I Resent My Mother

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 275 People

    Love And Resentment

    I love my mother, but I resent her for my childhood. For not doing anything to help me when she should have known I needed it. I had such a hard time doing things that came so easily to other children and she didn't seem to think anything of it. Other than that it made her look...
    lyricalongings lyricalongings
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 7, 2013

    Family Secrects

    I RESENT MY MOTHER FOR NOT PROTECTING FROM ABUSE I RECEIVED, EVEN THOUGH I NEVER TOLD ANYONE, WHY WOULDN'T SHE PROTECT ONLY GIRL IN FAMILY. SHE MADE ME FEEL TERRIBLE WHEN I HAD A CHILD @ 14 YEARS OF AGE, AND JUST ME FEEL LIKE A FAILURE. SO MANY TIMES I FELT LIKE SCARED AND LONELY...
    MY911 MY911
    41-45
    1 Response Oct 15, 2012

    I could write a book of all the things my

    mother has said and done to me and others that I have now realized are just plain wrong. Instead I will try to keep this short and sweet. The first memory I have of my mothers abuse was in 5th grade. We were driving in the car and she says "Do you know you're the fattest person...
    trixie54 trixie54
    22-25
    Jun 14, 2014

    Seen And Not Heard

    Where to begin.... My Mother married my Father in 1969. He was her 4th husband. She had 2 children from a previous marriage. Their marriage ended when I was 3. It was a traumatic event! My Father committed a horrific crime, abusing my half sister. My Mother shot him and left him...
    myopn myopn
    41-45
    1 Response Oct 9, 2012

    Mom, or rather Mary, hurts me.

    She always thought I had a bad memory and all I thought about was video games. Well GEEEEEE got no friends to hang with and all I have are video games to entertain myself with since toys never captured my interest for any longer than a minute. Well GEEEEEE you keep sayin that to...
    ZeroStealth117 ZeroStealth117
    22-25
    1 Response Feb 5, 2014

    I Resent My Mother!

    I am 34 and resent my 71-year-old mother to the nth degree!  First of all, I resent her and my dad for having had kids late in life and being the product of old fogies.  While my dad's ok, my mother is an old-fashioned Christian Catholic conservative with...
    KayLeah KayLeah
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Nov 23, 2009

    My mother never taught me coping skills

    for life. She was a drunk, abusive negligent parent and now that I'm a mother and wife I have no skills to fall back on. I have to fight my instinct to do what she had taught me and I hate her everyday for it. I hate that she takes no personal responsibility for anything and...
    paramedic2 paramedic2
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 19, 2014

    My mother had sex with a stranger.

    She and my dad separated a while ago, and I was okay with that, but I'm not okay with this. I'm so disappointed in her, and I resent her enormously.
    Libbitron Libbitron
    13-15, F
    1 Response May 24, 2015

    I Can't Make My Mom Happy.

    Whatever I do or say I can't see to make my mom happy. I've an older sister, she's gets bitter or gets in a bad mood because she hasn't had a man in more than 3 years. I don't see how's the my fault, like every time I tell my mom something good that has happen to me she...
    tinkerbell202 tinkerbell202
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2013

    My mother abandoned me at 13.

    Kicked me out then sent me to another province alone , on a train. She never took me back even though she said it was just for a few months. All of my childhood belongings have been trashed as i left with just one suitcase . She is a severe alcoholic and has been so mean to me...
    Twinkletoes83 Twinkletoes83
    31-35, F
    May 25, 2015

    Am I Treated Differently Because I'M Adopted?

    I am wondering if I am treated differently because I am adopted. The woman who is my adopted mother is bitter about the way her life turned out because her husband was an alcoholic. I supported her through that time. Her sister was jealous of adoptive mother and me before she...
    Petathome2 Petathome2
    51-55
    Apr 21, 2013

    I hate her for every mean word she ever said to

    me. Calling me a b**** and putting me down as a child. Telling me that my dad didnt give a s*** about me. I hate that she would and still does put her husband (not my dad) before me. She couldn't even be interested enough and providing me with a better education with a private...
    FutureVet2014 FutureVet2014
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 5, 2015

    I look a lot like my mom.

    Seriously. I do. And I hate it. She isn't bad looking but I just hate the fact that I look like her and she is a terrible person (she's conniving, manipulative, rude and she's divorcing my really kind dad. He used to be depressed about it but now he just wants her to leave and...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2014

    With out you in my life I imagined I would have

    nothing. No love, no heart, no soul. Without you in my life I have more than I did before. A burning hate, a broken heart and a shattered dream of what we could be. But having pieces is better than having nothing. Now I can grow and I can learn from our mistakes. So you keep...
    monster4life monster4life
    13-15, F
    1 Response Apr 19, 2014

    I Resent Her With Every Single Heartbeat

    My father consistently cheated on my mother. I was privy to his philandering. He made me a conspirator. My mother didn't believe me until recently when I presented her with irrefutable evidence. And still she won't leave him. I resent her with every single heartbeat for being...
    SimpleCityDress SimpleCityDress
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 15, 2008

    I'm So Tired Of Fighting, But So Scared To Loose!

    I have written my story about my mother and her abuse, now it’s about the custody battle! I am 16 years old and I am 14 weeks pregnant and under a lot of stress and my mom’s not helping! I have not physically talked to my mom over a year except once last month over the phone...
    ciscokidd511 ciscokidd511
    16-17, F
    Sep 26, 2013

    Childhood Nightmares

    I had fights with my mom just like other teenagers; now that I'm older we don't argue or anything, and we love each other. However, I still resent her for the way she acted when we were younger, because she would get too upset with my siblings and I for whatever reason that's...
    dontwannausername dontwannausername
    18-21
    May 12, 2013

    My parents aren't the best at all either.

    My dad called me a piece of shi... And my mom told me I'm useless and I do nothing for her. Which is a lie. They called me a whole bunch of words. Forgiveness is one of the ways to become happier. Everyone sins and holding a grudge against someone for doing wrong to you is...
    sashakimi4 sashakimi4
    16-17, F
    Jul 2, 2014

    my mom has this friend,

    I guess they're dating or whatever, I don't really wanna think about it but he's been around for a while, he's a nice guy and everything but I used to hate him because I used to think he took my mom away from me but then I realized that it wasn't him, it was her. and that's when...
    youcantbeserious youcantbeserious
    18-21, F
    Jan 1, 2015

    She always beat on me,

    stole from me, and blamed me for things I didn't do. Even as an adult, she tried to manipulate me all the time. I finally just stopped talking to her. For a while, she kept trying to contact me and kept telling me she forgives me. That made it that much easier to ignore her...
    karlmartink karlmartink
    36-40, M
    May 25, 2015

    Wish I Could Just Stop Thinking About It

    When I read some stories about abusive mothers, I feel like I have no reason to complain about mine.  I always knew that my mother loved me, and when we got along, we got along wonderfully.  Often, she was very affectionate and seemed to admire me. ...
    mischa73 mischa73
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 6, 2009

    Love Her But I Shouldn't Love Her More Than Myself

    I do truly love my mother but recently I see that she manipulates me or maybe I'm just accepting it now. I have been taking care of her for years. She has come to depend on me in her old age but I'm getting older too and can't do what I did before. I've been a "shield" for her...
    christyw1 christyw1
    51-55, F
    Oct 2, 2013

    I Have Resented My Mother For Years.....

    Ever since I can remember I have resented my mother. But it actually wasn't until I was a young teenager that our daughter/mother relationship began getting worse. There were two occasions where my mother had attacked me physically. When I was 17 I began dating a boy my mother...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Sep 30, 2010

    This is a particularly trying time

    for me, and my mom has left my side for a few months and there are still a few more months to go before she comes back next year. I can't help but resent my mom for it, especially when she was supposed to come back earlier but her coming back late is because of a 'careless...
    Tomtarin Tomtarin
    22-25
    Nov 10, 2014

    I resent My mother. My parent Divorced

    when I was 10 yrs old. Me & My twin lived separatedly from our other two younger siblings as a result of their separation. We were brought up by two different guardians and only now after we have our own families that we shared special (4girls) bondage and sisterly loved for...
    uulalaa uulalaa
    41-45, F
    Aug 17, 2014

    Should Have Kept Your Legs Closed!!!

    Everyone knows my story about my mother. (If not I encourage you to go read it.) My mother got pregnant with me when she was 22 years old. My dad wanted to be apart of my life, but she ended things with him. Basically told him to stay away from her and me and never permitted him...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987
    26-30, F
    19 Responses Jan 25, 2012

    I absolutely resent you,

    why.. why cant we have a normal household, where you wont have a hard time decided between your children or husband. why cant you open your eue to all the bullshit he put us through and youre gonna sit there and allow the mental abuse he can dish? What have you taught me in...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    May 27, 2015

    I Resent My Mother...

    I resent my mother for always relying on me for everything. I resent my mother for always letting my sister and her issues come between us. I resent my mother for always letting my sister dupe her (and then the dupe trickles down to me). I resent my mother for not holding my...
    vivaciousvivi vivaciousvivi
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 22, 2011

    Maybe Unfairly

    Ever since my older sister was a teen my mother has always given her money even when my sister got a job as a dentist assistant when she was 18 despite the fact she never graduated from high school. Ever since then it's gotten worse except now my mom pays for my sister's cell...
    Klong91 Klong91
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 28, 2011

    Why don't you help me?

    You saw me self harm. You saw me admit to being depressed more than two times. You heard me tell you how I'd kill myself. Why don't you do something? You said I'd better let it go because I'm never committing suicide. Surprise mom, yes I am. (How much of a surprise can it be? I...
    mysteryhatcat mysteryhatcat
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 12, 2013

    I have had a few pets

    since I've been living on my own. They have both been through some really tough times and I did everything I possibly could to comfort them through tough times and finance their illnesses, accidents, and euthanasia all of this while barely living paycheck to paycheck. When I...
    mordsith187 mordsith187
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 12, 2014

    nothing i do is right.

    I'm being forced to go to a college near her. she doesn't give a rats *** about how i feel about it either. i suggested that i transfer and she flipped ****. I've already made arrangements to move to Texas and transfer schools. I haven't told her because she doesn't want me to...
    JuBear424 JuBear424
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 2, 2014

    An Unloving Mother

    I often google such terms as "world's best mother" and "loving mom." It has almost become a habit of mine:  turn on the laptop, open Internet Explorer, type in the usual queries . . . and have a box of tissues handy. I think that I do this in vain...
    agentx505 agentx505
    13-15, M
    3 Responses Apr 26, 2009

    I really hate the fact

    that this is really bothering me, like I'm almost grown and this is bothering the **** outta me, she can do everything in her power to make sure she does everything he wants her to do, but can't do **** for me. we used to watch movies on tv together and like talk and stuff now...
    youcantbeserious youcantbeserious
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 2, 2015

    I have hated my mum's boyfriend

    since I was 12 but he's been around since I was 7. I realised that their relationship have an unhealthy amount of arguments and i also realised that he is an arrogant and manipulative *******.Me and my mum used to be close but in the 4 years since i told her i didn't like him we...
    Waterbaby777 Waterbaby777
    18-21, F
    Nov 22, 2014

    I'll Never Stop Resenting Her

    I can't ever remember a time when my mother wasn't yelling about something or other and if she wasn't yelling about something she was either yelling at me or my dad. The only one who was never really yelled at was my sister even though she is the cause of most of my mothers...
    Klong91 Klong91
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Mar 22, 2010

    My Mom Is An Attention Seeking Druggie

    for the last 5 years or so my mother has gone to the Drs for one thing or another weather it be for pain anxiety depression and a whole list of other problems she goes and says just what they need to hear so they will give her more meds she is currently on at least 15 different...
    dadysprinces1994 dadysprinces1994
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 30, 2012

    I've been talking about Mom a lot in therapy.

    I love and respect my mom but I feel like she doesn't respect my ability to make an adult decision. I have spent the last two months considering and preparing for a career change from librarian to nanny. I've only ever brought this up with my mom once because I'm terrified...
    greensapphire greensapphire
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 30, 2014

    I Think About Her All the Time

    My mother wasn't particularly 'bad'. I have read terrible stories here, mothers allowing abuse, etc. This is not my case. My mother has not really been a mother to me. I can't remember her ever encouraging me, congratulating me, or helping me, or anything like that. If anything...
    quisoc quisoc
    36-40
    4 Responses Dec 8, 2008

    once she got me so high on meth

    and coke .. then she stole $4000 while I was gakked out not even knowing what was happening. that's just one day of my life. the rest.. well thats a book ..
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jun 30, 2015

    I Can't Seem To Get It Right

    I am 54 years old and still can't figure out how to please my mom. I know that she was only 17 when she married my dad. He was 20. She and my dad were married June 30th and by March 17th my older brother was born. My dad was an alcoholic for about years and my mom's life...
    ForgivMe ForgivMe
    56-60
    1 Response Aug 6, 2013

    Making Our Own Family Connections

    I grew up thinking that I wasn't good enough or worthy of a good family or true friends. I was alone, lonely, and self hatred had gotten to me. I need to be nurtured, cared for and listen too. I just never wanted to be accepting of that when I was young and in to my later teen...
    Hugsdirector Hugsdirector
    36-40, F
    Nov 4, 2013

    I'm in my late 20's this story is hard

    for me to admit but I cant help to feel I need to express my feelings after holding them in. My mother first is a good person. I don't hate her. I have strong resentment towards her. My reason are based off of what she has done. My older brother in life was and still is...
    EMystery EMystery
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 21, 2014

    I try to have a relationship with my mother,

    even though I am nearly as intimidated by her as I was when I was a child. About a year and a half ago I changed my career, and she made her disapproval very plain. We argued for weeks. I hated feeling like I had to justify my ability to make an adult decision. Now, my...
    greensapphire greensapphire
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 4

    She Thinks All People Have Bad Intentions.

    I dearly appreciate anyone who reads this whole thing. I need to get this out. When I was 13, I was going through a rough time, due to being teased, and I told my mom once, “I think I’m going to kill myself.” “You’re just trying to get attention!” she yelled, as she...
    Chrissy19119 Chrissy19119
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Mar 24, 2011

    Overcoming Resentment

    It is not an easy task to overcome a deeply embedded resentment that has gone on far too long.  But I know what I have to do.  Waiting for my mother to change is a mistake because that will never happen.  She is who she is and I need to respect that and learn to...
    LovingLeila LovingLeila
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Feb 1, 2010

    Ever since it became clear

    that my brother was going to excel in school it has been hard for me. I did well at school but never as good as my brother (I have always been proud of his achievements and I love my brother dearly). However, I never went to uni, I never felt like it was the right path for me...
    AndyEW AndyEW
    26-30, M
    Mar 19, 2014

    My Experience With My Mother/introduction ^^).

    Hey   I came across this group and i thought wow these are my people xD. Okay well i wanted to share my story cause like all of you I as well resent my mother. Hard to put it so simply but I'm just realizing how much she just doesn't want to deal with me. Through my teen...
    ThingsChange87 ThingsChange87
    22-25
    Sep 3, 2009

    She's been emotionally

    and verbally abusive towards me my entire life. Not only that but she chooses her husband over me. As a child she kept me away from my dad's family purposely and away from close friends sleepovers and birthday parties. Now that I'm 18 the b**** still tries to control me, she...
    FutureVet2014 FutureVet2014
    18-21, F
    Jun 27, 2015

    Where do I even freaking begin

    when it comes to my mom? Yes, she's been very supportive over the years, encourages me to do what I want to do, let me stay with her while I was in college, and always gave me a safe home and food on my plate as a kid, and I love her for that. But as I got older it really sunk...
    eronel eronel
    26-30, F
    Dec 29, 2015

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