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I Shut People Out When They Hurt Me

When people hurt me, I want to close the door, deadbolt it, lock it, and hide away. They can't see, feel, touch or hurt me anymore. The feeling is so intense. It's a way of protection and survival. 10,002 People

    Just **** people and **** everyone.

    . Like really, just **** everything... How careless can others get ffs ?
    TheLeftBehind TheLeftBehind 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 28

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    my best friend has been making me feel like I

    don't have a place in her life now that she has a bf & new friends so I decided to end the friendship. idt she did it on purpose but it's easier to end things now than to continue getting hurt
    AutumnCarielle AutumnCarielle 22-25, F Apr 4

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    emmanuel04 emmanuel04 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 23

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    No Other Choice

    I have no other choice but to shut people out when they hurt me. I am always cautious not to hurt another persons feelings so i expect the same in return. Sure there are times we step on someones toes without knowing.... but that's small stuff. But when you care for someone...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2011

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    so I finally tell my best friend how I feel in

    an effort to let her in and what does she do... not give a single ****. she can tweet her new friends all day but not respond to a text. this is why I don't trust people. this is why I don't open up to people. they really do not care.
    AutumnCarielle AutumnCarielle 22-25, F Apr 6

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    I Belive i can be a great person

    and trust me I can be a great friend!! I can save secrets!! I can jump for u any time !! But seems the now this years people do t know what is friendship !!! I have two or three best friends but other then that is not counting ... I been hurt by one of my friends and idk how to...
    Marialz Marialz 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 22

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    Hurt Me Once……………..shame On You. Hurt Me Twice……………….**** You!

    I put too much weight into something that was nothing more than a façade of a ‘relationship’ Conventional or otherwise, I gave all of myself. Maybe that is where I f**cked up? I won’t be a matter of convenience for anyone.
    girlfaith girlfaith 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    Quicker now. After heart attacks.

    And too much pain. From moronically abusive bipeds. Who sold their humanity. For power to be jerks.
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M Apr 11

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    more like i shut everyone out

    so they can't hurt me.
    kr1sten kr1sten 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Silence Hurts Just As Bad

    I'm not the best when it comes to being upset and dealing with my emotions. I would rather be angry; it's something I can deal with, but being upset and hurt....I can't. So when i'm hurt I shut them out because sometimes silence can hurt just as bad as words. In my experience...
    MissJazz MissJazz 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 14, 2012

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    I'm just done even on ep.

    I always get hurt even before I say anything. I can admit feelings for a girl, they block me. I can say hi to a guy and they hate me. I can have crushes on girls and ask them out, all rejections. I'm always a failure even at life, I can never find anyone who would ever love me...
    highomeal highomeal 18-21, M 10 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    I've had this friend

    since I was in kindergarden. I was in Puerto Rico at that time and left when I was 10, came back when I was turning 13 left again to Fl & now at age 17 I live in P.R again. I had nevet had feelings for him but now I do. Problem is that when we were trying to have a serious...
    Kalel17 Kalel17 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    it's gotten to the point that

    if I think someone is gonna hurt me I withdraw from them. it could be nothing but if it don't feel right I pull away.
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Yes i do! I feel like hurt me

    once shame on you.. Hurt me twice shame on me
    newhearts91 newhearts91 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 24, 2014

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    But darling, you can't break me

    when I'm already broken....
    MeaninglessMemories MeaninglessMemories 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2014

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    The feeling of guilt building up to oppressive

    levels because what must be depression drags the joy away and sufficates it, leaving in its place a bowl of sadness and regret, festering, becoming stronger and unmanageable. I do not mean to condone it, but its so easily done when you realise the people who are closest to you...
    WonderingOfTheSoul WonderingOfTheSoul 18-21 Dec 25, 2014

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    If I feel you're rejecting me,

    I will reject you first.....
    throwawaychild throwawaychild 46-50, M Apr 10

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    babakamiri1368 babakamiri1368 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    It's my defense mechanism.

    Keep them from hurting me again.
    astrokitty4341 astrokitty4341 22-25, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    It's so odd. I immediately become distant

    and distrusting of people that hurt me. It doesn't even have to be super damaging. Just a playful hit that was too hard and I flinch back instantly and back off. I always found it weird, but then again, I don't want to be hit again if it does happen.
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2014

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    I Give Everybody A Chance ...

    But life is short and there a **** loads more people to replace you if you want to be a **** ... I think I am loving and fair , but you hurt me , I most likely won't fight you , more like you'll be trying to figure out where the hell I went as you stand there talking to yourself...
    Suzi504 Suzi504 31-35, F Nov 23, 2013

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    I and my bestfrnd went to a clz together.

    my bstfriend had a boyfriend already but I didn't have any so most of the guys had intrest on me.and a guy liked me tried to propose so he wanted to talk with me but I was too shy to talk so I didn't talk so my bestfrnd talked to him actually the guy was very handsome so my...
    lovelymhnaaz lovelymhnaaz 16-17, F Dec 7, 2014

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    when you hurt me I review our friendship once I

    review our friendship I either leave or stay end of story
    HandyMannyWanny HandyMannyWanny 16-17, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    Girls easily fall in love

    but having a hard time to move on.. so please if you're going to hurt us, leave us alone.
    ElizabethSwanTurner ElizabethSwanTurner 18-21, F Feb 26

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    My Ex Gf Cheated On Me And F Other Guy On the

    Same Day... And Then Told Me like she Was Proud Of Doing It... Well News For You i Am Proud i Shut You Out Of My Life.... Now i can Find Someone Who Won't Do That...
    RyanxXx90 RyanxXx90 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    When you have spent most of your life keeping

    people at a distance because it is easier to let them go...it is hard to know what to do when the one person you thought you would never be without is hurting you.
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 3 Responses Mar 17

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    Trapped And Abused.

    I moved to small town to help take care of my mother. I worked for a family business that had a son about thirty five years old and we became friends. We were never meant to be more than friends as I was fifty nine. After knowing him a few months he started behaving as if he was...
    bamccam bamccam 61-65, F 46 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    I once had a boyfriend

    that I dated for 2 years. We broke up for certain reasons. But he wanted to be friends. So we started talking as friends a few months later and then he starts talking crap about me to people I used to go to high school with. I took that mofo outta my life for good after that...
    Dontcare10111 Dontcare10111 18-21, F Apr 4

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    This is something that has come with age

    for me, and I wasn't always like this with people. Unfortunately, I was hurt one too many times and refuse to let it happen so easily. I don't let many people in now, at all. When I do, I am very careful about giving them access to my heart until I know they are worthy.
    grumpykittie13 grumpykittie13 31-35, F 14 hrs ago

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    Strike one, I take some time,

    we're ok. Strike two, I shut you out for a while then we're okay once you've earned my trust. Strike three... You're out biatch!
    Ennah Ennah 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 14

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    My Sensor

    I have developed my own sensor to situations or people that can hurt me. It has just developed from being constantly hurt and disappointed by my husband.So now, if I sense something painful is coming I automatically put up protectors and back away. It's a natural reaction now and...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    It's so hard to find people

    that actually care about you and not just about your looks. I really want someone to actually be there for me, flaws and all. So far-no luck.
    KaylaY17 KaylaY17 18-21, F Aug 26, 2014

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    "are you supposed to be in my life?

    I won't close the door if you're supposed to be, but... " i've had that struggle recently with an ex-friend. We started out really good, talking about every day things... then got personal. We believe some of the same things... and differed in others. Being unaccustomed to...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 3 Responses Feb 28

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    I wish I could shut people out

    when they hurt me. But I can't. I've tried, and it just doesn't work. I give out second, third, fourth, fifth, sometimes even 6th chances to people who have wronged me, when I really care about them and I truly feel like they can change. I don't like giving up on people when I...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    I tired and tired to shut him out

    but I couldn't and now he might of been lying to me so I wouldn't kill myself... he has made the situation so much worse than it would of been...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F Feb 28

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    Even you. I shut people out

    when they hurt me. It is how I manage to keep my head above water despite the chaos left in our wake. First was my mother. I shut her out at quite a young age to shield myself against the inevitable pain of knowing her. I was surprised at how easy it was to just turn it all off...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 30, 2014

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    After some time I have choose to forgive them,

    it's part of my climb of become WHO I really choose to be in life I pick my battles. Everyone makes poor hurtful choices and even if you try your damnedest not to hurt someone you still can and probably will.
    OrchidsNuBlu OrchidsNuBlu 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 6

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    I realized this is a lot better

    than being yo clingy and emotional. Caring and worrying about people who dont give a **** about you is a waste of time.
    khulan03 khulan03 18-21, F Jul 4, 2014

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    A few years ago my life went on a downward

    spiral because my dad just started treating me like crap. After my parents got divorced I feel like I can't get closer to him no matter how hard I try. That part of me that wanted to be with him and do father son stuff is gone. He says how he treated me was the worst mistake of...
    jjpeace7 jjpeace7 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 10

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    I have been debating this

    for the last few days... just so confused. do I shut them out or do I hang on for dear life. it's going to get me hurt in the end. I can feel it coming. I know its out of our control. so do I run or stick around because my hearts already in it...... ugh decisions
    mrsskayl mrsskayl 26-30, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I do. And most of the time I hardy let anyone

    close. Years of being abandoned and made fun of by those closest me left me cold. Though I'm not like that. It still shows. I hate letting people close.
    K1PST3R K1PST3R 16-17, F Dec 6, 2014

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    For Just A Bit

    I do shut people out when they hurt me. I think its natural to need to close off from that. But I also notice I soon forget that need to shut people out and I open up maybe more afterwards. I don't let pain from someones actions take me away from what I know is for me. I need a...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 23, 2013

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    As many of you know by now,

    I have an obsessed office stalker. She delights in getting off on my life, either in the office or outside of it. If there's any rumors about me in the outside world, she dives right in, trying to turn them into reality, attempting to squeeze it for all that its worth...
    deepscar deepscar 46-50, F 15 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    with not so much as a goodbye.

    i don't need your apology. it's not as if i can hear it anyway.
    abcdefghisabelmnopqrst abcdefghisabelmnopqrst 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 1

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    It's like a trigger goes off in my head.

    .. And I completely shut down when I feel I've been wronged or hurt in some way sometimes I don't even realize im doing it's like my heart has made it's own switch now on what I will and will not tolerate... I've been hurt by way to many close people in my life including family...
    Forbiddenkisses Forbiddenkisses 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    Can I Just Heal Myself...Alone?

    I'm starting to get into this habit where I can depressed for whatever reason and just ignore everyone. I'm hurting and unhappy. I've let people taunt me, heckle me and use me as a punchbag. I'm tired and emotionally exhausted. I just want people to leave me alone so that I can...
    introvertgirl2013 introvertgirl2013 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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