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I Shut People Out When I Get Hurt

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    Slamming The Door

    All my security systems go up. Chains. Locks. Slots. Pin pads. DNA. Voice-recognition. Eye-scan. Blood sample. Fingerprint. Writing font. I shut people out of my life. Sometimes for long. Sometimes only a second. I always do that. If I get hurt, by anyone, I shut out everyone. I...
    Floydess Floydess 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Shut Them Out Once And For All

    Yes. Isolation. A very familiar word to me. Shutting people out is what I seem to do best these days. I guess it all started when things between my mom and dad began to escalate. Nonstop fighting and arguments, all day and all night. They were constantly hurting each other and...
    precarious precarious 16-17, F Jun 8, 2012

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    Common Feeling- Shutting People Out.

    It is not an uncommon feeling to shut people out (Off?) when you are hurting. People withdraw because of feelings of being betrayed or a trust is broken. People will retreat into themselves for security and stability. Nothing wrong with this. Common feeling.
    retiredfather retiredfather 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2009

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    Closed.

    When I'm hurt and upset I dont feel like I can run to anyone, I dont have that sort of outlet. I have bestfriends, friends, aquantinces.. but I cant just run off and speak. I shut down internally and process everything mentally. When I'm truly hurt I lash out and...
    abstractjunkie abstractjunkie 22-25, F Jun 5, 2009

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    Unbreakable Shield

    My armor is thick. And heavy. And it blocks off my heart from those around me. I've always had this defense mechanism in place, and it has cost me dearly.I have no real connections with anyone, not even my own children. I squandered my wife and pissed away my marriage because I...
    EmptyAdonis EmptyAdonis 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2010

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    I shut myself out in general. I'm socially awkward, and really trusting. I let people get into my heart, just to rip it in the end. I don't HATE people, I just worry that either A...
    evie2001 evie2001 13-15, F Oct 18

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    After going through so much as a child and being hurt so many times I have learned to create barriers when people hurt me. I wish that wasn't the case. I tried so hard to be a...
    Morenita79 Morenita79 31-35, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    Dear Friend - I wish I could say this to your face, but I'm really hurt by the way you treated me.... And I think I'm done. I've been helpful and friendly every time you've...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 14

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    I always try and learn from my experiences! And I'm proud of how far I have come and how many things I've had to go through at such a young age! I am very aware of things now in...
    AnOtHaJaZzYDrEaMeR AnOtHaJaZzYDrEaMeR 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 19

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    Normally, I am tolerant & forgiving of people's mistakes; it depends what they have done to me. If they make a simple error or accident, then it is no big deal; however, if they...
    s4019t s4019t 26-30, M Oct 9

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    Many times I get the impression people here are actually writing to their loved ones. To the ones they lost. Anyway... sometimes it is important for us to protect ourselves, right...
    Ankokushin Ankokushin 26-30, M Oct 14

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    Any Indian is there...?I am feeling lonely...
    afzalhu afzalhu 22-25, M Oct 18

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    I don't trust anyone and never will. I've been kicked around my entire life. I don't let people in therefore nobody can ever walk out. So I keep myself locked up as right as I can...
    Azuleyes Azuleyes 18-21, F Oct 4

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    Why are people so quick to assume. U should ask and learn of a persons situation before runnin their mouth to others especially at work. This putts a person in hot water or pigeon...
    ridge76 ridge76 22-25, M Oct 15

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    I can't accept dishonesty and fake. I always cut people out of my life when they disappoint me whatever the ways. I know it somehow sound immature but I believe that I do that to...
    meandmythought meandmythought 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I've cut a few people out of my life in the past five years. Basically all my friends from high school. It was a time when I drank and smoke and did stupid things, things I don't...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    I went on an experiment a few years ago and actually cut everyone out from my life, one person at a time. The toxic ones left first, the less toxic ones later, and the ones who...
    cereszal cereszal 26-30, F Oct 21

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    I will eat your heart So be careful. It won't hurt until I'm done. I'll leave your open chest exposed and bleeding. I might be back for more... But probably not. Your soul...
    thebeautifulprincess thebeautifulprincess 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 21

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    Unless its in self defense... I don't like it one bit... Especially people who hang their pelts or use them as rugs... It makes me sick...
    naco26withcheese naco26withcheese 13-15, M 1 Response Oct 11

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    Everyone eventually ends up screwing me over but if I'm alone I'll never get hurt.
    sammylynn333 sammylynn333 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 22

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    I'm bout to turn 23 on Halloween. People still sees me as a kid. They underestimate me yet I have more of a well round knowledge than the do and they look at me stupid for it. But...
    alarmclock91 alarmclock91 22-25, M 6 days ago

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    Only in real life when I have an acquaintance with someone and it goes strangely well, I cut them away. If there is even the slightest chance that I could actually make a friend, I...
    looking4chances looking4chances 18-21, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I have always had issues, so I tend to close my eyes on people who could very well even have turned out to be good friends. I'm trying to change this so bad.
    kiddishguy kiddishguy 26-30, M Oct 21

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    I like to think that I'm a loyal person...but I know I'm not. I constantly go through a large amount of friends, and slowly...one by one...I don't talk to them or hang out with...
    lovedownunder lovedownunder 16-17, F 4 Responses Oct 21

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    I shed people all the time...I don't know why it's like a light goes off with that person and I find it hard to find the switch again...it's probably really unhealthy but I have...
    StoneWall77 StoneWall77 36-40, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I don't want them to see me like this. I know it sounds vain but they don't need to hear my complaining and whining. I hate seeming weak when I used to be so much stronger.
    GetYourFreakOn GetYourFreakOn 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    It's the only way to keep my peace of mind. If you're not bringing positivity, enriching, uplifting or edifying my life in someway.. I will pray for you and then I will cut you out...
    maktub1 maktub1 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 21

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    On several occasions when I got really angry I blacked out one of the worst times I got into a fight with my now ex girlfriend and I woke up in my bathroom with a knife in my hand...
    tdubs187 tdubs187 18-21, M 6 days ago

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    On several occasions when I got really angry I blacked out one of the worst times I got into a fight with my now ex girlfriend and I woke up in my bathroom with a knife in my hand...
    tdubs187 tdubs187 18-21, M 6 days ago

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    I don't care if I'm good or not i just like to do it.
    udamansteel udamansteel 16-17, F 6 hrs ago

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    http://self-love-u.blogspot.com/2013/02/100-traits-of-toxic-person.html
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 19

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    Choices - chances - changes... I must make a choice to take a chance, or else my life will never change.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 20

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    That would be one of my creepy boy friends which i dated before i knew i was a lesbian UGHGHGHG they hate me now but i moved
    Kitry Kitry 13-15, F Oct 21

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    I believe in 2 chances . "Rollercoasters ain't fun after the second time that you ride 'em"
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 21

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    If they: Completely Pissed me off with bullshit Broke up with me for a **** reason Or say stuff behind me back
    90slove 90slove 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    You have to decipher who is ACTUALLY there for you truthfully and who will always have your back no matter what. Who has the best intentions (almost like your family does for you...
    introvertpower94 introvertpower94 18-21, F a week ago

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    It's probably the easiest solution to most of my problems, I don't even bother explaining why anymore just want to get rid of the bs and deadweight and move on with my life.
    Janasai Janasai 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    had to cut my bestfriend cuz of her drug addict boyfriend, in the end she chose him because she love him.
    vanesalazar vanesalazar 16-17, F a week ago

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    What if there actually family and there always around? They can't easily be cut off no matter how hard you'd want to
    composa2814 composa2814 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I am actually surprised I have any old friends.i have been trying to make an effort more this last year but my instincts are to move on and don't look back! Letting go.... there...
    Legionicula Legionicula 36-40, M a week ago

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    however I cried because I knew I had been naughty and that I was going to get punished
    atrees atrees 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 2

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    I've somehow become so good at shutting people out, never letting anyone see the real me, that I don't even know who she is anymore.
    Calsi704 Calsi704 18-21, F Oct 8

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    There was this guy I was dating he was sweet and nice very understanding , he helped me with my depression in the beginning I didn't want to burden him I told him to leave me . He...
    fiestychica fiestychica 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    I hate people. I don't want to work with them nor do I like to talk to them like some people who like to talk to anybody and everybody about anything. And when I try to make...
    Princessinmind Princessinmind 18-21, F Oct 19

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    I just don't understand. I try hard to fit in, not to change, but to find a group of people like me or to root myself in a group that I like at least. It just doesn't work. I dont...
    KillerInBlood KillerInBlood 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 2

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    I found out how much I've isolated myself from others due to my recent issues where my partner of 6 years moved out im not sure if we can work things out he tells me we can but it...
    heather81 heather81 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 30

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    All people ever do is judge me. Im picky about my friends at school and kids im not friends with who I have never spoken to call me sl-ut and attention seeker and cocky and stuff...
    QuinnMac12 QuinnMac12 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 5

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