I Starting Over After Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 78 People


    This is NOT in reference to marriages involving physical violence, mental abuse. This is about just ordinary marriages that fell apart.People are not always compatible, and so the married couple drift apart.  And so, as I encounter other divorced people, it is shocking, and very...
    neuilly neuilly
    61-65, F
    3 Responses May 6, 2013

    Not Easy

    It's not easy to start over and get on with my life when I think of all the hurtful things he said. I know they aren't true but the hurt remains. Plus it's been a year and he keeps telling me over and over.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Mar 23, 2013

    Never Better

    Divorced for 3 years after being together for 17. His struggle with depression felt contagious, and now that I don't live with it, I have more fun, more friends and interests, do so many of the things I always wanted to. I'm sky diving in 2 days and can't wait! Doing the funnest...
    simplygirl simplygirl
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Jun 8, 2012

    Starting over ... Divorce almost final

    and I am wondering where to start. Any advice?
    Oliviaa92 Oliviaa92
    41-45, F
    1 Response Dec 18, 2014

    My Divorce Story

    I met my wife in 2004. She was the kind of person I thought I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. She was funny, pretty, and goal oriented. Our relationship took off rather quickly..perhaps a little to quickly. I had been nursing a broken heart for the better part of two...
    syderb79 syderb79
    36-40, M
    1 Response Mar 21, 2013

    Starting Over.......

    I am in the process of starting over. After 43 years of married life, I am now on my own.To be honest, if feels very similar to dealing with a loss of a spouse due to a death. This person you lived with for decades, is just not here, and will never be here again. It is sad, but...
    neuilly neuilly
    61-65, F
    11 Responses Nov 16, 2011

    In 1991 my first wife

    and I got divorced after just 5 years of marriage we didn't own much nor had a kid together she had two by another man we divorced me over the drugs I did not even a month after it was finalized I checked myself into rehab for heroin and cocaine once I checked out I joined a...
    primeoflife primeoflife
    56-60, M
    Mar 5, 2015

    Thinking Of Leaving

    I shared my story before, but instead of giving you the details, lets just say that i've been divorced for 8 months more or less ( separated for almost 2 years). I didnt want to divorce, and I still dont want to ve divorced. You know where this is going right? So, in the past...
    albyd albyd
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Aug 27, 2012

    Divorced. It's hard. I know it didn't work.

    I still miss her and live her. We both say hurtful things. We don't talk. I don't want her to hurt but I don't know how to let go big the anger.
    salmonguy500 salmonguy500
    51-55, M
    1 Response Dec 8, 2015

    A New Beginning

    Back in 1985 I married the most wonderful woman. We had met through a councilling service and I was the councillor. Surprisingly we hit it off straight away and we both discussed our past and our insecurities so we both started the relationship on equal footing. I knew what she...
    tsv01 tsv01
    46-50, M
    Apr 28, 2012

    I need some help! Women!

    My wife divorced me and no real reason other than she wanted to explore life. We hung out twice in the last week and we ended up getting physical. Divorced for only 3 weeks. She still seems like she wants to be friends. Thats not what I want. We both had fun and enjoyed it very...
    Rsend Rsend
    1 Response Dec 29, 2014

    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    leanncc11 leanncc11
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 18, 2014

    Its Sooo Unbelievably Devastating

    Im 49 yrs old...got divorced finalized 5 months ago; im getting there in starting over, but what i find so devastating aside form the actual leaving ( i left; my 2 teenage daughters chose to live w/their father in the house; i see them evry 2 wks) was that i have a brother and...
    Terri631 Terri631
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Mar 2, 2013

    Moving On Is Not So Easy....

    I am recently divorced after a long marriage of 43 years...This is also the first time I have ever broken up with someone that i loved, and so i have not a clue how to deal with some of the emotional issues.,and so i was wondering what insight or information the people here could...
    neuilly neuilly
    61-65, F
    3 Responses Jan 4, 2012

    Alone With No Where To Go And No One To Talk To...

    I have now been separated just over a year. Married out of High School at 19, for 15 years I was with my best friend and only friend. Since 2006 I have had medical problems which made things difficult, in 2012 emotional issues caused more problems leading to a self-imposed stay...
    ApparentlyDepressed ApparentlyDepressed
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Nov 16, 2013

    After 17 years of marriage,

    starting over and things are much different! Def experiencing some anxiety about the unknown but enjoying the art of online dating & social media! It's nice to have a forum to share & meet people w/ similar interests!
    deleted deleted
    Jul 23, 2014

    A New Life

    I am starting a wonderful new life after becoming divorced. I was in my marriage for twenty years. For over half that time I was quite miserable. I had gotten used to being told my wants and desires were foolish, that my job working with children was valueless, and that overall I...
    kwanyin kwanyin
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jun 30, 2012

    Glad I Got Divorced

    I was married for 9 years and then i found out my wife was cheatting on me with someone i worked with and that was the end off that it took me a 3 years to get fully over it but i did and now i have remarried and i am so happy and i have 3 boys as well i was very sad at one point...
    wellboy120 wellboy120
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

    Getting to Know Me

    I am 37 years old. I was married for 10 years and with that same pertner for 17 years (half of my life at the time) ... We were better buddies than a happily married couple. I have been in a few relationships since the divorce ended but have not found that special Mrs. Right...
    DSMHawk DSMHawk
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Dec 23, 2007

    Divorced And Not Happy

    Hi everyone I am a divorced father of two great kids after being married for 13 years i found my exwife started cheating on me bye the time I knew what hit me I lost everything my house my buisiness and all of my money, emotionly I had a hard time dealing with things I tried to...
    36-40, M
    10 Responses Oct 25, 2009

    Not Sure I Know How To Do This.

    Well, the axe has fallen I have been served with divorce papers. I have spent the last year trying to save the relationship.  Since being served I have started to understand this is the end of the relationship as we know it.When we met I was an outgoing, social person.  I am...
    1980Monza 1980Monza
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

    Going through a divorce.

    We separated for 4 months now. it's been hard for i have 3 young kids, 7, 4, 2 years old. I have moved back to my home country after finding out my wife cheating. Thinking, i was back home to regain myself and would go back to live near the kids in the US again but in a way i...
    flexoverdeal flexoverdeal
    31-35, M
    Aug 16, 2014

    Getting A Divorce And Starting Over

    I have been married for 30 years, I thought she was my soulmate, but apparently I was wrong. We were going through some financial problems and she started talking to a "friend" of ours and getting advice. This was 2 years ago and now she says she not "in love" with me any more...
    lonelyheart1961 lonelyheart1961
    51-55, M
    1 Response Jun 29, 2012

    Starting Over...When Is It Really Time?

     I've read so many touching stories here lately, divorced after 10 years, 20 years...40 years! The list goes on, many people to thank for some really good insight. I guess, the more time you've been married, the harder it is to deal with letting go, emotionally and even...
    albyd albyd
    31-35, M
    1 Response May 6, 2013
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