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I Sideffects Of Bad Marriage

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    Well where do I start? It didn't used to be a bad marriage when we got married 13 years ago in 2001, I was 25 and she was 24. In fact it was a very good marriage, I loved her and...
    HPeterson HPeterson 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    I have so many qualities of a good wife and he just takes it all for granted. I no longer look at him as the man Love and just see our marriage as business arrangement and I am...
    Jayne0915 Jayne0915 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    my husband left to US and he will be taking me in another 2 months....and his parents are forcing me ...taking me to all their relatives house..whom I dont even know and all these...
    needemotionalsupport needemotionalsupport 22-25, F 5 hrs ago

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    I have read many posts now, and I cannot claim to know what is the best route for others. I love my wife and I have amazing young kids, but our problem with sex goes back from...
    travelight travelight 41-45, M 2 hrs ago

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    I feel bad, when I think I'm leading guy on. I'm not really trying and I just drop them like they're nothing but flies. I believe I do this so I won't be hurt and to spare them for...
    LilRedFoxTail LilRedFoxTail 18-21, M 3 hrs ago

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    I love my mom and my grandma but growing up was sometimes really hard for me. I remember waking up in the middle of the night when I was really little so i could bury my head under...
    bsmirror bsmirror 22-25, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I am married for only a few months now and my husband is drinking everyday and smokes weed. I knew he had this habit but never knew it was this bad. He spends a lot of money on his...
    ilhasol ilhasol 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    We met in a 3 month long nursing class & work together. He knew dad & came to His funeral. He surprisingly kissed me out of the blue at a bar after some drinks & told me about his...
    BlueEyes3182 BlueEyes3182 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    I have been together with my wife for 18 years and been married for 8 years soon. And the past 8 years there have been less and less sex. For now, no sex at all. All these years i...
    WhereIsHome WhereIsHome 36-40, M 16 Responses Apr 9

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    Almost the entire time I was in my dysfunctional marriage I kept quiet about it. I made excuses. I glossed over things. My husband drank (was an alcoholic) and no one ever knew...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 15 Responses Apr 8

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    Part 2: the warning signs The changes really started to happen in November. We had a vacation planned. On the vacation we did it 2 times, would have only been once but I yapped at...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    So, I had to go home today to do some chores at the parent's. Hubs normally helps out but he's gone so it was up to me to cover. (wtf weird dynamic) I felt like being nice so I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 23

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    I have been married 8 years and been together with my wife for a total of 18 years. we had 2 small kids. for the past 4-5 years, we have not been working on our marriage but...
    needtotalk37 needtotalk37 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 1

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    Things You Really Need To Challenge Your Thinking About. - - 1 - That "everything is great bar the sex" 2 - That the vows you made are inviolate 3 - That your spouse loves you 4...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 11 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have been married to my husband for 4 years. It hasn't been an easy marriage. We've been separated for the majority of the time. He lived in Maryland and I lived in NY with our...
    Ng7491 Ng7491 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I'm not "unhappily married". I love my husband and I know he is the one God appointed for me. What the issue is "fear", I've been hurt before in my relationship. I've also lost...
    ADonya ADonya 31-35, F 9 Responses Mar 23

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    Stuff I Used To Think (but don't any more) In regard to sexless marriages, I once used to think that the complainant person - - was probably a hopelessly bad root - wasn't...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 7 Responses Mar 24

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    Better Single and Alone-- than Married and Lonely Okay, for those who think it is better to stay married with an un-affectionate and sexless spouse, here is why that is not...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 15 Responses Mar 27

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    For Kids Sake.... As part of our divorce and the process both my stbx and my therapist suggested a seminar called For Kids Sake. I got quite a bit out of it myself. I attended...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 30

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    "Friends with Benefits" / "Sex Buddy" / "Outsourcing" - This is essentially a personal opinion, and as such, completely discardable. It is not advice, or a suggestion. What I hope...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 14 Responses Apr 5

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    My 26th anniversary is in less then a week and my husband is having a crisis with coping with medical retirement. He has been a cop for nearly 18 years of our26 years of marriage...
    Bff4988 Bff4988 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 5

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    I have a really hard time communicating with my husband. We filed for divorce 6 months ago but then decided to let it go and reconcile. At the same time, other circumstances have...
    irismagnolia irismagnolia 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    Cannot wait to have my new bed alone. Today we had his friend over to our place. He had the seminar experience with his ex wife . When he heard that we got another bed, he warred...
    Raisingup Raisingup 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 8

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    I have only been married 3 months and I'm confused why things have changed. My husband has completely turned into someone else. He used to want to spend every minute with me and...
    writer4ever writer4ever 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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    Being gay is a deviation from nature. If we take a look at animals in nature we can see that none of them are gay. A few are heterosexual or androgynous but they are actually...
    darkanddesolate darkanddesolate 16-17, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    I just read the story on the caretaker from NeedingtoVent (thank you NTV), and it really hit me hard. In my journey I am recognizing my failings to be far greater than I thought...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have been married for 10 years and have three children with my wife. The last 2-3 years have not been enjoyable. I can't say that is due to any one incident or event, so my...
    canadiankid26 canadiankid26 36-40, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    Rules of Engagement - A few new members have posted in this forum recently, and while I've only been a member for few weeks, I thought I'd share my opinion on the purpose of this...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Mar 20

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    I am a really bad wife I yell and shout I get so mad at my husband sometimes I just wanna punch him in the face or leave him he knows what upsets me and he does them anyways he...
    shumey shumey 18-21, F Mar 21

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    The rubble of our marriage I try not to look I try to change my focus to what else gives me happiness my children my friends my home my community I cannot help...
    Bobbie71 Bobbie71 41-45, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    I am in a bad place today, in my head. I had to re-read some of our conversations, for a particular work detail. I did not find that detail, but it refreshed memories. The good...
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 8

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    I don't believe in gay marriage. I believe in marriage. And I think that's between any two people that love each other. Man and man. Woman and man. Woman and woman. Or whatever you...
    emilyv97 emilyv97 16-17, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 30 Responses 3 days ago

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses Apr 10

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses 5 days ago

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    Last year in June my husband of 18 years confessed to an online love affair with a lady from his company that began in April. She works in a different state hundreds of miles away...
    ydoideservethis ydoideservethis 36-40, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am 36 years old. I shock many when they find out about my inexperience and lack of knowledge of most things romantic. I am still waiting for my first real kiss. I am still...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    So I first came to EP years ago to discuss my sexless marriage. It has not been easy, a marriage with dwindling sex and now we are close to four years since we last tried. However...
    VanillaLife VanillaLife 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 20

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    I am curious, if a person is not Christian then where do the guidelines for what to do in marriage come from? This isn't meant to be antagonistic at all, it is a question I have...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 16 Responses Mar 20

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    You think you have all the time in the world. You don’t. I live in a sexless marriage. I made major decisions and made many choices to live alongside a man who found it...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 26 Responses Mar 20

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    I've been in a marriage for quite some time, but fell away from sex within my marriage about one year ago. I had been the one attempting to encourage my wife to have relations with...
    AVisionary AVisionary 36-40, M 11 Responses Mar 20

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