I Step Parent

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 304 People

    Affection With Your Step Children

    I will never look at my own parents and ever think they were un-affectionate of cold. My mum stroked my hair all the time when i needed comforting, played with me and was really a wonderful mother to me because i never doubted how much she loved me. It is not until i have met my...
    flautist23 flautist23
    Aug 22, 2011

    To My Step-children:

    I love your father. Please don't use the label home-wrecker when referring to me. I had never even heard of any member of your family before I met your father (which is surprising considering the things you have all done), and I met your father AFTER your mother divorced him and...
    morethanastepmom morethanastepmom
    4 Responses Mar 29, 2012

    Disconnected Husband

    This is my first time here. Being a step parent seems to be such a sensitive subject and very hard for me to talk about with my friends and family who aren't experiencing it. I really need to vent, I feel so utterly frustrated. I have been married to a really great guy for five...
    izzie23 izzie23
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 9, 2010

    My Story

    I'm so happy I found this forum. I've been looking for a place to get advice, hear stories or just vent. I'm a new step-mom to two girls: 12 and 14. There haven't been any problems with the younger one but the oldest has been difficult. She has attitude anytime her father asks...
    OnlyMe40 OnlyMe40
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Dec 1, 2013

    Step-kids Drive Me Insane!!

    I got married nearly 4 yrs ago and inherited two step-daughters-10 and 12. I didn't think too much of it at first because they were both little and quite sweet. I have been ill since I got married so have to deal with that too! The kids answer me back and try to correct me...
    Fizzarella Fizzarella
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 6, 2007

    My boyfriend and I have been together

    for just over four yrs now. We've lived together for three of those yrs. He got soul and physical custody of his son when he was 2 yrs old. This boy went through A LOT of physical and mental neglect because of his bio mothers unstableness in his first two yrs of life. He was...
    paigealexis18 paigealexis18
    Jun 5, 2014

    Step Son Struggles

    I have been looking for advice on how to deal with my step son and found this site, any way here goes. I have been married to my wife for 5 years and we have been together for 6, when we met her son was 4 years old, we got along great and had an instant bond with one another. He...
    leodad leodad
    3 Responses Dec 31, 2012

    It'S A Struggle...

    I look at my step kids faces sometimes, and smile at the memories and love. And then inside I cry for a future which will never be. I lost my first husband, Sam, in an RTA seven years ago, and remarried later to a lovely man, my second soulmate. But. That's not why I'm...
    SummerRainSparkles SummerRainSparkles
    36-40, F
    Mar 30, 2013

    Step-daughter Thinks I'm Mean

    DH and I have been married for 3 years and together for more that 4.  Recently SD#2 age 9 has started to  complain to her father whenever I sternly correct her behavior.  Example, we were recently in BJ's and she was jumping on an off the front of the cart...
    StrawberryBlonde73 StrawberryBlonde73
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Sep 25, 2009

    Is Being A Step Parent Worth It?

    I'm not so sure any more. I thought I could brave it when I married my husband 5 years ago. He had 2 kids from a previous marriage. They were stand-off-ish toward me from the start. For the most part, they still are. We just haven't really bonded the way I thought we could have...
    ifonlyiknewthen ifonlyiknewthen
    31 Responses Feb 4, 2011

    Wish I Was Understood And Heard

    For some reason men do not understand women they cant comprehend what is being said or they are just not listening one. I tell my husband yeah we have 4 kids we have to put back money but does he listen no his moto is its just money well gets some more! UGH!!!! I just dont...
    unexpected30 unexpected30
    4 Responses Apr 26, 2011

    I don't know what to say

    when she asks me if Grandma doesn't like her. The truth is that my mom has never liked her saying she knew what a manipulator she was the first time she met her. Not many people like her at all but the fact that she is even possibly a little bothered by someone not liking her...
    Morrgin Morrgin
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 3, 2015

    I'm going through some frustration.

    I am told by my boyfriend that all holidays will be spent together with his kids but also his ex. Mostly because it's good for the kids and that's what there used too. It is also our firsts for everything. I don't know how to cope or what do or resolve how I feel because if I...
    wayfrustrated2015 wayfrustrated2015
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 12, 2015

    I Really Do Not Like My Adult Step Son

    HI, needs some advice on how to deal with my adult step son. i use the term adult lightly, he is 21, but is behaving like an idiot. He hasnt worked since before Christmas 2012 yet somehow manages to maintain a very social lifestyle with eating out and partying. I know he is...
    melindaurquhart melindaurquhart
    2 Responses Jul 30, 2013

    Any Happy Endings On Here?

    I've read sooo many stories and shared mine. One thing I haven't seen yet is a story that got BETTER after a while. Does anyone have one? I would like to hear one. It would at least give me hope that I'm not wasting my time in my relationship with my fiancé and step kids(read my...
    JerryQuarrey JerryQuarrey
    2 Responses May 17, 2013

    Spoiled And Ungrateful Adult Step Children

    Hi, first time poster, long time lurker. I have a 21 year old step daughter and a 20 year old step son. I am bio mother to my own 20 year old daughter, 18 year old son and 13 year old son. My problem is my step kids seem to be seeing me as a meal some sort of "companion" for...
    4 Responses Jan 13, 2013

    Family Photos

    When we got together the oldest boy was 13, his twin brothers were 11 and the little girl was 8.  I'd had abortions as a teenager and miscarriages in my marriage.  When I turned 39 I looked in the mirror and said "well, it looks like children aren't going to be a...
    thenwhen thenwhen
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Dec 16, 2007

    One stepchild + many lies = hell for me

    How can one Stepdaughter (SD) make so much trouble for a family?    She'll tell you:   I am to blame.   My  22 year old SD is an only child.   I am not her first  Stepmother (SM) - there was another wife between her parent's divorce and me.  I have been in her life since...
    simplemagic simplemagic
    6 Responses Apr 2, 2011

    Awkward Ex Wife

    Hello, feel a bit strange about telling my story on here to complete strangers, I guess the good part about is I will get honest & non biased Answers.... Basically I have been with my partner 3 year, we got married in December just gone. My partner has 4 children, 3 boys with...
    Mobh Mobh
    Apr 24, 2013

    Loss Of Step Son And Brother

    I have been a step parent for over 20yrs now. It had its ups and downs but overall it was the best experience of my life. Don't get wrong there were trying times, but isnt that what parenting is all about!! I am also mum to my son who was born into the relationship but neither...
    pralli pralli
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 17, 2013

    Feeling Betrayed

    Hi all ive been with my partner 22 yrs and have 3 boys with him .He has been in various relationships before me and has 2 children from a 1st marriage that lasted 6 years and he hasn't seen his kids since then and now are 38 and 35 .he also has 2 girls from another relationship...
    loopy47 loopy47
    51-55, F
    Sep 18, 2013

    What Did I Do!

    Got remarried 4-years ago to my new great wife in which I love so much, but her son 9 then and daughter 11 then are now early teens. What the hell did I do? They are so disrespectful to their mother and do what they want. She asks so politely for them to do things two, three and...
    nostepdad nostepdad
    1 Response Dec 17, 2012

    At A Loss......

    I'll try and make this semi short. I have been a step parent of a now 15 year old since she was 4 years old. Her mother is in the picture, some comunication exists there. We are a split custudy family, week on-week off. My step daughter (we'll call Sarah) didn't always have a...
    WashingtonStepMom WashingtonStepMom
    Feb 5, 2013

    Hopelessly Failing

    I am a step mom to a 22yr old. Her dad and I have been together for 4 years. We married last year. She has tried everything to break us up. Even the whole daddy you love her more than me bit. She refused to come to the wedding. Her words I am protesting the relationship. Her...
    robbinstine robbinstine
    51-55, F
    1 Response Jul 14, 2013

    My Stepson Has Cancer

    We just found out about 2 months ago that my stepson has cancer. It's been really hard on us seeing that he's only 13. I've known him since he was born but his father and I just recently married over a year ago. I'm having a hard time in knowing when to step in when it comes to...
    Kposton Kposton
    1 Response Dec 14, 2012

    Disappointed And Hurt

    My husband and I have been married for nearly 26 years, and he has 2 grown children from a first marriage. A son of 50 and a daughter of 46 My relationship with his children has been for the most part as adults, they were 19 and 16 when I can along, and though we've had our...
    michelle111656 michelle111656
    61-65, F
    3 Responses Oct 1, 2013

    I have been married for 6 months now.

    I have known my husband for nearly 4 yrs. I have been around my step son for 2 years. I have never bad mouthed the ex/biological mother in the presences of my now step son. I have gone as far as putting his needs infront of my own two children's needs due to his situation of...
    nhardin28 nhardin28
    1 Response May 6, 2015

    Love The Kids Hate Thier Mom

    I Love my Stepkids, my husband and i have blended our families together so well and witht he exception that my son had red curly hair and his kids have straight black hair and are darker skinned you would never know they werent all biologicly related, The kids do everything...
    adaly07 adaly07
    2 Responses May 24, 2010

    Please Give Me Some Advice

    i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now  and I love hime dearly. But is the hurt and fustration from his past making me feel like I am going crazy?Heres my story... My boyfriend has an eleven year old boy who is a very cool kid. his mom however well........ She...
    heartshapedrose heartshapedrose
    1 Response Apr 23, 2011

    Father Rewards Disrespectful Teenage-daughter While Neglecting His Partner

    I met my boyfriend while he was in the last stages of his divorce.  I have a 17year old daughter and he has a 15 year old daughter.  I moved in wth my boyfriend cause we both cared for eachother and wanted to make a go of it.  He was going through financial difficulties...
    VSantiag1014 VSantiag1014
    7 Responses Jun 24, 2011

    Parenting Is The Toughest Thing I Have Ever Faced.

    With all of the trauma, abuse and adversities I have experienced in my short life, parenting takes the cake. I am a whopping 24-year-old helping my soulmate raise his 14-year-old daughter. Despite the common "blended family" stereotypes, our family bond is remarkable. Every day...
    aex0 aex0
    1 Response Apr 17, 2013
    AuntieShani AuntieShani
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 1, 2014

    From Single And Childless To Step Mom Of Special Needs Boy

    WOW my life changed so dramatically when I moved in with my boyfriend after dating long distance for one year.  We love each other so much and have been working toward bettering our lives in every way possible for the past year of living together.  However I'm finally coming to...
    pinotgal pinotgal
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Jul 22, 2011

    Ok Yall What Your Thoughts?

    Hi I am a step mom to two girls and mom to a beautiful 2 year old girl. I love her sooo much and my OCD plays with my brain so much it drives me crazy sometimes.Have my ups and downs :/ Anyway I had a dream the other morning that I was kissing someone,my daughter was sleeping...
    Lostoneee Lostoneee
    36-40, F
    1 Response Oct 4, 2013

    My Epiphany.

    Reading these stories on this site has both awaken me and scared me at the same time. Awaken because I now know that my 13 yr old SD has the same behavioral traits that most of the other kids on here have. It's also shown me that I'm not alone in my misery as well. As far as...
    JerryQuarrey JerryQuarrey
    1 Response May 16, 2013

    It's Time To Be Fair To Step Parents

    Being a step parent can be a very lonely journey for some. You may be in the middle of chaos and mayhem in a busy household but who in the house really wants you there. You would like to think your partner does but sometimes that can be questioned. Or so you think. I personally...
    mummydiaries mummydiaries
    2 Responses Apr 6, 2012

    Gay Male With New Step Son

    My partner and his ex took in a child as an infant.. "C" They were together 7 years raising him and then split. My partner already has 4 biological children.. so his other took over the child raising. We've been together 8 years now.. the child is now 15.. and economy being as...
    justvpp justvpp
    2 Responses Nov 17, 2011

    Step-mom To Teenage Girl

           I have been with my husband for almost 10 years, but we have only had custody of his daughter for about three. She is 14 and has a lot of problems, struggles in school, ADHD, bad attitude, lazy, need I say more..although at first it was great- now it's not so great...
    oleary29 oleary29
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 3, 2012

    Stepmom Disconnects After Twenty Years Of Bs!!!! Happy Hollidays

    Twenty one years ago I was a vibrant, attractive, working woman with a life (without a man at the time). Mutual friends intro'd me to my current husband. I soon met his son and daughter (15 & 17), the daughter had an attitude, the son was painfully shy (autistic?). We were soon...
    ridinabroom ridinabroom
    2 Responses Dec 26, 2010

    I Don't Even Know Where To Turn Anymore!? I Am At My Breaking Point

    I have no clue how to make this a short story so sorry for how long this is but I need some serious venting. It all started a year and a half ago when I meet my boyfriend, Mike (which is now my husband). Mike, has a 3 year old son named Aiden. I came into Aidens life when he was...
    nstems1 nstems1
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Nov 3, 2013

    I Need Your Opinion!

    My boyfriend still lives in the home his 'baby mama' (ex) picked out when they were house-hunting several years ago. They lived there with their daughter and her son (from a previous relationship) for about a year. I've lived in that home with him too - for 2 years (along with...
    Erika0112 Erika0112
    1 Response Jan 6, 2013

    Father rewards disrespectful teenage-daughter while neglecting his Partner

    I met my boyfriend while he was in the last stages of his divorce.  I have a 17year old daughter and he has a 15 year old daughter.  I moved in wth my boyfriend cause we both cared for eachother and wanted to make a go of it.  He was going through financial difficulties...
    VSantiag1014 VSantiag1014
    3 Responses Jun 23, 2011

    My step-daughter turned 12 today.

    She lives with us full time, her biological texted me asking for money, she never mentioned miss 12's birthday. When I reminded her she just said "that's right", I asked did she want to talk to her and wish her a happy birthday and she said "no it's not important, I need money...
    bj345 bj345
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Sep 23, 2014


    A lot of step parents talk about how they hate being a step parent and how it's hard and such. I'm a step kid. I've had 3 (not so great) step parents already. So I've decided to make a little guide and share a step kids point of view. Step parents, please pay attention. 1. Do...
    CutiePie199 CutiePie199
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 12, 2014

    Cps Placed Step Child

    I am a mother of 13yr old daug and a 9 yr old son my husbands 9 yr old daughter was placed with us 2weeks ago by cps due to her mother being an addict this child lies constantly and does not listen at all her father spends no time with her due to the behavior so im stuck and...
    dgarn dgarn
    1 Response Jun 26, 2013

    My kid was already a year old

    when I met her. I was dating her dad at the time. He and I had been seeing each other for several months and he decided it was time for us to meet. I was actually terrified to meet her. I was worried she wouldn't like me. We hit it off right away though. I love kids, and she...
    Shelaughs Shelaughs
    2 Responses Jan 18, 2015

    My fiancé, we shall call him N,

    and I plan on getting married soon. I love him so much and enjoy our time together. Having said that, I am apprehensive about the step daughter I will acquire and her mother. When I first met his daughter, she came to stay with us, and initially I was asked to sleep in the other...
    Nasyla Nasyla
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 10, 2015

    Getting Used To Living With Boyfriend And Daughter

    I realize this is a Step Parent forum but I'm hoping that my not being married won't be held against me because it seems like I have very similar issues and situations from what I've read on here so far. I am in a committed relationship with my boyfriend. We are both in our 40...
    angelblue65 angelblue65
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Jul 15, 2011

    I have been married just over one year.

    My stepson is 9. His parents have an idea of how to raise him. He has no friends over, and has never been invited over to a friend's house. He is listed as truant because him mom doesnt get him to school on time. Im the only one, literally, who looks in his school folder. His...
    lms2012 lms2012
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 4, 2014
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