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I Say I Don't, But Actually I Do Care What Others Think Of Me

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    It Takes Practice

    I think it takes practice not to care. I'm getting better at it through the years. Some of it is slowly realizing that most people who think badly of me either don't know me and are making assumptions or they're idiots and I don't care what they think. I've also come to the...
    Tamytha Tamytha 36-40, F Feb 26, 2012

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    Well..

    I claim i dont care what people think of me, but i actually do care what people think of me weather its being emotional, unstable, crazy, a weirdo, or whatever it may be...i dont like being judged and some people judge me before even knowing and talking to me and it hurts...
    MissUnperfect MissUnperfect 22-25, F Mar 14, 2011

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    I Do Seek Others Approval..

    No one wants to be hated or disliked. I do care about what others think of me, because I am sensitive.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F Apr 29, 2013

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    It Couldn't Be More True.

    I have always acted differently around other people, like I've always wanted them to see me in a certain way. Cool with everyone and everything and nothing can affect me because I am solid as a rock, but truthfully on the inside I care a lot about what others think of me, and I...
    iamalexa iamalexa 26-30, T 2 Responses Jan 22, 2012

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    Guilty....

    I act like I don't care, hell I ever say, I don't care, but Deep down, I really do care.....
    xSilentlySufferingx xSilentlySufferingx 18-21, F May 26, 2010

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    So True

    Internally I can feel every eye on me as I stroll in public. So many times and experiences have passed were I should have enjoyed a moment, but couldn't because I was worried what others would think. Why should I care what a stranger that i'll never see again may possibly think...
    day2day46 day2day46 46-50, M Jul 29, 2013

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    Sometimes People’s Attitudes Get To Me

    I generally try to maintain an attitude of objectivity when it comes to EP and the questions and responses that I submit. I expect people to take ‘shots’ at me because the simple act of being visible can make me a target, and I realize that. However, every now and then...
    fishsweeper fishsweeper 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8, 2012

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    Unfortunately...

    I only realised this a few weeks ago. I had bought some new clothes, and with any new thing when you wear it out for the first time, it feels like they are betraying you behind your back. Anyway, for the first time, I consciously thought "Hmm, this makes me look quite...
    Subjugate Subjugate 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 17, 2010

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    Somewhere I Got Lost

    It's exactly what this group is. I say I don't care but in all reality, it is all I think about sometimes. I think it's just that I need to feel that acceptance from everyone. Because when no one is there I'm not good enough, I need to be better. So I try to better myself to be...
    Everviolet Everviolet 18-21, F Dec 5, 2011

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    Wasn't Brave.

    I always say I don't  care what other people think. They don't feed me. They don't lead my life. etc. etc. But the truth is, I do care alot. I actually care more about what other people think of me than what I really think about myself. I act tough in front of everybody else...
    aliascinco aliascinco 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 15, 2011

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    Very True

    i say i don't care what other people think of me. But the fact is i do care. I care if people think i am a monster and weak , pathonic ignorante *******. i try and act hard and not care but i do care and i have ended up crying myself to sleep silently becuase of people hating me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 30, 2010

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    When People Are Obnoxious

    I was raised to believe that I should never do or say anything to another person that I wouldn't want said or done to me. Of course, I've transgressed this upbringing many times... And I'm sure that there are many people on EP who would agree! As an MBA (Master of Business...
    fishsweeper fishsweeper 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 12, 2012

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    ...

    I act like I don't care, hell I ever say, I don't care, but Deep down, I really do care.....
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 3, 2011

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    Patience

    There was a guy at the office, I knew him since he was a junior. One morning, early in his career, he stood up to say that he was here to reach the top. It was a strange thing to proclaim. He was not stupid and he continued to promote himself discreetly and in the old fashioned...
    moreandless moreandless 56-60, M 6 Responses Jun 21, 2010

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