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I Slept With People I Felt Nothing For

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    Methinks We've Been Brain Washed

    I think the "need" to have feelings for a sex partner is just silly. If our cave forefathers had that mentality we'd not gotten this far. When the zombies attack, and there are just a few remaining humans, then what? Are we going to go the way of the dinosaurs?
    onemug onemug 36-40 Apr 27, 2012

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    But..

    I don't really worry about it.  I don't think it's that big of a deal.  I have always done it.  But I have also always been smart about it.  I don't think that you have to be in love with someone or even be attracted to them other than physically to have sex with them.  As...
    BamaBabe87 BamaBabe87 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 29, 2012

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    I was really young, naive

    and stupid. I finally had the cute football player interested in me. We started talking and the closer we became the more I realized that the only thing I liked about him was his looks and popularity. I was so desperate to keep the popularity I received from being his friend...
    ConfusedAutumn96 ConfusedAutumn96 16-17, F Jan 8

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    Revenge ****

    yes - i did this.  I ****** her just so i could ignore her afterwards. She had screwed me a couple of years before when i was in high school (she was a few years older than me) and it sucked.  I wish i hadn't.  anyway, she shows up at a party and starts talking...
    thatweirdromanguy thatweirdromanguy 46-50, M 5 Responses Nov 2, 2007

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    My Daughter<3

    I know this isn't really a story but I need everyone's help! If you could I would appreciate if you could go to this link http://www.facebook.com/#!/photo.php?fbid=301088943236895&set=a.300679546611168.83143.145342055478252&type=1&theater (if you have a facebook) and vote for my...
    Amner Amner 18-21, F Nov 10, 2011

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    It's Better When There's Feelings There...

    You weren't even attracted to him... your friend was but she hurt you so much, she used you to get to him, she made out with you in a bathroom at a party while drunk... Then he walks in, he's calm but has that slightly wild look in his eyes. You did it with him, couldn't even...
    elpatitofeo elpatitofeo 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 9, 2011

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    Doesnt Everybody Do It At Least Once?

    Common, who hasnt had that one night stand? Did you feel something for the person? I doubt, rather you were simply horny and he/she was the closest thing to get you going. I have done it plenty of times and yes, for the hell of it and experience, even had sex with a ***** when...
    addictedryno addictedryno 31-35, M 4 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    Been there... Done that.

    .. No regrets really
    sexysammy468 sexysammy468 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    No Love

    I truly believe that the reason that I started sleeping with people that I felt nothing for, is because I was raped at the age of 13 and I lost viginity to a rapist. I felt so dirty after it happened to me, I wanted to find someone that would make me feel like I was special to...
    imperfectbeauty imperfectbeauty 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    I needed sex like I needed a gym session.

    At the time it was just for the physical fulfilment. I wasn't looking for any emotional contact other than lust. No regrets there ☺️
    Feyteulen Feyteulen 31-35, F 3 Responses May 3

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    i was in a relationship with a guy

    that i never loved. we ended up having sex once just to make him happy. he thought we were meant to be but we werent so i ended everything for good.
    QueenPerez QueenPerez 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    Erasing

    Theres not much I would erase in my past, but I think I would erase all but one of those one night stands.  They were pointless.  Except maybe for now having the knowledge of I used to be much more self destructive.  I called it having a good time back then.  And I was just...
    EyzofBlue EyzofBlue 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 19, 2011

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    They Were Nobodies.

    Just one of the many things from my past that make me feel sick to my stomach.I like sex and I like feeling "dirty" when doing it.. but not that kind of dirty. If you know what I mean. I feel like I just gave myself away for nothing, for a nobody who never has or will mean...
    CuteInChaos CuteInChaos 18-21, F 5 Responses May 26, 2011

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    I was in a 3 year relationship

    that was on off all the time , and when it was off I would have many male friends who were there for me which I liked the attention , some tho I got very close to and most of then I did have sex with that I didn't feel nothing for , it was nice just knowing that someone liked me...
    Bowbow94 Bowbow94 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    :(

    & sex if DEFINITLEY sooooo much better when its w. someone u atleast KINDA care for :P ESPECAILLY if they care for u too :) I sometime wish i could go back n time & tell my younger self to quit being such a lil ho , but then i think that i would never wana change ne thing n the...
    wolfspider wolfspider 18-21, F 11 Responses Mar 18, 2011

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    I Didnt Do It Intentionally. . I Always Had A Trigger Sayin Id See Them Again

    But there were those that would pretty much FORCE themselves on me even when i said NO Some say its rape but to me if they had just done a favor for me, (such as helping me with house repairs or other item) I felt guilty if they repulsed me in that way However, when I say NO it...
    IFoundYourDiary IFoundYourDiary 46-50, F Jun 9, 2011

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    Sex Addict

    I was diagnosed as a sex addict back in 2006 and have slept with quite a few women over my years that I felt nothing for.
    blackguyindc blackguyindc 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 6, 2007

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    Notches In My Bedpost.

    When I was younger I always said that I would never have sex before marriage. I was a good girl. A Christian girl. I respected my body. When I was 12 I was raped and my virginity was stolen from me by a horrible person who walks around like he owns the world because I was too...
    BluePixie93 BluePixie93 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 3, 2012

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    Not Too Many

    I haven't slept with a lot of people; men I was in a relationship with but it wasn't always love which is the problem. There must be love. I hate when you start discovering their ugly side after you had sex with them. THE WORST.
    Nuevahoja Nuevahoja 31-35, F Mar 4, 2012

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    Please Don't Judge

    I am 25 years old and I would say I've slept with over 200 men I do feel discusting and slutty and dirty so plZ leave out the abuse. I guess I started sleeping around when I was 15 I wasn't the most pretty or confident of girls. I got bullied a bit in high school an never dated...
    Hopeless0909 Hopeless0909 22-25, F 14 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    And

    This is how I determined the difference between sex and making love. Those I felt nothing for were rushed and I never wanted to see them again, I would involve myself in very little conversation or revealing myself in any part emotionally or internally.  I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 25, 2009

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    Not Nothing

    I was checking out my experiences.  Seeing if any caught my eye and would inspire me to write something.This is the one that jumped out and grabbed me.I think it is striking a nerve with me because it's not completely true.  During the actual decision making process concerning...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Nov 3, 2011

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    I Know It's Nothing

    i can't help it that i can make love with out the feeling that you love that person.. you're just enjoying the passionate love, kissing and the sex.. that's it.. and it may continue as long as i want...
    bjones11 bjones11 26-30, F Apr 4, 2011

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    We've been friends since high school

    and I always had a crush on him. We've been hanging out off and on throughout the years. But I don't feel anything for him and I have to say the sex wasn't anything exciting yet I kept finding myself with him when ever I could. I can't figure out why....
    erica0415 erica0415 41-45, F 5 Responses May 20

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    I Have...

    And I'm not ashamed of it. It was part of the process of my life, something that I had to go through to get to the other side. I learned just how special a true, loving connection can be by experiencing what its not.
    MountainGhost MountainGhost 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 16, 2011

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    Still Technically A Virgin...

    Okay, I'm not proud of anything I'm about to say, but here goes nothing~ God, he was an idiot. Not even cute, either. He was the typical dumb southern jock- racist, backwards and not even funny. To sum it up, he was pretty much the last guy on the planet I would've considered...
    ALittleBitAlone ALittleBitAlone 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 19, 2012

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    Yes I have done this before.

    I have done a lot of things with people I feel or have felt nothing for. I don't know why I did it or do it. I mean I'm 18 and I'm so young and way to young to make the decisions I do. I guess I want people to like me. And it's like I'll do anything to be liked or loved. That's...
    lexiab123 lexiab123 18-21, F 22 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    It All Started With Someone I Met On EP

    So I am new to the ep world but something great has already come of it. I met this great man on this site and of course other than living very far away he is married! So I continue to talk to him and enjoy every story he tells me including the ones that are privately between just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Sep 14, 2013

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    My First One Night Stand

    I consider this a one night stand because although I did become friends with this guy, I know there could never be a future between us because we just can't. He's just a guy I like to go to when I'm feeling down because he's an honest, kind, funny, good-looking guy. Plus he just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 27, 2012

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    No Boundries

    Looking back I have had many times slept with women who I felt nothing for when I was younger I thought it was great because all these women wanted to be with me but looking back on things I was a naive sexually abused kid who was sexually exploited my the one population I have...
    giayesim12 giayesim12 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 28, 2013

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    Wait..who Are You Again?

    Yeah, I went through a "phase." My young engagement had recently ended, and I unconsciously made the decision to not want a relationship again. I was frozen in the heart when it came to guys, and feelings never played a role. I liked being an interest to someone, and I assumed it...
    PolarizedLove PolarizedLove 26-30, F Sep 11, 2011

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    Little Love Lost

    When I was younger I always felt peer pressure.  It was never about being popular, or having lots of friends.  I just wanted to feel normal.  Having sex for the first time was a big step to me for feeling normal.  When I got my first boyfriend I didn't really...
    freespeech freespeech 16-18, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2007

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    Swinging

    My god parents were swingers and introduced me to swinging at a 'very young' age.
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow 51-55, M 1 Response Sep 7, 2011

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    It Was a Phase...

    I admit, I wasn't as modest with my body as I should have been in my younger years.  Between the ages of 18 and 23ish, I pretty much just gave my sex away to people who thought I cared and might pursue something further with.  I haven't counted the number in a long time...
    vampireheart vampireheart 31-35, T 3 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    One Night Stands

    I have had more than my fair share of one night stands. I loved them, it felt so great knowing that whatever happened I would never see that person again, it felt free - like I didn't have to worry about what I looked like or if I pleased them enough. It was passionate and...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F 14 Responses Nov 2, 2007

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    I Did

    came home from work cleand up wet out and and went out she felt the same way we and sex
    1974sam 1974sam 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 26, 2013

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    Women My Weakness

    Well for a long time all I wanted/sex were women. I really didnt want a relationship. For me relationships are just with men. I just F^^^ women. I know thats harsh but that is the way of the world. I havent slept with a woman in 3 years...Sigh...Oh well what we do for love.
    MiseducatedChik MiseducatedChik 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Don't Expect Me to Feel Guilty.

    I guess I don't consider it "feeling nothing" because something is felt for everyone I ever encounter. Whether it be lust, contempt, whatever, it's still a feeling... I do this often. I'm told it's a result of my "mental condition." When I was younger I...
    ofthegallows ofthegallows 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 26, 2009

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    Natural Desire.

    I do know that many people prefer to only become physically intimate with those who they feel in love with or love. And that is a perfectly respectable lifestyle. However it is just as valid for humans to enjoy intercourse with those with whom they do not have the above feelings...
    NonExistX NonExistX 31-35, M Mar 13, 2012

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    Player

    i have slept with men that i cared nothing about them i figure that if a man can do it so can i and the funny thing about it my own mother told me i should become a player becuse i been played to many times in my life but i really dont want that type of life i want a man that can...
    metalchick metalchick 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 15, 2008

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    i slept with my friends mom
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    What a blatant idiot I am. This girl was into me. You wonder how I could tell she was into me and not that it was perhaps my imagination? Well, first of all: I suggested after us...
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    Yep I'd rather be alone than with people who don't love me
    Tyelioo Tyelioo 13-15, F Jun 22

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    I hate when people take things for granted, that other people can't have, such as friends, freedom, good communication skills, boyfriend/girlfriend etc.
    NovaScotia902 NovaScotia902 22-25 Jun 23

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    stillthedeadman stillthedeadman 70+ Jun 24

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    littleAnonyMOUSE littleAnonyMOUSE 41-45, F Jun 26

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    I like talking with people who have different ideas, unless they are close-minded, because I can expand my knowledge with them.
    InsanelySaneGuy InsanelySaneGuy 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 3

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    This summer, a few weeks ago, I was in California with my 3 best friends, Ryan, Alex, and Brandon. We were just walking along the streets and the guys decided to go into a store...
    apr01 apr01 22-25, F 1 Response 9 mins ago

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    Lack of common sense kills me.It seems to be everyone get their way on doing what a duck they want...with no consequences whatsoever.But there are consequences...their state of...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago