I Realize You Can't Help Those Who Won't Help Themselves

sometimes you just gotta take a step back and let people be or get sucked into the pessimism 799 People

    Help Yourself, Before Others Can Help You!

    What is wrong? Why are you so sad? How can I help you, when you can´t help yourself? You have to pick yourself up and get back on the horse. Life is so short to give up, when you have a whole life time to Live and learnSo what can I do for you? I can´t help you,because...
    FaroesePearl FaroesePearl
    31-35, F
    Nov 21, 2011

    I'm not saying you should just abandon people

    who don't feel their own inner motivation. But there is a point after much effort and trying that you realize no matter what you do, if someone is determined to not be happy, you simply can't help them.
    CaptainBenza CaptainBenza
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jun 10, 2014

    the most dangerous use  of technology is

    marketing, it advocates  lazyness
    miimii0069 miimii0069
    31-35, F
    Sep 13, 2015

    Sure Did

    i use to expected everyone to just solve my problems and people tried to help me and i would refuse thier help because i thought it was thier fault so i shouldnt have have to deal with it. i now realized that it was my fault and that people were just trying to help me when i...
    ppwlover ppwlover
    18-21, F
    Oct 19, 2011

    The Door That We All Should Have.

    I see a lot of broken hearts, spirits, bodies as well as some truely strong ones and many a mix of both. I always stop when I see a person who could stand to be a better person. I often however even seeing what the issues are and the seemingly easy answer that many are not ready...
    RogerThompson RogerThompson
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Mar 1, 2011

    The biggest person who needs this lesson is me.

    I cannot get were I need to be if I don't take care of me. You demand nothing you get nothing. I am finally learning that there is a difference in being kind and being pathetically too nice. The too nice person is dreadfully dull, as well. The too nice person hides what they...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 15, 2016

    I used to try to make everybody happy

    while I was miserable. No matter how hard I tried people wouldn't take advice I gave them or came looking for more hand outs. I started focusing more on me and those closest to me as opposed to everyone I knew. I am much happier for it and have improved my life by leaps and...
    LadyCNote LadyCNote
    31-35, F
    Feb 25, 2014

    So True....So So True....

    Helping those who don't wanna help themselves in the 1st place??? Are u kidding?? What are you STUPID OR SOMETHING? It's 2013....like how many years of civilization and tv shows to inspire you and how many people they musta met and how many churches they musta passed and how many...
    michelleindsm michelleindsm
    36-40, F
    Sep 26, 2013

    You can lead a horse to water

    but can't make it drink.. You can lead some1 2 knowledge but can't make them learn etc.. etc...
    Rapunzel3 Rapunzel3
    51-55, F
    1 Response Oct 10, 2014


    My dad told me the other day charity always starts at home. So it is probably better to help myself first then go to help other people.
    PhilodeSanLuis PhilodeSanLuis
    36-40, M
    Apr 14, 2013

    Finally I Realize This

    I spent YEARS trying in vain to help people be their best, and get out of unhealthy patterns that destroy their lives. After some success cases and some failures, I have finally come to realize that some people just aren't ready to be helped, and they will fight you tooth and...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 1, 2011
    heyyo1234 heyyo1234
    26-30, M
    Aug 8, 2014

    You can give them the world,

    still they will ask for more.... No matter what you do for them....... :(
    DelMonteMan DelMonteMan
    31-35, M
    Feb 25, 2014

    If you don't wanna help yourself I don't care

    for helping you but can you stop trying to destroy others
    deleted deleted
    Oct 18, 2015


    Some people just do not want help.
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    46-50, F
    May 4, 2010

    Constant Woe Is Me

    You run into them from time to time. Some wallow in their misery, too depressed to think that they can ever change things. Others claim to want help, but they never try to make an effort to better themselves. You can give them all the support and care you hold, but if they don...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response May 4, 2010

    Some people here just want to moap around in

    their unhappiness without actually wanting to fix anything or be grateful, hopeful, and happy for what they do have and what could be.
    rumblingheart rumblingheart
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 31, 2014

    Sad Thing Is: There's A Lot Of People You Can't Help

    the problem with helping people is if they don't listen to you: you can't help them. some people you can repeat over and over the same advice and they will continue to repeat their same problems either because they're not willing to listen or they're just stupid. some people...
    BornWarrior87 BornWarrior87
    22-25, M
    Sep 18, 2011

    I disagree. I understand

    why people say this but I think it's a rather arrogant self serving attitude. You think your helping someone, you think you know what someone needs better than they or better than God. I've been hurt by this attitude. People giving advise- Maybe your advice wasn't as good...
    stufy stufy
    2 Responses Sep 4, 2015

    I can't totally help you

    if you don't want my help or if your don't try to make this forced forced friendship work work ~_~ As my favorite band of old time Paparoach says in my favorite song long before Hector and I were first dueting it ^_^ 'Scars' ^_~ Hey Hector didn't I give you a bunch those for...
    SquirrellyGal2493 SquirrellyGal2493
    Mar 29, 2014

    The Group Title Say's It All.

    I joined this group because the title jumped out at me. Just as my wife cant stop drinking until she choose's to help herself, the same goes for me. Through my battle with depression there will be those that will offer help but the bottom line is that it is all up to me. I must...
    Robert1256 Robert1256
    51-55, M
    4 Responses Sep 10, 2010

    My father has Narcism Disorder along side

    Bi-Polar. I spent about 19 years of my life wasting my efforts, giving my time and love for someone who i couldn't help. Just recently thing's have gotten so bad he passed out from an episode and the ambulance had to be called. My mums a depressed alcoholic whom i do not blame...
    pr1m3 pr1m3
    22-25, M
    Jun 10, 2014

    WTF!! People are just brainless

    or total jerks!! They ask a question and then berate every reply they get like a little b*tch. Why did you even ask anything if you're gonna be an utter doucheface about it to everyone! This place was not as I perceived. It's more like FB without a face and I detest FB.... Oh...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 29, 2015

    I believe people who don't find true happiness

    will never know or understand the beauty of it. I've made attempts to help my aunt leave her husband who is a jailbird, alcoholic, cheater, just plain no good. She claims she feels sorry for him and that's why she stays in the marriage. I don't understand who you always complain...
    PrettyHurtsSince89 PrettyHurtsSince89
    26-30, F
    Jun 10, 2014

    Your mental and muscular rigidity will kill you.

    Relax. There is nothing to fear, not even fear itself. Relax into yourselves, everything is a projection, swim with the wave. You are YOU. You, I, are, it. Petty dead language. There is nothing to fear.
    JavierHunting JavierHunting
    18-21, M
    May 14, 2014

    What about when you discover yourself in a

    place of resistance, unable to shift your choices -Even Knowing that the course you're determined to chart Is Not Fulfilling Your Basic Needs. What then? When you Realize You Can't Help YOURSELF cuz You AREN'T Helping Yourself. *And if you'd Just change your mind...
    AdoraGel AdoraGel
    36-40, F
    Aug 28, 2015

    Stop whining and make a change!

    Death comes quick and unexpected.
    Mystiquelady Mystiquelady
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Oct 17, 2015

    We All Have Choices

    I have cried countless of tears because of this. It took me years to learn this lesson. I tried to be there for so many people, but at the end of the day I was basically banging my head against a brick wall either that or running around in circles. I have tried to save people...
    philosophicmyth philosophicmyth
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 15, 2010

    Exactly, the best intentions are worthless

    if the person isn't receptive.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 1, 2015

    Last weekend was spent entirely with my ex.

    He is an alcoholic who hit bottom and wanted a safe place to stay. He knows I don't tolerate any of it, which is why I broke off our engagement when I found out almost 2 years ago. But he has a good heart so we keep in touch occasionally. He's a research scientist, has a PHd...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    I've known this for quite a while.

    But I am the type of person that cares WAY too much and when I feel someone needs my help or advice, I usually try to do everything I can. It becomes draining when that person who is constantly asking for my advice never does anything with it. They never help themselves. They...
    xWarriorPrincessx xWarriorPrincessx
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 28, 2015
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