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I Tend to Have "Friends" Who Use Me

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    Not So Much Anymore

    I guess that's what happens when you're a natural care-giver like me. I just want everyone to be safe, fed, sheltered, and happy. I often over-give of myself to make that happen, and sometimes it bites me in the ***, but as I grow older, I'm learning how to set better boundaries...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 29, 2010

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    "we Should Hang Out At The Weekend!"

    That's what my friend said to me, and I'll admit, I was thrilled that I was being noticed by a friend for once. (Oh and if you're this friend reading this, don't bother telling me on facebook that you're not like this. I've known you too long, love).And then it turns out that she...
    NamiKat NamiKat 16-17 1 Response Feb 13, 2011

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    Use Me, Yes They Do, Why I Tolerate It

    This story goes back 17 years to the present.  Honestly if I'd rather be dead than to have to live my life without friends.  Unfortunately I haven't been able to make friends with the Average Joe type.  The only kind of people that I've been able to make friends...
    lawnmowrman lawnmowrman 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 23, 2009

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    Expendable By All

    The title says it all. My only purpose in life seems to be for everyone I encounter to use me. I'm 19 and going into my sophomore year of college. Ever since I was considered smart by everyone in high school, I've been an academic asset to "friends." People who haven't spoken to...
    AlwaysUsed AlwaysUsed 18-21 Jul 5, 2012

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    It's Odd...

    ...but as I look back over the years I've had quite a few "friends" who totally took advantage of me and used me. Claimed to be my best friend in the world but always made me feel like crap about myself, all the while I'm babysitting their kids for free or taking out...
    TheLibrarian TheLibrarian 36-40, F Feb 23, 2008

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    I have a friend, who I will call Melissa (not her real name) who has more than her share of challenges in life. I have known her most of my life as we attended the same grade...
    ginger1979 ginger1979 41-45, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I have been reading a lot of these posts about passive aggressive mothers and I am shocked to see that I am not alone. I cannot speak to my friends about my experience because they...
    karineka karineka 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    Hi everyone; I have posted a couple responses here, I am very familiar with PA Mothers now. I decided to share my story and see if anyone can relate to mine. For a brief...
    XXwoundedXX XXwoundedXX 51-55, F 5 days ago

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    I'm 55 and a 22-year survivor of ovarian cancer. I'm also a 55-year survivor of a passive-aggressive mother. My mom had a pretty tough childhood, and I am sad to know the awful...
    Katsez01 Katsez01 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    Recently one of my friends told me she wanted to join the Islamic faith. She was raised christian and experienced sunday/saturday/wednesday bible study, camps, etc, and says she...
    spectra51 spectra51 16-17 1 Response Sep 10

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    At 19 years old, I am only now realizing that my mother is extremely passive aggressive. I have always felt oppressed by her and her emotional ups and downs, but am just now...
    hopeful1995 hopeful1995 18-21 3 Responses a week ago

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    Why do so some people who have backyards never use them? Instead, they insist on doing everything out front, on the porch, and annoy the hell out of me and the rest of the block in...
    Cristofori Cristofori 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 30

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    I have had the same fwb for two years now. We grew up together, our mothers were bestfriends, now we see each other every time we both come in from college. I love what we are, but...
    smalltowngirl12 smalltowngirl12 18-21, F Sep 1

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    I have "Buddies" that, you know, just pass them in the hallway, and say "What's up" people that just know my face and say hi. I only have one real friend but now that i'm in high...
    drock1011 drock1011 13-15, M 14 hrs ago

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    I've always have this dream of opening a flower shop near my place because there isn't none over here that's good enough. My plan was to do it together with my best friend. She...
    maryjaneb maryjaneb 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    My first post about my passive aggressive mother, an explanation: EP Link I've been doing some research on passive aggressiveness and found that it's an actual personality...
    Cupcakes95 Cupcakes95 36-40, F Aug 28

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    I have had many women I have dated and especially two that became friends with benefits. I was more serious on my end with these two and was contemplating initiating the "L" &"M...
    xmannos xmannos 36-40, M Aug 29

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    About four years ago my brother told me he wanted to be female. We have never been really close because he is several years older than me and we have never really tried to hang out...
    lilymonet lilymonet 18-21, F Aug 24

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    I know a lot of people with depression. And I love them all so much. But sometimes I feel like a really useless a a friend for them.
    YangXiao YangXiao 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 26

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      My name is Marie and I am 13 years old. I have a 15 year old sister that's bipolar. Everyday she is really mean to me and she says horrible things. She hits me, screams at...
    Miragesnow Miragesnow 13-15, F Aug 19

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    And I seriously could not be happier. Almost two months and he's made me happier than my previous ex's and that's without material objects. Just seeing him makes me feels better...
    EmoSakurachan EmoSakurachan 16-17 1 Response Aug 19

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    Well I have so many friends on here that are that I think makes me eligible to join this group lol Actually I do seem to find them particularly attractive :o)
    chrismarlboro chrismarlboro 51-55, M 1 Response Aug 31

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    I was in first grade computer class. I had to use the bathroom, but the computer teacher wouldn't let me leave, even though I begged. I had no choice but to pee in my pants, right...
    bowlofsurreal bowlofsurreal 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    I don't like that teachers do that with their students. I have been denied as a child and it was not good. They should be more lenient with allowing their students to use the...
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F Sep 1

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    I have a feeling that my relationship with my boyfriend is coming to an end. :( He seems very distant from me. I have not seen or really talked with him in a week. When I text...
    nicolem84 nicolem84 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    My friend got a woman pregnant after dating for about a year. She was so nice and I was happy for him. When she got pregnant he was looking forward to raising the baby, but she...
    LifeDispenser LifeDispenser 31-35, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Danny has LOTS going on. He has a few disorders, OCD, ADHD and depression and he has some other weird things going on from doing bad drugs. The ocd he doesnt like clean everything...
    QuinnMac12 QuinnMac12 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    I seriously f*cking hate sex addiction! It has ruined my life-and my families life! I just beat the crap out of my husband. I didn't even know I had it in me. I left bruises. I'm...
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    I have just told my girlfriend that i like to crossdress and would like some advice from a girl
    JohnnyGpoint JohnnyGpoint 36-40, M Aug 29

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    I know that my mother did drugs while I was a kid I was never informed which ones. I know she was and most likely still is an alcoholic as well. Recently after visiting where she...
    Marie240 Marie240 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 1

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    I really need someone to talk to. I found out my dad is cheating on my mom when I was 14 (now i'm 16) and i've done nothing about it, until 2 months ago. He got a text and I...
    Frederique0000 Frederique0000 16-17, F Sep 10

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    My family has known for a while that our mother has the early onset on Alzheimer's and we have watched her quickly go down hill. Early yesterday she called us and told us that my...
    ColumbiaTiger ColumbiaTiger 41-45, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm feeling confident. I am going to tell my mother about my boyfriend. I don't want her to scare him tho. So I'll have to bite my tongue and deal with it... I want to be with him...
    KittyKatLuvsYhu KittyKatLuvsYhu 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    Although it's unimportant to me, I've seen it tear him apart. He won't have anything to do with me physically since he received the news. 9 months ago, he physically moved out.
    Liaannmarie Liaannmarie 22-25, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    Painter: I am far from a word nazi....but the word Bestie really bothers me. and BFF isnt far behind! On the other hand, If you frequent the word splendid or braggard feel free to...
    PaintedPoemCpl PaintedPoemCpl 36-40 Aug 31

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    We were really close a while back but now it seems like we're just drifting away. Well. It seems like I'm drifting away from them. I hate being alone so knowing this makes me...
    musicislifeandlove musicislifeandlove 13-15, F Aug 23

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    Usually not a big deal bur when it's someone you actually care about it stings anyway.
    warentucker warentucker 22-25 Aug 21

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    My half sis is Bipolar it runs on my dad side of the family.
    Rayven1997 Rayven1997 16-17, F Aug 19

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    Oww my dream relationship !
    fauxlady fauxlady 22-25, F Aug 19

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    I already know that I'm stupid, a disappointment, and a failure. No need to keep repeating it to my face. I already know.
    supahdupahrosie supahdupahrosie 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 27

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    My wife is in love with her hp
    ramlythings ramlythings 61-65, M 1 Response Sep 1

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    I came home find my husband watching a movie in the dark with his daughters 15 yr old best friend with one cushion in between them. This picture was on her page and he liked it.
    kreativebelle kreativebelle 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 5

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    For all of you fighting this, I'm one of you, I write a blog, on how I fight my everyday life.. How I cope with being a full time student and at the same time fighting depression...
    Lily449 Lily449 18-21, F Sep 7

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    My 5 year old brother hates me. He laughs when I get spankings, he throws my stuff, and he cusses at me. He doesn't even get in trouble for that!
    Daddyspanksme Daddyspanksme 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 7

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    I lost my mom today while she was driving a route she has driven for years. She was missing for 3 hrs. I felt responsible as she is in my care. I am not sure how to deal with an...
    odyssey13 odyssey13 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 7

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    She expects me to read her mind when it comes to her wants and needs. If she wants or needs something, and I am busy with something else, she becomes very sarcastic and martyr...
    RTPerry RTPerry 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 11

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    For all of you fighting this, I'm one of you, I write a blog, on how I fight my everyday life.. How I cope with being a full time student and at the same time fighting depression...
    Lily449 Lily449 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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