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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

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    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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    Slamming The Door

    All my security systems go up. Chains. Locks. Slots. Pin pads. DNA. Voice-recognition. Eye-scan. Blood sample. Fingerprint. Writing font. I shut people out of my life. Sometimes for long. Sometimes only a second. I always do that. If I get hurt, by anyone, I shut out everyone. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    I don't completely shut people out though. I usually just take a step back and let them try to earn the trust back. If it happens too many times then I start getting hurt and the...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 12

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    It's like a trigger goes off in my head... And I completely shut down when I feel I've been wronged or hurt in some way sometimes I don't even realize im doing it's like my heart...
    Forbiddenkisses Forbiddenkisses 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    As many of you know by now, I have an obsessed office stalker. She delights in getting off on my life, either in the office or outside of it. If there's any rumors about me in...
    deepscar deepscar 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 26

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    I shut out everyone whenever I feel like they are going to attack me.
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 26

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    Yep. I shut off from the world to heal and re-coop.
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F Sep 5

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    if someone hurts me and they KEEP BOTHERING ME there going 6ft down in the ground
    TheColorfulDino TheColorfulDino 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    If you've managed to hurt me it's probably because I told you things. So I must've trusted you, and now you broke that trust. I'm not going to ever trust you the same way again I...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    It's so hard to find people that actually care about you and not just about your looks. I really want someone to actually be there for me, flaws and all. So far-no luck.
    KaylaY17 KaylaY17 18-21, F Aug 26

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    This one guy I used to go with cheated on me and I don't trust anymore. I do t even text him anymore, but I might. Should I? I don't know. Anyways yeah
    LakiraC LakiraC 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    My dad is the definition of a dead beat dad. I haven't seen him in a year and 1 months and he doesn't pay child support, doesn't have a license, doesn't own a car, and he doesn't...
    lilbum97 lilbum97 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    And it kills me to think that you never did care.
    emelon12 emelon12 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 10

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    I seen death's face I know it to well I need to talk
    PCOutlaw69 PCOutlaw69 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 12

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    This is definitely an experience I have a lot of experience with. Unfortunately right now my brother is behaving in a way that at the lease can be called predictable at the most...
    missquietriot missquietriot 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    to the world a message my future is unknown i live or die what i learnt currently i am proud i fell in love and i said to her love her she doesnt but i have no regrets...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 5

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    Well okay the guy I like thinks he's a player and he's proud of it. He hates the idea of relationships and thinks that being attached to one women is stupid. Though he hasn't been...
    OtakuGirl911 OtakuGirl911 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    Something just occurred to me. I had thought to ask a question, something along the lines of "Do you like to consider yourself evil? If so, why?" Then it occurred to me that anyone...
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    It's really sad because when your little, you think the world is a wonderful place, where nothing bad can happen to you and everyone will show you kindness. Almost everything...
    Seblett Seblett 13-15, F 4 Responses Sep 6

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    Yea! The "you know who" ruined everything!
    LilHltler LilHltler 13-15, M Sep 5

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    Evils of the real world, let the game begin...
    fauxlady fauxlady 22-25, F Sep 5

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    He posted on his fb wall saying he felt like he didnt have no one in his corner or no one was on his side and I told him the only reason he doesn't have people in his corner is...
    sisi19 sisi19 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    I like to help people out...when they ask a question i feel like i have been in that situation ....if not i wanna be in that situation by hearing them out , that how they ended up...
    dj4u13 dj4u13 18-21, M Sep 4

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    It's hard to explain, but sometimes I just shut down completely emotionally. I don't see it coming it just happens and literally ignore everyone. I go into almost 'autopilot' and...
    youaretheonlyexception youaretheonlyexception 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    It's funny when you're in high school and when u find people like you they don't want to have anything to do with you because they don't feel like your up to their level or they...
    freespirtXoXo freespirtXoXo 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    Sometimes it feels as though there is a disconnect between my outward voice and my inside voice. Maybe because words could never describe certain things and even though you can try...
    wanderquietly wanderquietly 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Ok, so I posted before about how I was terrified of coming out. I finally did it today and so I'm going to tell you guys my coming out story in hope it helps some people. I was 13...
    RainbowsandKittens97 RainbowsandKittens97 16-17, F 4 hrs ago

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    I miss old me... I used to smile .... i used to be happy .... there were lot of people around me . i was the best entertainment ever.... Now they say im sad always...... they...
    iwantutoo iwantutoo 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 23

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    I'm aware that what I'm about to write may get some people mad and it makes me look like a bad person but... I only occasionally talk to this one girl. Lets call her Emma. I...
    blahlahblah599 blahlahblah599 16-17, F Aug 29

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    It's not so much about the destination, it's more our journey. Today I've spoken to someone in a different country. I honestly can say that I have felt I have cried I have laughed...
    sapphirescorpion sapphirescorpion 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 5

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    Idk like I was talking to my boyfriend we were eating and I just felt like he wanted me to shut up. Cause when I was quiet he was looking around and would talk or comment on...
    msmendiola122 msmendiola122 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 12

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    I got into a big fight, and i lost a lot of people i mean my friends are my whole world met they all left me ( some stayed ), i mean i'm afraid now for being myself because we only...
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    When I get frustrated or extremely upset or argue with someone I want to hurt myself. Its mainly when I argue with my close friends and mother. I feel so bad about things I said or...
    kleox7x kleox7x 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 6

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    Why do people love to hurt me so...😢
    ThePorcelainDoll ThePorcelainDoll 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 7

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    I find it more attractive when a guy builds something or puts something together for me and puts some thought into it rather than spending ridiculous amounts of money extravagant...
    tsumakov tsumakov 26-30, F Aug 27

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    this is a homage of respect and a rememberance to all the truly good people out there that sacrificed their lives and died for all that is honorable in this world. this is posted...
    stacylynn7 stacylynn7 18-21, T Sep 11

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    Don't you hate when someone interrupts you, ignores your commentary, doesn't even smile at your jokes, or quietly sits there judging you and making snap assumptions? Yeah, me too...
    EngulfingBreeze EngulfingBreeze 22-25, F Aug 28

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    It's really hard for me to meet new people sometimes. When I'm behind the screen, it's much easier. I'm basically talking to my phone. But when I'm out in the real world, I'm...
    Barakaflacka Barakaflacka 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 7

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    Please tell me what do you get out of it????? If you have real life issues with meeting people and what they think of you that I can understand but if you make a fake profile to...
    SonoftheDark SonoftheDark 18-21, M 6 days ago

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    Often when I get upset over something my few friends will ask me what's wrong... My usual replies are go away or I just keep on walking. You can tell when I'm about to loose it...
    Lilwillbe Lilwillbe 13-15, F Aug 25

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    Within the first week of our relationship my ex-boyfriend said to me "if you're going to be with me you aren't going to have time for anyone but me." This was a red flag to me, but...
    amazingcuzitis amazingcuzitis 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    All I basically want to do in life is just travel, travel like a homeless guy. Just carrying a small backpack with a knife, my passport, and some water. And Im gonna be those...
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