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    The Individual And The Collective

    Paraphrasing one of my literary heroes, H.L. Mencken, my last words on the gallows will be to condemn collectivism in all of its forms. In the continuing struggle between "individualism" and "collectivism," you will always find me in the company of the former. I recall a...
    kayaker712 kayaker712 61-65, M 1 Response Jul 5, 2010

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    I Don't Shave Regularly

    What's the point?? There's a reason why hair grows there right? And my husband doesn't mind so I don't bother. However, if I do wear a dress or shorts I will shave but most of the time I wear pants so who cares. And my arm pits? I hardly ever shave those even if they are...
    loudamy loudamy 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 29, 2012

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    Hi All. What Time Does Norm Come By?

    I have some questions for him.(A thousand pardons if this joke has already been used.)
    Wilbury Wilbury 46-50, M Sep 1, 2011

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    Guys And Their Legs.

    I'm not sure if this rates as a social norm or not but it is definitely something that seems to be universal amongest men in the western world...especially in rural areas. Men. They stand around in groups at parties, meetings, field days, other social events catching up with...
    wildernessgirl wildernessgirl 36-40 105 Responses Feb 8, 2010

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    Stereotype

      A stereotype is not forgetting.
    fascad3 fascad3 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 16, 2010

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    What Is Normal?

    I don't believe in "normal". We are all different and we all have pros and cons. I wish people wouldn't judge or hate.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 6, 2010

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    There Is No "norm"

    The beauty lies in the differences, the uniqueness.... The passions and traditions of other cultures and languages.... The way you are the only one who is uniquely you....that is beautiful... Follow your own truth and be open to learn about others' truths, there are many...
    CoracaoQuebrado CoracaoQuebrado 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 19, 2010

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    Social Norms

    I came across this as I tend to question the society. Social Norms in my view can be corrupt as well. I have became socially awkward since my childhood. Even my school reports it as well when I reread my school's record of achievement. Most So called Norms are not normal in my...
    Vinnie01 Vinnie01 31-35, M Mar 4, 2013

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    Who's In Control?

                Who regulates social norms anyways? Social norms are established to be seen as the way life has always "been." As time passes people change and these "norms" no longer fit accordingly to our society. I believe...
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25 3 Responses Apr 27, 2010

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    Why Question?

    You shouldn't question social norms. You should try to understand them in context. All social norms make sense in their own context. You start 'questioning' when you really don't understand the context.
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Feb 8, 2010

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    Social Norms

    Social norms,Question 'em,These days,Standards,Where have they gone?
    stormcape3 stormcape3 46-50 Sep 5, 2012

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    Norms

    They annoy me. Sleep at this time, wake at this time, shower at this time, eat at this time, work at this time. I do not want to play by these rules. I need to do these things whenever I ******* feel like without other people's comments.
    Mediocre Mediocre 22-25, F 6 Responses Mar 22, 2010

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    Many social norms are freaking stupid

    and I'm going to raise awareness that you can break these norms. You don't have to do what everyone else is.
    IllusionaryGentleman39 IllusionaryGentleman39 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    Facade (of Stones)

    I have no idea what social norms are anymore.  When I was young social norms were everywhere.  There seemed a clear set of well-defined social mores and rules, laid down by generations, that were only there to be laughed and sneered at.  Rules vs social stigma.  The older I...
    CrookedMan CrookedMan 46-50 Mar 29, 2011

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    Waxing and Shaving.

     Why do men and women need to shave/wax?  We really must have had plenty of time to develop new, pointless things occupy ourselves at some stage in our evolution!   P.S. I often go without shaving under my arms for weeks and go swim regularly at a public swimming...
    wildernessgirl wildernessgirl 36-40 21 Responses Sep 24, 2009

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    Pink Is For Girls and Blue Is For Boys

    When my daughter was born I was very much against dressing her in pink or even dressing her in dresses.  Roj and I were addamant that our girl was going to grow up to me a women who was confident and unrepressed by a male dominant world.  We chose a femine but "...
    wildernessgirl wildernessgirl 36-40 6 Responses Sep 23, 2009

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    Who the Hell Invented Ironing??

    Creaseless clothes, tableclothes, sheets, socks, undies etc - what a stupid, pointless thing for us to worry about!  I don't iron very often but I am annoyed that I feel the need to on occasion.  Do people really care if my children arrive at school with...
    wildernessgirl wildernessgirl 36-40 18 Responses Sep 23, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    There's a quote that says "If they miss you, they'll call. If they want you, they'll say it. If they care, they'll show it. And if not, they aren't worth your time" I wonder what...
    nowherewego nowherewego 16-17, F 15 mins ago

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    Everyone gets one question and I'll be 100% honest.
    jessie2001 jessie2001 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Review SOCIAL INTEREST FREAK – Crazy Facebook Software Unleashed! SOCIAL INTEREST FREAK - OVERVIEW • Homepage: Social Interest Freak Official Page • Product Name: Social...
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    How is Marriage Equality good for the entire country? So when same-sex marriage is formally adopted in a leading world society of 319 million people, that is testament to...
    padraig17325 padraig17325 56-60, M 1 day ago

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    I would like address the people that have supported, defended, and voted for Obama. This is a serious question and only serious answers will remain; all others will be deleted. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I get anxiety just from sending people emails. It gets so bad that when I was doing a project with my group (I'm doing online study), I couldn't bring out what I was thinking...
    aarigel aarigel 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    To preface this, I need advice on how to deal with my anxiety, how to manage my emotions and how to make friends... Currently I smoke week when I am stressed or sad or anxious...
    MyMindCravesNectar MyMindCravesNectar 22-25, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Ah, hell. It would appear I'm on an upswing. This is when I get people's hopes up only to let them plummet, parachute-free. Are they justified? My attempts at being social? Or is...
    ambivalentFriability ambivalentFriability 18-21 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I really really need to work on overcoming, dealing with, or at least managing it.. And I feel like the more I talk about it, the more likely I am to overcome it. It's really been...
    chaekowski chaekowski 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    At the point it's at right now, I really do. It used to be a matter of just having Facebook or MySpace. But now, you're considered lame for using something that isn't either...
    TheMasterMan1 TheMasterMan1 16-17, M 6 days ago

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    From time to time I do or say things that seem awkward... Many a time is it my weakness but sometimes, just sometimes I find norms unreasonable and hence don't approve of...
    Solitude96 Solitude96 18-21, M Jul 25

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    Defying Norms and Stereotypes Being a woman who’s a lesbian and an aspiring body builder in a society full of norms and stereotypes are a few of the most exciting parts of my...
    leztat leztat 22-25, F Jul 24

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    I am usually opposed to government spending that isn't necessary to protect its citizens' rights, but I think a reasonable case can be made for some social welfare provisions...
    BlotOutTheSun BlotOutTheSun 22-25, M Jul 24

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    The following will discuss how figures like Rousseau criticise the social context in which they live. Rousseau claims that during his generation everyone has become so cowardly and...
    Ad8m Ad8m 18-21, M Jul 22

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    Of course I am, as you can probably tell by my username itself. Hello I am Mamabutterfly, I just came across this experience and didn't even know this experience existed, shows...
    mamabutterfly mamabutterfly 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 22

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    How can someone who had never had a Bar Mitzvah, never goes to Temple, and doesn't celebrate the major holidays consider themselves a Jew? I dated a guy who called himself a Jew...
    PrincessScumbag PrincessScumbag 26-30 Jul 21

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    hey guys since im a social butterfly i would like to connect with you all over social media im new to ig but lovvveee pictures and would love to see yours you can add me at Nia...
    Antoniarenee23 Antoniarenee23 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    I have had social anxiety since I was seven. I used to "freeze" every time a teacher asked me a question in class or ordering in a restaurant. I wasn't aware of my social anxiety...
    Han123xxx Han123xxx 13-15, F Jul 19

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    Many social situations can be quite awkward to me but I have made some good progress over the years with on and off help from therapists and anti-anxiety medication. But, hands...
    NickCavefan NickCavefan 31-35, M Jul 18

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    I feel like I'll never get over my social anxiety, my shyness, and my social awkwardness. I've been this way for as long as I can remember, and whenever I look ahead into the...
    nooblordiv nooblordiv 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 17

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    I've recently been trying to force myself to keep my chin up and shoulders relaxed at all times, as well as "owning" my walk and laid back demeanor. It's a difficult habit to keep...
    dvdkrz dvdkrz 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 16

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    I refused to go to a store with my mom today, and her response was "wow, I've never met a 15 year old who doesn't like shopping." "You're a REAL piece of work.." Thanks mom...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 6 Responses Jul 15

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    When you have social anxiety about sitting alone at a restaurant table because you're waiting on the other person to show up
    spence96 spence96 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    I hate not having many friendships outside of work. At work I can focus on my job and virtually everyone likes me. I have quiet a few people I would call my friends and even the...
    jsuggs1217 jsuggs1217 22-25, M Jul 15

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    I have a hard time in groups of people. Or talking to people that I don't know. I get so overcome with anxiety that I now often tend to stay away from anything social. I spend a...
    Runnergirl0722 Runnergirl0722 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15