I Respect Everybody, Until They Show Me Otherwise

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    That Old Saying...

    I've heard so many times: "I only show respect to people who earn it." But I feel that it should be the other way around- respect everyone until they give you a reason not to.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 14, 2010

    Everyone Is More Important Than I Am

    I always wanted to believe the best of people. I always wanted to give outcasts and oddballs the same respect and consideration that everyone else got. This seemed to make me the object of a young man's attention that was bipolar and didn't know it. He was obsessive-compulsive...
    cakpurposeful cakpurposeful
    46-50, F
    1 Response May 16, 2012

    I like to think respect should be kept.

    You have my respect until you lose it. You have to work to keep it, so you basically earned it.
    BellaBeast BellaBeast
    18-21, F
    Apr 26, 2014

    My husbands ex wife is

    and mother of his two kids (12 and 13) is destroying our lives. At first I thought we were ok, (she and i), then I kept noticing things that weren't normal. When we were dating, i told him that his kids are sneaking in his room and plundering through his things. They would...
    deleted deleted
    Jan 16, 2016

    A Two Way Street

    I will respect and be curtious to anyone, unless they show me they simpley don't deserv my kindness. Which they can do my doing many things like lieing, being mean (In the not funny way) makng fun of OTHER people. Ugh. Hate that so much. I know so many guys who make fun of girls...
    KatMarston KatMarston
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 1, 2010

    That Is Just How I Was Raised...

    I was taught to respect everyone, my elders as well as people my own age.  And I always have until one day someone was very very rude to me.  I remember telling my mom about them, and she said, well fuuck them, if they can't show you any respect, there is no reason to...
    BamaBabe87 BamaBabe87
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 25, 2010

    Mutual Respect Is Required

    I truly believe that all people should be treated respectfully. However, I also believe in giving what I get. If someone acts disrespectful then I see no reason to continue to show them respect. I refuse to show respect to those that have no understanding of the concept.
    lyricaldemise lyricaldemise
    41-45, T
    1 Response Sep 6, 2013

    One thing I hate on here are adults

    that act like your opinions or arguments are somehow invalid simply because of your age. Please tell me how my age effects my opinions or somehow makes them of no value just because I'm not an adult myself? It makes no sense. For example, I was having a (civil, might I...
    RicksRightNip420 RicksRightNip420
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Oct 18, 2015

    The Most Respectful Person Is The Quiet Person

    Everyday, I see people kind to one another upfront and to each other's face. Behind each other's back, however, is a completely different story. All people ever seem to do is make fun of their friends, laugh at their beliefs, and take no interest in what they like. It sickens me...
    SilverSunset SilverSunset
    13-15, M
    1 Response Oct 8, 2013


    Respect is so important - its a way of loving and caring. If we all respected each other there would be very few problems in the world. We are all human lets respect each other.
    liquidamber liquidamber
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Nov 8, 2009

    Sense Of Self Entitlement

    Sense of self entitlement is a trigger..my tolerance and patience levels both disappear when dealing with others that seem to have blinders on to those around them..for the longest time, too much emphasis has been focused on the programmed perceptions of society and where we fit...
    Liacent Liacent
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 25, 2012

    At school there's a girl

    who doesn't like me cuz I'm white and hang out with black ppl. I don't get why color matters but it does to her. So I would try to be nice to her but she keeps talking **** so when she try to fight me I broke her arm. Never think white ppl can't fight. Color does not matter.
    XFallinAngelX XFallinAngelX
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 21, 2014

    Is It So Hard?

    I know people like myself, that gives a person respect from the start are a rarity...  I'm glad to see there are others the same.  I've never understood those that say you have to earn respect, and why they think they're so important to be able to sit and pass judgement...
    BlasphemousAngel BlasphemousAngel
    31-35, M
    1 Response Dec 21, 2009

    I will respect you and I will let you

    even vent to me but the first time you show that you won't give me the same respect I'm done with you
    Bonjovi11 Bonjovi11
    18-21, M
    Jan 12, 2015


    Everyone is intitled to their own opinion/identity, but people should respect everyone else. That includes letting people make their own decisions and not enforcing anything on anyone.
    asert12345678 asert12345678
    31-35, M
    Nov 1, 2012

    Why do young people have no respect

    for anyone? They use the "F" word like most people use the word "Hi". It's so disrespectful and it shows how uneducated this world really is!
    Kerry2014 Kerry2014
    61-65, M
    2 Responses Jul 16, 2014

    Old Fashioned

    I have old fashioned view points - I treat others the way I wish to be treated, I always have and I always will.. its about respect for self as much as its about respect for others, but that only holds true so long as you show me respect....
    lostlittlefirefly lostlittlefirefly
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jun 9, 2012

    Yes ! Everyone needs to be respect.

    ..regardless what ! " I respect you , you respect me ! " That's how the world goes....
    Tsgirl86 Tsgirl86
    31-35, T
    2 Responses Apr 14, 2016

    OMG I swear boys need to be taught respect

    now a days. While on vacation we went to get in a public pool at the condo we were staying at, well let's just say we got our point across about respect after being disrespected by a few guys.
    DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt
    18-21, F
    Jun 17, 2014

    To Earn Respect From Others, You Must Respect Yourself.

    I always respect people in the beginning of a relationship/friendship/work experience. What determines whether I continue respecting them is their respect towards me, and also their self respect. If you disrespect me enough that I feel like talking to you is a waste of my time...
    MissLefroy MissLefroy
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 16, 2011

    I respect everyone until disrespected,

    I will respect you until u disrespect me
    dominick6 dominick6
    18-21, M
    Aug 27, 2014

    I honestly don't care

    for religion nor do I care for your gender. The way you treat me and by your actions and personality is all that matter to me 🌺
    desi18 desi18
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 9, 2014

    You Reap What You Sow.

    It's that simple. Treat others as you want to be treated.
    Mismagius Mismagius
    18-21, F
    Sep 27, 2013

    I show love and respect to all,

    but when you come I to my work making fun of someone because they have Down syndrome, I'll straight up rip you a new *******. Some people need to seriously learn some damn respect.
    GuuIsAwesome GuuIsAwesome
    22-25, M
    Aug 14, 2014

    It's Not True

    I am sad to report that after some careful thought about the matter, i have concluded that i have still shown respect to many who have treated me with less. I guess i am not as much of an action/reaction person as i used to be. I would rather close my eyes, grab my own azz...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 15, 2010

    Ever since my family moved from their countries

    in Africa, they have came to the USA to settle and now it has been 16 years. I have been here for 16 years and here is my observation of the people in general. It is a weird anti social culture. People have to hate someone for something. Whether it's for race, finance, cars...
    SpiritualStoner SpiritualStoner
    18-21, M
    1 Response Apr 26, 2015

    I used to talk behind peoples backs all the

    time, but time has shown me that the phrase "what goes around, comes around" really is true. I do not call anyone ugly, or treat them with disrespect until they cross the line.
    hebrokemyheart99 hebrokemyheart99
    18-21, F
    Jul 26, 2014

    Step on my boundaries

    and you will get double as hard.
    4biandu 4biandu
    31-35, F
    Jul 19, 2014

    Exactly. I am getting sick

    and tired of treating people with respect, treating them nicely, always being their for people, giving them my time, and being a good friend, just for them to be the total opposite to me. I'm done. You gotta give respect to get it. I care too much, love too deeply, and...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Jan 10, 2015

    I am very big on respect,

    honesty, and kindness. I hate it when people don't respect each other, I don't care if you know the person or not. What gives people the right to disrespect another person? Nothing. But, there is one thing. I will NOT respect someone who does not, will not, and will never...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94
    22-25, F
    Jul 26, 2014

    This is usually what I do

    but when someone loses his respect towards me, he also loses my respect towards him. My teacher has been continuously picking on me in class. He won't let me answer any questions because I always know the answer. He tells me to shut up and that I am mot allowed to participate...
    Missinghim99 Missinghim99
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 6, 2014

    Give People Respect Until.....

    i always give people respect at the start, and if they dont respect me in return, then i will not respect them!! thats just the way i work, and if anyone doesnt like it then tough, cos respect is a 2 way thing!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jan 12, 2011

    The Neighbors Beside Me

    i'm sitting here in my bed, t.v. turned down listening to the @ss-hole neighbor yelling at his live in girlfriend. it scares me to death. i sit here shaking, with tears running down my face because i have been there. and she, like i, refuses help. i have tried in little ways. i...
    SweetKiester SweetKiester
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Sep 7, 2013

    Respect And/or Trust

    I dislike the phrase "respect needs to be earned".  I hear people say it all the time, usually without thinking it through.   Whilst I can agree to a certain extent, I also believe that while you wait for someone to earn your respect you do not have the right to...
    Opalgem Opalgem
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Nov 8, 2010

    I look at Experience Project

    as a virtual home. I enjoy home and will not actively participate in "battles" here that I find unprincipled. My friends are very important but because I didn't participate in a personal scuffle I was blocked by them. I hope you understand my position as preferring to be a...
    pfuzylogic pfuzylogic
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Feb 4, 2016

    Being old doesn't give you an excuse to be an

    ******* and expect to get away with it. No!! Old people don't automatically get respect because they're old, they get ******* consequences just like everyone else! They've lived on this planet long enough and should know how to act. Man I wanted to hit that ******* bag with my...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 10, 2015

    Humans Being

    We're all here because we're not all there.  Anyone's right can easily be someone else's wrong.  In reality, we have to coexist - there's no way around it.  Even if it means I have to let the lady that cut me off go without a colorful metaphor, or silently work for...
    usetheforceluke usetheforceluke
    26-30, F
    Nov 18, 2009

    I think everyone deserves a chance at being

    accepted as they are I treat everyone how I like to be treated myself
    woodyemma2013 woodyemma2013
    31-35, F
    Feb 22, 2014

    I respect this man, he is my coach( one of my

    coach) I feel really bad. I accidentally gave him attitude. This is how it went I asked him how much we need to do, he said 5, but if you are tired then do 4. I then said then I'll just do 5, but in a very rude way. Now I have guilt and I just want to say sorry but maybe he didn...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 4, 2014

    Absolutely! Regardless of age,

    race,colour,point of view. Unless of course........
    picklebobble picklebobble
    51-55, M
    Jan 11, 2015
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