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I Really Need to Be More Assertive

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    I'm always that person

    that is there for you, even if we don't like each other.. I'm always the friend that gets everyone's **** when they want to blow off steam. I'm not the chew toy, and I'm not a waste of space either. I want someone to help me LITERALLY and guide me to become braver than what I am...
    pandasixteen pandasixteen 18-21, F May 13, 2014

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    You Have

    The right to decide how to lead your life. This includes pursuing your own goals and dreams and establishing your own priorities. The right to your own values, beliefs, opinions, and emotions -- and the right to respect yourself for them, no matter the opinion of...
    redman redman 46-50, M 7 Responses Dec 21, 2007

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    What Is It.....

    Assertiveness is the ability to express yourself and your rights without violating the rights of others. It is appropriately direct, open, and honest communication which is self-enhancing and expressive. Acting assertively will allow you to feel self-confident and will generally...
    redman redman 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 21, 2007

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    Well So I'm Told!

    Now don't get me wrong, it's not that I can't say no it's just that I hate to disappoint people and if i really don't mind and what is being asked is within my power than I don't see a reason to deny a person their wish.  I'm constantly being told by those closest to me that i...
    teeny09 teeny09 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 15, 2011

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    Too Nice?

    In nearly every relationship I've been in, I was so devoted, so kind, and giving but I would up getting cheated on, getting very hurt emotionally, and alone. Was it that I always chose the wrong person or that I haven't been as strong as I should and need to take control?
    Chucklesh Chucklesh 56-60, M 4 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    "Sacrificial"

    I'm finding out that my close friends think I sacrifice all the time. I'm always the one who takes the floor when there aren't enough beds, the one who takes the end seat in the movie theater 87% of the time, the one who gives up too easily. I didn't realize this until they...
    awkwardlighting awkwardlighting 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 3, 2008

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    In Telling People When They Hurt Me....

    At the moment I feel I am letting people get away with hurting me and that makes me feel angry with myself. I really do need to be more assertive and stand my ground with people. I always put others before myself and it leaves me feeling resentful and hurt. My mother is the worst...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 16, 2011

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    I Wish...

    I really suck at saying no. I put myself way over my head because I can't say no or stand up for myself as much as I'd like to. When something happens I can't think of what to say until after the situation is over, then I think of it and kick myself. I want to stand up for...
    sterlingsinner sterlingsinner 22-25 1 Response Mar 30, 2009

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    A Story I've Read In A Book About Assertiveness

    I've read a story in a book about a man who wasn't assertive at all when he was younger. I think his mother was an alcoholic and punched him or something. He didn't fight back. I think he thought of himself as weak, as did his peers. He went to "shadow work therapy" (the book...
    AmIAMaleHSP AmIAMaleHSP 26-30, M Aug 20, 2012

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    I have read a lot of posts where people say they need or want someone to talk to but then when you offer up a kind concerning ear to listen without judgment and to only offer...
    Micky7288 Micky7288 56-60, M 1 hr ago

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    Hahaha I havent really met many people on this yet,I am 17 and I play alot of games(PC) and I am looking for someone who is like me in some ways. Im 6ft2 and I dont play many...
    NHarri NHarri 16-17, M 2 hrs ago

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    i really want a friend, im new to this whole experience project thing but if you like hip hop or tumblr message me! or even if you just want someone to talk talk to, doesn't matter...
    nataliathecreator nataliathecreator 13-15, F 8 hrs ago

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    I haven't eaten in three days (: yay. but I still need to be skinnier
    riverlogan riverlogan 18-21, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    My life isn't very conducive to making friends for so many reasons. I think though, that much of it has to do with my upbringing. I was raised only by my mom, and she took me out...
    allshadesofgrey allshadesofgrey 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I guess we all dream to have that kind of friend that makes you laugh, that you talk to all night. I need that friend right now.
    kxclnor kxclnor 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Heey! i think everybody needs a very close friend, who u can trust and tell everything and have deep conversations or sometimes just write non-sence textes! who is there for u when...
    MehriLovesPizza MehriLovesPizza 13-15, F 1 day ago

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    Nothing seems to go right. Tonight was horrible. I thought I had my monsters at bay. Nope. One phone call and all of those memories come flooding back like a tidal wave. It made me...
    wja122 wja122 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    I hate the fact I need to be high or drunk to really be confident and fully speak my mind or pursuer or act out my dreams like seriously if I could think they way I think when I'm...
    reader44 reader44 26-30, M 3 days ago

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    im cutting again..i really need a friend. please.
    t0xic3motions t0xic3motions 13-15, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I need to cut, but even more than that I need to resist the urge or my partner will be mad at me and upset that I did that.. Why? Because he will feel like he's failed to help me...
    Catho Catho 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    ive been looking and looking. I lost my last job at walmart. sucks. I have two college degrees n Communications and Business Administration. I need a good job, so i can get health...
    awesomeguy3125 awesomeguy3125 26-30, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    in need of one.. best if they are 18+ and live in the ocala area
    itsjusmeg itsjusmeg 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    Omg!!! I slept in this morning! It's 10:15 am! So my bladder is extremely full! Bursting badly! I can barely walk without holding myself to stop the leaking! I'm going upstairs and...
    CuriousKitten101 CuriousKitten101 22-25, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    My whole life I've been more or less just one of the boys, and in adult life I've come to find this pretty annoying lol I wish I could find more chicks that I click with! :p
    ANoFace ANoFace 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Hello everyone! If you reed my previous story, I have to tell that I am fu++ing failed! I am very dissapointed, and I didn't made it again, again and again! Everything is going...
    fightclub1 fightclub1 26-30, M a week ago

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    I just walked out of my job interview, and I feel like it went great. Not because I'm confident ive got the job, but I felt comfortable and relaxed. I was really anxious before...
    DHggmu DHggmu 22-25, M a week ago

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    I am an experienced whitepaper, guestpost, article, salesam an experienced whitepaper, article, salescopy writer and in need of clients to keep me super busy all-day week-long...
    Obos Obos 18-21 Jun 29

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    I need more friends to chat with idc if ur older or younger then me :)
    jadasmith24 jadasmith24 13-15, F Jun 28

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    In my thinking quickie is like a junk food although you fulfill your need and desire, but after effect isn't so good. Personally I love making should be 7 course meal with nice...
    Sam908 Sam908 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 28

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    Yeah..With sleeping,with getting things done,avoiding certain people,taking necessary action when i need to..I need more self discipline i guess..I hate the word discipline,despise...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    I just need a hug.....sometimes I just wonder, why do I get hurt?.....do I just fall to quick or do I just deserve heart pain?
    MericaMan MericaMan 16-17, M 5 Responses Jun 26

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    G'day guys! My name is Aaron.. im 20 years old... i live in Australia.. and im really looking for a friend... that i can skype with ... and talk to ... and have understand me...
    walax229 walax229 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 25

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    I'm not normally a touchy feely person but right now, I could use a hug, a shoulder to cry on... But I'm much better at smiling and saying I'm ok than saying I'm not ok. It's...
    elipses elipses 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 24

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    Came home from a long day at school. Just noticed how bad I have to pee! I overslept this morning so I didn't have time to take my morning pee! So I'm holding since 18 hours now...
    bellyyyy bellyyyy 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    Recently things have really been going for the worst . First it started with me finding out my Aunt had 4th stage lung cancer and it had spread throughout her whole body . Then...
    kush502 kush502 18-21, F Jun 23

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    Way more compassion, it would take a huge miracle!
    Jhayne8 Jhayne8 31-35, F Jun 21

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    I really wanna talk about guys with someone who understands the struggle when the guy is straight. Always up for talking about other things
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 21

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    I need a new ibf who'll have my back
    TahirC TahirC 13-15, F Jun 20

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    I like having guys as friends.. My best friend is a guy. Girls are to much drama, any guys wanna be friends? I've grown up with guys.. Their so much more chill.
    wanttobeokay wanttobeokay 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 20

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    I really need a friend that will actually care about me.
    Waiting4Wings Waiting4Wings 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 20

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    I really need a true friend. With whom I could be honest about myself and how I really feel. That wouldn't leave or judge or look funny at me if I told them I'm depressed and have...
    belongtothosewhowait belongtothosewhowait 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 20

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    Woke up at 7:25 in the morning really desperate and leaking a little into my smurfette pajamas! I really need to go like badly! But need to hold it in! It's a struggle guys!
    CuriousKitten101 CuriousKitten101 22-25, F 18 Responses Jun 20

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