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I Shut People Out When They Hurt Me

When people hurt me, I want to close the door, deadbolt it, lock it, and hide away. They can't see, feel, touch or hurt me anymore. The feeling is so intense. It's a way of protection and survival. 10,349 People

    There's this guy that likes me

    and I like him too. I decided to neutralize my emotions for him, because I'm trying to stay logical. I've been hurt in the past and it sucks. This year he is graduating and I'm staying another year. I don't want to get too attached. He seems to be really interested but I don't...
    XxLoveInTheDarkxX XxLoveInTheDarkxX 18-21 4 Responses Oct 22, 2015

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    That's the only way I can deal with the pain.

    If I leave my heart open to them, they will tear it apart even more, and I can't withstand that.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F Sep 24, 2015

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    If I feel you're rejecting me,

    I will reject you first.....
    throwawaychild throwawaychild 51-55, M Apr 10, 2015

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    It's so odd. I immediately become distant

    and distrusting of people that hurt me. It doesn't even have to be super damaging. Just a playful hit that was too hard and I flinch back instantly and back off. I always found it weird, but then again, I don't want to be hit again if it does happen.
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2014

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    I pray that I die alone right here in my car.

    I want those that have hurt me, to know what they did. I want those who have ignored me to feel as ****** as I do. I want those that saw my cries and laughed at me, or didn't even care to know that I died alone. in the middle of no where. I want them to know that I wasn't...
    debonaireash debonaireash 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 4, 2015

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    Friends family lovers I leave them alone

    and stay open to others. Why do some people like to take advantage of other people? Do they not have a conscience?
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 16, 2015

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    Actually, I don't really ever let anyone in,

    not inside the gates of my Great moated castle Of a heart anyway. I did one time, and my heart's been under siege Since that day When it closes, I'm bricking myself in. Permanently. I like a quiet heart. Even if it's dead.
    LadyGallivanter LadyGallivanter 41-45 3 Responses Oct 22, 2015

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    Like family. Me cant do much

    but focus on free and hope pals are better than family.
    JustBipolarMe JustBipolarMe 46-50, M Aug 18, 2015

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    Im a conflicted person

    that lives more in my mind than in reality, but sometimes it's better to think of the only solution is to slam the door and just run away rather than fighting. Hurt is a powerful thing, artist have written songs about it and movies have been made about it. Does this make...
    DesiredUserNameandStuff DesiredUserNameandStuff 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2015

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    Has anyone ever had a family member lie on them

    to get sympathy for themselves?
    Scorpioismyname Scorpioismyname 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 17, 2015

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    I hope I die tonight.

    .........................
    debonaireash debonaireash 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 4, 2015

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    No Other Choice

    I have no other choice but to shut people out when they hurt me. I am always cautious not to hurt another persons feelings so i expect the same in return. Sure there are times we step on someones toes without knowing.... but that's small stuff. But when you care for someone...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2011

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    Wow I just got told by someone on EP to have

    fun having panic attacks for the rest of my life because I'm an idiot. I wonder why you bothered to pm me in the first place. It's not like I asked you to. Why message random people if you're just going to be mean?
    BlueJinx BlueJinx 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 7, 2015

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    why do I keep letting people in?

    they always just leave in the end.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Nov 20, 2015

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    Hurt Me Once……………..shame On You. Hurt Me Twice……………….**** You!

    I put too much weight into something that was nothing more than a façade of a ‘relationship’ Conventional or otherwise, I gave all of myself. Maybe that is where I f**cked up? I won’t be a matter of convenience for anyone.
    girlfaith girlfaith 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    MisunderstoodGirl69 MisunderstoodGirl69 13-15, F May 22, 2015

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    I don't know how long you thought I would hold

    on. I don't know how you would think that once or twice every 2 months would keep me from asking the inevitable question about a time table. The more I listened to your stories, the more I reached out to someone else. I told him about all we were and all we were not. He sat and...
    JeweledGypsy JeweledGypsy 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 26, 2015

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    Trapped And Abused.

    I moved to small town to help take care of my mother. I worked for a family business that had a son about thirty five years old and we became friends. We were never meant to be more than friends as I was fifty nine. After knowing him a few months he started behaving as if he was...
    bamccam bamccam 61-65, F 45 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    One of the most stupid mistakes in life is

    thinking the person who hurt you won't hurt you again :-(
    zaragh zaragh 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 4, 2015

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    Prevents me from getting hurt

    even further. Probably frustrating for people, but it is a protective measure.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F Oct 31, 2015

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    I just want times to be like back then .

    Way back when I felt like I had enough I wanted :/
    jesstheman jesstheman 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 28, 2015

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    I'm the one whose always at the receiving end.

    .. be it betrayal or disloyalty... so my coping mechanism is to shut out those who hurt me. I have the right to protect me from anyone who dares cross boundaries.... family or not!!! and surprise surprise.... watch how they squirm when the tables turn.....
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 16, 2015

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    Stand outside my walls

    and shout and scream until your voice is hoarse. Try to break them down, plead with me to let you in. You caused me pain when I thought I could trust you, when I thought you were genuine and that you had my best interests at heart. I let you in and you abused my trust. You used...
    Saintlysinner Saintlysinner 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 17, 2015

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    My Sensor

    I have developed my own sensor to situations or people that can hurt me. It has just developed from being constantly hurt and disappointed by my husband.So now, if I sense something painful is coming I automatically put up protectors and back away. It's a natural reaction now and...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    I guess I'm guilty of this too.

    However, I seem to turn in to a little bit of a crazy ***** first. I don't mean to and always regret it later. My emotions take over and I feel like I'm on a roller coaster. When the ride stops, I turn in to my sweet innocent self again. Ok, well maybe not innocent.
    GirlGonePostal GirlGonePostal 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2015

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    One of my sisters I have 3 ,

    I've not bothered to vist her or call her since she was being a bully and harsh talking , it's been over 3 months since we spoke , it's unlike me my mum said but I'm just fed up with her moaning and blaming the world for her mess her husband is a **** bag . She drives a taxi at...
    roastlamb roastlamb 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 7, 2015

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    Right now I feel like my heart has been pierced,

    I feel like crying. I hate how my mom makes my dad sound so disposable when they divorced when I was 12. Just now on the phone she was talking about how right after dad was sent to jail she found another. She's still with her terrible bf that treats her like ****. I just hope...
    XxLoveInTheDarkxX XxLoveInTheDarkxX 18-21 1 Response Jul 19, 2015

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    It feels like a torture to not think about it I

    had this anxiety for several weeks and intense emotions. I am not sure if it is a good thing or not I still have it ... it started when my first painful break up... the day after my break up I can't stand the fact that I had a break up, that first day was torture because I...
    f00dbarevaporating f00dbarevaporating 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2015

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    After some time I have choose to forgive them,

    it's part of my climb of become WHO I really choose to be in life I pick my battles. Everyone makes poor hurtful choices and even if you try your damnedest not to hurt someone you still can and probably will.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 6, 2015

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    There's nothing worse

    than having someone you truly care about hurting you with their words and having no remorse for the pain that was caused.
    Jazzy1234 Jazzy1234 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 26

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    I realized this is a lot better

    than being yo clingy and emotional. Caring and worrying about people who dont give a **** about you is a waste of time.
    khulan03 khulan03 18-21, F Jul 4, 2014

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    I always have walked away all too quickly,

    from relationships, friendships and careers. No time for toxic people, or fake friends, friends that cause drama. But I am trying to be a more forgiving person. No one is perfect an all of us have many flaws as I kept telling my ex, forgiving her each time for any hurt she...
    YokoOnosVision YokoOnosVision 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 23, 2015

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    I'm just done even on ep.

    I always get hurt even before I say anything. I can admit feelings for a girl, they block me. I can say hi to a guy and they hate me. I can have crushes on girls and ask them out, all rejections. I'm always a failure even at life, I can never find anyone who would ever love me...
    Mistakesmakeus Mistakesmakeus 18-21, M 11 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    I didn't used to back

    when I was younger. I used to keep letting people use me. After a few years you end up feeling worthless, like everyone has taken a piece of you away and leaves nothing left. Now I don't let people use me. I don't use people because I know how unbelievably crappy it feels. I'm...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 23, 2015

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    more like i shut everyone out

    so they can't hurt me.
    kr1sten kr1sten 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I don't trust a lot of people,

    but when I do I will be completely honest and open with you, but I will shut them out when they hurt me. I start to feel depressed and alone because I feel like they betrayed me. it hurts and I don't think I can take it anymore, it's just too much pain right now.
    ssweetdisspositionn ssweetdisspositionn 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 16, 2015

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    Can I Just Heal Myself...Alone?

    I'm starting to get into this habit where I can depressed for whatever reason and just ignore everyone. I'm hurting and unhappy. I've let people taunt me, heckle me and use me as a punchbag. I'm tired and emotionally exhausted. I just want people to leave me alone so that I can...
    introvertgirl2013 introvertgirl2013 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    I sometimes feel hate it

    when i enjoy the company of the person and i don't want him/her to think that i'm enjoying her/his company cuz i know where it leads - disappointments and accuse you being clingy and then abandon you.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 7, 2015

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    I want you to know its the right thing Deep

    within my hearted souled passions a the desire The desire to let you know that it IS NOT OKAY Not okay to let me die Because your tongue is a knife Sharp with the blades of a double edged sword And you're blind to it You're blind to all the hurt And pain you've caused me I...
    Hey4yu Hey4yu 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 23, 2015

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    I was shot and survived I don't really remember

    how it happened but it hurt a lot
    mista02 mista02 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 21, 2015

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    I get tired of hurting,

    do I shut them out. is that a bad thing to do?
    ToukaKirishima ToukaKirishima 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 11

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    As many of you know by now,

    I have an obsessed office stalker. She delights in getting off on my life, either in the office or outside of it. If there's any rumors about me in the outside world, she dives right in, trying to turn them into reality, attempting to squeeze it for all that its worth...
    deepscar deepscar 46-50, F 15 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    Burned...

    The moment someone starts to hurt me or hurts me really bad I start to push them away. I can’t help it,when someone I care about hurts me, I shut down, close up and when needed do not talk to the person (s) until I am ready too. In many ways this allows me the opportunity...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 21 Responses Aug 3, 2010

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    Sorry, that's just the way I am.

    Even though I may forgive those people, but I don't let them back in to my life if they have severely hurt me because it's hard to build back that trust you had for them. I have shut people out online and offline. If you severely hurt me, I don't want to see you, I don't want...
    CaliTexan37 CaliTexan37 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 17

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    Everything is gone. There's nothing left.

    Nothing else can be said.
    hope92520 hope92520 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 3

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