I Remember My First Painful Breakup

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 34,186 People

    Just so we're clear, it is okay to miss someone

    you no longer want in your life. Remember that :)
    miae13 miae13
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 14, 2014

    Be wise enough to realize

    when your effort is ignored and unappreciated. Be strong enough to put yourself first and cut ties that no longer serve to improve your life, especially if they have a negative impact. Lastly, be patient enough to know that time will allow you to move on but that begins with you...
    glassbonespaperskin glassbonespaperskin
    18-21, F
    Feb 8

    "I pity the woman who will love you

    when I am done. She will show up to your first date with a dustpan and broom, ready to pick up all the pieces I left you in. She will hear my name so often it will begin to dig holes in her. That is where doubt will grow. She will look at your neck, your thin hips, your mouth...
    Mischief8 Mischief8
    22-25, M
    1 Response May 10, 2015


    He was my first kiss, my first love, and my first heartbreak! I was 16! Such a wonderful age to be in love. He was the first bf I ever wanted to be around. I would be fine if I could just hug him. For the first time I was truly in love! And I was blissfully happy! Sure we had...
    ShortDork ShortDork
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 22, 2013

    "My love for you was like a fireplace inside my

    mind warming me up with good memories but as I became more and more in love with you it spread, it spread until my entire mind was fire. Every. Single. Part of it. There is no water, so I sit here and let my mind burn."
    Rozemarijn Rozemarijn
    18-21, F
    Feb 27
    Unintendedgirl Unintendedgirl
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 28

    The pain of break ups can take years to fully

    heal... So is proving for me. Don't you hate it when old flames walk into your life and rehash the past or stir up old feelings. And always at vulnerable times? I finally realise that making peace and friends with past loves is a long and careful process. And has take longer...
    Reba29 Reba29
    26-30, F
    Mar 23

    I am going through this now.

    It is too hard to talk about.
    ljoyceanderson ljoyceanderson
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Aug 12, 2015

    Hey... here's an heads up

    for next time ;) "Moving on after a breakup is not as hard a you think" https://loujann.wordpress.com/2016/03/24/moving-on-after-a-breakup-is-not-as-hard-as-you-think/ hope you like :)
    deleted deleted
    Mar 24

    My ex bf broke up with me

    for something reasonable but it was so painful. I didn't do anything wrong I just told him how I felt and he dumped me. I don't feel the same anymore but I will never get back together with him.
    Lou0409 Lou0409
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Feb 27

    I didnt really feel sad

    until now. My heart is like shattered to a trillion pieces. And i cant stop crying. I just need someone to pour my heart out and talk to please...
    ninjadentistinspace ninjadentistinspace
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Feb 26

    Finally got to the point

    where I no longer miss my ex for who he is. Although I still miss having some I cared about, someone to talk to about nothing in particular, someone to get cozy with in bed to watch films with, and someone to fall asleep next to.
    Loubylou32 Loubylou32
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 27

    For everyone who is going through a breakup,

    Yesterday I woke up and while I was doing a few things I smiled to myself because I didn't have that weird feeling on my chest anymore. I still remember how painful it was to wake up in the morning after having a horrible nightmare, how awful it was to remember that he wasn't...
    American19 American19
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Sep 28, 2015

    Today we bumped into each other unexpectedly

    after months of me fearing this moment. Well, what can I say, you saw that I was fine. I had been exercising, been taking care of myself, I'm healthy, I look good and I am happy. I am sorry to tell you this but you are not the same guy you used to be and physically, you are no...
    American19 American19
    22-25, F
    Mar 4

    I remember when my 1st boyfriend broke up with

    me coz I don't want to have sex with him. I don't have to do it just to prove that I am worthy of his love. And while we were us, he tried to flirt and date one of my close friends. He's a ******* *******. But that was 9 years ago. I've learned from one of our mutual friends...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Mar 10, 2015

    Wow this brings me way back.

    ..I was young, 14 or so. I had this beautiful blonde hair, blue eyed boyfriend, who was completely head over heals for me. Being the Bratty teen i was, I took it all for granted. I would "break up" with him constantly, and I know this shouldn't be a huge deal when you are so you...
    SecretAngel6 SecretAngel6
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 20, 2015

    We were two completely different people

    who happened to fall in love with one another. Although we had our similarities, our differences were too great. The timing wasn't right but I'm still grateful for all the moments I've shared with you, so from the bottom of my heart, I thank you. Thank you for making me feel...
    glassbonespaperskin glassbonespaperskin
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 28, 2015

    I was 8 his name was jimmy

    and he broke my little heart
    KittyCakeBooty KittyCakeBooty
    13-15, F
    Mar 8

    We dated for 3 years.

    This summer he told me he wanted a break and didn't had time for a relationship ..one month later I found out he was dating someone else .He is dating the girl that he's always told me "she's just a friend" ...they been dating since the day we broke up. I've been lied to,hurt...
    XoAle XoAle
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Sep 22, 2015
    alyssabay alyssabay
    16-17, F
    7 Responses Aug 11, 2014

    Everybody wants hapiness nobody wants pain

    but you can’t have a rainbow without a little rain.
    jyjyb jyjyb
    18-21, F
    Jun 29, 2015

    So I met this boy last year

    and he was really sweet. I liked him after a few weeks of knowing him. He liked me the first day he saw me. He went up to my close friend and told her to ask me if I like him and of course I did. A week later, he asked me out. It was my best friend who got us together. We had a...
    KatieCanBeYours18 KatieCanBeYours18
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Sep 12, 2014

    We started dating our junior year of highschool,

    met eachother in September started dating in January. We lost our virginity to each other and Honestly I can say he was my first love, I think about it now and I may have not been his even though he told me I was, but I know for a fact he was mine. He broke up with me in the...
    brianna1027 brianna1027
    18-21, F
    Jan 8

    Its really make me pain make me down make me

    hurt I can't imagine it anymore but ... Thats changed me :') I learn from it I learn more ... Every problem make me think about me , my life , my future . What should I do without him again ? Can I live without him? OFC I CAN DO THAT! And now I change it I change my mind I'm...
    Vey16 Vey16
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 6

    I lost my boyfriend yesterday.

    He told that he has never loved me. All our love was illusion. I think I can live without him. But I miss. I wanted to be a perfect girl for him. Unfortunately, it's necessary for him. It is very hard. He broke my life.. And heart
    Deprission Deprission
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 2

    When I was 14 I started to talk to this guy

    who was 17 at the time . I started to have strong feelings for him m eventually I fell in love with all of him. We never got to date I was his side chick I felt bad for his girlfriend but all I wanted was a piece of him even if it was for 1 hour . He was my everything, he was...
    tendieve tendieve
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 6

    "Doubt thou the stars are fire; Doubt thou

    the sun doth move; Doubt truth be a liar; But never doubt I love."
    Mischief8 Mischief8
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 14, 2015

    I was dating a guy in Switzerland we were

    together for around 10 months .. We had a 7 hour time difference and apparently I approved sleeping with other guys.. Which I did not do .. I'm still a Virgin .. We were talking late night and he confessed .. And I instantly lost it and ended the FaceTime call .. I felt betrayed...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 18
    chloeexx11 chloeexx11
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Aug 27, 2014

    i don't know what is love

    until i breakup...with her...i beed in so many relationship today I can count...she was not a sexy not so intelligent...like my other gf...but when i broke up with her...i silt remember her...not like other...i think that call a real love...
    nikhilgsharma nikhilgsharma
    22-25, M
    Jan 27

    They say "they always come back"

    but he never did. I think that shows me he never really cared about me, that he never loved me, that I wasn't as important as I thought. I had never cried because of a guy or an ex boyfriend until he came into my life. Six months have gone without him and I had to rebuild...
    American19 American19
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Dec 29, 2015

    I miss you, but I'm better off without you.

    Days, weeks, months have passed since the moment that you left and tears had been shed. I was truly madly in love with you but I'm so grateful because you left. I'm grateful because you didn't loved me, because of all the cruelty in your words and actions, because you left...
    American19 American19
    22-25, F
    Nov 3, 2015

    I Couldn'T Breathe.

    The summer before my sophomore year of high school, I started dating this guy named Jason. He was a grade above me, and we had known each other for quite awhile. Before Jason I had never really had a boyfriend. I was always to shy to talk to guys and having a boyfriend was never...
    tnp2013 tnp2013
    26-30, F
    13 Responses Mar 3, 2013
    American19 American19
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 4, 2015

    A failed engagement and miscarriage.

    I am now falling again. I never thought I'd want to see someone for more than a few times let alone see a future with. I like him a lot. A lot. I want this one to work. I usually take things so fast. He isn't doing that with me. We r going slow. I don't wanna admit it but since...
    justchasingdoes justchasingdoes
    18-21, F
    Jan 6

    It is not too good of a relationship,

    and I don't know why I stayed with him for two years. Now I think I finally have a great guy. I really like him :3
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 8

    My first ketchup bottle.

    . She was so beautiful, red and with a mysterious flavor.. I miss her so much.. My mom threw her out of the window because she didn't liked me "talking to a bottle of ketchup", but she wasn't just a bottle of ketchup.. She was Ketchilia, my first love.
    ketchuplover24 ketchuplover24
    26-30, M
    Aug 19, 2014

    I'm starting to fall again.

    I'm taking it slow. He is a marine.
    justchasingdoes justchasingdoes
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 6

    Sometimes breakups aren't meant

    for makeups, sometimes they are meant for wake-ups.
    heartless0000 heartless0000
    18-21, M
    Feb 23

    I am madly in love with my girlfriend

    but we have been in a long distance relationship for 6 months. I will go see her in 2 months and stay there for 2 months with her. Huge problem is she now is stopping to love me and is depressed and talk out about wanting to have sex with other people and travel to countries to...
    deleted deleted
    Jan 12

    I remember it like it was yesterday.

    I cried everyday until I got tired of crying. I didn't eat and all I wanted to do was sleep. I didn't leave home unless I absolutely had to. It was by far the worst experience ever. I thought I'd never be happy again. I thought my life was over. Then one morning I woke up and...
    msnettajay msnettajay
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2015

    She was the love of my life.

    I still love her. I want to date her again.
    Doctor124nick Doctor124nick
    13-15, M
    3 Responses May 30, 2015

    He ripped my heart apart ruined my self esteem

    and now two years later he wants me back... And I hate that I kinda want to
    peapot69 peapot69
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 3

    I remember it clearly,

    we started as friends and we became close friends over the years. We had feelings for each other and we became something more. One day she told me her feelings for me grow stronger with each passing day, and less than a week later she told me she wasn't in love with me anymore...
    DonRex DonRex
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Feb 2

    my girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me.

    she left me for my best friend who i introduced them to each other and within a week, they were going out behind my back. it was a painful struggle to recover but i did it with the help of a beautiful girl name emily. now, she just left me for another guy. am i really that easy...
    Crushmiexr Crushmiexr
    13-15, M
    Mar 27

    I was naive then. I cried my eyes out

    for days. The guy I was dating had another girlfriend who cashed him out all the time. He fell asleep in a movie we were watching and his phone wouldn't stop going off. I took down the number calling and called her later. What a douche he told me he went to work everyday but...
    MeChee MeChee
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Oct 13, 2014

    my first one was so painful I screamed outside

    when he left the voicemail. I cried and was terrified all day. this breakup is different. it's my second one. but I felt a closer bond with this one. he was my best friend and we have a ton in common. He's breaking up with me because of distance, because he doesn't think our...
    Maihowl Maihowl
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 15

    Something unexpected happened today!

    I ran into my ex boyfriend. As all the people who have read a few of the things I've posted in here, it was my first painful break up. It's been 8 months and it's the first time I see him after the break up. I was at a candy shop with a guy I've been seeing for a while and...
    American19 American19
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 4

    My bestfriend dated my recent Ex

    and i forgave her, but i will never forget
    wargoddess1 wargoddess1
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Aug 15, 2014

    Try only breakup! 10 months dating

    and his still didn't know if he liked girls. Instant friend zone Mr 😜
    teadiva teadiva
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 7

    I think I fixed your marriage It was broken .

    .. You had been tossed aside for over a year ... When we had our first date When you said wow As you walked up my steps You were so relieved that you were taller than me until I put on my heels I thought you were such a gentlemen to open the care door for me. We had such a...
    momacods momacods
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jul 2, 2015

    Next month is going to be one year

    since our break up. It has been a bumpy road and now a new guy is trying to enter in my life. I am not sure about what I should do, I am scared. I can't even remember what was like to have a boyfriend, I feel dry and, somewhat, out of love. I still miss you at times, I still...
    American19 American19
    22-25, F
    Apr 17

    A few years back, I'd met my first boyfriend.

    Let's call him Keith. We started out as friends, then he asked if I wanted to date him. Of course I said yes. We were dating for the longest time. December through April. I was the one who ended the relationship. I told him it just was old. That happens. He accepted it. Maybe a...
    eloisemaria eloisemaria
    18-21, F
    Apr 16
    rubylilyrose rubylilyrose
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Apr 4, 2015

    “One day you'll miss me like i missed you One

    day you'll cry for me like I cried for you and One day you'll love me and I won't love you”
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Apr 4, 2015

    Well, I found my ex was having sex with another

    girl, and I cried and cried and cried. But yet I stayed with him for whatever reason? & he did it again.. Not to mention this happened again with the next guy i dated.. I have an issue where I forgive people who don't deserve my forgiveness.. I couldn't breathe, my sister found...
    hungrybish hungrybish
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 16
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