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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

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    Slamming The Door

    All my security systems go up. Chains. Locks. Slots. Pin pads. DNA. Voice-recognition. Eye-scan. Blood sample. Fingerprint. Writing font. I shut people out of my life. Sometimes for long. Sometimes only a second. I always do that. If I get hurt, by anyone, I shut out everyone. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    Closed.

    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Idk why! It's just something I do.

    The people closest to me I tend to push away for no real reason. I guess it's just a defense mechanism... Anyway it would be really nice to talk to someone. Anyone really. Just a stranger who can carry on a decent conversation. Message me please :)
    SkinnyDepression SkinnyDepression 22-25, F Dec 5, 2014

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    the most simple thing in the world

    for me to do is cut someone out of my life when I'm hurt. second chances? I don't think so
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F Dec 6, 2014

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    I tired and tired to shut him out but I couldn't and now he might of been lying to me so I wouldn't kill myself... he has made the situation so much worse than it would of been...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F Feb 28

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    I don't know why I do it. I cannot forgive. Small petty things do not get to me but if you really hurt me, everything I feel towards you shuts down and I no longer want to look at...
    fwxo fwxo 16-17, F Mar 1

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    "are you supposed to be in my life? I won't close the door if you're supposed to be, but... " i've had that struggle recently with an ex-friend. We started out really good...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 3 Responses Feb 28

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    When you have spent most of your life keeping people at a distance because it is easier to let them go...it is hard to know what to do when the one person you thought you would...
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 3 Responses Mar 17

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    I keep on fighting for this light. For her to forgive me. I keep going, keep pushing. But the day I give up, the day I let out my emotions, she is about to forgive me. I'm done. I...
    Rhonarr Rhonarr 13-15 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    with not so much as a goodbye. i don't need your apology. it's not as if i can hear it anyway.
    abcdefghisabelmnopqrst abcdefghisabelmnopqrst 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 1

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    And I'll never speak with you again. Or look at you. Or feel anything for you. You've lost me. In your search to heal yourself you unconsciously injured another. Thankfully I...
    thebeautifulprincess thebeautifulprincess 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 3

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    I cut people out of my life if I feel like they bring me down. After years of letting others use me, I've learned to cut out people who hurt me. Even if they are family. The most...
    JaiTor JaiTor 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    I want to let people in, but I don't like being near me, so I have a really hard time letting other people close to me. I only have 1 friend that I can tell stuff too,but I feel...
    MaxBrigid MaxBrigid 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I feel I'm a cheat. I know I'm good at heart but there's this guilt stuck in me like gum in someone's hair. I'm friendly to most people, cracking an interview is not much of a big...
    Confusedguy6585 Confusedguy6585 26-30, M 6 days ago

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    My most recent experience with this is actually two years old. I had a girl I considered my best friend we were really close we told eachother everything. Long story short she wasn...
    AustynMonroe AustynMonroe 18-21, M a week ago

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    "******' Perfect" Made a wrong turn once or twice Dug my way out, blood and fire Bad decisions, that's alright Welcome to my silly life Mistreated, misplaced, misunderstood Miss...
    Ringster73 Ringster73 41-45, F a week ago

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    I think it's wrong.I cut he out my life if that date i wanna to say come back again I 'm sorry and regretting everything I destroyed but I don't do that I m let's him go.
    nimkansiri nimkansiri 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    When I'm really low in energy or had a busy day vegging out on the lounge relaxes me . How simple.
    Awesomegal81 Awesomegal81 31-35, F Mar 13

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    lobe singing out loud. sometimes I get the words right. lol well in hotel. singimg my heart out. I didn't think I was loud, but apparently the neighbor heard. He said it was nice...
    simplyafriend simplyafriend 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 18

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    I hate that feeling when you sing and someone's home... You feel like dozens are surrounding you with cameras and laughing. When I'm home alone I feel like I'm being watched. Life
    Nataliebeans1 Nataliebeans1 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    Lol here's an old picture of me when I was much younger Sorry for the flare I look so weird haha
    Ladybugprincess Ladybugprincess 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 4

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    I do though it doesn't happen often I do like to sing a little bit when no one is around
    shannonsjourney shannonsjourney 18-21, F Mar 18

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    My heart's a stereo It beats for you, so listen close Hear my thoughts in every no-o-o-te Make me your radio (yeah) And turn me up when you feel low (turn it up a little bit) This...
    MrImperfect MrImperfect 16-17, M 2 Responses Mar 19

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    Moronic abuse seems legal. But so are greedy republicans. And bad cops. And bad doctors. And pill makers. And. Crap.
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 9

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    is what they really feel. I have been kinda seeing someone off and on... for about 4 months. We fight sometimes like everyone, but we make up and are ok pretty quickly. He got...
    irishred122 irishred122 51-55, F Mar 5

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    I like to sing in the shower and every where I am at :)
    sexybigirl123 sexybigirl123 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    Hi My support worker at Webb house supported housing for people with mental health issues has been forcing things on me since I moved in there such as getting my grey coloured The...
    Powerlesss Powerlesss 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 10

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    We were coming home to Calgary, Alberta from our Vancouver holiday and driving through the mountains on the highway near Golden, BC in our little red 370Z when a SUV (looked like a...
    paganknight72 paganknight72 41-45, M Mar 15

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    Matchmaking I don't like being set up by the wrong people because Means I will be set up with the wrong girl. Get it. I really don't feel good about people doing matchmaking when...
    awsome2 awsome2 18-21, T Mar 3

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    I have had... Many negative experiences with what call themselves Faithful servants of The Lord. They were Catholics Christians Mormons so fourth. Not all of these were direct...
    Landstrom Landstrom 16-17, M Feb 27

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    human cruelty is killing me. even though we know there are nice people out there. these ideas even doesn't help us... They choke us They destroyed us They controul us...SICK i...
    Juri0902 Juri0902 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 15

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    I'm a very insecure person. I've been this way for as long as I can remember. I'm a sensitive person and get my feelings hurt very easily. When I was young, I would get picked...
    JennieThorne JennieThorne 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 1

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    I have heard people say this tins of times, I happen to agree with it. "A man's true character comes out when he's drunk." -Charles Chaplin
    TCL009 TCL009 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 1

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    I first found out I was gay in 6th grade. I went to the kind of school that doesn't care about people who are actually out of the closet, but will call you gay for crossing your...
    TightyWhitiesAtomicWedgie TightyWhitiesAtomicWedgie 46-50, M Mar 2

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    I can't stay mad. I always end up forgiving people, even when they don't deserve it. I forgive to easily... That's my problem..
    RebeccaMontero RebeccaMontero 22-25, F 12 Responses Mar 15

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    And it bites every time. But fading more caring fits. A nice badge when hurt. A reason to be proud. And keep caring.
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M Mar 8

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    Most are led. Most whine when hurt. Or bark. Then copy attackers. Like rabid lemmings. But what if caring left. What will happen then. Its coming...
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    My father was homeless in London. tells me stories of how the dead would lie on the floor and people would just step over them, not noticing, not caring. who carries their cold...
    hjsco96 hjsco96 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    Hello.. I'm tired with my life. things repeat everyday and tomorrow...i think it will be the same. I mean i 'm surrounded with my stuff, my things, my story, my thinking, my plan...
    Kokachin Kokachin 26-30, M Mar 4

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