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I Remember My First Painful Breakup

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    It's been 4 years but nothing has changed,

    no, not a bit. We've been together for only a brief time but that was the happiest moment of my life. We both lead very different lives now, I am miles away from him but I just can't stop myself from thinking about our first kiss, our first holding hands, and much more than that...
    Maricorrr Maricorrr 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    His name was Phil. I was 16

    and he was 17. We were madly in love! He was my first love, we never had sex either. He lived 2 hrs away and saw him every time I had to go to the hospital- since I had cancer, he did too. That's how we met. We were reaching up to 10 months of us dating when the day before he...
    PrincessAbigail89 PrincessAbigail89 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 27

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    I’ve been trying to figure out how to write

    this for a month now. Every time I start, I always get off track or start to sound a little depressing. Although I suppose that’s what happens when you try to fit three years of thoughts into one small account. The essence of the story is that what I want more than anything is...
    jphegan jphegan 18-21, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    It wasn't a relationship break-up,

    but it was a break-up with a guy that I had feelings for. He had feelings for me too. He was the roommate of a close friend of mines at his college. He was good-looking and had a great personality. He showed me his great personality too. We talked. I spent the night with him a...
    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    I remember it all too well,

    every single detail of it. Every time I try to move on she keep popping up somehow, a friend mention her, I see her pic accidentally or many different things that keep reminding me of her. It’s like something impossible to forget about her and all of it, It has been 2 years...
    malqotifi malqotifi 18-21, M 5 Responses Aug 10

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    I'm shocked how he didn't

    even bother texting or contacting me to show his concern regarding my pain
    brownaphrodite brownaphrodite 16-17, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    So, it's been 3 months

    since my boyfriend broke up with me. We were together for almost a year. He is two years younger than me. He broke up with me over text. I remember calling him as soon as I got the text asking if we could talk about it, his response was he had already made the decision but we...
    Mitsuko15 Mitsuko15 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    He told me I was disgusting

    and I was lucky to have him.. But I loved him so I stayed. He got mad when I threatened to break up with him, and would tell me how ugly I am and no man would ever stay with me.. But I loved him so I stayed. He carved my name into his arm so I would be scared to leave him... I...
    WhatABeautifulMess97 WhatABeautifulMess97 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    I was 13 at the time,

    this guy was a friend of mine, not every popular, ehh alittle cute, we started just talking here and there, then we became closer and soon caught feelings, we caught feelings in May, and we were just talking, he didn't ask me Out or anything, one day, he got really upset because...
    naydinexx3 naydinexx3 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 5

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    I was in a very serious relationship with my

    best friend. It was so magical and dreamy and one day she decided to break it not because of any difference in opinion or anything but because her parents want her to marry someone else just for the sake of it ( I come from India where this happens quite frequently). But my mind...
    idontlikethisme idontlikethisme 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 10

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    Well basically right

    now I'm going through a rough patch... The man I loved broke up with me and is still friends with a total douchebag who hurt me so much. I literally hate him so much, both of them that I could shoot their faces off and keep visualising it. I ******* hate men.
    zahrawins zahrawins 18-21, F Aug 12

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    His name was Michael.

    I was 13 (I still am) and he was 11. It was October 19. My birthday. He texted me saying he wanted to break up cause me and my friend were annoying. He wouldn't admit it to me there but I found that out later on. I don't like him very much now but I kinda have to tolerate him
    xlxyelliexlx xlxyelliexlx 13-15, F 5 Responses Jul 28

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    I'm experiencing a roller coaster of emotions

    right now as my long term boyfriend broke up with me recently. I have sobbed my heart out numerous times and I really miss what we had.. I don't know what is going through his head. One minute he misses me and sends signals that he wants to be with me, then next minute I...
    Charley247 Charley247 18-21, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I had been dating this girl

    for two years, she was my life support seriously. My break up wasn't exactly the normal kind, more bitter and depressing. When I first met Tanya I was a pretty messed up kid. I never had the common sense and got into the wrong crowds, drinking, doing drugs, sleeping around. It...
    HalfARainbow HalfARainbow 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 3

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    My boyfriend and I just broke up.

    We dated for 7 months & were friends for 4. I cannot stop crying & throwing up, i can't eat or even sleep. I dont think i can bare seeing him at school and not running up to him and kissing him. He thinks im unloyal but i have never done anything to deserve this. I dont even...
    lax98 lax98 13-15, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    It was painful alright.

    .. A month before our would-have-been marriage and I was on the streets running for my life with a shattered right hand... And knowing even with the best reconstructive surgery my career as neurosurgeon which had just begun... Was over. I'll never forget the pain I endure every...
    LisaLuxuria LisaLuxuria 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    They say the first is the worst.

    I guess this is a different kind of pain. My relationship had to end. Not because we stopped loving each other, nothing bad happened that should make a relationship fall apart. Two people that love each other forced apart. My mother gave me an ultimatum-- family or boyfriend...
    sunshine1221 sunshine1221 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    I've been with my now ex-boyfriend

    for about 10 years ( on and off ). We broke up about 3 1/2 months ago. You would think that I would get use to breaking up since we've done it so many times. But it's never easy and this time is no exception . I think It hurts now more than ever this time around because deep...
    According2Me According2Me 26-30, F 6 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    His Lost

    I REMEMBER VIVIDLY MY FIRST PAINFUL BREAK UP. IT WAS NOT TOO LONG AGO. I GAVE MY HEART TO SOMEONE WHO DID NOT DESERVE IT. THE WRITING WAS ON THE WALL, HOW HE REALLY FELT ABOUT ME. BUT I REFUSED TO SEE IT. HE SHOWERED ME DAILY WITH WORDS OF LOVE, BUT ALL THEY WERE, WERE EMPTY...
    bunga87 bunga87 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 16, 2012

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    A Letter Never Sent

    “I wrote this letter to my Ex-boyfriend the night we broke up. It’s been almost a year to the day. And I still think about him. I never sent it.” Dear, You I have been hurt a lot, too much quite frankly. So much, to the point where I feel like ending it all, with a...
    shutupbehappy shutupbehappy 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 11, 2011

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    My ex cheated behind my back I don't no

    if I can find another girl :( but if there is any 12/14 year girls out there please message me thank you.
    shaun765 shaun765 13-15, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    My bestfriend dated my recent Ex

    and i forgave her, but i will never forget
    wargoddess1 wargoddess1 18-21, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Everyone remembers their first painful breakup

    but it's not a bad thing because for some it was your first "I love you" and really meaning it. Every breakup is always painful, they are never intended to be great. You just have to take the good with the bad and move on at your own pace .
    xgmgvx xgmgvx 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    he changed me for the bad,

    I was a loving, vibrant person, I was always there for people, loved hugs, and was just full of love and kindness. I dated him for a year and a half, and on my birthday, he took me out for dinner, and as we sat, a woman that looked about my age stood up from the table next to us...
    avabellaforb avabellaforb 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    17 Weeks

    My ex and I were together for a little over 3 years when we broke just this past January. Its been 17 weeks and she's already been with someone for almost 2 months. I can't help but feel confusion, sadness, joy, optimistic and every other emotion about the break up. This was my...
    Maire85 Maire85 26-30, F 5 Responses May 16, 2013

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    Well it was nov.7th I came home to find my

    boyfriend cheating on me:/ I didn't think he would do that to me with us having a 2 year old son and at the time I was 7 weeks Pregnant with our daughter!!! He said he didn't love me no more and got his stuff and walked out on us.... It still hurts!!
    Babygurl2012 Babygurl2012 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 13

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    So today although the feeling of emptiness

    continues it is defidentely minimizing. I was able to sleep slightly better last night and this morning I got up to workout, im not gonna lie finding motivation to do it was tough but I forced myself to try and while running I had so much energy maybe all the stress buildup...
    miae13 miae13 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 12

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    I was talking to this girl through the website

    blackpeoplemeet.com. Everything was going good but our conversations were spaced out. I decided to do a background check on her to make sure she was real. I was always trying to get in touch with her. Basically what I'm trying to say is we started talking on the phone. I put my...
    TyAllen TyAllen 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 13

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    Pathetic...

    He was my first kiss, my first love, and my first heartbreak! I was 16! Such a wonderful age to be in love. He was the first bf I ever wanted to be around. I would be fine if I could just hug him. For the first time I was truly in love! And I was blissfully happy! Sure we had...
    ShortDork ShortDork 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 22, 2013

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    My ex is my best friend

    and it is horrible... He started dating a girl right after we broke up and it still hurts, and a lot of things he has said hurt me. I'm at the point where I want to just cut this "friendship" off, and maybe that way he'll actually learn to appreciate me. I'm just scared because...
    ashleynp ashleynp 16-17, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    So basically my day was going alright

    since I was distracted by work and when I get home I decide to take my skateboard to the store rather than drive. Well it was the first time I ate straight up **** on it and the worst part is that the hit from the fall was not what made me ball up and cry but all these emotions...
    miae13 miae13 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    alyssabay alyssabay 13-15, F 7 Responses Aug 11

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    I broke up today. It was me.

    I'm still friends with her. I think will always be. I'm still there for her, if she need anything. If any of you other guys hurt her I will find and beat you. I'm single, but still a G thang.
    ReadyToDieMothafucka ReadyToDieMothafucka 70+, T 1 Response Aug 12

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    diaperboy1290 diaperboy1290 13-15, T Aug 5

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    I remember recently my boyfriend told me

    that he needed a break and it broke my heart. But I'll do anything thatll make him happy but i really give up. I feel like someone is breaking into our relationship
    kstewartt kstewartt 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I lost the love of my life

    when my wife made us change baby sitters. She was 14 and would come over to watch the kids. I would drive her home and she would have sex with me for beer and cigarets. When my wife found out we had to change baby sitters to a fatty. Maybe someday we can reconnect, until then...
    2gnillort 2gnillort 70+, M 8 Responses Aug 10

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    So I have been with this particular person

    for a yr and well to make it short he is not a good person nothing is good. I fell for him and well my feelings have minimized for him because of all the things he has done to me over the year and I know it will never work so I know what to expect but I cant help but cry and...
    miae13 miae13 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    It was all too recent.

    ...I still don't understand how she could throw 7 years down the drain. I would've NEVER left here, yet I wasn't even worth the fight :(
    JnyJny JnyJny 26-30, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    After dating for 2 years I get a scholarship

    in an university in Washington (I live in Mexico) So excited an all, it was great. Until my ex gf and me get into an ugly fight over stupid thing and she breaks up with me. At the moment I didn't take the over-skype breakup, so I wasn't upset at all. The pain came when a friend...
    rafadelosreyes rafadelosreyes 18-21, M 3 Responses Jun 26

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    My first ketchup bottle.

    . She was so beautiful, red and with a mysterious flavor.. I miss her so much.. My mom threw her out of the window because she didn't liked me "talking to a bottle of ketchup", but she wasn't just a bottle of ketchup.. She was Ketchilia, my first love.
    ketchuplover24 ketchuplover24 22-25, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Didn't see it coming.

    My high school sweet heart broke up with me two weeks after prom and two weeks before my birthday. In a public place that happened to be our favourite restaurant. I was completely stunned and as all the cards were put on the table I was told that he had wanted to break up with...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 Feb 5

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    I Couldn'T Breathe.

    The summer before my sophomore year of high school, I started dating this guy named Jason. He was a grade above me, and we had known each other for quite awhile. Before Jason I had never really had a boyfriend. I was always to shy to talk to guys and having a boyfriend was never...
    tnp2013 tnp2013 22-25, F 13 Responses Mar 3, 2013

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    I dated my high school sweet heart

    for 3 years. We didn't have sex. I respected her so much. I was so in love. We went to a dance and while I was dancing with her, I told her I was in love with her. She walked away from me. I asked what was wrong and she said she didn't love me. I tried to move on in high...
    jerry1982 jerry1982 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 5

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    oh middle school dating,

    Yes now, I dated a guy named Taylor in 7th grade. He was a lot taller than me because Im short and everytime we hugged or kissed he would bend down. Kind of embarrassing... Anywho I'm pretty sure that he didn't tell any of his family we were dating nor did I. On the last day of...
    hellobriannaskye hellobriannaskye 16-17, F Aug 8

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    Today is the day. I'm going to talk to him

    when i get home form work. I'm scared and nervous. I sill don't make what I'm gong to say. I've been thinking about if all week. Guys, I care for this guy a lot. I know it's not going to end bad. I mean we can sill be friends and I'll will be 100% fine with that. But I think I...
    Via70 Via70 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 2

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    All night it was difficult to sleep I feel empty

    as though I want to cry and let it all out but nothing comes out. This is the second time I am dealing with a break and although this one year break up is nothing compared to my seven year one I cant help but ask myself why? didnt I learn my lesson the first time? I know I was...
    miae13 miae13 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 11

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    We were twelve. I have dressed

    and been at peace with being a girl in a boy's body all my life. I got a huge crush on Josh, the cutest boy on earth, but he didn't know (as most of the school did not outside of the nurse, principal and vice p..) so when he heard I liked him and he asked me out I knew I'd have...
    bookreader2000 bookreader2000 13-15, T 6 Responses Jul 23

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    Just so we're clear, it is okay to miss someone

    you no longer want in your life. Remember that :)
    miae13 miae13 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 14

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    It Didn't Make Any Sense

    I was 16 years old (she was 15). The past four weeks had been complete bliss. I had never been so completely and absolutely happy in my whole life. Life seemed perfect. And it was just the start (I was certain) of *all* my dreams coming true. I had this ecstatic feeling of...
    kuryos2 kuryos2 46-50, M 5 Responses Mar 24, 2012

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    I still remember his hard I cried

    and all the pain I feel to this day.. When do you forget.
    deeviveros deeviveros 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 11

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