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I Put Others Before Myself

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    Easiest Way of Life For Me

    Every time I'm around nice people, I end up having a good time. What's locked in my mind and troubles me isn't seen or heard of by anyone but myself, so what does it matter? To me, what matters is how you treat others and how you affect their lives. There is no possible way for...
    Bbrawl Bbrawl 18-21 2 Responses Jul 22, 2009

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    Step All Over Me

    i have a huge heart and i see this as a flaw i always will do whatever i can to help friends when the same person would not do the same for me. I have grown to learn to try to place boundaries but it is just so hard for me to turn someone down
    luckyliz luckyliz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

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    I Put Others Before Myself

    it hasnt been long that i have realised i put my friends before myself. i would do anything to keep them happy, i would take  my life for them, sometimes i dont mind it, but i hate when i dont get it in return. i mite seem like  a selfish ***** but, i...
    sexybubz2 sexybubz2 13-15 Oct 27, 2010

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    Too Often

    I can walk into any store and drop three hundred dollars on a birthday present for someone,but I cant even spend twenty bucks on a cheap pair of jeans for myself,I feel too guilty about spending the money on me and guilt trip myself out of buying it.Then I go to another store and...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    Most Definatly,especially P...

    Most definatly,especially people that I am close to.I am a bit old fashoined I would give up a seat in a bus or train to an elder or a woman or someone that needed it more than me.I enjoy helping people out to.It gives me a good feeling to help someone.
    dingus48 dingus48 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Others First

    I have always done this...I always put others before myself.  I still do it and at time which doesn't happen often, I don't want to sound selfish but I think about me first.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F Jan 3, 2011

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    You Before Me

    my sister says its bad but i will do anything for a friend...well even if you're not a friend. if you need anything, i tell people, and i am able to give it i will give it. the shirt off my back or the shoes off my feet if you are in need i will try to help. i don't know why but...
    whispy whispy 22-25 2 Responses Jun 26, 2008

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    Needing To Prioritize More

    Lately I've noticed that I'm rolling around like a chicken with my head cut off (with wheels on my butt, of course... LOL) trying to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone and I'm feeling awfully lonely and used up! My Godson is 23 years old, lives with his...
    rollingwithhusky rollingwithhusky 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2010

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    I Do

    Because I don't deserve putting myself before them, I'm not selfish and never will be. Too many people are like that these days and I'm pretty sure it ****** everyone off.
    TideToGo TideToGo 18-21, F Jan 24, 2010

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    Lesser Of Them All

    I always tell people not to worry about me....i live to help others make people happy.thats my only purpose and i dont always do the best at it...i fail and i realize im just pretty much worthless and then i get someone who needs help and i help them but no one helps me they say...
    VampreEmoNeko VampreEmoNeko 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    I find myself helping

    and caring for others and always forgetting I need some time to help myself so that I'm not overwhelmed.
    nena47 nena47 26-30 Oct 29

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    Learning To Do More For Me!

    I've always put others before myself, and considered their reactions so carefully before deciding to do anything. It has held me back my whole life. Now I have anxiety issues (especially social anxiety), depression, and am beginning to question all the decisions I have made in...
    NovemberBlue NovemberBlue 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2010

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    It's the way I was raised.

    Help others, serve others, my wants or needs will take care of themselves. Maybe that's why I am good at my job in customer service. But on a selfish note, sometimes o get hurt feelings when i don't get anything for my birthday or Christmas. My husband says he doesn't know...
    cocanola cocanola 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 23

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    I Feel Guilty Putting Me First.

    Ever since becoming a mom 3 years ago its gotten worse, I rarely ever buy anything for myself and if I do I feel guilty for doing it, because I always say well the girls could use this or they need that, or my mom needs help with this I should see if I can help out.  I feel...
    bellamomma bellamomma 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 18, 2008

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    What Do I Matter?

    I don't know why, but I just love people. I am willing do help them with anything, no matter why. I spend over three hours a night going over my conversations making sure that I didn't say something off, or that I didn't miss any signs that something was wrong. I stress so much...
    PoniesThe PoniesThe 13-15 Sep 26, 2013

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    No Control

    I have always been a people pleaser. Its taking a major toll on my life. For example i gave up a great job for my fiance because it made her unhappy. By doing this we lost our townhome and are living with my mother and barely get by financially. I am unemployed and I find myself...
    endofmyrope13 endofmyrope13 18-21, F Nov 14, 2013

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    One Moment... That Made Me Realize

    This may seem like a little thing... but it was the first time that i really realized that i put others before me... I was in high school, i think i was 15 and i was upset about something and had tears in my eyes and just wanted a friends shoulder to cry on and to be comforted...
    LonelyTrail LonelyTrail 18-21, F Dec 10, 2009

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    Bad Habit In Someways.

    This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. I sometimes put people I care about before me with out thinking about how it will effect my health and or sanity.
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 21-25, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2007

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    Usually I care for others more than myself.. Then I get way over my head, and I'm hurt in the end... As I started getting older, I realized that not everyone will be pleased with...
    MsShortiie MsShortiie 18-21, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm not a pushover, but I like making people happy. even in sex, I make sure she's pleased before me because it gets me off. are there a lot of people that feel that way?
    bubbscoug bubbscoug 18-21, M 3 days ago

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    I don't really get the whole process of doing this? Like who are you to shame someone for being themselves. I feel if you don't like something about yourself change it. And for...
    AshCakes AshCakes 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 21

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    I'd rather see others smile than myself I've always been that way and I put others before me
    TayCon321 TayCon321 16-17, M a week ago

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    A letter- by A.Leek I decided that it's about time to just focus on me. To love myself unconditionally. I've not only neglected but I have been so abusive to myself. I have put...
    alxvii alxvii 18-21, F Dec 1

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    Over time I've noticed, especially in times where I'm around friends, Sometimes I will be happy to help and some times I'm hesitant, but all the same I put others first. I'm...
    MisssValentine MisssValentine 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 29

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    I shouldnt but i do.I tell myself I am ugly and fat and noone can love me because of my weight.
    brandye brandye 22-25, F 24 mins ago

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    crush using a mortar and pestle R30; do not heat up, if all will nonetheless not dissolve you may well be at saturation stage R30; pour from the liquid for use and throw out the...
    Matthew0593cun9 Matthew0593cun9 31-35, M 1 Response 9 mins ago

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    I cut myself again last night. Im so pissed off at myself, because i try to help so many with their problems i forget about my own. To and try to get them to stop. Makes me feel...
    Nick54 Nick54 18-21, M Dec 8

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    I have always cared too much about what other people think, and put their evaluation above my own. I would beat myself up for ages based on what my friends thought. I finally put...
    meadowes meadowes 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    I wanted to describe myself but I don't know how, so instead I used a hetalian paste up thing. I'll do more. The Allies America (Alfred F. Jones) You love hamburgers (x) You...
    AlabasterFrog AlabasterFrog 13-15 Nov 23

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    It was last Friday. I had woke up in an alley a few blocks away from my school, night had already set and only a thin wisp of sunset laid in the canvas of the night sky. I could...
    Zancrispy Zancrispy 26-30, F Nov 22

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    Today I think I did something I've not really done before. I posted to one of the stories about belief or lack of belief. What I said there, and a few other things got me thinking...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 26

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    I hate myself or being weak, for being caring, sympathetic all these useless things that make the persona weak. I hate myself for bringing the pain on myself from my own...
    Ic3Queen Ic3Queen 22-25, F Nov 24

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    Willsam936i7gv1 Willsam936i7gv1 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 6

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    I don't know where to start this off, but I'll just first say that I can't do anything remarkable. I'm not special. I'm not good at anything. I'm just ordinary. I try so hard to...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    I try to be nice to everybody.... try not to hurt them... treat them like how i would want to be treated..but what i've found that while they're super nice and caring over text or...
    sana95 sana95 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 29

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    Just after forty two many years of self-inflicted suffering based on the confined idea of a baby, I feel a liberty and wholeness which i've under no circumstances identified. The...
    Matthis936h6fu1 Matthis936h6fu1 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 4

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    3 shades: Black White & Grey What are the colors of the rainbow? Most eyes see a vibrant world painted by the full color spectrum soaking up the light prisms as they cast...
    writingmyrelease writingmyrelease 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I do hate myself I hate the person I see when I look in the mirror I hate the fact that I'm so nice to others and love to help others and always their for others but when it my...
    Bre142 Bre142 18-21, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Empty Bowls...The day after Thanksgiving is my favorite day of the holiday season. It is the annual event of "Empty Bowls" to benefit the Idaho Food Bank. Throughout the year the...
    Kathieredart Kathieredart 56-60, F 14 Responses Nov 26

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    My third anniversary on EP was in August 2014. I am a bit behind. You know how life keeps you busy. So it is time for me to share what I have learned in this past year. I hope you...
    PoetryNEmotion PoetryNEmotion 51-55, F 20 Responses Nov 27

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    So, there is something I've been holding onto for months... Something that happened to me, and I don't really know how to talk about it, not that I really have anyone to talk about...
    TheZEEMan TheZEEMan 22-25, M 6 Responses Nov 21

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    And it has started to eat away at my soul. I can't stand not being able to achieve my own expectations so I try to delude my self and others while I rot inside with guilt. I don't...
    In100years In100years 18-21 1 Response Nov 27

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    I also am in a Very Dark place in my life. Probably the DARKEST in 36 years. I have been in a mentally abusive realtionship for 3 years now. I just recently found out this past...
    gutierrezgia7 gutierrezgia7 36-40, F Nov 30

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    With each step, I could feel my lungs exploding. How many more miles? I don’t think I can hold this pace for the entire race. I can’t even run the whole race. As these thoughts...
    andreacrystal96 andreacrystal96 18-21, F Nov 30

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    But on this site..... Heck you kinda have to be. Subtle and nice about it doesn't seem to register. Heck rude and hostile doesn't seem to either. It's like I've entered a black and...
    Ownedforaprice Ownedforaprice 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 5

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    Everyone who has an actual conversation with me tells me that they trust me and either say or imply that they are comfortable speaking to me. Please do not get me wrong; I truly...
    kimb27 kimb27 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I FIND THAT I LOVE TO MAKE MYSELF SUFFER, BECAUSE I FEEL UNACCUSTOMED TO PEACE... I HAVE HATED MYSELF ALL MY LIFE, I CRY MYSELF TO SLEEP... WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG, I DO NOT...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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