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I Put Others Before Myself

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 375 People

    Needing To Prioritize More

    Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone and I'm feeling awfully lonely and used up! My Godson is 23 years old, lives with his...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    No Control

    I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we lost our townhome and are living with my mother and barely get by financially. I am unemployed and I find myself...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    Learning To Do More For Me!

    I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life. Now I have anxiety issues (especially social anxiety), depression, and am beginning to question all the decisions I have made in...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    Too Often

    I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel too guilty about spending the money on me and guilt trip myself out of buying it.Then I go to another store and...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    What Do I Matter?

    I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations making sure that I didn't say something off, or that I didn't miss any signs that something was wrong. I stress so much...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 13-15 Sep 26, 2013

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    Step All Over Me

    i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown to learn to try to place boundaries but it is just so hard for me to turn someone down
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    Lesser Of Them All

    I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i realize im just pretty much worthless and then i get someone who needs help and i help them but no one helps me they say...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize

    This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i think i was 15 and i was upset about something and had tears in my eyes and just wanted a friends shoulder to cry on and to be comforted...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me

    Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself, so what does it matter? To me, what matters is how you treat others and how you affect their lives. There is no possible way for...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    Others First

    I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about me first.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    Most Definatly,especially P...

    Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or someone that needed it more than me.I enjoy helping people out to.It gives me a good feeling to help someone.
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    You Before Me

    my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will give it. the shirt off my back or the shoes off my feet if you are in need i will try to help. i don't know why but...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    I Put Others Before Myself

    it hasnt been long that i have realised i put my friends before myself. i would do anything to keep them happy, i would take  my life for them, sometimes i dont mind it, but i hate when i dont get it in return. i mite seem like  a selfish ***** but, i...
    sexybubz2 sexybubz2 13-15 Oct 27, 2010

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    It's the way I was raised.

    Help others, serve others, my wants or needs will take care of themselves. Maybe that's why I am good at my job in customer service. But on a selfish note, sometimes o get hurt feelings when i don't get anything for my birthday or Christmas. My husband says he doesn't know...
    cocanola cocanola 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    Bad Habit In Someways.

    This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my health and or sanity.
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    I find myself helping

    and caring for others and always forgetting I need some time to help myself so that I'm not overwhelmed.
    nena47 nena47 26-30 Oct 29, 2014

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    I have never really ever thought of my self, as beautiful, hell I have never even thought of my self, as even average. I just always feel like, I am the ugliest person in the world...
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    This is a personality trait that goes right through me. I am usually an understanding person and I get that sometimes people have a bad day or are mad at the world, but if you are...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Probably people will hate me and criticize me now, but I would put the death penalty for all kind of bullies, even those at school. I don't care if they are only kids or teenagers...
    disappeared88 disappeared88 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    You know, I love to help out other people. I would love to be able to donate food, toys and other things to people in need and animal shelters and before now, if I had the money I...
    MammaWolfie MammaWolfie 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    I think I have finally figured out just what I want to write, I wondered for decades if I was doing the right thing in helping his father and others keep my husband under their...
    isis55 isis55 51-55, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I don't understand those people that are so open to others telling their problems and how they feel, especially when the other person they're telling this to is having problems of...
    drunkpunker drunkpunker 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    anotherclone anotherclone 26-30, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    pinkstarburst pinkstarburst 41-45, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    Before we moved to Alaska,i was on my lunch break and had joined a friend for lunch.As i was walking back to my office,something told me to look to my left,there in short alley way...
    coastiewife36 coastiewife36 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    So ever since I left my earthly family, I've been feeling quite okay. Not fine, not good but okay. Been sleeping off the bad feelings. Thank God it's summer break otherwise I would...
    PurpleGreenWings PurpleGreenWings 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    The number one rule in helping others is: only help people who need it. I call it the "restaurant rule"; a restaurant doesn't go to you, you go to it. I'm sure a lot of people...
    MrSpecify MrSpecify 18-21, M 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I do not come on EP as often as I used to but, to my surprise, there are a number of people asking for updates as well as advice on other issues. My last update went into detail...
    amcintyre94 amcintyre94 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    I'm usually there to help someone, but I realized I'm not there to be helped. I'm very prideful and I feel like receiving help makes me weak. Even when it comes to advice, I rarely...
    WearOutKyd WearOutKyd 26-30, M 3 Responses Jun 25

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    One of the most terrible things about today's society is social media. Everyone wants to post this online for likes and views. We depends so much on the opinions of others that...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    I am 32 and currently live in Virginia with my wife and 5 year old after getting out of the military. We decided to buy a house here for 5 years then move back to Washington state...
    dadeveryday dadeveryday 31-35, M Jun 23

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    When I was 8 years old my life completely change. My parents broke apart and my dad left us. I attended a different school where I wasn't liked by the teachers or the students...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 13-15, F 12 Responses Jun 22

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    Thunder Don't admire me my words, Because most were born from pains; As a child in words I'd shelter, When I heard thunder before life's rains And with the onslaught of a...
    squizz5 squizz5 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 22

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