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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

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    the most simple thing in the world

    for me to do is cut someone out of my life when I'm hurt. second chances? I don't think so
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F Dec 6, 2014

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    Slamming The Door

    All my security systems go up. Chains. Locks. Slots. Pin pads. DNA. Voice-recognition. Eye-scan. Blood sample. Fingerprint. Writing font. I shut people out of my life. Sometimes for long. Sometimes only a second. I always do that. If I get hurt, by anyone, I shut out everyone. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    Idk why! It's just something I do.

    The people closest to me I tend to push away for no real reason. I guess it's just a defense mechanism... Anyway it would be really nice to talk to someone. Anyone really. Just a stranger who can carry on a decent conversation. Message me please :)
    SkinnyDepression SkinnyDepression 22-25, F Dec 5, 2014

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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    Closed.

    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    I have been debating this for the last few days... just so confused. do I shut them out or do I hang on for dear life. it's going to get me hurt in the end. I can feel it coming. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 4

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    My friends completely ditched me. They treat(ed) me like I'm dirt. I feel like I am done trusting people. I don't want to let anyone back in. That's why I've been shutting out all...
    brokenheartsx brokenheartsx 13-15, F May 13

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    This is something that has come with age for me, and I wasn't always like this with people. Unfortunately, I was hurt one too many times and refuse to let it happen so easily. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 4

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    I know I do this a lot. I'll ignore group conversations, I'll be by myself, I'll talk less, I'll be having my earphones in all the time, I'll be lost in my thoughts and I'll be...
    CloeSmile CloeSmile 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    I am a new member. I chat with someone.
    babakamiri1368 babakamiri1368 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 30

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    I put up a wall between us, that way there words can not affect me anymore. although they look at me as being a *****.
    crazy4love crazy4love 22-25, F May 11

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    I learned something since my last post in Jan. Cutting people out of your life and letting them go are very different. Same effect just different ways of going about it
    ChangingFaces5 ChangingFaces5 26-30 May 6

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    Why is it that HURT people, HURT people? Is it all that they know HOW to do is HURT others.....simply because they are hurting. It is because they were never truly taught HOW to...
    Tr3asur3dLuv Tr3asur3dLuv 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 22

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    All my dad's family are toxic. I am not sure why but in the end it only makes me sad that they live like this. It's all they know, to be filled with such limited experiences and...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 1 Response May 5

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    Whenever i feel neglected and feel like the other person is not interested in being my friend or my partner.. I cut them out of my life completely without even saying goodbye not...
    leen94 leen94 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 23

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    I do .. my rule is If u r not part of my happiness u r not part of my life. If u used to be but not anymore I won't histate to kick u out of my life. I cut all ties wth my friend...
    candles700 candles700 22-25, F 1 Response May 4

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    I really must.......but its when they inSINUATE ( put themselves INTO my life > withOUT any desire on my part that they be there ) that makes it really hard ( I got a HUGE dose of...
    cashetty69 cashetty69 51-55, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    That is so true. In real life and online. I have a very short fuse when it comes to downing me, calling me names, or anything just to make your point. I will block you if you do...
    RealmRunner RealmRunner 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    Only people that deserve it.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 23

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    I rather be alone than being with toxic people.
    Shansai84 Shansai84 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Whatever happened to music like Motown? These "performers" have NOTHING on The Supremes and The Temptations. The women today who are "success" dress trashy, dirty mouths and nasty...
    mom4ce mom4ce 51-55, F 1 Response May 7

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    I sing out loud a lot when I'm alone. I sometimes sing covers, and I sometimes sing my own songs.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 2 Responses May 8

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    I hate when I can't help but cry because f a spanking, and hate it even more when I can't stop crying afterwards and even more when there's someone around
    CoDa83 CoDa83 16-17, M 1 Response May 13

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    Only when I'm alone because I'm so bad lol... It's amazing, hairbrush in hand, hair flipping, all of it.
    CallMeShy CallMeShy 16-17, F 3 days ago

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    Question... Do my wife's co-cheaters wives deserve to know their husband are cheating on them? Should I be the one to tell them?
    Jerkules Jerkules 36-40 2 Responses Apr 29

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    I hate everyone of my family members. I hate my father for he is self centered , dominating, abusive, manipulative and cunning. I hate my mother for she is illiterate, shallow...
    ithinkithink ithinkithink 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I've learned my lesson, but my only problem is that I see the good in everyone more than the bad side.
    SymphonyChild SymphonyChild 13-15, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am in love still with an ex boyfriend. We were together for 3 years and broken up for a year. I love him to death but there is one thing that is toxic to me and that is his " ego...
    smiles212 smiles212 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I made dens in woods played with air soft and nurf guns. We had water fights in the summer such good days.
    sroonaka616 sroonaka616 18-21 May 5

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    Valerie by Steve Winwood all. The. Feckin. Time.
    hedothabide hedothabide 31-35, M 1 Response May 7

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    If it's by P!nk, I'm singing it!! I love "Raise Your Glass." It's best heard (and sung) while it blasting in the car with the windows down going 75mph on the Interstate.
    CurvesandClass CurvesandClass 41-45, F 3 Responses May 8

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    It's pretty epic. Hair whipping definitely happens.
    Fearlesslyable Fearlesslyable 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Stigma I really don't get stigma. It makes no sense to me. When I learnt about racism at school in first grade, I was like "That makes no sense. It'd be like if you treated people...
    kiarrafire kiarrafire 18-21, F 1 Response May 7

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    People are gonna hurt you. Its gonna make you feel like **** and chances are you'll face that pain all by yourself
    alyssakayart alyssakayart 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    not sure why I'm awake right now. I mean, it's 10am and stuff, but it's not like I have a life or anything to do. I found out some news that has me in tears. literally bawling...
    lizygurl lizygurl 18-21, F May 5

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    Anyone I get close to or involve myself with I feel like I bother them. I try to be as strong as I can and carry others the best I can. No matter what I'm going through. Its really...
    KiraRawr KiraRawr 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    People who got hurt are not weak. It just happened with them. I always thought I was emotionally strong till I hit rock bottom. I was so unaware of how being hurt feel. Now , I...
    Somexyz Somexyz 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 22

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    some people need to keep there mouth shut I hate when people try to get in to your relationship but out
    cam2169 cam2169 13-15, M Apr 29

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    Not only do I get such joy from helping another to feel theirs. But, I would very much like to share this 1 moment of mine right now. Simply to right my most sincere thank you...
    magnum64 magnum64 46-50, M 11 hrs ago

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    I hate this so much, I hate that I was told this by numerous people who have done nothing but hurt me and I hate myself for believing such a thing. When I was younger I would look...
    MeaninglessMemories MeaninglessMemories 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 24

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