, I neglect my own. I think through therapy I have found, that not only do I Not want others to feel through some of the pain I've gone through. But the bigger part of it is, I don't think I am worth it, or deserving of happiness. I...
    rainmoon rainmoon 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 11, 2010

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    It's A Mixed Bag.

    Sometimes it's good to put other people's happiness before your own. I love the fact that through my selflessness, I am better able to provide for my family. I love that doing things for them makes them happy. It, in turn, makes me happy as well. What's not so good is when you...
    AmericanLeanings AmericanLeanings 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2011

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    A Necessary Sacrifice I Make Gladly

    Unlike everything else, it doesn't hurt. Seeing them happy is good enough. Most times, I get what I need out of it when it's all done so it doesn't bug me. Because sometime you need to sacrifice your own dreams, happiness, wants and desires so others can have theirs, and know...
    DGSteele DGSteele 22-25, M Apr 21, 2012

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    Putting Other People's Happines First, Is Not Always The Best Idea.

    I am in a sexless marriage and have been in this marriage for a long time. The main reason for my being stuck in this loveless situation is because I put my husband's happiness before my own. My spouse is quite content with our nothing of a relationship. I am currently in the...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 9 Responses Mar 13, 2011

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    Happiness

    I always make sure everyone around me is happy at my own expense, and I am not complaining about it, I feel it is part of my job description at the moment.  However, down the road, I might someday get some happiness sent my way.  What comes around, right??
    bgrgrl bgrgrl 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 1, 2009

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    I Hurt Myself To Please Others.

    Today I had a great morning with the wife, rare lately, then My mother said she could pick up the kid from the bus so my buddy and I could go to the fitness center to workout. Was going great, got to the gym called my mom to remind her, did some cardio, mixed my protein drink and...
    RomanticCurse RomanticCurse 26-30, M Apr 24, 2012

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    Close By A Thread.

    It is said in the law of psychics that we create the world around us based on the choices and feelings we create and express, and if a thought or idea sticks in your head long enough the world gives you the opportunity to take it. Last weekend I had that chance by given another...
    HollowRoyal HollowRoyal 18-21, M Dec 21, 2011

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    Ignoring My Own Needs

    This is generally a good thing, but when taken to the extreme, like in my case, it can have the opposite effect. I am a constant people-pleaser, putting everyone else before me and ignoring my own needs. Maybe I do it to get others to like me. Maybe I don't feel worthy of...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2008

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    I don't even know where to start.

    Im beyond emotionally drained. I'm kind of a wreck. And realistically I know my life could be much worse but right now I cant handle everything. My uncle just died, my dad has been sick for six months and now they're testing him for cancer, and we are probably going to have put...
    Smileandbehappy Smileandbehappy 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2013

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    I have always put other people's happiness

    before my own and im starting to realize that people will just use me and then never speak to me again. I know that i probably will never be happy but sometimes I would like to think about myself first. Idk maybe im wrong for thinking that..
    lunarfaerie lunarfaerie 16-17, F 6 Responses Mar 17

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    Could You Do Otherwise?

    My confession is that as a long term sufferer of depression, and with constant thoughts of wishing my life was over, I live every day for those around me whom I love and care for. I cannot bear the thought of the hurt they would be in if I wasn't here any more. I have a massive...
    ButterflyEffect3 ButterflyEffect3 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 14, 2011

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    Happiness

    I have spent forever trying to be somebody Im not, trying to make others happy and putting myself last or not at all. I dont know if I know who I am anymore. How do I find myself? How can I be happy again and laugh and smile and not feel the hurt that I continue to feel over and...
    krystal1115 krystal1115 22-25, F Sep 10, 2013

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    How Can This Be Over?

    I am polyamourous (there are groups if you want to research that, wikipedia has some good information last time I checked as well) and have been with my "primary romantic partner" for over two years, though we are counting Christmas as our anniversary, since we’re...
    silvermoon silvermoon 31-35 Dec 24, 2007

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    2 Lovers Walk and the Other .... Well ....

      i have blocked him from my heart ! mind! and soul!! we have a romantic story..... but i met her first and she is a good soul , she is in love and she has'nt had a broken heart .... mine is mushed ,broken ,  dirty with spit and foot prints  , it cant be used...
    AnaRosa AnaRosa 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 3, 2008

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    Your Happiness Comes First.

    My mother had MS while I was growing up.  It was only natural to make sure she was OK.  Sure, we were kids and did our own thing too, but Dad made sure Mom always had someone with her.  So, giving of yourself for someone else to be happy, is a...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 7 Responses Oct 28, 2008

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    I'm A Bit Drained..

    I used to want to help everyone else out first. I really based my life around other people's happiness. If someone needed me, no matter who they were or what they wanted, I'd do everything in my power to be there for them. I was the first to offer a shoulder to cry on, even if it...
    harleegee harleegee 18-21 4 Responses Jan 6, 2011

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    I Just Want To Be Happy Like Other People

    I'm fed up of seeing other people's happiness rubbed in my face. I was not good with girls at school or socially in my early 20s I found it hard to talk to women my shyness blocked me from living a normal life. I see couples holding hands i get upset its sad will i ever find love...
    defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 21, 2013

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    Always

    I put other people's happiness before my own. I always have and I am pretty sure I always will. I love to make sure the ones that I care about are always happy and have what they want and need. And I will go without something to let someone else have it if they want it. I don't...
    Sweetheartxoxo Sweetheartxoxo 26-30, F May 27, 2008

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    Is This Love?

    I am a Catholic and have been dating a Muslim girl in a Muslim country. I know all odds are against us but I have been more than willing to fight it out till the last. The community is against this relationship and despite the family knowing me well, they have been forced to...
    lgiv2 lgiv2 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 17, 2012

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    But That's Not How It Works, Right?

    I want to be able to let people be happy, and I'll take on their problems instead. Unfortunately, I don't have that kind of power. I can't suffer for the people who don't deserve to suffer, because we can't be happy unless we taste despair.  I would gladly take the pain out of...
    Girlonwire Girlonwire 18-21, F 1 Response May 25, 2011

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    I Do

    g-ma and i received an unexpected small sum of money recently, 99 dollars, instead of going out to eat, we bought a new tire for our grandaughters bike and than paid for them and their mother to go to the local waterslide, we stayed home and held hands, we were very very happy...
    leosdisciple leosdisciple 51-55, M Aug 2, 2011

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    Looking For Happiness?

    Rome was not built in a day nor in a year. It took years of toil and sweat and millions of bricks (some small some large and some were rock stones too) The same goes in how we go about in gaining happiness. Many drops of happiness, builds a better life. It requires, blood sweat...
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M Aug 7, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I am unsure if I can read other people's minds but I do have a gift that others seem to think is mind-reading. It has happened often enough in my life. I will say something out...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    I've always been kind of shy and quiet around strangers, but I can be really outgoing, ambitious, and I want to help whoever I can, whenever I can. Since I've always had a close...
    wintermyracle wintermyracle 16-17 6 days ago

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    I hate that I'm always giving my all and I don't get the same from others, especially my family. When I'm at my lowest I feel like everyone backs down. It hurts to know that there...
    cowboys11 cowboys11 18-21, F Mar 30

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    Story of my life. My family and friends. Some people, right? I don't know. I guess I just give to easily to people's requests because I'll feel guilty if I don't.
    Juliette18 Juliette18 18-21, F Apr 2

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    So today I went to my old friends house lol. Assuming you ready Afew of my other story's with my old friend in it that lives down the road. I had some spare time so I went to visit...
    Lovelyxx93 Lovelyxx93 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I love people's personalities, and I love giving and taking personality test. If you want to look up something cool, google "The big five personality traits".
    kymikal kymikal 26-30, F Mar 23

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    no matter what i always put my loved ones first, doesnt matter if they treat me like **** im always going to try to make them happy and help them before i even try to ask for help...
    pudgyXadorable pudgyXadorable 16-17, F Apr 6

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    It gives me such happiness and I feel really proud of myself for once when I make people laugh and smile :)
    XdropintheoceanX XdropintheoceanX 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 7

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    And I can't help it. I deserve happiness just as much as them.
    biancawho biancawho 13-15, F Apr 8

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    I was at Universal Studios with my family and we were having a great time, those places can get pretty crowded and I zoned out while walking and nearly bumped into this little girl...
    mahnouls mahnouls 16-17 2 Responses a week ago

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    I learned recently that this space, this website which I considered a safe space, has backfired against me. I've written posts for about a year now about my emotions, venting...
    dannylivinlife dannylivinlife 18-21, M 5 days ago

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    I can't always see them. It's more of sort of sensing them. They are waiting. They have always been waiting. I remember being an infant and my grandmother putting me to bed the...
    SkinnyLove03 SkinnyLove03 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    Here are a couple: The Lone Ranger (2013) (I had fun with it. Sure, it wasn't perfect, but I didn't expect it to be) The Happening (2008) (In my defense, I was expecting the...
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M Mar 27

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    When someone gets to know me I always ask what they thought I was like before they met me. I'm always curious about this because I believe I'm not a common person... My interests...
    venusdiamond venusdiamond 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 4

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    Every time I'm on Facebook and I see a funny meme I repost it for a laugh - to make others laugh. But I get two people every time who post links on the story behind the memes not...
    Silv3rstarz Silv3rstarz 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    Title says it all. I'm just intolerant of inconsiderate, hypocritical idiots. I adore honestly and I adore respecting one's opinion, BUT...if you are going to shove your opinions...
    Imaginarionify Imaginarionify 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    Long story short, controlling boyfriend. He is especially controlling when I am adamant against something. Definitely a power issue, loves controlling people. Thing is, we broke up...
    SashaAmazon SashaAmazon 31-35, F Apr 2

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    This is something I am ashamed of, a quality I hate. I'm not a malicious person, but I find myself constantly wishing I had another person's life or something. I'm kind of selfish...
    Realitea Realitea 18-21, F Apr 9

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    I often imagine what people think when they look at me. If they're my friends I'll ask and usually I'll be surprised by the response. Sometimes they think I'm being one way when I...
    CaptainBenza CaptainBenza 18-21, M 2 days ago

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