I Resent My Husband

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    Can't Take Much More

    I really am getting close to my breaking point with my husband. He doesn't help me with anything around the house. He expects me to do all the housework, laundry, feed the animals, take the dog for a walk, keep the house spot less, cook, the list just goes on and on. while he...
    sadeyes7294 sadeyes7294
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Mar 18, 2011

    So after 9 years I've finally realized my

    problem. It's my husband. He is a narcissist and I just figured it out. It all makes sense now; why I am always wrong (even when I'm not), why I am always blamed, why I can't do anything right, why he calls me terrible names and tells me I'm a bad mom, constantly beating me down...
    unhappy26 unhappy26
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Dec 21, 2013

    I resent the way my husband expects me to act

    like other women . Like having another woman join us I think I was just raised not to do things like that and value marriage as a commitment between two people why would I want I invite another woman into our bed why should I have to degrade myself I really don't care what...
    Jackie85 Jackie85
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2014

    He Decieved Me

    I found out a year ago that my husband looks at gay **** on the internet.  To make things worse, he had a personal ad on one of the web sites.  He says he's not gay, just looking.  I can no longer trust him and I hate that he has embarassed me like this. 
    Calybaby Calybaby
    22-25, F
    14 Responses Jul 8, 2006

    I swear nothing I do is good enough.

    he is never happy. I told him I would stay at home when I had our daughter when HE suggested it. He wasn't happy about that. He asked me to go back to work. However, everytime I've gotten a job he stays on me all the time and won't let me do my job. He starts arguments when...
    motherraven motherraven
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 24, 2015

    ...when he asks me what's

    for dinner when I walk in from a late work day. he's been home an hour, kitchen is a mess, and he yells this from his computer......when he takes dog for walk, leaves poop bags in front lawn for all to see. ....when he let's garbage sit. when he's a **** to my brother. when he...
    amydextrous1 amydextrous1
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 11, 2015

    Why do I have to be alone in this?

    ? We've been together four years, married almost two, and I've gone from thinking his child like ways were cute to resenting him for not being able to care for himself. I hate his parents for sending him out into the world this way. I sometimes wish I'd never had his kids because...
    MrsElleBelle MrsElleBelle
    26-30, F
    3 Responses May 7, 2014

    Almost 20years marriage

    and all we can do is resent each other for the 20 years of hurts. We just argue about arguing. Help! How do we get off this roller coaster!!!!
    mhinmf15 mhinmf15
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 28, 2015

    went out of town for 3 days,

    (husband wont go with you because he doesn't like the town) dishes still in sink from before I left (I had to leave straight from work) nothing done, but helped a friend move. yet didn't help daughter or me carry our stuff in when we returned. Then asks me to take dog to...
    amydextrous1 amydextrous1
    46-50, F
    Apr 20, 2015

    My Wife Resents Me...

    So I see a lot of stories about men and women who resent their spouse for one reason or another. I am in the opposite side, and am the one who is resented. I want to figure out what I can possibly do to salvage my marriage, and am looking from advise from those of you that have...
    charlierose5012 charlierose5012
    36-40, M
    18 Responses May 2, 2011

    Unemployed Spouse

    My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and what a roller coaster it has been! Since our marriage he has been employed a total of 11 months while I have been busting my *** to make ends meet. I blame him for everything that is wrong in my life and often feel sorry...
    sweetpea28 sweetpea28
    26-30, F
    114 Responses Dec 12, 2009

    Financial Infidelity

    no one will ever know what he has done to me no one will ever know the lies he has told no one will ever know the secrets he held no one will ever know the money he stole no one will ever know the tears I have cried no one will ever know the nights I lie awake no one will ever...
    lvjuniebug lvjuniebug
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Mar 28, 2013

    I feel like everything goes his way,

    he has a career, friends, activities, and his family nearby. Plus a wife who does his laundry, grocery shops, does all the banking, takes care of him in bed, and puts on a happy face 90% of the times when she's miserable. He has gotten everything for the last 10 years. All I...
    Dreamfish Dreamfish
    2 Responses May 20, 2014

    Hello My husband is jobless

    for last 5 months , he is trying his best but I believe timing and luck also plays a very important role , looking for a job is a full time job and a daunting experience so there will be very little time left for house hold chores . It is annoying at times and very stressfull...
    dontblamehim dontblamehim
    46-50, F
    1 Response May 3, 2014

    Is Resent a Strong Enough Word!?!?!

    I have known my husband since 98. I was a divorced mom with 3 kids who had just started working as a nurse 2 months prior. He was like my knight in shining armour. We talked on the phone for hours in the beginning. He said he loved me first. He accepted not only me but my kids as...
    strawberry1969 strawberry1969
    36-40, F
    16 Responses Oct 2, 2007

    My husband and I just "celebrated" 11 years of

    marriage & we have a beautiful daughter that is about to turn 5. We always agreed that when we had kids he would stay home & I would work (I have a degree), he was the best doting father a girl could ask for and a good husband, but the past 2 years, especially the last I can't...
    sunshine1879 sunshine1879
    36-40, F
    1 Response Aug 16, 2015

    Oh my gosh my husband may be coming back next

    week. My plan of action - if violence - reporting to the police. It could be fine then maybe lovely but could be very messy.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 21, 2015

    omg I don't even know

    where to start, I have so much resentment for my husband that the sight of him makes me angry. when I met my husband and he had no where to stay even when his family had turned their backs on him, I tried to help we ended up being homeless because he got me fired from my job, I...
    nightwanderer86 nightwanderer86
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 2, 2016

    My husband said he doesn't see us having a

    future any more. he says I've changed the last couple of years. in the last couple of years. we emmigrated whilst pregnant after two years of fertility treatment, redundancy and losing our home. I had severe post natal depression. we had a miscarriage, then another baby. severe...
    amberwestend amberwestend
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 14, 2014

    Resent Isn't the Word

    My husband has lied to me about smoking pot. He let my little brother who is 14 smoke pot and lied to me about it. Our marriage is ending and I'm heartbroken, but at the same time I wish the divorce was already over, I hate him. But I can't help but love the man who I've been...
    dreamofme dreamofme
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jan 10, 2007

    Today my husband has said the same statement

    that breaks my heart. It literally causes me to feel so much resentment towards him, and wish I was not married to him. He has been pretending to work overtime in order to go to a bar. He has been lying to me about it. the thing is I found out a few weeks ago he was doing...
    queenbeeber5 queenbeeber5
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Jan 22, 2016

    all I've ever asked for in this marriage is a

    day to myself in my house once in a while. I get more done in a few short hours than a week with everyone here. tomorrow is no work or school, found a play date for sd. other kid does have school. husband tells me he took day off. I swear it's a conspiracy. I am not allowed a...
    amydextrous1 amydextrous1
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 23, 2015

    My spouse has been unemployed

    for 6 months now. We have been married for just a year and together for 2. we have a blended family also to worry about. I support a family of 9 including myself and I have resulted in giving him an ultimatium to get a job or leave. I have 4 biological children to support, let...
    italianjellybean italianjellybean
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jul 13, 2015

    My husband just told me

    that I could never find someone that would put up with all my ****! ... I get up, bring my child to school go to straight to work. Work 8-10 hours, come home visit with the family. Go to sleep and it starts all over. Okay I may say good and bad things through out the day but it...
    rjh3 rjh3
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 27, 2014

    I'm so confused and desperate mother of 4.

    My husband thinks he controls everything in my life like he is my god or something I hate him so much he won't buy a car for me and the kids but he has 3 trucks supposedly he needs them for work. I'll ask for money he doesn't have any he doesn't pay our bills so we get shut off...
    Lindalilly Lindalilly
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jul 16, 2014

    My Marriage Broke Down When My Stepson Came To Live With Us....

    I married 4 years ago, I have 4 children from previous relationship, none with my husband, he moved into my home 18 months before we married, he has son from previous marriage.. When we met and got married, his son who is now 8, lived with his mother and stayed with us every...
    Charlielou Charlielou
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jun 19, 2013

    My husband is so childish!

    !! I'm trying to grow my business which right now makes about 10k a month. I work a lot and he helps me with it. However his true passion is selling his own toys toys since he likes all that vintage crap toys from when he was a child. All his passion is in that hobby while I...
    laceboss laceboss
    31-35, F
    Feb 6, 2016

    He Is Just So Lame.

    To hear all of my husband's complaints, you'd think he's about 90 years old.  He is only 37 but everyday he seems to have some new ailment.  He has had problems with addiction which we have dealt with/are still dealing with.  I have been very supportive. ...
    jackieblue jackieblue
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Jan 21, 2008

    My husband cheated 11 years ago.

    We were part of a new church plant. We became friends with another couple. She was always touching him, he was always looking at her admiringly. Lighting up when she entered the room. We spent the summer fighting about what I feared-- that he was falling for her. I never...
    mamsedso mamsedso
    Dec 21, 2015

    How Do I Stop Being So Angry?

    I feel like I have to fill you all in...  I have been married for 17 years and have two WONDERFUL children!  I also have a husband who is ....., he is now unemployed for the 5th time in our marriage. To make matters worse, way back when we were engaged he took a job interview...
    Eddysgirl Eddysgirl
    6 Responses Jun 4, 2012

    I Care About Him And Don't Want Him To Hurt

    I regret saying in an earlier story, joking about how he's "up for grabs - any takers?" I know that sounds awful and I don't really wish to hurt him. I don't wish to make him out to be so awful that no one would want him. Truth be told, if he didn't have a lot of wonderful...
    lisa36 lisa36
    36-40, F
    11 Responses Dec 7, 2010

    I have been married to my husband

    for four years. We have one child together. My husband Is constantly looking in the mirror. He goes to the gym daily and takes steroids to enhance his mussels. Before we leave the house it takes him 45 minutes to do his hair. He does not have long hair......maybe two or three...
    shannon3333 shannon3333
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 11, 2015

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    dalidacc11 dalidacc11
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 21, 2015

    My husband doesn't care

    whether I'm coming or going. Isn't interested in anything I say. If I'm happy, he squashes my joy. If I'm sad tells me not to complain. I'm married but very alone. Just needed to get that off my chest. Thanks for listening.
    lovenlearn lovenlearn
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Oct 8, 2014

    Its been really hard on me,

    the whole issue of having to stay with a guy for the rest of my life and knowing the fact that we are complete strangers. And above all we both are not in love. Love is the medium that drives a marriage and when it is not there or is there in a vague sense then life surely...
    sj1986 sj1986
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 15, 2014

    Yes I resent what your alcoholism has done to

    our family. I hope you feel like **** ten times longer than the 19 years I've wasted and invested on your sorry ***
    deejustdee6969 deejustdee6969
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jul 14, 2015

    Currently in a domestic partnership with a man

    and his bazillion kids. Not only cannot I not stand the look of him, but I really don't like his kids anymore either. He lies to me constantly and is a financial leech. I plan on being out of this relationship before summer. Life is too short.
    wrightlover wrightlover
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 21, 2014

    Mistakes Made, Time Has Changed...Im So Confused

    To start off i married my husband with only a couple months spent getting to know him. I was 17, a mother in result of rape. i was homeless due to my abuse my mother provided and it was my ticket. He was unbeleivably good looking, in the military and thought i was a goddess.. He...
    forgottentroop forgottentroop
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Apr 4, 2013

    I Have Been married for one year

    and I feel like I don't love my husband anymore it's constant arguments not one decent conversation can be held between us. He is always making digs always finding something to make a point about I'm sick and tired of listening to same crap can't cope Anything I do or say never...
    Nelly1212 Nelly1212
    6 Responses Jan 14, 2014

    Uggh I'm so overwhelmed

    and frustrated ! I'm taking care of my toddler and a 5 month old baby all alone because my husband is drunk laying on the couch every single day !!! He comes home and throws his clothes and shoes with socks all over the floor after i spent the day trying to clean . He won't...
    instantmom83 instantmom83
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 5, 2015

    When Envy Turns To Resentment . . .

    I am having a difficult time in my marriage. I feel very alone. Too much is asked of me. I don't know what to do. Whenever my husband and I argue, we end at an impass. The situation is resolved because I cave in. I just want the arguing and pain to stop. He wanted to have more...
    bioma bioma
    5 Responses May 1, 2011

    He shoots down my ideas.

    Tries making me feel guilty. Has a short temper. Says unfair and mean things. Is absolutely ridiculous. He's a jerk. An *******. And very controlling.
    2apples4me 2apples4me
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 9, 2016

    We have been together

    for 5 years, married for 2. I fell hard in love with him, he said he did too-I moved out west to be closer to him and have worked hard to rebuild my career, make friends and start our life together. It feels like I am the only one that cares, even though he says he does. I am...
    Lrockclimb Lrockclimb
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Nov 22, 2014

    I do most days but that's about to change I got

    my eyes opened tonight. my attitude change starts now.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 5, 2015

    He borrows money from his retired mother.

    He's almost 40. He's more dedicated to working for others than he is to our business. He's decided he wants to have children, despite our ages, and a shaky employment history that means he could never support another hungry mouth. It's been a year since intimacy with him...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 14, 2015

    I lived far too long hoping

    for changing. Hoping he would stop lying. Hoping he would be respectful. Hoping he would acknowledge that I was a person and not just a thing that bore the titles "wife" and "mother". He would show me glimmers if hope. Just enough to keep me around. Hoping for that change that...
    carpediem2 carpediem2
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Apr 22, 2014

    Constant Fighting-he Say's I'm to Blame

    Oh my..things have not been good lately.  I know the first year of marriage is supposed to be hard, but this is taking it to a whole new level.  My husband and I met and dated for a year before tying the knot.  When we were dating he was nice, and respectful and we...
    mostsexysmile mostsexysmile
    9 Responses Sep 6, 2008

    7 years 4 children (5

    if you include him) and I feel anger, frustration and resentment he has put me through so much torment. And yet I still stand here before him as his wife encouraging him, nurturing him, guiding him, supporting him. He demands all my time and attention. He's insecure, immature...
    sars19 sars19
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 25, 2014

    Tired Of Lazy Husband

    I've been married almost ten years. The longer I'm with my husband, the less I respect him and the more I resent him. Part of me feels like I should be thrilled to be with him...he loves me, treats me well, has a good job, doesn't drink or cheat on me. However, I feel nothing...
    apachesmom apachesmom
    17 Responses Feb 19, 2012
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