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I Should Have Gotten Out Years Ago

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    She's Living Up Her Role

    Just because you're the step mom, doesn't mean you have to act the part. - I lived out of state for 3 years. During that time, I got married, graduated from school, and had a baby. Not once in all that time did my family even consider coming out to see us. No one sent us a we...
    justtheafterthought justtheafterthought 31-35 Nov 26, 2013

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    Red Flags.......

    There were so many of them....screaming at me to stop and think....really think about what's going on but I ignored them.  I didn't want to believe that the man that vowed to love me "till death do us part" no longer wanted to be my husband.  Most of all, I didn't want to...
    Mahal1023 Mahal1023 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 17, 2011

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    And Now I'm Old

    I am 58. I've been in a marriage to an emotionally abusive man for almost 29 years. It started out OK, though there were plenty of signs if I hadn't been so stupid. I was 29 and in graduate school. All the men I was meeting were unemployed losers. I wanted to meet someone, get...
    sewbuggy423 sewbuggy423 56-60, F 3 Responses Jul 13, 2012

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    I Got Out But He Still Makes Me Miserable

    I got out of my marriage after only 4 years. I could see where it was going, the signs of abuse, the way he talks to our daughter, and wanted to end it before it got bad. He still makes me feel like **** for ending it and loves to tell me how ****** up I am (because I'm in love...
    nicksgurl nicksgurl 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 10, 2012

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    What Am I Waiting For...

    I am a 35 year old dummy who use to be really smart . My husband is a good provider , But I think I was a good provider before I married him . I had no wants , good credit nice house and money saved . I got married and now all I have is a splitting headache . I don't know where...
    babysocks86 babysocks86 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 29, 2012

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    Down

    Caddi. I wish I'd realised years ago, I could of changed my life. It's too late now, I'll have to settle. I had plenty of chances before, but I didn't quite realise what it was like until now. It will always be inside me as it has changed me now, forever, I will never be like I...
    Keelie Keelie 66-70, F Dec 30, 2009

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    Should Have Left Long Before I Felt Trapped!

    After four year of marriage work became more important to my husband and I was second. Sex became less and less I should have left! I stuck in because I did not want failure to try and recover... but then my son was born and things became more strained in our relationship. We...
    cowgirl2013 cowgirl2013 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 1, 2013

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    I Should Have Gotten Out In 1984!

    I was 20 and had just reached my first base in the military when I met my husband. We were engaged in 4 months and married in 7 months. I threw myself into the relationship. He didn't like my friends, basically said If I hung out with them anymore, he would not date me again...
    banburycat banburycat 46-50, F 4 Responses Jan 10, 2012

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    I Just Want Peace And Happiness

    I had a dream last night.  It was more like a flashback because this happened when my daughter was about 3 months old.  It was a sad dream.  Now I'm angry because I'm remembering, not only this but other things too.  It's making me think how foolish I've been...
    TexasLily TexasLily 51-55, F 25 Responses Dec 30, 2009

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    Regrets?

    Even as I clicked to join this group I felt disloyal.  For me to admit that I should have gotten out of my marriage years ago is a huge step.  I may have hinted at it before, but to truly voice that feeling is something else entirely. I think the main reason that I...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 40 Responses Dec 30, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    Preface: I know that some people say that, "time heals everything." It really doesn't. I was in a horrible car crash with my boyfriend at the time and I lost him forever...But...
    Jessicamlee21 Jessicamlee21 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    I'm Chris. (Sorry to those who've been told I was Jake. That was my Cousin.) Anyways the first time I had my heart broken was 6th grade. I was dating this girl. But, every time I...
    Gre3nBoytt Gre3nBoytt 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 26

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    i woke up one morning. And i stopped in the living room and then i looked at the table there and i saw papers and a scissor on that table.And in my mind i want to clean that mess...
    yodatheching yodatheching 22-25, F Aug 19

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    "You wouldn't be able to read this without that little voice in your head"
    WaterfallDrops WaterfallDrops 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 9

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    I am no longer in love with my partner but I don't want to let go. I love but I am not in love. Do you think that If you truly love somebody you do not doubt the relationship?, if...
    Jin959 Jin959 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    My mom was a single parent to me and I'm an only child. She worked her *** off providing for me.. So I spent most of my time growing up with babysitters and family members. She did...
    sunshiineee sunshiineee 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I thought i get it all off my chest on here seeing as I was reading lots of emotional abuse and psychical abuse stories on here a few weeks ago that got me moving in my decision to...
    catgirl87 catgirl87 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    I met him four years ago, we never grew up together so I didm;t see him for what he was: my cousin. Yes I know, gross ******. I know. I know. I always knew. But I have accepted the...
    danee012 danee012 18-21, F Sep 3

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    I Have a Broken Heart I met him four years ago, we never grew up together so I didn’t see him for what he was: my cousin. Yes I know, gross. I know. I know. I always knew. But I...
    danee012 danee012 18-21, F Sep 3

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    A girl i've known for about 4 years now, told me that when we met she had a crush on me. But at the time I had just started dating another girl. I dated that girl for 2 and a half...
    jagart01 jagart01 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 24

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    I developed anxiety about 2 years ago. I never really had it much before. I have always been a bit of a worrier, but nothing constant. 2 years ago, however, right after I had to...
    aliciav22 aliciav22 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 4

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    I must say that I have had the pleasure for the second time in my life to see a married couple celebrate 50 years of being married. That does not happen every day not even once in...
    mamabutterfly mamabutterfly 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    My father being the manipulator... He was divorced from mum and jailed for a short term when I was 7 but I only found out why at 17. Before that, I was always 'daddy's little girl...
    TheBratPrince TheBratPrince 18-21, F Aug 28

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    I was diagonsed with fibromyalgia back 15 years ago and as I have gotten older it seems to have gotten worse I lay in bed at night and when go to move I am in pain sometimes I feel...
    Krimsonraine Krimsonraine 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    Obviously I've been hurt many times.. but I'll never forget one of those times.. I still remember the pain as if it was yesterday.. I still feel the pain sometimes.. I used to be...
    Lily449 Lily449 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    Well, I do have family -- up until 1993 I had 7 siblings. When they all were told my dad was dying and to come see him. I was not told until after he died that he was sick. All of...
    iamtheworst iamtheworst 56-60, F 2 days ago

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    It started 2 years ago when I was going on vacation, something happened with the turbulence or the altitude on the plane, idk but during the whole vacation my ears felt weird but I...
    Becka99 Becka99 16-17, F Aug 17

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    Update! There's hope guys - don't settle! Last time I posted it had been only one month since being cheated on - and I was a mess. Only thing I was sure of is that there was no way...
    imatulipinacup imatulipinacup 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    It was my birthday a few weeks ago. Three days after my birthday,i received a call on am unknown number. I let the call go to voice Mail and it was my birth mother calling to wish...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 29

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    I have many regrets of several situations and interactions i had with people during my years of life. Mistakes, regrets, things I wish I had not said or done. Most of those regrets...
    PeterPalmer PeterPalmer 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 25

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    I think that since I have been in this emotionally abusive relationship, for a couple of years, I have gotten used to the illogical statements from my husband. Tonight I am being...
    lisaandshasta123 lisaandshasta123 41-45 Aug 19

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    In the 27 years I have been married, I have gotten promotions, went back to college and got two degrees, read lots of self-help books and gotten insight into my myself, my...
    toolatetoapologise toolatetoapologise 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    About 4 years ago I went to my GP with an annoying pain in my left side. I was sent for an xray which showed small ovarian cysts. I told the GP I didnt think this was the cause of...
    mrsminxster mrsminxster 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    'Annoying' is an understatement for this boy. I seriously do not know what has gotten into him. It is like something in the air hit him, like a virus. I HATE the way puberty...
    TheFrozenOne TheFrozenOne 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 28

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    I need to express this. I feel so alone and feel that I am going through all of the emotions at once dealing with this. I sometimes don't even know where to begin. But I pray that...
    FromJWtoJEW FromJWtoJEW 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 29

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    Excuse me for a moment but yes I have something to say! Don't ever come questioning me about a man that's not yours! Ok so here's the story... I'm leaving work and this girl...
    MrsGigalowJr MrsGigalowJr 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    A few months back I posted how I have disowned my family, especially my siblings. They left me alone to take care of our disabled mother (even though they are all much older) and...
    Transluminal2010 Transluminal2010 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 28

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    My mom told me once that her disease made her feel like an octopus. I said what do you mean? She said her arms and legs feel like they are out of control. She wants me to take her...
    WildHydrangeas WildHydrangeas 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 26

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    I have been picking for about 25 years. It used to come & go in stages but over the last year, it has gotten very bad. I now pick where it is visible & I have quite a few scars & I...
    shewolf143 shewolf143 51-55 Aug 27

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    My dad was recently diagnosed with MELAS. He is 48 years old. He has been in and out of the hospital due to seizures and what we thought were strokes. He suffers from hearing loss...
    ering08 ering08 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    So here I am. Conversing with strangers on the internet in search for a reason not to blow my brains out. In retrospect, I'm not surprised. I can see the whole sordid chain of...
    Stillnothing Stillnothing 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 5

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    I have had aquagenic pruritus since I was 15. I'm 47 now. For me, it begins to surface at the end of the summer and last through Christmas. And then it abates until the next...
    CFinley123 CFinley123 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    In my early teens around 2000, I created a Myspace account. This man named Chuck added me. Of course I was fine with it because he was into anime and manga and being a young teen I...
    dreaminginjune dreaminginjune 22-25, F a week ago

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    I'm tired of doing this! why can't i stop even though i really want to!!? i'm doing this to my self even though i don't want to do it! It all started when i was 14, i don't know...
    TheTurtleDove TheTurtleDove 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 25

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    Physically and mentally and emotionally as well and I've just gotten out of it and it ended very badly. On top of it all I could be expecting and I had sent him a picture of the...
    Mjkittycass1985 Mjkittycass1985 26-30, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    My sister of twenty years that once dated my biological brother from my mother is now married to my biological brother from my father.. Even tho my mothers son and I don't share...
    KaramelKandi79 KaramelKandi79 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    So here's my Tic story. The earliest i can remember having tics is in middle school, and I'd blink my eyes really hard. Then I remember I would do weird things with my body that...
    littlebeanpie littlebeanpie 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 18

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