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I Shut People Out When They Hurt Me

When people hurt me, I want to close the door, deadbolt it, lock it, and hide away. They can't see, feel, touch or hurt me anymore. The feeling is so intense. It's a way of protection and survival. 9,795 People

    Burned...

    The moment someone starts to hurt me or hurts me really bad I start to push them away. I can’t help it,when someone I care about hurts me, I shut down, close up and when needed do not talk to the person (s) until I am ready too. In many ways this allows me the opportunity...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 21 Responses Aug 3, 2010

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    It's so hard to find people

    that actually care about you and not just about your looks. I really want someone to actually be there for me, flaws and all. So far-no luck.
    KaylaY17 KaylaY17 18-21, F Aug 26, 2014

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    The feeling of guilt building up to oppressive

    levels because what must be depression drags the joy away and sufficates it, leaving in its place a bowl of sadness and regret, festering, becoming stronger and unmanageable. I do not mean to condone it, but its so easily done when you realise the people who are closest to you...
    WonderingOfTheSoul WonderingOfTheSoul 18-21 Dec 25, 2014

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    why should I bother with them anymore,

    when it's obvious they didn't care about my feelings?
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 8, 2014

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    I realized this is a lot better

    than being yo clingy and emotional. Caring and worrying about people who dont give a **** about you is a waste of time.
    khulan03 khulan03 18-21, F Jul 4, 2014

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    I shut them all out!!

    .. I will never let them ever get close to me or the people that they associate with to get close to me too .. Im so sick of thur sorrys & yet they choose to hurt me over & over giving the silent treatment or they hide they make me feel bad when there the ones who did all the...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 8, 2014

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    "are you supposed to be in my life?

    I won't close the door if you're supposed to be, but... " i've had that struggle recently with an ex-friend. We started out really good, talking about every day things... then got personal. We believe some of the same things... and differed in others. Being unaccustomed to...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    i do??? how the hell can i do that?

    especially when no one even bothers in any way to connect with me???
    gurldeleted gurldeleted 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    I and my bestfrnd went to a clz together.

    my bstfriend had a boyfriend already but I didn't have any so most of the guys had intrest on me.and a guy liked me tried to propose so he wanted to talk with me but I was too shy to talk so I didn't talk so my bestfrnd talked to him actually the guy was very handsome so my...
    lovelymhnaaz lovelymhnaaz 16-17, F Dec 7, 2014

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    I must shut you out if you hurt me!

    I care to much for myself not too. If I allow you then you will continue to hurt me and then I will have to continue to heal the wounds that you inflict. If I am continually healing the wounds that you inflict then it does not leave any room for me to fulfill the purpose in...
    venusdi venusdi 70+, F 2 Responses Jan 31, 2014

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    I wish I could shut people out

    when they hurt me. But I can't. I've tried, and it just doesn't work. I give out second, third, fourth, fifth, sometimes even 6th chances to people who have wronged me, when I really care about them and I truly feel like they can change. I don't like giving up on people when I...
    LostandFading LostandFading 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    Just like that. No warning,

    no explanation, no nothing. BYE. *rolls eyes* (is this wrong??)
    DreamerByNature DreamerByNature 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 6, 2014

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    I Belive i can be a great person

    and trust me I can be a great friend!! I can save secrets!! I can jump for u any time !! But seems the now this years people do t know what is friendship !!! I have two or three best friends but other then that is not counting ... I been hurt by one of my friends and idk how to...
    Marialz Marialz 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 22

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    Trapped And Abused.

    I moved to small town to help take care of my mother. I worked for a family business that had a son about thirty five years old and we became friends. We were never meant to be more than friends as I was fifty nine. After knowing him a few months he started behaving as if he was...
    bamccam bamccam 61-65, F 46 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    My Sensor

    I have developed my own sensor to situations or people that can hurt me. It has just developed from being constantly hurt and disappointed by my husband.So now, if I sense something painful is coming I automatically put up protectors and back away. It's a natural reaction now and...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    And that's that. Trust is the only indicator to

    me of actual friendship. If you hurt me, I can't trust you. You will only ever be an acquaintance after that at best. You'll think we're friends but you won't really know me anymore. Trust is everything.
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 17, 2014

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    Most often my reaction to getting hurt

    or being dissatisfied is 'cutting my losses' and moving forward with life. The truth is, however that I am not cutting out losses in my life. What I am doing is discarding the ones I love as they act in a way that I don't like. The behavior has stemmed from years of different...
    CarlyOnline CarlyOnline 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2014

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    I've had this friend

    since I was in kindergarden. I was in Puerto Rico at that time and left when I was 10, came back when I was turning 13 left again to Fl & now at age 17 I live in P.R again. I had nevet had feelings for him but now I do. Problem is that when we were trying to have a serious...
    Kalel17 Kalel17 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    Silence Hurts Just As Bad

    I'm not the best when it comes to being upset and dealing with my emotions. I would rather be angry; it's something I can deal with, but being upset and hurt....I can't. So when i'm hurt I shut them out because sometimes silence can hurt just as bad as words. In my experience...
    MissJazz MissJazz 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 14, 2012

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    When people wrong or hurt me........

    I tend to just stop talking to them and shut them out completely. Sometimes it's a gradual process: I'll continue to talk and be civil with them for a while before I officially break things off between us with certain behaviors and/or words. Other times I just abruptly cut them...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 16, 2013

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    emmanuel04 emmanuel04 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 23

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    My Ex Gf Cheated On Me And F Other Guy On the

    Same Day... And Then Told Me like she Was Proud Of Doing It... Well News For You i Am Proud i Shut You Out Of My Life.... Now i can Find Someone Who Won't Do That...
    RyanxXx90 RyanxXx90 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    That's how all of my friendships have ended.

    They hurt me over and over, and then I finally just leave. They call me stuck up and accuse me of changing. And that's why I'm alone.
    Holmesdown Holmesdown 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    Yes i do! I feel like hurt me

    once shame on you.. Hurt me twice shame on me
    newhearts91 newhearts91 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 24, 2014

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    1kingdarkness 1kingdarkness 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    I have done this for

    as long as I remember. I can't stand the torture because some people can never change. If they think they need to argue for the sake of it, I am not being a part of it. I am sensitive and can't stand people blaming,screaming or accusing me of something I haven't even done. I...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 1 Response May 1, 2014

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    I Give Everybody A Chance ...

    But life is short and there a **** loads more people to replace you if you want to be a **** ... I think I am loving and fair , but you hurt me , I most likely won't fight you , more like you'll be trying to figure out where the hell I went as you stand there talking to yourself...
    Suzi504 Suzi504 31-35, F Nov 23, 2013

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    I do. And most of the time I hardy let anyone

    close. Years of being abandoned and made fun of by those closest me left me cold. Though I'm not like that. It still shows. I hate letting people close.
    K1PST3R K1PST3R 16-17, F Dec 6, 2014

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    Hurt Me Once……………..shame On You. Hurt Me Twice……………….**** You!

    I put too much weight into something that was nothing more than a façade of a ‘relationship’ Conventional or otherwise, I gave all of myself. Maybe that is where I f**cked up? I won’t be a matter of convenience for anyone.
    girlfaith girlfaith 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    I tired and tired to shut him out

    but I couldn't and now he might of been lying to me so I wouldn't kill myself... he has made the situation so much worse than it would of been...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 3 days ago

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    As many of you know by now,

    I have an obsessed office stalker. She delights in getting off on my life, either in the office or outside of it. If there's any rumors about me in the outside world, she dives right in, trying to turn them into reality, attempting to squeeze it for all that its worth...
    deepscar deepscar 46-50, F 9 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    It is a reflex. I guess

    after years of people being ****** to me, and me just taking it, forgiving them again and again, I have developed away to stop myself from being that person. Its like I can flick a switch. I won't be hurt anymore. I refuse to be that victim that I used to see in the mirror. She...
    JE1158 JE1158 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    No Other Choice

    I have no other choice but to shut people out when they hurt me. I am always cautious not to hurt another persons feelings so i expect the same in return. Sure there are times we step on someones toes without knowing.... but that's small stuff. But when you care for someone...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2011

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    when you hurt me I review our friendship once I

    review our friendship I either leave or stay end of story
    HandyMannyWanny HandyMannyWanny 16-17, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    more like i shut everyone out

    so they can't hurt me.
    kr1sten kr1sten 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Can I Just Heal Myself...Alone?

    I'm starting to get into this habit where I can depressed for whatever reason and just ignore everyone. I'm hurting and unhappy. I've let people taunt me, heckle me and use me as a punchbag. I'm tired and emotionally exhausted. I just want people to leave me alone so that I can...
    introvertgirl2013 introvertgirl2013 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    Sometimes the deeper & longer the history,

    the greater the pain. One of my best friends "unfriended" me on Facebook after we started working together because she didn't want to accept our coworkers requests. She didn't want to be "unfair". In my world, we are only coworkers now, nothing more.
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 17, 2014

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    After some time I have choose to forgive them,

    it's part of my climb of become WHO I really choose to be in life I pick my battles. Everyone makes poor hurtful choices and even if you try your damnedest not to hurt someone you still can and probably will.
    OrchidsNuBlu OrchidsNuBlu 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 6

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    A few years ago my life went on a downward

    spiral because my dad just started treating me like crap. After my parents got divorced I feel like I can't get closer to him no matter how hard I try. That part of me that wanted to be with him and do father son stuff is gone. He says how he treated me was the worst mistake of...
    jjpeace7 jjpeace7 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 10

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    I don't know why I do it.

    I cannot forgive. Small petty things do not get to me but if you really hurt me, everything I feel towards you shuts down and I no longer want to look at you, talk to you or even breathe next to you.
    fwxo fwxo 16-17, F 3 days ago

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    But darling, you can't break me

    when I'm already broken....
    XxMisguidedxGhostxX XxMisguidedxGhostxX 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 27, 2014

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    Girls easily fall in love

    but having a hard time to move on.. so please if you're going to hurt us, leave us alone.
    KarenIsMyName KarenIsMyName 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    it's gotten to the point that

    if I think someone is gonna hurt me I withdraw from them. it could be nothing but if it don't feel right I pull away.
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    For Just A Bit

    I do shut people out when they hurt me. I think its natural to need to close off from that. But I also notice I soon forget that need to shut people out and I open up maybe more afterwards. I don't let pain from someones actions take me away from what I know is for me. I need a...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 23, 2013

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    I'm just done even on ep.

    I always get hurt even before I say anything. I can admit feelings for a girl, they block me. I can say hi to a guy and they hate me. I can have crushes on girls and ask them out, all rejections. I'm always a failure even at life, I can never find anyone who would ever love me...
    highomeal highomeal 16-17, M 9 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    with not so much as a goodbye.

    i don't need your apology. it's not as if i can hear it anyway.
    trAnSyLvanIanconcuBinE trAnSyLvanIanconcuBinE 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Today I saw some faces from the past (more like

    junior high school of HELL) at my school and I heard that they were looking for me to patch things up. So I spent the whole day avoiding them and I even told my friends and teachers to ignore them if they ask anything about me. I'm really pissed off right now ????. Things are...
    johannesc4 johannesc4 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 8, 2014