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I Survived Mental and Emotional Abuse

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    Reflections - My Story

    Disclaimer: I'm reposting this from another group, I hope that's ok. I posted my story in the other group because I wanted to share my experience in the hopes of helping someone; here I'm posting it because, as I said in the other group, I see myself as a survivor...
    Nikolita Nikolita 22-25, F Sep 18, 2009

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    What To Do After?

    What to do after that ? When you realised and have escaped from this terrible abusive relationship. I think that it is a very important part of the process and I would be very happy to share solutions, experiences with other people who went through this experience. It's been...
    GabiT GabiT 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 3, 2013

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    Abuse

    so. i left an emotionally abusive boyfriend a month and hal ago. now he cheated on me while 7 months pregnant, when i went to ob, they tested me for all std s to make sure there was no problems. i got a $400 dollar bill and send it to him. because i do not feel responsible for...
    ggmbq ggmbq 31-35 Mar 18, 2013

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    I had bad luck in my life.

    Much bad luck. One after another. I didnt choose it. Abuse choosed me. Once u was abused in early childhood , it will fallow u everywhere. The really strange thing is- i did nothing to deserve this. Im shy, quiet and not even others know me and i was allways a loser. But...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F Apr 28

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    Dichotomy

    In the age of public sharing, do people have secrets? Also in the age where free speech is perverted to harm others, what can a person share without some form of a backlash? Early into the social networking stages, I shared everything. Slowly as the years go by, I share less. I...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 9 Responses May 12, 2011

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    His Addiction Stole My Childhood

    Born way 2 early had 2 fight 2 all along. nothings ever come easy! Moms always busy and dads always stoned. NO footsteps to follow No compass to guide me. I wish i could make you see how hard it is to become the 2 people i never wanted to be. My lifes laid out in front of...
    writingmyrelease writingmyrelease 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    After two years I still have difficulty with

    self-reassurance and self-worth. I've dealt with this person and his friends for five years I started emotionally eating at fifteen (he was 18 at the time) . this turned into binge purging later on as an attempt to gain some sort of control.
    RobinPancakes RobinPancakes 18-21, F Feb 14

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    I Keep Trying to Solve An Unsolveable Puzzle

    Its been a year today of a strange memory I just sorted out. My ex claimed he coudn't go to back to his home when we were out. He refused to stay at my place, refused to call any friends  so he declared himself to be stranded. I coudn't leave him outside by himself even...
    parasitehostess parasitehostess 22-25, F Aug 31, 2009

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    Well... Not Really.

    I don't know that I would say I "survived" it. That suggests that I'm past it as if everything's all better. I personally don't believe a person could ever really "survive" these things in that sense. Maybe we can endure such things, but we carry that kind of trauma with us as...
    aktor1970 aktor1970 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    Psychology says: To be haughty means to act

    with blatant arrogance or disdainful pride. The narcissist displays all of these characteristics in that they consider themselves to be better, more superior than those around them. The haughty narcissist basically has an overall attitude that causes them to scorn others, to see...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    You Can Never Have Me Again.

    It has been years since we've talked... and even longer since we've seen each other. The relationship we shared together was so... just, ****** up. I'm pretty sure we were both in it for the drama. We met through my work back in 2004, but never really started talking until mid 2...
    hardware hardware 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 29, 2011

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    Add to That...

    ...verbal abuse and thirteen years of regular beatings with my younger brother receiving the same, and you'll start to get the picture.
    eleanorssong eleanorssong 56-60, F Sep 27, 2012

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    A New Year.

    I had to take my oldest to the doctor today, which means I had to text message my ex to let him know and ask him to help me with the co pay. It's so strange how well I do when there is absolutely zero contact with him. I start feeling good, strong even, and glad everything is...
    freeeeebird freeeeebird 26-30, F Dec 31, 2012

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    Surviving My Ex Husband

    I am going thru a divorce. I am 26 and have two daughters, one is 4 and the other is 1. I left him about 3 months ago, and came back after 6 weeks, because he had promised he would go to marriage counseling with me. He had both physically and emotionally abused me in the...
    freeeeebird freeeeebird 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    Looking Inside For Answers

    I've already shared an experience on Narcissistic abuse, but wanted to reach out to this forum as well. I'm sure therre are so many men and women out there who are suffering in a toxic relationship, but can't get up the strength to leave because of how terrible they have been...
    jjj1984 jjj1984 26-30, F Nov 24, 2013

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    I'm A Survivor

    I survived and I'm start here , it took me a long time to write this letter as I started and delete it so many time so here gos I was picked on in school due to my bein hard of hearing and bad with my speeh on top of my dyslexia  when your hard of hear you cannt under stand...
    ravennite44 ravennite44 46-50, T 1 Response Dec 25, 2009

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    Emotionally Abused As A Child

    Hi, I'm 32 years old and I'm still very confused about the whole experience I've had when I was a child.My father emotionally abused me.  But I didn't know that what he did was called abuse until very recently.He was extremely controlling, had a very bad temper, he had angry...
    julie295 julie295 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 8, 2012

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    No More "mr. Nice Guy"

    Who am I...What are my capabilities...do I even have any ... or am I just an empty shell after 26 years of living the "reign of terror? These questions I ask myself daily> It is my way of trying to validate that I am still a person & still worthy! Granted there are...
    easterngoatgirl easterngoatgirl 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 24, 2009

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    I don't know if I'm better with

    or without on medication. The whole trial and error with meds just doesn't seem worth it anymore.
    azigzaggylyss azigzaggylyss 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    I was in an abusive relationship.

    She was my best friend, and I thought it was normal when she poked fun at me. We got closer and it got worse. For the past year when we hung out she just kept telling me about all the people that we both knew that turns out didn't like me. She'd tell me that everyone hated me...
    jentile jentile 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Self

    I emotionally abuse myself. I've tried to change, just like I've tried to stop being broken inside, depressed, or pessimistic. It doesn't work. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for a few years because I felt I deserved it, but it was too much with my own abuse of...
    mononoaware mononoaware 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 9, 2012

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    All of the abuse, the trauma,

    is messing with my body. I can't eat. I can't sleep. I'm losing my memory, day by day. I'm scared of what's going to happen.
    nikknikk nikknikk 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 2

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    Still Here

    I am still alive and kicking after everything i been through. Shot at, stabbed, getting in fights everyday, parents abusive, brother abusive. All good i am still here.
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M 8 Responses Mar 22, 2010

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    Im Out Now But For How Long???

    was it me or was it them? am i really as horrible as they claim i am? free now, but still hurting, doubting, healing...will i trust someone enough to try again and if i do will i be able to find a healthy relationship???
    drowningkoala drowningkoala 22-25 2 Responses Aug 22, 2009

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    Or did i ?????? Data says no

    yet i breathe for pals. The debate continues. More data sought.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Jul 30

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    Why I Smile.

    I choose to smile because I know that negative emotions only last as long as I let them. So he who attempts to rain on my life ... it won't work. I choose to smile because smiling is contagious and can quite possibly make someone else’s day brighter. I want to make that...
    Darkchild29 Darkchild29 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 29, 2012

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    I listened to Rebecca black

    and Justin beiber for two hours straight during a dare. 😑😱
    Pandainpinktutu Pandainpinktutu 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 10

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    I understand it's no one

    but my abusers fault, and my choice and path to help myself out of this vicious cycle of depreciating myself worth and letting it get to me. It feels like several years of accepting and calling out my abuser for what she is and, getting the much needed counseling needed, and...
    ellequence ellequence 26-30, F Apr 28

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    I just recently got out of a relationship

    that lasted a little over a year. Honestly I thought he was the most perfect guy ever... Until he'd get mad... He'd take every single insecurity I ever told him and throw it at my face. He'd yell and tell me I was incapable of being loved by anyone but him... It wasn't all bad...
    LilMissMandy LilMissMandy 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    Basic Story Of My Abuse

    I was abused by a step-father from the age of seven to eleven. I was told everyday that if I told anyone that I would be killed. For five years I dealt with the physical abuse, mental torture and abuse. He would beat me and laugh at me. He found out I was afraid of mice and he...
    Brokenlikeaturtleshell Brokenlikeaturtleshell 36-40, F Sep 9, 2012

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    I wouldn't say that I survived it.

    .. I still suffer from the after effects... The deeply imbedded worthlessness ... My horrible stepfather who my mother remains married to even after 33 years of insanity....
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 10

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    2 Long Years Of Fear, Physical Abuse And Heartbreak Which Ended In A Good Way With A Surprising Twist.

    I moved to Europe 3 years ago and felt lonely there. After a while, I met this man. He was older than me but he seemed nice. He owned a video store and I rented movies regularly. He was very friendly with me, sometimes too friendly as if flirting but I blew it off and kinda...
    euroljepotica10 euroljepotica10 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 5, 2011

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    At first glance the narcissist appears to the

    unsuspecting onlooker as being full of self-control; they come across as charismatic, educated, confidant, charming, and sociable. However whenever the narcissist shows an interest in someone, it is not as innocent as it first appears. Because of their obsessive need for...
    rcp10 rcp10 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    How I Survived.

    My survival wasn't due to defending myself and being feisty against my ex, well in the beginning it was like that. But near the end, my only survival was to shut off all my emotions and feelings completely. I became a shell of myself, almost like my spirit had left my body. I was...
    FadedSilhouette FadedSilhouette 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 25, 2013

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    Four Years Is Too Long...

    ...But then again, so is any length of time. Now I'm convinced that I'm a fat, psychotic, evil woman who can never be loved. I'm also afraid to date other people because I'm not willing to find myself chained in a relationship where I'm supposed to be doing all the work, and...
    Voodoolou Voodoolou 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2009

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    (empowerment) You Are Not Crazy - Recognizing That You've Been The Victim Of Abuse

    These are two links I found invaluable for understanding and escaping from the dynamics of abuse, as well as identifying abusive people and situations in general. Abusers will almost always try and convince their victims that they're the ones doing something wrong and "causing...
    MovingForward28 MovingForward28 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 3, 2010

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    Did I Get Abused ?

    J and I met through a set up in 2009 . I was 25 and he was 29 years old , it went really fast and he was really amazing . Just very romantic , loved me and was just very into me . But he showed signs of a short temper , being embarrassed of me not finishing my meals when we went...
    gem84 gem84 26-30 3 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    Daughter Of Narcissist- To The Core

    I also hide in my room as a teenager to get away from my mom. She wouldn't leave me alone! she would do anything to get empathy from me, to 'feel nurtured' when she clearly couldn't even see i was there.. she just used me like a teddy bear, blind completely to how i felt. I...
    jmpayne jmpayne 22-25 1 Response Jan 22, 2011

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    Surviving .... Ing. Always.

    I'm constantly reminding myself because I like to go into denial I like to pretend it didn't happen to me that it couldn't possibly be my life. I reread articles and talk to people who have gone thru similar situations The more subtle forms of emotional abuse can be the...
    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I Kept It Secret

    since today i have been wondering why the heck i didnt talk to anybody about the fact that i was abused to any adult or person that might have helped me out of it... i guess i was to scared or something but i cant believe its only now that i realize what a fool i was to not tell...
    Scarlettshadowkeeper Scarlettshadowkeeper 16-17 2 Responses May 1, 2012

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    In the family. It all started with my family.

    The threats, bullying, verbal abuse, everything started with the family. They don't care about me all they care about is themselves.
    Athlete2012 Athlete2012 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 3

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    Am Considering Therapy

    Have any of you found therapy to be benificial? Its been almost a year since I left my abusive ex and I'm still finding I actually miss him sometimes, much like a need to feed an unhealthy addiction. I still find that the damage he caused seems infinite, and know it is...
    parasitehostess parasitehostess 22-25, F 9 Responses Oct 19, 2009

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    I still have night terrors about the abuse I

    went through. My partner says I will cry in my sleep. He is worried because I still will look over my shoulder even without having contact from my abuser after 2 years. My mother was suppose to be there for me, to guide me and help me become an adult. Instead she was so...
    ellequence ellequence 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    Survive.

    Survive, its all I have to do. All I can do. "You're nothing, and never will be anything!", screamed my dad. I don't think I did anything to deserve it this time. But just like all the other times I didnt do anything. I got it anyway. A little girl, self-conscious of her...
    BelievingButterfly BelievingButterfly 22-25, F May 21, 2013

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    My Mum Is An Mental And Emotional Abuser.

    I'm 16. So of course i still live at home, but from what it looks like to everyone else, it is not the same as it is when no one is around. From about the time i was 8, it was like my mum just started hating me for no reason. It gets worse and worse as years go on and on. My mum...
    Llaylla Llaylla 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 24, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    For sexual, I was at a party and I remember feeling really sick from drinking too much and then I woke up alone in a bad in the house naked. And I went to the bathroom and there...
    newaccountquinnmac12 newaccountquinnmac12 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 2

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    I had recently gotten out of a three year relationship when I met my current husband. He was an old friend, well liked by a lot of people. I thought I knew him. We wound up...
    breakingout2014 breakingout2014 26-30, F Aug 14

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    Is someone please available to talk? I really could use someone to talk to. I had a recent breakup with an abuser. I feel shattered. I feel weak. I feel so alone. He beat me...
    amtired amtired 22-25 8 Responses Aug 18

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    I recently learned that domestic abuse isn't limited to couples , I would never guessed it was also roommates as well. I did a lot of research into this before I figured out that I...
    Lunnaku Lunnaku 26-30 1 Response Aug 3

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    I need to get away from the abuse I wish some one would help me I need someone to love me and give me a place to call home
    Mallexx Mallexx 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Right now I'm like sobbing my eyes out as I write this. My dad and I don't get along too well. All he does is complain, yell at me, threaten to hit/abuse me ALL THE TIME. (Even In...
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I thinks it's worst than physical. Although I have not experienced the physical. Sounds heal. Harsh words stick with you for a lifetime. My question is why do I find who are...
    Prettygirl8726 Prettygirl8726 26-30, F 4 Responses a week ago

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