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I Should Have Gotten Out Years Ago

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    And Now I'm Old

    I am 58. I've been in a marriage to an emotionally abusive man for almost 29 years. It started out OK, though there were plenty of signs if I hadn't been so stupid. I was 29 and in graduate school. All the men I was meeting were unemployed losers. I wanted to meet someone, get...
    sewbuggy423 sewbuggy423 56-60, F 3 Responses Jul 13, 2012

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    Red Flags.......

    There were so many of them....screaming at me to stop and think....really think about what's going on but I ignored them.  I didn't want to believe that the man that vowed to love me "till death do us part" no longer wanted to be my husband.  Most of all, I didn't want to...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 17, 2011

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    I Should Have Gotten Out In 1984!

    I was 20 and had just reached my first base in the military when I met my husband. We were engaged in 4 months and married in 7 months. I threw myself into the relationship. He didn't like my friends, basically said If I hung out with them anymore, he would not date me again...
    banburycat banburycat 46-50, F 4 Responses Jan 10, 2012

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    Down

    Caddi. I wish I'd realised years ago, I could of changed my life. It's too late now, I'll have to settle. I had plenty of chances before, but I didn't quite realise what it was like until now. It will always be inside me as it has changed me now, forever, I will never be like I...
    Keelie Keelie 66-70, F Dec 30, 2009

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    Should Have Left Long Before I Felt Trapped!

    After four year of marriage work became more important to my husband and I was second. Sex became less and less I should have left! I stuck in because I did not want failure to try and recover... but then my son was born and things became more strained in our relationship. We...
    cowgirl2013 cowgirl2013 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 1, 2013

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    She's Living Up Her Role

    Just because you're the step mom, doesn't mean you have to act the part. - I lived out of state for 3 years. During that time, I got married, graduated from school, and had a baby. Not once in all that time did my family even consider coming out to see us. No one sent us a we...
    justtheafterthought justtheafterthought 31-35 Nov 26, 2013

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    I Just Want Peace And Happiness

    I had a dream last night.  It was more like a flashback because this happened when my daughter was about 3 months old.  It was a sad dream.  Now I'm angry because I'm remembering, not only this but other things too.  It's making me think how foolish I've been...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 25 Responses Dec 30, 2009

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    I Got Out But He Still Makes Me Miserable

    I got out of my marriage after only 4 years. I could see where it was going, the signs of abuse, the way he talks to our daughter, and wanted to end it before it got bad. He still makes me feel like **** for ending it and loves to tell me how ****** up I am (because I'm in love...
    nicksgurl nicksgurl 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 10, 2012

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    What Am I Waiting For...

    I am a 35 year old dummy who use to be really smart . My husband is a good provider , But I think I was a good provider before I married him . I had no wants , good credit nice house and money saved . I got married and now all I have is a splitting headache . I don't know where...
    babysocks86 babysocks86 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 29, 2012

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    Regrets?

    Even as I clicked to join this group I felt disloyal.  For me to admit that I should have gotten out of my marriage years ago is a huge step.  I may have hinted at it before, but to truly voice that feeling is something else entirely. I think the main reason that I...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 40 Responses Dec 30, 2009

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