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I Put Others Before Myself

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    What Do I Matter?

    I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations making sure that I didn't say something off, or that I didn't miss any signs that something was wrong. I stress so much...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 13-15 Sep 26, 2013

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    Bad Habit In Someways.

    This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my health and or sanity.
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 21-25, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize

    This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i think i was 15 and i was upset about something and had tears in my eyes and just wanted a friends shoulder to cry on and to be comforted...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    I Feel Guilty Putting Me First.

    Ever since becoming a mom 3 years ago its gotten worse, I rarely ever buy anything for myself and if I do I feel guilty for doing it, because I always say well the girls could use this or they need that, or my mom needs help with this I should see if I can help out.  I feel...
    bellamomma bellamomma 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 18, 2008

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me

    Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself, so what does it matter? To me, what matters is how you treat others and how you affect their lives. There is no possible way for...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    Needing To Prioritize More

    Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone and I'm feeling awfully lonely and used up! My Godson is 23 years old, lives with his...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    Step All Over Me

    i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown to learn to try to place boundaries but it is just so hard for me to turn someone down
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    Too Often

    I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel too guilty about spending the money on me and guilt trip myself out of buying it.Then I go to another store and...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    No Control

    I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we lost our townhome and are living with my mother and barely get by financially. I am unemployed and I find myself...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    Lesser Of Them All

    I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i realize im just pretty much worthless and then i get someone who needs help and i help them but no one helps me they say...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    Others First

    I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about me first.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    Learning To Do More For Me!

    I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life. Now I have anxiety issues (especially social anxiety), depression, and am beginning to question all the decisions I have made in...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    Most Definatly,especially P...

    Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or someone that needed it more than me.I enjoy helping people out to.It gives me a good feeling to help someone.
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    You Before Me

    my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will give it. the shirt off my back or the shoes off my feet if you are in need i will try to help. i don't know why but...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I don't have a family yet but I made a vow to put my family first because my mother never will put me and my sister first. I'm 17 almost 18 and my mom has never defended me even...
    ashleyjo1 ashleyjo1 16-17, F 3 days ago

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    I felt like **** today. Headache, cramps, back pain. Gained weight and so I feel crappy and bloated an yucky. Phone calls to the church so annoying, the people overall annoying. I...
    searchingfar searchingfar 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    "Ask and ye shall recieve." I help others because I believe it to be moral behavior, and enjoy it mostly in a 'I'm doing the right thing' kind of way. When I was deciding what to...
    TragicMonkey TragicMonkey 31-35, M 6 Responses Mar 28

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    My whole life I've had a close, tight-knit relationship with my parents. Family is really important to me, including both of my sisters. A lot of the views and beliefs I have today...
    odm3 odm3 18-21 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Here the past few days I've been dealing with a lot of insecurity and self esteem. I was talking with my best friend today and I think I have a really good idea of what I would...
    needinganescape needinganescape 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    1. Pain is part of growing. Sometimes life closes doors because it’s time to move forward. And that’s a good thing because we often won’t move unless circumstances force us...
    EnigmatiK EnigmatiK 22-25, M 3 Responses Apr 13

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    Thoughts, opinions, ideas, questions, problems, concerns, and feelings: these are all things that I don't feel like burdening others with. I feel that if I reveal any of them, the...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    I've only been on EP for three days, and it's already helping me with my ongoing battle with depression. Or rather, it's helping me to help myself. I'm the kind of person who...
    xeian xeian 26-30, F Apr 13

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    The purpose of this document is to clarify why I'm here and what is acceptable/unacceptable to me. I want to make sure that there are no misunderstandings about me or my intentions...
    FrozenGuy FrozenGuy 51-55, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    It's been over half a year since I cut myself for the first time. I got home from school and had been stressed and as they say "when it rains, it's pouring". I got inside my...
    iSabishii iSabishii 18-21, F Mar 24

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    I once read an interesting perspective about the people you will encounter in your life, it states: "25% of people you meet: will never like you; 25% of people you meet: won't...
    FussBox FussBox 26-30, F Apr 7

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    I am leaving every expectation others have of me behind. I am living life for me. I am thinking and believing for myself. Loyalty is a strong connection, but to bind yourself...
    thislittlejourney thislittlejourney 26-30, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 3

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    Hi! My name is Natasha. I'm new to this so bear with me. I used to think that God didn't care about me. I hated Him and even started to doubt his existed. I didn't believe in Him...
    LoveNeverFails21 LoveNeverFails21 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    How to change our Meaningless Life to Meaningful Life:: This story is about a beautiful, expensively dressed lady who complained to her psychiatrist that she felt that her whole...
    moksha18 moksha18 51-55, F Mar 24

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    I was a homeschooled outcast with no friends. LITERALLY no friends. Not one. I never got out of the house and spent years living that way. I prayed and prayed for someone to come...
    ForeverUnordinary ForeverUnordinary 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    I wouldn't call it loving myself, but rather that I find myself to be one awesome, one of a kind person. I am intelligent, hard working, easy going, open, and honest, to name some...
    bkf2 bkf2 22-25, M Apr 12

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    I had just taken a shower and as I sat on the floor over a black towel putting a hair mask on, I prepared my leg. Cutting is as much a part of my beauty treatment as makeup and...
    Shhush Shhush 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I was the odd child that never had to be told to go to bed- I always asked to be put to bed when I was tired. And because by nature I'm a morning person, I've never had a problem...
    Wynterfrost Wynterfrost 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    To be human is to accept that our faults are natural. That we have the decision to be who we want to be. That we're free to think as we want. That we have to rely on each other and...
    ladypirate108 ladypirate108 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    So I'm making a new group. Maybe this will look better in "Blogs" but even when my EP account pretty much resembles a blog site, I just can't bring myself to make another one again...
    kixisback kixisback 22-25 Mar 31

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    I ruined something amazing. It's a long story but I'll start on the night that we met. We'll just call him dd coz he was supposed to be the dd. Anyway, I was really drunk and didn...
    whitterz whitterz 22-25, F Apr 1

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    Tonight I went a liit further than normal. I wanted to full on abuse myself. I tied my ankles together and then I put a belt snug around my neck, sat on the floor and tied it to...
    innerself000 innerself000 18-21 Apr 4

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    I find that the way I feel right now is so much worse than my friends and family realize. Even interacting with them upsets me. Perhaps I am jealous... that they are happy or at...
    mimileelee mimileelee 36-40, F Apr 12

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    One thing that helps me release emotion is my music. I've just discovered a beautiful song by John legend called "all of me".I sing to me *smiles with tears in her eyes*For the...
    Trustmeimaunicorn Trustmeimaunicorn 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    It isn't something I am proud of, I'm not one of those teenagers who try to take their lives over pointless reasons. What I am about to say is my reason why, don't judge someone...
    SaveYourWords SaveYourWords 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I joined the fire department to make my step-dad and uncles proud of me. I decided it wasn't something I wanted to do so I am taking a few months off. Since I took a few months off...
    16countrygirl 16countrygirl 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    The more I talk about my issues and social anxiety, the easier I find it gets. Before I opened up about it I was so ashamed of it and felt like a smaller person. Now that I put it...
    Nessybabi Nessybabi 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    Sometime in the near future I'm going to leave my husband but first I need to get money together and make a plan. I have a son with him so leaving him is not exactly the easiest...
    VBLOVE1106 VBLOVE1106 22-25, F Apr 2

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    Yesterday I woke up feeling bruised and sick and broken. I went to work because I had to and because putting on a brave face is simply part of my daily routine. Two hours in I...
    GreenEyedFox GreenEyedFox 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    "Getting in too deep" I'm deeply afraid to get too close to my boyfriend. Don't get me wrong, I am truly head over heels for him, and I haven't felt this way in a long time since...
    takethispain takethispain 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I felt as though I was under control and I was trapped by a 'friend' for 2 years... She had problems... And it felt as though if she died it would have been my fault because 'I was...
    musicislife00 musicislife00 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Affliction with Restriction This disease is killing me, and destroying my life, l know now I can not wait. Please doctor tell me what must be done to escape this inherited fate...
    Somethingelsetotry Somethingelsetotry 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 25

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    Im a straight forward person who respects others and value their opinion, but I dont take no hate from anyone and I do stand up for myself. If you are aginst gays, bisexuals...
    beachdance12 beachdance12 16-17, M Apr 6

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    "I don't know how to love you both." I smell of cigarettes and a beautiful dark eyed girl. I walked a long way to drink in the morning, walked through a parade and Easter and...
    sunnysixkiller sunnysixkiller 26-30, M 4 days ago

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    I am the type of person to put my own problems aside to help someone else. This is simply because i feel as though using my experience and knowledge to help someone else happy or...
    melodyjay melodyjay 16-17, F 4 Responses Mar 26

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    Life in general Over the last 40 or so years, I've learned so much about life. This includes the people who live in the world. I've only been to, maybe 8 countries in total. I...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 5 Responses Mar 28

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    I do beleive that we pretend to please others, you change your hair to fit the trend, you wear the clothes in the store how they show you, you dare not to alter it, because you...
    CharleighBrazil CharleighBrazil 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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