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I Shut People Out When They Hurt Me

When people hurt me, I want to close the door, deadbolt it, lock it, and hide away. They can't see, feel, touch or hurt me anymore. The feeling is so intense. It's a way of protection and survival. 8,984 People

    Burned... - The moment someone starts to hurt me or hurts me really bad I start to push them away. I can’t help it,when someone I care about hurts me, I shut down, close up...
    snowbunny1002 snowbunny1002 46-50, F 22 Responses Aug 3, 2010

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    With out any explanation, they should already know why
    shimmersandsparkles shimmersandsparkles 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 23

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    And it hurts like hell. But they have to learn that I don't takemotional risks to have my heart stepped on, shatteteredd and squished.
    querer22 querer22 16-17 1 Response Jan 11

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    I met this guy on ep and I thaught that he actually liked me then he's all like I have a gf
    unicorns3102 unicorns3102 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 30

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    Must I start keeping my past a secret too? Another taboo? To keep myself from being abused or mistreated by someone? Someone hurt me not too long ago, and I hide in my apartment...
    noaht43 noaht43 41-45, T 4 Responses Jan 5

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    Not so much when someone "hurts" me, just in general. I think it's more of a defense mechanism for not letting someone close enough to hurt me, having realized that, I don't really...
    OneSizeFitzpatrick OneSizeFitzpatrick 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    Isn't this the truth? See quote.
    Pinkdreamsw8 Pinkdreamsw8 36-40, F Feb 5

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    yep I just cant be around them of a while. when I feel hurt. there are some that have been shut out forever and other that when they want to know how to get back in .
    chat68chat chat68chat 31-35, M Jan 25

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    Why Not? - have shut out my step brother and stepsister as well as my father after being treated as someone who belonged on the outer fringes instead of a full family member
    bluboy2 bluboy2 56-60, M 2 Responses Oct 22, 2007

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    Can I Just Heal Myself...Alone? - I'm starting to get into this habit where I can depressed for whatever reason and just ignore everyone. I'm hurting and unhappy. I've let people...
    introvertgirl2013 introvertgirl2013 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    I'm always preparing myself for the hurt that's bound to come sooner or later. When someone hurts me, intentionally or not, I tend to be very quiet and withdrawn. I need to be...
    smhinterrupted smhinterrupted 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    But I never ever forget how they've hurt me. I save it for later like collecting the abuse they've done to me. I don't bring these issues up when that person and I fight or argue...
    madamepompouri madamepompouri 22-25, F Feb 6

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    Closing Doors... - Things happen for a reason right? Actions have consequences, words can hurt, things go on in life that really shouldn't have to happen. I like to believe that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    I do this all the time. I know it's not good but I do it to save myself from being hurt again.
    LyricalLifee LyricalLifee 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 7

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    I do this quite often. I don't do second chances. If a 'friend' hurts me intentionally, i will get rid of them instantly. I want to surround myself around good people who make me a...
    Ryanholmes20375 Ryanholmes20375 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 13

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    No Other Choice - I have no other choice but to shut people out when they hurt me. I am always cautious not to hurt another persons feelings so i expect the same in return. Sure...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze 56-60, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2011

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    Easy Come, Easy Go - Sometimes it amazes me how easily I can do this, how easy I can shut someone out and move on. I have done it several times. It is probably a survival strategy...
    thinkandfeel thinkandfeel 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 2, 2010

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    Ok so, it all started yesterday. We had to email back and forth regarding work issues. But really, it began before that, because I was hurt that he did not call me to talk before...
    goodnightangel goodnightangel 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    Once someone has betrayed my trust I don't want to fix things I just want them out of my life ... They're dead to me ...
    fozza fozza 22-25, F Jan 17

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    The guy that I like at work at shutting me out. I'm currently married with a daughter. I've been IM'ing my coworker and texting since July. Then I told him I'm getting a divorce...
    AW128 AW128 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    I Do Tend to Shut People Out Now and Then - But hurting me isn't easy as all that. If you have my trust and you lie to me you hurt me. If you betray my trust you hurt me...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 13 Responses Feb 1, 2008

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    "Sometimes It's Better To Push Someone Away, Not Because You Stopped Loving That Someone But Because You Have To Shield You're Self From Pain"
    SelenaMoon SelenaMoon 16-17, F Jan 31

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    Silence Hurts Just As Bad - I'm not the best when it comes to being upset and dealing with my emotions. I would rather be angry; it's something I can deal with, but being upset and...
    MissJazz MissJazz 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 14, 2012

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    more like i shut everyone out so they can't hurt me.
    kr1sten kr1sten 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    If You Hurt Me It's Over Between Us I'm Sorry You Are Going To Be Out Of The PicTure....😖😖
    dashawn2211 dashawn2211 13-15, M Feb 1

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    Just like that. No warning, no explanation, no nothing. BYE. *rolls eyes* (is this wrong??)
    DreamerByNature DreamerByNature 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    When people wrong or hurt me........ - I tend to just stop talking to them and shut them out completely. Sometimes it's a gradual process: I'll continue to talk and be civil with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 16, 2013

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    I Give Everybody A Chance ... - But life is short and there a **** loads more people to replace you if you want to be a **** ... I think I am loving and fair , but you hurt me , I...
    Suzi504 Suzi504 31-35, F Nov 23, 2013

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    My Ex Gf Cheated On Me And F Other Guy On the Same Day... And Then Told Me like she Was Proud Of Doing It... Well News For You i Am Proud i Shut You Out Of My Life.... Now i can...
    RyanxXx90 RyanxXx90 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    Yes I do. If somebody hurts my feelings by something they said or did I retreat into myself away from them. Also if somebody I care about ignores me then I draw away from them. It...
    1SweetL 1SweetL 36-40, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Just because I'm sad doesn't mean you can take advantage of me, mentally or sexually
    cj776 cj776 18-21, F Feb 11

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    I had some cool friends in hs and I guess they did things, I guess unintentionally that I took personally. I pushed them away. I see their group pictures on fb and it makes me sad...
    truthbetold22 truthbetold22 22-25, F Jan 10

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    My Sensor - I have developed my own sensor to situations or people that can hurt me. It has just developed from being constantly hurt and disappointed by my husband.So now, if I...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    I know it's horrible but I pretend they just dropped of the face of the earth
    Briinx Briinx 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    I can't help it...but whenever someone hurts me I don't have a choice but to tune them out and lose trust for them. It doesn't really matter who you are, if you were to hurt me bad...
    cynicalsmile cynicalsmile 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    It's become so easy to disappear and stop answering the phone.
    TheBadgeringWitness TheBadgeringWitness 70+ 3 days ago

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    Unless it's someone I really have to deal with on a regular basis, I'm not going to force myself to get along with anyone. You only have to hurt me once on purpose, then I'm pretty...
    Blue1513 Blue1513 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 17

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    I feel happy. For the first time in my life. But now there is a challenge. I can't believe anyone one when they say they love me. I don't know if this is right or not. Are they...
    CatEm CatEm 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    Fight, Flight, Fake, Or Fold? - I know that shutting people out after they've hurt me isn't very helpful, and you could argue that it's even somewhat hurtful to other people as...
    GigiNYC GigiNYC 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 21, 2008

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    **** people, get a dog, they won't hurt you.
    nottobevelealed nottobevelealed 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    i just didnt get promoted at work because i have defensive behavior :S
    XXgirlXX XXgirlXX 26-30 3 Responses Feb 1

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    Trapped And Abused. - I moved to small town to help take care of my mother. I worked for a family business that had a son about thirty five years old and we became friends. We were...
    bamccam bamccam 61-65, F 44 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    I Shut People Out. - I always shut people out when they hurt me. It's easier because I've always been too shy to tell people straight out that they have hurt me so instead I will...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F Aug 18, 2011

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    I'm not perfect what so ever but you never had to hurt me like that, I did nothing to you I did mess up but I'm sorry because I know I can't even begin to fix any of this but you...
    Bryonna123 Bryonna123 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 7, 2013

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    I must shut you out if you hurt me! I care to much for myself not too. If I allow you then you will continue to hurt me and then I will have to continue to heal the wounds that...
    venusdi venusdi 70+, F 3 Responses Jan 31

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    For Just A Bit - I do shut people out when they hurt me. I think its natural to need to close off from that. But I also notice I soon forget that need to shut people out and I open...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 23, 2013

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    I hate him so much....I hate my old daddy
    crazyheartedfool crazyheartedfool 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 6

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    I seem to do this unconsciously, or maybe I'm just in denial. It's more of the latter I think. I've always thought that forgiving those who caused me grievances would undoubtedly...
    SinisterSmile SinisterSmile 22-25 4 Responses Feb 9

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