I Shut People Out When They Hurt Me

When people hurt me, I want to close the door, deadbolt it, lock it, and hide away. They can't see, feel, touch or hurt me anymore. The feeling is so intense. It's a way of protection and survival. 10,086 People

    I wish I could shut people out

    when they hurt me. But I can't. I've tried, and it just doesn't work. I give out second, third, fourth, fifth, sometimes even 6th chances to people who have wronged me, when I really care about them and I truly feel like they can change. I don't like giving up on people when I...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 16, 2014

    Wow I just got told by someone on EP to have

    fun having panic attacks for the rest of my life because I'm an idiot. I wonder why you bothered to pm me in the first place. It's not like I asked you to. Why message random people if you're just going to be mean?
    BlueJinx BlueJinx
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 7, 2015

    For Just A Bit

    I do shut people out when they hurt me. I think its natural to need to close off from that. But I also notice I soon forget that need to shut people out and I open up maybe more afterwards. I don't let pain from someones actions take me away from what I know is for me. I need a...
    soulrunher soulrunher
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Mar 23, 2013

    I get tired of hurting,

    do I shut them out. is that a bad thing to do?
    ToukaKirishima ToukaKirishima
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Jan 11, 2016

    One of the most stupid mistakes in life is

    thinking the person who hurt you won't hurt you again :-(
    zaragh zaragh
    36-40, F
    1 Response Aug 4, 2015

    Me too. Not much more to say

    than that, it's a defense mechanism for me and I suspect for many of us humans.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Apr 2, 2016

    Right now I feel like my heart has been pierced,

    I feel like crying. I hate how my mom makes my dad sound so disposable when they divorced when I was 12. Just now on the phone she was talking about how right after dad was sent to jail she found another. She's still with her terrible bf that treats her like ****. I just hope...
    deleted deleted
    Jul 19, 2015

    Actually, I don't really ever let anyone in,

    not inside the gates of my Great moated castle Of a heart anyway. I did one time, and my heart's been under siege Since that day When it closes, I'm bricking myself in. Permanently. I like a quiet heart. Even if it's dead.
    LadyGallivanter LadyGallivanter
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2015

    I definitely shut people out

    after they have hurt me badly... I basically act indifferent to them. In my mind, I'm thinking, "You know what, you don't deserve to see any part of me, not my happiness, not my anger and not my pain. You deserve nothing."
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Feb 12, 2016

    It's so odd. I immediately become distant

    and distrusting of people that hurt me. It doesn't even have to be super damaging. Just a playful hit that was too hard and I flinch back instantly and back off. I always found it weird, but then again, I don't want to be hit again if it does happen.
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 10, 2014

    That's the only way I can deal with the pain.

    If I leave my heart open to them, they will tear it apart even more, and I can't withstand that.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    Sep 24, 2015

    Everything is gone. There's nothing left.

    Nothing else can be said.
    hope92520 hope92520
    16-17, F
    Jan 3, 2016

    I Give Everybody A Chance ...

    But life is short and there a **** loads more people to replace you if you want to be a **** ... I think I am loving and fair , but you hurt me , I most likely won't fight you , more like you'll be trying to figure out where the hell I went as you stand there talking to yourself...
    Suzi504 Suzi504
    36-40, F
    Nov 23, 2013

    After some time I have choose to forgive them,

    it's part of my climb of become WHO I really choose to be in life I pick my battles. Everyone makes poor hurtful choices and even if you try your damnedest not to hurt someone you still can and probably will.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 6, 2015

    I've learnt over the years

    that it's easier to do this sometimes. These days I'm all about self preservation. Sometimes you need to forget about people, or not talk to them for awhile, if they've hurt you. It's best to not talk when you're at your peak of being upset, nothing good can come from that.
    rememberthegirl rememberthegirl
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 12, 2015

    I'm just done even on ep.

    I always get hurt even before I say anything. I can admit feelings for a girl, they block me. I can say hi to a guy and they hate me. I can have crushes on girls and ask them out, all rejections. I'm always a failure even at life, I can never find anyone who would ever love me...
    Mistakesmakeus Mistakesmakeus
    18-21, M
    12 Responses Nov 16, 2014

    I didn't used to back

    when I was younger. I used to keep letting people use me. After a few years you end up feeling worthless, like everyone has taken a piece of you away and leaves nothing left. Now I don't let people use me. I don't use people because I know how unbelievably crappy it feels. I'm...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 23, 2015

    There's nothing worse

    than having someone you truly care about hurting you with their words and having no remorse for the pain that was caused.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 26, 2016

    I don't see how people forgive

    so easily..even if I keep it secret ..I still hold bitter feelings ..for a long time
    Cocrispy Cocrispy
    26-30, M
    1 Response Apr 2, 2016

    As many of you know by now,

    I have an obsessed office stalker. She delights in getting off on my life, either in the office or outside of it. If there's any rumors about me in the outside world, she dives right in, trying to turn them into reality, attempting to squeeze it for all that its worth...
    deepscar deepscar
    46-50, F
    14 Responses Aug 26, 2014

    If I feel you're rejecting me,

    I will reject you first.....
    throwawaychild throwawaychild
    51-55, M
    Apr 10, 2015

    Is like I was born for this.

    At school,work,family gathering or just about everywhere.Hurt me and make fool out of me.Well,I will make you regret 4times just by shutting you out and never have to consider you.Many people always claim that I am an Aquarius I behave this way.No,being hurt by someone expecting...
    Chanatip77 Chanatip77
    Mar 25, 2016

    And never agian will i let them back in.

    My story. A friend of mine for 3 yrs had gone behind our other gal pals back telling everyone everything that was going on in her life so i told the other gal pal to watch what she says to my ex best friend well that blew up in my face. 3+ yrs without her and im happy. She was...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 4, 2016

    I'm chasing highs and lows

    as the mountains meet valleys. The lows are highs to me. I want to ravish my arm in beautiful cuts so deep that I feel the ecstasy of adrenaline all over my being.
    JavierHunting JavierHunting
    18-21, M
    Apr 2, 2016

    Why would I stay connected with them

    if they Harm me ...I care about my well-being and take Responsibility for it .
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 15, 2016

    I'm done being hurt. I'd

    rather feel nothing anymore. It's too much. What's so great about life anyways?
    ToukaKirishima ToukaKirishima
    13-15, F
    1 Response Feb 28, 2016

    Has anyone ever had a family member lie on them

    to get sympathy for themselves?
    Scorpioismyname Scorpioismyname
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Dec 17, 2015

    more like i shut everyone out

    so they can't hurt me.
    kr1sten kr1sten
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 27, 2013

    I was shot and survived I don't really remember

    how it happened but it hurt a lot
    mista02 mista02
    16-17, F
    1 Response Oct 21, 2015

    I feel deeply hurt. Like someone stabbed what

    little good I had in me. People change, even the closest ones to you. They will step on your feelings and not give an F. He was not like that before, which is why this was a complete surprise to me. I can trust no one in my family any more and not let any of them get close to...
    Shamandora Shamandora
    18-21, F
    Sep 8, 2015

    Friends family lovers I leave them alone

    and stay open to others. Why do some people like to take advantage of other people? Do they not have a conscience?
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 16, 2015

    I have shut many people out

    when they have hurt me or just don't like me i do this several times cause i know no else way of making the hurt stop other then shutting them out i would like to just have 1 person to be there for me to love me for me.
    itisme4 itisme4
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 14, 2016

    There's this guy that likes me

    and I like him too. I decided to neutralize my emotions for him, because I'm trying to stay logical. I've been hurt in the past and it sucks. This year he is graduating and I'm staying another year. I don't want to get too attached. He seems to be really interested but I don't...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Oct 22, 2015

    No Other Choice

    I have no other choice but to shut people out when they hurt me. I am always cautious not to hurt another persons feelings so i expect the same in return. Sure there are times we step on someones toes without knowing.... but that's small stuff. But when you care for someone...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze
    56-60, F
    3 Responses Jun 21, 2011

    I completely shut down.

    My heart is aching and what makes it worse is I can never seem to express myself when hurting. I laugh a lot and hide behind my smile. I have to, especially while at work but I feel like breaking down and crying yet I have to keep it together. I absolutely despise being...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Feb 10, 2016

    Trapped And Abused.

    I moved to small town to help take care of my mother. I worked for a family business that had a son about thirty five years old and we became friends. We were never meant to be more than friends as I was fifty nine. After knowing him a few months he started behaving as if he was...
    bamccam bamccam
    61-65, F
    43 Responses Jul 30, 2012

    Hurt Me Once……………..shame On You. Hurt Me Twice……………….**** You!

    I put too much weight into something that was nothing more than a façade of a ‘relationship’ Conventional or otherwise, I gave all of myself. Maybe that is where I f**cked up? I won’t be a matter of convenience for anyone.
    girlfaith girlfaith
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 18, 2013

    "But you can't shut everyone out.

    I mean you have to have someone to love... someone to hold on to... someone..."
    TheUltimateCrazyCatLady TheUltimateCrazyCatLady
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 12, 2016

    why do I keep letting people in?

    they always just leave in the end.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Nov 20, 2015

    I want you to know its the right thing Deep

    within my hearted souled passions a the desire The desire to let you know that it IS NOT OKAY Not okay to let me die Because your tongue is a knife Sharp with the blades of a double edged sword And you're blind to it You're blind to all the hurt And pain you've caused me I...
    Hey4yu Hey4yu
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Aug 23, 2015

    My Sensor

    I have developed my own sensor to situations or people that can hurt me. It has just developed from being constantly hurt and disappointed by my husband.So now, if I sense something painful is coming I automatically put up protectors and back away. It's a natural reaction now and...
    soulrunher soulrunher
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 7, 2013

    Fuc,k the liers who say they love you

    but they really don't Fuc,k the pretenders who'll make you believe when nothing true Fuc,k the maniacs who'll do everything to score Fuc,k those best friends who make you fall for them and be shock when you do. They even have the nerve to hug you while your heart is breaking and...
    mysticalexis224 mysticalexis224
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 7, 2016

    often we heard the destination doesn't matter,

    the journey is.. but a journey without a clear destination is POINTLESS. while a destination without a worthy journey is such a waste.. I can't let anything destroy my soul.. the way I see thing is there's a loop inside a loop.. only people in the inner loop can hurt me.. when...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i
    70+, M
    1 Response Jul 19, 2015

    I realized this is a lot better

    than being yo clingy and emotional. Caring and worrying about people who dont give a **** about you is a waste of time.
    khulan03 khulan03
    18-21, F
    Jul 4, 2014

    Prevents me from getting hurt

    even further. Probably frustrating for people, but it is a protective measure.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    Oct 31, 2015

    One of my sisters I have 3 ,

    I've not bothered to vist her or call her since she was being a bully and harsh talking , it's been over 3 months since we spoke , it's unlike me my mum said but I'm just fed up with her moaning and blaming the world for her mess her husband is a **** bag . She drives a taxi at...
    roastlamb roastlamb
    36-40, M
    1 Response Oct 7, 2015

    I just want times to be like back then .

    Way back when I felt like I had enough I wanted :/
    jesstheman jesstheman
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 28, 2015

    It feels like a torture to not think about it I

    had this anxiety for several weeks and intense emotions. I am not sure if it is a good thing or not I still have it ... it started when my first painful break up... the day after my break up I can't stand the fact that I had a break up, that first day was torture because I...
    f00dbarevaporating f00dbarevaporating
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 16, 2015


    The moment someone starts to hurt me or hurts me really bad I start to push them away. I can’t help it,when someone I care about hurts me, I shut down, close up and when needed do not talk to the person (s) until I am ready too. In many ways this allows me the opportunity...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002
    46-50, F
    20 Responses Aug 3, 2010

    And actions hurt more

    than words...
    JustAnotherGirlOnEP JustAnotherGirlOnEP
    22-25, F
    Jul 11, 2015
    MisunderstoodGirl69 MisunderstoodGirl69
    16-17, F
    May 22, 2015

    I don't trust a lot of people,

    but when I do I will be completely honest and open with you, but I will shut them out when they hurt me. I start to feel depressed and alone because I feel like they betrayed me. it hurts and I don't think I can take it anymore, it's just too much pain right now.
    ssweetdisspositionn ssweetdisspositionn
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Aug 16, 2015

    Can I Just Heal Myself...Alone?

    I'm starting to get into this habit where I can depressed for whatever reason and just ignore everyone. I'm hurting and unhappy. I've let people taunt me, heckle me and use me as a punchbag. I'm tired and emotionally exhausted. I just want people to leave me alone so that I can...
    introvertgirl2013 introvertgirl2013
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

    i deleted all my experiences on here

    and started avoiding this app when i read ep was closing. i regret it.
    chickacherrycolathecoroner chickacherrycolathecoroner
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 2, 2016
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