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I Started A T-gurl Coffee Shop - Join Me

Being a starbucks Barrista I have a chance to see groups of ladies come in everyday just a place to unwind, from kids, the hubbie, boy friends, Work. 487 People

    Should I Just Order A Strap-on For My Wife And She What She Does When It Arrives?

    I am on the fence for this one, I have read about prostate stimulation. I sat on the fence all day and when I was logging into ebay I saw her account was last logged into from my laptop, so I went ahead and using her account I have a nice one on the way. When it comes in Ill...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 9 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    Finding My Groove

    As I start to delve deeper into Brenda Karen; and my boy self starts to relinquish, I realize I am fairly clueless. Gurls like us don't get that time of teenage exploration like gg's do. It's as if we come out one hour, and are expected to have a look the next. I have a few...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 3 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    My New Name, Too Good To Be True

    Me and my bride went to see the new Twilight movie. She is team Edward; I am team Alice. While we were waiting for the movie to start she was calling Brenda. She asked how I came up with Brenda, I told her about me and my cousin playing house when we were small children...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 2 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    About Filing Taxes As A Married Couple After You Go Into Transition In The Usa

    I found out today that thru the Defense of marriage act, a couple that is married as an opposite sex couple, is considered in the same group even if one of the partners gets into transition. So if you filed jointly, then one went thru transition the same filing jointly applies...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 1 Response Oct 1, 2012

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    Check This Out, Then Send A Copy To Every Lower Grade School You Are Close To...

    http://togetherforjacksoncountykids.tumblr.com/post/14314184651/one-teachers-approach-to-preventing-gender-bullying-inThis is one teachers wonderful response to gender issues in the early grades of schooling.
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 5 Responses Oct 5, 2012

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    Re-creation...

    Well on the advice of an EP sister I went to a fantasy photo studio and had a complete makeover and photo shoot. For $300, it included a makeover and a 50 photo portfolio. It was the best money I ever spent. I spent almost an hour with a make up artist who convinced me that my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    My Dragon Slayer

    In her book She's Not The Man I married, Helen Boyd talks about what drew her to her partner Betty Crow. She said that maybe it was because her husband Betty had a dragon to slay. Looking back, I can relate. 24 years ago when I met my wonderful bride lets call her Rebecca...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 2 Responses Oct 13, 2012

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    National Coming Out Day

    October 11, 2012 national coming out day. This was the goal I had sat for myself. Come hell or high water I was going to tell my wife I was transgender. Well, I came out to her on July 17, 2012. Those of you that gotten to know me know how we have progressed. I thought...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 3 Responses Oct 7, 2012

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    Hello Y'all

    this is my first post here, but its been nagging at me so here goes. I've been using natural hormones for a few years now and my breast development has been great, but i have also started growing a labia, i'm not kidding. i have ***** lips! i am non op and i don't have a problem...
    charlene1054 charlene1054 56-60, T 4 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    Started Estro On

    thursday night...i am using a weekly patch which will deliver 8 mg os Estrodiol trans dermally directly into my blood stream. ansd i couldn't be happier! i've been asked whether my doctor gave me a had time and the answer is no, not at all. actually she did insist that i quit...
    charlene1054 charlene1054 56-60, T 19 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    Learn To Fly

    Run and tell all of the angels This could take all night Think I need a devil to help me get things right Hook me up a new revolution Cause this one is a lie We sat around laughing and watched the last one die I'm looking to the sky to save me Looking for a sign of life Looking...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T Oct 16, 2012

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    The Total Package

    it is not just one thing for me, it is the total package. nylons panties short skirt and low cut tank top. i was out the other day like that and i had 3 men making all over me for there attention, it was great, i love men who try to show off for me
    closet36 closet36 61-65, T 1 Response Jun 5, 2012

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    Support Group

    "And they they have a support group for people like you too." I just kind of sat there stunned. Now I have been taking baby steps since I told my wife I was transgender, but my wife is taking smaller steps than me. We talk, but mostly about trepidation and fear. She has...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 3 Responses Aug 10, 2012

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    Her Perspective

    Here on EP, you get my perspective. Now, that doesn't mean its the correct perspective. Just my perspective. Here you hear me whine about all things me. How I feel about transition. You hear about my fears my path my heartaches. I now offer my wife's perspective...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 1 Response Aug 27, 2012

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    Role Models?

    In another story someone was talking about showing genetic females generosity and appreciation, then topic got to role models. Those questions are easily answered, but what about something harder. What.about transgender role models. I would say number one for me is...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 5 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    The Girl Looking Back

    My bride says that I am too vain. Every time I pass by a mirror I linger. Its something I have always done. She started looking back when I was about eight. Long blond hair. No curls. Bangs cut straight in what my wife calls kindergarten bangs-like they were cut by a little...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 2 Responses Sep 9, 2012

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    Another Crossroad Traversed -- Name Change Is Filed ...

    It is done with a shakey hand I entered the post office looking left and right as I see who is there. I gingerly select a large envelope, slide my birth cert and the for for my name change with a check for $165 into the envelope, close it up and steady my hand to write the...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 12 Responses Sep 5, 2012

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    I Will Not Give Up

    I feel like I am at a good spot. I am at the what happens next stage. I have never been here. For so long I was at the oh my god I hope nobody finds out stage. That is the worst stage to be at. Worrying about scrubing off the last of her makeup. Did you put her panties...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 1 Response Sep 3, 2012

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    A Lunch Time Trip To The Shoe Store...

     I am humbled by the human spirit on a daily basis as I head out every day and get surprised at every turn. To expose myself as I have done the past 5 months to the worst possible of situations, and to get in return love kindness tenderness compassion and renewed trust.A most...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 2 Responses May 8, 2012

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    Now She Knows Who Brenda Is

    When I came out to my wife I told her that I would truthfully answer any questions. So...yesterday at lunch, my bride says I was talking in my sleep. I have always mumbled things in my sleep. One of my fears has always been speaking as Brenda. I guess I have so repressed her...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 3 Responses Sep 11, 2012

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    Salon Day

    Since I have yet to start to transition. I get few opportunities to express Brenda. One of those opportunities is salon day. Once a month me and my wife go to the salon together. I get a manicure, pedicure, and get my eyebrows shaped. I get a clear coat on my toe nails and...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 2 Responses Oct 10, 2012

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    Requested To Be A Hr Rep For Lgbt ..

    Here is the request, how public I want to be come remains the un-answered question.Ali I’m so happy to hear you have a good support structure around you. I’m most intrigued by the interest in an LGBT ERG in Ma. One of our objectives is to become the first “global” ERG at...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 2 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    Me A T-gurl?

    Hi gurls, Oh where to start? I am a 59 year old male. I have never really felt complete until recently. There has always been something wrong with me. I have always wanted to dress like a girl. I wanted to wear the clothes girls wore. I have wanted breasts since I was about 12...
    Adam59 Adam59 56-60, M 6 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    Here Is A List Of Books For The Spouses Of M>f Transgender Individuals.

    "Head over Heels"  by Virginia Erhardt, phd  wives who stay with x-dressers and Transsexuals."She's not the man I married" by Helen Boyd -- my life with a transgender husband (on HRT but no surgeries. my story and I believe yours as well) Helen also wrote "My husband Betty...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 2 Responses Jun 18, 2012

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    Future Unknown

    Our nightly routine includes just talking. We talk about my brides crazy issues, then we talk about mine. So many questions. I feel most like Brenda when we talk. One question that came up is why am I transgender? Now, I have asked that question to myself many times...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 9 Responses Jul 29, 2012

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    Hey Ladies

    Well I think it's time to settle on one doctor the doctor visit today was not so good I really need to get a doctor who really cares.
    RJ43 RJ43 41-45, T Oct 23, 2012

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    For Those Nay Sayers Looking For Proof That Lgbt Is Predisposed At Birth

    Here is a list of cites from mainstream peer-reviewed medical and scientific literature that say sexual orientation (heterosexuality, homosexuality, bi-sexuality or transgender) is NOT a choice. Biodemographic and physical correlates of sexual orientation in men. Schwartz, G...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 3 Responses Sep 10, 2012

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    My Winters Heart

    Winter is almost here. My favorite time of year. The days shorten. The wind flows freely through the trees; springs leaves nothing but a memory to the smooth branches. I know some of my sisters in parts of the country and world are saying "she is crazy". Well; yeah, we...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 1 Response Oct 30, 2012

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    Estrogen Levels 101

    Hello ladies, I just had my 3 month bloodwork done and then went looking to find out what the normal level is. Summary it is around 150 pg/ml. Below is a detail of what it should be, what low and high values can be watched for. My level of  estr came in at 54, meaning the 2mg...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 6 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    ...but You Have Changed

    Me and my bride keep discussing the same item. She.says can't look at me the same way. I say that I am still the same person. If I am not taking hormones, I am not dressing, then nothing has changed. She argues that her perception of me has changed. That is where I get...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 4 Responses Aug 30, 2012

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    I Came Out Today

    I did it. After 38 years I came out of the closet to my wife. It went like I expected. I hurt her. I wish I could take it back. Betrayed, facade, pretending, lied to, not who I thought you were, were some of the phrases. She said that she thinks back and feels like our sex...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 12 Responses Jul 17, 2012

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    My Existence

    So here I am just like every other night. The pug curled up at beside my freshly shaved legs. Listening to my play list (marked t-list) made up of a Ross section of dance music, seventies, nu-wave, and the occasional song about a t-girl. Its 3:19 am. As usual laying here...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 4 Responses Jul 2, 2012

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    Saying Goodbye To My Manhood

    I am slowly saying goodbye to my manhood. No, I am not getting srs...for now, anyway. I am not sad; maybe I should be. I have never really been all that good at being a man. More often than not, my wife took the lead. I tried to be the aggressive parent when it came to...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 6 Responses Sep 18, 2012

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    The Most Beautiful Transgender Women.

    On another site someone had posted the 15 most beautiful transgender ladies. One of the ladies was someone named Candy Darling. Of the famous Lou Reed song Walk on the Wildside. The lyric goes, Candy grew up on Long Island. In the backroom she was everybody's darling; but...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 5 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    Ok What Happens Now?

    A week and a half out of the closet. From about 10pm until about 1am we talk. She is still unsure. Can she stay with me? She is not sure. Sometimes I am still a man to her. Sometimes I am a woman. It is all about perception to her. Even though she hasn't met Brenda Karen...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 7 Responses Jul 27, 2012

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    If I Had It All To Do Over

    A question everyone is asked at some point. If you had to live your life over again; knowing what you know now, would you do it? Most people answer no. Most people by age 40 have some contentment. Their roles are cement. The relationships they have are set in stone. Then...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 2 Responses Sep 6, 2012

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    Transgender Explained...

    http://lexiecannes.wordpress.com/faq-about-transgender-people/This article has loads of good information for those who don't know what we are all about. I found it very factual and pertinent. 
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 2 Responses Sep 5, 2012

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    I Live Kinda By The Bay Area

    I live in watsonville like an hour down of San Francisco im looking for some one to treat me nice and be understanding of my feminine side if I could experiment at my pace it would be so nice.also if somebody wants to chat that's ok too cause currently I am a male to female and...
    Nataliefs Nataliefs 22-25, T 4 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    The Threshold

    As most conversations start with my bride; the time was 3am. We were talking about our future. More importantly, a move in the future. We are going to move in four months. Where? We aren't sure. Our goal is to move to a progressive more accepting city. A city that has...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 3 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    The Bee Girl

    In the early nineties there was a song by a group called Blind Melon. The name of that song was No Rain. In the video, a little girl clad in a bumble bee costume and a tutu travels from group to group, dancing and not fitting in. The little girl has on thick glasses, and...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 3 Responses Aug 18, 2012

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    Wall Of Remembrance Got Me To Thinking

    About how, well into the 21st Century, we're still discriminated against by so many people. I've been married for a little over 40 years. I'm currently going through life as androgynous because I know it will not be safe to come out completely. It's ok. I'm more comfortable with...
    Ariellamichelle Ariellamichelle 61-65, T 4 Responses Aug 27, 2012

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    Verseo First Class Eye Lash Growth Formula

    Has anyone tried this out yet? Not a mascara or make-up! This breakthrough growth formula containing a blend of proteins, vitamins, and nutrients is clinically proven to give you fuller, longer, darker lashes in just 4 weeks! I have ordered some, a report will be forthcoming...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 9 Responses Mar 10, 2012

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    Thanks Cracker Barrel

    Today we had to keep my fourteen year old out of school today. We had to take him to the doctor. He has streph. Since the 14 year old was not having the easiest time with food we let him choose. He chose Cracker Barrel. He wanted chicken and dumplings. Our wait person...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 5 Responses Nov 5, 2012

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    Point Of No Return

    A friend of mine from another Blog site has just completed grs. While she is healing she has been posting a lot of questions on varying topics. Its not like I cheat on ep; I rarely post on the other site. One question she posted I just cant get out of my head. For you...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 4 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    Finding My Groove

    As I start to delve deeper into Brenda Karen; and my boy self starts to relinquish, I realize I am fairly clueless. Gurls like us don't get that time of teenage exploration like gg's do. It's as if we come out one hour, and are expected to have a look the next. I have a few...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 1 Response Sep 23, 2012

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    What Single Clothing Item Makes You Feel Most Fem?

    In another topic the subject came up -- What is the clothing item that you wear that makes you most feminine?many many choices, Nylons, corsets, thongs (sigh) Bra's, Tampons (lol) the field is wide open, LETS HEAR IT GIRLS!!!!
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 43 Responses May 18, 2012

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    My Passion-fashion

    It is so hard not constantly talk about where we are in our transgender journey. If we are transitioning. What hormones we are on. Do we tell our wives, but part of what makes me Brenda is fashion. It started for me when I was about 6. My dad bought my mom the most...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 8 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    Sooo Sooo Sad!!!!!!

    http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/trans-woman-murdered-philadelphia130912A candlelight vigil will be held for the memory of Kyra Kruz, a 27-year-old shot in the head ..... dammit this has to stop!!! 
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, T 2 Responses Sep 13, 2012

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    A Time To Enjoy

    Ladies, I do so love the T-gurl Coffee Shop idea. I have truely enjoyed reading through your stories and I feel like I am getting to know you. This evening I sit here at my computer enjoying your company as I start a weeks worth of dessing to suit my feminine side. The wife has...
    DonnaSt DonnaSt 66-70, M 5 Responses Jul 7, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I just love coffee! But I only drink real coffee, and I only add cream, never sugar. I prefer the new world coffees from Mexico and Central and South America, and I like the good...
    Cristofori Cristofori 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 13

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    I want to share the wonderful experience I had shopping for shoes today. It was at a Payless shoe store near Toronto. I went there because I was told they have women's sizes up to...
    KimberleeRoseBee KimberleeRoseBee 41-45, T 10 Responses Apr 9

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    I can't stand thrift shop at all. Nope. I can't.
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 4

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    I met coffee when just a boy. I got up early every day to deliver newspapers and when I got back home, Dad would be up drinking his. I'd refill his cup then get some for me. I...
    sailor764 sailor764 46-50, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    On the treadmill, with coffee. Is that allowed? So many thoughts wandering in and out... I'm not mentally ready for today's training session. I want to daydream and feel all the...
    thislittlejourney thislittlejourney 26-30, F 9 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I'm not sure if I belong to this post but I can relate to wanting to be a woman. I dress fulltime with my wife being my sister. Only my two older sisters and my wife know I cross...
    ruagirl ruagirl 66-70, T 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    My daily coffee. Sweet and bitter and warm and inviting. It is raining here, but the smell is beautiful. Beauty: anything pleasing to the heart, eye or mind. I spent yesterday...
    thislittlejourney thislittlejourney 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 6