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I Sex Begins In The Mind

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 92 People

    The imagination is a wonderful thing. It conjures up images and fantasies like no others and sometimes the thing we think of surprises us, but then that's how great sex or even...
    NoVADad703 NoVADad703 31-35, M 3 days ago

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    Conversation (HoH) - rejected (this is fine though and we discussed potential dom/sub which was also rejected) both are fine to reject So next thought was something I want to...
    TheLionGod TheLionGod 36-40, M 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Just a wish to you all - have a beautiful day! Stay strong and love yourselves today - not just with your hands! My goal for the day is to get a nice solid workout in... Whatever...
    radicalradish radicalradish 36-40, F 19 Responses Oct 2

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    The conversation went better than I thought it would. All through dinner and bedtime with boys she was very anxious, constantly making eye contact and hand contact, little...
    HopefulDude HopefulDude 36-40, M 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    As above my wife has Multiple Sclerosis that is in a progressive stage, she is totally disabled now, requires feeding etc, we no longer have a sexual relationship due to her...
    JMC663 JMC663 31-35, M 6 hrs ago

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    It's great fun trying to twist and turn into sex position makes sex much more fun for everyone. Just let go and enjoy yourself
    Ldalg Ldalg 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    ​when i was younger my dad was abusive sexually and emotionally. i told he went to jail. mom still loves him. once he was out she would go down to Vancouver, were he lives every...
    missy420 missy420 22-25, F 7 hrs ago

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    What is the best way to handle a refuser who every time pretends he has no idea sexlessness is the issue of my unhappiness , then asks how we can work on it only to forget the...
    Imoveryou Imoveryou 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    So I have a couple of male friends that say they like their butt played with during intercourse. I've never done it. Is this a normal thing that happens during sex? Am I missing...
    army2000 army2000 26-30, M 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Ya so I didn't wait till marriage to have sex:D feels amazing and I want more of it:D
    RedHeadedLesbo RedHeadedLesbo 18-21, F 6 Responses 1 hr ago

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    The Perils of Outsourcing? In a sexless marriage, it's safe to say that the thought of outsourcing may have crossed your mind once or twice or a thousand times. It is typically...
    Artvg Artvg 41-45, F 27 Responses 5 days ago

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    For the last few months I have started to fantasize about having sex with a close and very dear lady friend of mine and I can’t seem to get her out of my mind for some reason...
    bfox2608 bfox2608 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 27

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    Well I did it. I took everyones advice in ILIASM, and I consulted an attorney in the event that I may need to pull the parachute on my marriage. Thank you Bazaar for hammering this...
    Jane1024 Jane1024 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 8

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    Rediscovering Sex in a Sexless Marriage: Rediscovering sex - This is where things are at now. For those who are reading my story for the first time let me point out my marriage...
    Fireflyz26 Fireflyz26 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 2

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    Just had a bunch on my mind and feel like rambling. So I want to share a little about my rehabilitated sexless marriage (see backstory for details) due to a few private emails...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 9 Responses Oct 3

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    Why do most people on EP assume being open minded is exclusively something séxual?! Is there anything that could be more narrow minded than that?! When I say I'm open minded...
    laleee laleee 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 29

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    So, I've posted previously, but its a been a long time. I've been married over 11 years, the vast majority of which which have been sexless. I've spoken to my wife countless times...
    Xaeth Xaeth 36-40, M 22 Responses Oct 8

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    Higher love. And baser desires. I'm still kinda dwelling on my h's explosion at me last weekend. One of the things he told me was the 'he fell in love with my mind'. Which is...
    elkclan elkclan 41-45, F 8 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I'm in a sexless marriage, but it's me who doesn't want it. I love my husband. We have three beautiful sons together. I am being affected by a case of childhood sibling sexual...
    coffeeIover coffeeIover 26-30, F 13 Responses Sep 22

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    Even though I'm open minded, people cant just literally message u about sex things. Like come on u cant ask anyone from the internet if they wanna have sex??!!
    JasmineKay1998 JasmineKay1998 16-17, F 12 Responses Oct 7

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    Had that conversation "open it or complete it" I was very gentle about it giving her every opportunity along the way. I asked her if she knew how many times we made love a year...
    TheLionGod TheLionGod 36-40, M 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't mind PDAs. I'm secure enough in myself that seeing same sex couples holding hands or kissing doesn't bother me. Why bother a couple who happen to be in love? It seems...
    CrazyWaterSpring CrazyWaterSpring 51-55, M 5 days ago

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    Intimacy for me starts in my mind. As I feel a connection to a person and am drawn to them, I feel the barriers dissolve and a true connection is formed. And as that bond...
    bunnigirl bunnigirl 46-50, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    In the 8th grade, I came out as bi. In the 11th, I came out as gay. I'm now in 12th grade and I don't know WHAT I am. I like girls a lot and am very attracted to them. But I've...
    queercutie queercutie 16-17, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    It's always on my mind and I am constantly looking for new ways to express my sexuality with my partner(s). I have very few boundaries and I think about sex even in the least...
    Monwell Monwell 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 22

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    Female monarchs have darker veins on their own wings, along with the males Have a very location called the androconium in the center of every hind wing.[31] Males are a little bit...
    Wendolynce106 Wendolynce106 31-35, M Sep 25

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    I have been in a relationship with the same man for 3years now. I love him with all of my heart and soul, but he is tearing me apart. In the very beginning our sex life was great...
    tiffany7michelle tiffany7michelle 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 21

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    Hi, not been active on here for a while but been reading again recently. Not a lot new to add to my situation but just feel like I need to write a bit more about it. During the...
    copperdoodle copperdoodle 41-45, F 11 Responses Sep 30

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    On this website. I feel like the consistent spam from sexual posts really distracts people and takes so much away from meaningful discussion and conversation. Then again I don't...
    HeyIThappens HeyIThappens 18-21 Sep 30

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    A good friend recently explained to me that I am a sexual hedonist... I am continuously seeking sexual pleasure in my world. I delight in my body and in the responses I am capable...
    lola101202 lola101202 36-40, F 19 Responses Oct 10

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    I like to meet some one married female , whit passionate for sex and sexual fantasy to explore , and share thus life , whit out barriers , open mind and whit sense of humor e...
    magiklondon07 magiklondon07 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 11

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    Hi everyone!!! I'm so glad I found this site, I find it helps so much when your able to chat with people going threw the same or almost same situation. I've been dating this guy...
    Chevy1973 Chevy1973 36-40, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    Open minded means welcoming a good friend named Taboo. She is so sexy. She always stops by once in a while.
    daddyATOM daddyATOM 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 21

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    I am a young man, Asia. I always have a fantasy to watch another couple having sex. Don't mind if I join :)
    creepys creepys 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 25

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    I've noticed that i have the temptation to always have sex with out a condom. To the women out there, do you mind the "pull out" method?
    Smokingskater Smokingskater 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 25

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    Hell, Pure Hell. Yesterday she's wearing panties, I say "Damn girl you look good and I have fries with that shake". She goes takes a shower comes out in a towel and I ask can I get...
    sufferin4life sufferin4life 41-45, M 12 Responses Sep 29

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    Push, Push, Push … That is the main instruction for childbirth according to the Starfleet manual (see TNG episode “Disaster”, when Worf helps Keiko give birth). It is also...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 9 Responses Sep 30

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    The "I think great sex starts in the mind" type EP groups are a good example
    dontcareforlabels dontcareforlabels 41-45, M Sep 30

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    In a sexless relationship for six years with otherwise wonderful man. Yesterday was our last anniversary because I have decided to leave this trap. I loved him with all my heart...
    Imoveryou Imoveryou 26-30, F 25 Responses Oct 1

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    Uhh, my hormones are kicking in. I have dirty thoughts everywhere i go. I think about doing things in the locker rooms and tennis courts. It's bad! xD when class gets boring, my...
    Dapperness Dapperness 16-17, F 16 Responses Oct 1

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    Question: is your Refuser generally happy or miserable? My wife and I have fixed our problems for the most part and our sex is still fairly frequent albeit predictable (that is...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 19 Responses Oct 1

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    Back in high school I baby sat for this couple, they were in their early thirties with a seven and four year old. Now let's talk about the sexiest man I've ever met. This dad had...
    SteelNettt SteelNettt 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 3

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    If you are in the should I stay or should I go mode, it will go on forever. The only way to get off the fence is if you leave or a major shift happens in your marriage. The shift...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 4

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    Never thought about it until I seen this experience, its exactly what I am. I'm so over waiting for love, love is not real to me. It never was, I have never felt it even when I was...
    TheVirginRapids TheVirginRapids 18-21, F Oct 4

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    Dia: The Goddess I highly regard Diablesse with the utmost esteem. She provides a steadfast beacon of pragmatic life-giving advice, interactive friendship all the while being a...
    JoeGogg JoeGogg 36-40, M 3 Responses Oct 4

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    More often than not my mind goes toward what women are doing in their free time. Are they as sexually aroused as men?
    CP1262 CP1262 51-55, M 5 Responses Oct 5

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    My mind is always filled with such things… How to get it, when I last had it, all the things I like the most about it… every man that runs across my path, I see him in that...
    lola101202 lola101202 36-40, F 11 Responses Oct 7