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I Sometimes Try to Please Everyone

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    Pleasing Everyone Doesn't Work!

    The problem that I have is that I want everyone to be happy.  I hate discord so I bend a bit for everyone just to keep peace.  The problem is after so much of it, I get pissed and lash out verbally, surprising the hell out of everyone because I appear so placid all the...
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 4 Responses Apr 8, 2008

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    I Try To Please Everyone.

    I always try and keep everyone happy but sometimes i can't, Like if a guy tells me he likes me and wants to be with me i have to turn him down because i'm not single.It's difficult to please everyone and also impossible..If i knew how to i would..
    ClaraJayne ClaraJayne 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    I Know This Person.

    I no this guy, who always likes to make fun of people and who always uses the expense of others to boost his ego. I'm sure you all know someone like this, but this guy in particular is a friend, though we have some ins and outs often, we still manage to remain friends for 2...
    Andariel Andariel 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 17, 2008

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    Yes, I Do...

    and mostly I felt how people was happy about it and that made me feel good too.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 8, 2008

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    Actually a Source of Marital Conflict...

     I just want to please everyone.  I feel terrible about turning down an invitation, and would never refuse a request for help.  When there are conflicting demands, my wife asks me what is it that *I* want to do.  She doesn't understand when I answer that I...
    accomplice accomplice 41-45, M 2 Responses May 21, 2008

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    A Pain

    It's something that I have to cut back on because it really can be very overwhelming. I just like to help people, that's me, but sometimes my mouth gets me into a bind because I say yes okay I will help to just about everyone and one of 3 things usually happens: 1. I double book...
    rajiv123 rajiv123 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 26, 2011

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    Trying to Please Everyone

    I've always put others before me I guess I just wanted to feel wanted, needed and accepted. I would do things for people who would't even return the favor. I've had people use my kindness as my weakness. I know how to say no but I needed to be needed. I 'd watch people kids for...
    lostchild lostchild 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 25, 2007

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    Sometimes...

    then I realize that it's impossible to please people and return the favor back and I stop, but I do it from time to time
    Eamane Eamane 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 13, 2008

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    It's Exhausting!

    Realistically, I know that I can't please my whole family.  No matter what decision I make, I always seem to **** someone off!  Since I know that pleasing them all is impossible, why do I feel so frustrated and helpless when someone is upset?  It makes me want to...
    angeleyes2009 angeleyes2009 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 17, 2009

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    Its Hard!

    Its hard to try be everybodys friend and make people around happy. The most difficult was it in school where are always two different types of people...people who pick on others and people who get picked on. I was often in the middle...when one wfriend was picking on another...
    AwakingDreamer AwakingDreamer 22-25, M 3 Responses Aug 27, 2008

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    It doesn't matter how close I am too you (just

    met or best friend) if we are bored when hanging out, I feel like you will never want to hang out with me again. Like it's my job to entertain you.
    minicabes minicabes 16-17, F May 10

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    When there's an awkward party

    and no ones talking, I feel like it's my fault and have to make sure everyone's having fun or I would feel guilty. I also hate that I give so much effort to please people and make sure people like me but they don't do the same and give back that same effort. I feel like there's...
    KarinaLin KarinaLin 18-21, F 2 Responses May 9

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    No Pleasing Some People

    No matter what you do some people will just never be happy with what you have done for them. "You can please some of the people all of the time and all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time."
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 4, 2007

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    It Gets Me Down ...

    I know that you can't always please everyone, but I do try very hard to do so, and when I don't succeed, I am way to hard on myself ... I need to start wanting to please myself more!  
    kinkitty kinkitty 36-40, F 13 Responses Apr 27, 2008

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    How I Do Things

    What I do to myself is try to please others. It's what has gotten me in trouble. And it's made me hate myself because I screw up things that are good in my life. I don't know why but that's how I handle things. And I want to make sure everyone is happy before I'm happy. And then...
    blueeyedrussian blueeyedrussian 18-21, F Mar 5, 2013

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