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I Survived Sexless Marriage and Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 32 People

    And the Light At the End of the Tunnel Is Not An Oncoming Train ....

    So here I am, about 16 months since I last wrote. It's been a long hard haul. The only real constants in my life have been my family and my beloved INTP friend. I have changed jobs twice, moved home three times and, surprising for me, cried bitter tears. I've even broken the...
    Joyspring Joyspring 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 26, 2009

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    Pointless Arguments

    Yes, the names have been changed to protect the innocent... Christopher was a high school romance. He was a dark, moody man who I saw as an insecure mess in need of unconditional love and support, and I knew I could change him, make him happy and secure. At the tender age of 18...
    bforpreader bforpreader 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 30, 2009

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    I in a sexless divorce.

    I haven't dated since my divorce was finalized. Before actually.
    boadiccearose boadiccearose 51-55, F Mar 20

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    I Am Not Divorced Yet So

    I have known my husband for ten years. He comes from Sri Lanka and was raped by soildiers as a results the war. He has never told me this exactly, but I know enough to know why that he why doesn't want to have sex with me. I broke up with him twice, but we...
    elansdale elansdale 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    Seeking Therapy I’ve made my first step. I am seeing a therapist. This is not to try and repair my sexless marriage. I have realized that my sex life, the passion, the lust...
    Adam4Eve Adam4Eve 46-50, M 4 Responses 56 mins ago

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    I think the problem with my sexless marriage is not the fact that it's sexless, but the fact that it's a marriage. The wedding of a non-union. What is not united should not be...
    Aeonian Aeonian 51-55, M 14 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    "Im in a sexless marriage but I won't cheat on my spouse." The problem you hope to never face but are never prepared to face. Often people are at the end of their rope, having...
    Happablap Happablap 26-30, M 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    Almost a month out post divorce. I didn't realize how much you could cram into one month. So overall I would say I am feeling stagnant, however the outside world may see progress...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 10 Responses Jul 7

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    I lived in a sexless marriage for ten years. But when the divorce and custody battle came, it was infinitely worse than the marriage ever could have been. I watched the child I...
    hypersex1111 hypersex1111 51-55, M 8 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Sexless Marriage is a Biblical Reason for Divorce This is a re-post of a comment I wrote to someone that TheWendigo suggested I post as a story, in case it helps anyone. I am...
    UndefinedValue UndefinedValue 31-35, F 12 Responses 3 days ago

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    Let me begin by saying how grateful I am for finding this group. I have been in a sexless marriage for 5.5 years now. I have 3 kids (1 from a previous marriageand 2 with my...
    StrongForMyKids StrongForMyKids 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 6

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    I never thought that I would be in a situation like this. I was raised in a strict Christian family that honed in on the importance of being a "good girl". My 1st marriage ended in...
    BHEwife BHEwife 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 30

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    I was in a sexless marriage for 10 years. Then the rat had the nerve to cheat on me with an 18 year old (he was almost 40.) 2 years after our divorce and I'm free to find love...
    Nikki351 Nikki351 31-35, F 6 Responses Jun 28

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    I have lived in what can be called a sexless marriage for over 10 years. My wife lost her libido after our oldest son was born. Then we lost our youngest son to cancer 6 years...
    Carboholic Carboholic 36-40 11 Responses Jul 8

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    What Have You Done? “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -- Eleanor Roosevelt In sexless marriages...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 5 Responses Jul 11

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    I have been married for over 15 years, have two wonderful children, but I live with the hurt and humiliation of a sexless marriage. In fact, we have NEVER consummated our marriage...
    BucketFiller BucketFiller 41-45, F 28 Responses Jul 13

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    I think the hardest thing for me, looking back on how I got into a sexless marriage, was that it was a long slow process (a death by a thousand cuts). In some ways it would have...
    runninginthedark70 runninginthedark70 41-45, M 10 Responses Jun 25

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for 14 years. It started going down hill within the first year and I knew then something wasn't right. I've poured my heart out to him so many times...
    ABlueChristine ABlueChristine 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 29

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    My college sweetheart and I have been married 21 years and we have three children (11-20). My wife desires no sex. I pay very close attention to and meet her needs in all other...
    NoTalkJustDo NoTalkJustDo 41-45, M 10 Responses Jul 13

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    I don't know what experience I joined that brought such an onslaught of circle requests....although I'm guessing it had the word naked in it.....and damn near everyone of them...
    yellowroom yellowroom 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 24

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    The Next Bit Starts With You. Here you are, having joined this group. You've already attempted "scented candles" strategies, "counselling" strategies, "REALLY talking to them...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 10 Responses Jun 24

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    Hello all you wonderful EP folks, I have another update on my formerly sexless marriage. If you want the back story, read my previous posts as they will shed light on the progress...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 13 Responses Jul 14

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    How long can you be beaten down? How long can you be made to feel unimportant and useless? How long do you have to suffer in a marriage that has no hope? How long do you have to...
    Cmknewyork Cmknewyork 41-45, M 8 Responses Jul 8

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    While this is about a sexless relationship, not a sexless marriage, there is an important lesson in here for those in sexless relationships because your partners claim that you...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 11 Responses Jul 13

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    What does a normal, happy marriage look like? I've been comparing and contrasting my relationship with my husband vs my relationship with my AP. Husband: Separate rooms for 7...
    Blue2014 Blue2014 41-45, F 12 Responses Jun 26

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    The chamber is empty, all the bullets have been fired, and the marriage has breathed it's last! I've got no shortage of dates and fun and friends, I wake up every day smiling, no...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 31-35, M 11 Responses 6 days ago

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    My name is Ryan, i love in a sexless marrage. If you havent guessed I'm gay and been arried for ruffly 5 months now and I have had sex just a gathering of 5 times since Feb 28th...
    RY0RY RY0RY 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    It's Complicated I'm in a sexless marriage, and it's complicated, probably not unlike a lot of people here. I've been married for 28 years, and the last eight years have been...
    LightAtNight LightAtNight 51-55 8 Responses Jul 3

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    We almost have it all. Perfect family, home, financially secure, adventurous lifestyle fishing, 4wd almost every weekend but we have not been intimate other than kissing for more...
    Hussy2016 Hussy2016 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 25

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    I am married but I live in a Sexless Marriage. Most of time I even live alone. I am so sad. I am not young anymore. Worst thing is I still look young and good-looking. I had crush...
    jackieLu jackieLu 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 5

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    I have posted a couple of times about my refuser and our sexless marriage, but feel compelled to post an update. We are in marriage counseling, and she is also getting some...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 17 Responses Jul 5

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    I just want to say thank you to all of you who have shared your experiences with me. Because of you I am not waiting 40 years in a sexless marriage hoping he will change. He's...
    wantingtobehappy84 wantingtobehappy84 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 16

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    Since finding out about the pmdd things have been steady., and satisfying. My H has noticed me getting attention (such as looks and what not) from other men. It has made him very...
    fantisizer fantisizer 26-30, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    Hey I know this website isn't for this, so ignore it if you're not interested. But there are a lot of people on here with the title "I Live In A Sexless Marriage". If you look at...
    Neglectedlover Neglectedlover 36-40, M 4 Responses Jun 24

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    I am in a loveless, sexless marriage with a woman I love very much - she will not return the favor...
    Artcoo Artcoo 51-55, M 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Steve Maraboli He has some good thoughts that seem to apply (to mine at least) sexless marriages.
    n44wwep n44wwep 51-55, M 2 Responses Jun 26

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    It's a very tempting time. With summer here I feel as if my eyes have just opened to the world. Everywhere there are beautiful women walking and my mind had been wandering and I...
    Lovefetishes Lovefetishes 46-50, M 9 Responses Jun 26

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    Things are moving rapidly now. For years I tried to get him to understand my pain in being denied sex and my needs. I would tell him the thing I would like most in the world from...
    Aubergine7 Aubergine7 36-40, F 8 Responses Jun 28

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    The "official" definition of a "Sexless Marriage" is having sex less than once a month. What kind of frequency do you prefer and and how infrequent does it have to be before you...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 20 Responses Jun 30

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    I also posted this in the midlife crisis section. Just looking for hope The Best of My Life, Is the Rest of My Life" = my affirmation. I heard this on Joel O'Steen a few weeks...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 1

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    I was reading different peoples posts and started thinking that it is interesting how our wants and needs in the bedroom vary greatly. What turns one person on might offend someone...
    RMCG RMCG 51-55, F 11 Responses Jul 2

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    I've been in a sexless marriage/relationship for 14 years: all of my 30's and now into my mid-40's. It's a total mind-****. if it weren't for my drive to get pregnant, have kids...
    thruwithblue thruwithblue 41-45, F 11 Responses Jul 2

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    I did live in a sexless marriage. It was and still is the lowest point of my life. And I am glad I finally kicked that ***** out of my life. It took a long time, and nearly all my...
    TheEppy TheEppy 31-35, M 7 Responses Jul 5

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    Day seven of our romantic vacation and still no passion. Well I'm thinking about giving up on this relationship. We ( my wife of 9 years and myself) have had three nights to our...
    HenryMiller04 HenryMiller04 46-50, M 23 Responses Jul 10

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    The most posts I see on this is the sexless marriage . Wow and I thought I was alone. Who knew
    fantasythoughts fantasythoughts 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11

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