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I Shut People Out

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    It's hard to be the bad guy.

    I don't like being the bad guy; I always try to be the good guy. But there comes a time when you have to choose between standing up for for yourself and being a doormat for other people. For a long, long time, I chose to be the doormat. Why? Simple- It's the easiest thing...
    Markyh Markyh 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    Can't Talk.

    I can't help but shut everyone out. I can't talk to anyone about anything really anymore. People try and get me to talk to them and I just completly push them away even when I don't want to. I guess I'm scared in a way about telling people things but it's too hard.
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 22, 2011

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    Senselessly.

    I have this sweet online friend from qatar who always calls me intermittently to find out how i am doing. i don't know why. i push him away all the time and over the phone i express such disinterest to talk to him. he is actually like a father figure for me (older and nurturing...
    TheRealMimi TheRealMimi 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2010

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    I've been a doormat in all my relationships I

    was hurt so bad I can never trust another girl again
    ash18bmth ash18bmth 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 10, 2014

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    I think at first I built up these walls to see

    who cared enough about me to try to knock them down. But now, because I got so used to have them up I block people out, I don't let people get close.
    SecondAndSebring SecondAndSebring 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 5, 2014

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    I don't trust anyone

    and never will. I've been kicked around my entire life. I don't let people in therefore nobody can ever walk out. So I keep myself locked up as right as I can.
    Andyb1ack Andyb1ack 18-21, F Oct 4, 2014

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    - Shutting people out is easier

    than letting them in. - I push people away without realising. - Running away is easier then facing problems. - I avoid getting close to people. - I never get excited because excitement only leads to disappointment. - Love being on my own. - Love being independent...
    JustAGirl96 JustAGirl96 18-21, F Jan 8

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    Run, Burn, Rinse, Repeat.

    It’s been a while. My minds been shifting into overdrive day in day out, refuses to collapse under any given circumstance. It drains me, emotionally and mentally. Yet shows no falter in my physicality, my smiles. I wonder if it’s simply a coincidence, the...
    lovelessandless lovelessandless 18-21 1 Response Jul 26, 2010

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    I have the most smartass attitude

    and I am cold, and confronting, I don't let people in, I don't know when this started (I am 13)people see me as something 'dangerous' and 'not to be messed with' people think I'm gonna hurt them, but I wouldn't ever, but I want it to stop😩😞
    sarahodonnell sarahodonnell 13-15, F Nov 4, 2014

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    And I'll never speak with you again.

    Or look at you. Or feel anything for you. You've lost me. In your search to heal yourself you unconsciously injured another. Thankfully I'm strong. Only a few ruffled feathers. I will grow past this quickly. But you will have to wallow in your torment.alone but haunted...
    thebeautifulprincess thebeautifulprincess 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 3

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    Why are people so quick to assume.

    U should ask and learn of a persons situation before runnin their mouth to others especially at work. This putts a person in hot water or pigeon holes them into a certain type of person that they are not.
    ridge76 ridge76 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 15, 2014

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    IrishRedhead IrishRedhead 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    If you come out of the blue trying to "help me"

    I am going to shut you out and try to get off the topic depending on your profile and what I think of you. I don't like pity and people who only come here to help me I can handle myself i just need to vent anonymously is that bad?
    Cheshirecupacat Cheshirecupacat 13-15, F 3 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    Walls.

    i just can't let people get into me. i can love them for a while when they do, but then i kick them out eventually. i am living a twisted self fulfilling prophecy. that no one will actually love me and if someone thinks or pretends that they can, i just think they're stupid and i...
    TheRealMimi TheRealMimi 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2010

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    I have been debating this for the last few days... just so confused. do I shut them out or do I hang on for dear life. it's going to get me hurt in the end. I can feel it coming. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 4

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    My friends completely ditched me. They treat(ed) me like I'm dirt. I feel like I am done trusting people. I don't want to let anyone back in. That's why I've been shutting out all...
    brokenheartsx brokenheartsx 13-15, F May 13

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    This is something that has come with age for me, and I wasn't always like this with people. Unfortunately, I was hurt one too many times and refuse to let it happen so easily. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 4

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    I know I do this a lot. I'll ignore group conversations, I'll be by myself, I'll talk less, I'll be having my earphones in all the time, I'll be lost in my thoughts and I'll be...
    CloeSmile CloeSmile 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    I am a new member. I chat with someone.
    babakamiri1368 babakamiri1368 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 30

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    I put up a wall between us, that way there words can not affect me anymore. although they look at me as being a *****.
    crazy4love crazy4love 22-25, F May 11

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    I do it so that they don't hurt me again. It works.
    MisunderstoodGirl69 MisunderstoodGirl69 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    Why would someone hurt you and then try to be your friend?
    viperguy96 viperguy96 18-21, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    "Then I cried for her and for me, and I prayed with all my heart not to meet her again in my days"
    viperguy96 viperguy96 18-21, M 1 day ago

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    I learned something since my last post in Jan. Cutting people out of your life and letting them go are very different. Same effect just different ways of going about it
    ChangingFaces5 ChangingFaces5 26-30 May 6

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    All my dad's family are toxic. I am not sure why but in the end it only makes me sad that they live like this. It's all they know, to be filled with such limited experiences and...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 1 Response May 5

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    I rather be alone than being with toxic people.
    Shansai84 Shansai84 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I do .. my rule is If u r not part of my happiness u r not part of my life. If u used to be but not anymore I won't histate to kick u out of my life. I cut all ties wth my friend...
    candles700 candles700 22-25, F 1 Response May 4

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    I really must.......but its when they inSINUATE ( put themselves INTO my life > withOUT any desire on my part that they be there ) that makes it really hard ( I got a HUGE dose of...
    cashetty69 cashetty69 51-55, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I hate everyone of my family members. I hate my father for he is self centered , dominating, abusive, manipulative and cunning. I hate my mother for she is illiterate, shallow...
    ithinkithink ithinkithink 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I've learned my lesson, but my only problem is that I see the good in everyone more than the bad side.
    SymphonyChild SymphonyChild 13-15, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    That is so true. In real life and online. I have a very short fuse when it comes to downing me, calling me names, or anything just to make your point. I will block you if you do...
    RealmRunner RealmRunner 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    I am in love still with an ex boyfriend. We were together for 3 years and broken up for a year. I love him to death but there is one thing that is toxic to me and that is his " ego...
    smiles212 smiles212 31-35, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Stigma I really don't get stigma. It makes no sense to me. When I learnt about racism at school in first grade, I was like "That makes no sense. It'd be like if you treated people...
    kiarrafire kiarrafire 18-21, F 1 Response May 7

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    Anyone I get close to or involve myself with I feel like I bother them. I try to be as strong as I can and carry others the best I can. No matter what I'm going through. Its really...
    KiraRawr KiraRawr 16-17, F 1 Response May 15

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    Love Doesn’t Discriminate I have a thing for someone who happens to have a disability but that doesn't matter because he's sweet, supportive, sincere, and smart and he makes me...
    kiarrafire kiarrafire 18-21, F May 7

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    Racism is everywhere, every day. Trying to be a strong white ally and accomplice by learning and discussing racial history of indigenous people and people of color while educating...
    Kaitowonder Kaitowonder 26-30, M 3 Responses May 5

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    I don't know how to pick the right words to say it - maybe there aren't any because the whole thing seems wrong to me, but, I simply don't like people. Or maybe I just expect the...
    iamspectra iamspectra 46-50, M 20 hrs ago

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    I just can't stand when people call transgenders "it's" or "he-she" or "she males". They have a pronoun (or maybe none at all) that they would like to be called. If you're unsure...
    HelloLovelyPerson HelloLovelyPerson 18-21, F 11 Responses Apr 29

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    It is a Story, or Testimony I just read here; someone wrote about his baby-mama. Please find attached below his story. I can relate to his Story. I too once Called by a Man and...
    kslilacs kslilacs 31-35, F 3 days ago

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    Not only do I get such joy from helping another to feel theirs. But, I would very much like to share this 1 moment of mine right now. Simply to right my most sincere thank you...
    magnum64 magnum64 46-50, M 3 days ago

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    What really grinds my gears is when I try and talk and suggest things to people, they completely ignore me and I hate when people think they're expert enough on things and they...
    agdnn agdnn 26-30, M 10 hrs ago

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    I completely shut down when I am upset. I spend a good amount of time self pitying and then I shake it off and move on... When I am upset, I do not like to be disturbed. I do...
    RocaAzul RocaAzul 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    Why are so many millions of people taking to online social websites for companionship? We all have come here and to other websites for thousands of different reasons. Many are with...
    Jamestone73 Jamestone73 41-45, M 2 Responses May 4