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    It's hard to be the bad guy.

    I don't like being the bad guy; I always try to be the good guy. But there comes a time when you have to choose between standing up for for yourself and being a doormat for other people. For a long, long time, I chose to be the doormat. Why? Simple- It's the easiest thing...
    Markyh Markyh 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    Run, Burn, Rinse, Repeat.

    It’s been a while. My minds been shifting into overdrive day in day out, refuses to collapse under any given circumstance. It drains me, emotionally and mentally. Yet shows no falter in my physicality, my smiles. I wonder if it’s simply a coincidence, the...
    lovelessandless lovelessandless 18-21 1 Response Jul 26, 2010

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    IrishRedhead IrishRedhead 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    Why are people so quick to assume.

    U should ask and learn of a persons situation before runnin their mouth to others especially at work. This putts a person in hot water or pigeon holes them into a certain type of person that they are not.
    ridge76 ridge76 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 15, 2014

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    Senselessly.

    I have this sweet online friend from qatar who always calls me intermittently to find out how i am doing. i don't know why. i push him away all the time and over the phone i express such disinterest to talk to him. he is actually like a father figure for me (older and nurturing...
    TheRealMimi TheRealMimi 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2010

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    I think at first I built up these walls to see

    who cared enough about me to try to knock them down. But now, because I got so used to have them up I block people out, I don't let people get close.
    SecondAndSebring SecondAndSebring 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 5, 2014

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    Walls.

    i just can't let people get into me. i can love them for a while when they do, but then i kick them out eventually. i am living a twisted self fulfilling prophecy. that no one will actually love me and if someone thinks or pretends that they can, i just think they're stupid and i...
    TheRealMimi TheRealMimi 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2010

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    If you come out of the blue trying to "help me"

    I am going to shut you out and try to get off the topic depending on your profile and what I think of you. I don't like pity and people who only come here to help me I can handle myself i just need to vent anonymously is that bad?
    Cheshirecupacat Cheshirecupacat 13-15, F 4 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    Can't Talk.

    I can't help but shut everyone out. I can't talk to anyone about anything really anymore. People try and get me to talk to them and I just completly push them away even when I don't want to. I guess I'm scared in a way about telling people things but it's too hard.
    BrokenAngelWishes BrokenAngelWishes 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 22, 2011

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    - Shutting people out is easier

    than letting them in. - I push people away without realising. - Running away is easier then facing problems. - I avoid getting close to people. - I never get excited because excitement only leads to disappointment. - Love being on my own. - Love being independent...
    JustAGirl96 JustAGirl96 18-21, F Jan 8

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    I've been a doormat in all my relationships I

    was hurt so bad I can never trust another girl again
    ash18bmth ash18bmth 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 10, 2014

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    I don't trust anyone

    and never will. I've been kicked around my entire life. I don't let people in therefore nobody can ever walk out. So I keep myself locked up as right as I can.
    Andyb1ack Andyb1ack 18-21, F Oct 4, 2014

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    I have the most smartass attitude

    and I am cold, and confronting, I don't let people in, I don't know when this started (I am 13)people see me as something 'dangerous' and 'not to be messed with' people think I'm gonna hurt them, but I wouldn't ever, but I want it to stop😩😞
    sarahodonnell sarahodonnell 13-15, F Nov 4, 2014

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    I don't know why I do it. I cannot forgive. Small petty things do not get to me but if you really hurt me, everything I feel towards you shuts down and I no longer want to look at...
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    "are you supposed to be in my life? I won't close the door if you're supposed to be, but... " i've had that struggle recently with an ex-friend. We started out really good...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    i do??? how the hell can i do that? especially when no one even bothers in any way to connect with me???
    gurldeleted gurldeleted 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    I don't want to talk I'm sick of talking I'm sick of being hurt and then talking about it
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    Girls easily fall in love but having a hard time to move on.. so please if you're going to hurt us, leave us alone.
    KarenIsMyName KarenIsMyName 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    with not so much as a goodbye. i don't need your apology. it's not as if i can hear it anyway.
    trAnSyLvanIanconcuBinE trAnSyLvanIanconcuBinE 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    This story is about a toxic person I met through university. An acquaintance of mine has the strange habit of sending me passive-aggressive texts from time to time. I have no idea...
    myhy myhy 26-30, F a week ago

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    So here’s the thing. I never ask anything from anyone except for acceptance. That’s it. For example; I’ve only ever asked for money once in my life and I paid it back...
    ianbrewman ianbrewman 26-30, T 2 Responses Feb 20

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    Some of you may know that I am a published author, but know that I am not an editor when you read this - I am clearly writing this as a journal entry. I really have met some...
    LanaKane101 LanaKane101 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    positive personal expression Taken from https://suspendedm.wordpress.com/page/2/ "You can’t force people to change who they are. And there are certain instances where you...
    DarkLush DarkLush 26-30, F Feb 4

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    People who are told that they are certain way so much allows their mind to think that that way is permanent. The mind gets used to the fact that it's just how it is and how it's...
    pwhite83 pwhite83 31-35, M Feb 16

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    I have had... Many negative experiences with what call themselves Faithful servants of The Lord. They were Catholics Christians Mormons so fourth. Not all of these were direct...
    Landstrom Landstrom 16-17, M 2 days ago

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    One of my coworkers is always asking me to cover her shifts and help her out and i have done it so many time. I really don't mind, especially when I work one day a week and she...
    maggiemae89 maggiemae89 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    And I've been fortunate to have met a lot of them in my life. It's pretty easy to start believing they don't exist-particularly if you're down or reading some of the more low level...
    Blondiex15 Blondiex15 36-40, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Connections are important to me. Once made I find them incredibly difficult to break. I am somewhat niave at times in working people out- a trait some find charming whilst others...
    Superficialsaint Superficialsaint 31-35, F 21 Responses Feb 8

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    NCFCfoote NCFCfoote 18-21, M Feb 9

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    when I'm mad, sad , depressed or bored I do it to block people out and just ease my mind.
    jenniebaez1992 jenniebaez1992 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    I made the mistake of responding to someone on Craigslist who was looking for a strictly platonic female friend. To make a long story short, she posted a picture of her SISTER as...
    wordsforliving wordsforliving 46-50, F 6 hrs ago

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    I don't like that I shut down but I do. When I feel like I can't put things in perspective and in a context that feels right to me, then I have a tendency to shut down. It's not a...
    Nyx613 Nyx613 36-40, F 15 Responses Feb 8

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    Living deep into the country part of my state, we have nothing at all around us but farm land and swamps. Much more farm animal than humans that live in the parish. Horses being...
    EyeDontGiveAHoot EyeDontGiveAHoot 36-40, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Of all the ways that women often react to inner panic, SHUT DOWN is my primary reaction; just plain disconnection. If something happens that upsets me, or when someone says or does...
    stiltcourt stiltcourt 41-45, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    The old school "You're either smart or dumb and the cure is to try harder" philosophy. There was a book * read where this special education teacher had one student, 7 yrs old; very...
    CrossCresentCreed CrossCresentCreed 18-21, F Feb 18

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    My friends. When they find out that I am basically doomed for death from my severe drugs, to my insomnia, to my cutting, to my unhealthy and uncontrollable problem of seeing dead...
    MatildaBlack MatildaBlack 13-15, F 8 hrs ago

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    I post something and I immediately get asked if I'm okay. If I was okay, would I post something negative? I dunno why, but it's been irritating the hell out of me -_- And I don't...
    XxFuckYouxX XxFuckYouxX 18-21, M 1 hr ago

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    I have a lot of difficulty communicating with people directly. Even here on EP. Post stories, ask questions, or start a direct conversation with me, and I'll probably reply in...
    themanoflegends themanoflegends 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 16

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    as we were standing outside the kebab place very late last night, smoking spliffs and drinking cans of beer, waiting on 2 chips for what seemed like 45 mins. These 2 kids, no older...
    TheCoolestCat TheCoolestCat 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 17

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    Okay. This is probably the only site/thing or whatever, that soon will know who I am and what I actually feel. Truth is, on the outside - everyone sees me like a 'gorgeous...
    Matildatilda Matildatilda 18-21, F Feb 18

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    I haven't written enough stories. I'm going to start. The 1,599,652,313 ways that people annoy the **** out of me is enough to fill volumes, so why not share it with the world? Let...
    thelioninwinter thelioninwinter 46-50, F Feb 10

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    I hate annoying people. For example,Every time when i post or ask something. They show up and say that is not question or point out about my spelling,that is not correct or...
    Juri0902 Juri0902 31-35, F Feb 22

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    I confided in my best friend today. I told her about a VERY serious issue going on in my life and she is already trying to use it against me. I shudda just ******* kept my damn...
    shaybaby26 shaybaby26 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Agog to shut him down, we arch to the Undercity, the zone’s avenue system, in seek of action. If the Boyish Mutant Ninja Turtles accept accomplished us anything, it’s that...
    liafifaku liafifaku 22-25, F Feb 21

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    I am a people watcher regardless of age and gender. I love to see individuals in different situations and how people will react to them. For example friendly, unfriendly, and shy...
    britishfemaleinusa britishfemaleinusa 41-45, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I feel like there's no point to my life. My life has been crap for 4 years, longer, but noticeably downhill for 4. It doesnt seem to get any better. I'm moving home for 6 months...
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