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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Idk why! It's just something I do.

    The people closest to me I tend to push away for no real reason. I guess it's just a defense mechanism... Anyway it would be really nice to talk to someone. Anyone really. Just a stranger who can carry on a decent conversation. Message me please :)
    SkinnyDepression SkinnyDepression 22-25, F Dec 5, 2014

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    Slamming The Door

    All my security systems go up. Chains. Locks. Slots. Pin pads. DNA. Voice-recognition. Eye-scan. Blood sample. Fingerprint. Writing font. I shut people out of my life. Sometimes for long. Sometimes only a second. I always do that. If I get hurt, by anyone, I shut out everyone. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Closed.

    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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    the most simple thing in the world

    for me to do is cut someone out of my life when I'm hurt. second chances? I don't think so
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F Dec 6, 2014

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    I have been debating this for the last few days... just so confused. do I shut them out or do I hang on for dear life. it's going to get me hurt in the end. I can feel it coming. I...
    mrsskayl mrsskayl 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Strike one, I take some time, we're ok. Strike two, I shut you out for a while then we're okay once you've earned my trust. Strike three... You're out biatch!
    Ennah Ennah 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 14

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    This is something that has come with age for me, and I wasn't always like this with people. Unfortunately, I was hurt one too many times and refuse to let it happen so easily. I...
    grumpykittie13 grumpykittie13 31-35, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    This is generally the reason I do not let anyone within arm's distance to me, in regards to who I am on the inside. My facade is made up of walls. No outward projection of who I...
    AScarletDream AScarletDream 22-25, T Apr 8

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    I know I do this a lot. I'll ignore group conversations, I'll be by myself, I'll talk less, I'll be having my earphones in all the time, I'll be lost in my thoughts and I'll be...
    CloeSmile CloeSmile 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    It's my defense mechanism. Keep them from hurting me again.
    astrokitty4341 astrokitty4341 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    If I feel you're rejecting me, I will reject you first.....
    throwawaychild throwawaychild 46-50, M Apr 10

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    Quicker now. After heart attacks. And too much pain. From moronically abusive bipeds. Who sold their humanity. For power to be jerks.
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M Apr 11

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    I am a new member. I chat with someone.
    babakamiri1368 babakamiri1368 22-25, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I learned something since my last post in Jan. Cutting people out of your life and letting them go are very different. Same effect just different ways of going about it
    ChangingFaces5 ChangingFaces5 26-30 13 hrs ago

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    Why is it that HURT people, HURT people? Is it all that they know HOW to do is HURT others.....simply because they are hurting. It is because they were never truly taught HOW to...
    Tr3asur3dLuv Tr3asur3dLuv 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 22

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    All my dad's family are toxic. I am not sure why but in the end it only makes me sad that they live like this. It's all they know, to be filled with such limited experiences and...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Whenever i feel neglected and feel like the other person is not interested in being my friend or my partner.. I cut them out of my life completely without even saying goodbye not...
    leen94 leen94 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 23

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    I do .. my rule is If u r not part of my happiness u r not part of my life. If u used to be but not anymore I won't histate to kick u out of my life. I cut all ties wth my friend...
    candles700 candles700 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Only people that deserve it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 23

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    Question... Do my wife's co-cheaters wives deserve to know their husband are cheating on them? Should I be the one to tell them?
    Jerkules Jerkules 36-40 1 Response a week ago

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    I made dens in woods played with air soft and nurf guns. We had water fights in the summer such good days.
    sroonaka616 sroonaka616 18-21 1 day ago

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    not sure why I'm awake right now. I mean, it's 10am and stuff, but it's not like I have a life or anything to do. I found out some news that has me in tears. literally bawling...
    lizygurl lizygurl 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    People who got hurt are not weak. It just happened with them. I always thought I was emotionally strong till I hit rock bottom. I was so unaware of how being hurt feel. Now , I...
    Somexyz Somexyz 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 22

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    some people need to keep there mouth shut I hate when people try to get in to your relationship but out
    cam2169 cam2169 13-15, M a week ago

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    Yeah so I used to just pretty much shut down completely when I'm really upset about something. I didn't talk, I didn't socialize I just existed..... And then he came along and he's...
    FireQueen10 FireQueen10 22-25, F Apr 16

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    I hate how people just assume they know whats best for you, when they know nothing about you...they've never walked a day in your shoes, their life hasn't been turmoil nor have...
    Starvin9Artist1 Starvin9Artist1 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 20

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    I hate this so much, I hate that I was told this by numerous people who have done nothing but hurt me and I hate myself for believing such a thing. When I was younger I would look...
    MeaninglessMemories MeaninglessMemories 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 24

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    So selective in-fact, that I've got no one close and everyone far away. It gets tiring being alone. Oh woe is me. :p Maybe I should try harder to change my status of "alone and...
    ambivalentFriability ambivalentFriability 18-21 Apr 7

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    And that is something that many people lack in the world. Acceptance. (I may say "you" or "your" but don't take it too personally, I was just speaking in general throughout this...
    WrongPage WrongPage 18-21, F 11 Responses Apr 28

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    The conceptional myth that love hurts, do you believe it does? The truth is, love is just like any emotion that we feel except that we can have it positively or negatively...
    RestlessFlame RestlessFlame 18-21, F Apr 13

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    just a normal relationship, two people struggling in a world that was made for pure happiness. I sit and I wonder why I get so mad, so upset. and I know he does. we don't have a...
    zgirl694 zgirl694 18-21, F a week ago

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    Something from my past has recently come up, in a way. Just recently a friend of mine went through a very similar situation as I did when I was 12. In 2009, I found my older...
    gummball gummball 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 9

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    I don't know why I thought random strangers would care... People who tell me they love me don't give a ****... Why bother reaching out when no one is even there. My heart is broken...
    TreZ1 TreZ1 26-30, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    I dropped out of college Pour yourself a cup of coffee or tea to prepare yourself for my past experience. Honestly I had no other choice nor any help. I guess you may say that I...
    Msprissy Msprissy 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I put others needs in front of mine. I don't like seeing people who are hurt. So I try to help as much as I can.
    randomart4lives randomart4lives 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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    So last night, me and my boyfriend were hanging out. It was so perfect. He made me dinner, we went to Hastings to get a movie to watch...and then this happens -.- We're walking...
    xprncemore xprncemore 22-25, F Apr 24

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    This is people in general. There seems to be a real lapse in how people behave towards each other. Almost as if we don't know how to act towards each other anyway. No manners...
    smileymostly smileymostly 36-40, F Apr 28

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    To everyone who feels not accepted, don't feel so down. Because usually, the ones who care more and living with a broken heart, you are the ones who will be rejected and hatred...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 13

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    This is for all EP subscribers or people just curious, in the past some of my posts have either inspired, interested, or actually helped people out with their own problems and...
    FainofHearts FainofHearts 22-25, M Apr 23

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