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    For the last seven years I have been the oil in the gears of my marriage. My husband has not been working, so he has all kinds of free time. We both collect a compensation check...
    RosalieT RosalieT 26-30, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    How do I keep copping? My husband tells me he hates me. He never complements me. He tells me im stupid and worthless. He is never affectionate. He says im bad at pretty much every...
    RosalieT RosalieT 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    I am lonely in this marriage , my husband had gave up on life .I know we have been through a lot together ,but I never gave up on our family ,I still try hard . I love him to death...
    Nectar12 Nectar12 26-30, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    Okay we I had lots of positive feedback from my first couple posts :) went seen my lawyer(thankfully he is the next street over, we came up with a plan to have my husband removed...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    Once again my wife gets angry for little or no reason & so I'm sleeping on the couch...but I've learned that's a great time to ********** & chat on EP...
    LondonKiwi LondonKiwi 46-50, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Started out well but my wife must have everything her way always. If I make a "mistake" (defined as not doing exactly as I am told) she will verbally & often physically assault me...
    LondonKiwi LondonKiwi 46-50, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    8,165 to 1 Revisited. In a recent story I suggested the raw data showed that the odds of your ILIASM shithole turning around were 8,165 to 1. Been thinking about it a bit more...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 17 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    My husband and I are in a loveless marriage. He actually doesn't even like me. I want him to leave, and I have even encouraged him to move on. Here lies the problem. We have a 7...
    Rainbowdash1276 Rainbowdash1276 36-40, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    How can I know that my husband is my soul mate. I am so much in doubt and so frustrated how my life has become. I really do not want people to judge me or look at me like I am a...
    Elzjrz89 Elzjrz89 22-25, F 11 hrs ago

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 19 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I have kissed probably 10 different guys since being married. That's bad, right.
    ReRe71 ReRe71 41-45, F 13 hrs ago

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    I have been with my now husband for four years, married just recently in May 2014. We have three daughters, (3,3, and 1 years of age)...we have been through a lot of ups and downs...
    beyondstars beyondstars 22-25, F 6 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Thanks to all the great feedback I’ve been getting here, I’ve been able to process a lot of what’s going on in my marriage. Most of it is simply about clarity rather than any...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 6 Responses Aug 14

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    Life after ILIASM I used to be a regular here. I found this group was very supportive and it really helped me regain some perspective and find the courage to leave my relationship...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 12 Responses Aug 19

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    DONE as opposed to done. It kind of went like this. On holiday I was putting my stuff into 'my' room, we have not shared beds in years due to the SM and her crazy crap, that's...
    Endthegame Endthegame 41-45, M 28 Responses Aug 15

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    Through my failed marriage, I've concluded that, despite the already recognized different classification of personalities, humans fall into two main person types: Selfless and...
    lovegentle lovegentle 36-40, M 9 Responses Aug 17

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    I'm new here. I've been reading stories and honestly felt better that I wasn't alone. I'm angry about my marriage. I feel like I could write a book called 101 reasons why I don't...
    silvermoonflower silvermoonflower 31-35, F 14 Responses 2 days ago

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    A couple more signs of marital recovery. I keep telling the betrayed wives who message me, focus on actions, not words. My husband said all the right words when he cheated. But...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F Aug 17

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    At risk of being hated, I admit I know the refuser's side. I was a virgin when I married the first time, ignorant of what the marriage bed entailed. I was young and scared and dumb...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    Hi everyone. I am 24 and I got married two years back. It was an arranged marriage. Don't be shocked, they're pretty common in my country. Yes, I'm in a loveless marriage. I don't...
    ashleo8 ashleo8 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 31

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    I'm a woman age 40 in a sexless marriage. Married almost four years and I bet we haven't even had sex two dozen times; sleep in separate beds, but I love him still. Well, I've...
    blondi73 blondi73 36-40, F 9 Responses Aug 14

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    The Finish Line … I left my marriage of 13 years a year ago this month. Legally, I am separated and in the process of finalizing the divorce. Emotionally, the last 12 months...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 7 Responses Aug 18

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    Bear with me because this may seem off topic, but it isn't. I've been recently thinking about death. Yesterday, my post sexless marriage lover had to put his beloved dog of 14...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm sure we all have read the story of the guy who emailed his wife a spreadsheet of his failed attempts at sexual advances. I've read more than a few articles on the story...
    chuckdaly chuckdaly 36-40, M 12 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have been denied sex by my wife for the past 24 years. I acknowledge that in the beginning I was responsible for most of the problems in the relationship. I was an alcoholic and...
    davejgj davejgj 66-70, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    so i guess my marriage is going to come to an end , my wife and i had a huge fight this morning , it was the first time in 13 years that ive yelled at her , to be honest i dont...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 19 Responses Jul 31

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    My Story Part 1 I joined the group shortly after I decided what I do about my sexless marriage. I did not need to vent but just wanted some communication and the only one...
    TheFullMoon TheFullMoon 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    My wife and I love each other but we have not been physically intimate in five years. It began when my wife gave birth to our only son. She had preeclampsia and was very ill; our...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 15 Responses Aug 13

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    (This is a post of mine from a previous profile. I decided I'd post it on my new profile) Gay Marriage I am fully in support of gay, lesbian and transgender couples' right to get...
    ForeverInDarkness22 ForeverInDarkness22 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 28

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    My eid experience. Me and my sister and their friends planned to eat at each other house. It was great except for the people. There was people who stood right in our room judging...
    ohida ohida 16-17, F Jul 29

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    One month out. First, I would like to thank all of you that offered me support and well wishes on my exit story. Life became hectic and I did not get a chance to respond to...
    birdie39 birdie39 41-45, F 19 Responses Aug 3

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    No matter how open and honestly I speak to my wife about the lack of any and all intimacy in our relationship she refuses to care to do anything about it. She says she has no...
    007jeep 007jeep 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 4

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    Waited till I was 20/21. Felt stupid to do it sooner with some boy from school. Wanted to wait for someone more impressive. My first was Jewish, so that was good. Not a love...
    DesireHappy DesireHappy 41-45, F Aug 8

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    I have addressed the envelope and will mail it soon... sigh. It's really over. I went through these weird phases. I lived the status quo, my whole life was about him. Then I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    My husband is a sex addict. I discovered this about a month ago, although I had been ignoring the clues for years. Throughout our marriage of 14 years (and before we met) he has...
    WestSiderWoman WestSiderWoman 46-50, F 16 Responses Aug 12

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    My wife and I love each other but we have not been physically intimate in five years. It began when my wife gave birth to our only son. She had preeclampsia and was very ill; our...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 13

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    Quick update: I broke the news to him and the **** hit the fan. It's been a week now and he is like a zombie. A weepy, apologetic, emotional sorry mess. I'm staying at my...
    lovesthesun lovesthesun 41-45, F 18 Responses Aug 14

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    it's been quite awhile since I have posted on here...probably months now...last time I had just had a really bad day and vented on here and got some really hurtful private messages...
    suenit suenit 56-60, F 3 Responses Aug 16

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    Things got very bad when I returned from a ten day trip and my wife, who had been saying how much she missed me and wanted me home, treated me like a roommate. She even refused...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 12 Responses Aug 17

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    Redefining a 'Broken Home' I've read quite a number of posts on how separation and divorce would break apart the family, would mean that the children would come from a broken home...
    LaoTzu LaoTzu 41-45, M 13 Responses Aug 17

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    I confronted my wife about our SM a month ago. Whats bad is that i had to wait a few days until the time was right and build up the courage to bring it up and not sound bad saying...
    crowbar2012 crowbar2012 31-35, M 9 Responses Aug 17

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    Ok here is one for the group. Recently I posted an add on local craigslist seeking to talk with local females about living in a passionless marriage. I have met several ladies...
    Genertaylori Genertaylori 51-55, M 14 Responses Aug 18

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    This gain can also be supplied to attendees who are celebrating their Landmark marriage anniversary ie fifth marriage anniversary and each consecutive 5 decadesMEETINGSOur Skilled...
    Jacksonpj05 Jacksonpj05 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 19

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    It has been one year tonight since I posted my first story on EP and it was in this forum. I thought I had married my best friend, and as such, I could save my marriage. I didn't...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 17 Responses a week ago

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    This last year all of these emotions have been festering.. I try to communicate but he doesn't listen. My husband is such a nice person but he blows up on me for the littlest...
    kathryn30 kathryn30 26-30, F 29 Responses 4 days ago

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    My boyfriend ever since I met him has a really bad memory. I believe because he use to smoke pot when he was in high school. Which honestly I can't say whether he is going to ever...
    jellyrolls34 jellyrolls34 18-21, F 13 hrs ago

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    Not able to connect with my own emotion, I can't set straight my priorities. One thing I know is I was hurt. I need to move on. I broke out, it's peaceful and quite now by myself...
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana 31-35, F 3 hrs ago