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I Put Others Before Myself

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize - This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    Learning To Do More For Me! - I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    You Before Me - my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me - Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    What Do I Matter? - I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 13-15 Sep 26, 2013

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    I Feel Guilty Putting Me First. - Ever since becoming a mom 3 years ago its gotten worse, I rarely ever buy anything for myself and if I do I feel guilty for doing it, because I...
    bellamomma bellamomma 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 18, 2008

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    Too Often - I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    Others First - I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    No Control - I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    Lesser Of Them All - I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    Most Definatly,especially P... - Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or...
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Needing To Prioritize More - Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    Step All Over Me - i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown...
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    Bad Habit In Someways. - This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my...
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 21-25, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    most of the time i put others needs before my own. and often taken advantage because of it. but i dont mind cuz the smiles of the ppl i helped makes it all worth it.
    sheshka sheshka 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    Hi world!! I really don't know what to put here about myself so ill keep it short and snappy ;) My name is Bee-La ( shorter version of my name) and I live all the way down in...
    Happystar3901 Happystar3901 13-15, F Mar 20

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    "Ask and ye shall recieve." I help others because I believe it to be moral behavior, and enjoy it mostly in a 'I'm doing the right thing' kind of way. When I was deciding what to...
    TragicMonkey TragicMonkey 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 28

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    Here the past few days I've been dealing with a lot of insecurity and self esteem. I was talking with my best friend today and I think I have a really good idea of what I would...
    needinganescape needinganescape 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    So recently I have been wetting the bed again. Which is really embarassing and unpleasant. I haven't wet my bed since I was 6 and I haven't wet my pants during the day for even...
    Jonaayy Jonaayy 13-15, F 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    1. Pain is part of growing. Sometimes life closes doors because it’s time to move forward. And that’s a good thing because we often won’t move unless circumstances force us...
    EnigmatiK EnigmatiK 22-25, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am the nicest to everyone. I just want to have many friends, but I put their needs before mine, and it's really hard to keep up with everything. Recently I have been caring about...
    xcamep xcamep 13-15, F Mar 22

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    Thoughts, opinions, ideas, questions, problems, concerns, and feelings: these are all things that I don't feel like burdening others with. I feel that if I reveal any of them, the...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    I've only been on EP for three days, and it's already helping me with my ongoing battle with depression. Or rather, it's helping me to help myself. I'm the kind of person who...
    xeian xeian 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    I seem to blame others for my own problems... I know it's not them. I'm delusional and I need someone to take responsibility for my shortcomings. I don't think I used to be like...
    Es777 Es777 26-30, M 4 mins ago

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    It's been over half a year since I cut myself for the first time. I got home from school and had been stressed and as they say "when it rains, it's pouring". I got inside my...
    iSabishii iSabishii 18-21, F Mar 24

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    I am leaving every expectation others have of me behind. I am living life for me. I am thinking and believing for myself. Loyalty is a strong connection, but to bind yourself...
    thislittlejourney thislittlejourney 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Is it me? Everything is crumbling. Nothing makes sense. Relationships are broken. Bonds that should be permanent are severed, leaving behind ragged edges of frayed cord. I know I...
    Missjayne1 Missjayne1 31-35, F Mar 17

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    ( Short story: Prologue) My last hope Everything stops. Times stands still. There he lies on the cold ground. Here I’m standing just staring down as death whispers on the end...
    TweDee TweDee 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 3

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    I once read an interesting perspective about the people you will encounter in your life, it states: "25% of people you meet: will never like you; 25% of people you meet: won't...
    FussBox FussBox 26-30, F Apr 7

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    idk y but i have always hated being alone. i wish i was more comfortable being alone. its like i wither if im not in the presence of ppl or interacting. i guess another way to look...
    hallowedwillow hallowedwillow 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    How to change our Meaningless Life to Meaningful Life:: This story is about a beautiful, expensively dressed lady who complained to her psychiatrist that she felt that her whole...
    moksha18 moksha18 51-55, F Mar 24

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    I was a homeschooled outcast with no friends. LITERALLY no friends. Not one. I never got out of the house and spent years living that way. I prayed and prayed for someone to come...
    ForeverUnordinary ForeverUnordinary 16-17, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I wouldn't call it loving myself, but rather that I find myself to be one awesome, one of a kind person. I am intelligent, hard working, easy going, open, and honest, to name some...
    bkf2 bkf2 22-25, M 5 days ago

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    I am a tom boy kinda girl.. but so what!! i love myself now n don't care what others think of me.. i love to try out new things ...so what if others don't like it. i love to deal...
    90colors 90colors 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    Hi! My name is Natasha. I'm new to this so bear with me. I used to think that God didn't care about me. I hated Him and even started to doubt his existed. I didn't believe in Him...
    LoveNeverFails21 LoveNeverFails21 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I had just taken a shower and as I sat on the floor over a black towel putting a hair mask on, I prepared my leg. Cutting is as much a part of my beauty treatment as makeup and...
    Shhush Shhush 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have always put other people's happiness before my own and im starting to realize that people will just use me and then never speak to me again. I know that i probably will never...
    lunarfaerie lunarfaerie 16-17, F 6 Responses Mar 17

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    To be human is to accept that our faults are natural. That we have the decision to be who we want to be. That we're free to think as we want. That we have to rely on each other and...
    ladypirate108 ladypirate108 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    An update on my healthy eating and exercise goal. Have lost 4 kilos. Have been down to the weight before and gone back up again, so am quietly happy but realise there is a long...
    irishair irishair 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    My name is Randy. I'm 14 and I hate bullies. In fact, I go out of my way to stop bullies. I'm an antibully. I help the teased, the beaten up, and the unpopular. If I see a bully in...
    antibully14 antibully14 13-15, M 2 Responses Mar 19

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    So I'm making a new group. Maybe this will look better in "Blogs" but even when my EP account pretty much resembles a blog site, I just can't bring myself to make another one again...
    kixisback kixisback 22-25 Mar 31

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    I ruined something amazing. It's a long story but I'll start on the night that we met. We'll just call him dd coz he was supposed to be the dd. Anyway, I was really drunk and didn...
    whitterz whitterz 22-25, F Apr 1

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    Tonight I went a liit further than normal. I wanted to full on abuse myself. I tied my ankles together and then I put a belt snug around my neck, sat on the floor and tied it to...
    innerself000 innerself000 18-21 Apr 4

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    I find that the way I feel right now is so much worse than my friends and family realize. Even interacting with them upsets me. Perhaps I am jealous... that they are happy or at...
    mimileelee mimileelee 36-40, F 5 days ago

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    I actually stopped a while back. Not really, like last year after Christmas. It's hard but I did and I'm proud of myself. My girlfriend looked down on me for it, though she has...
    ExileTraveler ExileTraveler 13-15, F 17 hrs ago

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    .....I cut myself for the first time about 3 weeks ago.... It stung. I remember the night so clearly. I was depressed because I found out my crush had sex with another girl when I...
    WolfGirl31 WolfGirl31 13-15, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    I don't want to have to change myself to get a man to like me. Usually I do have to though. I have to pretend not to like something, or pretend to like what they like. Or else they...
    Dreamer32 Dreamer32 22-25, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    This is so me, coz i cant be bothered to explain myself to me. Its annoying coz i have alopecia and i cant be myself alot of the times coz i wear a wig. I wish i could have my hair...
    AchingSoul AchingSoul 22-25, F 3 hrs ago

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    I talk to myself alot ! It's fun and just like make random *** jokes with myself and I'm glad I'm not the only one ! :D
    emmawinterfrost emmawinterfrost 13-15, F 2 hrs ago

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    I have a very strange family dynamic with an uncle in jail since forever and my oldest cousin dead. That cousin actually threatened me and three of my friends one night. At...
    ThreeIII ThreeIII 31-35, F Mar 17