I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 323 People

    the most simple thing in the world

    for me to do is cut someone out of my life when I'm hurt. second chances? I don't think so
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    Dec 6, 2014

    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious
    16-17, F
    Jun 8, 2012

    People don't understand I shut u out

    when I'm depressed because I'll end up hurting u to
    parso16 parso16
    18-21, M
    Jun 3, 2015

    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis
    26-30, M
    1 Response Feb 1, 2010

    What the hell is wrong with some people I say

    hello to them & they block me I need friends but no one wants to talk to me
    parso16 parso16
    18-21, M
    Jun 12, 2015

    Idk why! It's just something I do.

    The people closest to me I tend to push away for no real reason. I guess it's just a defense mechanism... Anyway it would be really nice to talk to someone. Anyone really. Just a stranger who can carry on a decent conversation. Message me please :)
    SkinnyDepression SkinnyDepression
    22-25, F
    Dec 5, 2014
    cashetty69 cashetty69
    51-55, M
    Aug 25, 2015

    Closed.

    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie
    22-25, F
    Jun 5, 2009

    I don't need ppl like

    that in my life
    DTFgurl DTFgurl
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 15, 2015

    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather
    61-65, M
    1 Response Jan 28, 2009
    StubbornTiger StubbornTiger
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Aug 21, 2015

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