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I Shut People Out

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    I have the most smartass attitude

    and I am cold, and confronting, I don't let people in, I don't know when this started (I am 13)people see me as something 'dangerous' and 'not to be messed with' people think I'm gonna hurt them, but I wouldn't ever, but I want it to stop😩😞
    sarahodonnell sarahodonnell 13-15, F Nov 4

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    It's hard to be the bad guy.

    I don't like being the bad guy; I always try to be the good guy. But there comes a time when you have to choose between standing up for for yourself and being a doormat for other people. For a long, long time, I chose to be the doormat. Why? Simple- It's the easiest thing...
    Markyh Markyh 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    Can't Talk.

    I can't help but shut everyone out. I can't talk to anyone about anything really anymore. People try and get me to talk to them and I just completly push them away even when I don't want to. I guess I'm scared in a way about telling people things but it's too hard.
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 22, 2011

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    I don't trust anyone

    and never will. I've been kicked around my entire life. I don't let people in therefore nobody can ever walk out. So I keep myself locked up as right as I can.
    Azuleyes Azuleyes 18-21, F Oct 4

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    Why are people so quick to assume.

    U should ask and learn of a persons situation before runnin their mouth to others especially at work. This putts a person in hot water or pigeon holes them into a certain type of person that they are not.
    ridge76 ridge76 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 15

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    Run, Burn, Rinse, Repeat.

    It’s been a while. My minds been shifting into overdrive day in day out, refuses to collapse under any given circumstance. It drains me, emotionally and mentally. Yet shows no falter in my physicality, my smiles. I wonder if it’s simply a coincidence, the...
    lovelessandless lovelessandless 18-21 1 Response Jul 26, 2010

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    I think at first I built up these walls to see

    who cared enough about me to try to knock them down. But now, because I got so used to have them up I block people out, I don't let people get close.
    SecondAndSebring SecondAndSebring 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 5

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    Walls.

    i just can't let people get into me. i can love them for a while when they do, but then i kick them out eventually. i am living a twisted self fulfilling prophecy. that no one will actually love me and if someone thinks or pretends that they can, i just think they're stupid and i...
    TheRealMimi TheRealMimi 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2010

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    I've been a doormat in all my relationships I

    was hurt so bad I can never trust another girl again
    ash18bmth ash18bmth 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 10

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    Senselessly.

    I have this sweet online friend from qatar who always calls me intermittently to find out how i am doing. i don't know why. i push him away all the time and over the phone i express such disinterest to talk to him. he is actually like a father figure for me (older and nurturing...
    TheRealMimi TheRealMimi 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2010

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    Even you. I shut people out when they hurt me. It is how I manage to keep my head above water despite the chaos left in our wake. First was my mother. I shut her out at quite a...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    I shut them all out!!.. I will never let them ever get close to me or the people that they associate with to get close to me too .. Im so sick of thur sorrys & yet they choose to...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 8

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    I shut out a lot of people, mainly because they're the reason why I'm like this.. They keep breaking the walls, I keep building higher ones. I've hidden myself for so long, no one...
    PureLies PureLies 13-15, F Nov 5

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    After going through so much as a child and being hurt so many times I have learned to create barriers when people hurt me. I wish that wasn't the case. I tried so hard to be a...
    Morenita79 Morenita79 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 26

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    Most often my reaction to getting hurt or being dissatisfied is 'cutting my losses' and moving forward with life. The truth is, however that I am not cutting out losses in my life...
    CarlyOnline CarlyOnline 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 10

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    I'm just done even on ep. I always get hurt even before I say anything. I can admit feelings for a girl, they block me. I can say hi to a guy and they hate me. I can have crushes...
    luischimbo luischimbo 16-17, M 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    It is a reflex. I guess after years of people being ****** to me, and me just taking it, forgiving them again and again, I have developed away to stop myself from being that person...
    JE1158 JE1158 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 2

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    Today I saw him in the same car he used to take me to the beach, the first man who made me feel beautiful, wanted, appreciated, worthy and that I deserved to be loved. But he wasn...
    almasolitaria312 almasolitaria312 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Like today. I found out my ex spent $15 on our sons 10th birthday and he's the one with all the money. I bought him $45 worth for his birthday. And my ex ******* at me because I...
    Kristat Kristat 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 10

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    I have walls, they're really big walls. Only one person can get through them.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 4

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    Today I saw some faces from the past (more like junior high school of HELL) at my school and I heard that they were looking for me to patch things up. So I spent the whole day...
    johannesc4 johannesc4 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 8

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    why should I bother with them anymore, when it's obvious they didn't care about my feelings?
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 8

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    Iv been hurt so much just takes a pinch to get me in block world mode
    1kingdarkness 1kingdarkness 26-30, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    And that's that. Trust is the only indicator to me of actual friendship. If you hurt me, I can't trust you. You will only ever be an acquaintance after that at best. You'll think...
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Sometimes the deeper & longer the history, the greater the pain. One of my best friends "unfriended" me on Facebook after we started working together because she didn't want to...
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I can't accept dishonesty and fake. I always cut people out of my life when they disappoint me whatever the ways. I know it somehow sound immature but I believe that I do that to...
    meandmythought meandmythought 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 22

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    I feel I've cut people out so much that I find it extremely stressful and uncomfortable to eat dinner at the table with my family!! And especially when there is no conversation and...
    catho catho 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 31

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    I went on an experiment a few years ago and actually cut everyone out from my life, one person at a time. The toxic ones left first, the less toxic ones later, and the ones who...
    cereszal cereszal 26-30, T Oct 21

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    I've cut a few people out of my life in the past five years. Basically all my friends from high school. It was a time when I drank and smoke and did stupid things, things I don't...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 2 Responses Oct 22

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    I cannot say no and I lure everyone in, but then I become afraid, afraid of being close, afraid of hurting and being hurt. And so I cut them out. I become numb to them and I build...
    InsanityIsTheButterflysDrug InsanityIsTheButterflysDrug 13-15, F 1 hr ago

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    I like to think that I'm a loyal person...but I know I'm not. I constantly go through a large amount of friends, and slowly...one by one...I don't talk to them or hang out with...
    lovedownunder lovedownunder 16-17, F 4 Responses Oct 21

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    I have always had issues, so I tend to close my eyes on people who could very well even have turned out to be good friends. I'm trying to change this so bad.
    kiddishguy kiddishguy 26-30, M Oct 21

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    I shed people all the time...I don't know why it's like a light goes off with that person and I find it hard to find the switch again...it's probably really unhealthy but I have...
    StoneWall77 StoneWall77 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 22

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    Only in real life when I have an acquaintance with someone and it goes strangely well, I cut them away. If there is even the slightest chance that I could actually make a friend, I...
    looking4chances looking4chances 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 22

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    Toxic people: exes, exes... Oh and EXES! You can never EVER be friends with someone you've been romantically involved with, it doesn't work. Trust me, all you end up doing is...
    Jenezebel Jenezebel 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    After the election, I saw some extremely bigoted and racist things said against Tim Scott and Mia Love after they won their elections. Only reason people can't stand them is...
    jmmoosey jmmoosey 31-35, M Nov 8

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    It's the only way to keep my peace of mind. If you're not bringing positivity, enriching, uplifting or edifying my life in someway.. I will pray for you and then I will cut you out...
    maktub1 maktub1 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 21

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    I had to cut my mom & my sisters out of my life bc they aren't supportive & being very negative! They think they're better than me & never do wrong! I worked, I don't do drugs, I...
    ncsweetfem ncsweetfem 36-40, F 2 days ago

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    Choices - chances - changes... I must make a choice to take a chance, or else my life will never change.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 20

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    That would be one of my creepy boy friends which i dated before i knew i was a lesbian UGHGHGHG they hate me now but i moved
    Kitry Kitry 13-15, F Oct 21

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    I believe in 2 chances . "Rollercoasters ain't fun after the second time that you ride 'em"
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 21

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    I will eat your heart So be careful. It won't hurt until I'm done. I'll leave your open chest exposed and bleeding. I might be back for more... But probably not. Your soul...
    thebeautifulprincess thebeautifulprincess 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 21

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    Everyone eventually ends up screwing me over but if I'm alone I'll never get hurt.
    sammylynn333 sammylynn333 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 22

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    If they: Completely Pissed me off with bullshit Broke up with me for a **** reason Or say stuff behind me back
    90slove 90slove 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 22

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    You have to decipher who is ACTUALLY there for you truthfully and who will always have your back no matter what. Who has the best intentions (almost like your family does for you...
    introvertpower94 introvertpower94 18-21, F Oct 22

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    It's probably the easiest solution to most of my problems, I don't even bother explaining why anymore just want to get rid of the bs and deadweight and move on with my life.
    Janasai Janasai 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 22

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