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I Put Others Before Myself

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    Lesser Of Them All

    I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i realize im just pretty much worthless and then i get someone who needs help and i help them but no one helps me they say...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    Too Often

    I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel too guilty about spending the money on me and guilt trip myself out of buying it.Then I go to another store and...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize

    This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i think i was 15 and i was upset about something and had tears in my eyes and just wanted a friends shoulder to cry on and to be comforted...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    What Do I Matter?

    I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations making sure that I didn't say something off, or that I didn't miss any signs that something was wrong. I stress so much...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 13-15 Sep 26, 2013

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me

    Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself, so what does it matter? To me, what matters is how you treat others and how you affect their lives. There is no possible way for...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    Learning To Do More For Me!

    I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life. Now I have anxiety issues (especially social anxiety), depression, and am beginning to question all the decisions I have made in...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    I Feel Guilty Putting Me First.

    Ever since becoming a mom 3 years ago its gotten worse, I rarely ever buy anything for myself and if I do I feel guilty for doing it, because I always say well the girls could use this or they need that, or my mom needs help with this I should see if I can help out.  I feel...
    bellamomma bellamomma 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 18, 2008

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    I Put Others Before Myself

    it hasnt been long that i have realised i put my friends before myself. i would do anything to keep them happy, i would take  my life for them, sometimes i dont mind it, but i hate when i dont get it in return. i mite seem like  a selfish ***** but, i...
    sexybubz2 sexybubz2 13-15 Oct 27, 2010

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    Needing To Prioritize More

    Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone and I'm feeling awfully lonely and used up! My Godson is 23 years old, lives with his...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    Most Definatly,especially P...

    Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or someone that needed it more than me.I enjoy helping people out to.It gives me a good feeling to help someone.
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Bad Habit In Someways.

    This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my health and or sanity.
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 21-25, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    No Control

    I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we lost our townhome and are living with my mother and barely get by financially. I am unemployed and I find myself...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    You Before Me

    my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will give it. the shirt off my back or the shoes off my feet if you are in need i will try to help. i don't know why but...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    Others First

    I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about me first.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    Step All Over Me

    i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown to learn to try to place boundaries but it is just so hard for me to turn someone down
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    I Do

    Because I don't deserve putting myself before them, I'm not selfish and never will be. Too many people are like that these days and I'm pretty sure it ****** everyone off.
    TideToGo TideToGo 18-21, F Jan 24, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    No matter how crappy or sad I feel, I am always there for my friends when their down putting aside my feelings to make them feel better.
    MysteriousRose MysteriousRose 18-21, F Jul 30

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    I enjoy helping others. Its so much to help others in need. Just to see a smile on there face and knowing I helped them and there family! I went on a mission trip last summer for a...
    ShyProdigy ShyProdigy 13-15, M 2 Responses Jul 28

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    What makes these a*sholes think they are better than everyone else, especially those who like putting others down but have a bitchfit and cry when someone gives them a taste of...
    Anth9012 Anth9012 22-25, M Aug 11

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    I'm trying to end the viewing of *********** in my life, it kills my imagination and social vibe with others around me. It makes me objectify women, and causes me to have angrier...
    Oraja Oraja 16-17, M 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Hey everyone wants to be accepted as they are, has anyone thought to accept other people as other people are , think again its not gonna b easy !!! Exactly thats why they might...
    anasteel2 anasteel2 41-45, F 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    So there's this girl that I've known for just about a week. I met her at this party that was held by my best friends friend whom he met through Instagram. Now she was holding this...
    MartinIsInLove MartinIsInLove 16-17, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Almost 1 year using ep I feel good about myself I'm being who I really I'am here and it's awesome I say what I want to say because my parents won't know! It's just so awesome I...
    kaiovinicius kaiovinicius 13-15, M 23 hrs ago

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    How Selfish. You want a woman--a mother---to put a YOU before her own child? Selfish and gross. How would you feel if your mother did that to YOU? Put a wo/man before YOUR needs...
    EmotionalPrincess EmotionalPrincess 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I guess I'm "judging" people because I dislike the way they judge others but I don't understand. I mean, you have people that make it obvious and known that they won't accept...
    EmmieBear EmmieBear 16-17, F 13 hrs ago

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    I'm not completely sure why I even signed up on this site, yet alone posting a story. At the end of the day, I know that this will not improve nor will it change anything about my...
    LilMsUnknown LilMsUnknown 36-40, F Aug 13

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    It's funny how people automatically change themselves to impress others, whether they notice it or not. People should fall for who you really are not the one you become around them...
    ConfidentSpeaker ConfidentSpeaker 18-21, F 3 hrs ago

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    Hello, I'm an active-duty Air Force military doctor. By Air Force policy, I have to be seen by a provider in the same clinic in which I work. Though this presents an awkward...
    Wolson Wolson 31-35, F 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Life is about making choices...each time you choose something you are leaving aside other things...same happens with people, when you choose someone you leave aside others. I...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 26-30, F 5 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    People were more simple to deal with and get along with = also I had lots of fun going fishing , camping and story telling , lots of out doors adventures with others and also had...
    stephenrko stephenrko 31-35, M 58 mins ago

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    So today a guy messaged me saying "ur fat" because I did not want to sleep with him mind you I never met nor spoke with him before so my response was to him "you're" since he can't...
    catluver2008 catluver2008 26-30, F 28 mins ago

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    I've had this theory since last summer I'd like to share. I firmly believe that everyone has their very own story; a chapter book regarding the events, people, places, & emotions...
    Plutonianbabe Plutonianbabe 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    When I was in the third year at school there was this girl called Emma who was a bit of a snob and goody-goody who I didn't like very much. Anyway, just as we were packing up from...
    Jilly53 Jilly53 56-60, F 9 Responses a week ago

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    A Bridge Across the Pain. I remember one morning when I was three and sitting across the table from my father at breakfast, just he and I, when for no reason I could think of he...
    Steffi97 Steffi97 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Once again Facebook asking me What's on my mind. Dearest, you know?... I haven't words to tell or explain that mess inside of my head. But... Today I want to try. Try to start talk...
    WhineWolfe WhineWolfe 16-17, F 3 days ago

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    I have a friend who lives four hours away who is interested in astral travel. We tried an experiment where I would travel to her room and look on her nightstand. She would place...
    curioustraveler5 curioustraveler5 56-60, M 1 day ago

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    Why can’t I just be me? Do I have to always measure myself against what others will think of me? Sometimes I just think on things too much, I guess we all do. But why do I worry...
    MatildaEve MatildaEve 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 24

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    This is what college has done do me (in Canada it starts at 17). Before the semester I had abs... I guess this is not the case anymore. When I arrived in college, the first thing i...
    austinjackson1996 austinjackson1996 16-17, M Jul 26

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    I remember what the other kids called me, what some still do. I was a weird kid. Loud, obnoxious. I cannot be put into a simple little box. I don't even understand how weird I am...
    NeverForgeIt NeverForgeIt 16-17, F Aug 12

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    My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and I am in love. As every couple we have ups and downs. I need some advice. We have recently been arguing over things that...
    ulovedesi ulovedesi 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 31

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    I love helping others it's a part if life
    Amberpeacein Amberpeacein 16-17, F 4 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    My ssibblings do not treat me good and I know it all boils down to my mother. I have always been the scape goat in the family. All I want is their acceptance but she treats the...
    pristinebeauty pristinebeauty 41-45, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    This is the new and improved version of this story. I would have just edited the existing one, but it constantly set off the wonderful EP filters for some reason. I have thought on...
    shellseagirl shellseagirl 41-45, F 13 Responses Jul 30

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    So I moved out of state. Months before my friend of ten years kept putting off hanging out with me. 7 months went by. Weeks before I moved, he planned a lunch. Then the day of...
    indigoK indigoK 36-40, F Aug 6

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    2 days ago I went to my neighbors house cause her boyfriend was being an ******* again. I always try and make others happy because I know what it's like to be sad. This girl used...
    IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 13-15, M 2 Responses Aug 9

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    I cut myself today. I am so ashamed. I haven't done something like that since I was a teenager. I used to cut myself all the time when I was younger. I had some issues growing up I...
    Thinkofme Thinkofme 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    .... This could be a little rambly. Lately.... i've been feeling like i'm a different person. I'm not sure if i'm depressed, if i am i think i could be denying it, or if i'm...
    a1uM1nuM448 a1uM1nuM448 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    They say that in our teenage years we become more sensitive towards what we are told, what is said about us and how we perceive what others think. We become aware that are actions...
    xogymfish xogymfish 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    As the group name suggests, I struggle with articulating my thoughts and opening up to other people. This may put people off when talking to me, and it might make me seem cold...
    ConcealedWildheart ConcealedWildheart 13-15 1 Response 6 days ago