I Struggle With Opening Up to People

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    I was married t a man

    for 18 years that always made me feel like no matter what I did, it was never good enough, and that I would never be good enough. He was abusive in every sense of the word. By the time we divorced, he had cheated twice, I felt that what I sad was irrelevant, no matter what...
    lovethesun81 lovethesun81
    31-35, F
    Nov 12, 2015

    Found this totally accurate quote about it: " I

    want to write But I have nothing to say And I think that's my problem I just have nothing to say to anyone And it's the kind of silence That's screaming The truth It's the kind of silence that's Just sitting here Waiting for someone to notice That I'm just really not okay It's...
    nowherewego nowherewego
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 25, 2015
    deleted deleted
    Dec 8, 2015

    For with God nothing will be impossible (Luke

    1:37). There yet is hope for you in Christ. Whatever your problem may be, and however seemingly grave the situation miay be, it is nothing to the Age of Ages. There yet is hope for you in Christ. All other things are void of actual help. Some may help in soothing the problem...
    Lincoln98 Lincoln98
    16-17, M
    Apr 3

    Easier With Strangers Than Family

    Throughout college I recognized that I have a problem with this life skill, and worked on "opening up" with new friends I was making. As I made progress, I was discovering the odd phenomenon that I became more and more closed toward my family back home, and more open to people...
    roososo roososo
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 6, 2012

    When life is rough, pray.

    -----:------:------:----- Pray, when life is great.
    Lincoln98 Lincoln98
    16-17, M
    Apr 1

    My life has been full of shut doors in my face.

    ..abuse... and death... I have learned to contain and control my emotions... I don't show them to hide the true me... My true feelings... because if I did I would just cry all the time and never go anywhere or do anything
    happquinn3368 happquinn3368
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 12

    I have the worst when talking about my real

    feelings with people I want to but for some reason I can't
    fragilfirl6567 fragilfirl6567
    18-21, F
    Dec 8, 2015

    Heaven Forbid That It Interfere With Your Perfect Life.

    We've all got a hang-up or two, minimum. For someone like me, there are a few (or more) scenarios/reasons why I have a hard time opening up. I mean, really divulging what's inside and what has to get out before it eats me alive. Experience Project has been good at providing an...
    EricS EricS
    31-35, M
    18 Responses Nov 12, 2008

    Opening up is hard for me.

    It's just not easy. I have social anxiety and I'm an introvert. And people don't seem to understand that. It's literally who I am and I can't change it no matter how much I want to
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Nov 10, 2015

    At Times

      Sometimes there are just things we can not open up about to anyone until the right moment in time. This is true in my life and i believe so in other. Our secrets or our dreams or whatever, but they exists. They are hard to talk about until that right moment. Of course...
    Josie06 Josie06
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Apr 20, 2009

    I struggle with opening up to people say I'm

    constantly on EP trying to find a community. A relationship with people where we don't have to discuss each other's lives or have a deep and touching conversation. Just mutual feedback. Supporter and care. I rarely like rarely have opening conversations with people. That's why...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Mar 4

    Some people just don't give other people a

    chance to open up. Their loss.
    T055 T055
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 9, 2014

    It's nearly impossible

    for me to do. People don't care about anything unless they're getting something out of knowing you. I can't be bothered with people like that!
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 9, 2014

    If you call to Him, He will answer you If you

    run to Him, He will run to you If you lift your hands, He will lift you up Draw near to Him, He is here for you Give Him your love, He's in love with you He will heal your heart, He will cleanse your hands If you rend your heart, He will heal your land. Come now praise His name...
    Lincoln98 Lincoln98
    16-17, M
    Mar 31

    I am always really bad with my words

    and usually offend people by saying the wrong thing, I say one thing and mean another. Opening up to people really makes me uncomfortable because to do that means I have to put a lot of trust in someone, once they break the trust that's it I have to remove them from my life, if...
    maddieXxx maddieXxx
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 15, 2014

    I'm Afraid That They'd Laugh And Judge Me Differently

    If they knew the truth, that's what would happen. I know it's not true, but that's how I feel. I feel like I have to have an "edge" over people and if I reveal too much they can hold it against me. It's lame, but that's it, really.
    aislersan aislersan
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Aug 14, 2010

    Every time I try and open up to people,

    I always feel like I'm being ridiculous and self-centred, and that I'm wasting their time. A year ago I tried to speak to a teacher about how anxious I felt in class about something as little as putting up my hand, but I came away feeling even worse, because although she was...
    AigleNoir AigleNoir
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 21, 2015

    I Am Not Actually Sharing

    i mean look at the title to this group which has over 100 members but only 8 stories.  we really should all have a chuckle over that one.
    kdf333 kdf333
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 28, 2008

    Its easy to do it online.

    you can be anonymous, someone else entirely... In real life it's so hard to be completely emotionally naked with another human being. Even telling someone about your hopes and aspirations I find difficult. As I fear I will be laughed at. People now a days are too eager to please...
    InMybubble InMybubble
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 13, 2014

    When I speak to you initially,

    I'm always reall skittish. Stranger-danger (if you're a taxi driver, or we meet on the street), good ol'-fashioned social anxiety, and awareness of my p!ss-poor social skills mean that when we first meet, you end up talking to a brick wall. I'll give you the bare minimum of info...
    AsYetNameless AsYetNameless
    16-17, T
    Apr 20
    Lincoln98 Lincoln98
    16-17, M
    Apr 14

    Not Going to Be Able to Sleep Tonight.

    Not that I usually sleep at night anyway. I've been struggling with myself, it's been a constant battle of the senses and I've been losing. I don't know why but I've always had a fear of saying something really stupid or regrettable, well surprise surprise I do it anyway. The...
    WondersBeyondOurGalaxy WondersBeyondOurGalaxy
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Aug 30, 2009

    Never On the Out Side.

    With the experiences I've had in my life, my therapist of 3yrs doesn't even know me.  She doesn't know my dark side anyways.  Sometimes she'll only know 1 statement of a prior experience but I won't talk about it.  I don't need to bring it up AGAIN ...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Nov 2, 2008

    People say it all the time "why didn't you say

    you felt that way?" "why don't you open up, speak your mind" but they are often the people who will look awkward or get mad at you for actually telling them your feelings....see when people say that, they usually completely underestimate the depth of feeling, the darkness...the...
    kuronekko kuronekko
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Mar 3

    Opening up to people requires trust

    and I see me trusting someone similar to me walking on thin ice knowing any minute now I will fall in and drown and freeze to death.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 11

    It's hard to let someone in past the walls

    that guard this fragile heart. it's so much easier to do damage when you're inside. I have trouble trusting people to not hurt me
    TheWanderingWarrior TheWanderingWarrior
    26-30, M
    Dec 9, 2015

    i guess its cause not had very good experiences

    with some people it's hard to know now a days who to trust and who to open up to i have found people interested in wanting to know me until i open up then they don't want to know me in past i know that I have a lot of issues and sometimes it can be all in my head or i get wrong...
    suisse83 suisse83
    31-35, F
    Nov 11, 2015

    I'm tired of opening up,

    I am terrified of getting hurt again and again. It's always the same vicious cycle. I don't want to open up anymore I am sick of it, I want to keep my feelings and problems to myself, literally no one is going to care and the only person that does isn't available at the moment.
    carazami carazami
    3 Responses Oct 21, 2015

    People usually like me.

    I'm pretty funny, and I'm nice most of the time. Friends call and want me to come hang out fairly often. But I usually end up staying in my room alone and drinking. It's not that I don't have fun with those people. But for all the wonderful people in my life, I feel alone a lot...
    PraiseBeToYevon PraiseBeToYevon
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Mar 3

    And maybe its harder to start again,

    harder to know where to begin and to open yourself back to pain.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jun 20, 2014

    For those of you who have lost your desire to

    pray, to sing,I'm asking God to put that melody back in your hearts tonight; cause you to lift your voice, even though you don't understand. Your Father in Heaven loves you, do not forsake Him...do not forget the benefits of the Lord. God bless you.
    Lincoln98 Lincoln98
    16-17, M
    Apr 1

    I want to open to a handful of people

    but idk what they'll think, i always hide how i truly feel and how i'm really like to my friends i wanna tell them but i also fear of what they'll think and that they might go judgmental on me and start to question me, i didn't even tell my exgf how i was like when we were...
    MyBleedingRose227 MyBleedingRose227
    18-21, M
    Jun 12, 2014


    I dont trust anymore..i had told alot of people alot of things about my life...and now they are no longer my friend..and i just cant take it... I had a billon theripsts and well i wont talk to them anymore because they ******* keep changing..I have no one to talk too..and i hate...
    Tazz917 Tazz917
    18-21, F
    Sep 29, 2012

    Here is the thing I hate talking about myself.

    I feel completely robbed when I share something. Like they took something from me that should have stayed there/ I tell them and they rob me???/ It so stupid I feel like I revel this big secret that no one should know even if I'm talking about trivial things like "Hey, I made...
    thinkofaname thinkofaname
    16-17, F
    Apr 4

    I don't there is anyone to trust anyway,

    no one who actually seems to understand what the issue is, without me spelling it out to them. I'm not going to do that, my hints are not subtle, yet no one cares. So, I think I'm done with it.
    LikeICare13 LikeICare13
    13-15, F
    1 Response Mar 4

    (I refer this to Christians going through

    TRIALS or/and TEMPTATIONS, lest a fellow wishes to wrongly counter the write-up) Dear Christians and whomever this may concern, God doesn't give us what we can handle but helps us handle what we are given, because, just as impure gold is passed through fire and made pure, we...
    Lincoln98 Lincoln98
    16-17, M
    Apr 10

    Everyone needs compassion,

    a love that's never failing, let mercy fall on us. Everyone needs forgiveness, the kindness of a Savior, the Hope of nations. Savior, He can move the mountains My God is mighty to save. He is mighty to save. Forever, author of Salvation He rose and conquered the grave. Jesus...
    Lincoln98 Lincoln98
    16-17, M
    Apr 3
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