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I Struggle To Look People In The Eye When I Talk

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    No Way

    I have never been able to look someone in the eye. Every emotion i feel i have been told can be seen in my eyes. I fear for ppl to see the real me i guess. i can usually hide my emotions well but if someone sees my eyes im busted.they know how i really feel. I hate being an...
    mommy1978 mommy1978 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 5, 2010

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    Recently

    My friend and I were just talking about this yesterday. We were having a debate about something and she asked me why I don't look he in the eyes. I told her because it makes me feel uncomfortable and it makes me feel that she can she what I an thinking. She told me that other...
    xgeekykidx xgeekykidx 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 4, 2010

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    I Must Seem Rude But...

    I tend to look everywhere and anywhere BUT a person's eyes. It's not something I do purposely, I just feel so uncomfortable doing it. There have been times (such as on job interviews) when I have had to force myself to do it. It feels downright horrible as I drown in anxiety...
    ForgottenMuse ForgottenMuse 31-35, F Jan 7, 2012

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    Some Days

    I'm like that. And hate it. On others, i get people telling me not to stare at them.
    FreeFallWall FreeFallWall 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 17, 2010

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    Lies

    Yep,it's pretty hard when you're bullshitting your *** off.
    sharpTresHombre sharpTresHombre 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 4, 2010

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    It's So Hard To Do...

    Because I've always been such a shy person it's always been a challenge for me to look at someone in the eyes. Now that I'm older I'm trying to look people in the eyes more but, it just makes me really uncomfortable. I have such a hard looking people in the eye that I've...
    Klong91 Klong91 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2010

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    Window.

    i struggle very much with this. i find it easier to look someone in the eye when they talk to me (although not always), but i really struggle to look someone in the eye as a convincing adult when i start to talk. i guess what they say about the eyes being the windows to the soul...
    TheRealMimi TheRealMimi 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 4, 2010

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    Struggle To Do It!!!

    i have always struggled to look people in the eye, when i talk to them!!! ive always been shy throughout my whole life, and its always really difficult for me to do it, although nowadays i force myself to look into people eye's when i talk to them, although i dont always manage...
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 5, 2010

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    Awkwardness!

    I struggle with this problem as well. I hate to look people in the eyes because I feel very uncomfortable with the way I look. Somedays I try to force myself to look people in the eyes when I talk to them but I always fail! My friend says she hate when I don't look her in her...
    Niqueee Niqueee 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2013

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