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I Put Others Before Myself

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me

    Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself, so what does it matter? To me, what matters is how you treat others and how you affect their lives. There is no possible way for...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    I find myself helping

    and caring for others and always forgetting I need some time to help myself so that I'm not overwhelmed.
    nena47 nena47 26-30 Oct 29, 2014

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    Lesser Of Them All

    I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i realize im just pretty much worthless and then i get someone who needs help and i help them but no one helps me they say...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    What Do I Matter?

    I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations making sure that I didn't say something off, or that I didn't miss any signs that something was wrong. I stress so much...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 13-15 Sep 26, 2013

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    Needing To Prioritize More

    Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone and I'm feeling awfully lonely and used up! My Godson is 23 years old, lives with his...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    Most Definatly,especially P...

    Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or someone that needed it more than me.I enjoy helping people out to.It gives me a good feeling to help someone.
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Bad Habit In Someways.

    This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my health and or sanity.
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    Learning To Do More For Me!

    I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life. Now I have anxiety issues (especially social anxiety), depression, and am beginning to question all the decisions I have made in...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    You Before Me

    my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will give it. the shirt off my back or the shoes off my feet if you are in need i will try to help. i don't know why but...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    I Put Others Before Myself

    it hasnt been long that i have realised i put my friends before myself. i would do anything to keep them happy, i would take  my life for them, sometimes i dont mind it, but i hate when i dont get it in return. i mite seem like  a selfish ***** but, i...
    sexybubz2 sexybubz2 13-15 Oct 27, 2010

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize

    This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i think i was 15 and i was upset about something and had tears in my eyes and just wanted a friends shoulder to cry on and to be comforted...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    Step All Over Me

    i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown to learn to try to place boundaries but it is just so hard for me to turn someone down
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    It's the way I was raised.

    Help others, serve others, my wants or needs will take care of themselves. Maybe that's why I am good at my job in customer service. But on a selfish note, sometimes o get hurt feelings when i don't get anything for my birthday or Christmas. My husband says he doesn't know...
    cocanola cocanola 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    No Control

    I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we lost our townhome and are living with my mother and barely get by financially. I am unemployed and I find myself...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    Too Often

    I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel too guilty about spending the money on me and guilt trip myself out of buying it.Then I go to another store and...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    Others First

    I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about me first.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    Good people are like candles,

    they burn themselves up to give others light.
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M Jul 18

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    I don't like to use the word hate often but if I am being honest...I hate myself. I've always hated myself since I was a child. This feeling has gotten to such a low point where I...
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    Just last week I wrote a story about hating myself which I have deleted. I'm big, 222 pounds on a small 5 foot frame. Yes, I'm morbidly obese. However, I eat healthy & I work out...
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    On my way to and from work everyday I pass this little corner store. For the past two weeks or so I've noticed there's a homeless man that sits outside on the corner and just...
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    It never cease to amaze me how deep the basic animal instincts go in us humans, and how strong of a need people have to have the protection of a "heard", so to speak. I don't...
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    okay, had a workout, went and got in the shower. Have my music on. rain falling outside. Very comforting situation. I love the rain. I love my music. and I love a nice relaxing...
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    i do what i can maybe if get more sunny days i can do more damage to the wall of noise and slay the demons who roam outside sadly i am trapped in my own chaos endless grey in...
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    AAA I can't stop! I have this growing desire to make people's lives miserable. I've seen people purposely cause fights just for drama, but this is different. I just like making...
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    I just lost the love of my life due to money His family puts money before everyone. I had a stroke, couldn't contribute towards the expenses and they decided I was a burden...
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    Even though I claim to hate humanity and people in general, I still have a big heart and I love to help in anyway I can. I would love a job where I could help people or animals in...
    GoldenHeart69 GoldenHeart69 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    emotional clearing is a gateway to the next level of development on the individual basis it seems. since yesterday; being emotionally triggered revealed many things perhaps i was...
    Solongotgon Solongotgon 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    I do not allow others who are miserable with their life. to take my joy! I will stand on what I know is right even if I stand alone. I will help anyone who truly needs a hand. I...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    Even though i have some others tell me how good of a person I am, it's hard because I see so many other people in life who are truly happy. Who have not let life bring them down. I...
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    I struggle with low confidence and low self esteem, but I'm definitely trying to put in the effort to build it all up again. I tend to compare myself with others, which I think...
    AcousticSoul17 AcousticSoul17 16-17, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I made a decision that cost me eternal love, joy, peace, relationship... all the good things that only Love Himself can give. I don't understand why I did it, the only answer would...
    Coloursearching Coloursearching 22-25 6 days ago

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    One thing I have discovered that is really harmfull to health is: REFINED SUGAR,it is now found in many processed and other foods,included tin foods. Sugar is added into...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I'm finally getting my life in order, sadly I had to let go of a relationship but I'm better off. I started a new job ( not my career) but it pays the bills till I get there. This...
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    There is a movie series I love to watch on Hallmark Movies And Mysteries called Murder, She Wrote. In one of the episodes, there is a grown woman who is blind. The way some of her...
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    Just some things to take note of before messaging me / adding me to your circle. 1. I don't care if you add me to your circle. However I will not add you back unless I consider...
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    1. I'm currently in college as undecided - I'll either be a film studies and journalism major or a psychology major. 2. I'm introverted. 3. I'm a bookworm. Favorite kinds of...
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