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I Survived Sexless Marriage and Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 33 People

    And the Light At the End of the Tunnel Is Not An Oncoming Train ....

    So here I am, about 16 months since I last wrote. It's been a long hard haul. The only real constants in my life have been my family and my beloved INTP friend. I have changed jobs twice, moved home three times and, surprising for me, cried bitter tears. I've even broken the...
    Joyspring Joyspring 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 26, 2009

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    Pointless Arguments

    Yes, the names have been changed to protect the innocent... Christopher was a high school romance. He was a dark, moody man who I saw as an insecure mess in need of unconditional love and support, and I knew I could change him, make him happy and secure. At the tender age of 18...
    bforpreader bforpreader 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 30, 2009

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    I Am Not Divorced Yet So

    I have known my husband for ten years. He comes from Sri Lanka and was raped by soildiers as a results the war. He has never told me this exactly, but I know enough to know why that he why doesn't want to have sex with me. I broke up with him twice, but we...
    elansdale elansdale 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    I in a sexless divorce.

    I haven't dated since my divorce was finalized. Before actually.
    boadiccearose boadiccearose 51-55, F Mar 20

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    Related Experiences

    Moving on: I am packing up my office and my home this week. I am moving out of state and starting a new job. ( I have posted part of this update a little earlier.) But a posting...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 7

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    Summoning Reinforcements - Those of you who have been following my story as I extract myself from the clutches of a sexless marriage know the shame my STBX has been inflicting on...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 27 Responses Jul 28

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    Sexless Marriage is a Biblical Reason for Divorce This is a re-post of a comment I wrote to someone that TheWendigo suggested I post as a story, in case it helps anyone. I am...
    UndefinedValue UndefinedValue 31-35, F 13 Responses Jul 21

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    Baby Steps - Once we acknowledge our sexless marriages will never improve and we need to end our dysfunctional relationships, many of us feel overwhelmed by the seemingly...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 10 Responses Jul 26

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    So last night my sister and her beau were here spending the night from out of town (had a funeral to go to.) We were chatting, and H says he "uglified" himself to try to get rid of...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 10 Responses 4 days ago

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    Okay, so I was on here a few days ago and told a little about my situation and history. Most people were harsh and judgmental towards me when I admitted to being the one who...
    Nil0 Nil0 46-50, F 12 Responses Jul 30

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    I haven't had sex with my wife in almost a year. In the meantime I've cheated on her with other men about 6 times. After being not just sexless but affection less for over 6 months...
    Jasonpresten2 Jasonpresten2 31-35, M 8 Responses Aug 3

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    Seeking Therapy I’ve made my first step. I am seeing a therapist. This is not to try and repair my sexless marriage. I have realized that my sex life, the passion, the lust...
    Adam4Eve Adam4Eve 46-50, M 8 Responses Jul 24

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    Here goes...I found EP doing a search about sexless marriages so here I am, my first story. I've been married 15 years to a man who in the beginning had me believing he could not...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 13 Responses 6 days ago

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    I posted a couple of weeks ago about needing to start divorce planning because of my sexless marriage. I've started an exit plan, shoved some money aside when I can, but I just...
    Feelingnotsogreat Feelingnotsogreat 41-45, M 14 Responses Jul 24

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    I just came to EP, looking for solace as a OW. I found myself looking at "I live in a sexless marriage" stories. Made me think, 49k people have something to say. Maybe, just maybe...
    greeneyes41 greeneyes41 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    Hello everyone. I've not been here in over a year. If you read my other two post then I can tell you that nothing has changed. Same S different day as they say. It is now my...
    IrisROE IrisROE 56-60, F 14 Responses Aug 6

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    I am in a sexless marriage that leaves that part of me completely unsatisfied, yet i cannot leave my husband because i love and respect him in every other way... I have a very high...
    AphroditeComplex AphroditeComplex 22-25, F 9 Responses Aug 9

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    I'm a woman age 40 in a sexless marriage. Married almost four years and I bet we haven't even had sex two dozen times; sleep in separate beds, but I love him still. Well, I've...
    blondi73 blondi73 36-40, F 10 Responses 6 days ago

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    I think the problem with my sexless marriage is not the fact that it's sexless, but the fact that it's a marriage. The wedding of a non-union. What is not united should not be...
    Aeonian Aeonian 51-55, M 23 Responses Jul 24

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    I live in a sexless marriage because I don't even have a husband and I'm not even married ._. ...... I live in a sexless marriage -crys
    ponycupcake ponycupcake 18-21, F 10 Responses Aug 4

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    I have an idea that will solve all of our sexless marriage problems. Let's start a sexless marriage group meeting next door to the sexaholics anonymous meeting. If were lucky it...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    Short comings, short sex drive, short of expressing love are all part of Sexless Marriage. Denial and refusal are very familiar. Pay attention to your spouse's messages. My s/m...
    musicinme musicinme 56-60, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Hello...I just joined and I'm in a sexless marriage...UGH...I'm not really happy being in this marriage..this is not what I want in a marriage..there is no closeness with my...
    kimmmmmy kimmmmmy 41-45, F 30 Responses Aug 5

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    I am so glad I left my BS marriage! 😃 It feels great to say that I am no longer in a sexless marriage!
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 19 Responses Jul 24

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    Does a sexless marriage makes an unhappy marriage ?
    June4U June4U 22-25, F 26 Responses Jul 27

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    I don't live in a completely sexless marriage. But I live in a marriage where I am rejected if I make the first move and we only have sex if he wants to, which is rare. This means...
    lisanalfie lisanalfie 36-40, F 27 Responses Jul 29

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    My Story Part 1 I joined the group shortly after I decided what I do about my sexless marriage. I did not need to vent but just wanted some communication and the only one...
    TheFullMoon TheFullMoon 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    Before my second marriage last year, we agreed it would be a sexless marriage. Companionship, travel, respect, and sharing are so important. We ask the Lord for His guidance and...
    Len1932 Len1932 70+, M 15 Responses Aug 4

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    Sexless Marriage may have been just the start. I have just about accepted that as long as I’m married there will be no sex. Given some special circumstances, I cannot leave...
    actionjake actionjake 56-60, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Oh well my secret is out and as much as I hate to say it I live in a sexless marriage. My story does not quite start like a fairytale as when we met we were both recovering from...
    mysteryjourney mysteryjourney 36-40, M 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Well, I just got back from an amazing eve. It was a first date so to speak. A guy I met a few months back at a music festival I attended ( ok Coachella). We 'd been trying to...
    Jane1024 Jane1024 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 21

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    I grew up where men were men, stiff upper lip, never show emotions, it's weakness. This was beaten into me. And it was the same for the women (Siblings) never talk emotions, sweep...
    celtusa celtusa 46-50, M 10 Responses Jul 21

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    I've only been married 9 months and I am in a sexless marriage. We are "trying to have a baby" and it feels like I have to force my husband to have sex. We maybe have sex once a...
    firefly83 firefly83 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 23

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    How do you establish what your time limit should be? . Many of you in this group have suggested to set a time limit on how long you are willing to live in the sexless marriage...
    dangerouslyheartbroken dangerouslyheartbroken 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 27

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    Curious. If there are any men here who find themselves to be past the point of a new start due to being unattractive to women generally, how do you envision your life post-sexless...
    novembercomingfire novembercomingfire 41-45 18 Responses Jul 29

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    recently i was in a serious car accident , and of course it has been very traumatic and this is a time more than ever that i need my wife to be there for me to provide some love...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 19 Responses Jul 29

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    http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2014/06/7-ways-to-avoid-having-a-sexless-marriage/
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 30

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    So I was on here struggling with the topics of living in a sexless marriage, being sexually frustrated and feeling disrespected not too long ago. Although I would still love much...
    picadilly1970 picadilly1970 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 30

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    I live in a sexless marriage. I have been married for 20 years. My wife don't like intimacy and she does not like to be touched. I'm lucky if we have sex once a month. We have...
    davidlonnie davidlonnie 36-40 8 Responses Aug 3

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    "I don't like me. I also, despite my outward persona, think I am the most important to ever breathe air." I read this on a blog. It resonated with me, maybe it will resonate...
    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 6

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    Hi I'm a Christian husband in a sexless marriage. the problem im running into is my wife has been giving me excuses for years now. She has the same excuses like, tired, headache...
    qonfused qonfused 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 6

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    My hubby came home from a long stressful day at work. Had a couple of drinks, the usual come down after that kind of day. Kids were still awake. When it was time to go to bed, I...
    Jane1024 Jane1024 36-40, F 25 Responses Aug 8

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    i m living a sexless marriage from last 1 year. am tired and frustrated with this
    marierosemario marierosemario 31-35, F Aug 8

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    How many of us refused have trust issues with our spouse. While she says she has never cheated, and I have no proof or even small clues, I just have a suspicion that eats away at...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M Aug 12

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    Well here it goes,... I Live in a sexless Marriage! I have never admitted it to anyone. I HATE it!! I have been married for 28 years and I have four kids, 3 college and one in...
    mizazzy mizazzy 46-50, F 23 Responses 5 days ago

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    it's been quite awhile since I have posted on here...probably months now...last time I had just had a really bad day and vented on here and got some really hurtful private messages...
    suenit suenit 56-60, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    This may be helpful for those who are planning to divorce. " Getting Divorced? Don't Be Nice ...I regularly hear people tell me they want to be nice to their soon-to-be ex. They...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Jul 24

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