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I Put Others Before Myself

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    Learning To Do More For Me!

    I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life. Now I have anxiety issues (especially social anxiety), depression, and am beginning to question all the decisions I have made in...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    It's the way I was raised.

    Help others, serve others, my wants or needs will take care of themselves. Maybe that's why I am good at my job in customer service. But on a selfish note, sometimes o get hurt feelings when i don't get anything for my birthday or Christmas. My husband says he doesn't know...
    cocanola cocanola 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    Step All Over Me

    i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown to learn to try to place boundaries but it is just so hard for me to turn someone down
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    Lesser Of Them All

    I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i realize im just pretty much worthless and then i get someone who needs help and i help them but no one helps me they say...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    Needing To Prioritize More

    Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone and I'm feeling awfully lonely and used up! My Godson is 23 years old, lives with his...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me

    Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself, so what does it matter? To me, what matters is how you treat others and how you affect their lives. There is no possible way for...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    Others First

    I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about me first.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize

    This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i think i was 15 and i was upset about something and had tears in my eyes and just wanted a friends shoulder to cry on and to be comforted...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    No Control

    I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we lost our townhome and are living with my mother and barely get by financially. I am unemployed and I find myself...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    You Before Me

    my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will give it. the shirt off my back or the shoes off my feet if you are in need i will try to help. i don't know why but...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    What Do I Matter?

    I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations making sure that I didn't say something off, or that I didn't miss any signs that something was wrong. I stress so much...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 13-15 Sep 26, 2013

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    Most Definatly,especially P...

    Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or someone that needed it more than me.I enjoy helping people out to.It gives me a good feeling to help someone.
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    I Put Others Before Myself

    it hasnt been long that i have realised i put my friends before myself. i would do anything to keep them happy, i would take  my life for them, sometimes i dont mind it, but i hate when i dont get it in return. i mite seem like  a selfish ***** but, i...
    sexybubz2 sexybubz2 13-15 Oct 27, 2010

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    Bad Habit In Someways.

    This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my health and or sanity.
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    I find myself helping

    and caring for others and always forgetting I need some time to help myself so that I'm not overwhelmed.
    nena47 nena47 26-30 Oct 29, 2014

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    Too Often

    I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel too guilty about spending the money on me and guilt trip myself out of buying it.Then I go to another store and...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    i have always put others before me and i guess i always will. no matter what i feel if someone is upset i'll put them first no matter what. even if its like 4 in the morning and i...
    catsrule5678 catsrule5678 18-21, F 1 Response May 7

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    I want to die I can't stand living anymore and being told how selfish I am every fcking day. It tears me apart because I spend half of my time caring about other people and put...
    PaintOverItBlack PaintOverItBlack 22-25, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Why do some people feel the need to put others down? It's terrible and unwanted. People do kill themselves. No it's not for attention. They just tried to rid of any attention...
    Secrets27 Secrets27 13-15, F 3 Responses May 4

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    It's exhausting living with a mentally unstable person..Im pretty sure my mothers bipolar i can't stand her..It's like having to walk on eggshells all the time,constantly being...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 5 Responses May 14

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    1)I love science and I'm a nerd by nature 2)I love books more than movies 3)I have a tough time opening up to others. 4)I love food and I'm an excellent cook 5)I love serving...
    feliciaohorouhurakoriandr feliciaohorouhurakoriandr 22-25, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    When I was 18, I smoked a pack and a half of cigarettes each day, drove everywhere I possibly could, and was NOT in good shape at all. At 46, I'm in the best shape I've ever...
    ThirtySevenX ThirtySevenX 46-50, M 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I wish I could, I really want to lose weight but I can't go on a diet because if I told my mum and dad that they would be like "there's nothing wrong with you,what do you want for...
    ItsJustRebecca ItsJustRebecca 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I try not to. I am very open-minded and accepting of differences, tolerating and very forgiving. I need more practicing in not judging Taylor Swift since she hurt a friend of mine...
    neverendingfairytale2 neverendingfairytale2 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    I attempt but I'm weak. If I'm really into you, you're probably getting in anyway, or I'm just too late to protect myself.
    H8M4CH1N3 H8M4CH1N3 13-15, M 10 hrs ago

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    Many years ago I remember waking up every morning thinking to myself "I love my life." Yes, there was a lot that was new, a lot that was going on, and much to be excited about. But...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 2 Responses May 8

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    Why does the world have to hate?! Why can't I have a normal life just like everyone else?! Why can't people just ******* stop making fun and putting me down?! It's not like I chose...
    TheTrabish TheTrabish 16-17, F 9 hrs ago

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    This is a kinda funny story. When I was taking loads of drugs in this house I shared with my best mate/drug buddy, some strange stuff used to happen.I had a parcel delivered to me...
    chinawhite007 chinawhite007 26-30, M May 1

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    To know me in person, I'm someone who is very sociable, funny and overall a kind soul. What I have in an abundance in humor and the gift of gab, I lack in the inability to hide my...
    lavendersea lavendersea 41-45, F 2 Responses May 13

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    I've really messed up on my freshman year at college.. I usually do not have a difficult time putting myself out there and making new friends but in my first of college I've made...
    dabc12 dabc12 18-21, F 1 Response May 4

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    This became a longer story then I wanted to be, but its my story and I carry it with pride. I have always been a weirdo and I love myself for it. I am now in a point in my life...
    GuiltBear GuiltBear 31-35, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Alright Ep family, here's a moral story for you... I just came back from Talladega. I went to watch NASCAR; with my mom, her bf and his eldest daughter (she's only 20). We had a...
    itscake itscake 22-25, F 3 Responses May 7

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    Over this past year I've changed.The truth is I can hardly recognise myself,I'm almost a completely different person from before.I'm not really sure what triggered this change,it...
    MeAndMySelf98 MeAndMySelf98 16-17, M May 10

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    Weird, I know. Sometimes I cry, inside I'm often sad but have to put on a brave face for the world. I feel guilt sometimes.
    Michaelx5 Michaelx5 18-21 2 days ago

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    A poo before a bath! So I ran my bath and needed a poo anyway so after I had ran my bath I took my clothes off and like I said before that I was going to poo in a pair of my...
    Mushypanties12 Mushypanties12 18-21, M May 10

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    I was in a car accident and lost my front tooth. I have a false tooth till my peg tooth is made. I have too laugh at myself , twice I have forgot to put it in my mouth and drove to...
    myzchristy5050 myzchristy5050 61-65 5 Responses May 11

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    I've spent my whole life trying to tear others down although it's in a form of OCD obsession that lead to hallucinations and aggression then being rude to almost everyone it's...
    Nual Nual 22-25, F 2 Responses May 14

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    Im in my 20s, I have no friends, No girlfriend (never did), I noticed I am boring to be around.I have social anxiety and depression. I have trouble connecting with others. I dont...
    carreola765 carreola765 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I'm here again tonight, just when i thought i should have by now feeling more better about myself after the short escape from the hermit shell i've been self-confined in - I'm not...
    jessycarcher jessycarcher 22-25, F May 9

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    I always told myself I'd never let myself fall into darkness. I'd never hurt myself. Yet here I am.
    LiviLuv24 LiviLuv24 13-15, F 2 hrs ago

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    I wonder how many people actually know what stress is. Maybe loosing someone you care about. Loosing a spouse. Raising your kids on your own. Not knowing where money is going to...
    davideo1952 davideo1952 61-65, M 2 Responses Apr 27

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    I have done it few times for the common reasons 1-wanting to feel anything if that feeling is pain. 2- being angry at myself or others n it was my way of letting it out. I used to...
    candles700 candles700 22-25, F May 6

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    This is true! I always do! I never think of myself before someone else! It's always their happiness before my own! And I never regret it.
    ijb2012 ijb2012 16-17, M 1 Response May 8

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