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I Put Others Before Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 430 People

    Learning To Do More For Me!

    I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life. Now I have anxiety issues (especially social anxiety), depression, and am beginning to question all the decisions I have made in...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    You Before Me

    my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will give it. the shirt off my back or the shoes off my feet if you are in need i will try to help. i don't know why but...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    Step All Over Me

    i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown to learn to try to place boundaries but it is just so hard for me to turn someone down
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    Too Often

    I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel too guilty about spending the money on me and guilt trip myself out of buying it.Then I go to another store and...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize

    This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i think i was 15 and i was upset about something and had tears in my eyes and just wanted a friends shoulder to cry on and to be comforted...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    What Do I Matter?

    I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations making sure that I didn't say something off, or that I didn't miss any signs that something was wrong. I stress so much...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 16-17 Sep 26, 2013

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    It's the way I was raised.

    Help others, serve others, my wants or needs will take care of themselves. Maybe that's why I am good at my job in customer service. But on a selfish note, sometimes o get hurt feelings when i don't get anything for my birthday or Christmas. My husband says he doesn't know...
    cocanola cocanola 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    I find myself helping

    and caring for others and always forgetting I need some time to help myself so that I'm not overwhelmed.
    nena47 nena47 26-30 Oct 29, 2014

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    A lot of people take it

    for granted and others appreciate it. But I'll continue to do it, because everyone deserves that type of caring.
    Micky01134 Micky01134 18-21, F Aug 11, 2015

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    No Control

    I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we lost our townhome and are living with my mother and barely get by financially. I am unemployed and I find myself...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    Needing To Prioritize More

    Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone and I'm feeling awfully lonely and used up! My Godson is 23 years old, lives with his...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    Most Definatly,especially P...

    Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or someone that needed it more than me.I enjoy helping people out to.It gives me a good feeling to help someone.
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me

    Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself, so what does it matter? To me, what matters is how you treat others and how you affect their lives. There is no possible way for...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    Others First

    I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about me first.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    Lesser Of Them All

    I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i realize im just pretty much worthless and then i get someone who needs help and i help them but no one helps me they say...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    I Put Others Before Myself

    it hasnt been long that i have realised i put my friends before myself. i would do anything to keep them happy, i would take  my life for them, sometimes i dont mind it, but i hate when i dont get it in return. i mite seem like  a selfish ***** but, i...
    sexybubz2 sexybubz2 13-15 Oct 27, 2010

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    Bad Habit In Someways.

    This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my health and or sanity.
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    Good people are like candles,

    they burn themselves up to give others light.
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M Jul 18, 2015

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    I feel good when I'm DOING something, even if only in my mind. Always thinking "what can I do better" but must get trapped or paralyzed in this too. I've decided to start "working...
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    I was a bit nervous but it wasn't that bad. The people that were there were pretty friendly. I don't know if I will make any friends but just putting yourself other helps. I hope...
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    I mean, yeah, maybe you're feeling really bad about yourself but don't put other people down just cause you hate yourself. Talk to someone. Someone you trust. If you can't or don't...
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    I feel that most people in my life are only there due to convenience. I don't feel any "bond" or connection with even my closest friends and family anymore. I know it's my fault...
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    I don't like myself,and I can understand why others can too. I'm ugly. My family keeps telling me that I'm beautiful, but I'm not. I have an apple body shape,meaning that I have no...
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    I really have been struggling with this lately... well more like for the past 7 or so months. I ******* hate myself, I hate that I'm useless and can't bring home any income, I hate...
    GoldenHeart69 GoldenHeart69 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    I think the best person to give you honest on who you are and what you look like if the mirror ..looking at my reflection in the mirror tell me a lot about who I'm and how other...
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