I Struggle Between My Morals And My Desires

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    My wife is meeting with another woman

    who is getting ready to adopt an older boy from China, like we did 5 yrs ago. I wish this family the best, I truly do! However I have a strong desire to tell my wife, " be sure and warn them that if one of them has put the children way ahead of the marriage, it is going to get...
    GreatCoastal GreatCoastal
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Mar 20, 2016
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Sep 20, 2015


    I was raised with traditional values/morals and for the most part grew up and married in align with this belief. The problem came when I found myself in a sexless marriage. I tried everything I knew including counseling both marriage a sex therapist to fix it. Nothing worked..,I...
    BigSky1 BigSky1
    51-55, F
    19 Responses Oct 15, 2013

    I have only had one intimate partner (we have

    been together since we were 15). I am married but I often wonder about what it would be like with someone else. I would never act on my curiosity but my thoughts make me feel so guilty. I am definitely not the casual hook up type. There has to be a spiritual/romantic connection...
    deleted deleted
    10 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    ...Or get used to the fact

    that you're living in the 21st century and everybody's liberated Ok..but for some intended reason, we should restrict ourselves from doing something carelessly which may lead to unintended situation. I m holding myself back...bc the consequences are not intended. That's what...
    whyacinth whyacinth
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2016

    Oh, I want so badly to be a picture perfect

    housewife with two perfect kids and with bread baking away in my perfect little oven. Yes, I want it just as badly as I want to indulge in every lovely little dirty sin there is in this world.
    cai81 cai81
    36-40, F
    13 Responses Mar 2, 2016

    The struggle is getting harder to battle past.

    I know what is right and what is wrong. Right is getting harder to keep on track with as my desires are so strong now. If he would take more then my desires wouldnt be as strong.
    Sweetmepea Sweetmepea
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Nov 23, 2015

    We were two people, who are Christians

    and we were disillusioned and recovering from failed marriages. We met at a time when our faith was not the primary focus of our lives. Our relationship blossomed, even though I knew the timing was terrible. It felt so good. We were completely honest with each other and went all...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk
    46-50, F
    9 Responses Aug 23, 2015

    Why are we in here? We're all looking

    for some sort of a connection. Some a fast online hookup, others a romantic possibility, others just searching for friends. Has anyone REALLY found someone they truly believe they will care about, where this site has benefitted their life, or left it in ruins?
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Jul 26, 2015

    Quite. Though to be honest

    if I'm mucking about on here it's fairly plain which of the two had the upper hand currently..
    Daftusername Daftusername
    51-55, M
    1 Response Jan 30, 2016

    I love everything about sex

    but I refuse to sleep around.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Apr 24, 2015

    Such a struggle may be appropriate in the case

    of people whose desire is, say, to kill crippled children or to steal from old widows. But if your desires are sexual desires, then there really should not be any kind of a struggle. There is nothing immoral about sexual desires so long as all parties involved are consenting.
    Uncleleo Uncleleo
    56-60, M
    5 Responses Jan 13, 2016

    I've spent years going to ***** clubs

    and living this double life. I lost myself in the fantasy of these women and don't think I'll ever escape it. it all makes me feel so alone.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 30, 2016

    I am in the same position!

    Never in my life have I cheated on anyone! I'm in a marriage with a bipolar man who is heavily medicated and no desire for sex anymore. I am a very sexual woman and this is making my life a living hell! I know there are many more important things in life, but i am stressing it...
    blessed1966 blessed1966
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Feb 15, 2015

    This is a rather peculiar group.

    I have never met a person who desired anything against their morals. How does this work?
    KindOfPoisonous2 KindOfPoisonous2
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Feb 27, 2016

    I am a cheater. True.

    OMG I used to be freaking HORRIFIED that a person could look- right at their spouse and lie like that.... And here I am. WTF got me here? After spending quite a bit of time on Ashley Madison, I have noted...there always seems to be some major event that throws a non-cheater...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jul 7, 2015

    After playing Watch Dogs on my PS4; I normally

    remember Jordy quote; "You need to separate the morals from the moola." I tried that and I ended up getting an F on one of my high school exams.
    MyLifeIsStrange MyLifeIsStrange
    22-25, F
    Jan 30, 2016

    Am I alone ? I want a sub

    that I can pimp out because it would turn me on sitting outside. When she comes out with a smile on her face or not. Are there any girls out there that dirty that would love this.
    cheese300 cheese300
    31-35, M
    1 Response Mar 4, 2016

    Finding Balance For Myself

    Im not a saint nor do I hide the fact I like to be naughty, to flirt and maybe more with people that are close with me. In no way do I try and pretend Im not. What most people don't know here is that I am also try to practice my religion. I believe faith weakens and strengthens...
    soulrunher soulrunher
    46-50, F
    15 Responses Jun 6, 2013

    I love my husband with all my heart

    but I dont think I'm a natural monogomist. I have to try very hard not to find and contact guys I've noticed. I'm fairly attractive but knowing someone other than my husband thinks so and will even go so far as to tell me is very provocative. I love flirting but I've never...
    Cheribom90 Cheribom90
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    I know better than to let him stay in my life,

    but I feel like I can't keep away from him. I need to make a decision soon, even though it will hurt either way.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 30, 2015

    That stalwart guide--morality; it's intent to

    navigate the waters of the high tide, safely, surely, without looking back, without question. But we're not born as ideals but as living, breathing, people. There are compromises that need to be made, perhaps for 'higher' morals that pile onto one and another, each compromise...
    quiettempest quiettempest
    36-40, F
    11 Responses Oct 23, 2015

    yep all the time conflicting.

    untile i reach a in-between answer
    ZenZen10 ZenZen10
    22-25, M
    Feb 29, 2016

    anyone love really rough role play,

    or a rough, kinda 'out there' taboo f*tish?
    CheekiiMonkey CheekiiMonkey
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 27, 2016

    I think each one of us has

    that conflict within him/her, i do my best to make my morals win, since being a pervert is not a big deal to me, i must not be that because i want to be a human not a beast.
    umayyad umayyad
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 16, 2016

    such struggle at times.

    . makes life interesting specially when v choose desire ;-)
    followmee followmee
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Oct 23, 2014

    Does anyone remember the cartoons from way back,

    where the cartoon character had an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other and how they would argue and eventually get in a fight? That's me.
    smalljack smalljack
    66-70, M
    2 Responses Mar 28, 2016

    All my life I've been depended on by someone

    else. I've been the responsible one always putting others first. And I love being there for my family and friends but sometimes I want to do something just for me. It might not be "good" in the eyes of some people but I deserve to have a little fun, too.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Apr 23, 2015

    Morally I know I should be faithful in my

    marriage....but my desires make me want to be reckless & do incredibly naughty things!! ;-)
    Curiousmissy Curiousmissy
    36-40, F
    15 Responses Jul 30, 2015

    Desire says... go get it.

    . its yours.... then Morals step in and says... that isn't right.... Dead lock!
    inexperiencedbloke inexperiencedbloke
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Mar 26, 2016

    Not me... I think God put us here to have fun

    with each other ... so I'm going to ENJOY THE RIDE :)
    41-45, M
    Mar 17, 2016

    He wants more... but i can't give more,

    i so badly want to submit.. if not forever then just for the one moment where passion can come alive.. For one night or even one moment, to not worry about holding back, to touch and to kiss, to be left to kissing for all eternity, i would hold this moment forever.. How must...
    Forever786 Forever786
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 12, 2016

    my goodness, this group sooo needs a story from

    me! This is my life, I swing between being the good girl and the bad girl who should be better. EP is addictive, a compulsive fascination that at times, I'm not sure how healthy it is for me. I am very weak willed and easily led. This is why good structured and consistant...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset
    36-40, F
    9 Responses Jun 16, 2015

    I have some crazy feelings going on today.

    Not sexual so all the pervs back off! Emotional high like I'm in love or wanna be in love. I feel like I could just fall in love right now. What's that all about. I get intense exciting feelings when I watch movies or hear songs. My emotions are running sky high. Kinda of...
    Issima Issima
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Aug 13, 2015

    My desire is to eat junk food.

    ..morals say it make me fat...but junk food so good ... struggle is real LOL
    MasterHatter12OZ MasterHatter12OZ
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 26, 2016

    She checked her phone.

    She checked it every few minutes. She didn't check to see if her long-term boyfriend had messaged her. He did, but she wasn't looking for that. She was seeking a response from a similar soul from the past. Ever since he opened up conversation, she hadn't had the ability to pull...
    QuaintCynicalExistence QuaintCynicalExistence
    3 Responses Oct 26, 2015
    BarelyAdulterated BarelyAdulterated
    22-25, F
    33 Responses Jan 31, 2016

    Sometimes I just hate myself I'm just full of

    desire and trying to go down the right and moral road and behave my self like a normal upstanding young lady ..... Deep sigh ... But it's sooo hard at times .... When I'm single I have the private struggle .. And the moral part always win , no b.f no problem , it's completely...
    Prettibrowngirl Prettibrowngirl
    70+, F
    2 Responses Mar 28, 2016

    So this girl I've been seeing text me

    and tells me she just wants oral. But she doesn't suck the ****. So she wants me to lick but not stick. Crazy *****! Who thinks they get oral but don't get to reciprocate?
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Mar 2, 2016

    I'm not usually so bad

    that I have a hard time giving physical space when my partner needs it, but right now the struggle is real. I'm having a hard time keeping things PG even just through texts, let alone in person when we actually see each other. We've always had a healthy sex life so I've never...
    kk1874 kk1874
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    Being a bisexual woman married to a woman has

    its perks, but I am missing being with a man too. This isn't to get sympathy just merely my observation of my own desires. I've never cheated, but I have thought about it if I'm honest. I've only been with my wife & a man. My experience is very limited, but my desires...
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses Oct 7, 2015

    Morals: Study, be a good student,

    have good grades..work hard Desires: Sleep. Food. Sleep.stare at the ceiling, do nothing...
    LiLkoala LiLkoala
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 8, 2014

    I find myself always struggling between my

    morals and my desires. Its a lot of the reason why I am depressed these days, I believe. I know to do right, but yet I don't do right! I am being part of the problem instead of the solution. I need to do something positive with this. I am glad EP provides a way to get my...
    Coolbeanz7 Coolbeanz7
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Nov 5, 2015

    Where you sent here to torture me?

    That smile, that voice, that look, the way you talk, everything draws me in. Youre so innocent in all of this, alluring me in unintentionally. You dont even have to try. Flames of desire dance around us yet you dont even notice... Do you?. I held your glance a little longer...
    Forever786 Forever786
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 9, 2016

    I want to be happy following the rules society

    learnt me to respect, but can i? Can it really happen? Too much things are forbidden, and I want to try so much things before i die...My spirit is too free to be caged...But if i cross the line, if i defy my morals, what will happen...
    Saya024 Saya024
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Jan 24, 2016
    inexperiencedbloke inexperiencedbloke
    31-35, M
    1 Response Feb 4, 2016

    I feel like all my relationships are is just

    purely physical. Sure we can talk but in the end I feel like all they want to do is just physical. But part of me likes it that way.. idk
    icecoldheart1518 icecoldheart1518
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 31, 2016
    TooTricky2Trick TooTricky2Trick
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Mar 26, 2016

    A son took his old father to a restaurant

    for an evening dinner. Father being very old and weak, while eating, dropped food on his shirt and trousers. Other diners watched him in disgust while his son was calm. After he finished eating, his son who was not at all embarrassed, quietly took him to the wash room, wiped the...
    Flamingo50 Flamingo50
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 2, 2016

    I love my husband but he is no longer attracted

    to me. Treats me like a favorite sister or cousin, but not his wife. Other men try to woo me for an evening (or an hour), and it's so tempting. My fire is still smoldering and I need some attention before I explode.
    deleted deleted
    34 Responses Aug 1, 2015

    I have been in a relationship

    for a long time now but I just can't help but find myself thinking of other women...
    Leer21 Leer21
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    Not. I have always hated Christians

    who have even though I know that it is natural to struggle between our flesh and spirit. It is just that I hate hypocrites and those who use this as an excuse to sin. Ooops had sex once. It was just a slip! God's grace though gets me into heaven Scot free! Memory and time...
    QuestionMarks QuestionMarks
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Mar 17, 2016

    I see you each day and something about you

    makes me curious, we belong to other people and we are completely worlds apart, yet im curious about u, i catch myself looking at you and occasionally thinking about you, what is it? Do i misinterpret your gaze towards me, Its not like you are thinking about me, i am a dim bulb...
    Forever786 Forever786
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Jan 6, 2016
    haniazed haniazed
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Feb 9, 2016
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