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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

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    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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    Slamming The Door

    All my security systems go up. Chains. Locks. Slots. Pin pads. DNA. Voice-recognition. Eye-scan. Blood sample. Fingerprint. Writing font. I shut people out of my life. Sometimes for long. Sometimes only a second. I always do that. If I get hurt, by anyone, I shut out everyone. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Even you. I shut people out when they hurt me. It is how I manage to keep my head above water despite the chaos left in our wake. First was my mother. I shut her out at quite a...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    I only shut people out when Im scared I case I take my anger out on them
    nickigirl525 nickigirl525 13-15, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I should stop shuting people out at sone point i will have no friends. I am on the point of turning into a ricer of tears. And i just say i'm ok. I hurt myself by shuting others...
    DCK1309 DCK1309 13-15, M 2 days ago

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    I shut them all out!!.. I will never let them ever get close to me or the people that they associate with to get close to me too .. Im so sick of thur sorrys & yet they choose to...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 8

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    After going through so much as a child and being hurt so many times I have learned to create barriers when people hurt me. I wish that wasn't the case. I tried so hard to be a...
    Morenita79 Morenita79 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 26

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    I shut out a lot of people, mainly because they're the reason why I'm like this.. They keep breaking the walls, I keep building higher ones. I've hidden myself for so long, no one...
    PureLies PureLies 13-15, F Nov 5

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    I'm just done even on ep. I always get hurt even before I say anything. I can admit feelings for a girl, they block me. I can say hi to a guy and they hate me. I can have crushes...
    luischimbo luischimbo 16-17, M 8 Responses Nov 16

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    Most often my reaction to getting hurt or being dissatisfied is 'cutting my losses' and moving forward with life. The truth is, however that I am not cutting out losses in my life...
    CarlyOnline CarlyOnline 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 10

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    It is a reflex. I guess after years of people being ****** to me, and me just taking it, forgiving them again and again, I have developed away to stop myself from being that person...
    JE1158 JE1158 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 2

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    Iv been hurt so much just takes a pinch to get me in block world mode
    1kingdarkness 1kingdarkness 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 15

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    And that's that. Trust is the only indicator to me of actual friendship. If you hurt me, I can't trust you. You will only ever be an acquaintance after that at best. You'll think...
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 17

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    Like today. I found out my ex spent $15 on our sons 10th birthday and he's the one with all the money. I bought him $45 worth for his birthday. And my ex ******* at me because I...
    Kristat Kristat 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 10

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    Today I saw him in the same car he used to take me to the beach, the first man who made me feel beautiful, wanted, appreciated, worthy and that I deserved to be loved. But he wasn...
    almasolitaria312 almasolitaria312 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 18

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    why should I bother with them anymore, when it's obvious they didn't care about my feelings?
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 8

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    I have walls, they're really big walls. Only one person can get through them.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 4

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    Today I saw some faces from the past (more like junior high school of HELL) at my school and I heard that they were looking for me to patch things up. So I spent the whole day...
    johannesc4 johannesc4 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 8

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    Sometimes the deeper & longer the history, the greater the pain. One of my best friends "unfriended" me on Facebook after we started working together because she didn't want to...
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 17

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    I have the most smartass attitude and I am cold, and confronting, I don't let people in, I don't know when this started (I am 13)people see me as something 'dangerous' and 'not to...
    sarahodonnell sarahodonnell 13-15, F Nov 4

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    I feel I've cut people out so much that I find it extremely stressful and uncomfortable to eat dinner at the table with my family!! And especially when there is no conversation and...
    catho catho 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 31

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    I sing my heart out when no one is around lol but I also sing when people are around, you just can't help it when its a good song.
    Lai96 Lai96 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Toxic people: exes, exes... Oh and EXES! You can never EVER be friends with someone you've been romantically involved with, it doesn't work. Trust me, all you end up doing is...
    Jenezebel Jenezebel 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    I cannot say no and I lure everyone in, but then I become afraid, afraid of being close, afraid of hurting and being hurt. And so I cut them out. I become numb to them and I build...
    InsanityIsTheButterflysDrug InsanityIsTheButterflysDrug 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I've been involved in a lot of musical theatre work and I've no problem singing on stage as a character but I can't sing in front of people as just myself.. But I love to sing...
    LisaMannion LisaMannion 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    After the election, I saw some extremely bigoted and racist things said against Tim Scott and Mia Love after they won their elections. Only reason people can't stand them is...
    jmmoosey jmmoosey 31-35, M Nov 8

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    When I say I no longer want you to contact me- I mean it !! Pleading your case only makes you look worse and gives me more reasons I don't want you in my life
    74karma 74karma 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 17

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    ....Not gonna lie, sometimes people being around doesn't stop me..
    ThisGirlLovesNerds12 ThisGirlLovesNerds12 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    Well since my singing voice is horrible, I can't do it in front of other people, thus I do this :P :D
    MissGorgeous MissGorgeous 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I had to cut my mom & my sisters out of my life bc they aren't supportive & being very negative! They think they're better than me & never do wrong! I worked, I don't do drugs, I...
    ncsweetfem ncsweetfem 36-40, F Nov 18

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    It makes eveything better.I don't care who originally sings the song when I'm alone I OWN that song!
    irreelevance irreelevance 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I like singing and dancing when nobody around. I can't dance. If you ever saw me dancing. You probably laugh or shake your head
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Love singing out on the street!
    splitrattan splitrattan 22-25 3 days ago

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    Is anyone else like this, or am I awful? this rarely happens but still, my body does something strange.
    SecretWraith SecretWraith 18-21, F Nov 14

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    Even some gays and lesbians I see on here are intolerant bigots.
    jmmoosey jmmoosey 31-35, M Nov 8

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    Nah… I just cut my hair. It's what works for me, and I don't worry about the other.
    andthislittlepiggy andthislittlepiggy 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 8

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    A person only gets so much rope to hang themselves with. Once betrayed...cut, bye bye
    MiddleSister45 MiddleSister45 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 18

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    I don't care if I'm good or not i just like to do it.
    udamansteel udamansteel 16-17, F Oct 30

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    Singing is my happy thing! I like to sing while I'm cooking, cleaning, doing chores... I'm like Snow White. lol
    niklb niklb 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    Oh lord do I ever. While I'm working, in the shower, making coffee, cooking dinner, or baking bread.
    PatrickMoosePants PatrickMoosePants 18-21, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    All the time. Dancing to music at full volume, screaming the chorus, the works.
    soutson soutson 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    I was singing with my head phones on while I was cooking . Needless to say I was very loud and bad lol
    booklover14 booklover14 13-15, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Yea everytime I sing and THINK I'm alone, my brother is secretly recording and posting to Facebook... my Nick name is Ms piggy now...
    lostinthoughtss lostinthoughtss 26-30, F 3 days ago