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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

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    Slamming The Door

    All my security systems go up. Chains. Locks. Slots. Pin pads. DNA. Voice-recognition. Eye-scan. Blood sample. Fingerprint. Writing font. I shut people out of my life. Sometimes for long. Sometimes only a second. I always do that. If I get hurt, by anyone, I shut out everyone. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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    Closed.

    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    I shut myself out in general. I'm socially awkward, and really trusting. I let people get into my heart, just to rip it in the end. I don't HATE people, I just worry that either A...
    evie2001 evie2001 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    Dear Friend - I wish I could say this to your face, but I'm really hurt by the way you treated me.... And I think I'm done. I've been helpful and friendly every time you've...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I always try and learn from my experiences! And I'm proud of how far I have come and how many things I've had to go through at such a young age! I am very aware of things now in...
    AnOtHaJaZzYDrEaMeR AnOtHaJaZzYDrEaMeR 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    No reason to keep someone around that makes me suffer, actual betrayal.. not 'you look weird in that hat' kinda hurt because you love that hat lol
    khewster khewster 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 24

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    Normally, I am tolerant & forgiving of people's mistakes; it depends what they have done to me. If they make a simple error or accident, then it is no big deal; however, if they...
    s4019t s4019t 26-30, M Oct 9

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    Many times I get the impression people here are actually writing to their loved ones. To the ones they lost. Anyway... sometimes it is important for us to protect ourselves, right...
    Ankokushin Ankokushin 26-30, M a week ago

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    Any Indian is there...?I am feeling lonely...
    afzalhu afzalhu 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    I don't trust anyone and never will. I've been kicked around my entire life. I don't let people in therefore nobody can ever walk out. So I keep myself locked up as right as I can...
    Azuleyes Azuleyes 13-15, F Oct 4

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    Why are people so quick to assume. U should ask and learn of a persons situation before runnin their mouth to others especially at work. This putts a person in hot water or pigeon...
    ridge76 ridge76 22-25, M 6 days ago

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    I went on an experiment a few years ago and actually cut everyone out from my life, one person at a time. The toxic ones left first, the less toxic ones later, and the ones who...
    cereszal cereszal 26-30, F 15 hrs ago

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    Everyone eventually ends up screwing me over but if I'm alone I'll never get hurt.
    sammylynn333 sammylynn333 16-17, F 1 hr ago

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    I will eat your heart So be careful. It won't hurt until I'm done. I'll leave your open chest exposed and bleeding. I might be back for more... But probably not. Your soul...
    thebeautifulprincess thebeautifulprincess 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    Unless its in self defense... I don't like it one bit... Especially people who hang their pelts or use them as rugs... It makes me sick...
    naco26withcheese naco26withcheese 13-15, M 1 Response Oct 11

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    I have always had issues, so I tend to close my eyes on people who could very well even have turned out to be good friends. I'm trying to change this so bad.
    kiddishguy kiddishguy 26-30, M 8 hrs ago

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    I like to think that I'm a loyal person...but I know I'm not. I constantly go through a large amount of friends, and slowly...one by one...I don't talk to them or hang out with...
    lovedownunder lovedownunder 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Always manage to if I want to, keeps people away without directly saying to their faces "HEY F*** OFF". And it also gives you a good laugh, especially if they intrude on your...
    SugarAndStrawberries SugarAndStrawberries 13-15 1 Response Oct 8

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    It's the only way to keep my peace of mind. If you're not bringing positivity, enriching, uplifting or edifying my life in someway.. I will pray for you and then I will cut you out...
    maktub1 maktub1 26-30, F 5 hrs ago

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    http://self-love-u.blogspot.com/2013/02/100-traits-of-toxic-person.html
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Choices - chances - changes... I must make a choice to take a chance, or else my life will never change.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Only if they are a bad influence and get you into bad situations! You can't progress in life with friends around you like that, I'm 19 and had learnt that by the age of 16.
    Dappernesss Dappernesss 18-21, M 11 hrs ago

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    That would be one of my creepy boy friends which i dated before i knew i was a lesbian UGHGHGHG they hate me now but i moved
    Kitry Kitry 13-15, F 8 hrs ago

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    I believe in 2 chances . "Rollercoasters ain't fun after the second time that you ride 'em"
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    however I cried because I knew I had been naughty and that I was going to get punished
    atrees atrees 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 2

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    I've somehow become so good at shutting people out, never letting anyone see the real me, that I don't even know who she is anymore.
    Calsi704 Calsi704 18-21, F Oct 8

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    There was this guy I was dating he was sweet and nice very understanding , he helped me with my depression in the beginning I didn't want to burden him I told him to leave me . He...
    fiestychica fiestychica 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    I hate people. I don't want to work with them nor do I like to talk to them like some people who like to talk to anybody and everybody about anything. And when I try to make...
    Princessinmind Princessinmind 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I just don't understand. I try hard to fit in, not to change, but to find a group of people like me or to root myself in a group that I like at least. It just doesn't work. I dont...
    KillerInBlood KillerInBlood 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 2

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    I found out how much I've isolated myself from others due to my recent issues where my partner of 6 years moved out im not sure if we can work things out he tells me we can but it...
    heather81 heather81 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 30

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    All people ever do is judge me. Im picky about my friends at school and kids im not friends with who I have never spoken to call me sl-ut and attention seeker and cocky and stuff...
    QuinnMac12 QuinnMac12 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 5

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    The story of my life. I push people away to protect myself ..it may seem selfish but getting hurt has taught me a lot of lessons . Now , you would think those lessons would have...
    EricTheHooper EricTheHooper 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 23

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    My boyfriends parents don't like me. How do I know that ? They used to tell me all the time that they love me and they were always checking on me to see how I am.. Well recently...
    sophiajuststop sophiajuststop 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 27

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    I don't really go into a shut down though. When im yelled at I seem to go into a "whatever" State and I just don't listen to anything that person says until I've cooled down. And...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 2

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    Who in the hell am I is my question? I don't know why I always think that someone else can tell me or to figure it out for me. I was a people pleaser when I was a kid...well into...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F Oct 10

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    I don't feel appreciated by people I'm hurt and and sad treat people with respect I am having no respect by people
    missedyouso missedyouso 18-21, F Sep 27

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    I was in therapy for many years in junior high and high school. I had some serious issues around isolation and loneliness. I was depressed, horribly bullied, and miserable. Fat and...
    incorporealist incorporealist 36-40, M Sep 28

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    Yep, here I go again. Just like in high school but probably worse this time because I have no one to force me to eat or to go to class or practice. It's just me now. Which really...
    looee looee 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 24

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    I don't really hate stupid people. Not anymore. They just don't know any better. Seriously. But there are times... What ****** me off is that stupid people can camouflage as...
    Gr8nsaw8S Gr8nsaw8S 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 5

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    The mood was expectantly somber as I walked into the lobby of the funeral home. I nodded silently to my long time friend and Battalion Chief Larry. We’d come to pay our last...
    Adventurousattimes Adventurousattimes 56-60, M 2 Responses Oct 7

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    I'll be 23 at the end of this year. Apparently I'm behind in my family & other people eyes who know me. Before I graduated from highschool I had to help my parents out when nobody...
    DaCreativeChild DaCreativeChild 22-25, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    I don't even always mean too. But if I'm sitting in class and the teacher gives us free time I'll sit at my desk and just kind of watch what goes on. I'm more of an observer than a...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 4 Responses Sep 29

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    I am sort of reclusive. I live alone, and I do not really like going places. I prefer security & shelter over going out & being social. I have always been this way, even growing...
    s4019t s4019t 26-30, M 4 Responses Oct 3

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    I've found that I can get a "fake high" from some pieces of music. I've even found that if i play some specific songs in a specific order I get a numb/paralyzed feeling around my...
    Highlander32 Highlander32 31-35, M 3 days ago

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