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I Sat Next to Someone As They Died

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 212 People

    Tomorrow Would Have Been Your 48th Birthday!

    Dean...  I still miss you even after 14 years...   Your daughter will be sixteen this year!  WOW...  I still can't believe that...  Your memory lives on with me everyday...  About once a week..I think I've got to call you and ask you about so...
    tks tks 36-40, F 21 Responses Aug 25, 2009

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    Cliff

    He was dying of lung cancer. The last week he was on oxygen. He started having long pauses between breathes towards the end. We had the tube for his oxygen elevated along the curtain rod of the window behind his bed so it wouldn't get any air bubbles or get tangled. One of us...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 16, 2009

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    Watching Them Pass On

    This story was 26 yrs ago,I married my wife and being young and fit thought we'd be around for many years to come,I gained a daughter along with a wife,then a son.Little while latter my wife told me we were going to have another baby,but then catastrophy She was diagnosed with...
    thecarer thecarer 51-55, M 2 Responses Oct 27, 2011

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    Many Times

      I worked as a Respiratory Care Tech. for ten years, usually on the grave yard shift while going to college. I have watched a lot of people die. Sometimes we even made bets as to how long it would take…DD
    Dewduster Dewduster 66-70, M 4 Responses May 16, 2009

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    Bittersweet Farewell

    My Mom had been in a coma for a few days, she was battling Cancer.  There wasn't much chance in her getting any better, her lung colapsed and she could no longer breath on her own.  I had to make the decision I so hoped I would never have to face. I talked it over...
    BlasphemousAngel BlasphemousAngel 31-35, M 2 Responses May 17, 2009

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    Hanging On

    I am watching my father die. I am still numb most of the time.  He fell in June while he was visiting my brother in Italy.  He went into psychosis and started hitting people and trying to get away. My brother was finally able to get him stabelized enough to get him on a...
    Muse4U Muse4U 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 20, 2009

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    I've Seen Way Too Much..

    I have been a paramedic for almost a decade now.  Sadly, I have no doubt that I couldn't recall how many dead bodies I have seen or how many deaths I have personally witnessed.  I have been present on a few that I felt honored to be a part of.  I once had a 94 year...
    Malcontent Malcontent 36-40 1 Response May 17, 2009

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    It Was So Very Sad

                                            It was one of the worst days of my life...
    flourlady111 flourlady111 46-50, F 4 Responses May 16, 2009

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    My Gramps

     he died in august of 2000.he had cancer.i had been by his side for months along with my mother.one day he didn`t wake up,i looked him over and realized he had a stroke.so when his nuse came i informed her.he stayed in a coma for a week.then he died .i watched as he took his...
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 1 Response Oct 26, 2009

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    Grandpa

    My grandfather died in 2002 from Lung Cancer.... It's funny how quickly things can happen.. He went in the hospital in Nov. 2001 with pneumonia the x-rays showed nothing.  When he went back in Dec. 2001 he had lung cancer and by Feb. 2002 he was gone from my life forever...
    juggalett juggalett 26-30, F Aug 27, 2009

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    About 4 years ago, I was a rookie firefighter

    in rural Georgia. I was scheduled to go on vacation in Florida the next day. It was after lunch when tones dropped for an MVC (motor vehicle collision) with entrapment and injuries. I jumped on the rescue truck and we rolled out to the state highway where the wreck was. We got...
    albatross33 albatross33 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 6, 2014

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    Mum

    For those who haven't witnessed somebody die from cancer, be thankful. It's ******* horrific. Mum was in hospital, and we knew she was going to die soon. In the week leading up to her death, she was hallucinating heavily (she had a lot of brain tumors), she wasn't breathing...
    BettyValentine BettyValentine 22-25, F 5 Responses May 16, 2012

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    Lonely Old Woman

    Four years ago I ahd a family now they are all gone and I am left alone sometimes it is so bad I feel like just falling off the clift and leaving what I have left which happens to be my little dogs and cats. What do I want just a family home in the country and my son to see how...
    dogdogma2000 dogdogma2000 61-65 Sep 20, 2010

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    I Fought For Him

    my bro passed april '08... he was 34 he had a stroke sept '07... left him paralyzed on his left side. he had stopped taking his high blood pressure meds. our family is not the richest and money was an issue... he graduated w/his art degree but had a tough time supporting his wife...
    islanderguy islanderguy 26-30 Sep 30, 2009

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    Have held Kids In The Er

    while there were dieing from drug over odses as we tried to svae there lifes more then once of held people as they ask if they were going to die at accidents as they walked the bridge just so they did not die alone i just was not able to do that to my wofe when she was killed or...
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M Sep 6, 2012

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    My Mother.

    At the age of 9 i watched my mother die. Its a day i will never forget, its always there in the back of my mind. I was in the fourth grade and my mother was anorexic. Being nine i had no idea what that was. I just knew my mom was thin as a rail and never ate. And on the off...
    AlissaKunis AlissaKunis 18-21, F Aug 27, 2012

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    More Times Than I Care to Think About

    I worked as a paramedic for 8 years in both urban and rural settings. I helped many people. Some I could not. Sometimes, they were obviously dead when we arrived and their was nothing we could do to help. If there was any possible chance to bring them back, we did everything...
    FilmandVideoGuy FilmandVideoGuy 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 27, 2009

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    Took Care Of The Dying (for 5 Years)

    I was a Hospice CNA, if you do not know what that is it stands for, it means Certified Nursing Aide, and Hospice meant, 6 months or less. No one I took care of was going to get better, no matter the amount of prayer, science, or wicca for you people who are into that, would save...
    MoriartyWolf MoriartyWolf 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 22, 2011

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    The Greatest Gift My Mother In Law Gave Me.

    Now my husband was an only child and he lived off and on with his mother they were very close.He was a mammas boy.My mother in law was not always good to me,as there was a jealous factor there.She really never wanted anyone else in her sons life.Me on the other hand constantly...
    christinekibby christinekibby 46-50 Mar 2, 2012

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    Unfortunately...

    Many more than one... 
    Knightmedic Knightmedic 46-50, M Nov 30, 2009

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    Grandpop

    I was three years old and my grandfather was dieing of liver cancer.  I didn't get it at the time, but as I look back I am extremely sad that I didn't, but also grateful.
    Phasmati13 Phasmati13 13-15, F 1 Response May 16, 2009

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    It Was My Father

         Om January 4th of 1994; I stood beside my father while he was in a medically induced coma as he lay on his death bed in UAB Hospital in Birmingham, Alabama. 3 days before he had his 3rd, 4th, or 5th heart attack in his life. He even had triple by-pass...
    Snookybear Snookybear 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 23, 2009

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    I Yelled At Him In His Last Moments...

    My name is Kayla. This story happened when I was only 12. His name was Hikaru. He was a transfer student from Japan, very kind boy. He was 13. Hikaru was only half Japanese, the other half of him was Italian. A very unique combonation. He had pale skin and bright, blue eyes...
    xsk8r1212x xsk8r1212x 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 19, 2009

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    January 3, 2006 At 3:45 Pm

    27 days before my 20th birthday I watched my mom draw her last breath.  From 2000 when she had her first heartattack that nearly killed her till the day she died, was in and out of hospitals.  I had spent more time since I was 13 to nearly 20 next to my mothers...
    Keket Keket 22-25, F 3 Responses May 31, 2010

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    Whitewash

    My older brother Raphael passed away when I was 12 and he was 14. I remember that day so well. It was one of the times that our father had kicked us out of the house. My other brothers were at work, so it was just me and him. It had been snowing all day and the temperature was...
    WhoMadeWho WhoMadeWho 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 31, 2013

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    Not Exactly.

    When my grandfather slipped into a coma they brought him home to die, as he'd requested.  It was seven days before Christmas.  My father lived with his parents and I'd come to spend the weekend with him, like I always did.  I watched the ambulance unload my...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 3 Responses May 17, 2009

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    He Loved Me Beyond Death

    My husband died March 31, 2002.He had been sick with lung cancer since the prior summer.   In the last year of his life we spent every minute together that we could.We had already decided that my husband would die at home.  That morning he woke up and he told me that he had...
    ItsWindy ItsWindy 51-55, F 4 Responses Aug 20, 2011

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    My Uncle...

    Technically, I was across from him, but the living room was very close quarters.
    drcynic drcynic 26-30, M 11 Responses May 16, 2009

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    A Mothers Love

    My x husbands mother and I really had a hard time understanding each other throughout my marriage to her son.  But she also was one the most supportive mothers I had ever met.  Her life was a very tough one and I could not understand some of the decisions she had made...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 20, 2011

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    Yup, My Mom, Feel Lucky To Have Been With Her Though

    It was strange watching her die. I stayed the night with her, and kept checking on her. I remember every little thing step by step, the day before, and up until the next day at 11:10 am when she passed. I got to see her smile, and see her laughing the night I stayed with her...
    Greeneyedandcurious Greeneyedandcurious 22-25, F Mar 25, 2012

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    And It Sucks

    My father died of cancer a few years ago. He was terminal, and they took him to another room so we (the family) could be with him in their last minutes. When he entered the other room, he didn't breath. His jaw sagged. He had died. I remember behaving like a stupid, crying and...
    shrock shrock 31-35 Sep 19, 2009

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    My ex boyfriend passed away

    because of Anemia because he was hit by a car with a man on drugs driiving it. He lost a **** tons of blood and needed that blood donation so badly. I had a tub of my blood taken to be donated to him, but when I came to him, they were preparing the blood. But, I saw his face...
    Annaambrose Annaambrose 16-17 Feb 25

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    In December Of 1994.....

    I was at the hospital with the rest of my family. My grandmother had had her second stroke. I was pregnant with my first born and a month away from having her. I went in my grandmother's hospital room to see my aunts, cousins, and mom crying. I looked at her in her bed and saw...
    DraygenS DraygenS 41-45, F Sep 2, 2010

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    I Just Didn't Sit Next to Her I Held Her..

    This is going to be hard to write... Like my title says I just didn't sit next to her I held her in my arms. It was my little sister, she was my little angel, more like my own child, when she was in the hospital (if you want to know more go and read my other story http://www...
    XLunaXLovegoodX XLunaXLovegoodX 22-25, F Jul 23, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    Today would've been my friends 15th birthday. I never thought that December 29th would've been the last time I'd ever talk to her again, I remember I would text her all the time...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 4 Responses May 8

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    I remember this guy who was my bestie, he died in a car crash, I never told him that I love him, so now it is to late...
    nath2281 nath2281 13-15, F 5 Responses May 10

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    My cousin Megan was the coolest person on Earth. She was older than me but she was my best friend. I would visit Missouri every summer when I was younger and that's where she lived...
    Majesticscribbler Majesticscribbler 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    My grandma passed away last mothers day from lung cancer. RIP. Im getting a tattoo about her.
    Ang012685 Ang012685 26-30, F 1 Response May 9

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    I always know when someone is lying because I can easily read body language or sometimes over txt they say something and the next day they forgot what they said and accidentally...
    FunnyBunny6129 FunnyBunny6129 13-15, F 4 Responses Apr 28

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    They died on the other line prolly that's why they didn't text back. Or when you reply a long msg and you just got a fcking 'K'.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 30

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    I wonder how many of us feel this way yet for many reasons have to......... or do...... stay with someone they don't love, or who does not love back? So what is love? It can...
    walkbywithme walkbywithme 56-60, M 1 Response Apr 27

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    I want to know what Love is and I want you to show me. I get beaten and cussed at everyday, by someone who claims to be my Real Mother, but isn't. She also uses me as her human...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    We all know someone who has passed away. Well, maybe you're fortunate to have not, but I guarantee you know someone who has. Death isn't all as bad as people make it out to be...
    HelloKardashiann HelloKardashiann 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    Sometimes it's the people you love most you forget most easily. My brother had been a part of my life for so long, that before he died, he was a routine, this man I called a few...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 28

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    I don't know which time to talk about... well I guess I can tell you about the first time someone else made intent... The year was 1997 on a dark night around 8:30 PM. I was...
    tornsin tornsin 31-35, M 2 Responses May 12

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