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I Started A T-gurl Coffee Shop - Join Me

Being a starbucks Barrista I have a chance to see groups of ladies come in everyday just a place to unwind, from kids, the hubbie, boy friends, Work. 495 People

    Saying Goodbye To My Manhood

    I am slowly saying goodbye to my manhood. No, I am not getting srs...for now, anyway. I am not sad; maybe I should be. I have never really been all that good at being a man. More often than not, my wife took the lead. I tried to be the aggressive parent when it came to...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 6 Responses Sep 18, 2012

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    Transgender Explained...

    http://lexiecannes.wordpress.com/faq-about-transgender-people/This article has loads of good information for those who don't know what we are all about. I found it very factual and pertinent. 
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2012

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    ...but You Have Changed

    Me and my bride keep discussing the same item. She.says can't look at me the same way. I say that I am still the same person. If I am not taking hormones, I am not dressing, then nothing has changed. She argues that her perception of me has changed. That is where I get...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 4 Responses Aug 30, 2012

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    Future Unknown

    Our nightly routine includes just talking. We talk about my brides crazy issues, then we talk about mine. So many questions. I feel most like Brenda when we talk. One question that came up is why am I transgender? Now, I have asked that question to myself many times...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 9 Responses Jul 29, 2012

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    Started Estro On

    thursday night...i am using a weekly patch which will deliver 8 mg os Estrodiol trans dermally directly into my blood stream. ansd i couldn't be happier! i've been asked whether my doctor gave me a had time and the answer is no, not at all. actually she did insist that i quit...
    charlene1054 charlene1054 56-60, T 19 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    A Time To Enjoy

    Ladies, I do so love the T-gurl Coffee Shop idea. I have truely enjoyed reading through your stories and I feel like I am getting to know you. This evening I sit here at my computer enjoying your company as I start a weeks worth of dessing to suit my feminine side. The wife has...
    DonnaSt DonnaSt 66-70, M 5 Responses Jul 7, 2012

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    Great Idea

    Hi girls....this is a great thing and i hope to meet lots of new girl friends here.
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Mar 10, 2012

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    Southern Girl

    Hello Ladies, I also just found the "Coffee Shop" I love the idea. I am a married [unhappily] CD/TG guess Tg is more like it I have been on HRT for 18 months so have changed quite a bit. I am retired so this was a factor in begining transition. I live in...
    dly645 dly645 56-60, T 14 Responses Jul 7, 2012

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    Me A T-gurl?

    Hi gurls, Oh where to start? I am a 59 year old male. I have never really felt complete until recently. There has always been something wrong with me. I have always wanted to dress like a girl. I wanted to wear the clothes girls wore. I have wanted breasts since I was about 12...
    Adam59 Adam59 56-60, M 7 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    My Dragon Slayer

    In her book She's Not The Man I married, Helen Boyd talks about what drew her to her partner Betty Crow. She said that maybe it was because her husband Betty had a dragon to slay. Looking back, I can relate. 24 years ago when I met my wonderful bride lets call her Rebecca...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 2 Responses Oct 13, 2012

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    Ok What Happens Now?

    A week and a half out of the closet. From about 10pm until about 1am we talk. She is still unsure. Can she stay with me? She is not sure. Sometimes I am still a man to her. Sometimes I am a woman. It is all about perception to her. Even though she hasn't met Brenda Karen...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 7 Responses Jul 27, 2012

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    A Possible Theme Song For Our Coffee Shop

    I have been thinking about a theme song for our Coffee Shop. I think that I found one, but it is just an idea. I spoke to Tiff about it, she and I agree that it should be up to all of us. The following is a copy of the Wikipedia writeup found at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki...
    lizagirl69 lizagirl69 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    An Update

    I know I haven't been on here in a while, my life has been rather crazy lately. I was offered a full time position where I work and accepted it, despite not liking all of the conditions; but it was that or unemployment again. The condition that I don't like is a discrimination...
    lizagirl69 lizagirl69 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    The Girl Looking Back

    My bride says that I am too vain. Every time I pass by a mirror I linger. Its something I have always done. She started looking back when I was about eight. Long blond hair. No curls. Bangs cut straight in what my wife calls kindergarten bangs-like they were cut by a little...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 2 Responses Sep 9, 2012

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    Finding My Groove

    As I start to delve deeper into Brenda Karen; and my boy self starts to relinquish, I realize I am fairly clueless. Gurls like us don't get that time of teenage exploration like gg's do. It's as if we come out one hour, and are expected to have a look the next. I have a few...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 1 Response Sep 23, 2012

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    Sooo Sooo Sad!!!!!!

    http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/trans-woman-murdered-philadelphia130912A candlelight vigil will be held for the memory of Kyra Kruz, a 27-year-old shot in the head ..... dammit this has to stop!!! 
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 13, 2012

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    For Those Nay Sayers Looking For Proof That Lgbt Is Predisposed At Birth

    Here is a list of cites from mainstream peer-reviewed medical and scientific literature that say sexual orientation (heterosexuality, homosexuality, bi-sexuality or transgender) is NOT a choice. Biodemographic and physical correlates of sexual orientation in men. Schwartz, G...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 10, 2012

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    Learn To Fly

    Run and tell all of the angels This could take all night Think I need a devil to help me get things right Hook me up a new revolution Cause this one is a lie We sat around laughing and watched the last one die I'm looking to the sky to save me Looking for a sign of life Looking...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T Oct 16, 2012

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    What Single Clothing Item Makes You Feel Most Fem?

    In another topic the subject came up -- What is the clothing item that you wear that makes you most feminine?many many choices, Nylons, corsets, thongs (sigh) Bra's, Tampons (lol) the field is wide open, LETS HEAR IT GIRLS!!!!
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, F 43 Responses May 18, 2012

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    The Threshold

    As most conversations start with my bride; the time was 3am. We were talking about our future. More importantly, a move in the future. We are going to move in four months. Where? We aren't sure. Our goal is to move to a progressive more accepting city. A city that has...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 3 Responses Sep 24, 2012

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    I Was Blocked After Being Asked To Add?!?!?

    yesterday a guy send me a request to add him.  He had read one of my experiences and really liked it.  I sent him back a message that I appreciated him liking my story and that I would check his profile out and let him know.  He then sent two gestures and two gifts.  Ok, nice...
    Ellefem Ellefem 46-50, T 18 Responses Mar 18, 2012

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    An Update. On February 1,

    2014; I finally started my HRT. Within 3 weeks I was seeing changes.
    lizagirl69 lizagirl69 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 26

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    Thanks Cracker Barrel

    Today we had to keep my fourteen year old out of school today. We had to take him to the doctor. He has streph. Since the 14 year old was not having the easiest time with food we let him choose. He chose Cracker Barrel. He wanted chicken and dumplings. Our wait person...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 5 Responses Nov 5, 2012

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    Check This Out, Then Send A Copy To Every Lower Grade School You Are Close To...

    http://togetherforjacksoncountykids.tumblr.com/post/14314184651/one-teachers-approach-to-preventing-gender-bullying-inThis is one teachers wonderful response to gender issues in the early grades of schooling.
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, F 5 Responses Oct 5, 2012

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    Hey Ladies

    Well I think it's time to settle on one doctor the doctor visit today was not so good I really need to get a doctor who really cares.
    RJ43 RJ43 46-50, T Oct 23, 2012

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    Salon Day

    Since I have yet to start to transition. I get few opportunities to express Brenda. One of those opportunities is salon day. Once a month me and my wife go to the salon together. I get a manicure, pedicure, and get my eyebrows shaped. I get a clear coat on my toe nails and...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 2 Responses Oct 10, 2012

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    My Winters Heart

    Winter is almost here. My favorite time of year. The days shorten. The wind flows freely through the trees; springs leaves nothing but a memory to the smooth branches. I know some of my sisters in parts of the country and world are saying "she is crazy". Well; yeah, we...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 1 Response Oct 30, 2012

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    Anyone Seen Tiffany

    I had the largest crush on Tiffany as she told her stories here on EP. Has anyone heard from or about her since she left ?   Her tales about the things she did with Mark in school had me thrilled like a teenage girl..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 10, 2013

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    I Live Kinda By The Bay Area

    I live in watsonville like an hour down of San Francisco im looking for some one to treat me nice and be understanding of my feminine side if I could experiment at my pace it would be so nice.also if somebody wants to chat that's ok too cause currently I am a male to female and...
    Nataliefs Nataliefs 22-25, T 4 Responses Mar 1, 2013

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    Hormones

    So how many of you girls have taken hormones? Herbs?  Thought about it?  I've done the herbs, some good, some bad.  I've also played with the hormones.  Self medicated.  Currently I'm doing 2 mg/day of estrogen under the tongue. Mainly it helps calm me down and takes the TG...
    Ellefem Ellefem 46-50, T 16 Responses Sep 26, 2012

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    Point Of No Return

    A friend of mine from another Blog site has just completed grs. While she is healing she has been posting a lot of questions on varying topics. Its not like I cheat on ep; I rarely post on the other site. One question she posted I just cant get out of my head. For you...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 4 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    Another Crossroad Traversed -- Name Change Is Filed ...

    It is done with a shakey hand I entered the post office looking left and right as I see who is there. I gingerly select a large envelope, slide my birth cert and the for for my name change with a check for $165 into the envelope, close it up and steady my hand to write the...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, F 12 Responses Sep 5, 2012

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    Now She Knows Who Brenda Is

    When I came out to my wife I told her that I would truthfully answer any questions. So...yesterday at lunch, my bride says I was talking in my sleep. I have always mumbled things in my sleep. One of my fears has always been speaking as Brenda. I guess I have so repressed her...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 3 Responses Sep 11, 2012

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    My New Name, Too Good To Be True

    Me and my bride went to see the new Twilight movie. She is team Edward; I am team Alice. While we were waiting for the movie to start she was calling Brenda. She asked how I came up with Brenda, I told her about me and my cousin playing house when we were small children...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 2 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    About Filing Taxes As A Married Couple After You Go Into Transition In The Usa

    I found out today that thru the Defense of marriage act, a couple that is married as an opposite sex couple, is considered in the same group even if one of the partners gets into transition. So if you filed jointly, then one went thru transition the same filing jointly applies...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, F 1 Response Oct 1, 2012

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    Should I Just Order A Strap-on For My Wife And She What She Does When It Arrives?

    I am on the fence for this one, I have read about prostate stimulation. I sat on the fence all day and when I was logging into ebay I saw her account was last logged into from my laptop, so I went ahead and using her account I have a nice one on the way. When it comes in Ill...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, F 9 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    A Fourteen Stage Model Of Transsexual Identity Formation

    I was chatting to Ellefem today and she said something that reminded me of this, so as promised. This is an excerpt (summary of the stages) from "Witnessing and Mirroring: A Fourteen Stage Model of Transsexual Identity Formation" By Aaron H. Devor, Ph.D For the time being, the...
    lizagirl69 lizagirl69 41-45, F 11 Responses Jul 10, 2012

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    Free Bustea Until August 31st 2012...

    This afternoon I received an email advertisement from Greenbush Natural Products and I thought that I would share it with my friends here on EP. ------------------------------ We are offering free Bustea until the end of the month. So boost your enhancement program with a 50 bag...
    lizagirl69 lizagirl69 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    Role Models?

    In another story someone was talking about showing genetic females generosity and appreciation, then topic got to role models. Those questions are easily answered, but what about something harder. What.about transgender role models. I would say number one for me is...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 5 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    National Coming Out Day

    October 11, 2012 national coming out day. This was the goal I had sat for myself. Come hell or high water I was going to tell my wife I was transgender. Well, I came out to her on July 17, 2012. Those of you that gotten to know me know how we have progressed. I thought...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 3 Responses Oct 7, 2012

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    If I Had It All To Do Over

    A question everyone is asked at some point. If you had to live your life over again; knowing what you know now, would you do it? Most people answer no. Most people by age 40 have some contentment. Their roles are cement. The relationships they have are set in stone. Then...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 2 Responses Sep 6, 2012

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    Pink Essence

    Has anyone joined or are members of http://pinkessence.com/? I've joined it, but no quite sure if I belong there or not since I'm not out of the closet.  Anyone have any experience with the site?  Thoughts, Opinons, etc. would be greatly appreciated!
    Ellefem Ellefem 46-50, T 4 Responses Oct 29, 2012

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    Names

    I'm always curious how girls decide on their names. Also has your name changed over time or do you have different names for different moods. There isn't really a fem version of the name I was born with so when I started out I called myself Melanie. I thought it was a cute name...
    aimeemcm aimeemcm 22-25, T 16 Responses Apr 11, 2012

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    The Most Beautiful Transgender Women.

    On another site someone had posted the 15 most beautiful transgender ladies. One of the ladies was someone named Candy Darling. Of the famous Lou Reed song Walk on the Wildside. The lyric goes, Candy grew up on Long Island. In the backroom she was everybody's darling; but...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 5 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    Estrogen Levels 101

    Hello ladies, I just had my 3 month bloodwork done and then went looking to find out what the normal level is. Summary it is around 150 pg/ml. Below is a detail of what it should be, what low and high values can be watched for. My level of  estr came in at 54, meaning the 2mg...
    Alasandra Alasandra 51-55, F 6 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    Finding My Groove

    As I start to delve deeper into Brenda Karen; and my boy self starts to relinquish, I realize I am fairly clueless. Gurls like us don't get that time of teenage exploration like gg's do. It's as if we come out one hour, and are expected to have a look the next. I have a few...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 3 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    The Total Package

    it is not just one thing for me, it is the total package. nylons panties short skirt and low cut tank top. i was out the other day like that and i had 3 men making all over me for there attention, it was great, i love men who try to show off for me
    closet36 closet36 61-65, T 1 Response Jun 5, 2012

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    I Came Out Today

    I did it. After 38 years I came out of the closet to my wife. It went like I expected. I hurt her. I wish I could take it back. Betrayed, facade, pretending, lied to, not who I thought you were, were some of the phrases. She said that she thinks back and feels like our sex...
    brendakaitlin brendakaitlin 36-40, T 12 Responses Jul 17, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I quit drinking coffee because of my anxiety. I used to drink it everyday and usually with a cigarette.
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    My stomach feels horrible. The coffee is all I had left to enjoy really.
    Nixed Nixed 31-35, M 5 hrs ago

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    Nestled close to the Coffee Shop, the Dhoni Bar spills out on to a picket deck overlooking The ocean, in order to sit and sip your cocktail close to the ocean.These wood chalets...
    Temple2516ja Temple2516ja 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 19

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    when you are just tired sitting in that chair in your workplace & sick of the politics that happens around you and don't feel like talking to anyone, leave that chair and take a...
    uselessguy uselessguy 36-40, M Aug 18

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    MY FUTURE! I'm at a coffee shop somewhere thinking about where I'm at in life again. It ****** me off to what I've done and tried to do where it's left me nowhere. I can honestly...
    Spiritm Spiritm 26-30, M Aug 4