I Refuse to Compete For Attention

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    Never. Was tired of it in high school.

    ..so many years ago. Why would I be happy with it now?
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Aug 3, 2015

    I Never Did And Never Will Compete For A Man Or A Friend. Competition Belongs In The "games Column" Of Life!

    I've been having some real interesting talks  with a  few buddies on this  subject and  figured it would make a good story.I can only do,  what I do,  as well as I can.  I've NEVER needed to be the BEST, at anything, just  to win an award.....If I feel i did  good then...
    sierra33 sierra33
    31-35, F
    18 Responses Mar 16, 2012

    After Yrs. Of Having To Compete For It

    I am now refusing to compete for some ome's attention after having to wait on wife to give it to me, my daughters, or friends ffinding out thatt I don't need to compete for attention.......just have to wait for them to want to give it tp me....yes, sometimes it is hard to wait...
    PoppaBear53 PoppaBear53
    56-60, M
    Apr 6, 2010

    Good And Bad Attention

    I have never competed for someone's attention.  I was the girl who sat in the back of the classroom doing my work and preferring NOT to draw the attention of the teacher or professor.  I have one brother and can't recall ever competing for my mother's attention. ...
    giggles4488 giggles4488
    56-60, F
    7 Responses Apr 6, 2010

    You give in completely.

    .. They lose interest. Better to keep yourself guarded and maintain a little mystery than to feel vulnerable and foolish.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jun 5, 2015

    Let cold loneliness fade in the warmth of my

    admiration. Steal moments for me and fuel my devotion. I want your moments, On the golf cart, By the pool, At the grill. Share with me! Ill give my moments, In the car, By my desk, At the gym. I submit to you.
    Runinpink Runinpink
    46-50, F
    1 Response Dec 12, 2015

    Not For A Second!

    When it comes to most things, I'm a pretty competitive girl!Have it be a card game, cornhole, flag football...........you name it, I wanna win it!However, when it comes to your attention..................I WILL NOT!I won't be just another notch or just another name in your black...
    girlfaith girlfaith
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Sep 23, 2013

    I Will Never Battle For Attention.

    I like myself. I like the way I am and if I'm not intresting enough for you then keep it moving.I don't like seeing people do all sorts of things to constantly be the one who's the center of attention. I am the type of person who will just walk away from that. And if a person...
    Temprence Temprence
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 10, 2012


    I'm no different.  I love attention.  But when that adorable me feels anything like competition, it retreats immediately.  I will do something to gain the favors of a lady, sometimes I'm even ready to make significant efforts, but I have my pride.  I will...
    moreandless moreandless
    56-60, M
    1 Response May 9, 2010

    It's Very Simple Really.

    Im loyal and devoted both in friendships and relationships.  I deal with individuals.  I do not do games.  If I want games I have an extensive software library and have no need to play with human feelings for my entertainment.  I consider it a low and contemptible act and...
    badbinary badbinary
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Mar 22, 2012

    Huge Turn Off

    Ya know what really grinds my gears? *heh Family Guy* it's when guys I like or am involved with go and do something stupid like do a 180 and compliment another woman in front of me or obviously point someone else out in a sexual way. Then they get upset if I ignore them or...
    ChocSwurl ChocSwurl
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 31, 2011

    I've done this for too long & I'm done with it

    bc I shouldn't have to... I don't need someone's undivided attention 24/7 but a little bit would be great, I'm important too.
    Baer2113 Baer2113
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 28, 2015

    Perfect silence, interrupted by the sound of a

    glass coming to rest. Perfect memories, decorate yesterday's walls. Perfect submission, carbon copy, did you get yours? Perfect loneliness, pushed farther into my depths. Perfect, just perfect.
    HomelessWind HomelessWind
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    Why I Am Here

    Pure and simple, to make friends...and oh boy, did I...I was not discriminate...I like everyone..however, my friends list got out of control...hence the elimination of over 1500 friends. I made friends that I love...that I hope i can keep for eternity..or a very long time. 2. I...
    akindheart akindheart
    61-65, F
    21 Responses Jan 26, 2012

    I Don't Compete, Period.

    I refuse to compete with people.  I think it is funny when people try to "one up" me because I just ignore them.  I also hate when people want others to kiss *** and get mad when I don't.  That drives me crazy.  This is my life, not a...
    BellasHappyPlace BellasHappyPlace
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Dec 9, 2009

    Why Should Anyone Have To?

    I don't like when people become full of themselves and expect you to compete for their attention, like you should be proud to be in their presence or like they are such a hot commodity and expect loads of people to just flock to them. Nope, sorry but I refuse to feed anyone's ego...
    PenelopeParfait PenelopeParfait
    18-21, F
    Jul 1, 2012

    Not My Style

    I don't have to be the center of attention. It makes me uncomfortable anyway. If there's someone in the room who is hogging attention, I say let her/him. They'll get no competition from me. lol
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    Oct 29, 2010

    I Believe This To My Core

    I have always believed this.Obviously, I am not talking about competing in a sports game or anything like that.I guess I can think my parents for instilling this in me, but I truly do REFUSE to compete for attention.In high school, I would have crushes on a few guys and would be...
    ItsJustMe888 ItsJustMe888
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jul 9, 2012


    This reminds me of something that happened in high school. I had just recently become single, was taking my time getting into another relationship [which is really rare, I'm hardly ever single for more than 5 seconds] and I was interested in someone but couldn't be with him...
    CuteInChaos CuteInChaos
    18-21, F
    Apr 20, 2011

    Nope, I won't do it. I will gladly bow out

    and slip away when they all come parading themselves and vying for the spotlight.
    deleted deleted
    Dec 1, 2014

    I found you at your lowest,

    and I fell in love. You struggled to pull yourself up, and I gave you my hand. You got to your feet, and I danced with you in joy. Together we rebuilt the life you had broken, and my pride in you knew no bounds. I was there when all others had abandoned you, I loved you fiercely...
    thesubtwin thesubtwin
    31-35, T
    1 Response Dec 6, 2014

    I feel the male gaze upon me,

    and it makes me uncomfortable. I’m being watched, torn apart, put back together, and analyzed. They don’t see a human being who’s having a stressful day and needs to empathy. To them, I am nothing but a piece of meat. They see my legs, my breasts, my hips, my hair, my...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 5, 2013

    Compete For Attention

    I couldn't care less about attention.  I won't do things on purpose just because I need receiving attention.
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr
    36-40, F
    Jul 4, 2011

    worst thing I ever did was be ok with my girl

    having male friends, it started out fine then after awhile there getting more time than I am and I'm having to fight to get attention away from them so I try to put a stop to it and she does for a little while then next thing I know her phones blowing up with texts from male...
    2BigForYou 2BigForYou
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 4, 2016

    Even Though I Am A Leo

    I don't need the spotlight all the time. Just a good part of it, heeheehee
    deleted deleted
    Apr 6, 2011

    I Won't Do It... I refuse to compete

    for attention. I don't do this IRL...and since I am the same on line as I am off....I definitely won't be doing it here. If you want to chat with me, I will try and respond when I can. If you want to send me gestures, gifts, cards or whiteboard messages....I will accept them...
    submissivelittlewoman submissivelittlewoman
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Feb 9, 2014

    I Will Not Compete

    I've always been the same, there is no way I'll compete for attention if it means living  in drama/acting like a diva/walking all over people/in other words, being generally obnoxious.  I love my friends here,  if I don't answer someone there is usually a good reason such as...
    pinkie5549 pinkie5549
    61-65, F
    Jan 26, 2012

    Not interested.. either to get one

    or to give one.. The world is far too wonderful and too large to treat anything like American football..
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i
    70+, M
    1 Response Mar 2, 2015

    I Won't Do It

    I refuse to compete for attention.... I don't do this IRL...and since I am the same on line as I am off....I definitely won't be doing it here. If you want to chat with me, I will try and respond when I can. If you want to send me gestures, gifts, cards or whiteboard...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Jan 25, 2012

    So it is and thus it has always been.

    If I like you then I truly like you, I don't do things by halves. If I like you, I want you to be happy, if you like me and want me then I want you to be sure, to know beyond a doubt (as much as that is ever possible in this day and age). I want to be pursued. I've never...
    MrsStrangeLust MrsStrangeLust
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    I am not competitive.

    I am a peer. I believe people can be friends with whoever they want to be friends with. I won't make them choose between me and so-and-so. I won't tell them to be loyal to me. I believe loyalty is earned and shouldn't be verbalized or demanded. If a guy wants me to be his woman...
    loveismyfriend loveismyfriend
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 6, 2016

    No! No more. I've done

    that my whole life because of my own insecurities, no more! Ever! When I really started becoming proficient, I started getting arrogant. This also wasn't good. My lesson in patience was short--- One of my new sergeants was a tank commander, and a weightlifter, arrogant...
    deleted deleted
    Sep 19, 2015

    It Never Fails...

    I'm not on here purely for sex. I want an emotional and intimate connection as well. I really want to get to know the people I talk to, and build a strong and true friendship, or more with someone special. However, nearly every time I find someone I'm interested in, and try to...
    Valdaine Valdaine
    41-45, M
    1 Response Nov 10, 2013
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