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I Survived Sexless Marriage and Divorce

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    I in a sexless divorce.

    I haven't dated since my divorce was finalized. Before actually.
    boadiccearose boadiccearose 51-55, F Mar 20

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    Pointless Arguments

    Yes, the names have been changed to protect the innocent... Christopher was a high school romance. He was a dark, moody man who I saw as an insecure mess in need of unconditional love and support, and I knew I could change him, make him happy and secure. At the tender age of 18...
    bforpreader bforpreader 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 30, 2009

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    I Am Not Divorced Yet So

    I have known my husband for ten years. He comes from Sri Lanka and was raped by soildiers as a results the war. He has never told me this exactly, but I know enough to know why that he why doesn't want to have sex with me. I broke up with him twice, but we...
    elansdale elansdale 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    And the Light At the End of the Tunnel Is Not An Oncoming Train ....

    So here I am, about 16 months since I last wrote. It's been a long hard haul. The only real constants in my life have been my family and my beloved INTP friend. I have changed jobs twice, moved home three times and, surprising for me, cried bitter tears. I've even broken the...
    Joyspring Joyspring 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 26, 2009

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    "Im in a sexless marriage but I won't cheat on my spouse." The problem you hope to never face but are never prepared to face. Often people are at the end of their rope, having...
    Happablap Happablap 26-30, M 6 Responses Jul 20

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    Almost a month out post divorce. I didn't realize how much you could cram into one month. So overall I would say I am feeling stagnant, however the outside world may see progress...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 10 Responses Jul 7

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    Summoning Reinforcements - Those of you who have been following my story as I extract myself from the clutches of a sexless marriage know the shame my STBX has been inflicting on...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 27 Responses 2 days ago

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    Sexless Marriage is a Biblical Reason for Divorce This is a re-post of a comment I wrote to someone that TheWendigo suggested I post as a story, in case it helps anyone. I am...
    UndefinedValue UndefinedValue 31-35, F 13 Responses Jul 21

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    Baby Steps - Once we acknowledge our sexless marriages will never improve and we need to end our dysfunctional relationships, many of us feel overwhelmed by the seemingly...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    Let me begin by saying how grateful I am for finding this group. I have been in a sexless marriage for 5.5 years now. I have 3 kids (1 from a previous marriageand 2 with my...
    StrongForMyKids StrongForMyKids 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 6

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    Okay, so I was on here a few days ago and told a little about my situation and history. Most people were harsh and judgmental towards me when I admitted to being the one who...
    Nil0 Nil0 46-50, F 12 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    I have lived in what can be called a sexless marriage for over 10 years. My wife lost her libido after our oldest son was born. Then we lost our youngest son to cancer 6 years...
    Carboholic Carboholic 36-40 10 Responses Jul 8

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    What Have You Done? “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -- Eleanor Roosevelt In sexless marriages...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 5 Responses Jul 11

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    Seeking Therapy I’ve made my first step. I am seeing a therapist. This is not to try and repair my sexless marriage. I have realized that my sex life, the passion, the lust...
    Adam4Eve Adam4Eve 46-50, M 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have been married for over 15 years, have two wonderful children, but I live with the hurt and humiliation of a sexless marriage. In fact, we have NEVER consummated our marriage...
    BucketFiller BucketFiller 41-45, F 27 Responses Jul 13

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    I posted a couple of weeks ago about needing to start divorce planning because of my sexless marriage. I've started an exit plan, shoved some money aside when I can, but I just...
    Feelingnotsogreat Feelingnotsogreat 41-45, M 15 Responses 6 days ago

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    Am a Woman In a Sexless Marriage I Pretend - I fake to get along with my husband ..... I would try to talk to him about why there is no sex in our marriage ... I complained...
    Asianblue Asianblue 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 9

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    My college sweetheart and I have been married 21 years and we have three children (11-20). My wife desires no sex. I pay very close attention to and meet her needs in all other...
    NoTalkJustDo NoTalkJustDo 41-45, M 10 Responses Jul 13

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    Hello all you wonderful EP folks, I have another update on my formerly sexless marriage. If you want the back story, read my previous posts as they will shed light on the progress...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 11 Responses Jul 14

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    I think the problem with my sexless marriage is not the fact that it's sexless, but the fact that it's a marriage. The wedding of a non-union. What is not united should not be...
    Aeonian Aeonian 51-55, M 23 Responses a week ago

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    While this is about a sexless relationship, not a sexless marriage, there is an important lesson in here for those in sexless relationships because your partners claim that you...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 11 Responses Jul 13

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    The chamber is empty, all the bullets have been fired, and the marriage has breathed it's last! I've got no shortage of dates and fun and friends, I wake up every day smiling, no...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 31-35, M 11 Responses Jul 17

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    My name is Ryan, i love in a sexless marrage. If you havent guessed I'm gay and been arried for ruffly 5 months now and I have had sex just a gathering of 5 times since Feb 28th...
    RY0RY RY0RY 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    It's Complicated I'm in a sexless marriage, and it's complicated, probably not unlike a lot of people here. I've been married for 28 years, and the last eight years have been...
    LightAtNight LightAtNight 51-55 8 Responses Jul 3

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    I am married but I live in a Sexless Marriage. Most of time I even live alone. I am so sad. I am not young anymore. Worst thing is I still look young and good-looking. I had crush...
    jackieLu jackieLu 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 5

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    I have posted a couple of times about my refuser and our sexless marriage, but feel compelled to post an update. We are in marriage counseling, and she is also getting some...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 16 Responses Jul 5

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    I just want to say thank you to all of you who have shared your experiences with me. Because of you I am not waiting 40 years in a sexless marriage hoping he will change. He's...
    wantingtobehappy84 wantingtobehappy84 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    Since finding out about the pmdd things have been steady., and satisfying. My H has noticed me getting attention (such as looks and what not) from other men. It has made him very...
    fantisizer fantisizer 26-30, F 9 Responses Jul 16

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    I am so glad I left my BS marriage! 😃 It feels great to say that I am no longer in a sexless marriage!
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 20 Responses 6 days ago

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    Does a sexless marriage makes an unhappy marriage ?
    June4U June4U 22-25, F 24 Responses 4 days ago

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    I don't live in a completely sexless marriage. But I live in a marriage where I am rejected if I make the first move and we only have sex if he wants to, which is rare. This means...
    lisanalfie lisanalfie 36-40, F 24 Responses 1 day ago

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    I also posted this in the midlife crisis section. Just looking for hope The Best of My Life, Is the Rest of My Life" = my affirmation. I heard this on Joel O'Steen a few weeks...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 1

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    I was reading different peoples posts and started thinking that it is interesting how our wants and needs in the bedroom vary greatly. What turns one person on might offend someone...
    RMCG RMCG 51-55, F 10 Responses Jul 2

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    I've been in a sexless marriage/relationship for 14 years: all of my 30's and now into my mid-40's. It's a total mind-****. if it weren't for my drive to get pregnant, have kids...
    thruwithblue thruwithblue 41-45, F 11 Responses Jul 2

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    I did live in a sexless marriage. It was and still is the lowest point of my life. And I am glad I finally kicked that ***** out of my life. It took a long time, and nearly all my...
    TheEppy TheEppy 31-35, M 6 Responses Jul 5

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    Day seven of our romantic vacation and still no passion. Well I'm thinking about giving up on this relationship. We ( my wife of 9 years and myself) have had three nights to our...
    HenryMiller04 HenryMiller04 46-50, M 23 Responses Jul 10

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    The most posts I see on this is the sexless marriage . Wow and I thought I was alone. Who knew
    fantasythoughts fantasythoughts 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11

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    Its weird reading these type of stories/experience. If both of you guys are not happy, you should be mature enough to talk about it and leave each other. If there are kids involved...
    fromBK718 fromBK718 26-30, M 12 Responses Jul 13

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    I am sort of seeing my part in the sexless marriage dynamic. I really felt confused for so long as to how I added to the problem and my therapist said 'the God's honest truth is...
    bluegreenseascape bluegreenseascape 46-50, F 12 Responses Jul 14

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    For those of us who have (mostly) come to terms with our sexless marriages: I Say-Who Needs Sex Anyway EP Link
    icDavey icDavey 56-60, M 10 Responses Jul 15

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    Been awhile since I've posted anything. I just wanted to give everyone an update and a few words for the ones who are still stuck. Leaving was, and is the best thing that I've...
    dy958 dy958 26-30, F 8 Responses Jul 15

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    I'm not married but I know if I lived in a sexless marriage I would either want out or at least try something.
    notsofab notsofab 16-17, F 9 Responses Jul 16

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    I'm going on a vacation.Today I bought a one way ticket for my daughter and I. I was offered a room for a month in a Victorian mansion for a steal. I was kissed by fortune to find...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 12 Responses Jul 18

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    I left a 4-year sexless marriage 2 months ago and after a month of crying and mourning, I start to feel happy again. I also started dating again. However, I recently went to pick...
    PerseveringMark PerseveringMark 31-35 12 Responses Jul 20

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    Ive been in a sexless marriage for almost as long as ive been married. My wife has no interest in sex or romance what so ever. Ive never physically cheated on my wife yet but...
    InTheDogHouse InTheDogHouse 51-55, M 7 Responses Jul 20

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