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I Put Others Before Myself

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    Others First

    I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about me first.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    I Do

    Because I don't deserve putting myself before them, I'm not selfish and never will be. Too many people are like that these days and I'm pretty sure it ****** everyone off.
    TideToGo TideToGo 18-21, F Jan 24, 2010

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    Most Definatly,especially P...

    Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or someone that needed it more than me.I enjoy helping people out to.It gives me a good feeling to help someone.
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Lesser Of Them All

    I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i realize im just pretty much worthless and then i get someone who needs help and i help them but no one helps me they say...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    I Feel Guilty Putting Me First.

    Ever since becoming a mom 3 years ago its gotten worse, I rarely ever buy anything for myself and if I do I feel guilty for doing it, because I always say well the girls could use this or they need that, or my mom needs help with this I should see if I can help out.  I feel...
    bellamomma bellamomma 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 18, 2008

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    Learning To Do More For Me!

    I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life. Now I have anxiety issues (especially social anxiety), depression, and am beginning to question all the decisions I have made in...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    Bad Habit In Someways.

    This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my health and or sanity.
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 21-25, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    Needing To Prioritize More

    Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone and I'm feeling awfully lonely and used up! My Godson is 23 years old, lives with his...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    Step All Over Me

    i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown to learn to try to place boundaries but it is just so hard for me to turn someone down
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize

    This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i think i was 15 and i was upset about something and had tears in my eyes and just wanted a friends shoulder to cry on and to be comforted...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me

    Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself, so what does it matter? To me, what matters is how you treat others and how you affect their lives. There is no possible way for...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    You Before Me

    my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will give it. the shirt off my back or the shoes off my feet if you are in need i will try to help. i don't know why but...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    No Control

    I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we lost our townhome and are living with my mother and barely get by financially. I am unemployed and I find myself...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    What Do I Matter?

    I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations making sure that I didn't say something off, or that I didn't miss any signs that something was wrong. I stress so much...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 13-15 Sep 26, 2013

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    I Put Others Before Myself

    it hasnt been long that i have realised i put my friends before myself. i would do anything to keep them happy, i would take  my life for them, sometimes i dont mind it, but i hate when i dont get it in return. i mite seem like  a selfish ***** but, i...
    sexybubz2 sexybubz2 13-15 Oct 27, 2010

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    Too Often

    I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel too guilty about spending the money on me and guilt trip myself out of buying it.Then I go to another store and...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    This site is supposed to be uplifting and positive but I'm constantly seeing insults and rude remarks. Like really? How shallow can you be?. You have people who come here for...
    hatersgonnahatefuckit hatersgonnahatefuckit 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I always put others before me, especially my Ex. But now being with my New Man for nearly two years, he's motivated me to do all sorts of things for just ME. No one else, just...
    Mj13ahestrella Mj13ahestrella 22-25, F Oct 3

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    I constantly think negative thoughts about myself, I hardly consider myself human and I put everything and everyone before myself. It's gotten to the point where I don't even...
    caseys22 caseys22 22-25, M Oct 14

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    This is a huge factor of mine I would help someone else before myself. I just love helping people, giving advice or just being there for them. Being nice and caring is just my...
    starlight109 starlight109 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 24

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    Try no best friends who care. Watch who u call your best friend because most likely that person will always put themselves before you.
    sammylynn333 sammylynn333 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    I have a serious problem comparing myself to others. I try really hard not to, but I do. It seems that I am really slow at learning things. Its like everything I look at something...
    TurkeyBacon TurkeyBacon 18-21, M Sep 28

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    I hate that feeling where you feel like you cant let yourself get too close to people..you hold yourself back a bit.. Let them in at times but never quite let yourself all the way...
    sunpea sunpea 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 5

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    My life is a blessing and a curse. I am most happy when I am loving others. There's nothing that makes me happier than putting a smile on someone's face or letting someone know how...
    WinterIncandescence WinterIncandescence 16-17, F Oct 8

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    I want to be the unique and beautiful goddess I once was. Right now, I am ugly and undesirable. I loved myself last week and the week before, but something happened this week that...
    WingsofTime WingsofTime 22-25, F Oct 3

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    Everyone calls me gay and thinks I look like a girl. A fly could kick my ***. I hate myself. I'm so pathetic. The bruises on my face? Not even done by a dude. I'm so worthless...
    Levi1 Levi1 13-15, M 1 Response 58 mins ago

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    I have been doing so much writing as of late, I find that it helps me focus on the here and now. I write about my day, my goals, dreams, desires...I write about so much. I have...
    Indigolesbian70 Indigolesbian70 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 28

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    Tomorrow October 21st I will be 47 year old. When I look back on the life I've wasted and the unforgivable things I did in the past it pushes me to make a fourth attempt at ending...
    ATroubledLife ATroubledLife 46-50, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    When I like someone it'll become an obsession and I'll scream for attention like a child. Cry and all even starve myself and other things to harm my own body if that person doesn't...
    Concerto Concerto 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 7

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    I know that seems odd. But in a way I feel I don't belong here. This is YOUR site, not necessarily mine. This isn't about me adding a lot of people for some sort of ego trip...
    dadhereforyou dadhereforyou 51-55, M Oct 13

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    Don't judge, its really hard, but just think about it before you do. I got judged so much, I am afraid of being myself, everyone thinks I am a lonely introvert, but the truth is, i...
    mariahluh mariahluh 51-55, T 1 day ago

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    Over the years I have come to learn and realize that you shouldn't have to change for no one. You should always stay true to yourself. I admit I made that stupid mistake of trying...
    Morenita79 Morenita79 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 24

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    Before you say you hate yourself please read this...about me I assure you. You'll feel better about yourself. I'm 24-years-old still living with my parents and although I don't...
    Concerto Concerto 22-25, F 8 Responses Sep 30

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    Everyone is guilty of comparison to others. After a little lesson I learned in youth group and a good fasting I realized three things 1) I compared myself more than I thought in...
    directorskittish directorskittish 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I am hurting myself indirectly without wanting to..stop it dammit
    Darlinghton Darlinghton 18-21, M 2 hrs ago

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    I don't need a freaking guy to take care of me or love me, i can take care of myself and love? God is there for it ;)
    LovelyBitch1 LovelyBitch1 16-17, F 2 hrs ago

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    It's true a lot of people are stuck in the struggle and it seems like there is no help or hope for the future, a lot of that blame is pointed out towards the ones trying to better...
    aJason23 aJason23 18-21, M Sep 23

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    I've been longing to know who I am, and what I am supposed to be doing with my life. I'm sure many others out there feel the same way. However, I wonder how many can also include...
    GlamGasm GlamGasm 22-25, T Oct 6

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    THE TURQUOISE ARROWHEAD During the first few months after moving to New Mexico, while visiting the Santo Domingo pueblo I met a pueblo Indian named Robert, who made and sold...
    musicbook musicbook 56-60, M 3 Responses Oct 14

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    I've been through a lot in my life some issues I believed I've caused myself due to bad decisions others I've have no control over I feel much guilt and remorse for some of my...
    heather81 heather81 31-35, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    One day I was playing outside on the swings before supper, and Mom was inside. I was swinging sideways while my sister Rachel was swinging beside me. She got annoyed and told me to...
    spankedbarebutt spankedbarebutt 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 29

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    But I'm not IN love with myself ;) Seriously, though, what I have learned about loving the person you are is that if you don't, it is awfully hard for someone else to love you...
    shoehorny shoehorny 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 1

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    I read a post this morning and it jogged my memory and I felt like sharing this story in hopes that it may inspire someone to go against the "grain" of social status and stick up...
    cici0307 cici0307 18-21, F 11 Responses Oct 14

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    In order to truly love my partner I have to love myself first
    emily036 emily036 18-21, F Sep 28

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    In order to truly love my partner I have to love myself first
    emily036 emily036 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 28

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    Hello There ! Inspired by people introducing themselves..... I thought of introducing myself. but before I start, I request all of you, not to be judgmental. So I am Rajan, 43...
    Raajan71 Raajan71 41-45, M Oct 10

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    First time I tried killing myself was when I was 16. I had been groomed and abused by a lot of guys. even raped. but I dident understand as I was involved with that circle of life...
    Kelly1012 Kelly1012 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 10

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    Tequila... Once. Never again. Put that down as an ironclad PROMISE I made to myself for eternity!! I was 18 and in a band with much older musicians (the drinking age was 21). The...
    Beaver318 Beaver318 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 13

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