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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Slamming The Door

    All my security systems go up. Chains. Locks. Slots. Pin pads. DNA. Voice-recognition. Eye-scan. Blood sample. Fingerprint. Writing font. I shut people out of my life. Sometimes for long. Sometimes only a second. I always do that. If I get hurt, by anyone, I shut out everyone. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    the most simple thing in the world

    for me to do is cut someone out of my life when I'm hurt. second chances? I don't think so
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F Dec 6

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    Idk why! It's just something I do.

    The people closest to me I tend to push away for no real reason. I guess it's just a defense mechanism... Anyway it would be really nice to talk to someone. Anyone really. Just a stranger who can carry on a decent conversation. Message me please :)
    SkinnyDepression SkinnyDepression 22-25, F Dec 5

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    I wish I could shut people out when they hurt me. But I can't. I've tried, and it just doesn't work. I give out second, third, fourth, fifth, sometimes even 6th chances to people...
    MeowOnMe MeowOnMe 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I only shut people out when Im scared I case I take my anger out on them
    nickigirl525 nickigirl525 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 24

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    I should stop shuting people out at sone point i will have no friends. I am on the point of turning into a ricer of tears. And i just say i'm ok. I hurt myself by shuting others...
    DCK1309 DCK1309 13-15, M Nov 24

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    I and my bestfrnd went to a clz together.my bstfriend had a boyfriend already but I didn't have any so most of the guys had intrest on me.and a guy liked me tried to propose so he...
    lovelymhnaaz lovelymhnaaz 16-17, F Dec 7

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    when you hurt me I review our friendship once I review our friendship I either leave or stay end of story
    HandyMannyWanny HandyMannyWanny 16-17, M 1 Response Dec 8

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    It's so odd. I immediately become distant and distrusting of people that hurt me. It doesn't even have to be super damaging. Just a playful hit that was too hard and I flinch back...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    That's how all of my friendships have ended. They hurt me over and over, and then I finally just leave. They call me stuck up and accuse me of changing. And that's why I'm alone.
    Holmesdown Holmesdown 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 6

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    it's gotten to the point that if I think someone is gonna hurt me I withdraw from them. it could be nothing but if it don't feel right I pull away.
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 7

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    I do. And most of the time I hardy let anyone close. Years of being abandoned and made fun of by those closest me left me cold. Though I'm not like that. It still shows. I hate...
    K1PST3R K1PST3R 16-17, F Dec 6

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    I don't know why, but I've always had this issue where I find a way to shut people out. Whenever people want to dig deeper I make a joke to hide the pain. Why do I do this? If I...
    Heresmystory Heresmystory 16-17, F Nov 30

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    If you come out of the blue trying to "help me" I am going to shut you out and try to get off the topic depending on your profile and what I think of you. I don't like pity and...
    Cheshirecupacat Cheshirecupacat 13-15, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I sing my heart out when no one is around lol but I also sing when people are around, you just can't help it when its a good song.
    Lai96 Lai96 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    i hate you, however you are my mom.. you said that you hate people lies.. me, my sister, my father, everyone.. but you lies, you hurt me..
    alifiya144 alifiya144 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 10

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    It's almost as though I feel I'm not deserving of their help. It's just so much easier to push people away and say it's fine because why should people spend their time helping me...
    Nethaly Nethaly 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    If you want to treat me wrong and hurt me or leave, okay, that's fine i'll even hold the door open for you✌️
    BeautifulCatastr0phe BeautifulCatastr0phe 16-17, F 2 days ago

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    Not just that i hate anyone hurting. I dont think anyone deserves such cruelty and pain and if i saw someone down i would encourage them to get back up and if they refuse i wont...
    MichaelEgitto MichaelEgitto 13-15, M Nov 27

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    The actions we think help often hurt
    renguard renguard 16-17, M Nov 30

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    Okay so I live with my dad and step mom. I left my moms house when I was 15 now I'm close to turning 18. My family has not ever really been the nicest to me. I've tended to lean...
    lovedownunder lovedownunder 16-17, F 2 days ago

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    I have done this so much that is automatic with me. I get very uncomfortable with people that have been in my life a long time, unless I can keep them at a distance, some how.
    tryingagainII tryingagainII 56-60, M 3 days ago

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    Yes, I do that. I don't want to remember those people and don't want to be remembered by them as well. This doesn't include my family. I'm just talking about fiends I make.
    Tawheed1994 Tawheed1994 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    ....Not gonna lie, sometimes people being around doesn't stop me..
    ThisGirlLovesNerds12 ThisGirlLovesNerds12 18-21, F Nov 23

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    Well since my singing voice is horrible, I can't do it in front of other people, thus I do this :P :D
    MissGorgeous MissGorgeous 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    This I can do everyday. Whenever I'm working around the house or when I'm walking around town. Today, I was singing a couple of Coldplay songs while I was just looking outside my...
    NeoxExor NeoxExor 22-25, M 2 Responses Nov 27

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    It makes eveything better.I don't care who originally sings the song when I'm alone I OWN that song!
    irreelevance irreelevance 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 22

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    I like singing and dancing when nobody around. I can't dance. If you ever saw me dancing. You probably laugh or shake your head
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    Love singing out on the street!
    splitrattan splitrattan 22-25 Nov 23

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    Well technically I sing all the time, I can bust out w a song every time someone says something that reminds me of a song, or I get overly excited for no apparent reason...I will...
    orchids2blu orchids2blu 36-40, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    It would be embarrassing if anyone caught me while I was getting it out. :P it just comes naturally.
    Disqualify Disqualify 16-17, M 3 days ago

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    I know that I can't sing well, but when it's the right song I can't help myself... It seems someone always walks in on me though... Then I get pretty embarrassed...
    IndecisiveLateBloomer IndecisiveLateBloomer 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    I give one chance and one chance only
    amaui1 amaui1 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    if someone doesn't give me importance why on GOD'S EARTH would i give him or her importance except family
    waris1 waris1 16-17, M 1 day ago

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    I can be friends with someone until we start to get close. Then I do this thing where I'll stoping texting back or talking to them. I hate being close to anyone
    revolvingaroundmusic11 revolvingaroundmusic11 16-17, F Dec 7

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    My personal favorite is to get close enough for someone to hear me whisper and tell the "voices" in my head to be quiet and make it obvious I'm talking to myself.. It is hilarious...
    Xoris Xoris 13-15, M Dec 9

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    I'm such a scaredy cat....
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 31-35, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    All the time. Dancing to music at full volume, screaming the chorus, the works.
    soutson soutson 13-15, F Nov 22

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    I was singing with my head phones on while I was cooking . Needless to say I was very loud and bad lol
    booklover14 booklover14 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    Yea everytime I sing and THINK I'm alone, my brother is secretly recording and posting to Facebook... my Nick name is Ms piggy now...
    lostinthoughtss lostinthoughtss 26-30, F Nov 22

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    I'm a guy, and only a tenor, but I'll be damned if that stops me from singing Chandelier
    Quertal Quertal 13-15, M Nov 23

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