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    Divorced And Not Happy

    Hi everyone I am a divorced father of two great kids after being married for 13 years i found my exwife started cheating on me bye the time I knew what hit me I lost everything my house my buisiness and all of my money, emotionly I had a hard time dealing with things I tried to...
    DAWNBRAN DAWNBRAN 36-40, M 10 Responses Oct 25, 2009

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    The....EX

    This is NOT in reference to marriages involving physical violence, mental abuse. This is about just ordinary marriages that fell apart.People are not always compatible, and so the married couple drift apart.  And so, as I encounter other divorced people, it is shocking, and very...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 5 Responses May 6, 2013

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    Getting to Know Me

    I am 37 years old. I was married for 10 years and with that same pertner for 17 years (half of my life at the time) ... We were better buddies than a happily married couple. I have been in a few relationships since the divorce ended but have not found that special Mrs. Right...
    DSMHawk DSMHawk 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2007

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    Its Sooo Unbelievably Devastating

    Im 49 yrs old...got divorced finalized 5 months ago; im getting there in starting over, but what i find so devastating aside form the actual leaving ( i left; my 2 teenage daughters chose to live w/their father in the house; i see them evry 2 wks) was that i have a brother and...
    Terri631 Terri631 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    Glad I Got Divorced

    I was married for 9 years and then i found out my wife was cheatting on me with someone i worked with and that was the end off that it took me a 3 years to get fully over it but i did and now i have remarried and i am so happy and i have 3 boys as well i was very sad at one point...
    wellboy120 wellboy120 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    Getting A Divorce And Starting Over

    I have been married for 30 years, I thought she was my soulmate, but apparently I was wrong. We were going through some financial problems and she started talking to a "friend" of ours and getting advice. This was 2 years ago and now she says she not "in love" with me any more...
    lonelyheart1961 lonelyheart1961 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 29, 2012

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    55 years old and 18 married,

    the lawyers have the papers and in a few months the house will need to be sold. I will be starting over with basically $0.00 in bank. Oh there is much angst and sadness in my heart but my mind is filled with 'little' worries ... What do I do with a garage full of tools? A garage...
    pitchdad pitchdad 51-55, M 2 Responses Mar 7

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    Moving On Is Not So Easy....

    I am recently divorced after a long marriage of 43 years...This is also the first time I have ever broken up with someone that i loved, and so i have not a clue how to deal with some of the emotional issues.,and so i was wondering what insight or information the people here could...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 3 Responses Jan 4, 2012

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    Alone With No Where To Go And No One To Talk To...

    I have now been separated just over a year. Married out of High School at 19, for 15 years I was with my best friend and only friend. Since 2006 I have had medical problems which made things difficult, in 2012 emotional issues caused more problems leading to a self-imposed stay...
    ApparentlyDepressed ApparentlyDepressed 26-30, M 4 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    Thinking Of Leaving

    I shared my story before, but instead of giving you the details, lets just say that i've been divorced for 8 months more or less ( separated for almost 2 years). I didnt want to divorce, and I still dont want to ve divorced. You know where this is going right? So, in the past...
    albyd albyd 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 27, 2012

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    Starting Over...When Is It Really Time?

     I've read so many touching stories here lately, divorced after 10 years, 20 years...40 years! The list goes on, many people to thank for some really good insight. I guess, the more time you've been married, the harder it is to deal with letting go, emotionally and even...
    albyd albyd 31-35, M 1 Response May 6, 2013

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    My Divorce Story

    I met my wife in 2004. She was the kind of person I thought I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. She was funny, pretty, and goal oriented. Our relationship took off rather quickly..perhaps a little to quickly. I had been nursing a broken heart for the better part of two...
    syderb79 syderb79 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    Starting Over.......

    I am in the process of starting over. After 43 years of married life, I am now on my own.To be honest, if feels very similar to dealing with a loss of a spouse due to a death. This person you lived with for decades, is just not here, and will never be here again. It is sad, but...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 11 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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    Never Better

    Divorced for 3 years after being together for 17. His struggle with depression felt contagious, and now that I don't live with it, I have more fun, more friends and interests, do so many of the things I always wanted to. I'm sky diving in 2 days and can't wait! Doing the funnest...
    simplygirl simplygirl 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 8, 2012

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    A New Beginning

    Back in 1985 I married the most wonderful woman. We had met through a councilling service and I was the councillor. Surprisingly we hit it off straight away and we both discussed our past and our insecurities so we both started the relationship on equal footing. I knew what she...
    tsv01 tsv01 46-50, M Apr 28, 2012

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    A New Life

    I am starting a wonderful new life after becoming divorced. I was in my marriage for twenty years. For over half that time I was quite miserable. I had gotten used to being told my wants and desires were foolish, that my job working with children was valueless, and that overall I...
    kwanyin kwanyin 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 30, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    After being married for more than 12 years, most of which I thought was happy, I find myself "starting over again" in every sense of the phrase. My life has had many ups and downs...
    lookin4hope lookin4hope 41-45, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    The only thing I had to hold onto when he left me for someone else... was the thought, that one day, he would realize that he will never find anyone better than me. Maybe someone...
    TypicalPisces TypicalPisces 31-35, F Mar 31

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    He can't pick up his stuff, due to a number of things, one of those things being a court order. I'm selling some of it tomorrow, I would normally never do such a thing, but he...
    damagedbadatbest damagedbadatbest 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    I've finally reached my limit. I realized life is just too damn short to waste dwelling on one girl in a world filled with billions. I'm 26, and I'm not getting any younger. It...
    nustart nustart 26-30, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I've been with my husband since I was 18. Dated for 11 years and been married for almost 20. Huge age difference. Everyone always told me it would make a difference one day and...
    JdyFlty JdyFlty 46-50, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    My parents have been married for years but it seems so much harder to stay married these days. I have countless friends who've married and divorced/separated already. It makes me...
    NaturalEye NaturalEye 31-35, M 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I had my first boyfriend when I was 16. We met each other at church and we also attended the same high school. He was a year older than me so he graduated from high school and...
    leimomo leimomo 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I would be celebrating my 25th wedding anniversary this June, but instead I hope to have my divorce final by then. My husbands affair put the nail in the coffin of our marriage...
    slowsurrender slowsurrender 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    I have been with my partner 2.5 years. Our first year together was a good one, he lived in his home and I lived in mine. He seemed so different from all the guys I had dated before...
    painfultime painfultime 31-35 2 Responses Mar 26

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    He really scarred me, its hard to not feel an emptiness inside he left a hole in my heart.Most of our pictures were of us smiling & i realized those smiles were fake. But it was...
    lesslovesaturn13 lesslovesaturn13 22-25 8 hrs ago

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    On the bright side in the last two weeks I have lost 15 pounds. I think I will market it as the DS diet. Divorce Stress diet. Not cheap though. Sucking away the life time savings...
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 9

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    I'm 23 and I've been married 10 months to the man I've been dating since I was 15. We've been together for 7 years. What makes this situation so hard is that there is nothing...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    We met when i was 16 and he was 17. Dated for 3 yrs and got married right after i graduated high school. During my last year in HS he joined the military. we stayed together and...
    PerdidaPorEl PerdidaPorEl 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Well it's been a year now since I started my new life alone and now the divorce process is starting. We have a legal separation in place and so I am hoping the divorce goes...
    anewlifealone anewlifealone 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 1

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    This is a little harder then I thought.... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    I got spanked the other day for driving under the influence after a couple drinks... I def deserved it. My bf noticed when I came home I had too much fun with the girls and put me...
    AFM1021 AFM1021 22-25, F 1 Response 18 mins ago

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    My 26th anniversary is in less then a week and my husband is having a crisis with coping with medical retirement. He has been a cop for nearly 18 years of our26 years of marriage...
    Bff4988 Bff4988 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 5

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    I am so sad and scared about the future for myself and my kids because I have come to the realization that I need to file for divorce from my husband of almost 14 yrs. I am...
    tornandhurt tornandhurt 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 25

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    They're not legally divorced. Just separated. We could never afford a real divorce. It's been this way since I was 11. Now I'm 15. My dad got a new job last year and had to move...
    Alice1998 Alice1998 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Update #3 The kids were over at the grandparents' today so we talked about splitting the physical assets in the house. I'll be able to keep my computer equipment, tools, and CD...
    IU74 IU74 36-40, M 5 Responses Mar 23

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    This is the sort of situation I never thought I would get into. I thought I was too old and too smart to make the mistakes I'd seen my friends go through in their early twenties...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 27

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    I signed the final divorce papers this morning with her. I went over it in detail and made sure she understood. We signed everything together as the kids watched television at...
    flibsley flibsley 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 28

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    My parents got divorced a few years ago and I want them to be happy, but it's not easy to watch my parents date other people. Recently my mom started seeing a man who had a 19 year...
    lesliemonster lesliemonster 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    Today wasn't a good day. I've been trying to wait, to give it some time after the difficult times we had in December and February, but I'm feeling more and more impatient. We've...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    I'm 30 and recently divorced. My ex was verbally, emotionally and somewhat physically abusive. At the same time, he was my best friend. We were together for 10 years and married...
    sdp11983 sdp11983 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    I don't I have realized after I divorced him it's taken me a while to see the forest threw the trees so to speak he was manipulating if it wasn't all about him he was angry upset...
    kimy51 kimy51 51-55, F Apr 15

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    My dad and my stepmom are getting divorced... Only she doesn't want it. And as we speak they are arguing. She is crying he is raising his voice. And... I would do homework...
    TubaAtheist TubaAtheist 18-21, F Mar 24

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    It appears that the final court hearing for divorce and child custody are next week. I am overwhelmed and unprepared. I don't have an attorney and was not able to find one to...
    MissingBoston MissingBoston 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 9

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    98% of the time, my parents splitting is a good thing. But sometimes it's bad. My dad has a really bad temper and has harmed my brothers and my mom. I don't know why he hasn't...
    emily39 emily39 18-21, F Apr 12

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    Sometimes its the little things that are really upsetting. Today I created a folder in my email called "Divorce" so I could file the correspondence I have begun with my lawyer and...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 15

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    Have you heard that song "Mistakes, I've made a few"? Well add a crap ton more to that, and you got my life. I learned everything the hard way. I never wanted to be where I am now...
    Momma1985 Momma1985 26-30, F 17 hrs ago

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    My husband filed for divorce a month ago. He left the house and hasn’t came back ever since. He will not even return any calls from our 5 year old. Our son is devastated as he...
    fxislam fxislam 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 23

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    It was a long time coming. 20 years of lies, mind games, cheating. I was the one always forgiving and forgiving. Until last September I felt I was going to go crazy, because in...
    bluelady23 bluelady23 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    Thursday night went as expected, more or less. I got home, and she was asleep but woke up fairly soon. We talked a bit, I reiterated that I wasn't happy, that we haven't been happy...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Last sunday, I was told something I did not expect from my parents, they were always happy, joking and smiling. But I was called downstairs... They're getting divorced. I instantly...
    Brettzel Brettzel 16-17, M Mar 23

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    I've finally settled into my new home after moving across the country from California, and I think I'm starting to feel the loneliness and isolation set in. I went to a speed...
    SplinterSprinter SplinterSprinter 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 31

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