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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    Slamming The Door

    All my security systems go up. Chains. Locks. Slots. Pin pads. DNA. Voice-recognition. Eye-scan. Blood sample. Fingerprint. Writing font. I shut people out of my life. Sometimes for long. Sometimes only a second. I always do that. If I get hurt, by anyone, I shut out everyone. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Closed.

    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    I had to shut out two people in my life because they hurt me so much
    andreaespe andreaespe 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    you hurt me deeply b.itch, ur f.ucking words touched me.dont do that again gobshit.ı say this whn they hurt me :/
    idunnowhttodo idunnowhttodo 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    I remember the "Circle of Trust" discussions in a Ben Stiller comedy movie - De Nero tells Stiller he's found himself "outside the Circle of Trust". I laughed so hard at that...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F Aug 10

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    It hurts you know, that you shove me in the corner. One day you'll look back and I won't be there. I hope that day comes soon, I'm sick of being your after thought, your last...
    isacake isacake 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    I tend to but then i get called immature and i just don't know
    jesikahluv jesikahluv 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    As soon as we enter this cruel world we are fed ideas and images about morals, codes and standards. Through the media and those influential persons present in our lives, we are...
    jasiilovely jasiilovely 22-25, F Jul 29

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    Not the easiest thing in the world to do, but most certainly the best decision I have made. The first, my ex. I gave him over a year of my life, miscarried his child, and was to be...
    JaidIsAWildflower JaidIsAWildflower 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    A few nights ago I cut all but four people out of my life. It was so hard. I'm just so tired of dealing with people that are pointless to talk to. The hardest part is afterwards...
    Robin1226 Robin1226 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    There are people in my life that I can't open up to, mostly because they don't care, or because it would only please them to know that I have problems. So EP is just a way for me...
    NicoBunny6 NicoBunny6 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I cant put some people out of my head whom I loved n cared but didnt love n care me back..
    nixf1 nixf1 22-25, F Jul 25

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    It's hard to see someone I love so much be hurt, or hurt themselves. I'm here for them, I wish that they could understand that I wouldn't give up on them. It tears me apart inside...
    Bluetoxicity Bluetoxicity 18-21, F Aug 3

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    Letting go of hurtful people doesn´t mean you hate them...it just means you love yourself...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    So, I'm a very skiddish person. I don't leave the house much. I work from home. I just don't do well with much social interaction. I'd love to travel the world but I'm just so...
    theallknowing theallknowing 61-65, M 1 Response Jul 26

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    I hate when a certain person does things to make everyone else look bad. This person likes to not do things and then when others are around make it look like you were the one...
    Thokgirl82 Thokgirl82 31-35, F Aug 1

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    They are scum. The caretaker here at the club claim fits. He does wrong. I report him. He does more wrong and says i lie. Scummy liar. Despise him so much...
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 3 days ago

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    Someine tell me why i do this to I don't know why I do it but I've pushed away pretty much everyone who was ever there for me now and I don't know why because it hurts them...
    AmberFenning AmberFenning 13-15, F 1 day ago

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    I am indeed, once i've been hurt by someone i become an emotionless rock to that person, i won't give a sh*t what they say or do, an will continue to feel that way unless said...
    Anth9012 Anth9012 22-25, M Aug 8

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    A lot of times I cant help but wonder if she is being genuinely nice, or if she is into me. Asking would only make things awkward if our purpose is not on the same page. so thats...
    mark245pineappl mark245pineappl 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 29

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    Yeah what's up with the world nowadays ??
    srilada srilada 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Those sick bastards just **** me of
    killerinstinke killerinstinke 13-15, F Aug 1

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    Yeeeaaah...I'm pretty mean...sorry.
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Aug 5

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    http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Nv5azh4WAO8 Greatly appreciate feedback..music is my escape.
    heatherm10 heatherm10 16-17, F Jul 23

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    Put an awkward comment in my group of classmates in social media group , to highlight our awkwardness "i said the monkey ppl group" however in the past in school I have mostly kept...
    Outlookingtheworld Outlookingtheworld 26-30, M Jul 30

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    Are there obvious signs that a girl is interested in me (a girl)? Maybe I'm a total ignorant or just too shy ...
    JuliaMP JuliaMP 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    if my phone isn't fully charged I'll flip
    ashleysokolik ashleysokolik 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    I charge my phone or we dont go. I got a portable charger
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    I had to run a time-sensitive errand, while riding the bus. My phone died on the way. :( Good thing I had a book. Their batteries never die! ;)
    SterlingHeart SterlingHeart 31-35, M Aug 12

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    The older i get the worse it gets. I always kept telling myself it would get better with age. Well it hasn't. There was this girl that i always had the biggest crush on since...
    SuperCracker78 SuperCracker78 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    When you are hurting, there will always be people who find a way to make it about themselves. If you break your wrist, they’ll complain about a sprained ankle. If you are sad...
    HaruhiOnAQuest HaruhiOnAQuest 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    I hate letting people know when they've hurt me..I don't want to show them my weaker side I would rather walk away for good and shut the door behind me than offer an explanation
    StoneWall77 StoneWall77 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 30

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    I do enjoy being at home as no one stare at me while walk at streets. I have an issue lately which is feeling insecure while going anywhere. I do used to get out a lot and talk...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M Jul 31

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    A SERIOUS MATTER NOT WORTH JOKING AROUND! It’s easy to see a person so bubbly, energetic, humorous and alive, thinking ‘wow that person has it all, a great life’ maybe they...
    imperfectedsoul imperfectedsoul 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    I figure I'll shut them out before they have a chance to bring me down. So that way I'll spare myself more worries and drama. I can recall a few times in my life when people tried...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    I just hate it when people at school joke about people being autistic and a downie.. It's not funny it hurts peoples feelings and how do you know if that person isn't best friends...
    NobodyCaresOkai NobodyCaresOkai 13-15, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    I asked myself that question before. But now I know why. And it's based on many factors. Perhaps it's just how they are? Maybe they're trying to protect themselves from harm by...
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    It's a weird feeling to feel obligated to help someone. I don't know why I feel that way but I do. It's not as simple as saying I see someone and want to help them. No it's a...
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21 Jul 31

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    All I basically want to do in life is just travel, travel like a homeless guy. Just carrying a small backpack with a knife, my passport, and some water. And Im gonna be those...
    adguez adguez 13-15, M 7 hrs ago

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    Everyone would like to have friendships for a lifetime. Genuine friendships and relationships, But unfortunely people change, you hurt people, they hurt you and things are never...
    strawberry38 strawberry38 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    You try to hurt all these people who have hurt you. You end up hurting yourself the most. I'm sorry to myself. I've been working on being a better person and righting all the wrong...
    skybaby0 skybaby0 18-21 Aug 3

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