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I Shut People Out When They Hurt Me

When people hurt me, I want to close the door, deadbolt it, lock it, and hide away. They can't see, feel, touch or hurt me anymore. The feeling is so intense. It's a way of protection and survival. 9,412 People

    Many times I get the impression people here are

    actually writing to their loved ones. To the ones they lost. Anyway... sometimes it is important for us to protect ourselves, right?
    Ankokushin Ankokushin 26-30, M Oct 14

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    I have done this for

    as long as I remember. I can't stand the torture because some people can never change. If they think they need to argue for the sake of it, I am not being a part of it. I am sensitive and can't stand people blaming,screaming or accusing me of something I haven't even done. I...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 1 Response May 1

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    I always try and learn from my experiences!

    And I'm proud of how far I have come and how many things I've had to go through at such a young age! I am very aware of things now in life! And before making the same mistakes again " I think first." Because of this my relationship has turned out quite perfect. But last night I...
    AnOtHaJaZzYDrEaMeR AnOtHaJaZzYDrEaMeR 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    When people wrong or hurt me........

    I tend to just stop talking to them and shut them out completely. Sometimes it's a gradual process: I'll continue to talk and be civil with them for a while before I officially break things off between us with certain behaviors and/or words. Other times I just abruptly cut them...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 16, 2013

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    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 26

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    I don't completely shut people out though.

    I usually just take a step back and let them try to earn the trust back. If it happens too many times then I start getting hurt and the person gets a full lock down and I find it hard to tell them anything.
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 12

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    This is definitely an experience I have a lot

    of experience with. Unfortunately right now my brother is behaving in a way that at the lease can be called predictable at the most really disturbing. I haven't spoken to him in over a month. He owes me an apology for a lot of things and I'm about as close to getting one of...
    missquietriot missquietriot 26-30, F Sep 17

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    if someone hurts me and they KEEP BOTHERING ME

    there going 6ft down in the ground
    TheColorfulDino TheColorfulDino 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    As many of you know by now,

    I have an obsessed office stalker. She delights in getting off on my life, either in the office or outside of it. If there's any rumors about me in the outside world, she dives right in, trying to turn them into reality, attempting to squeeze it for all that its worth...
    deepscar deepscar 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 26

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    I Do Tend to Shut People Out Now and Then

    But hurting me isn't easy as all that. If you have my trust and you lie to me you hurt me. If you betray my trust you hurt me. Other than that I can think of a way you can really hurt me. : )
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 13 Responses Feb 1, 2008

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    If you've managed to hurt me it's probably

    because I told you things. So I must've trusted you, and now you broke that trust. I'm not going to ever trust you the same way again I'll be hesitant to tell you anything and I'll no longer share my thoughts or feelings.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 14

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    No reason to keep someone around

    that makes me suffer, actual betrayal.. not 'you look weird in that hat' kinda hurt because you love that hat lol
    khewster khewster 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 24

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    I shut myself out in general.

    I'm socially awkward, and really trusting. I let people get into my heart, just to rip it in the end. I don't HATE people, I just worry that either A. They won't get what I'm saying, due to the fact I FAIL at expressing myself and actually saying what I mean. B. I become a...
    evie2001 evie2001 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    But darling, you can't break me

    when I'm already broken....
    XxBadXVibesxX XxBadXVibesxX 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    I Shut People Out.

    I always shut people out when they hurt me. It's easier because I've always been too shy to tell people straight out that they have hurt me so instead I will just be very short spoken with them or completely ignore them until I have forgiven them - If I ever do forgive them...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F Aug 18, 2011

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    It's so hard to find people

    that actually care about you and not just about your looks. I really want someone to actually be there for me, flaws and all. So far-no luck.
    KaylaY17 KaylaY17 18-21, F Aug 26

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    I had to shut out two people in my life

    because they hurt me so much
    andreaespe andreaespe 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 10

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    Yes I do. If somebody hurts my feelings by

    something they said or did I retreat into myself away from them. Also if somebody I care about ignores me then I draw away from them. It's my way of protecting myself and also then I don't say hurtful things in haste. I am sensitive at times and am aware of that. So I don't...
    1SweetL 1SweetL 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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    Can I Just Heal Myself...Alone?

    I'm starting to get into this habit where I can depressed for whatever reason and just ignore everyone. I'm hurting and unhappy. I've let people taunt me, heckle me and use me as a punchbag. I'm tired and emotionally exhausted. I just want people to leave me alone so that I can...
    introvertgirl2013 introvertgirl2013 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    Trapped And Abused.

    I moved to small town to help take care of my mother. I worked for a family business that had a son about thirty five years old and we became friends. We were never meant to be more than friends as I was fifty nine. After knowing him a few months he started behaving as if he was...
    bamccam bamccam 61-65, F 46 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    When people hurt me especially on social media

    I block them or delete there contact right away and if I don't they have to be really important my best friend when ever we fight I block her on social media all of it I can't help it and in real life I simply lock my self in my room for hours and don't speak
    Angel2345 Angel2345 13-15, F Jul 15

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    Burned...

    The moment someone starts to hurt me or hurts me really bad I start to push them away. I can’t help it,when someone I care about hurts me, I shut down, close up and when needed do not talk to the person (s) until I am ready too. In many ways this allows me the opportunity...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 21 Responses Aug 3, 2010

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    Closing Doors...

    Things happen for a reason right? Actions have consequences, words can hurt, things go on in life that really shouldn't have to happen. I like to believe that people are inherently good, and they don't intentionally hurt people. However, the world doesn't seem to work that way...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    I realized this is a lot better

    than being yo clingy and emotional. Caring and worrying about people who dont give a **** about you is a waste of time.
    khulan03 khulan03 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 4

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    you hurt me deeply b.

    itch, ur f.ucking words touched me.dont do that again gobshit.ı say this whn they hurt me :/
    idunnowhttodo idunnowhttodo 22-25, F Aug 16

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    Yes i do! I feel like hurt me

    once shame on you.. Hurt me twice shame on me
    newhearts91 newhearts91 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 24

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    I have no one to love,

    and no one loves me. Why is love so hard to keep?
    h3art4luv h3art4luv 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    I Give Everybody A Chance ...

    But life is short and there a **** loads more people to replace you if you want to be a **** ... I think I am loving and fair , but you hurt me , I most likely won't fight you , more like you'll be trying to figure out where the hell I went as you stand there talking to yourself...
    Suzi504 Suzi504 31-35, F Nov 23, 2013

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    Any Indian is there..

    .?I am feeling lonely...
    afzalhu afzalhu 22-25, M 4 days ago

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    This one guy I used to go with cheated on me

    and I don't trust anymore. I do t even text him anymore, but I might. Should I? I don't know. Anyways yeah
    LakiraC LakiraC 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    Hurt Me Once……………..shame On You. Hurt Me Twice……………….**** You!

    I put too much weight into something that was nothing more than a façade of a ‘relationship’ Conventional or otherwise, I gave all of myself. Maybe that is where I f**cked up? I won’t be a matter of convenience for anyone.
    girlfaith girlfaith 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    I do this quite often.

    I don't do second chances. If a 'friend' hurts me intentionally, i will get rid of them instantly. I want to surround myself around good people who make me a better person, not people who go out of their way to make myself feel bad.
    Ryanholmes20375 Ryanholmes20375 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 13

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    Normally, I am tolerant & forgiving of people's

    mistakes; it depends what they have done to me. If they make a simple error or accident, then it is no big deal; however, if they do something intolerable to me, then they are no-longer welcome in my life any more. I do not give second chances. Only a few people I have known...
    s4019t s4019t 26-30, M Oct 9

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    Dear Friend - I wish I could say this to your

    face, but I'm really hurt by the way you treated me.... And I think I'm done. I've been helpful and friendly every time you've reached out to me. You've been selfish and immature for months, and it really hurts. I hate the way you gossip about me. We ARE friends (or were...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 14

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    My dad is the definition of a dead beat dad.

    I haven't seen him in a year and 1 months and he doesn't pay child support, doesn't have a license, doesn't own a car, and he doesn't take care of himself. He's had 2 strokes in 2 years and his vision in his left eye isn't all that great. Well today he had surgery because he has...
    lilbum97 lilbum97 16-17, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    I must shut you out if you hurt me!

    I care to much for myself not too. If I allow you then you will continue to hurt me and then I will have to continue to heal the wounds that you inflict. If I am continually healing the wounds that you inflict then it does not leave any room for me to fulfill the purpose in...
    venusdi venusdi 70+, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    jesikahluv jesikahluv 18-21, F Aug 16

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    more like i shut everyone out

    so they can't hurt me.
    kr1sten kr1sten 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Just like that. No warning,

    no explanation, no nothing. BYE. *rolls eyes* (is this wrong??)
    DreamerByNature DreamerByNature 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    My Sensor

    I have developed my own sensor to situations or people that can hurt me. It has just developed from being constantly hurt and disappointed by my husband.So now, if I sense something painful is coming I automatically put up protectors and back away. It's a natural reaction now and...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F Sep 5

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    My Ex Gf Cheated On Me And F Other Guy On the

    Same Day... And Then Told Me like she Was Proud Of Doing It... Well News For You i Am Proud i Shut You Out Of My Life.... Now i can Find Someone Who Won't Do That...
    RyanxXx90 RyanxXx90 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    Easy Come, Easy Go

    Sometimes it amazes me how easily I can do this, how easy I can shut someone out and move on. I have done it several times. It is probably a survival strategy that I acquired still as a child. It might be an immature reaction, but, on the other hand, I don't dwell on losses or...
    thinkandfeel thinkandfeel 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 2, 2010

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    It hurts you know, that you shove me in the

    corner. One day you'll look back and I won't be there. I hope that day comes soon, I'm sick of being your after thought, your last resort, your fall back.
    isacake isacake 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    For Just A Bit

    I do shut people out when they hurt me. I think its natural to need to close off from that. But I also notice I soon forget that need to shut people out and I open up maybe more afterwards. I don't let pain from someones actions take me away from what I know is for me. I need a...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 23, 2013

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    And it kills me to think

    that you never did care.
    emelon12 emelon12 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 10

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    I remember the "Circle of Trust" discussions in

    a Ben Stiller comedy movie - De Nero tells Stiller he's found himself "outside the Circle of Trust". I laughed so hard at that scene - I've had my own Circle of Trust since childhood, but had never discussed it with anyone before seeing that movie. Today I find my heart...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F Aug 10

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    Unless it's someone I really have to deal with

    on a regular basis, I'm not going to force myself to get along with anyone. You only have to hurt me once on purpose, then I'm pretty much done with you.
    Blue1513 Blue1513 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 17

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    It's like a trigger goes off in my head.

    .. And I completely shut down when I feel I've been wronged or hurt in some way sometimes I don't even realize im doing it's like my heart has made it's own switch now on what I will and will not tolerate... I've been hurt by way to many close people in my life including family...
    Forbiddenkisses Forbiddenkisses 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    And I'm over it, I'm over it,

    I promise I'm over it. But it still hurts sometimes. - Laura Elizabeth Ross
    foreignindulgence foreignindulgence 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    No Other Choice

    I have no other choice but to shut people out when they hurt me. I am always cautious not to hurt another persons feelings so i expect the same in return. Sure there are times we step on someones toes without knowing.... but that's small stuff. But when you care for someone...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2011

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    PCOutlaw69 PCOutlaw69 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 12

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    Silence Hurts Just As Bad

    I'm not the best when it comes to being upset and dealing with my emotions. I would rather be angry; it's something I can deal with, but being upset and hurt....I can't. So when i'm hurt I shut them out because sometimes silence can hurt just as bad as words. In my experience...
    MissJazz MissJazz 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 14, 2012

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