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I Put Others Before Myself

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    Step All Over Me

    i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown to learn to try to place boundaries but it is just so hard for me to turn someone down
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    You Before Me

    my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will give it. the shirt off my back or the shoes off my feet if you are in need i will try to help. i don't know why but...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    What Do I Matter?

    I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations making sure that I didn't say something off, or that I didn't miss any signs that something was wrong. I stress so much...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 13-15 Sep 26, 2013

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    I Put Others Before Myself

    it hasnt been long that i have realised i put my friends before myself. i would do anything to keep them happy, i would take  my life for them, sometimes i dont mind it, but i hate when i dont get it in return. i mite seem like  a selfish ***** but, i...
    sexybubz2 sexybubz2 13-15 Oct 27, 2010

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    I Do

    Because I don't deserve putting myself before them, I'm not selfish and never will be. Too many people are like that these days and I'm pretty sure it ****** everyone off.
    TideToGo TideToGo 18-21, F Jan 24, 2010

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    Too Often

    I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel too guilty about spending the money on me and guilt trip myself out of buying it.Then I go to another store and...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    Others First

    I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about me first.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me

    Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself, so what does it matter? To me, what matters is how you treat others and how you affect their lives. There is no possible way for...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    Lesser Of Them All

    I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i realize im just pretty much worthless and then i get someone who needs help and i help them but no one helps me they say...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    I Feel Guilty Putting Me First.

    Ever since becoming a mom 3 years ago its gotten worse, I rarely ever buy anything for myself and if I do I feel guilty for doing it, because I always say well the girls could use this or they need that, or my mom needs help with this I should see if I can help out.  I feel...
    bellamomma bellamomma 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 18, 2008

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    Bad Habit In Someways.

    This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my health and or sanity.
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 21-25, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize

    This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i think i was 15 and i was upset about something and had tears in my eyes and just wanted a friends shoulder to cry on and to be comforted...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    Needing To Prioritize More

    Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone and I'm feeling awfully lonely and used up! My Godson is 23 years old, lives with his...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    No Control

    I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we lost our townhome and are living with my mother and barely get by financially. I am unemployed and I find myself...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    Learning To Do More For Me!

    I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life. Now I have anxiety issues (especially social anxiety), depression, and am beginning to question all the decisions I have made in...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    Most Definatly,especially P...

    Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or someone that needed it more than me.I enjoy helping people out to.It gives me a good feeling to help someone.
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    If you look and my posts you can see I have a bunch of problems and I hate dealing with them so I help other people with their problems
    dominick6 dominick6 13-15, M Sep 2

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    I didn't celebrate my 15th birthday this year instead I went to see my great grandma go into a care home for the first time and to see her smile and laugh for the first time in a...
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    I will admit that I am a "patsy". A "patsy", a "sap" and a "sucker". I have in the past been known to say "if I have it and you need it, I'll give it to you because that's just the...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 30

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    I'm finding sleep where I need it Nothing goes to plan any more Awaiting the day where I can throw off the shackles Needing no more that help that I desire right now Just to even...
    PoeticMute PoeticMute 31-35, M a week ago

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    I put those before me unless I knew they don't deserve it. I judge people... But I start everyone as a great person.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 18-21, M Aug 27

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    Looming thought's yet to be processed have me considering ideas that shouldn't Why do these happen I don't know, my understanding is just that from where I sit I dwell On the...
    PoeticMute PoeticMute 31-35, M 1 hr ago

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    I have been held back, turned down by job interviews (potential bosses) & romantic partners a lot in the past due to my extreme self-doubt. I am a very hard-working ambitious...
    greensanctuary greensanctuary 22-25, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    My story is that I have a sickness inside that I don't know how to make go away. It's hard to define this sickness other than a pervading poison that is eating me from the inside...
    Shellybelle Shellybelle 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    Dreams of moments past are just that dreams Yet when they speak to you in volumes repetitively It's hard not to get lost in their meaning and story once more I see many a scenario...
    PoeticMute PoeticMute 31-35, M a week ago

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    I forget the days as the nights close in they all seem to run together now. For reasons unknown to me the medication agreement I have accepted Has placed me in a mellow zone, free...
    PoeticMute PoeticMute 31-35, M 5 days ago

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    We rob ourselves of our own time with our self inflicted stress and worries. We steal our own time with God. The hardest discipline to learn as a christian, is the discipline of...
    calista456 calista456 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    I never for a second thought my life would take the turns it has I'm greatly appreciative for all the people I have met, love, lost Along the way, you are my current saviours For...
    PoeticMute PoeticMute 31-35, M 1 hr ago

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    It took a long time for me to realize this but the first person who will help you live a full and happy life is in the mirror. Until I sought this person out and learned to love...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 29

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    I believe that everything is connected to our souls age and wisedom. I am an empath and have always been labeled "different" in my family or "over emotional"!! It's took me until...
    Ashleysmashley Ashleysmashley 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 6

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    A Bridge Across the Pain. I remember one morning when I was three and sitting across the table from my father at breakfast, just he and I, when for no reason I could think of he...
    Steffi97 Steffi97 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 19

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    Once again Facebook asking me What's on my mind. Dearest, you know?... I haven't words to tell or explain that mess inside of my head. But... Today I want to try. Try to start talk...
    WhineWolfe WhineWolfe 16-17, F Aug 19

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    I have a friend who lives four hours away who is interested in astral travel. We tried an experiment where I would travel to her room and look on her nightstand. She would place...
    curioustraveler5 curioustraveler5 56-60, M Aug 21

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    Things that I'm passionate about... My boys. They are my true heart and soul. Of all the things I've done in my life, raising them, knowing them and learning from them has made me...
    Indigolesbian70 Indigolesbian70 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 27

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    What is love to me you ask? A soldier fighting for his country with honor, loyalty and integrity. Fighting in combat with his brothers in arms, knowing that death is knocking on...
    dannah777 dannah777 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Its a good and bad habit. I do things for the sake of the "greater good" which usually puts me in a lot of messed up situations. Im trying not to fail myself or the others that...
    xxmisslynnxx xxmisslynnxx 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    I'm a sociopath....and it's hard for me to love others , I don't understand when they cry or why there sad or what I did that hurt them but they all seem to run away....I don't...
    TimelordArceus TimelordArceus 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    I saw a man waiting in line, yet isolated from the queue. I noticed he had skin lesions on the face and on the arms. He was silent, unmindful of stares from the crowd. When it was...
    samemay54 samemay54 51-55, F 16 Responses Sep 8

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    I've always been able to better express my thoughts or feelings through written words rather than spoken words. For some reason when it comes to speaking about myself, I find that...
    bonesxposed bonesxposed 18-21, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    (using google translate) um.. this michael.. i go to stand up to the one that bully me he about 5 yrs older than me and give me a black eye and when i breathe hard it hurt on my...
    Blazingdragon Blazingdragon 13-15, M 3 hrs ago

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    I'm trying to end the viewing of *********** in my life, it kills my imagination and social vibe with others around me. It makes me objectify women, and causes me to have angrier...
    Oraja Oraja 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I don't love being by myself. They say you need to love yourself before you can be happy with a significant other. They think you need to be complete and one with yourself. I'm...
    tinywoman tinywoman 18-21 Aug 26

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    I'm overly confident about my appearance and raise myself "above others" but think deep down I'm a disgusting person and have no personality.
    spacedoutfish spacedoutfish 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    He's been alone before Trapped in his own small hell He has tried to be stronger But he won't care much longer He might need a miracle She never leaves his side Even when he won't...
    heysho heysho 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 2

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    I hate myself for all the lies and deception I inflicted on my current boyfriend. I blame my family particularly. I am a cheater and this means I have broken my own value system. I...
    Deadlynightshade5 Deadlynightshade5 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    Key terms hit in search engine results @youtube 17735 about archival based mostly turn out to be Strengthen base broadcast buzzing calls channel channels commentary enterprise hook...
    Andrew558n8la3 Andrew558n8la3 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 10

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    I feel like I'm living a nightmare Everything isn't going how I saw it Nothing is the same anymore Sleep non-existent Waking hours I feel zombiefied I fight the urge to dig deep...
    PoeticMute PoeticMute 31-35, M a week ago

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    The days are shortened by the ridiculous sleeping pattern Broken up by the even more disturbing dreams of late. Zombie motion and slow pounding of the pavement. I wander to a...
    PoeticMute PoeticMute 31-35, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Partly by myself.. Havent done it active-active.. But active/passively or call it passively-active. I sort of have the belief, that when everyone is gone. Just by myself. Then I...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M Aug 29