I Suffer From Vaginismus

Vaginismus is a sexual condition that effects many women throughout the world. If you suffer from it or have suffered, please post your experiences here. 204 People

    I have recently been diagnosed

    after about five years of going to the doctor. No one understands. I have one friend who also has it. No one else understand. Our culture is so sexualised and it's such a natural act. People react as if I've told them I can't breathe. Please share your experiences so I don't...
    jigglykangeroo jigglykangeroo
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 25, 2014

    Desperate

    I am 24 years old and just celebrated my 1 year wedding anniversary. I feel so hopeless and scared that my husband is going to leave me if I don't get my vaginismus under control soon. He has been patient so far, but I am having zero success with the dialators and my therapist...
    Krystaljackso Krystaljackso
    22-25
    5 Responses Nov 9, 2012

    Hi there, I'm glad I found this forum.

    I was actually surprised to read all the shared stories, for a while I was thinking that I was the only one suffering from "Vaginismus". I'm 23 years old and I'm married since 5 months now. My husband and I are from different cultures, and from where I come from, virginity is a...
    bjoum bjoum
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 24

    I'm rarely honest about condition,

    always holding back, never really explaining what it has meant for me. I lost my virginity when I was 14, I am now 20. Young, but at the time everyone was doing it. It was extremely painful and I had to stop. Every time I've tried since there is just a wall, preventing any entry...
    TakingTheFloor TakingTheFloor
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Dec 16, 2013

    My Story Part Ii

    I have spoken to many of you through email now...but I just have to say that I am so tired of being ashamed of a disorder which I did not choose to have!!! Vaginismus is just as prevalent as erectile dysfunction, yet women feel ashamed, confused, and HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THEY...
    Kitty15 Kitty15
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Aug 2, 2011

    What happens if you can't have sex?

    what if it's too painful? The thought of having sex scares me. I keep thinking, what guy would want you, if you can't have sex?!!! I've been told this can be psychological, but the pain is real. And then I've been told that the muscle spasms can be due to problems like Cerebral...
    sweetstar1 sweetstar1
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 19, 2014

    Loneliest Thing In The World.

    I'm new to this. Only just joined. I feel like there is just nobody to talk to. I went to a clinic about this problem and they acknowledged the problem but they barely helped, they just gave me a kit that I can't even use and sent me on my way. I've read a lot of peoples stories...
    IvoryAngel IvoryAngel
    16-17, F
    6 Responses Jun 20, 2012

    I Have Survived It!

    I got married at 18, and had never had sex before marriage.  What a shock to realize that it was incredibly painful for me to have sex.  I would tighten up so bad that my husband couldn't even get inside me.  I went to a gyn and he told me to relax and gave me...
    sunshine82 sunshine82
    26-30, F
    9 Responses Dec 29, 2009

    Feel Alone

    Well, i never thought i would be searching for a forum to discuss this condition. I have suffered Vaginismus for best part of 16 years!! I met a lovely wonderful man in 1994 and in 2005 became my husband knowing full well of the condition i have. He has accepted how i am, and...
    littlemrsp littlemrsp
    31-35
    6 Responses Nov 11, 2010

    Dealing With Vaginismus For 8 Years, I Would Be Grateful For Some Support

    I've been married to my husband for 4 years now. We got married at a very young age. We were both just 20 years old. We've been together since high school. Before each other, we each had a few sexual encounters. When I was 13 or so, I was hanging out with a girlfriend and we...
    CourtRoses CourtRoses
    22-25
    8 Responses Dec 21, 2012

    Recovering From Vaginismus

    Hi everyone, I've been suffering with Vaginismus for years now and it's only since I bought the vagi wave that I have started to make progress, I have achieved full intercourse but It just feels horrible, not painful anymore but it just doesn't feel nice. Is there anyone else...
    MrsLefty MrsLefty
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 3, 2013

    My Girlfriend

    my girlfriend has vaginismus. this poor girl. we have not done it yet but her and her ex have tried many times and it was only achieved when she was blacked out. anyway needless to say it hurts us emotionally that we may never feel that pleasure but whats worse is that she does...
    guyinlove guyinlove
    18-21
    6 Responses Jun 16, 2013

    I suffer from Vaginismus.

    I hate feeling this way. Its pretty bad. I had thought maybe I was not supposed to ever have sex or that GOD was steering me in the direction of becoming a Nun. I've heard many success stories, but then I think, "well that won't happen when I try something, I will probably...
    Vbot123 Vbot123
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Apr 18, 2014

    Only Started Using Vagiwave, Would Like Some Extra Support

    hi there i realized that i had vaginismus about 5 years ago. Sex was painful and i always knew there was something wrong with me. I recently started a new relationship a couple months ago and he is very understanding and is willing to wait until i finish the 21 nights to have sex...
    lashana lashana
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jul 17, 2013

    Uphill Struggle

    I'm 20 years old and found out around 7 months ago that I suffer from vaginismus, after 5 months of not being able to have sex with my new boyfriend. Since then I've had the dilators but nothing has really been achieved, and my relationship became less and less physical, the...
    jess22012 jess22012
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Sep 9, 2012

    Yoga Helped Me!

      I am 30 years old and have been married for 6 years now (to my long time boyfriend) . We share a great relationship full of love and laugher . Though we had an active sex life, I could never manage to tolerate intercourse. My husband always hit a wall and it seemed hopeless...
    Yogahelpedme Yogahelpedme
    36-40
    3 Responses May 14, 2013

    I Had Vaginismus And I Finally Overcame It!!!

    I diagnosed myself with psychological vaginismus. I thought it was just me. Started researching a lot about it. I struggled for months, until finally I read about the Vagiwave. All the reviews were positive. I actually went and order it and used it. It is the best thing ever...
    Claire30m Claire30m
    31-35
    7 Responses Jun 26, 2013

    Confessions Of A Devoted Husband

    It wasn't long after we got married and had our first sexual encounters that my wife began to feel vaginal pain. At first, we thought it was just dryness and tried various types of lubrication. When that didn't work, she went to a pelvic physical therapist who had her doing...
    awefulinside awefulinside
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Oct 10, 2013

    Vag Sufferer Wanting A Baby

    Hello there. Iv had vag for as long as i can rememeber, and iv been see'ing someone about it for a while now. Im on dialtor 3, sometimes tip of 4, but i so desp want a baby. Would love to get some support from friends on line xxx
    shelley1983 shelley1983
    26-30
    4 Responses Jul 5, 2012

    My Life Was Over Until Someone Told Me My Problem Could Be Sorted

    I listened to them,then switched off because so far nothing had worked and I was getting to the point of telling myself, good for you, but I've still got the effing problem. I smiled went home and cried again and again, it wasn't fair me suffering like this. Kept asking myself...
    paradisefound paradisefound
    26-30
    4 Responses Oct 14, 2013

    try flexing and relaxing your muscles upon

    your partner while at the beginning stages ......your muscles become so fatigued they relax inch by inch
    webgurl69 webgurl69
    61-65, F
    1 Response Apr 6, 2014

    Wanting A Healthy Sex Life.

     I first realized that I suffered from vaginismus about a year ago. I am 19 now, and a year ago I was naive enough to believe that I was some kind of a freak; someone who needed to be "fixed." Since then, I have built a healthy relationship with a young man who...
    s0cinematic1 s0cinematic1
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Nov 19, 2009

    My Angry Vagina: Her Story

    I've recently created a facebook page called My Angry Vagina for women who suffer from Vulvodynia, Vulvar Vestibulitis, and other vaginal pain. Please check it out if you're in need of empathy, information, inspiration, or a good laugh (because how can we get through difficult...
    LillyoftheValleyGirl LillyoftheValleyGirl
    31-35
    6 Responses Apr 9, 2012

    Is anyone still on here?

    All posts are over a year old. I have vaginismus and have been working with a physical therapist for 4 months now. I am slowly improving but I'm stuck on the 3rd dilator. I just feel broken. I want a baby so bad and we've been trying for 3 years now. It feels hopeless
    Musiclover213 Musiclover213
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jul 17, 2015

    There Is Hope! Still In Recovery...

    I suffered from vaginismus for as long as I can remember. When I was young, I noticed that it was excrutiatingly painful to get a tampon in. Then I went for my first gynecological exam and the doctor was actually FURIOUS with me because she could not complete the exam. She...
    Kitty15 Kitty15
    26-30, F
    5 Responses May 14, 2011

    Anxious College Student

    Ever since my period started at age 14, I have never been able to use a tampon. I tried the smallest junior tampons I could find, and still I couldn't manage to use one due to the burning pain that always occurred. It felt like my muscles were on lockdown. My mother and...
    annetyler71 annetyler71
    22-25
    4 Responses Jan 24, 2010

    use Vaginex instead of lube.

    ....the benzocaine will stop your discomfort
    webgurl1951 webgurl1951
    61-65, F
    1 Response Feb 13, 2014

    Success With The Vagi-wave - Overcoming Vaginismus

    This is long, but bear with me, it’s all useful info! Still can't believe I'm able to say this, and believe me I've been where you're sitting so many times hearing other people's success stories and thinking 'well, they're an exception, that'll never happen to me' BUT IT DID! I...
    ICanIWill ICanIWill
    18-21, F
    10 Responses Nov 6, 2013

    I've been seeing a therapist

    for just over a month now. I hate talking about sex, it makes me very uncomfortable, but after being with my partner for over 7 years I know that I can't continue this way. I have also avoided my smear test and don't want to put myself at risk. I have been trying for 3 days now...
    ajsmith24 ajsmith24
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 3, 2014

    I feel nothing during sex.

    It's really heartbreaking as I long to feel this beautiful sensation. It's affecting every area of my life. All I need I some support, someone to talk to. To encourage and ensure me that I am not alone . I do believe one day I'll overcome this. Anyone suffering similar situation...
    lashana lashana
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 30, 2014

    If I Can Do It Anyone Can.

    I am a 22 year old woman. When I was 13 I tried a tampon and freaked out. I was scared to put it in and as soon as it entered it hurt. When I was 16 I tried to have sex. As soon as my boyfriend tried to penetrate it was excruciating pain and it felt like it wouldn't fit. I...
    Cured123 Cured123
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Oct 18, 2013

    First Time

    When I first had sex it hurt like a ************, but it got better. But everytime I had sex with this guy it hurt and it would take like ten minutes or so to get use to the pain. Eventually after three months or so it was hurting all the time, freaking annoying. Thankfully we...
    simcat44 simcat44
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 24, 2013

    There is a solution to every problem.

    If there is any kind of problem feel free to share and get it solved. Feeling peace
    angelikheart angelikheart
    26-30, F
    Oct 26, 2014

    AMAZING NEWS FOR US & INTERNATIONAL CUSTOMERS!

    ! I am thrilled to be able to tell you all that you can now buy the vagi-wave in the US! Finally! I've been sending them emails pestering them to do it for a long time. I really hope this can get some of you on the road to recovery, as it has been a massive hindrance so far. I...
    ICanIWill ICanIWill
    18-21, F
    Mar 9, 2014

    5 Years And Counting ...

    So it started when i was 14, my best friends sister decided to tell us how horrific, painful and messy our 'first times' would be. I was so terrified that i made my first boyf wait 2 years until we were 16, to try. First try, nothing happened, except a lot of pain. We would try...
    Charlottie321 Charlottie321
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Aug 15, 2013

    I Am Cured!!!

    I'm just so excited to let everyone know that I am CURED!!! I opted to go through with the botox procedure and I had pain free sex only 12 days after the procedure!! If anyone has any questions about the procedure, then just message me. Good luck to everyone!
    Kitty15 Kitty15
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Nov 6, 2011

    Dealing With Vaginismus

    I had no idea that I even had this so called sexual disorder. I just assumed something was wrong with me. It used to be that I could suffer through the pain of sexual intercourse but recently I've been shutting down and unable to let my husband penetrate. I'm tired of the pain I...
    2mama 2mama
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Sep 5, 2013

    Anyone Used Vagi-wave?

    I've been using dilators for around 5 months now, but not as often as I should, I don't have the time and or patience! (although I know I need to persist with them) I heard about the vagi-wave that you slip inside you and sleep with for 21 nights. How do this work? Is it an...
    ICanIWill ICanIWill
    18-21, F
    55 Responses Jan 2, 2013

    I have Vaginismus. It makes me feel

    as if I cannot control my body, it devastates me. My mother does not understand because I am not sexually with anyone. It's horrid to think of.
    animeparade animeparade
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 4, 2014

    Is anyone still here in 2016?

    I am new to this group, but where so happy when I found the many posts here. It's a lonely illness and I love reading that others are experiencing the same setbacks, frustrations and sadness that I am. I am a 20 year old virgin. Got my diagnosis back in November, but I knew...
    kleeblatt23 kleeblatt23
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 23

    I Have Vaginismus

    So..recently I went to the doctors and they told me I have vaginismus. I'm 18 and I've had a few relationships with guys. I've tried sex many times and it never worked. Eventually I was like..wtf? I need to figure out what my problem is...I went to the doctors and she was really...
    kathardy kathardy
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jul 1, 2010
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