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    If you come out of the blue trying to "help me"

    I am going to shut you out and try to get off the topic depending on your profile and what I think of you. I don't like pity and people who only come here to help me I can handle myself i just need to vent anonymously is that bad?
    Cheshirecupacat Cheshirecupacat 13-15, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I've been a doormat in all my relationships I

    was hurt so bad I can never trust another girl again
    ash18bmth ash18bmth 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 10

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    Run, Burn, Rinse, Repeat.

    It’s been a while. My minds been shifting into overdrive day in day out, refuses to collapse under any given circumstance. It drains me, emotionally and mentally. Yet shows no falter in my physicality, my smiles. I wonder if it’s simply a coincidence, the...
    lovelessandless lovelessandless 18-21 1 Response Jul 26, 2010

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    I think at first I built up these walls to see

    who cared enough about me to try to knock them down. But now, because I got so used to have them up I block people out, I don't let people get close.
    SecondAndSebring SecondAndSebring 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 5

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    It's hard to be the bad guy.

    I don't like being the bad guy; I always try to be the good guy. But there comes a time when you have to choose between standing up for for yourself and being a doormat for other people. For a long, long time, I chose to be the doormat. Why? Simple- It's the easiest thing...
    Markyh Markyh 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    I don't trust anyone

    and never will. I've been kicked around my entire life. I don't let people in therefore nobody can ever walk out. So I keep myself locked up as right as I can.
    Andyb1ack Andyb1ack 18-21, F Oct 4

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    I have the most smartass attitude

    and I am cold, and confronting, I don't let people in, I don't know when this started (I am 13)people see me as something 'dangerous' and 'not to be messed with' people think I'm gonna hurt them, but I wouldn't ever, but I want it to stop😩😞
    sarahodonnell sarahodonnell 13-15, F Nov 4

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    Walls.

    i just can't let people get into me. i can love them for a while when they do, but then i kick them out eventually. i am living a twisted self fulfilling prophecy. that no one will actually love me and if someone thinks or pretends that they can, i just think they're stupid and i...
    TheRealMimi TheRealMimi 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2010

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    Why are people so quick to assume.

    U should ask and learn of a persons situation before runnin their mouth to others especially at work. This putts a person in hot water or pigeon holes them into a certain type of person that they are not.
    ridge76 ridge76 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 15

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    Senselessly.

    I have this sweet online friend from qatar who always calls me intermittently to find out how i am doing. i don't know why. i push him away all the time and over the phone i express such disinterest to talk to him. he is actually like a father figure for me (older and nurturing...
    TheRealMimi TheRealMimi 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2010

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    Can't Talk.

    I can't help but shut everyone out. I can't talk to anyone about anything really anymore. People try and get me to talk to them and I just completly push them away even when I don't want to. I guess I'm scared in a way about telling people things but it's too hard.
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 22, 2011

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    Heresmystory Heresmystory 16-17, F Nov 30

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    I should stop shuting people out at sone point i will have no friends. I am on the point of turning into a ricer of tears. And i just say i'm ok. I hurt myself by shuting others...
    DCK1309 DCK1309 13-15, M Nov 24

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    I wish I could shut people out when they hurt me. But I can't. I've tried, and it just doesn't work. I give out second, third, fourth, fifth, sometimes even 6th chances to people...
    MeowOnMe MeowOnMe 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I only shut people out when Im scared I case I take my anger out on them
    nickigirl525 nickigirl525 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 24

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    Idk why! It's just something I do. The people closest to me I tend to push away for no real reason. I guess it's just a defense mechanism... Anyway it would be really nice to talk...
    SkinnyDepression SkinnyDepression 22-25, F Dec 5

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    I do. And most of the time I hardy let anyone close. Years of being abandoned and made fun of by those closest me left me cold. Though I'm not like that. It still shows. I hate...
    K1PST3R K1PST3R 16-17, F Dec 6

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    It's so odd. I immediately become distant and distrusting of people that hurt me. It doesn't even have to be super damaging. Just a playful hit that was too hard and I flinch back...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    the most simple thing in the world for me to do is cut someone out of my life when I'm hurt. second chances? I don't think so
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F Dec 6

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    That's how all of my friendships have ended. They hurt me over and over, and then I finally just leave. They call me stuck up and accuse me of changing. And that's why I'm alone.
    Holmesdown Holmesdown 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 6

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    I and my bestfrnd went to a clz together.my bstfriend had a boyfriend already but I didn't have any so most of the guys had intrest on me.and a guy liked me tried to propose so he...
    lovelymhnaaz lovelymhnaaz 16-17, F Dec 7

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    it's gotten to the point that if I think someone is gonna hurt me I withdraw from them. it could be nothing but if it don't feel right I pull away.
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 7

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    when you hurt me I review our friendship once I review our friendship I either leave or stay end of story
    HandyMannyWanny HandyMannyWanny 16-17, M 1 Response Dec 8

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    I have done this so much that is automatic with me. I get very uncomfortable with people that have been in my life a long time, unless I can keep them at a distance, some how.
    tryingagainII tryingagainII 56-60, M 3 days ago

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    Okay so I live with my dad and step mom. I left my moms house when I was 15 now I'm close to turning 18. My family has not ever really been the nicest to me. I've tended to lean...
    lovedownunder lovedownunder 16-17, F 2 days ago

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    Yes, I do that. I don't want to remember those people and don't want to be remembered by them as well. This doesn't include my family. I'm just talking about fiends I make.
    Tawheed1994 Tawheed1994 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    I can be friends with someone until we start to get close. Then I do this thing where I'll stoping texting back or talking to them. I hate being close to anyone
    revolvingaroundmusic11 revolvingaroundmusic11 16-17, F Dec 7

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    My personal favorite is to get close enough for someone to hear me whisper and tell the "voices" in my head to be quiet and make it obvious I'm talking to myself.. It is hilarious...
    Xoris Xoris 13-15, M Dec 9

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    If you want to treat me wrong and hurt me or leave, okay, that's fine i'll even hold the door open for you✌️
    BeautifulCatastr0phe BeautifulCatastr0phe 16-17, F 3 days ago

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    if someone doesn't give me importance why on GOD'S EARTH would i give him or her importance except family
    waris1 waris1 16-17, M 2 days ago

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    This is a hard lesson that I'm working on every day. In determined to cut people out if they are toxic influences. I've kept some people around for too long, but I'm sick of this...
    meadowes meadowes 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    its 3 am here i am again i knew you'd meet me here ... you locked me in to shut me out and now I'm not coming home.
    xyourxonlyxstarx xyourxonlyxstarx 22-25, F Dec 6

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    This post goes out to the jerk who stole $40 out of my pocket today. Thank you so much for taking my money it made my day because you know I totally didn't have Christmas presents...
    MEGH0119 MEGH0119 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 8

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    This one goes out to all of the people who tell me that being a spy is nothing like being James Bond. First off let me state the obvious because there are some very stupid people...
    JoeDog93 JoeDog93 18-21, M Nov 24

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    Dear Transgender Community, I am helping a colleague of mine to create a web site with resources for transgender people. We are planning for this site to develop into a...
    reenab29 reenab29 18-21, F Dec 11

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    I may be one of the saddest people out there with bad depression... But I like making people smile no matter what.
    XxitsmesarahxX XxitsmesarahxX 13-15, F Nov 23

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    I think it take a lot of courage and a big heart to accept a child into your life. I know a lot of people bandy about this praise for parents of babies but It take a lot more to...
    Gemma1990 Gemma1990 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 25

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    There are so many people out there in the work. There are so many genders, races, sexualities, etc. Whatever it is you identify as or whoever you are, I will be accepting 100...
    plantgoddess plantgoddess 13-15, F 5 Responses Dec 1

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    I don't add people blind, I check and make sure we have at least some experiences in common first. I actually like the Experience Project doesn't allow you to message people out of...
    KatTF KatTF 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 9

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    Yes!!! life is so fulfilling when you cut the "toxic" people out of your inner circle. Unfortunately I have family members and a boss/coworkers who are less than inspirational when...
    jerzshorecoll21 jerzshorecoll21 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 1

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    Last night was the worst night of my life I didn't sleep at all and it was all my own fault you sent me a pic which was a massive thing for you and instead of just taking it and...
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 31-35, M 2 Responses Dec 7

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    There probably are some amazing people out there. I've met one in all of my life and her name is Emily. She is so amazing and wonderful to talk to. She's so caring and sweet and...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 8

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    When I was in middle school, I used to always get jealous of the kids who could go hang out with their friends freely. It didn't affect me so much then but it really does affect me...
    uh2behonest uh2behonest 16-17, F 10 hrs ago

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    I had always known how to please people. I can easily figure out what they want without them having to tell me. Most of the time, it takes me a few while to consider their likes...
    ayamesan16 ayamesan16 22-25, F 2 hrs ago

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    I am not a very socially comfortable person. I feel awkward alot of the time. Being around people is not something that i am entirely used to but i try to expose myself to it & i...
    flyingblossom flyingblossom 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I can't take all these morons anymore! First we have idiots "rioting" for that thug in ferguson when I say rioting I mean looting. It was proven he was fighting him trying to hurt...
    dragthewaters4 dragthewaters4 18-21, F 2 Responses 18 hrs