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I Shut People Out When They Hurt Me

When people hurt me, I want to close the door, deadbolt it, lock it, and hide away. They can't see, feel, touch or hurt me anymore. The feeling is so intense. It's a way of protection and survival. 9,153 People

    I feel happy. For the first time in my life.

    But now there is a challenge. I can't believe anyone one when they say they love me. I don't know if this is right or not. Are they suppose to act this way. It this what it is like? I have never been loved how do I accept or learn what it is now?
    CatEm CatEm 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    But I never ever forget how they've hurt me.

    I save it for later like collecting the abuse they've done to me. I don't bring these issues up when that person and I fight or argue. I just kind of like it fester. I'm so distrustful of people that I have a killswitch for every relationship in my life. I know this isn't...
    madamepompouri madamepompouri 26-30, F Feb 6

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    I Shut People Out.

    I always shut people out when they hurt me. It's easier because I've always been too shy to tell people straight out that they have hurt me so instead I will just be very short spoken with them or completely ignore them until I have forgiven them - If I ever do forgive them...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F Aug 18, 2011

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    Closing Doors...

    Things happen for a reason right? Actions have consequences, words can hurt, things go on in life that really shouldn't have to happen. I like to believe that people are inherently good, and they don't intentionally hurt people. However, the world doesn't seem to work that way...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    When people wrong or hurt me........

    I tend to just stop talking to them and shut them out completely. Sometimes it's a gradual process: I'll continue to talk and be civil with them for a while before I officially break things off between us with certain behaviors and/or words. Other times I just abruptly cut them...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 16, 2013

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    Yes I do. If somebody hurts my feelings by

    something they said or did I retreat into myself away from them. Also if somebody I care about ignores me then I draw away from them. It's my way of protecting myself and also then I don't say hurtful things in haste. I am sensitive at times and am aware of that. So I don't...
    1SweetL 1SweetL 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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    Silence Hurts Just As Bad

    I'm not the best when it comes to being upset and dealing with my emotions. I would rather be angry; it's something I can deal with, but being upset and hurt....I can't. So when i'm hurt I shut them out because sometimes silence can hurt just as bad as words. In my experience...
    MissJazz MissJazz 22-25, F 6 Responses Mar 14, 2012

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    Trapped And Abused.

    I moved to small town to help take care of my mother. I worked for a family business that had a son about thirty five years old and we became friends. We were never meant to be more than friends as I was fifty nine. After knowing him a few months he started behaving as if he was...
    bamccam bamccam 61-65, F 44 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    i dont understand why some people complain

    about drama in their life when they cause it. if your friend treats you badly, cut them out of your life
    em11111 em11111 18-21, F May 1

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    we were having a conversation

    or an argument while he was at work he was on break then he said that his break is finished he has to go back . it's alright no problem with that ., I waited until he finished work so we can finish continue our conversation bec it was tough, so I wanted to let him talk .. so I...
    colorsnlights colorsnlights 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    I have done this for

    as long as I remember. I can't stand the torture because some people can never change. If they think they need to argue for the sake of it, I am not being a part of it. I am sensitive and can't stand people blaming,screaming or accusing me of something I haven't even done. I...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 1 Response May 1

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    Yes i do! I feel like hurt me

    once shame on you.. Hurt me twice shame on me
    newhearts91 newhearts91 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 24

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    I Do Tend to Shut People Out Now and Then

    But hurting me isn't easy as all that. If you have my trust and you lie to me you hurt me. If you betray my trust you hurt me. Other than that I can think of a way you can really hurt me. : )
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 13 Responses Feb 1, 2008

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    I Give Everybody A Chance ...

    But life is short and there a **** loads more people to replace you if you want to be a **** ... I think I am loving and fair , but you hurt me , I most likely won't fight you , more like you'll be trying to figure out where the hell I went as you stand there talking to yourself...
    Suzi504 Suzi504 31-35, F Nov 23, 2013

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    I have no one to love,

    and no one loves me. Why is love so hard to keep?
    h3art4luv h3art4luv 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    The guy that I like at work at shutting me out.

    I'm currently married with a daughter. I've been IM'ing my coworker and texting since July. Then I told him I'm getting a divorce in November. He said he felt sorry for me told me to let him know if I need anything. But he never asks about my marital status, never follows up...
    AW128 AW128 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    When people hurt me especially on social media

    I block them or delete there contact right away and if I don't they have to be really important my best friend when ever we fight I block her on social media all of it I can't help it and in real life I simply lock my self in my room for hours and don't speak
    Angel2345 Angel2345 13-15, F Jul 15

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    I'm always preparing myself

    for the hurt that's bound to come sooner or later. When someone hurts me, intentionally or not, I tend to be very quiet and withdrawn. I need to be left alone for a while. I need time to work it out in my own head before I can deal with that individual. This may not be the best...
    smhinterrupted smhinterrupted 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    If you make me extremely mad,

    I will never talk to you again... Because you are an ******* or a hoe and nobody should like you haha. It's only happened once, recently actually. And I hope it never happens again haha.
    TeethTheSizeOfPianoKeys TeethTheSizeOfPianoKeys 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 24

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    With out any explanation,

    they should already know why
    shimmersandsparkles shimmersandsparkles 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 23

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    But darling, you can't break me

    when I'm already broken....
    XxbixtchybellaxX XxbixtchybellaxX 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    Can I Just Heal Myself...Alone?

    I'm starting to get into this habit where I can depressed for whatever reason and just ignore everyone. I'm hurting and unhappy. I've let people taunt me, heckle me and use me as a punchbag. I'm tired and emotionally exhausted. I just want people to leave me alone so that I can...
    introvertgirl2013 introvertgirl2013 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    more like i shut everyone out

    so they can't hurt me.
    kr1sten kr1sten 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    For Just A Bit

    I do shut people out when they hurt me. I think its natural to need to close off from that. But I also notice I soon forget that need to shut people out and I open up maybe more afterwards. I don't let pain from someones actions take me away from what I know is for me. I need a...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 23, 2013

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    Burned...

    The moment someone starts to hurt me or hurts me really bad I start to push them away. I can’t help it,when someone I care about hurts me, I shut down, close up and when needed do not talk to the person (s) until I am ready too. In many ways this allows me the opportunity...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 21 Responses Aug 3, 2010

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    Easy Come, Easy Go

    Sometimes it amazes me how easily I can do this, how easy I can shut someone out and move on. I have done it several times. It is probably a survival strategy that I acquired still as a child. It might be an immature reaction, but, on the other hand, I don't dwell on losses or...
    thinkandfeel thinkandfeel 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 2, 2010

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    No Other Choice

    I have no other choice but to shut people out when they hurt me. I am always cautious not to hurt another persons feelings so i expect the same in return. Sure there are times we step on someones toes without knowing.... but that's small stuff. But when you care for someone...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2011

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    I'm not perfect what

    so ever but you never had to hurt me like that, I did nothing to you I did mess up but I'm sorry because I know I can't even begin to fix any of this but you hurt me so much that just don't know anymore.
    Bryonna123 Bryonna123 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 7, 2013

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    Just for a while to calm down,

    then I talk to them about it or let it slide for one time
    rapfordays rapfordays 13-15, F Apr 24

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    And I'm over it, I'm over it,

    I promise I'm over it. But it still hurts sometimes. - Laura Elizabeth Ross
    foreignindulgence foreignindulgence 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    It's become so easy to disappear

    and stop answering the phone.
    TheBadgeringWitness TheBadgeringWitness 26-30 Apr 13

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    I don't trust anyone.

    .. So if I give you my trust and you betray me even in the slightest. I will never trust you again and basically I will excommunicate you.
    CriminalMinds14 CriminalMinds14 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 11

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    Hurt Me Once……………..shame On You. Hurt Me Twice……………….**** You!

    I put too much weight into something that was nothing more than a façade of a ‘relationship’ Conventional or otherwise, I gave all of myself. Maybe that is where I f**cked up? I won’t be a matter of convenience for anyone.
    girlfaith girlfaith 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    Just like that. No warning,

    no explanation, no nothing. BYE. *rolls eyes* (is this wrong??)
    DreamerByNature DreamerByNature 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    I realized this is a lot better

    than being yo clingy and emotional. Caring and worrying about people who dont give a **** about you is a waste of time.
    khulan03 khulan03 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 4

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    I don't care. I don't care

    if you are black, white, yellow, red or purple. I accept you. I don't care if you read the Bible, the Torah, the Aqdas, the Tipitaka, the Vedas or the Koran. I accept you. Furthermore...I just don't care if you believe in any god or many gods... I accept you. I don't care if you...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M 2 Responses May 22

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    I do this quite often.

    I don't do second chances. If a 'friend' hurts me intentionally, i will get rid of them instantly. I want to surround myself around good people who make me a better person, not people who go out of their way to make myself feel bad.
    Ryanholmes20375 Ryanholmes20375 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 13

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    Unless it's someone I really have to deal with

    on a regular basis, I'm not going to force myself to get along with anyone. You only have to hurt me once on purpose, then I'm pretty much done with you.
    Blue1513 Blue1513 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 17

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    Seriously wish I could hide under a rock

    sometimes. Spare the heart ache. Ugh. So sick of doing so much for someone and getting so little in return. I don't ask for much. Just a little appreciation would be nice. A thankful gesture once a year would be nice. Been with my love for 3 years and even Christmas makes my...
    Crystabell Crystabell 26-30, F 2 Responses May 19

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    I seem to do this unconsciously,

    or maybe I'm just in denial. It's more of the latter I think. I've always thought that forgiving those who caused me grievances would undoubtedly set me free, It's a mantra I've had spiraling through my mind every time a person do me distress. I thought it would be as simple as...
    sheepInwolfsclothing sheepInwolfsclothing 22-25 4 Responses Feb 9

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    Pinkdreamsw8 Pinkdreamsw8 41-45, F Feb 5

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    welcome, so ok it's my start

    so i'm unable to deal with one thing and properly configured with one person in my head
    iApril iApril 16-17 Jun 15

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    I must shut you out if you hurt me!

    I care to much for myself not too. If I allow you then you will continue to hurt me and then I will have to continue to heal the wounds that you inflict. If I am continually healing the wounds that you inflict then it does not leave any room for me to fulfill the purpose in...
    venusdi venusdi 70+, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    For as long as I remember I have always found it

    so easy to delete people from my life I'm not sure if it was the best thing to do but it sure made me feel better
    thefourowls thefourowls 18-21, M 4 Responses May 1

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    Just because I'm sad doesn't mean you can take

    advantage of me, mentally or sexually
    cj776 cj776 18-21, F Feb 11

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    I have this thing that I do.

    Its really easy for me to eliminate people from my life. When they disrespect me. In most cases, it's warranted. But then I wonder sometimes why I don't have many close friends or family. Lol. Maybe I need to start hanging out with a better class of losers. Or change how I view...
    ItMayBeShort ItMayBeShort 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 11

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    This boy is telling me

    that he likes me and loves me but some days he doesn't even bother with me or talk to me? It hurts and makes me angry with him I dunno what to do
    cautionlost cautionlost 13-15, F 2 Responses May 20

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    Not so much when someone "hurts" me,

    just in general. I think it's more of a defense mechanism for not letting someone close enough to hurt me, having realized that, I don't really see why therapists consider this such a problem, most people are scum and don't deserve the scraps of freedom we're given. I don't...
    OneSizeFitzpatrick OneSizeFitzpatrick 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    I hate him so much...

    .I hate my old daddy
    crazyheartedfool crazyheartedfool 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 6

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    My Sensor

    I have developed my own sensor to situations or people that can hurt me. It has just developed from being constantly hurt and disappointed by my husband.So now, if I sense something painful is coming I automatically put up protectors and back away. It's a natural reaction now and...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    Like I am right now..

    .. But I really don't have anyone anyways....
    browneyedgirl10 browneyedgirl10 22-25, F 3 Responses May 2

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    My Ex Gf Cheated On Me And F Other Guy On the

    Same Day... And Then Told Me like she Was Proud Of Doing It... Well News For You i Am Proud i Shut You Out Of My Life.... Now i can Find Someone Who Won't Do That...
    RyanxXx90 RyanxXx90 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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