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I Put Others Before Myself

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    Lesser Of Them All

    I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i realize im just pretty much worthless and then i get someone who needs help and i help them but no one helps me they say...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    Others First

    I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about me first.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    No Control

    I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we lost our townhome and are living with my mother and barely get by financially. I am unemployed and I find myself...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    Needing To Prioritize More

    Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone and I'm feeling awfully lonely and used up! My Godson is 23 years old, lives with his...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    I Put Others Before Myself

    it hasnt been long that i have realised i put my friends before myself. i would do anything to keep them happy, i would take  my life for them, sometimes i dont mind it, but i hate when i dont get it in return. i mite seem like  a selfish ***** but, i...
    sexybubz2 sexybubz2 13-15 Oct 27, 2010

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    I Do

    Because I don't deserve putting myself before them, I'm not selfish and never will be. Too many people are like that these days and I'm pretty sure it ****** everyone off.
    TideToGo TideToGo 18-21, F Jan 24, 2010

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    Most Definatly,especially P...

    Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or someone that needed it more than me.I enjoy helping people out to.It gives me a good feeling to help someone.
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Bad Habit In Someways.

    This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my health and or sanity.
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 21-25, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    It's the way I was raised.

    Help others, serve others, my wants or needs will take care of themselves. Maybe that's why I am good at my job in customer service. But on a selfish note, sometimes o get hurt feelings when i don't get anything for my birthday or Christmas. My husband says he doesn't know...
    cocanola cocanola 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    What Do I Matter?

    I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations making sure that I didn't say something off, or that I didn't miss any signs that something was wrong. I stress so much...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 13-15 Sep 26, 2013

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    Learning To Do More For Me!

    I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life. Now I have anxiety issues (especially social anxiety), depression, and am beginning to question all the decisions I have made in...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize

    This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i think i was 15 and i was upset about something and had tears in my eyes and just wanted a friends shoulder to cry on and to be comforted...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    I Feel Guilty Putting Me First.

    Ever since becoming a mom 3 years ago its gotten worse, I rarely ever buy anything for myself and if I do I feel guilty for doing it, because I always say well the girls could use this or they need that, or my mom needs help with this I should see if I can help out.  I feel...
    bellamomma bellamomma 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 18, 2008

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    I find myself helping

    and caring for others and always forgetting I need some time to help myself so that I'm not overwhelmed.
    nena47 nena47 26-30 Oct 29, 2014

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    You Before Me

    my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will give it. the shirt off my back or the shoes off my feet if you are in need i will try to help. i don't know why but...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    Too Often

    I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel too guilty about spending the money on me and guilt trip myself out of buying it.Then I go to another store and...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    Step All Over Me

    i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown to learn to try to place boundaries but it is just so hard for me to turn someone down
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me

    Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself, so what does it matter? To me, what matters is how you treat others and how you affect their lives. There is no possible way for...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    That's right! They just don't feel the need to. They are happy all on their own. People that always put others down are trying to make themselves feel better. This is warped!
    OneClassyLady OneClassyLady 70+, F 1 Response Feb 12

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    Hello everyone.. You can call me 'purplemystery'.. Or anything you'd like, it doesn't matter to me really lol. I'd to tell anyone who's reading this, is that .. This account isn't...
    purplemystery purplemystery 16-17, F 18 hrs ago

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    Its true, after being in a marriage with someone who cannot "put himself in others shoes" i have begun to realize the importance of empathy in relationships, family, and society...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    It's not even a relationship. I don't know what the hell we are. I was being stupid. Put my effort and roll on with my feelings. Now, I'm here. Shattered than before. Numb. It's...
    masmelo masmelo 18-21, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    Today. I left my house and said I was going to the book store, instead I drove to the top of a parking garage and climbed up onto the wall and almost jumped. I then realized that I...
    bbrynnaa bbrynnaa 16-17, F 7 hrs ago

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    I looked today. Tonight. Just now. And I saw a skeleton. In the past I've seen a handsome guy. Or my eyes, filled with the battle against horrible things, dreadful thoughts...
    cloudsoflife cloudsoflife 26-30, M 4 hrs ago

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    Sometimes you hold the door open for one person and before you know it you've been condemned to holding the door open for what seems like everyone.
    Blue707 Blue707 16-17, M 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    I rely too much on others to entertain me, at least to a degree. Chatting online, mostly. The sad thing is, half the time I don't enjoy that, either, but it's my only libidinous...
    AsteroidBlues6 AsteroidBlues6 36-40, M 7 hrs ago

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    My husband was raised by hillbillies and no rules He basically raised himself. His mom had a big psych issue and wasn't on meds And his dad a big alcoholic and a smoker I didn't...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Finding an inspiration that heals. Shes gone. It hurts but I will be okay. This past year has been phenomenally hard but I believe I'm exactly where I need to be. 2014 I was...
    mmn6134 mmn6134 22-25, F Feb 5

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    LOL. This is funny, because this group is judging others who judge others. Hypocritical? Everyone judges someone's character. How many people have NOT judged Hitler?
    RationalCutie RationalCutie 22-25, F 7 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    Covert emotional manipulation In The narcissists/sociopaths bag of tricks are a plethora of manipulation tactics they use to control conversations and your reality, avoid...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    Yup I have resorted to this. I want the next two years of my life to be about no one but myself. When I'm in a relationship I bend over backwards to give my partner anything that I...
    SapphicMinion SapphicMinion 26-30, F 26 Responses Feb 2

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    I dont know whether my post I am going to put here is appropriate or not but for today alone I have seen more than 2 people say this that they are not valued for who they are...
    FightingTillTheEnd FightingTillTheEnd 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    Is it like normal to bully myself? Idk. I tend to insult me, and think the worst of me... I guess it's because I'd rather listen to this stuff from me, instead of from someone else...
    MissPeruvian MissPeruvian 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    This might make me weaker than anyone, but I don't like crying in front of others because I want to be the one they can depend on. I want them to feel comfortable crying in front...
    KiNDERPiSTOL KiNDERPiSTOL 18-21, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I'm unable to be involved in relationships that have healthy exchanges of affection, compassion, and love. This is not my choice, but the result of many years of chronic anxiety...
    DarkPathos DarkPathos 51-55, M 4 Responses Feb 3

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    I was fine all day, yet as i was in bed on tumblr, I came across a love blog. And after about 10 minutes of scrolling, I found myself sobbing into my teddy bear. The reason, this...
    MiniMe57 MiniMe57 13-15, F Feb 7

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    Just outside my living-room window is a (home-made, in the spirit of Heath Robinson) bird table. It's a hubcap on a pole, topped with an upturned hanging basket cage to keep the...
    damselfly damselfly 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    I'm not going to settle for anything less then what I want or need, and I can't commit to something I know isn't good for me. I don't feel the need to be with someone only to find...
    awsome2 awsome2 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    After being with my husband for 23 years and married 14 of them, one child who is 12. I am at the point that I am not happy, he is here physically but emotionally I can't find...
    littlefroghere littlefroghere 41-45, F 6 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I haven't cut myself in such a long time. It's been months since I've had urges but I really want to hurt myself and tear myself apart today. I don't know what to do. I can't get...
    burningcolors burningcolors 16-17, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    For those of you involved with a narcissist. I wanted to write a little something about being the narcissists extension. This took me my entire marriage to grasp and I could have...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 2

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    I tried writing this experience once but it shut down in the middle, so I'm a little frustrated but I'll try again. I was saying that I find myself doing things just for the sole...
    Shamandora Shamandora 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    Sometimes one of the difficult tasks is to put your thoughts in words or writing because unless others understand what you are going through it is difficult It is like being dumb...
    FightingTillTheEnd FightingTillTheEnd 31-35, M Feb 12

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    im not A lot to talk, because im an xbox person personally even so the Laptop does give some nice rewards, not numerous but some. I do think the accomplishment details would tide...
    Ethan3088hnz9 Ethan3088hnz9 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    I have dealt with these putrid souls many times before. I do my best to to put them down and bother them anyway possible but not make it obvious. I have an arrogant side but it's...
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 18-21, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I don't have much of a social life, but anyone I come in contact with I tend to be very nice, I work my *** off in order to pay the debts my mom is in and slowly but surely she...
    brianopp brianopp 18-21, M Feb 17

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    it's 4:00 in the morning. it's raining outside - the wind is brisk and the smell of night is abundant on the senses. i took my motorcycle and rode the streets. a cigarette lot in...
    hellaborderline hellaborderline 22-25, M 15 hrs ago

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