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I Put Others Before Myself

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    Step All Over Me

    i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown to learn to try to place boundaries but it is just so hard for me to turn someone down
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    No Control

    I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we lost our townhome and are living with my mother and barely get by financially. I am unemployed and I find myself...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    Needing To Prioritize More

    Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone and I'm feeling awfully lonely and used up! My Godson is 23 years old, lives with his...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    Learning To Do More For Me!

    I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life. Now I have anxiety issues (especially social anxiety), depression, and am beginning to question all the decisions I have made in...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    You Before Me

    my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will give it. the shirt off my back or the shoes off my feet if you are in need i will try to help. i don't know why but...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me

    Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself, so what does it matter? To me, what matters is how you treat others and how you affect their lives. There is no possible way for...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    Others First

    I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about me first.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    I find myself helping

    and caring for others and always forgetting I need some time to help myself so that I'm not overwhelmed.
    nena47 nena47 26-30 Oct 29, 2014

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize

    This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i think i was 15 and i was upset about something and had tears in my eyes and just wanted a friends shoulder to cry on and to be comforted...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    Good people are like candles,

    they burn themselves up to give others light.
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M Jul 18

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    Lesser Of Them All

    I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i realize im just pretty much worthless and then i get someone who needs help and i help them but no one helps me they say...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    What Do I Matter?

    I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations making sure that I didn't say something off, or that I didn't miss any signs that something was wrong. I stress so much...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 13-15 Sep 26, 2013

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    I Put Others Before Myself

    it hasnt been long that i have realised i put my friends before myself. i would do anything to keep them happy, i would take  my life for them, sometimes i dont mind it, but i hate when i dont get it in return. i mite seem like  a selfish ***** but, i...
    sexybubz2 sexybubz2 13-15 Oct 27, 2010

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    It's the way I was raised.

    Help others, serve others, my wants or needs will take care of themselves. Maybe that's why I am good at my job in customer service. But on a selfish note, sometimes o get hurt feelings when i don't get anything for my birthday or Christmas. My husband says he doesn't know...
    cocanola cocanola 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    Bad Habit In Someways.

    This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my health and or sanity.
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    A lot of people take it

    for granted and others appreciate it. But I'll continue to do it, because everyone deserves that type of caring.
    Micky01134 Micky01134 18-21, F Aug 11

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    Most Definatly,especially P...

    Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or someone that needed it more than me.I enjoy helping people out to.It gives me a good feeling to help someone.
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Too Often

    I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel too guilty about spending the money on me and guilt trip myself out of buying it.Then I go to another store and...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    Not a day goes by were i think about my first girlfriend ,my best girlfriend who would have soon been my fiancee . Five years since that night since that car accident. five years...
    Sladetgx57 Sladetgx57 18-21, M 1 hr ago

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    I hadn't in months and tonight I had a huge argument with my boyfriend. It's been hard lately because we're both off to college and transitioning into a long distance relationship...
    serenabelle serenabelle 18-21, F 3 hrs ago

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    what i remember about life before the internet is that my weekends were very lonely,depressing,and boring. i always worked during the week..but when the weekends rolled around, i...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Now in my life I have spoken to quite a few Angels as well as quite a few Demons. Overall I have found Demons to be more accepting while a lot of Angels are pretty much xenophobes...
    MrMobos MrMobos 16-17, M 1 day ago

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    not sexually. this is what i mean. written by james dobson: "Real intimacy makes us feel alive like we've been found, as if someone finally took the time to peer into the depths...
    cosmosdrift cosmosdrift 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    I find trusting others difficult. It’s hard after you put your trust into multiple people then they all go against you. Even when it seems to be the most ethical, cool type of...
    orderlyhavoc orderlyhavoc 22-25, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Over the summer, I've been working a job with the Canadian military. Basically, my job is to work the summer camps that are put on for military parents and their kids. As the...
    dabram71 dabram71 16-17, M 3 days ago

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    And honestly, I don't like it... Deep in the inside, I know it's better to just accept that I'm not nice at all, which is how I've seen myself as for a long time now. I know as...
    Sil833 Sil833 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Life feels very foreign to me these days. I go through the motions, count my blessings, do the best I can (I think)...but it's like I'm on a path I have never walked before and...
    pinkstarburst pinkstarburst 41-45, F 12 Responses 3 days ago

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    I kinda hate seeing people happy with others. As selfish or inconsiderate as it may sound it kinda makes sense and happens to most of us, Seeing others happy and kinda makes some...
    Setheras Setheras 16-17, M 4 days ago

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    1. I am happy to be me! 2 I love living my life even when it's bad times 3 I love being helpful to others 4 I love to encourage others to be their best 5 I love provoking others to...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy 41-45, F 4 days ago

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    I put headphones in my ears as loud as I can bare the volume in my system - to block out the world so that for once I feel like I can be myself without hearing others peoples...
    Jaazz1987 Jaazz1987 16-17 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    1. I don't see myself as an interesting person. 2. I like to put out my two cents on most conversations. 3. I like to contemplate on just about anything. 4. I'm a cautionous...
    TheTofuMaster TheTofuMaster 22-25, M 5 days ago

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    I don't ask people about themselves, because I don't want to be nosy. I was always told as a child not to be nosy, and not to ask too many questions. Questions were annoying...
    ItisonlyI ItisonlyI 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    I was here before. I have a bad habit of deleting and coming back. If anybody guess my old identity, I will fess up as I do not believe in being fake, but I am not ready to...
    onlyheretowrite onlyheretowrite 46-50, F 5 days ago

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    Also I burnt my hand on purpose once in a moment when I wasnt sure it would hurt. Weirdly it didn't hurt and I ended up giving myself bad burns and being put on a watch list at my...
    coerietheraven coerietheraven 22-25, M 6 days ago

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    I love putting on a show for others via skype or yahoo messenger.
    nakednudist nakednudist 46-50, M 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Sometimes i just dont really want to be myself Sorry this is a rant... I was raised as a spoiled child and I still am. I always had to have everything I wanted and refused to...
    Pillemy Pillemy 18-21 1 Response a week ago

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    hymn of nothingness oh i have serve feels like eternity to feel...joy and sadness illuminate my path with darkness and nothingness away from all this madness unite me with...
    anotherclone anotherclone 26-30, M a week ago

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    She's only 17, her whole life's ahead of her. She hates school because the people there discredit her. Her boyfriend tries to show her that's not how it seems. But everyday she...
    lilithity lilithity 18-21, F a week ago

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    I often like to cut my fingertips to remind myself how much of a monster i can be. The cuts represent claws. If im not careful with what i touch, i will hurt myself. When i hurt...
    ForgedFromFire ForgedFromFire 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 23

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    I'll try to make this short and simple for those of who do not like to read long paragraphs. I'm writing my story because it has been locked up inside of me for so long. I want to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 23

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    How To Turn Six Dollars Into Six Thousand Dollars: I found this on a bulletin board and decided to try it. A little while back I was browsing through newsgroups just like you are...
    manusundr manusundr 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 22

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    Sometimes I will say something without thinking before I say it and that is when I get myself into trouble with other people. A lot of times I will speak what is on my mind without...
    marlene41298 marlene41298 16-17, F Aug 22

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    How To Turn Six Dollars Into Six Thousand Dollars: I found this on a bulletin board and decided to try it. A little while back I was browsing through newsgroups just like you are...
    manusundr manusundr 46-50, M 1 Response