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    So I have been married for eight years to a smart, good looking, caring man who loves me dearly. And I do live him. But we haven't had sex in 8 1/2 years. I've tried to initiate...
    Candymaker Candymaker 41-45, F 3 Responses 37 mins ago

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    Other than a quick hug when he leaves/comes home from work and a quick hug good night, my husband doesn't touch me at all. Are there any other women out there in this situation...
    reconnectlilly reconnectlilly 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    Sexless Marriage is a Biblical Reason for Divorce This is a re-post of a comment I wrote to someone that TheWendigo suggested I post as a story, in case it helps anyone. I am...
    UndefinedValue UndefinedValue 31-35, F 12 Responses 3 days ago

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    I could be wrong of course and looking too much into it, but that's how it feels and what my gut tells me. I am very emotional when it comes to sex and need it in cycles or I...
    sasst92 sasst92 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 25

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    I started dating a girl, we'll call her becka, well over a year ago. When we first got together it was amazing, for months at the beginning we were the perfect couple. I loved...
    mitchel71 mitchel71 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 29

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    This is just an update on my story and I hope it can show other people here that there is future after a bad relationship. I read stories for here for maybe more than one year...
    mfur mfur 26-30, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    I never thought that I would be in a situation like this. I was raised in a strict Christian family that honed in on the importance of being a "good girl". My 1st marriage ended in...
    BHEwife BHEwife 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 30

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    posted this in the wrong experience forum before but anyway.. here goes - Had a little bit of a breakthrough convo with my husband that he actually brought up to me. Let me...
    asterinight asterinight 31-35, F 10 Responses Jul 3

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    So I'm not finding much on here from the refusers perspective but I'll give this a try as I could really use some advice. I have been married for 8 years. We have a marriage that...
    britt48 britt48 26-30, F 32 Responses Jul 14

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    I just found this site this week, obviously because I am hurting. I have read a lot and learned a lot already. I really am in a " not sexually satisfied marriage" or a " I don...
    tddyd tddyd 51-55, M 10 Responses Jul 11

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    Hi, I've not been around on this board for a while but have recently started reading some posts again. Thank you for all the support you'd sent my way when I posted - I hope you...
    copperdoodle copperdoodle 41-45, F 11 Responses Jul 15

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    I've been haunted by something HL42 posted in response to one of my stories. Can we talk about this? Here's the comment: "Yes, the shocking juxtaposition of "I love you" and the...
    Blue2014 Blue2014 41-45, F 24 Responses 3 days ago

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    Tonight ends what has been the worst week of my life. I haven't posted here for several months, because I became complacent. Some of you know that I planned to leave for months...
    birdie39 birdie39 41-45, F 35 Responses Jul 6

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    Almost a month out post divorce. I didn't realize how much you could cram into one month. So overall I would say I am feeling stagnant, however the outside world may see progress...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 10 Responses Jul 7

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    Love and Emotion after SM... Been out of my SM about 2.5 years now. Some of you, like me, are so in love with your spouse that you can't leave no matter what. Yet I still left. To...
    FilteringMachine FilteringMachine 31-35, M 11 Responses Jul 8

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    Instead of doing something with me tonight, he showers and said he was headed over to his buddy's! This is every weekend!! The kids r in bed and he wants nothing to do with me! I...
    3nelly 3nelly 26-30, F 14 Responses Jul 12

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    Guys - I am truly looking for a meeting of the mind and soul. If u r here for sex u will quickly find yourself ignored or even blocked.
    Sparkle20 Sparkle20 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I'm so confused. Finally after 18 months of trying to get my marriage back on track things finally look like they're heading in the right direction. We're making love on average...
    evie36 evie36 41-45, F 16 Responses Jun 24

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    How much time do each of us have to love and feel on this earth? That's the question that scientists and holy men can never answer with complete accuracy. I ask myself this...
    Lovefetishes Lovefetishes 46-50, M 4 Responses Jun 25

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    For us that pretend to be happily married to the outside world: Last night I went to this local ice cream stop everyone hangs out and bumped into some friends. They are the perfect...
    celtusa celtusa 46-50, M 5 Responses Jun 28

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    I lost my first time with a rubber and then went to see him again in two days. We just kinda moved quickly and I can't stop thinking about him. He ****** me without protection and...
    PureRain PureRain 18-21, F 17 Responses Jul 12

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    Yesterday was one of those days here. Just one day, just one experience…although I bet my little girl will not soon forget it. A reminder my daughter is 13. She went off the...
    Stormie01 Stormie01 46-50, F 13 Responses Jul 13

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    Laying in my bed, My skin prickling with static electricity, I think of you. I slide my fingers tracing my curves, as you would if you could. I picture your perfect smile, your...
    Accebere Accebere 36-40, F 16 Responses 6 days ago

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    Anybody can help me? Really need someone to tell me tricks on how i can kill myself really quickly ... Please?
    Brokendreams24 Brokendreams24 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    From watching my mother get murdered to being kidnapped & forced into prostitution for months, I am simply done with life. 17 years of complete bullshit, I have tried long enough...
    Skkyhiighh Skkyhiighh 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 24

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    I trust people way to quickly and get attached to talking to them it's so sad really...
    fashionanxiety fashionanxiety 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 26

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    I have a habit of letting people break down my walls too quickly, I get too sucked in to people and forget to look out for the warning signals until it's too late but by then I am...
    Gentleandlovingsoul Gentleandlovingsoul 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    Any one that hurts me I forgive very quickly people tell me it's bad but I just can't stand the pain on heart of not forgiving someone for hurting me even if they did the worse...
    Angel2345 Angel2345 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    WHY? SEXUAL ANOREXIA. Bazaar posed an interesting question to me: I thought I should post my response on the main page in hope that it may help others. It's a question we all ask...
    Jane1024 Jane1024 36-40, F 13 Responses Jun 25

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    I think I've got the guts to post this now. My wife and I have talked about this many times. I think it would help me to talk to others about it, even if it is anonymously. Since...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 14 Responses Jun 27

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    I think the hardest thing for me, looking back on how I got into a sexless marriage, was that it was a long slow process (a death by a thousand cuts). In some ways it would have...
    runninginthedark70 runninginthedark70 41-45, M 10 Responses Jun 25

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    From Psychology Today "Contrary to conventional wisdom, married couples—and their cohabiting counterparts—have more sex than the nonmarried, a fact confirmed in a 2010 survey...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    My college sweetheart and I have been married 21 years and we have three children (11-20). My wife desires no sex. I pay very close attention to and meet her needs in all other...
    NoTalkJustDo NoTalkJustDo 41-45, M 10 Responses Jul 13

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    What can I say? I love sex. I am very in tuned with my sexuality. I know what I like, I know what I don't like. I know what I'm doing in the bed room. I've accepted the fact that...
    LovelyLadyJ LovelyLadyJ 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    Myths about low sexual desire: "Myth #3: If your partner wants sex but you don't, you can express your love in other ways. We tend to think that people should be able to choose...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 4 Responses Jul 1

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    Maybe ladies and gents if your partner doesn't want to have sex often or ever maybe it's cause their self esteem is low, try complimenting them by saying as often as you can how...
    greatinbedchick greatinbedchick 16-17, F 10 Responses Jul 11

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    There was this particular person who commented on my sexiness. So I asked him, how could he say so when he hasn't even seen me. His answer was like the words in my head that were...
    malipatient malipatient 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm in a same sex relationship, we've been together for over a decade. Same sex marriage isn't legal in our state but we had a commitment ceremony several years ago and consider...
    cloudsinyoureyes cloudsinyoureyes 31-35, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    Is anybody else in the same boat? I never EVER imagined myself being in my 20s and in such a horrendous situation. My partner and I have been together for 3 years. The first year...
    mistakeoverload mistakeoverload 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for 14 years. It started going down hill within the first year and I knew then something wasn't right. I've poured my heart out to him so many times...
    ABlueChristine ABlueChristine 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 29

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    Ok, so that first post wasn't so scary so why not a post two? I cannot begin to express how freeing it is just to have expressed it all. SM isn't something most people would want...
    justnanl justnanl 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 1

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    I am mostly naked when Im out on the streets because I love to show my sexy body for people but I also love to dress sexy in a bra, a garter, stockings, a sexy top, a short skirt...
    nakedmartin nakedmartin 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 7

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    I've been reading posts here and I guess I'm what most of you would call a "refuser", and here's why: my husband's "sexy" touch creeps me out and knowing that the sex (if I allow...
    equila equila 41-45 21 Responses Jul 11

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    Pelvic Floor Disorder. Something to think about. My marriage ultimately ended due to this disorder. The lack of intimacy and sex killed our marriage. For over 12 years I...
    saiyagyrl saiyagyrl 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 15

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    I've been reading for a couple of weeks and I couldn't believe that it's not just our dysfunction. We've been married for 12 years but "together" since high school that's like 24...
    Anirak73 Anirak73 36-40, F 13 Responses Jul 16

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    I Am Looking For Someone Going Through The Same Thing. I am in an all-but-sexless relationship with someone I love and respect, and I'm looking for someone who can relate to talk...
    NXS3 NXS3 26-30, F 18 Responses 6 days ago

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    Read and weep or read and vow to take the steps under your control to make your life better. "Don't believe us? A Reddit thread popped up this week asking married folks to weigh...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses 4 days ago