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I Shut People Out When They Hurt Me

When people hurt me, I want to close the door, deadbolt it, lock it, and hide away. They can't see, feel, touch or hurt me anymore. The feeling is so intense. It's a way of protection and survival. 10,153 People

    It's so hard to find people

    that actually care about you and not just about your looks. I really want someone to actually be there for me, flaws and all. So far-no luck.
    KaylaY17 KaylaY17 18-21, F Aug 26, 2014

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    Why would someone hurt you

    and then try to be your friend?
    viperguy96 viperguy96 18-21, M 2 Responses May 23

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    I Give Everybody A Chance ...

    But life is short and there a **** loads more people to replace you if you want to be a **** ... I think I am loving and fair , but you hurt me , I most likely won't fight you , more like you'll be trying to figure out where the hell I went as you stand there talking to yourself...
    Suzi504 Suzi504 31-35, F Nov 23, 2013

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    When people come in ur life

    and all its good.. but suddenly they end up showing their true colors ..hurt me once but defenetly not twice..
    chari1975 chari1975 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 11

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    Burned...

    The moment someone starts to hurt me or hurts me really bad I start to push them away. I can’t help it,when someone I care about hurts me, I shut down, close up and when needed do not talk to the person (s) until I am ready too. In many ways this allows me the opportunity...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 21 Responses Aug 3, 2010

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    I put up a wall between us,

    that way there words can not affect me anymore. although they look at me as being a *****.
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 11

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    girl ( sexydaughter16) just add me,

    i asked let me see your pic, because she doesnt have pic in profile. if no then , leave ur *** off of my circle, she blocked me, lol I wasn't like this before but this is what some people deserve to be a rude and ******* with them. This is what i learn. Be nice with me i will...
    mkdpk mkdpk 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 11

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    And that's that. Trust is the only indicator to

    me of actual friendship. If you hurt me, I can't trust you. You will only ever be an acquaintance after that at best. You'll think we're friends but you won't really know me anymore. Trust is everything.
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    One of the most stupid mistakes in life is

    thinking the person who hurt you won't hurt you again :-(
    zaragh zaragh 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Trapped And Abused.

    I moved to small town to help take care of my mother. I worked for a family business that had a son about thirty five years old and we became friends. We were never meant to be more than friends as I was fifty nine. After knowing him a few months he started behaving as if he was...
    bamccam bamccam 61-65, F 46 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    Strike one, I take some time,

    we're ok. Strike two, I shut you out for a while then we're okay once you've earned my trust. Strike three... You're out biatch!
    Ennah Ennah 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 14

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    And actions hurt more

    than words...
    JustAnotherGirlOnEP JustAnotherGirlOnEP 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    - Isn't it obvious? I'm sick of repeating

    myself over and in and out multiple times. I don't mind being alone. Even it means being haunted by your past memories, past feelings....why would I let people in again huh? Why would I allow to trust and let my feelings grow again when people have hurt me badly it's beyond...
    Voldemortia Voldemortia 22-25, F Jul 14

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    I need help I don't known what to do I'm emo

    and I'm Cristina but my parent is Muslim and they want me to wear head scarf but how I'm going to wear emo style with headscarf covering my hair 🙀
    alexandra111 alexandra111 13-15 May 29

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    "Then I cried for her

    and for me, and I prayed with all my heart not to meet her again in my days"
    viperguy96 viperguy96 18-21, M May 23

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    MisunderstoodGirl69 MisunderstoodGirl69 13-15, F May 22

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    This is something that has come with age

    for me, and I wasn't always like this with people. Unfortunately, I was hurt one too many times and refuse to let it happen so easily. I don't let many people in now, at all. When I do, I am very careful about giving them access to my heart until I know they are worthy.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 4

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    Can I Just Heal Myself...Alone?

    I'm starting to get into this habit where I can depressed for whatever reason and just ignore everyone. I'm hurting and unhappy. I've let people taunt me, heckle me and use me as a punchbag. I'm tired and emotionally exhausted. I just want people to leave me alone so that I can...
    introvertgirl2013 introvertgirl2013 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    I have deleted his contact

    and my Whatsapp... Blocked his contacts from other apps too. I pray that he won't find me ever again ... I need my happiness back
    thousandcuts thousandcuts 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    If I feel you're rejecting me,

    I will reject you first.....
    throwawaychild throwawaychild 51-55, M Apr 10

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    You know what hurts so much ?

    Its when someone made you feel special yesterday but makes you feel like you're a nobody today.!!
    jyjyb jyjyb 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 13

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    I am not always as confident

    or joyful as I seem. Me hurting is one thing but there is no point in making others feel bad because of me. If I can help someone with their struggles while I'm struggling myself then maybe things will brighten!
    pandasky pandasky 16-17, F Jul 25

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    I do, because I only get hurt

    when someone matters to me and I am very bad at confrontation when it is with someone who matters to me, so I shut people out. But you know what just really bothers me, is when someone hurts me yet they are the one to shut me out. They say all of these mean and hurtful things...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    I wish I could shut people out

    when they hurt me. But I can't. I've tried, and it just doesn't work. I give out second, third, fourth, fifth, sometimes even 6th chances to people who have wronged me, when I really care about them and I truly feel like they can change. I don't like giving up on people when I...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    After some time I have choose to forgive them,

    it's part of my climb of become WHO I really choose to be in life I pick my battles. Everyone makes poor hurtful choices and even if you try your damnedest not to hurt someone you still can and probably will.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 6

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    I shut people out when they hurt me!

    Who doesn't,is my question? I think that is a wise way of protecting yourself! Why would you let people in that hurt you? You have two choices? You stay and keep getting hurt,or walk out that door! Actually I say run! Run Forest Run!!!
    Susiedisney Susiedisney 56-60, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    This is generally the reason I do not let

    anyone within arm's distance to me, in regards to who I am on the inside. My facade is made up of walls. No outward projection of who I wish to be. It's just me, hiding from the world. So, imagine how I felt, when the one person I had spent so much time letting into my life...
    AScarletDream AScarletDream 22-25, T Apr 8

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    My Sensor

    I have developed my own sensor to situations or people that can hurt me. It has just developed from being constantly hurt and disappointed by my husband.So now, if I sense something painful is coming I automatically put up protectors and back away. It's a natural reaction now and...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    often we heard the destination doesn't matter,

    the journey is.. but a journey without a clear destination is POINTLESS. while a destination without a worthy journey is such a waste.. I can't let anything destroy my soul.. the way I see thing is there's a loop inside a loop.. only people in the inner loop can hurt me.. when...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 1 Response Jul 19

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    I am still trying to decide

    if I should contact my best friend or just assume that the friendship is all over. Still if it is over, some closure would be nice. But can I trust you, or more so, trust myself with you.
    painterchick painterchick 36-40, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    As many of you know by now,

    I have an obsessed office stalker. She delights in getting off on my life, either in the office or outside of it. If there's any rumors about me in the outside world, she dives right in, trying to turn them into reality, attempting to squeeze it for all that its worth...
    deepscar deepscar 46-50, F 15 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    I have been debating this

    for the last few days... just so confused. do I shut them out or do I hang on for dear life. it's going to get me hurt in the end. I can feel it coming. I know its out of our control. so do I run or stick around because my hearts already in it...... ugh decisions
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 4

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    No Other Choice

    I have no other choice but to shut people out when they hurt me. I am always cautious not to hurt another persons feelings so i expect the same in return. Sure there are times we step on someones toes without knowing.... but that's small stuff. But when you care for someone...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2011

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    babakamiri1368 babakamiri1368 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 30

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    It's so odd. I immediately become distant

    and distrusting of people that hurt me. It doesn't even have to be super damaging. Just a playful hit that was too hard and I flinch back instantly and back off. I always found it weird, but then again, I don't want to be hit again if it does happen.
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2014

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    I'm just done even on ep.

    I always get hurt even before I say anything. I can admit feelings for a girl, they block me. I can say hi to a guy and they hate me. I can have crushes on girls and ask them out, all rejections. I'm always a failure even at life, I can never find anyone who would ever love me...
    Mistakesmakeus Mistakesmakeus 18-21, M 10 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    After some time it's just clear to see

    that everything were just excuses, when you told me that you had no time for me you really was making time for him, and after all those excuses, all those lies, after you make me feel like **** like if i was just your side, you dare to tell me that you wanted me to stay as your...
    viperguy96 viperguy96 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 6

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    For Just A Bit

    I do shut people out when they hurt me. I think its natural to need to close off from that. But I also notice I soon forget that need to shut people out and I open up maybe more afterwards. I don't let pain from someones actions take me away from what I know is for me. I need a...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 23, 2013

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    more like i shut everyone out

    so they can't hurt me.
    kr1sten kr1sten 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Right now I feel like my heart has been pierced,

    I feel like crying. I hate how my mom makes my dad sound so disposable when they divorced when I was 12. Just now on the phone she was talking about how right after dad was sent to jail she found another. She's still with her terrible bf that treats her like ****. I just hope...
    XxLionHeartxX XxLionHeartxX 18-21 1 Response Jul 19

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    My Ex Gf Cheated On Me And F Other Guy On the

    Same Day... And Then Told Me like she Was Proud Of Doing It... Well News For You i Am Proud i Shut You Out Of My Life.... Now i can Find Someone Who Won't Do That...
    RyanxXx90 RyanxXx90 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    when people hurt me i tend to shut them out of

    my life no matter how sorry they are
    amylouise123 amylouise123 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    Hurt Me Once……………..shame On You. Hurt Me Twice……………….**** You!

    I put too much weight into something that was nothing more than a façade of a ‘relationship’ Conventional or otherwise, I gave all of myself. Maybe that is where I f**cked up? I won’t be a matter of convenience for anyone.
    girlfaith girlfaith 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    Sometimes the deeper & longer the history,

    the greater the pain. One of my best friends "unfriended" me on Facebook after we started working together because she didn't want to accept our coworkers requests. She didn't want to be "unfair". In my world, we are only coworkers now, nothing more.
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 17, 2014

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    Even you. I shut people out

    when they hurt me. It is how I manage to keep my head above water despite the chaos left in our wake. First was my mother. I shut her out at quite a young age to shield myself against the inevitable pain of knowing her. I was surprised at how easy it was to just turn it all off...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 30, 2014

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    For the last 20 years I've put up with

    and tried to fix my son who is a drug addict. I have destroyed my health my relationships with family and friends. I recently tried for the last time!  NOWI feel numb to all my love ones problems.I don't want to know or get in the middle. I always end up getting hurting...
    dreamofhers dreamofhers 61-65, F 1 Response Jul 12

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