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I Put Other People's Happiness Before My Own

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    I always put other people's happiness

    before my own, but oddly enough, I still have no friends.
    missradiology missradiology 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 8

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    Thank you Stiltcourt

    for the inspiration for this post. It's my life, another way. With extras for recent times. My life did this My heart and soul Sacrificed in bliss To hearts missing gold I coughed and spluttered And withered away; As life's lake me choked Inwards to play My play was...
    cloudsoflife cloudsoflife 26-30, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    ImPhenom ImPhenom 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 8

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    Always

     I put other people's happiness before my own. I always have and I am pretty sure I always will. I love to make sure the ones that I care about are always happy and have what they want and need. And I will go without something to let someone else have it if they want it. I...
    RealityTVJunkie RealityTVJunkie 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 14, 2009

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    How Can This Be Over?

    I am polyamourous (there are groups if you want to research that, wikipedia has some good information last time I checked as well) and have been with my "primary romantic partner" for over two years, though we are counting Christmas as our anniversary, since we’re...
    silvermoon silvermoon 31-35 Dec 24, 2007

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    I'm A Bit Drained..

    I used to want to help everyone else out first. I really based my life around other people's happiness. If someone needed me, no matter who they were or what they wanted, I'd do everything in my power to be there for them. I was the first to offer a shoulder to cry on, even if it...
    harleegee harleegee 18-21 4 Responses Jan 6, 2011

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    You Are An Understanding Girlfriend!

    You Are An Understanding Girlfriend! You care about your guy, so much that you tend to put him first And while this makes your relationship smooth, sometimes you let big things slide Still be your understanding self, but if something really bothers you - let your guy know He'll...
    AnimusVita AnimusVita 22-25, F Mar 9, 2011

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    Always Have And Probably Always Will

    I care about other people so much, I'd do anything to make them happy. I'd make any sacrifice to make my friends happy. It makes me happy when people around me are happy. I'm always looking for a way to make my friends happy, or at least to not make them sad. I've done this for...
    skyhook2612 skyhook2612 18-21, F Jan 5, 2013

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    it's pretty unfortunate.

    you could screw me over 50 times and i'd still be ready to help you out at any time.
    lerlyblandor lerlyblandor 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    I Just Want To Be Happy Like Other People

    I'm fed up of seeing other people's happiness rubbed in my face. I was not good with girls at school or socially in my early 20s I found it hard to talk to women my shyness blocked me from living a normal life. I see couples holding hands i get upset its sad will i ever find love...
    defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 21, 2013

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    They don't have interest in me.

    They are interested in themselves. - in morning, noon and night.
    anshu0312 anshu0312 22-25, M Feb 11

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    Is This Love?

    I am a Catholic and have been dating a Muslim girl in a Muslim country. I know all odds are against us but I have been more than willing to fight it out till the last. The community is against this relationship and despite the family knowing me well, they have been forced to...
    lgiv2 lgiv2 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 17, 2012

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    Too Often

    Its something I've come to notice in my life, that I put others happiness before my own. Now that I have put some real thought into it, doing that has brought me nothing but disappointment because while I was helping others achieve their own happiness I was not helping myself...
    Breathe6 Breathe6 22-25, M Feb 4, 2012

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    Through out my whole entire life I always put

    others before my own needs; The reason behind why I do so is because I never had any one to fully support me or stand behind me. So since I know how it feels not to have that so anyone I come into contact with I always want them to know how special they are to put a smile on...
    Lstill1976 Lstill1976 36-40, F Oct 24, 2014

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    A Necessary Sacrifice I Make Gladly

    Unlike everything else, it doesn't hurt. Seeing them happy is good enough. Most times, I get what I need out of it when it's all done so it doesn't bug me. Because sometime you need to sacrifice your own dreams, happiness, wants and desires so others can have theirs, and know...
    DGSteele DGSteele 22-25, M Apr 21, 2012

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    Looking For Happiness?

    Rome was not built in a day nor in a year. It took years of toil and sweat and millions of bricks (some small some large and some were rock stones too) The same goes in how we go about in gaining happiness. Many drops of happiness, builds a better life. It requires, blood sweat...
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M Aug 7, 2013

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    I try to be tentative to my wife

    but she takes it as i have no confidence in myself. I dont get what i am doing so wrong.
    phatpapi phatpapi 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 8

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    Happiness

    I have spent forever trying to be somebody Im not, trying to make others happy and putting myself last or not at all. I dont know if I know who I am anymore. How do I find myself? How can I be happy again and laugh and smile and not feel the hurt that I continue to feel over and...
    krystal1115 krystal1115 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    Happiness

    I always make sure everyone around me is happy at my own expense, and I am not complaining about it, I feel it is part of my job description at the moment.  However, down the road, I might someday get some happiness sent my way.  What comes around, right??
    bgrgrl bgrgrl 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 1, 2009

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    Love is when the other person's happiness is

    more important than your own.... true and eternal ... you stop worrying about yourself and start caring about your loved one... not just the one you have sporadic sex with or the one who can turn you on...THE ONE...
    000Camilla 000Camilla 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    Searching for something That may never be

    known A messed up mind Turns a heart to stone Memories carried in the heart Figments of wild imagination One's existence now a hostage As she lays in bed all alone Deception has corroded one's faith Pain of betrayal too hard to heal Fits of sadness paired with despair A place...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Close By A Thread.

    It is said in the law of psychics that we create the world around us based on the choices and feelings we create and express, and if a thought or idea sticks in your head long enough the world gives you the opportunity to take it. Last weekend I had that chance by given another...
    HollowRoyal HollowRoyal 18-21, M Dec 21, 2011

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    But That's Not How It Works, Right?

    I want to be able to let people be happy, and I'll take on their problems instead. Unfortunately, I don't have that kind of power. I can't suffer for the people who don't deserve to suffer, because we can't be happy unless we taste despair.  I would gladly take the pain out of...
    Girlonwire Girlonwire 18-21, F 1 Response May 25, 2011

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    I am such a people pleaser.

    I always want others happy even if it is at my expense. I'll do things I hate just to see someone happy.
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 4, 2014

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    Could You Do Otherwise?

    My confession is that as a long term sufferer of depression, and with constant thoughts of wishing my life was over, I live every day for those around me whom I love and care for. I cannot bear the thought of the hurt they would be in if I wasn't here any more. I have a massive...
    ButterflyEffect3 ButterflyEffect3 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 14, 2011

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    I Hurt Myself To Please Others.

    Today I had a great morning with the wife, rare lately, then My mother said she could pick up the kid from the bus so my buddy and I could go to the fitness center to workout. Was going great, got to the gym called my mom to remind her, did some cardio, mixed my protein drink and...
    RomanticCurse RomanticCurse 26-30, M Apr 24, 2012

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    The worst thing about always putting other

    people first is their reaction when you occasionally try to stick up for yourself. my husband acts like I just came at him with a machete when I finally try to have my own back. He literally only days the word "divorce" when I defend myself.
    rajelle rajelle 41-45, F Jul 8

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    Your Happiness Comes First.

    My mother had MS while I was growing up.  It was only natural to make sure she was OK.  Sure, we were kids and did our own thing too, but Dad made sure Mom always had someone with her.  So, giving of yourself for someone else to be happy, is a...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 7 Responses Oct 28, 2008

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    TheSturgeonGeneral TheSturgeonGeneral 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 16

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    Though I do this a lot it can be harmful to

    oneself. You should put someone's else's happiness before your own. But you should be careful not to hurt yourself in the process. Because it is hard to make someone else happy if you are broken yourself.
    AbleSankovik AbleSankovik 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 7

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    Ignoring My Own Needs

    This is generally a good thing, but when taken to the extreme, like in my case, it can have the opposite effect. I am a constant people-pleaser, putting everyone else before me and ignoring my own needs. Maybe I do it to get others to like me. Maybe I don't feel worthy of...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2008

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    I Think You Create Happiness Within Yourself When You Create It For Others!

    Promoting happiness is the best thing. Making people smile is amazing. I have created a page with a simple concept whereby people share one good thing that they experienced today, whether it be minor or major. Share the things that make you smile! www.onegoodthingaday.weebly...
    benhappy10 benhappy10 22-25 Apr 1, 2012

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    A Problem Or Not?

    I always put other people's happiness before my own. In any relationship I care about the other person's happiness more than my own. This is in any relationship. Whether it be with a boyfriend or friend. I truly believe that it's my biggest fault. With my most recent ex I...
    notwithouthope notwithouthope 22-25 Aug 8, 2010

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    I Do

    g-ma and i received an unexpected small sum of money recently, 99 dollars, instead of going out to eat, we bought a new tire for our grandaughters bike and than paid for them and their mother to go to the local waterslide, we stayed home and held hands, we were very very happy...
    leosdisciple leosdisciple 56-60, M Aug 2, 2011

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    Happiness

    Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. :)
    gr8jesus gr8jesus 51-55, M Oct 22, 2010

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    Always

    I put other people's happiness before my own. I always have and I am pretty sure I always will. I love to make sure the ones that I care about are always happy and have what they want and need. And I will go without something to let someone else have it if they want it. I don't...
    Sweetheartxoxo Sweetheartxoxo 26-30, F May 27, 2008

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    Putting Other People's Happines First, Is Not Always The Best Idea.

    I am in a sexless marriage and have been in this marriage for a long time. The main reason for my being stuck in this loveless situation is because I put my husband's happiness before my own. My spouse is quite content with our nothing of a relationship. I am currently in the...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 9 Responses Mar 13, 2011

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    zuzi57 zuzi57 51-55, F Apr 28, 2012

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    It's A Mixed Bag.

    Sometimes it's good to put other people's happiness before your own. I love the fact that through my selflessness, I am better able to provide for my family. I love that doing things for them makes them happy. It, in turn, makes me happy as well. What's not so good is when you...
    AmericanLeanings AmericanLeanings 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2011

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    It Depends On the Situation...

    It depends on the situation John, but in the case of my mother-in-law, no.  Ha, kidding.  I don't even have a mother-in-law.  You should have seen the look on your face!
    Sillyspock Sillyspock 18-21, F Oct 1, 2008

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    First words that people say to me when they meet me? "Are you ok?" "Are you mad?" "Do you hate me?" "You look like you're having a bad time" My response: "No, thats just my face."
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