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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

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    Slamming The Door

    All my security systems go up. Chains. Locks. Slots. Pin pads. DNA. Voice-recognition. Eye-scan. Blood sample. Fingerprint. Writing font. I shut people out of my life. Sometimes for long. Sometimes only a second. I always do that. If I get hurt, by anyone, I shut out everyone. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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    Closed.

    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    When people hurt me especially on social media I block them or delete there contact right away and if I don't they have to be really important my best friend when ever we fight I...
    Angel2345 Angel2345 13-15, F Jul 15

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    we were having a conversation or an argument while he was at work he was on break then he said that his break is finished he has to go back . it's alright no problem with that ., I...
    colorsnlights colorsnlights 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    And I'm over it, I'm over it, I promise I'm over it. But it still hurts sometimes. - Laura Elizabeth Ross
    foreignindulgence foreignindulgence 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    I realized this is a lot better than being yo clingy and emotional. Caring and worrying about people who dont give a **** about you is a waste of time.
    khulan03 khulan03 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 4

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    But darling, you can't break me when I'm already broken....
    XxbixtchybellaxX XxbixtchybellaxX 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    I have no one to love, and no one loves me. Why is love so hard to keep?
    h3art4luv h3art4luv 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    You know how when my heart was broken and didn't want to pick up the pieces? Well soon I picked them up, but the hurt and pain was still present. I was just a shell of a man. No...
    LuckyGuy001 LuckyGuy001 13-15, M Jul 13

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    Not the easiest thing in the world to do, but most certainly the best decision I have made. The first, my ex. I gave him over a year of my life, miscarried his child, and was to be...
    JaidIsAWildflower JaidIsAWildflower 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    A few nights ago I cut all but four people out of my life. It was so hard. I'm just so tired of dealing with people that are pointless to talk to. The hardest part is afterwards...
    Bitch2014 Bitch2014 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I cant put some people out of my head whom I loved n cared but didnt love n care me back..
    nixf1 nixf1 22-25, F 22 hrs ago

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    I hate people around me, because I believe they're just all self absorbed liars anyway. I realized I shut down after a bad break up 3 years ago.... And I don't know how to let...
    Z00Z00Z Z00Z00Z 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 9

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    My mum tells me since my heart is so good many people take advantage of my heart I like making people happy so what ever it is they ask for I try to do and since this is who I am...
    Angel2345 Angel2345 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    When my mum died my brother wanted to be the hero, he even tried to stop me going to her funeral and his lucky i did't whack him on the day because he hurt me more than anyone...
    Gentleandlovingsoul Gentleandlovingsoul 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    Just found out my friends parents have just split up. God I feel sorry for her
    Frankineedles Frankineedles 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I always try to keep the people who surrounds me clean...if someone does wrong I point it out with no mercy.Persist and you are out...sometimes takes a long time to realize.
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    I think my younger sister is probably one of those people.. The way she emotionally manipulates people really bothers me, but I can't get away since I don't have money to move out...
    Riley218 Riley218 18-21, M Jul 12

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    If you feel the earth would be better off with less people then by all means leave it. I don't condone suicide but I definitely don't condone mass homicide. People are crazy...
    notannecessary notannecessary 36-40, F 4 days ago

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    I like singing but am scared to sing in front of people I know haha. Here's a link to a video I made tonight, greatly appreciate to hear what people think! Thank you.https://www...
    heatherm10 heatherm10 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    I've hit one of those lows again. I don't understand why I keep doing this to myself. I want their attention. But I want them to leave me alone as well. I keep fighting myself and...
    Naty14 Naty14 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I just don't get it. Why?????
    xlxSpiraxlx xlxSpiraxlx 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    IM SO IRRITATED FOR NO REASON! I WISH I DIDNT HAVE FEELINGS
    december789 december789 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    I am the queen of car radio singing, it definitely makes a trip go by faster!
    LadyMarie123 LadyMarie123 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Nv5azh4WAO8 Greatly appreciate feedback..music is my escape.
    heatherm10 heatherm10 16-17, F 2 days ago

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    I don't want to say hate so I'll use the word dislike. I dislike when human beings try to bring other human beings down just boost their ego, make them feel powerful and more...
    wolflover1648 wolflover1648 16-17 7 hrs ago

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    Today I realized how much I enjoy helping people and how there are so many people out there who don't want to help people. I'm struggling with my chemistry class and I asked...
    thisisausernametoo thisisausernametoo 18-21 12 hrs ago

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    he has hurt me again and I can't allow this to happen further anymore ...I ve to shut him out of my life Bec I feel I'm losing myself and my life since he returned I can't even...
    colorsnlights colorsnlights 26-30, F Jun 26

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    I know how it is to be depressed cos i was depressed. Now i look at myself like i look on a freak. I was wronged by some people in my past and somehow i allways had this memories...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F Jun 30

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    As humans we are drawn and driven to have social contact, that drive grows stronger when you meet someone that has things in common with you, I personally start to grow a bond to...
    truededuction525 truededuction525 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 2

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    Without going into too much detail....from last September until about February or March was one of the darkest periods of my life for exactly this reason. My husband, people I had...
    Env06 Env06 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    This was in grade 8. I came back to school after a dentist appointment. It's funny how I can remember it very clearly in my head. There were these stairs that you went down to go...
    maigreamour maigreamour 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    If you dont take care of your feelings and manage to understand the good and the bad...you end up lost when feeling sad or miserable. I really believe people hurt another people...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F Jul 9

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    I don't even know where to start mainly because all my life I've been an outcast. When I was young my real father left me and so my mom worked a lot to keep food on the table and...
    Arwenlethena Arwenlethena 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    Everyone would like to have friendships for a lifetime. Genuine friendships and relationships, But unfortunely people change, you hurt people, they hurt you and things are never...
    strawberry38 strawberry38 36-40, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    I am so very nervous to come out to my parents as bisexual. I have a note written already for them, but it is just a matter of time before I give it to them. I am going to college...
    thecellist thecellist 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    I feel so lonely it hurts i cry so much in this past year I've been fighting for my relationship I will be the first to admit I'm not perfect I make mistakes but I never slept with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 17

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    Well first of all I know I'm a total idiot, but I really can't help my feelings. I fancied my married boss for years, as he was married I just suppressed the emotion. I've been...
    Layla32 Layla32 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 13

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    A lot of people get butt hurt or want to fight others in school for what they said about them, but it's not worth it in the end they are not the ones who are going to contribute to...
    somewhatbored somewhatbored 16-17, F Jun 28

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    I thought family member should understand u better but they just the same as people out there. Judging here and there. :(
    ladyhurt ladyhurt 22-25, F Jul 4

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    I talk to myself a lot. Like a lot, and in great detail. Like I'm talking to other people but I'm the only one there. In my head I could be in a group of people making them all...
    OneHowlToTheMoon OneHowlToTheMoon 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 10

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    Every since I was a little girl, I was super shy. If I met new people, I would be super quiet around them. But when I feel more comfortable around people and feel I can trust them...
    Littlewallflowerx Littlewallflowerx 16-17, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    My niece, Sarah is one of those people.I was so shocked when I got a call from my sister, Gemma's husband that she had arrived. On my birthday, none the less. And I was even more...
    superkitty17 superkitty17 31-35, F 11 Responses Jul 4

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    I have trust issues, and when I feel like I'm being lied to, or feel as if I'm being taken for granted or frustrated for whatever reason, i block people out.. It's kind of just my...
    Linkson Linkson 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 28