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I Resent My Mother

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    With out you in my life I imagined I would have

    nothing. No love, no heart, no soul. Without you in my life I have more than I did before. A burning hate, a broken heart and a shattered dream of what we could be. But having pieces is better than having nothing. Now I can grow and I can learn from our mistakes. So you keep...
    monster4life monster4life 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 19

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    I Resent Her With Every Single Heartbeat

    My father consistently cheated on my mother. I was privy to his philandering. He made me a conspirator. My mother didn't believe me until recently when I presented her with irrefutable evidence. And still she won't leave him. I resent her with every single heartbeat for being...
    SimpleCityDress SimpleCityDress 21-25, F 4 Responses Mar 15, 2008

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    My Mom's Ego Is Bigger Than Your Mom's

    My elderly mother loves her offspring to pieces, loves to brag about us, is fully independent, and doesn't meddle in our lives, so resenting her is really shameful.  I suppose I love her, because I want the best for her.  I just wish I liked her. My problem is that she...
    CurbAppeal CurbAppeal 46-50, F 5 Responses May 10, 2009

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    My Mom Is An Attention Seeking Druggie

    for the last 5 years or so my mother has gone to the Drs for one thing or another weather it be for pain anxiety depression and a whole list of other problems she goes and says just what they need to hear so they will give her more meds she is currently on at least 15 different...
    dadysprinces1994 dadysprinces1994 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    Just Discovered At Age 30 That I Am Super Resentful Of Mom...

    My mom has breast cancer (which is far more serious than it should be because she walked around with a lump for a year before getting it checked out) I just realized that I am super duper resentful of her! What kind of person walks around with a huge lump for a year before...
    brewcitychica brewcitychica 26-30 Apr 23, 2012

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    Why don't you help me?

    You saw me self harm. You saw me admit to being depressed more than two times. You heard me tell you how I'd kill myself. Why don't you do something? You said I'd better let it go because I'm never committing suicide. Surprise mom, yes I am. (How much of a surprise can it be? I...
    mysteryhatcat mysteryhatcat 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2013

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    I'll Never Stop Resenting Her

    I can't ever remember a time when my mother wasn't yelling about something or other and if she wasn't yelling about something she was either yelling at me or my dad. The only one who was never really yelled at was my sister even though she is the cause of most of my mothers...
    Klong91 Klong91 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 22, 2010

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    Family Secrects

    I RESENT MY MOTHER FOR NOT PROTECTING FROM ABUSE I RECEIVED, EVEN THOUGH I NEVER TOLD ANYONE, WHY WOULDN'T SHE PROTECT ONLY GIRL IN FAMILY. SHE MADE ME FEEL TERRIBLE WHEN I HAD A CHILD @ 14 YEARS OF AGE, AND JUST ME FEEL LIKE A FAILURE. SO MANY TIMES I FELT LIKE SCARED AND LONELY...
    MY911 MY911 41-45 1 Response Oct 15, 2012

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    She Thinks All People Have Bad Intentions.

    I dearly appreciate anyone who reads this whole thing. I need to get this out. When I was 13, I was going through a rough time, due to being teased, and I told my mom once, “I think I’m going to kill myself.” “You’re just trying to get attention!” she yelled, as she...
    Chrissy19119 Chrissy19119 26-30, F 7 Responses Mar 24, 2011

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    Maybe Unfairly

    Ever since my older sister was a teen my mother has always given her money even when my sister got a job as a dentist assistant when she was 18 despite the fact she never graduated from high school. Ever since then it's gotten worse except now my mom pays for my sister's cell...
    Klong91 Klong91 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 28, 2011

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    Mom, or rather Mary, hurts me.

    She always thought I had a bad memory and all I thought about was video games. Well GEEEEEE got no friends to hang with and all I have are video games to entertain myself with since toys never captured my interest for any longer than a minute. Well GEEEEEE you keep sayin that to...
    ZeroStealth117 ZeroStealth117 18-21 1 Response Feb 5

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    Overcoming Resentment

    It is not an easy task to overcome a deeply embedded resentment that has gone on far too long.  But I know what I have to do.  Waiting for my mother to change is a mistake because that will never happen.  She is who she is and I need to respect that and learn to...
    LovingLeila LovingLeila 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    My parents aren't the best at all either.

    My dad called me a piece of shi... And my mom told me I'm useless and I do nothing for her. Which is a lie. They called me a whole bunch of words. Forgiveness is one of the ways to become happier. Everyone sins and holding a grudge against someone for doing wrong to you is...
    sashakimi4 sashakimi4 13-15, F Jul 2

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    Selfish Me

    I just found out my mother has Cancer at the age of 49. My mother and I never did have a very good relationship. WE were always polite and nice to each other but that's because we never really had to deal with each other on an every day basis. She left me and my father when I was...
    wingedwhisper72 wingedwhisper72 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 29, 2007

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    My Experience With My Mother/introduction ^^).

    Hey   I came across this group and i thought wow these are my people xD. Okay well i wanted to share my story cause like all of you I as well resent my mother. Hard to put it so simply but I'm just realizing how much she just doesn't want to deal with me. Through my teen...
    ThingsChange87 ThingsChange87 22-25 Sep 3, 2009

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    Am I Treated Differently Because I'M Adopted?

    I am wondering if I am treated differently because I am adopted. The woman who is my adopted mother is bitter about the way her life turned out because her husband was an alcoholic. I supported her through that time. Her sister was jealous of adoptive mother and me before she...
    Petathome2 Petathome2 46-50 Apr 21, 2013

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    Love And Resentment

    I love my mother, but I resent her for my childhood. For not doing anything to help me when she should have known I needed it. I had such a hard time doing things that came so easily to other children and she didn't seem to think anything of it. Other than that it made her look...
    lyricalongings lyricalongings 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    I Can't Seem To Get It Right

    I am 54 years old and still can't figure out how to please my mom. I know that she was only 17 when she married my dad. He was 20. She and my dad were married June 30th and by March 17th my older brother was born. My dad was an alcoholic for about years and my mom's life...
    ForgivMe ForgivMe 51-55 Aug 6, 2013

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    What Was She Thinking

    You would think she would have been more involved with her own children the children she was so desperate to conceive. I just do not get it. I hate she held this family secret and having my sister believe that she was unloved because she was about to send her away..she should...
    GlitzNGlam83 GlitzNGlam83 26-30 Nov 14, 2011

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    I resent My mother. My parent Divorced

    when I was 10 yrs old. Me & My twin lived separatedly from our other two younger siblings as a result of their separation. We were brought up by two different guardians and only now after we have our own families that we shared special (4girls) bondage and sisterly loved for...
    uulalaa uulalaa 41-45, F 4 days ago

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    An Unloving Mother

    I often google such terms as "world's best mother" and "loving mom." It has almost become a habit of mine:  turn on the laptop, open Internet Explorer, type in the usual queries . . . and have a box of tissues handy. I think that I do this in vain...
    agentx505 agentx505 13-15, M 3 Responses Apr 26, 2009

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    Love Her But I Shouldn't Love Her More Than Myself

    I do truly love my mother but recently I see that she manipulates me or maybe I'm just accepting it now. I have been taking care of her for years. She has come to depend on me in her old age but I'm getting older too and can't do what I did before. I've been a "shield" for her...
    christyw1 christyw1 46-50, F Oct 2, 2013

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    I Resent My Mother...

    I resent my mother for always relying on me for everything. I resent my mother for always letting my sister and her issues come between us. I resent my mother for always letting my sister dupe her (and then the dupe trickles down to me). I resent my mother for not holding my...
    vivaciousvivi vivaciousvivi 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 22, 2011

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    I Think About Her All the Time

    My mother wasn't particularly 'bad'. I have read terrible stories here, mothers allowing abuse, etc. This is not my case. My mother has not really been a mother to me. I can't remember her ever encouraging me, congratulating me, or helping me, or anything like that. If anything...
    quisoc quisoc 36-40 4 Responses Dec 8, 2008

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    I Love Her, But...

    First thing first. I love her, and most of the time, she loves me. But, my mother is a *****. Ask anyone, ask her! she'll agree. She is moody, cruel, argumentative. On a good day she is passionate, hilarious, supportive... the coolest mum. But on a bad day, everyone ducks for...
    DelilahIsDead DelilahIsDead 18-21, F Jan 29, 2009

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    Double

    It's bad enough that she put me up for adoption at 6 mos old, took me back at age 5.  Now, after 10 years + with Alzheimer,  she died so we never can talk about the pain.
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 8 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    Wish I Could Just Stop Thinking About It

    When I read some stories about abusive mothers, I feel like I have no reason to complain about mine.  I always knew that my mother loved me, and when we got along, we got along wonderfully.  Often, she was very affectionate and seemed to admire me. ...
    mischa73 mischa73 26-30 1 Response Aug 6, 2009

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    nothing i do is right.

    I'm being forced to go to a college near her. she doesn't give a rats *** about how i feel about it either. i suggested that i transfer and she flipped ****. I've already made arrangements to move to Texas and transfer schools. I haven't told her because she doesn't want me to...
    JuBear424 JuBear424 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    A Psychotic, A Tyrant, And A Bully All Rolled Into One

    This is VERY lengthy, so please bear with me here. My Mother, simply put, is the meanest, angriest, most unpleasant person I know. She is a psychotic, a tyrant, and a bully all rolled into one. My parents split up when I was around 5-6 years old. I'm not exactly sure of the year...
    wishiwasabrady wishiwasabrady 41-45, M 1 Response May 22, 2013

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    Making Our Own Family Connections

    I grew up thinking that I wasn't good enough or worthy of a good family or true friends. I was alone, lonely, and self hatred had gotten to me. I need to be nurtured, cared for and listen too. I just never wanted to be accepting of that when I was young and in to my later teen...
    Hugsdirector Hugsdirector 36-40, F Nov 4, 2013

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    Ever since it became clear

    that my brother was going to excel in school it has been hard for me. I did well at school but never as good as my brother (I have always been proud of his achievements and I love my brother dearly). However, I never went to uni, I never felt like it was the right path for me...
    AndyEW AndyEW 26-30, M Mar 19

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    My mother never taught me coping skills

    for life. She was a drunk, abusive negligent parent and now that I'm a mother and wife I have no skills to fall back on. I have to fight my instinct to do what she had taught me and I hate her everyday for it. I hate that she takes no personal responsibility for anything and...
    paramedic2 paramedic2 22-25, F Mar 19

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    Childhood Nightmares

    I had fights with my mom just like other teenagers; now that I'm older we don't argue or anything, and we love each other. However, I still resent her for the way she acted when we were younger, because she would get too upset with my siblings and I for whatever reason that's...
    dontwannausername dontwannausername 18-21 May 12, 2013

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    I Can't Make My Mom Happy.

    Whatever I do or say I can't see to make my mom happy. I've an older sister, she's gets bitter or gets in a bad mood because she hasn't had a man in more than 3 years. I don't see how's the my fault, like every time I tell my mom something good that has happen to me she...
    tinkerbell202 tinkerbell202 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    Should Have Stopped At 1 Mom

    I resent my mother and the main reason is becaus of my siblings. i was an only child for the first 10 years of my life i loved it me and my mom against the world then she had my sister two years after that she had my brother and one year afterthat she divorced my stepdad. so now...
    Tall7love Tall7love 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    I'm in my late 20's this story is hard

    for me to admit but I cant help to feel I need to express my feelings after holding them in. My mother first is a good person. I don't hate her. I have strong resentment towards her. My reason are based off of what she has done. My older brother in life was and still is...
    EMystery EMystery 26-30, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    So Deeply Annoyed And Resentful Of My Mother And Stepfather Right Now.......

    I have so much anxiety that has built in me for the last week over this. I wish I could just say these things to my mother, but if I did, she would most likely just cry and say "Well I guess I am a bad mother..." get defensive, and it would go nowhere. A little backstory for...
    frasiersmom frasiersmom 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 16, 2010

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    I look a lot like my mom.

    Seriously. I do. And I hate it. She isn't bad looking but I just hate the fact that I look like her and she is a terrible person (she's conniving, manipulative, rude and she's divorcing my really kind dad. He used to be depressed about it but now he just wants her to leave and...
    AConflictedCiara AConflictedCiara 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 13

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    I Resent My Mother.

    From the time I was young until up about a year ago, I hated my mother. i hated her with every ounce of my being, and sometimes even felt that i just didn't care what happened to her or if she was even in my life at all. It got so bad that i even wanted her to die, to be out of...
    mbel001 mbel001 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 15, 2010

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    I Wish I Could Stop Resenting My Mother...

    I am a 20 year old woman in college and I only see my mother when I come home for a break (for example, I am home now for Christmas break) and it is pretty much torture.  I feel such strong resentment for her because I disagree with and, frankly, loathe her values...
    LovingLeila LovingLeila 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 31, 2009

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    Seen And Not Heard

    Where to begin.... My Mother married my Father in 1969. He was her 4th husband. She had 2 children from a previous marriage. Their marriage ended when I was 3. It was a traumatic event! My Father committed a horrific crime, abusing my half sister. My Mother shot him and left him...
    myopn myopn 41-45 1 Response Oct 9, 2012

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    Should Have Kept Your Legs Closed!!!

    Everyone knows my story about my mother. (If not I encourage you to go read it.) My mother got pregnant with me when she was 22 years old. My dad wanted to be apart of my life, but she ended things with him. Basically told him to stay away from her and me and never permitted him...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 19 Responses Jan 25, 2012

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    Will I Ever Be Able To Forgive Her?

    I'm in my late 30s with grown and younger children. I believe that a lot of the way I am a lot like my mother and I hate it. My mother was extremely abusive mentally and physically. I learned that she was sexually abused as a toddler so I can understand why she was a raging...
    katcha64 katcha64 36-40 1 Response Oct 1, 2012

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    Lies Lies And More Lies

    Well where do I begin? My parents recently separated they were never legally married but had been together for about 28 years. My father was verbally abusive towards my mother as well as my mother was towards my father. I agree the relationship wasn't healthy and its good they...
    nrod1988 nrod1988 22-25 2 Responses May 20, 2013

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    She Was Great

    I resent my mother. She wasn't all that bad when I was a kid. A younger kid haha. Once I turned 6 and my father became disabled she started being pretty horrible. I remember waking up to my mother yelling at me and foaming at the mouth. I would cry so hard. By the time I was nine...
    Meowmeowmeows Meowmeowmeows 16-17 1 Response Feb 26, 2013

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    I Resent My Mother!

    I am 34 and resent my 71-year-old mother to the nth degree!  First of all, I resent her and my dad for having had kids late in life and being the product of old fogies.  While my dad's ok, my mother is an old-fashioned Christian Catholic conservative with...
    KayLeah KayLeah 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 23, 2009

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    I'm So Tired Of Fighting, But So Scared To Loose!

    I have written my story about my mother and her abuse, now it’s about the custody battle! I am 16 years old and I am 14 weeks pregnant and under a lot of stress and my mom’s not helping! I have not physically talked to my mom over a year except once last month over the phone...
    ciscokidd511 ciscokidd511 16-17, F Sep 26, 2013

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    For So Many Reasons....

    Things a child should never experience...I think the biggest thing was her whole attitude towards my grandma (my fathers mother)She would talk so much crap about her and make her out to be a witchI think she was just jealous.My grandmother passed away when I was only 16 and I...
    sweetsie sweetsie 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 14, 2012

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    I Have Resented My Mother For Years.....

    Ever since I can remember I have resented my mother. But it actually wasn't until I was a young teenager that our daughter/mother relationship began getting worse. There were two occasions where my mother had attacked me physically. When I was 17 I began dating a boy my mother...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 4 Responses Sep 30, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Since about age 13, I've dealt with severely psychotic episodes and manic outbreaks from my mother. At first I thought that it was just unhappiness which stemmed from her becoming...
    hawksnester hawksnester 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Something I have just realised and on my way to accepting these facts. My parents split when I was 2. I stayed with my Father as my Mother was in no state to care for me. Receiving...
    TommieLee TommieLee 22-25 a week ago

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    I am 20 years old and my mother has been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember. She has a spilt personality when she's been drinking, she's very angry, aggressive and selfish...
    Bethy94 Bethy94 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    I was always a weird kid.. was probably difficult to handle.. although the way I have always seen myself, I always try to be a good person and I used to follow the rules to the...
    twiztedrune twiztedrune 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 14