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I Really Need to Be More Assertive

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 110 People

    "Sacrificial"

    I'm finding out that my close friends think I sacrifice all the time. I'm always the one who takes the floor when there aren't enough beds, the one who takes the end seat in the movie theater 87% of the time, the one who gives up too easily. I didn't realize this until they...
    awkwardlighting awkwardlighting 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 3, 2008

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    Too Nice?

    In nearly every relationship I've been in, I was so devoted, so kind, and giving but I would up getting cheated on, getting very hurt emotionally, and alone. Was it that I always chose the wrong person or that I haven't been as strong as I should and need to take control?
    Chucklesh Chucklesh 56-60, M 4 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    I'm always that person

    that is there for you, even if we don't like each other.. I'm always the friend that gets everyone's **** when they want to blow off steam. I'm not the chew toy, and I'm not a waste of space either. I want someone to help me LITERALLY and guide me to become braver than what I am...
    pandasixteen pandasixteen 18-21, F May 13, 2014

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    A Story I've Read In A Book About Assertiveness

    I've read a story in a book about a man who wasn't assertive at all when he was younger. I think his mother was an alcoholic and punched him or something. He didn't fight back. I think he thought of himself as weak, as did his peers. He went to "shadow work therapy" (the book...
    AmIAMaleHSP AmIAMaleHSP 26-30, M Aug 20, 2012

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    I Wish...

    I really suck at saying no. I put myself way over my head because I can't say no or stand up for myself as much as I'd like to. When something happens I can't think of what to say until after the situation is over, then I think of it and kick myself. I want to stand up for...
    sterlingsinner sterlingsinner 22-25 1 Response Mar 30, 2009

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    Well So I'm Told!

    Now don't get me wrong, it's not that I can't say no it's just that I hate to disappoint people and if i really don't mind and what is being asked is within my power than I don't see a reason to deny a person their wish. ย I'm constantly being told by those closest to me that i...
    teeny09 teeny09 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 15, 2011

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    You Have

    The right to decide how to lead your life. This includes pursuing your own goals and dreams and establishing your own priorities. The right to your own values, beliefs, opinions, and emotions -- and the right to respect yourself for them, no matter the opinion of...
    redman redman 46-50, M 7 Responses Dec 21, 2007

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    In Telling People When They Hurt Me....

    At the moment I feel I am letting people get away with hurting me and that makes me feel angry with myself. I really do need to be more assertive and stand my ground with people. I always put others before myself and it leaves me feeling resentful and hurt. My mother is the worst...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 16, 2011

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    What Is It.....

    Assertiveness is the ability to express yourself and your rights without violating the rights of others. It is appropriately direct, open, and honest communication which is self-enhancing and expressive. Acting assertively will allow you to feel self-confident and will generally...
    redman redman 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 21, 2007

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    nothingon nothingon 70+, M 7 hrs ago

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    Hi!Im new to this so i want more friends who can advice me..i will be really happy to talk to someone...Im 12 years old...Thank u to u all
    Christopher147 Christopher147 13-15, M 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I've been trying to make more female friends for a while now but haven't had much luck. I use to feel more comfortable with guys, but lately it's felt like looking back on those...
    strs248 strs248 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I need advice I was searched at school today and I forgot I had adhd medicine in there I had 4 bags of like 5 different kinds my school suspended me for 5 days and im scared I...
    1080ladderstallYYfakie 1080ladderstallYYfakie 16-17, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    i really want a friend and would like them to be male. some things about me is i love science but im not all geeky about it, i have a ps3 and im gay. i am just looking for somebody...
    Xepheroix Xepheroix 16-17 2 days ago

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    I just need someone who I can stay up with all night and share very wierd, silly, and deep convos.๐Ÿ˜น๐Ÿ™Œ.. Distance doesn't matter๐ŸŒŽ.. As long as ur real and not judgmental.. I...
    Allgurlsrock Allgurlsrock 16-17, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Hugs are the best and I could always go for one. I've had kind of a bad day and felt a bit lonely :c hugs? :D
    lilykitten1998 lilykitten1998 16-17, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    i like girls better to hang out with they are less quick to judge and are way more fun to chat with and just hang around with and also i can be more myself without having to be so...
    PurpleMonkey34 PurpleMonkey34 22-25, M 4 days ago

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    While I admire how many guys want to befriend me, I would also like a girl buddy! I need someone I can tell my secrets to, share embarrassing stories about my best friend with, and...
    LovelyIrishgirl LovelyIrishgirl 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Anyone wants to message me, I need someone to talk to. My internet is really slow, so you might need to be willing to wait
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I need a work out buddy or trainer in my life tbh .
    idontknowausername00 idontknowausername00 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I need a friend who I could go for coffee with, watch a movie go for walk.. Etc
    Mystic2202 Mystic2202 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    My boyfriend is skinnier than I am! And I can't help but think... If I was skinnier would the sex be better?
    Pelennor Pelennor 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm 5'5 and 220lbs... I remember when I was just 170lbs. I know 170lbs may seem like a lot, but compared to now it was like heaven. I need some motivation to eat less and workout...
    Pelennor Pelennor 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I like being naked in front of females, even non-sexual, crazy, huh?
    metoe225 metoe225 26-30, M a week ago

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    Trans Girl looking for new friends.
    Rachelle454 Rachelle454 26-30, T a week ago

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    Hey guys if any of you play xbox 360 and have xbox live I am wondering if i can be your friend on xbox live? please let me know thanks, sorry for the bad grammer.
    GabeG23 GabeG23 22-25, M a week ago

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    Who wants to be my friend lol ๐Ÿ™ˆ
    Hhh123451992 Hhh123451992 22-25, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    ...there are some things and tasks i don't mind doing, but one in particular i am struggling with is going and getting tons of water (we have a well system) at walmart, since...
    coffeeonice coffeeonice 31-35, F a week ago

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    I need a friend..anyone? :( i'm 18 F
    ally08 ally08 18-21, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    Yes we all do need love n respect not only from Christians but from every where we need to refuel our selfs in truth n live in love
    riderz4christ riderz4christ 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 4

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    sooo lonelyyyy!! whyy? i cant do this anymoreee
    mysticroach mysticroach 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 2

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    I need a trustworthy best friend who won't lie or hurt me. I need someone to be there for me when I'm not okay and understand everything that's going on in my life. I'm tired of...
    xmichaelax xmichaelax 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 1

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    I broke up with my boyfriend in December last year. But there's this guy in my economics class who resembles him so much and every time I look at him I'm reminded of everything...
    charicealpaca charicealpaca 18-21, F Feb 1

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    pplz want a gay friend i dont judge you promise. You are who your are
    win02 win02 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    Its amazing that I live in a pretty progressive city, yet there is so much diversity among its gay populace. It just doenst make any sense. My husband and i have been looking to...
    EtTuJudas EtTuJudas 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 31

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    so the only best friend that I have ever had betrayed me about 3 years ago and I haven't made a new one since. the closest thing is my boyfriend, but there are just certain things...
    LoveKatAR LoveKatAR 18-21 Jan 31

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    I need a best friend who also thinks I am his/her best friend. Why is it so easy to be there for people but still not a best friend to them? I want a friend who is willing to do...
    Greenapple17 Greenapple17 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 30

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    I just want them back as my best friend =::::( really hurts. I NEED MY BEST FRIEND.
    stabbedtoceasersalad stabbedtoceasersalad 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 29

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    Is it sad my best friend is my dog LITTERLY IS i love her alot shes more of a friend to me than the only 2 friends i have
    pinkitten18 pinkitten18 16-17, F Jan 29

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    If you add me on snapchat: kay_kristine143 I will sneeze for you if you want! <3 ;)
    LayWithFate LayWithFate 18-21, F Jan 29

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    Hey my name is Abby and I'm look for more guy friends. I'm 13 so anyone around that age please!
    FlamingXArrow FlamingXArrow 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 26

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