I Struggle to Trust Men

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    Why Is It My Gut Instincts Tell Me

    to trust a Chinese or Asian man over most other men ?? why would a white Anglo-christian woman trust an educated Asian man over an educated white man? why would I see the asian as more trust worthy? and more genuine?
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Nov 5, 2011

    No Trust Whatsoever

    I can't trust men because of my experiences.  Sorry, guys but its the truth. 
    zoigirl zoigirl
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Apr 16, 2008

    Taken Advantage of

    Unfortunately, this is so true for me, this is of course because so many of them have taken advantage of my trusting nature. I don't like it. I now, as a result, struggle to trust the men around me because I'm not sure whether or not they, like so many others, will take advantage...
    Luangi Luangi
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Nov 24, 2007

    Elusive and Frightening; trust defined.

    I struggle to trust men.  It's been a loooong road, because the first man in my life, my father, taught me that men can't be trusted to keep their word, stay around, love you just for who you are, appreciate you, protect you, and be depended upon. So, as a result, I've been...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Sep 14, 2007

    I literally struggle to trust men

    since i had been sexual abused by father,sexual harrasment by stupid police..domestic voilence by ex.. Some ignorant people talk like victims are weak.it was like that's their fault. we got hurt and have scars. But we are not weak and not stupid,neither. I even struggle to talk...
    juryandrews juryandrews
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 17, 2015

    Not All

    Maybe it's because of my father and his views on life... actual quote from him when I was just a kid... "Never trust anyone, not even your father as he f^cked your mother". Now there's a great example for ya! Between him as a role model and the wonderful X and the Dr...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality
    36-40, F
    Dec 3, 2007

    Ladies: Hear This

    Why do so many women convince themselves that all men are scum because they've been screwed over by a couple of guys?  Ladies, listen up:  we're not all bad.  There's a lot of good guys out there. Perhaps it's not easy to find them but don't let ...
    think2much think2much
    46-50, M
    5 Responses May 31, 2008


    I have no trust issues with my father, however always had opinion never to 'open up' to let anyone hurt me, yet then i would go against my own advice, and each time have been proven that i should never have been so open.  I of course am not saying all men can not be trusted...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response May 23, 2008

    I struggle to trust my own bf sometimes.

    He is the most amazing person I have met so far. He's caring, considerate would do anything for me and describes himself as a feminist, what could be better! he looks after me even when I'm stubborn as hell and knows what to say and helps so much. But there's these moments when...
    metallheadd metallheadd
    22-25, F
    Feb 12, 2014

    I Feel Like Every Guy Im Wi...

    I feel like every guy im with just uses me. I feel cheated by them. So my trust is slim.  
    sball123 sball123
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 3, 2007

    Men, Men, Men...

    So far I have no reason to trust them. Every single one I've ever given my trust to has ****** me over in the end. My dad died when I was a baby so I never really had interaction with a male figure in my life, and its probably part of my problem with men. My first boyfriend Evan...
    sleepsunawareof sleepsunawareof
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 5, 2008

    Struggle ? More Like Dont

    I have no trust for men ...  well a few but ive known them for yrs . It makes it difficult to even attempt to get in a relationship . I don't know i  get lonely but  i remind myself of all the reasons relationships Suck and then it goes away ....
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme
    26-30, F
    Nov 22, 2007

    Trusting Men

    I have an issue trusting men because of past experience. I have been cheated on multiple times in different relationships. My dad left when I was only 5. He also cheated on my mom. I am now in a relationship with a guy that I am completely in love with. I find...
    stefanielyn23 stefanielyn23
    22-25, F
    Oct 13, 2009

    In God We Trust - All Others Pay Cash

    I used to think that trust should be earned.  I essentially trusted nothing - not God (was an atheist) not my parents, not society, not government, and most of all - not myself.  It was only in learning to trust myself that I became willing and able to trust others...
    ElLagarto ElLagarto
    56-60, M
    9 Responses Jul 13, 2007

    Lack Of Trust...

    Truthfully, I trust noone... I refuse to, unless it's earned... I've never been able to trust anyone in my family, ESPECIALLY the men. Every single boyfriend I've ever had previously, has cheated on me. Noone has yet to earn my trust fully, and I'm petrified to try. I know I have...
    heather9786 heather9786
    22-25, F
    Nov 14, 2009

    I Have My Reasons

    OK so lets start with doctors, from the age of seven due to some issues I have, I had to star seeing doctors and well 95% of them were and are just a big bunch of liars and guess what! they were all guys except like two or three who were not. OK now lets move to 3rd grade...
    AYearWithoutRain AYearWithoutRain
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 18, 2012

    I've Learned That You Can&...

    I've learned that you can't trust men, not even your own father. They don't think about anyone but theirselves.
    BMcD BMcD
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 3, 2007

    It Takes A Lot....

    For me to actually be able to trust men, there are only a few men in my life, who I can actually say that I truly do trust them. I have been hurt, used and abused by men in my past, that it makes it so hard for me to actually trust men. Being hurt by my own father, the one who...
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    1 Response Nov 25, 2010

    Past Experiences

    past experiences have led me to have trust issues with men. one guy cheated on me and another coloured my idea of men forever, if a guy touches me and i dont expect it i will flip out. I have however found one guy i can trust, my boyfriend. so they do exist
    RebeccaStrN RebeccaStrN
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 12, 2007

    Because Men Have Always Cheate...

    Because men have always cheated on me. I never cheated until I had absolute, irrevocable proof they were cheating. Then an eye for an eye, fair for the goose is fair for the gander, etc. etc., etc......
    sweetd sweetd
    56-60, F
    Dec 3, 2007

    ya.that's me. so that's

    why i've started making new guy friends lately.
    juryandrews juryandrews
    36-40, F
    Jan 1, 2015

    Maybe That's Why

    every guy i've ever been with has been an ******* in some way or another. abuse has been incredibly prevalent, be it physical, emotional, or sexual. i think they're good guys, and then they turn out to be drunks, or players, or control-freaks, or whatever. maybe that's why i've...
    EmptyInside EmptyInside
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 4, 2007

    Tell Me How He Knows.

    how is it possible that he knows when i am blairing avril lavigne and balling my eyes out because i am feeling insecure about his feelings for me, when this break down has been building up all day because all i wanted was some reasurance and just when i cant hold it in any...
    LittleLady LittleLady
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 2, 2008

    Men.....I Don Understand Them...

    As much as men don understnd women....We women also find it hard to understand them.....But still cudn't avoid the attempt to understnd them cuz we live with 'em. Its a strugle..
    Painseeker Painseeker
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 21, 2007

    Are You All the Same?

    I love men.  I would rather be in the company of men than women; most of my friends have been men.  I feel safe around men.  But I do not trust them.  Well, that's not exactly true.  I don't trust them at first, then after a while I start to trust and...
    eromreven eromreven
    1 Response Dec 26, 2008

    Hope I Can One Day

    i dont trust men...not cuz i dont want to but they have proven themselves tiem and again to all be cut from the same clothe....but i am hopeful...im sure they all cant be like that...prob is by nature i am very trusting and cuz of that i have used too many times...but i hope one...
    ava12982 ava12982
    26-30, F
    Sep 28, 2009

    Just Waiting

    I so wont to trust ..  the old fears drifting in  ... out .... in ... etc .. .. I struggle to trust only because i have my own trust issues on the line... I'm just waiting for the man to appear ... WHERE IS SUPERMAN ??? SPIDER MAN ?? AQUA MAN ?? MARINE BOY...
    caroli9 caroli9
    41-45, F
    24 Responses Jul 12, 2007
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