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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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    Closed.

    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    the most simple thing in the world

    for me to do is cut someone out of my life when I'm hurt. second chances? I don't think so
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F Dec 6, 2014

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    Slamming The Door

    All my security systems go up. Chains. Locks. Slots. Pin pads. DNA. Voice-recognition. Eye-scan. Blood sample. Fingerprint. Writing font. I shut people out of my life. Sometimes for long. Sometimes only a second. I always do that. If I get hurt, by anyone, I shut out everyone. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Idk why! It's just something I do.

    The people closest to me I tend to push away for no real reason. I guess it's just a defense mechanism... Anyway it would be really nice to talk to someone. Anyone really. Just a stranger who can carry on a decent conversation. Message me please :)
    SkinnyDepression SkinnyDepression 22-25, F Dec 5, 2014

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    Kalel17 Kalel17 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    After some time I have choose to forgive them, it's part of my climb of become WHO I really choose to be in life I pick my battles. Everyone makes poor hurtful choices and even if...
    OrchidsNuBlu OrchidsNuBlu 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 6

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    I Belive i can be a great person and trust me I can be a great friend!! I can save secrets!! I can jump for u any time !! But seems the now this years people do t know what is...
    Marialz Marialz 22-25, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    A few years ago my life went on a downward spiral because my dad just started treating me like crap. After my parents got divorced I feel like I can't get closer to him no matter...
    jjpeace7 jjpeace7 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 10

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    My parents get mad at me when I try to not be with my brother because I've Spent 9 years trying to be nice to him and I've just given up hope
    rushman5 rushman5 13-15, M Jan 4

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    Just **** people and **** everyone.. Like really, just **** everything... How careless can others get ffs ?
    TheLeftBehind TheLeftBehind 16-17, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I never knew I did that. lol
    emmanuel04 emmanuel04 31-35, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    - Shutting people out is easier than letting them in. - I push people away without realising. - Running away is easier then facing problems. - I avoid getting close to people...
    JustAGirl96 JustAGirl96 18-21, F Jan 8

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    I don't know why but I'm withdrawing into myself; and it's not nice here. People walk by to lend a hand and just as one foot steps out the door; I'm pulled back in. Those...
    Sewmuch2do Sewmuch2do 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 20

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    What's the point in purposely hurting someone? It's not cool
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Not because I don't like them, but because I don't want to hurt them or do something to them that I will regret.
    BlackBloodDemon BlackBloodDemon 13-15, M Jan 20

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    If you do then you are sick and wrong and should be locked up. Think if someone hunter came after you. You wouldn't like wouldn't you? That's how animals feel. We should safe...
    Wolfy14 Wolfy14 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    Once someone does something that hurts me, then i pretty much become a cold heartless bastar*d, and i would not help them no matter what they want. No matter how they try and...
    Anth1290 Anth1290 22-25, M Jan 1

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    People are like those pictures which have the tiny dashes showing where to cut out. You can color them in but if it gets ugly, I cut them out and turn the page
    NewBeginnings5 NewBeginnings5 22-25 Jan 11

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    I tend to do this a lot, most of the time I don't do it intentionally, it just happens because my mind operates differently than most people!
    ElissaAcosta ElissaAcosta 16-17, F Jan 16

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    Seem to be able to help others understand whatsoever is troubling them, get through it, or the ability to inform them medication does help. ie was on prozac for a bit myself. Then...
    mike578 mike578 56-60, M Jan 5

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    i carefully choose who i let in, and i would do anything for those who i am close to, but once in a while i cant help but fall in love or let somone in too soon (the wrong person)
    KatherineSnow KatherineSnow 18-21, F Jan 21

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    my dad..... it was for the best though I'm happy now,but I still care for him
    LilahWolf LilahWolf 16-17, F Jan 11

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    There is nothing more entertaining than leaving someone speechless...yet, there is nothing sadder than realizing that person was incapable of retaining half of what you said, and...
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    Singing "Mr. Roboto" by Styx, dramatically because it seems more fun. :D
    PoopieNoodle PoopieNoodle 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 12

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    I was 16 actually there no group got 16 this was Sept 22nd 2010 a jr in HS
    irene1993 irene1993 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Today is the last day my best friend, who came from Florida, will be here in the Middle East, she's going back home tomorrow. Since the time she arrived I had been trying to get...
    psychedelicblues psychedelicblues 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12

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    I can't wait to see what my stalker's psychologist says about me. It would be wonderful to see it posted. The verdict is in. It's my fault I have had a stalker. "I know you were...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 1 Response Jan 4

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    I seriously cannot shut my brain off. it's my saturday night (yes, I'm aware that it is in fact the wee hours of Thursday, but I work in a group home full time and my days off are...
    kiesterdee6 kiesterdee6 22-25, F Jan 15

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    xCrowSong xCrowSong 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    I've always allowed everyone to open up to me about anything. I've never been intolerant or judgmental. But Oh boy, somebody finally done it! They took advantage of that. Now I'm...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 Jan 4

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    I am moving out when I turn 18, and I'm absolutely terrified. I'm... feeling really small right now, so I guess that's why I'm writing this. My story is long, but relevant. I...
    theydunnomyname theydunnomyname 16-17, F Jan 8

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    I feel for the good ones when they lose. before writing anything here first I dont want to wound anybody reading my story as it may hurt them but what is good people in general...
    psycruler psycruler 31-35, M 6 days ago

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    Why do people fake who they are you!? I don't understand i mean one day that persons going wanna video chat with you or meet you in person at some point who cares if you think your...
    PurpleLove18 PurpleLove18 16-17, F 10 Responses Jan 16

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    Been hurt emotionally so much by everyone, even loved ones that now I'm too scared to let anyone get close to me anymore. I can't help by keep everyone at arm's length, I feel...
    EightEggyEggs EightEggyEggs 18-21, M Jan 4

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    My boyfriend hurts my feelings by calling me names people are so mean and I'm nice to people even when I'm treat badly how could I ever make someone feel bad when I know how it...
    teenworldgonebad teenworldgonebad 13-15, F Jan 6

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    I've spent my whole life around people who are toxic. By toxic I don't just mean people who steal, hurt other people, or someone who has a bad attitude. I'm also talking about...
    saeteurn saeteurn 22-25, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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