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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

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    the most simple thing in the world

    for me to do is cut someone out of my life when I'm hurt. second chances? I don't think so
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F Dec 6, 2014

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    Idk why! It's just something I do.

    The people closest to me I tend to push away for no real reason. I guess it's just a defense mechanism... Anyway it would be really nice to talk to someone. Anyone really. Just a stranger who can carry on a decent conversation. Message me please :)
    SkinnyDepression SkinnyDepression 22-25, F Dec 5, 2014

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    Slamming The Door

    All my security systems go up. Chains. Locks. Slots. Pin pads. DNA. Voice-recognition. Eye-scan. Blood sample. Fingerprint. Writing font. I shut people out of my life. Sometimes for long. Sometimes only a second. I always do that. If I get hurt, by anyone, I shut out everyone. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Closed.

    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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