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    Evil Ex Destroyed My Relationship With Stepkids

    When i first met my husband his ex used to call me up & threaten to kill my 2 sons, & has tried to take us to court countless times, once was for my son pinched her daughter in the pool. She 7 her family tried to run me out of town by using scare tactics & it nearly...
    SKSH SKSH 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 20, 2009

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    Feeling Betrayed

    Hi all ive been with my partner 22 yrs and have 3 boys with him .He has been in various relationships before me and has 2 children from a 1st marriage that lasted 6 years and he hasn't seen his kids since then and now are 38 and 35 .he also has 2 girls from another relationship...
    loopy47 loopy47 46-50, F Sep 18, 2013

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    My Stepkids Are A Poster Child For Steparents Worse Nightmare

    Sorry the title didnt make sense but i cant think of what a title should be to describe what im going through. this is a long story hopefully i dont bore the world with this. It all started when i was in a blind stage meaning blindly in love and ignored the red flags. I have a bd...
    angieskates angieskates 41-45 1 Response Oct 7, 2011

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    Step-Parenting Isn't What You Think It Is!

    I ahve been a step parent for 21 years. When me and K first got together his kids were 14 & 16, well behaved and not bad to be around. They loved there father but the respect part needed a lot of work.  Fast forward to 10 year ago, 1999. Step daughter gets engaged...
    shescrazy shescrazy 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2009

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    Disconnected Husband

    This is my first time here. Being a step parent seems to be such a sensitive subject and very hard for me to talk about with my friends and family who aren't experiencing it. I really need to vent, I feel so utterly frustrated. I have been married to a really great guy for five...
    izzie23 izzie23 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 9, 2010

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    Parenting Is The Toughest Thing I Have Ever Faced.

    With all of the trauma, abuse and adversities I have experienced in my short life, parenting takes the cake. I am a whopping 24-year-old helping my soulmate raise his 14-year-old daughter. Despite the common "blended family" stereotypes, our family bond is remarkable. Every day...
    aex0 aex0 22-25 1 Response Apr 17, 2013

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    What Did I Do!

    Got remarried 4-years ago to my new great wife in which I love so much, but her son 9 then and daughter 11 then are now early teens. What the hell did I do? They are so disrespectful to their mother and do what they want. She asks so politely for them to do things two, three and...
    nostepdad nostepdad 46-50 1 Response Dec 17, 2012

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    I have been married just over one year.

    My stepson is 9. His parents have an idea of how to raise him. He has no friends over, and has never been invited over to a friend's house. He is listed as truant because him mom doesnt get him to school on time. Im the only one, literally, who looks in his school folder. His...
    lms2012 lms2012 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    A Story With No End.

    My story started 10 years ago, my partners story began 11 years ago...well 14 years if you want to count the 2 years he spent with the woman that ruined his children. I met my partner 10 years ago and was told a horrific story that I was not sure if I could believe, it sounded...
    rainfire rainfire 46-50, F Oct 29, 2012

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    Ugh What Am I To Do

    I have been with my fiance for 9 years living together for about 5 we have 2 children together and he has 3 girls wiith someone else. The girls seem to overall love me however, it seems like they use me alittle. I'm good when I am buying them something or getting their dad to say...
    lillynnymac lillynnymac 26-30 1 Response Oct 7, 2012

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    One stepchild + many lies = hell for me

    How can one Stepdaughter (SD) make so much trouble for a family?    She'll tell you:   I am to blame.   My  22 year old SD is an only child.   I am not her first  Stepmother (SM) - there was another wife between her parent's divorce and me.  I have been in her life since...
    simplemagic simplemagic 46-50 6 Responses Apr 2, 2011

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    My Story

    I'm so happy I found this forum. I've been looking for a place to get advice, hear stories or just vent. I'm a new step-mom to two girls: 12 and 14. There haven't been any problems with the younger one but the oldest has been difficult. She has attitude anytime her father asks...
    OnlyMe40 OnlyMe40 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    Disappointed And Hurt

    My husband and I have been married for nearly 26 years, and he has 2 grown children from a first marriage. A son of 50 and a daughter of 46 My relationship with his children has been for the most part as adults, they were 19 and 16 when I can along, and though we've had our...
    michelle111656 michelle111656 56-60, F 2 Responses Oct 1, 2013

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    Very Much Used!

    My stepkids are older but still very much users. They are constantly wanting us to take care of the grandkids, which I love having them, but these stepkids have us to watch all of them at the same time...there are 8! Their Dad feels guilty, why I do not know, and so he won't say...
    usedstepmom2 usedstepmom2 51-55 4 Responses Jan 27, 2009

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    My step-daughter turned 12 today.

    She lives with us full time, her biological texted me asking for money, she never mentioned miss 12's birthday. When I reminded her she just said "that's right", I asked did she want to talk to her and wish her a happy birthday and she said "no it's not important, I need money...
    bj345 bj345 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 23

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    Father Rewards Disrespectful Teenage-daughter While Neglecting His Partner

    I met my boyfriend while he was in the last stages of his divorce.  I have a 17year old daughter and he has a 15 year old daughter.  I moved in wth my boyfriend cause we both cared for eachother and wanted to make a go of it.  He was going through financial difficulties...
    VSantiag1014 VSantiag1014 41-45 5 Responses Jun 24, 2011

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    AuntieShani AuntieShani 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    Spoiled And Ungrateful Adult Step Children

    Hi, first time poster, long time lurker. I have a 21 year old step daughter and a 20 year old step son. I am bio mother to my own 20 year old daughter, 18 year old son and 13 year old son. My problem is my step kids seem to be seeing me as a meal some sort of "companion" for...
    4 Responses Jan 13, 2013

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    Hopelessly Failing

    I am a step mom to a 22yr old. Her dad and I have been together for 4 years. We married last year. She has tried everything to break us up. Even the whole daddy you love her more than me bit. She refused to come to the wedding. Her words I am protesting the relationship. Her...
    robbinstine robbinstine 46-50, F Jul 14, 2013

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    From Single And Childless To Step Mom Of Special Needs Boy

    WOW my life changed so dramatically when I moved in with my boyfriend after dating long distance for one year.  We love each other so much and have been working toward bettering our lives in every way possible for the past year of living together.  However I'm finally coming to...
    pinotgal pinotgal 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 22, 2011

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    Awkward Ex Wife

    Hello, feel a bit strange about telling my story on here to complete strangers, I guess the good part about is I will get honest & non biased Answers.... Basically I have been with my partner 3 year, we got married in December just gone. My partner has 4 children, 3 boys with...
    Mobh Mobh 26-30 Apr 24, 2013

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    Some Troubles

    I have been dating this amazing woman for 4 years now and we will be getting married soon.  We are also expecting a baby in 3 months.  I am 23 in college trying to finish up and my fiance is finising graduate school.  Her daughter is a very intelligent girl who is...
    nhe456 nhe456 22-25 2 Responses Apr 14, 2009

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    Step Son Struggles

    I have been looking for advice on how to deal with my step son and found this site, any way here goes. I have been married to my wife for 5 years and we have been together for 6, when we met her son was 4 years old, we got along great and had an instant bond with one another. He...
    leodad leodad 31-35 3 Responses Dec 31, 2012

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    Is Being A Step Parent Worth It?

    I'm not so sure any more. I thought I could brave it when I married my husband 5 years ago. He had 2 kids from a previous marriage. They were stand-off-ish toward me from the start. For the most part, they still are. We just haven't really bonded the way I thought we could have...
    ifonlyiknewthen ifonlyiknewthen 41-45 28 Responses Feb 4, 2011

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    It's Time To Be Fair To Step Parents

    Being a step parent can be a very lonely journey for some. You may be in the middle of chaos and mayhem in a busy household but who in the house really wants you there. You would like to think your partner does but sometimes that can be questioned. Or so you think. I personally...
    mummydiaries mummydiaries 31-35 3 Responses Apr 6, 2012

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    Affection With Your Step Children

    I will never look at my own parents and ever think they were un-affectionate of cold. My mum stroked my hair all the time when i needed comforting, played with me and was really a wonderful mother to me because i never doubted how much she loved me. It is not until i have met my...
    flautist23 flautist23 22-25 Aug 22, 2011

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    No Connection

    I have been with my husand for almost 5 years now and he has an 8 year old daughter.  We have a great relationship, however our biggest arguments are over his daughter.  She is a good girl, thats not the problem.  I just have never been able to make a connection...
    schmidt22 schmidt22 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 1, 2010

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    My boyfriend and I have been together

    for just over four yrs now. We've lived together for three of those yrs. He got soul and physical custody of his son when he was 2 yrs old. This boy went through A LOT of physical and mental neglect because of his bio mothers unstableness in his first two yrs of life. He was...
    paigealexis18 paigealexis18 18-21 Jun 5

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    Any Happy Endings On Here?

    I've read sooo many stories and shared mine. One thing I haven't seen yet is a story that got BETTER after a while. Does anyone have one? I would like to hear one. It would at least give me hope that I'm not wasting my time in my relationship with my fiancé and step kids(read my...
    JerryQuarrey JerryQuarrey 36-40 1 Response May 17, 2013

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    Father rewards disrespectful teenage-daughter while neglecting his Partner

    I met my boyfriend while he was in the last stages of his divorce.  I have a 17year old daughter and he has a 15 year old daughter.  I moved in wth my boyfriend cause we both cared for eachother and wanted to make a go of it.  He was going through financial difficulties...
    VSantiag1014 VSantiag1014 41-45 3 Responses Jun 23, 2011

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    Wish I Was Understood And Heard

    For some reason men do not understand women they cant comprehend what is being said or they are just not listening one. I tell my husband yeah we have 4 kids we have to put back money but does he listen no his moto is its just money well gets some more! UGH!!!! I just dont...
    unexpected30 unexpected30 31-35 4 Responses Apr 26, 2011

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    Driven Bonkers By Step Daughters Mum

    My first post. At a loss. My step daughter has been in my life for 6 years. She is great. Her poor Mum is a screwed up women. She left my husband on their honeymoon but was pregnant. She then got with Bloke 2 and got pregnant and left him. She then met Bloke 3 and got with him...
    Boadicea123 Boadicea123 31-35, F Oct 23, 2012

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    STEP PARENTING GUIDE Alright.

    A lot of step parents talk about how they hate being a step parent and how it's hard and such. I'm a step kid. I've had 3 (not so great) step parents already. So I've decided to make a little guide and share a step kids point of view. Step parents, please pay attention. 1. Do...
    CutiePie199 CutiePie199 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 12

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    My Stepson Has Cancer

    We just found out about 2 months ago that my stepson has cancer. It's been really hard on us seeing that he's only 13. I've known him since he was born but his father and I just recently married over a year ago. I'm having a hard time in knowing when to step in when it comes to...
    Kposton Kposton 26-30 1 Response Dec 14, 2012

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    Getting Used To Living With Boyfriend And Daughter

    I realize this is a Step Parent forum but I'm hoping that my not being married won't be held against me because it seems like I have very similar issues and situations from what I've read on here so far. I am in a committed relationship with my boyfriend. We are both in our 40...
    angelblue65 angelblue65 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 15, 2011

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    At A Loss......

    I'll try and make this semi short. I have been a step parent of a now 15 year old since she was 4 years old. Her mother is in the picture, some comunication exists there. We are a split custudy family, week on-week off. My step daughter (we'll call Sarah) didn't always have a...
    WashingtonStepMom WashingtonStepMom 26-30 Feb 5, 2013

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    To My Step-children:

    I love your father. Please don't use the label home-wrecker when referring to me. I had never even heard of any member of your family before I met your father (which is surprising considering the things you have all done), and I met your father AFTER your mother divorced him and...
    morethanastepmom morethanastepmom 41-45 3 Responses Mar 29, 2012

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    It'S A Struggle...

    I look at my step kids faces sometimes, and smile at the memories and love. And then inside I cry for a future which will never be. I lost my first husband, Sam, in an RTA seven years ago, and remarried later to a lovely man, my second soulmate. But. That's not why I'm...
    SummerRainSparkles SummerRainSparkles 36-40, F Mar 30, 2013

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    Gay Male With New Step Son

    My partner and his ex took in a child as an infant.. "C" They were together 7 years raising him and then split. My partner already has 4 biological children.. so his other took over the child raising. We've been together 8 years now.. the child is now 15.. and economy being as...
    justvpp justvpp 36-40 2 Responses Nov 17, 2011

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    Step-daughter Thinks I'm Mean

    DH and I have been married for 3 years and together for more that 4.  Recently SD#2 age 9 has started to  complain to her father whenever I sternly correct her behavior.  Example, we were recently in BJ's and she was jumping on an off the front of the cart...
    StrawberryBlonde73 StrawberryBlonde73 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    Ex-wife Issue

    My husband's ex-wife is currently getting divorced from her 4th husband of 10 years. My husband was her third husband and they have 3 children together. I get along with her fairly well and am even friends with her on Facebook. A few days ago, I was on Facebook and noticed some...
    probleminmi probleminmi 36-40 1 Response Oct 2, 2012

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    My Epiphany.

    Reading these stories on this site has both awaken me and scared me at the same time. Awaken because I now know that my 13 yr old SD has the same behavioral traits that most of the other kids on here have. It's also shown me that I'm not alone in my misery as well. As far as...
    JerryQuarrey JerryQuarrey 36-40 1 Response May 16, 2013

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    Loss Of Step Son And Brother

    I have been a step parent for over 20yrs now. It had its ups and downs but overall it was the best experience of my life. Don't get wrong there were trying times, but isnt that what parenting is all about!! I am also mum to my son who was born into the relationship but neither...
    pralli pralli 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 17, 2013

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    Step-kids Drive Me Insane!!

    I got married nearly 4 yrs ago and inherited two step-daughters-10 and 12. I didn't think too much of it at first because they were both little and quite sweet. I have been ill since I got married so have to deal with that too! The kids answer me back and try to correct me...
    Fizzarella Fizzarella 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 6, 2007

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    Could Use Some Input Here....new To Board. Dating Divorcee With Kids, Soon To Be Engaged (hope)

    Sorry if posts like this are old hat, but just don't know where to go. I'll give you a little background on myself. I am in early 40's, as is my girlfriend (hopefully soon to be my fiancee....just waiting for the ring and then to pop the question). She has 3 children, a 19 year...
    cavetroll cavetroll 41-45 3 Responses Aug 21, 2012

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    I Don't Even Know Where To Turn Anymore!? I Am At My Breaking Point

    I have no clue how to make this a short story so sorry for how long this is but I need some serious venting. It all started a year and a half ago when I meet my boyfriend, Mike (which is now my husband). Mike, has a 3 year old son named Aiden. I came into Aidens life when he was...
    nstems1 nstems1 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    I Really Do Not Like My Adult Step Son

    HI, needs some advice on how to deal with my adult step son. i use the term adult lightly, he is 21, but is behaving like an idiot. He hasnt worked since before Christmas 2012 yet somehow manages to maintain a very social lifestyle with eating out and partying. I know he is...
    melindaurquhart melindaurquhart 41-45 2 Responses Jul 30, 2013

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    I Need Your Opinion!

    My boyfriend still lives in the home his 'baby mama' (ex) picked out when they were house-hunting several years ago. They lived there with their daughter and her son (from a previous relationship) for about a year. I've lived in that home with him too - for 2 years (along with...
    Erika0112 Erika0112 31-35 1 Response Jan 6, 2013

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    Ok Yall What Your Thoughts?

    Hi I am a step mom to two girls and mom to a beautiful 2 year old girl. I love her sooo much and my OCD plays with my brain so much it drives me crazy sometimes.Have my ups and downs :/ Anyway I had a dream the other morning that I was kissing someone,my daughter was sleeping...
    Lostoneee Lostoneee 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 4, 2013

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    Cps Placed Step Child

    I am a mother of 13yr old daug and a 9 yr old son my husbands 9 yr old daughter was placed with us 2weeks ago by cps due to her mother being an addict this child lies constantly and does not listen at all her father spends no time with her due to the behavior so im stuck and...
    dgarn dgarn 31-35 1 Response Jun 26, 2013

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    My Boyfriend's Daughter Is Insane.

     I've already posted this story in a different group (which I chose because it was more grammatically  correct and I have OCD) and noting that this one is more populated, I've decided to re-post in my desperate search for insight. I am at wits end.   T he ...
    HighYouCantSustain HighYouCantSustain 22-25, M 4 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    Step-mom To Teenage Girl

           I have been with my husband for almost 10 years, but we have only had custody of his daughter for about three. She is 14 and has a lot of problems, struggles in school, ADHD, bad attitude, lazy, need I say more..although at first it was great- now it's not so great...
    oleary29 oleary29 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 3, 2012

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    Please Give Me Some Advice

    i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now  and I love hime dearly. But is the hurt and fustration from his past making me feel like I am going crazy?Heres my story... My boyfriend has an eleven year old boy who is a very cool kid. his mom however well........ She...
    heartshapedrose heartshapedrose 26-30 1 Response Apr 23, 2011

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