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I Starting Over After Divorce

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    The....EX

    This is NOT in reference to marriages involving physical violence, mental abuse. This is about just ordinary marriages that fell apart.People are not always compatible, and so the married couple drift apart.  And so, as I encounter other divorced people, it is shocking, and very...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 5 Responses May 6, 2013

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    Its Sooo Unbelievably Devastating

    Im 49 yrs old...got divorced finalized 5 months ago; im getting there in starting over, but what i find so devastating aside form the actual leaving ( i left; my 2 teenage daughters chose to live w/their father in the house; i see them evry 2 wks) was that i have a brother and...
    Terri631 Terri631 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    Moving On Is Not So Easy....

    I am recently divorced after a long marriage of 43 years...This is also the first time I have ever broken up with someone that i loved, and so i have not a clue how to deal with some of the emotional issues.,and so i was wondering what insight or information the people here could...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 3 Responses Jan 4, 2012

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    Getting A Divorce And Starting Over

    I have been married for 30 years, I thought she was my soulmate, but apparently I was wrong. We were going through some financial problems and she started talking to a "friend" of ours and getting advice. This was 2 years ago and now she says she not "in love" with me any more...
    lonelyheart1961 lonelyheart1961 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 29, 2012

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    Getting to Know Me

    I am 37 years old. I was married for 10 years and with that same pertner for 17 years (half of my life at the time) ... We were better buddies than a happily married couple. I have been in a few relationships since the divorce ended but have not found that special Mrs. Right...
    DSMHawk DSMHawk 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2007

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    Not Sure I Know How To Do This.

    Well, the axe has fallen I have been served with divorce papers. I have spent the last year trying to save the relationship.  Since being served I have started to understand this is the end of the relationship as we know it.When we met I was an outgoing, social person.  I am...
    1980Monza 1980Monza 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    Alone With No Where To Go And No One To Talk To...

    I have now been separated just over a year. Married out of High School at 19, for 15 years I was with my best friend and only friend. Since 2006 I have had medical problems which made things difficult, in 2012 emotional issues caused more problems leading to a self-imposed stay...
    ApparentlyDepressed ApparentlyDepressed 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    A New Beginning

    Back in 1985 I married the most wonderful woman. We had met through a councilling service and I was the councillor. Surprisingly we hit it off straight away and we both discussed our past and our insecurities so we both started the relationship on equal footing. I knew what she...
    tsv01 tsv01 46-50, M Apr 28, 2012

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    Starting Over...When Is It Really Time?

     I've read so many touching stories here lately, divorced after 10 years, 20 years...40 years! The list goes on, many people to thank for some really good insight. I guess, the more time you've been married, the harder it is to deal with letting go, emotionally and even...
    albyd albyd 31-35, M 1 Response May 6, 2013

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    My Divorce Story

    I met my wife in 2004. She was the kind of person I thought I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. She was funny, pretty, and goal oriented. Our relationship took off rather quickly..perhaps a little to quickly. I had been nursing a broken heart for the better part of two...
    syderb79 syderb79 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    Thinking Of Leaving

    I shared my story before, but instead of giving you the details, lets just say that i've been divorced for 8 months more or less ( separated for almost 2 years). I didnt want to divorce, and I still dont want to ve divorced. You know where this is going right? So, in the past...
    albyd albyd 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 27, 2012

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    A New Life

    I am starting a wonderful new life after becoming divorced. I was in my marriage for twenty years. For over half that time I was quite miserable. I had gotten used to being told my wants and desires were foolish, that my job working with children was valueless, and that overall I...
    kwanyin kwanyin 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 30, 2012

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    Never Better

    Divorced for 3 years after being together for 17. His struggle with depression felt contagious, and now that I don't live with it, I have more fun, more friends and interests, do so many of the things I always wanted to. I'm sky diving in 2 days and can't wait! Doing the funnest...
    simplygirl simplygirl 46-50, F 6 Responses Jun 8, 2012

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    Divorced And Not Happy

    Hi everyone I am a divorced father of two great kids after being married for 13 years i found my exwife started cheating on me bye the time I knew what hit me I lost everything my house my buisiness and all of my money, emotionly I had a hard time dealing with things I tried to...
    DAWNBRAN DAWNBRAN 36-40, M 10 Responses Oct 25, 2009

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    Starting Over.......

    I am in the process of starting over. After 43 years of married life, I am now on my own.To be honest, if feels very similar to dealing with a loss of a spouse due to a death. This person you lived with for decades, is just not here, and will never be here again. It is sad, but...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 11 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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    Not Easy

    It's not easy to start over and get on with my life when I think of all the hurtful things he said. I know they aren't true but the hurt remains. Plus it's been a year and he keeps telling me over and over.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 23, 2013

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    After 17 years of marriage,

    starting over and things are much different! Def experiencing some anxiety about the unknown but enjoying the art of online dating & social media! It's nice to have a forum to share & meet people w/ similar interests!
    FlKuntryBoy FlKuntryBoy 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    Glad I Got Divorced

    I was married for 9 years and then i found out my wife was cheatting on me with someone i worked with and that was the end off that it took me a 3 years to get fully over it but i did and now i have remarried and i am so happy and i have 3 boys as well i was very sad at one point...
    wellboy120 wellboy120 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I know we all have to do it sometimes, and it's necessary to try again (if we are ever going to have what we want), but I am SOOOOOOooooooooo tired of starting over. I guess it's...
    moonchile moonchile 26-30, F 15 hrs ago

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    Starting over again every single day
    bittersweetsourandsalty bittersweetsourandsalty 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    Starting over is a little scary But I know what I want I want to be happy I want to laugh and remember the good things about me and about life! Gotta keep on believing :)
    cailinAlainn cailinAlainn 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    So here i am, New day, New page flipped, A new script to play, No more action replay, Time to start over again. x
    Gentleandlovingsoul Gentleandlovingsoul 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    Now that's summer and the kids are home all day, our days are just days. Since my husband left, we no longer are excited about 6pm because it's just another hour for us. He isn't...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 7

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    I don't understand why spouses who said they would love you until death do us part can leave the marriage so easily. This hurts and will never go away. My husband seems to have...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F Jul 10

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    Yesterday I took a big step and per registered for driver’s education classes then today I signed the contract for the class. At first I was a little nervous even when I called a...
    vassalordreader vassalordreader 31-35 Jul 2

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    and as difficult as it is this time... I know it is for the best. Emotionally, my state of being has been compromised for a long time and I am just ready to be emotionally healthy...
    sunniedays89 sunniedays89 22-25, F a week ago

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    I am 30 years old and live with my mom. I have no money what so ever and just got food stamps yesterday. I am also unemployed and looking for work. I don't have a car, only a bike...
    Upchurch503 Upchurch503 26-30, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    How is life after divorce? Do you regret it? Are you happier?
    feelingsoblu feelingsoblu 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I studied to be Catholic priest for 15 years and when they told me it wasn't for me I became a barista brewing coffee. Today, I own my own business. Starting over isn't easy.
    every2years every2years 31-35, M Jul 2

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    I have been with my husband for 9 year this october, and I always believed we would be forever and I refuse to let go of that belief. I don't know why I am posting on this website...
    Abooboo77 Abooboo77 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 29

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    How do you know if it's really over? My husband and I relationship always consisted of "extreme moments"- when things are great they are head over heels great! In turn when...
    Ashante90 Ashante90 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 9

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    Hello I'm new to this site. I posted once prior, but I had no clue where I was in the situation. I'm a terrible writer and this is going to be long enough, so I'll jump right into...
    gator613 gator613 26-30, M Jul 9

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    My parents separated in the late summer of 2006 when I was six, probably the worst time to split up as it is around about the age where you start to notice other people's feelings...
    natasha2607 natasha2607 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 11

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    I met my wife Sarah in 2008. We met through her friend. We started dating and things were progressing fast, we got engaged and got married in October of 2009. Things were not...
    SimpleGuy77 SimpleGuy77 36-40 1 Response Jul 11

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    Resolved To Disolve. Every divorce has those unique moments in court, proceedings, or on final papers. Here are a few of mine: 1. Hubby-at-time was in jail. Due to his charges...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Pretty much decided on getting a divorce last night. I just hate the thought of starting all over again and losing all that I worked hard for!
    06Ford 06Ford 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    A little background info, I'm just turned 15 and my parents have been divorced since I was 5 and my little brother was 2 years old. The condensed past from my perspective: It's...
    illlivehappily illlivehappily 13-15, F a week ago

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    I am married and so my AP, neither happily married. We became friends over 2 years ago, but over the last year have gotten alot closer. Our families were all friends (his wife, my...
    Suzanne1976 Suzanne1976 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    This absolutely is miserable. My husband seems to think he is going to take me to the cleaners and receive everything that he requested in the settlement. He is wrong. I am...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F Jul 3

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    I finally got the courage to tell my husband that I wanted a divorce. This man has cheated on me, emotionally, mentally, and physically abused me, he put his job in front of me...
    futureexwife14 futureexwife14 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    My parents are getting divorced. It may sound strange but from the very beginning I supported the idea coz they're just too different and they haven't been happy for quite some...
    Pulaila Pulaila 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Finally. And end. Yesterday, which ironically was out 13th wedding anniversary, we finally sat down and hammered out company buy out, spousal support and child support. So very...
    Tico72 Tico72 41-45, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    27 female Divorced jobless homeless living at home with mom and step dad lost my 7yr old son to husband left the love of my life who supports me through my transition in NY...
    seekinghappiness87 seekinghappiness87 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    It sounds a little strange to say "happily" because going through my divorce was the most heartbreaking, unhappy time of my life! It was like falling into a bottomless pit of...
    StarLily71 StarLily71 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 6

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    I am finally divorced. I didn't want the divorce, and I didn't want to be a doormat either. I love my ex husband or at least the man that I thought he was. How can a person say...
    ShineAndRise ShineAndRise 31-35 4 Responses Jul 10

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    Money does something to people, it changes them. I saw my family break apart piece by piece because of it. It was Not even greed. My family owned a small restaurant and it didn't...
    tommyfung tommyfung 16-17, M Jul 5

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    In 2003 I fled Finland with my 3 children(2 his,1 not) after 13 years in a abusive marriage. We arrived back in America with the clothes on our backs literally. In the divorce I...
    IStillGotIt IStillGotIt 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    I haven't cried in weeks... today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 10 Responses Jun 29

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    When I was 15 my parents ill fated 16 relationship finally imploded. It stsrted with a mysterious letter sent to our family home while my father was away. My siblings and I know...
    Eitan Eitan 22-25, M Jul 15

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