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I Really Need to Be More Assertive

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 109 People

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    I really suck at saying no. I put myself way over my head because I can't say no or stand up for myself as much as I'd like to. When something happens I can't think of what to say until after the situation is over, then I think of it and kick myself. I want to stand up for...
    sterlingsinner sterlingsinner 22-25 1 Response Mar 30, 2009

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    I'm always that person

    that is there for you, even if we don't like each other.. I'm always the friend that gets everyone's **** when they want to blow off steam. I'm not the chew toy, and I'm not a waste of space either. I want someone to help me LITERALLY and guide me to become braver than what I am...
    pandasixteen pandasixteen 18-21, F May 13, 2014

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    Too Nice?

    In nearly every relationship I've been in, I was so devoted, so kind, and giving but I would up getting cheated on, getting very hurt emotionally, and alone. Was it that I always chose the wrong person or that I haven't been as strong as I should and need to take control?
    Chucklesh Chucklesh 56-60, M 4 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    "Sacrificial"

    I'm finding out that my close friends think I sacrifice all the time. I'm always the one who takes the floor when there aren't enough beds, the one who takes the end seat in the movie theater 87% of the time, the one who gives up too easily. I didn't realize this until they...
    awkwardlighting awkwardlighting 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 3, 2008

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    You Have

    The right to decide how to lead your life. This includes pursuing your own goals and dreams and establishing your own priorities. The right to your own values, beliefs, opinions, and emotions -- and the right to respect yourself for them, no matter the opinion of...
    redman redman 46-50, M 7 Responses Dec 21, 2007

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    A Story I've Read In A Book About Assertiveness

    I've read a story in a book about a man who wasn't assertive at all when he was younger. I think his mother was an alcoholic and punched him or something. He didn't fight back. I think he thought of himself as weak, as did his peers. He went to "shadow work therapy" (the book...
    AmIAMaleHSP AmIAMaleHSP 26-30, M Aug 20, 2012

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    Well So I'm Told!

    Now don't get me wrong, it's not that I can't say no it's just that I hate to disappoint people and if i really don't mind and what is being asked is within my power than I don't see a reason to deny a person their wish.  I'm constantly being told by those closest to me that i...
    teeny09 teeny09 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 15, 2011

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    What Is It.....

    Assertiveness is the ability to express yourself and your rights without violating the rights of others. It is appropriately direct, open, and honest communication which is self-enhancing and expressive. Acting assertively will allow you to feel self-confident and will generally...
    redman redman 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 21, 2007

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    In Telling People When They Hurt Me....

    At the moment I feel I am letting people get away with hurting me and that makes me feel angry with myself. I really do need to be more assertive and stand my ground with people. I always put others before myself and it leaves me feeling resentful and hurt. My mother is the worst...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 16, 2011

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    laur333 laur333 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    hope1022 hope1022 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 12

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    I have never had a true friend. I am feeling lonely all the time. I don't dare to start a conversation in fear of being rejected. i really need a friend to talk to.
    pedermn97 pedermn97 16-17, M 2 Responses Apr 14

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    I've never been the kind of person to have many friends, I kept my under circle small. But after high school we all went our own ways and hardly see each other anymore, let alone...
    jessicajinx jessicajinx 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 14

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    i don't need more followers But i need decent friends:-) My posts are quotes,drawing,fave artists,my pics.. How about yours??
    HAVEANICELIVESHATERS HAVEANICELIVESHATERS 31-35, F 3 days ago

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    I woke up. It's early. 7:22 am! I reallyyyy need to pee! It's at like 6-10.
    CuriousKitten101 CuriousKitten101 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    edmgirl94 edmgirl94 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 14

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    I need more Followers Follow me At alexkilos
    Alexfroot Alexfroot 16-17, M Apr 15

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    I need more people to talk too.
    Bobafettt Bobafettt 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 21

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    I'm feeling rotten. I should be feeling on top of the world, and excited right now...my partner proposed to me over the last weekend, and bought me a gorgeous engagement ring, but...
    AFriend2All AFriend2All 36-40, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    my name is Abigail. I'm 14 years old. I'm a really nice girl, I'm empathetic too. but no one likes me. I have borderline personality disorder (BPD). my BPD makes it hard for me to...
    eternitygoeson eternitygoeson 13-15, F 8 hrs ago

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    I wish I had more friends. I really do.
    Bobafettt Bobafettt 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    My best friend was diagnosed with ms and fibromyalgia . She has so much going on in her life. Her dad is dying, she is failing classes, she just got out of a terrible relationship...
    jangofett56037 jangofett56037 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 6

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    Oh and did I forget to mention I'm an emotional wreck at the moment? My (well basically is) my best friend has let me know it's a no go and is moving out of town. ...
    Littlemisssomebody Littlemisssomebody 31-35, F 8 Responses Apr 7

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    Can someone please talk to me. I'm feeling really depressed right now, and I'm in need of a friend.
    ElectrifiedArrow ElectrifiedArrow 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    I have one friend, he's been there since we have been small and we're thick as thieves, but more friends is a good thing.
    Mike3569 Mike3569 22-25, M Apr 23

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    I'm breaking down. I need a hug so badly right now.
    thehonestgentleman thehonestgentleman 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 25

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    i have never really had a real friend everyone i know is fake i just need someone who will understand me and say everything is gonna be oky im trying to be stronge and stand alone...
    angie1996eye angie1996eye 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I need a hug but I have no one right now to give me one 😢
    butterflybaby123 butterflybaby123 13-15 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Ok so here's the issue. It seems my whole high school I've had problems with girls. It seems like every time I make a new friend, they're more toxic than the one before. My...
    Justventingg Justventingg 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    If anyone actually reads my stuff, I thought I should tell you all that I will be deactivating my account. I'm kind of bored of EP & my life is really getting quite complicated. I...
    milkysecret milkysecret 36-40, F 3 days ago

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    I just started ,its so hard. I need help :( I've tried losing weight the healthy way but wasn't effective so I need someone strict and serious .
    prettyboo711 prettyboo711 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    I need a friend.. i need someone to talk to openly.. im lost and lonely..
    Serjann Serjann 26-30, M 2 Responses Apr 15

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    I just need to vent about my life & be completely and totally honest. I just need to get it out. I am willing to listen to your problems as well. Just looking for a confidante...
    sfoss21 sfoss21 26-30, F Apr 25

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    Help, Help, Help! I have just binged for three days I can't believe how disgusting I am I neeeeed someone anyone to help me loose all this weight I weigh 55kgs and am 167 cm tall I...
    liveoli liveoli 16-17, F Apr 26

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    I seriously just wanna have a long deep conversation with someone.. I don't wanna know (if you're fat,skinny, short, tall, black,Mexican,or white!) I wanna talk like we've known...
    Sherry0716 Sherry0716 16-17, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I need a buddy to help me stay on track! I'm feeling weak and hungry and I just can't give in! I need someone to help support me!
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 days ago

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    I'm 13, 14 soon, I need a friend badly. preferably a boy, I get along with guys better than girls. any age. I'm not judgemental at all. I'm open minded. please message me
    eternitygoeson eternitygoeson 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    I need a friend. Someone who will accept me for who I am and not what they want me to be. Someone who is willing to stay up late and talk to me. Someone who won't forget about me...
    Lovepugs4ever Lovepugs4ever 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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