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I Put Others Before Myself

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    Learning To Do More For Me!

    I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life. Now I have anxiety issues (especially social anxiety), depression, and am beginning to question all the decisions I have made in...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    Too Often

    I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel too guilty about spending the money on me and guilt trip myself out of buying it.Then I go to another store and...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    Others First

    I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about me first.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    I Feel Guilty Putting Me First.

    Ever since becoming a mom 3 years ago its gotten worse, I rarely ever buy anything for myself and if I do I feel guilty for doing it, because I always say well the girls could use this or they need that, or my mom needs help with this I should see if I can help out.  I feel...
    bellamomma bellamomma 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 18, 2008

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    I Do

    Because I don't deserve putting myself before them, I'm not selfish and never will be. Too many people are like that these days and I'm pretty sure it ****** everyone off.
    TideToGo TideToGo 18-21, F Jan 24, 2010

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me

    Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself, so what does it matter? To me, what matters is how you treat others and how you affect their lives. There is no possible way for...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    Bad Habit In Someways.

    This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my health and or sanity.
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 21-25, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    Needing To Prioritize More

    Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone and I'm feeling awfully lonely and used up! My Godson is 23 years old, lives with his...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    I Put Others Before Myself

    it hasnt been long that i have realised i put my friends before myself. i would do anything to keep them happy, i would take  my life for them, sometimes i dont mind it, but i hate when i dont get it in return. i mite seem like  a selfish ***** but, i...
    sexybubz2 sexybubz2 13-15 Oct 27, 2010

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    Step All Over Me

    i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown to learn to try to place boundaries but it is just so hard for me to turn someone down
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    What Do I Matter?

    I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations making sure that I didn't say something off, or that I didn't miss any signs that something was wrong. I stress so much...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 13-15 Sep 26, 2013

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    Lesser Of Them All

    I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i realize im just pretty much worthless and then i get someone who needs help and i help them but no one helps me they say...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    Most Definatly,especially P...

    Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or someone that needed it more than me.I enjoy helping people out to.It gives me a good feeling to help someone.
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize

    This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i think i was 15 and i was upset about something and had tears in my eyes and just wanted a friends shoulder to cry on and to be comforted...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    No Control

    I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we lost our townhome and are living with my mother and barely get by financially. I am unemployed and I find myself...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    You Before Me

    my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will give it. the shirt off my back or the shoes off my feet if you are in need i will try to help. i don't know why but...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    No matter how crappy or sad I feel, I am always there for my friends when their down putting aside my feelings to make them feel better.
    MysteriousRose MysteriousRose 18-21, F 23 hrs ago

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    I know I should love myself, but I have a hard time doing it. I mean, I don't hate myself, and I know I am a good person, but I just have a hard time feeling love for myself. I...
    HiddenAnger HiddenAnger 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 3

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    I enjoy helping others. Its so much to help others in need. Just to see a smile on there face and knowing I helped them and there family! I went on a mission trip last summer for a...
    ShyProdigy ShyProdigy 13-15, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I never ever felt like the need to make fun of others to feel popular or to raise my self esteem. I used to be the one who been into a lot of making fun of. I knew it was cos they...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M Jul 16

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    I hear your words....I try to ignore them....but when I can no longer, after so long you have said these things....I look to you and ask "what makes you so special? what makes you...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 16

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    I don't care care about myself sometimes, but I do especially care for others. I don't like thinking about myself because it makes me too miserable. I am genuinely happy helping...
    Lifelover27 Lifelover27 18-21, M 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Primarily since i am a target. Their reasons are lame. They say they care. And worry. And teach. But really they are just miserable. Due to others. Others with...
    converted converted 46-50, M 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I hate getting put down but by now I just expect it like its just apart of life. I get that some people might not like my hair, my personality, or even what I say. But at least I'm...
    Skinnylove99 Skinnylove99 16-17, F 1 hr ago

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    Usually when you know about someone who makes fun of another person, then everyone else always thinks like, "Oh, you're just insecure and you need to put other people down to make...
    jpk29 jpk29 18-21, F 1 hr ago

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    When I first arrived in Ibiza it was very difficult for anyone to get to know me. I was afraid to smile and socialize because I cared too much about what other people thought. I...
    Badtimanonymous Badtimanonymous 31-35, M Jul 6

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    Really craving myself a pink taco to munch on.
    mrfister1967 mrfister1967 46-50, M 12 hrs ago

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    It's a depressing thought when this sort of thing comes to my mind, but I've been thinking about it a lot lately, and the more I think about it, the more hopeless my cause seems to...
    TheBratPrince TheBratPrince 18-21, F Jul 10

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    I wait for my wife to get up to work out every morning to jerk off before work. Then I eat the load when I'm finished.
    Sarahb82 Sarahb82 26-30, T 16 hrs ago

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    I love meeting new people whether they are a stark contrast of myself or if they have astounding similarities. The more I meet, the more I feel like I can step a bit further out of...
    neveragoodusername neveragoodusername 26-30, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    Just because I'm here doesn't mean I'm looking for a fling. EP is for support and sharing, not hookups. Do that somewhere else. I'm not a dating service! If I tell you I'm not...
    TheWomanYouHate TheWomanYouHate 31-35, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    "Depending on others is the biggest mistake of life". I've learned the hard way, you can not depend too much on others in this world. I think i used to expect so much out of some...
    SheAlwaysBelieved SheAlwaysBelieved 18-21, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Our lives are considered to be packed in a matter of 80-90 years. If you get lucky enough, maybe 100 years will be your life. Everyday, the subtraction of hours into minutes into...
    Wewerethereinthattime Wewerethereinthattime 18-21, F Jul 7

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    I love myself or I at least I'm trying to love myself. I as many woman I know have a tendency to find any flaw about myself. I look on the mirror and say yes I'm thin but I have...
    Chicgeekgal Chicgeekgal 22-25, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    Most people that know me find me genuine and sincere. I am genuine and sincere. I value honesty in myself and in others. But I do not often speak my mind. Of course there are some...
    junliga junliga 22-25, F Jul 13

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    Treat others the way you want to be treated! Pay it forward!
    graeff120 graeff120 36-40, F 13 hrs ago

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    I have devoted my entire life to others, but I have no one to rely on when I need someone!
    Endlessuffering52 Endlessuffering52 51-55 5 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I suppose I have spent so much time in the past four years trying to unravel the constant web that my mum surround me with, that I have become a narcissist myself. I guess that...
    createababe createababe 31-35 Jul 9

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    I've had this theory since last summer I'd like to share. I firmly believe that everyone has their very own story; a chapter book regarding the events, people, places, & emotions...
    Plutonianbabe Plutonianbabe 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Well, there we go.... For my whole life, people, friends, family have always helped me and were examples to me or inspired me. I think it's about time that "I" tried and inspired...
    Scavyfox Scavyfox 18-21, M Jul 1

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    As of late, my life hasn't been what I would consider to be optimal; I distanced myself from the only person that I have had any inkling of romantic attraction to, bickered with my...
    woahwoahpotato woahwoahpotato 13-15 Jul 5

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    Yes, I truly do. Before I go on, the purpose of this story is not to brag. Heavens no, I’m not like that. I’m not conceited. I’m not full of myself. I’m not a douche...
    BewareTheGonzo BewareTheGonzo 13-15 6 Responses Jul 20

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    Why can’t I just be me? Do I have to always measure myself against what others will think of me? Sometimes I just think on things too much, I guess we all do. But why do I worry...
    MatildaEve MatildaEve 41-45, F 1 Response a week ago

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    This is what college has done do me (in Canada it starts at 17). Before the semester I had abs... I guess this is not the case anymore. When I arrived in college, the first thing i...
    austinjackson1996 austinjackson1996 16-17, M 4 days ago

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    *DIARY OF A YOUNG WIFE* *Monday:* Now home from honeymoon and settled in our new home. It's fun to cook for Tim. Today I made an angel food cake and the recipe said, "beat 12 eggs...
    lemongrass09 lemongrass09 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 2

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    My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and I am in love. As every couple we have ups and downs. I need some advice. We have recently been arguing over things that...
    ulovedesi ulovedesi 18-21, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    I'm that guy who always holds the door for others. Even if I have to put myself in an awkward position that actually makes it more difficult for them to enter the door.
    BJoon BJoon 26-30, M Jul 7

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    I have my life as before and after 1991.Before I was conservative ,I liked Rush Limbaugh, was sexist ,racist, mean and would fight verbally and some times physically. I was also...
    tom67890 tom67890 46-50, M 4 Responses Jul 13

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