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I Survived Broken Engagement

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    How Do You Move On?

    On November 23 I was dumped after over 5 years together.  We would have been engaged for a year on Christmas eve.  We were set to get married on 2/4/11.  I had my birthday roughly a week after he broke up with me and turned 25.  We meet in college and became...
    snugglebunny2103 snugglebunny2103 22-25, F 17 Responses Dec 13, 2009

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    6 Years Of Lies

    i had been dating by now ex fiancee for 6.5 years. We got engaged on january 2013 on my birthday (which is now tainted for life). I could not believe how exited he was, and we were more in love than ever planning our October wedding. Around June, he called and told me he was...
    mafg mafg 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 6, 2013

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    He Made It Easier

    On December 16, 2011, my boyfriend of almost two years proposed to me on a horsedrawn carriage. We were in a neighborhood that had been decorated beautifully for Christmas. I had a feeling it was coming, but the proposal still took my breath away. When he asked me to marry him...
    snaveytak snaveytak 26-30 2 Responses Jan 2, 2013

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    Broke Engagement Myself, But Still Cant Get Over It

    Hi Fellas,I am 26, female. Met a guy an year back in my office who chased me like anything even after my numerous denials. We became friends, hanged out together and eventually i finally feel in love with him and said yes for marriage. Things happened so fast. My parents were...
    wastedEmotions wastedEmotions 26-30 4 Responses Dec 30, 2011

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    Only 5 Months To Go

    December of 2011 was the happiest time of my life. My then boyfriend of four years proposed to me, and because we had been together for such a long time we wanted to marry each other almost immediately. We settled on a date in September. My fiance at the time was unlike most men...
    Lish516 Lish516 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 22, 2012

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    My Broken Heart

    When I met my fiance, exactly a year and a half ago, I had just moved into an apartment with my two best friends and was happier than ever. I met him one night when we were out with our respective groups, and we immediately hit it off. He was everything I had looked for and I...
    RLJ14 RLJ14 26-30 2 Responses Dec 25, 2012

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    I Am Getting There

    i can't say i have survived but i know i am getting there..my ex fiance broke off the engagement last summer of 2011..i know it was still fresh but at this moment i am in the zone that everything is where it should be..he moved on quickly in the arms of another woman, looking at...
    marianaurielle marianaurielle 26-30 3 Responses Jan 28, 2012

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    It's Been A Month...

    And I still can't get over him. Maybe a month is too soon to expect to be over him, but it's never, ever taken me this long to get over anything, and that scares the hell out of me. I think maybe the way our engagement ended is what's making it so hard for me to let go. We didn...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 3, 2012

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    2 Months Later.. This Is Long, But I Need Advice

    My fiance and I met in high school. I actually had a crush on one of his friends and we all hung out as a group a few times. We didn't even really exchange words, as far as I can remember. Fast forward.. 7 years later.. I had just graduated college and started working at a summer...
    neekster2007 neekster2007 26-30 1 Response Dec 16, 2012

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    Understanding Why When I Still Love Him

    I was engaged to the love of my life and he ended it. I don't know how to begin healing so I think this may be helpful for me to just get it all out and if you can, please give me some advice. My fiancé and I have had a wonderful relationship, we met in college dated for a year...
    Jheartbroken15 Jheartbroken15 26-30, F Feb 26, 2013

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    All Talk And No Action

    My former fiancee and I use that term very loosely asked me to marry him 3.5 years ago on our 1 year anniversary of being together. He didn't have a ring or anything, but I said yes and I figured that he probably wanted to have me pick it out, so I didn't ask because I ...
    JenBorg JenBorg 26-30 4 Responses Sep 6, 2010

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    The Hardest Thing I Ever Went Through

    I broke off my wedding engagement two  years ago because I realized that my fiance was not the one for me. Since we were together for five years, I already felt like we were married. The decision to end that relationship was the hardest thing I ever had to do. It felt like a...
    reeny417 reeny417 31-35, F 16 Responses Apr 21, 2010

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    He Dump Me Today

    We were together for 14 months. We spend most of our time apart as I go to college in a different country. I loved him, don't think I could love anyone more than him. He decided to break it off with me today over skype and refuse to even look at me. Before we started our...
    shywen2004 shywen2004 18-21 Nov 22, 2012

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    "need Support" Follow Up

    A few weeks ago I wrote a post called "Need Support" in this group.. I wanted to write another post asking for my advice in this situation. It has been about a month without contact and he finally caved in and texted me. Expressed his depression, that he missed me, and wanted to...
    Distraughtgirl Distraughtgirl 18-21 Jan 4, 2013

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    Africa

    I moved to Africa to be closer to my fiance, who was starting the Peace Corps. A couple months in he tells me he doesn't love me. I'm still breathing, so I suppose I survived. I am very consciously trying to not let this leaving me jaded.
    VanillaCoke89 VanillaCoke89 22-25, F 1 Response May 17, 2013

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    It Gets Better

    It was about 9 months ago that my fiancee broke off our engagement, completely to my surprise. I didn't see it coming and never would have expected it - I thought he was the love of my life and didn't have a single doubt in my mind that we'd be together for the rest of our lives...
    AlbertaSky AlbertaSky 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    Broken Engagement? Still So Confused...and Stuck!

    I've been with the same man for over 5 years now.  He proposed 2 years ago Christmas day.  I'm a pastor and, actually, I wasn't looking forward to a long engagement.  I would have been glad to get married the following May but my fiancé wanted to wait.  He suggested the...
    Valentina4me Valentina4me 31-35 1 Response Dec 29, 2011

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    Everything Is So Different From How I Thought It Would Be

    Long story short, my ex-fiance and I met just before his divorce was finalized. When I met him, I knew immediately that he was different, and he said the same of me. The love we had was the kind of love I only thought existed in movies. It was just incredible, and he was, by far...
    GeorgianPeach GeorgianPeach 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 6, 2012

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    How Can I Survive Broken Engagement & Him Still Trying To Break Me On Facebook?

    Hi I was hoping someone had advice for me..My ex proposed to me a yr ago. A month after a big-to-do proposal, he just didnt come home after work one night, not even to pick up his own child who I also accepted with loving arms into moving in my home. Naturally i was devastated...
    brokeninMA brokeninMA 31-35 2 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    It Was Broken

    I cannot say I have survived it yet. I am trying to move on but I keep hitting road blocks.
    BPBitch BPBitch 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 2, 2013

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    14 Days Later...

    14 days later...I have not survived anything yet except another day of heart break, emotional struggles of uncertainty and a constant wonder of why did this happen to me? Three years of my life seems to be flushed down the drain into an abyss of emptiness. I was with my girl for...
    xfyblissx xfyblissx 26-30, M 8 Responses Jan 6, 2011

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    Engaged...not Engaged...engaged...not Engaged

    We were togethet a little over 4 years and he proposed. 3.5 months into proposal during a trip to his hometown to plan the wedding, his friends and family stirred the pot said how they truly felt about me and he called off the wedding, cancelled all meetings with vendors and cut...
    brenbrya brenbrya 31-35 2 Responses Jan 23, 2011

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    He Was My Best Friend And He Called Off Our Wedding.

    My x fiance was my high school sweetheart, and the boy next door. He found me again at age 36 and proposed. One month before our wedding after everything was paid for he got cold feet. After marriage counseling, church etc. we could not salvage the relationship. What hurts...
    Jilted1 Jilted1 36-40 May 31, 2012

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    How Can I Let Go And Accept This New Reality....

    My fiance broke off our engagement almost 2 months ago. It still doesn't feel like that much time has passed for me. I posted my story in another group, but basically the gist of it is that we met at church and we hit it off almost immediately.. we started spending all our free...
    gerberadaisygirl85 gerberadaisygirl85 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 30, 2012

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    I Can'T Breathe....Heartbroken After 9 Years....

    My story starts when i was 14 years of age and he was 16. We met at church fell in love right away and stayed together for 9 years. During those 9 years we broke up 1 year but got back. Now i am 24 and he is 26. He proposed to me 6 months ago for my birthday. I of course accepted...
    carla788 carla788 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 6, 2013

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    We Were Going To Be One

    I still love you despite all the empty promises you made. Although we are not together I wish you well. You will never know the damaged you did to me mentally you really hurt me spiritually as well. As I pick up the pieces to my life I pray you treat the next one right.
    GlitzDoll GlitzDoll 26-30, F Jan 29, 2013

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    Broken Hearted, And Trying To Survive An Ending Engagement

    I have loved only a handful of people in my life... And when I met Ashley, I knew she was the one. I had gotten out of a long relationship, and wasn't looking for anyone in particular. She actually had worked at a local fast food restaurant and I handed her my number one day...
    jen18jen jen18jen 22-25 1 Response Feb 28, 2012

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    How Do You Stop Crying And Move On??

    Hi everyone. My story is similar to a lot of yours. My fiance` and I met only last year on Valentine's day 2009 at a wedding. Things were fantastic in the beginning and we actually had gotten engaged after only 7 short months and he moved in with me. We were so in love until this...
    corabeth23 corabeth23 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 17, 2010

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    Need Support

    So basically I am an a fresh break up with my fiancé. Things were rocky for a week or so then we had a huge falling out. I moved out of our apartment and held myself back from reaching out to him. That night he went out to a party but I resisted the urge to text him. He ended up...
    Distraughtgirl Distraughtgirl 18-21 2 Responses Dec 14, 2012

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    This Is Something That Happens In Movies

    My fiance and I had been together for 5 years. Two of those years we had been engaged. Most of our relationship was long distance, but we managed to see each other at least once a month. Long distance required a lot of trust and strong communication, something that we worked on...
    sept292012 sept292012 26-30 2 Responses Aug 13, 2012

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    Disengaged. Twice.

    I knew it in my stomach all Saturday and Sunday. I knew she was going to end it. I just sat and waited all weekend for her to come through the apartment door. Of course she didn't look at the grocery store flowers when she came in that I had placed on the Amish table. She just...
    defiancy defiancy 26-30 2 Responses Dec 7, 2010

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    Foreigner

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    Chillysauce Chillysauce 31-35, M Apr 25, 2013

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    I Will Rise

    When I left him, I left the dream I had for my life. I thought I was abandoning God's plan because I felt it was God's plan for us to get married. He was my soulmate and I loved him more deeply than I ever loved anyone. I will love and trust and open my heart to someone else...
    Emily1082 Emily1082 26-30, F Jan 30, 2012

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    Do I End It Or Give Us Hope...?

    Hi guys. I'm in a really painful situation. If there ever was a rock and a hard place, this is it. I love him. We've shared the past eight years together. But in that time I've grown and he, well he has grown, but is still the same. I feel stifled, suffocated, and held down in...
    bluemoon24 bluemoon24 22-25 2 Responses Mar 5, 2013

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    Heartbroken....

    It was 2 weeks before our wedding. We had a conversation and he muted his concerns about getting married. His parents came over and assured him and us it was pre-wedding jitters.Then the day after a huge argument, his sister accusing me of not doing enough in the 'family' and he...
    rubyrara rubyrara 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    Rebuilding

    I don't claim to have made sense of what happened yet. I don't think I'm over it. I'm not whole again, or healed. I still miss my best friend terribly and have private moments, daily, where I feel like crying, screaming or some combination of both. Sometimes I do. I met my...
    novemberrunner novemberrunner 26-30 3 Responses Nov 19, 2010

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    A Spiritual Journey

    It's been a few months.. My heart is still completely shattered. Some days I break down and cry alone, some days I rage in anger at everything. Today, reading others' stories, for the first time in a week, I quietly cried... She and I weren't high school sweethearts, nor dated...
    Chilisauce Chilisauce 31-35 1 Response Feb 19, 2013

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    I Can Do This

    My fiancé broke off our engagement today. We've been together for 3 years. How can it be so hard to lose a future I haven't had? I have a doctor's appointment scheduled for tomorrow to make sure I'm healthy before getting pregnant. We wanted to get pregnant right after we got...
    SugarFairy34 SugarFairy34 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2013

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    When Will The Pain Go Away. . .

    I find myself here after nearly 3 months with a broken heart. More then 3 years ago I meet the love of my life. After never really having a long term relationship I was ejoying every minute. He always knew how to make me laugh and feel special. After a year of dating we moved in...
    divajay divajay 26-30 5 Responses Jul 19, 2010

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    I still struggle with it

    but I am still here. We have been together since 2008. Things have always moved rather quickly with us. We had our first Son and got engaged right after his birth in 2010. We had another Son in 2011 and a Daughter in 2012. We started planning the wedding a few months after our...
    kjones935 kjones935 22-25, F Jan 21

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    Me and my ex-fiance met in high school.

    we feel in love since then moment we seen each other. we got pregnant and he decided that he wanted a better future for our daughter. one day out of no where he said he wanted to join the military i agreed with him. he went off to boot camp and i waited for him he came home and...
    navarro2014 navarro2014 18-21, F Mar 28

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    My Best Friend Broke Our Engagement And My Heart

    I'm still in the midst of all of this. I am at my moms- its easter sunday. He is at the house that we once shared packing what he can of his things. And its killing me. He is my high school sweet heart and my best friend. He knows more of my secrets than my girl friends. We were...
    oncePerkyBritt oncePerkyBritt 22-25 2 Responses Mar 31, 2013

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    7 Months Later

    I dont have a lot to say about this one. I was going to be married to the love of my life. He meant the world to me. Then slowly i started to realize all of the things that were hurting me were never going to change. Breaking up with him was one of the hardest things I ever...
    isapheonix isapheonix 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 14, 2011

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    A Breakthrough And A Breakdown

    Today my fiance told me he wanted to end our relationship and break off our engagement. We had been together for 3 1/2 years and met in college. We did one year of courtship and decided to get engaged. I love him with my heart and soul and did everything I could to make him happy...
    mpride mpride 22-25 1 Response Feb 4, 2012

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    Broken Promise

    Im supposed to get married this month to my fiance of almost a year. He was the love of my life. He's everything to me, I treated him as my bestfriend, brother, father, protector and my partner in life. We lived in together for almost a year, my world revolves on him. Im so happy...
    djmix51 djmix51 22-25, F 5 Responses May 4, 2012

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    I Lost The Love Of My Life

    I started dating my former fiance when I was 18. We had been best friends for two years and then realized we wanted to take our friendship to the next level. We lived on opposite sides of the country, I was going to school in LA and he was going to school in Philadelphia, but we...
    ncfa96 ncfa96 22-25 12 Responses Sep 12, 2011

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    Some Things Are Left Best Alone...

    In high school, I had a boyfriend who was so shy and timid that he was afraid to invite me to prom. After he invited a "sure shot" he found out from a mutual friend that I liked him. He did the right thing-he went with the other girl. But after prom, we started dating the summer...
    Eccelsiastes1dash9 Eccelsiastes1dash9 41-45, F Mar 14, 2013

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    Calling It Off.

    I keep reading articles that are mostly based for the dumped. What about the dumpees? It's just as hard and devastating. We had the same dreams. We are letting go of it too. I have to live with the fact that i destroyed someone's life. Not just anyone, but the person i thought...
    darr24 darr24 18-21 Aug 8, 2013

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    How Can He Not Feel The Way I Do?

       When I met Thomas, I knew it was meant to be. I had always heard that some people just knew they were soulmates from day one, but I never believed that. For one thing, you have to know a person before you can love them! The first day I ever talked to him, I just...
    elisalinder elisalinder 22-25 5 Responses Mar 28, 2010

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    It's Been A Year

    I wrote my experience down here a little while ago of what it was like for me going through a broken engagement. I wanted to provide an update to all of those out there who are struggling with heartbreak.It's been just over a year since my engagement fell apart. For a long while...
    AlbertaSky AlbertaSky 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 17, 2013

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    Unexpected Broken Engagement

     My ex and I had dated on and off since high school (10 years). We dated this past time for two years and decided to move in together. He had a 3 year old daughter that I welcomed with open arms. Not long after, he proposed in a surprising and romantic way on my 27th...
    cheygyrl15 cheygyrl15 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    I was once engaged to someone

    who I thought was the man of my dreams. I was 19 years old when we first met (I am 21 now), I remember it all too well. Within six months we were engaged, we got our own place, my parents didn't bless it but told us to wait a year. Between the months of May-July everything was...
    PeaceBatman PeaceBatman 18-21, F Jan 7

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    Today Was Rough ...

    So, today my (now ex) fiance blind-sided me and called off our engagement. I'm sure many of you have actually felt your heart shatter like mine did today. It actually felt like my heart broke into different pieces. It was strange and terrifying. Now, I bounce between being okay...
    jillian191j jillian191j 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 30, 2013

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    Fiancé Ended It Due To Mental Health Issues

    Hello all, my ex fiancé and I had been together for three and a half years, engaged for almost one. He has a history of severe depression and some self mutilation problems, but all of those were before we were together. He was always a very fickle person who made many sudden...
    Zooeywildflower Zooeywildflower 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 9, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    i am feeling broken.. just can anybody help me out on concentrating on my life & not think what my ex is doing? i am always thinking what she is doing, she might be messging that...
    raoudupi raoudupi 26-30, M 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    My best friends funeral was yesterday. A huge part of my heart was buried with him, along with all our other friends. He's broken our hearts. We will never be the same again.
    kiara95 kiara95 18-21, F 15 hrs ago

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    I feel broken hearted but not in way most people do. I was not dumped, beated or cheated on. My heart broke with his suicide. It is strange, you can go your how life being non...