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I Shut People Out When They Hurt Me

When people hurt me, I want to close the door, deadbolt it, lock it, and hide away. They can't see, feel, touch or hurt me anymore. The feeling is so intense. It's a way of protection and survival. 9,587 People

    Burned...

    The moment someone starts to hurt me or hurts me really bad I start to push them away. I can’t help it,when someone I care about hurts me, I shut down, close up and when needed do not talk to the person (s) until I am ready too. In many ways this allows me the opportunity...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 21 Responses Aug 3, 2010

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    Hurt Me Once……………..shame On You. Hurt Me Twice……………….**** You!

    I put too much weight into something that was nothing more than a façade of a ‘relationship’ Conventional or otherwise, I gave all of myself. Maybe that is where I f**cked up? I won’t be a matter of convenience for anyone.
    girlfaith girlfaith 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    My Sensor

    I have developed my own sensor to situations or people that can hurt me. It has just developed from being constantly hurt and disappointed by my husband.So now, if I sense something painful is coming I automatically put up protectors and back away. It's a natural reaction now and...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    Any Indian is there..

    .?I am feeling lonely...
    afzalhu afzalhu 22-25, M Oct 18

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    My Ex Gf Cheated On Me And F Other Guy On the

    Same Day... And Then Told Me like she Was Proud Of Doing It... Well News For You i Am Proud i Shut You Out Of My Life.... Now i can Find Someone Who Won't Do That...
    RyanxXx90 RyanxXx90 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    I have walls, they're really big walls.

    Only one person can get through them.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 4

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    Today I saw him in the same car he used to take

    me to the beach, the first man who made me feel beautiful, wanted, appreciated, worthy and that I deserved to be loved. But he wasn't that man, he was the one that breaks you in a way that you would never be the same. Because he made you get higher and just drops you into the...
    almasolitaria312 almasolitaria312 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 18

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    I must shut you out if you hurt me!

    I care to much for myself not too. If I allow you then you will continue to hurt me and then I will have to continue to heal the wounds that you inflict. If I am continually healing the wounds that you inflict then it does not leave any room for me to fulfill the purpose in...
    venusdi venusdi 70+, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    Unless it's someone I really have to deal with

    on a regular basis, I'm not going to force myself to get along with anyone. You only have to hurt me once on purpose, then I'm pretty much done with you.
    Blue1513 Blue1513 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 17

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    I and my bestfrnd went to a clz together.

    my bstfriend had a boyfriend already but I didn't have any so most of the guys had intrest on me.and a guy liked me tried to propose so he wanted to talk with me but I was too shy to talk so I didn't talk so my bestfrnd talked to him actually the guy was very handsome so my...
    lovelymhnaaz lovelymhnaaz 16-17, F Dec 7

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    The feeling of guilt building up to oppressive

    levels because what must be depression drags the joy away and sufficates it, leaving in its place a bowl of sadness and regret, festering, becoming stronger and unmanageable. I do not mean to condone it, but its so easily done when you realise the people who are closest to you...
    WonderingOfTheSoul WonderingOfTheSoul 18-21 2 days ago

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    Easy Come, Easy Go

    Sometimes it amazes me how easily I can do this, how easy I can shut someone out and move on. I have done it several times. It is probably a survival strategy that I acquired still as a child. It might be an immature reaction, but, on the other hand, I don't dwell on losses or...
    thinkandfeel thinkandfeel 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 2, 2010

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    I shut myself out in general.

    I'm socially awkward, and really trusting. I let people get into my heart, just to rip it in the end. I don't HATE people, I just worry that either A. They won't get what I'm saying, due to the fact I FAIL at expressing myself and actually saying what I mean. B. I become a...
    evie2001 evie2001 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 18

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    Today I saw some faces from the past (more like

    junior high school of HELL) at my school and I heard that they were looking for me to patch things up. So I spent the whole day avoiding them and I even told my friends and teachers to ignore them if they ask anything about me. I'm really pissed off right now ????. Things are...
    johannesc4 johannesc4 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 8

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    1kingdarkness 1kingdarkness 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 15

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    It's like a trigger goes off in my head.

    .. And I completely shut down when I feel I've been wronged or hurt in some way sometimes I don't even realize im doing it's like my heart has made it's own switch now on what I will and will not tolerate... I've been hurt by way to many close people in my life including family...
    Forbiddenkisses Forbiddenkisses 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    For Just A Bit

    I do shut people out when they hurt me. I think its natural to need to close off from that. But I also notice I soon forget that need to shut people out and I open up maybe more afterwards. I don't let pain from someones actions take me away from what I know is for me. I need a...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 23, 2013

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    Trapped And Abused.

    I moved to small town to help take care of my mother. I worked for a family business that had a son about thirty five years old and we became friends. We were never meant to be more than friends as I was fifty nine. After knowing him a few months he started behaving as if he was...
    bamccam bamccam 61-65, F 46 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    I'm just done even on ep.

    I always get hurt even before I say anything. I can admit feelings for a girl, they block me. I can say hi to a guy and they hate me. I can have crushes on girls and ask them out, all rejections. I'm always a failure even at life, I can never find anyone who would ever love me...
    inthehiddenshadows inthehiddenshadows 16-17, M 9 Responses Nov 16

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    Even you. I shut people out

    when they hurt me. It is how I manage to keep my head above water despite the chaos left in our wake. First was my mother. I shut her out at quite a young age to shield myself against the inevitable pain of knowing her. I was surprised at how easy it was to just turn it all off...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 30

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    I have done this for

    as long as I remember. I can't stand the torture because some people can never change. If they think they need to argue for the sake of it, I am not being a part of it. I am sensitive and can't stand people blaming,screaming or accusing me of something I haven't even done. I...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 1 Response May 1

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    No reason to keep someone around

    that makes me suffer, actual betrayal.. not 'you look weird in that hat' kinda hurt because you love that hat lol
    khewster khewster 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 24

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    Dear Friend - I wish I could say this to your

    face, but I'm really hurt by the way you treated me.... And I think I'm done. I've been helpful and friendly every time you've reached out to me. You've been selfish and immature for months, and it really hurts. I hate the way you gossip about me. We ARE friends (or were...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 14

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    But darling, you can't break me

    when I'm already broken....
    XxBadXVibesxX XxBadXVibesxX 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    why should I bother with them anymore,

    when it's obvious they didn't care about my feelings?
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 8

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    As many of you know by now,

    I have an obsessed office stalker. She delights in getting off on my life, either in the office or outside of it. If there's any rumors about me in the outside world, she dives right in, trying to turn them into reality, attempting to squeeze it for all that its worth...
    deepscar deepscar 46-50, F 7 Responses Aug 26

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    more like i shut everyone out

    so they can't hurt me.
    kr1sten kr1sten 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    No Other Choice

    I have no other choice but to shut people out when they hurt me. I am always cautious not to hurt another persons feelings so i expect the same in return. Sure there are times we step on someones toes without knowing.... but that's small stuff. But when you care for someone...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2011

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    Yes i do! I feel like hurt me

    once shame on you.. Hurt me twice shame on me
    newhearts91 newhearts91 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    Can I Just Heal Myself...Alone?

    I'm starting to get into this habit where I can depressed for whatever reason and just ignore everyone. I'm hurting and unhappy. I've let people taunt me, heckle me and use me as a punchbag. I'm tired and emotionally exhausted. I just want people to leave me alone so that I can...
    introvertgirl2013 introvertgirl2013 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    It's so hard to find people

    that actually care about you and not just about your looks. I really want someone to actually be there for me, flaws and all. So far-no luck.
    KaylaY17 KaylaY17 18-21, F Aug 26

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    Most often my reaction to getting hurt

    or being dissatisfied is 'cutting my losses' and moving forward with life. The truth is, however that I am not cutting out losses in my life. What I am doing is discarding the ones I love as they act in a way that I don't like. The behavior has stemmed from years of different...
    CarlyOnline CarlyOnline 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 10

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    Many times I get the impression people here are

    actually writing to their loved ones. To the ones they lost. Anyway... sometimes it is important for us to protect ourselves, right?
    Ankokushin Ankokushin 26-30, M Oct 14

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    That's how all of my friendships have ended.

    They hurt me over and over, and then I finally just leave. They call me stuck up and accuse me of changing. And that's why I'm alone.
    Holmesdown Holmesdown 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 6

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    Normally, I am tolerant & forgiving of people's

    mistakes; it depends what they have done to me. If they make a simple error or accident, then it is no big deal; however, if they do something intolerable to me, then they are no-longer welcome in my life any more. I do not give second chances. Only a few people I have known...
    s4019t s4019t 26-30, M Oct 9

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    I Give Everybody A Chance ...

    But life is short and there a **** loads more people to replace you if you want to be a **** ... I think I am loving and fair , but you hurt me , I most likely won't fight you , more like you'll be trying to figure out where the hell I went as you stand there talking to yourself...
    Suzi504 Suzi504 31-35, F Nov 23, 2013

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    when you hurt me I review our friendship once I

    review our friendship I either leave or stay end of story
    HandyMannyWanny HandyMannyWanny 16-17, M 1 Response Dec 8

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    And that's that. Trust is the only indicator to

    me of actual friendship. If you hurt me, I can't trust you. You will only ever be an acquaintance after that at best. You'll think we're friends but you won't really know me anymore. Trust is everything.
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 17

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    I wish I could shut people out

    when they hurt me. But I can't. I've tried, and it just doesn't work. I give out second, third, fourth, fifth, sometimes even 6th chances to people who have wronged me, when I really care about them and I truly feel like they can change. I don't like giving up on people when I...
    MeowOnMe MeowOnMe 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 16

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    Silence Hurts Just As Bad

    I'm not the best when it comes to being upset and dealing with my emotions. I would rather be angry; it's something I can deal with, but being upset and hurt....I can't. So when i'm hurt I shut them out because sometimes silence can hurt just as bad as words. In my experience...
    MissJazz MissJazz 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 14, 2012

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    After going through so much

    as a child and being hurt so many times I have learned to create barriers when people hurt me. I wish that wasn't the case. I tried so hard to be a better person in my early 20s I allowed people in and was very trusting which I guess is not a good thing. I learned early on not...
    Morenita79 Morenita79 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 26

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    It's so odd. I immediately become distant

    and distrusting of people that hurt me. It doesn't even have to be super damaging. Just a playful hit that was too hard and I flinch back instantly and back off. I always found it weird, but then again, I don't want to be hit again if it does happen.
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    I always try and learn from my experiences!

    And I'm proud of how far I have come and how many things I've had to go through at such a young age! I am very aware of things now in life! And before making the same mistakes again " I think first." Because of this my relationship has turned out quite perfect. But last night I...
    AnOtHaJaZzYDrEaMeR AnOtHaJaZzYDrEaMeR 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 19

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    I shut out a lot of people,

    mainly because they're the reason why I'm like this.. They keep breaking the walls, I keep building higher ones. I've hidden myself for so long, no one even knows what's really happening to me. They hurt me and silence was the only thing I could give that time.
    PureLies PureLies 13-15, F Nov 5

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    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F Sep 5

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    It is a reflex. I guess

    after years of people being ****** to me, and me just taking it, forgiving them again and again, I have developed away to stop myself from being that person. Its like I can flick a switch. I won't be hurt anymore. I refuse to be that victim that I used to see in the mirror. She...
    JE1158 JE1158 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 2

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    When people wrong or hurt me........

    I tend to just stop talking to them and shut them out completely. Sometimes it's a gradual process: I'll continue to talk and be civil with them for a while before I officially break things off between us with certain behaviors and/or words. Other times I just abruptly cut them...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 16, 2013

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    This is definitely an experience I have a lot

    of experience with. Unfortunately right now my brother is behaving in a way that at the lease can be called predictable at the most really disturbing. I haven't spoken to him in over a month. He owes me an apology for a lot of things and I'm about as close to getting one of...
    missquietriot missquietriot 26-30, F Sep 17

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    Just like that. No warning,

    no explanation, no nothing. BYE. *rolls eyes* (is this wrong??)
    DreamerByNature DreamerByNature 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    I realized this is a lot better

    than being yo clingy and emotional. Caring and worrying about people who dont give a **** about you is a waste of time.
    khulan03 khulan03 18-21, F Jul 4

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    I shut them all out!!

    .. I will never let them ever get close to me or the people that they associate with to get close to me too .. Im so sick of thur sorrys & yet they choose to hurt me over & over giving the silent treatment or they hide they make me feel bad when there the ones who did all the...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 8

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