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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 323 People

    StubbornTiger StubbornTiger 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 21, 2015

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    cashetty69 cashetty69 51-55, M Aug 25, 2015

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    Idk why! It's just something I do.

    The people closest to me I tend to push away for no real reason. I guess it's just a defense mechanism... Anyway it would be really nice to talk to someone. Anyone really. Just a stranger who can carry on a decent conversation. Message me please :)
    SkinnyDepression SkinnyDepression 22-25, F Dec 5, 2014

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    People don't understand I shut u out

    when I'm depressed because I'll end up hurting u to
    parso16 parso16 18-21, M Jun 3, 2015

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    the most simple thing in the world

    for me to do is cut someone out of my life when I'm hurt. second chances? I don't think so
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F Dec 6, 2014

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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    What the hell is wrong with some people I say

    hello to them & they block me I need friends but no one wants to talk to me
    parso16 parso16 18-21, M Jun 12, 2015

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    I don't need ppl like

    that in my life
    DTFgurl DTFgurl 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2015

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    Closed.

    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    Micheael Micheael 26-30, M 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    OddButResilient OddButResilient 46-50, M 2 days ago

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    SadlySafe SadlySafe 13-15, F Feb 3

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    Even with very little to no friends I still feel alone. in truth when a person has spent so many years in isolation as I have you would tend to feel alone. it's how I feel now...
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    It's a bad habit, ever since I lost someone who meant the world to me. I hated the fact that I hurt, I hated that I couldn't control my emotion so for a while I became numb. still...
    SarahWishfulJane SarahWishfulJane 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    sometimes i think tht wht iz our life?nd many people dnt know meaning of our life..we have just 60-100 years for living this one life.after tht we all hav to die...so we should...
    Nowshin Nowshin 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    Being naked outdoors when weather and situation permits is one of the things that I love the most. feeling the elements directly on my skin is soooo nice.
    niceskip niceskip 46-50, M Feb 2

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    I am often naked outdoors when weather and situation permits. Nighttime can be a thrill since you loose control of the area around you. Unable to control you environment and the...
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