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I Tend to Have "Friends" Who Use Me

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    "we Should Hang Out At The Weekend!"

    That's what my friend said to me, and I'll admit, I was thrilled that I was being noticed by a friend for once. (Oh and if you're this friend reading this, don't bother telling me on facebook that you're not like this. I've known you too long, love).And then it turns out that she...
    NamiKat NamiKat 16-17 1 Response Feb 13, 2011

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    Use Me, Yes They Do, Why I Tolerate It

    This story goes back 17 years to the present.  Honestly if I'd rather be dead than to have to live my life without friends.  Unfortunately I haven't been able to make friends with the Average Joe type.  The only kind of people that I've been able to make friends...
    lawnmowrman lawnmowrman 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 23, 2009

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    It's Odd...

    ...but as I look back over the years I've had quite a few "friends" who totally took advantage of me and used me. Claimed to be my best friend in the world but always made me feel like crap about myself, all the while I'm babysitting their kids for free or taking out...
    TheLibrarian TheLibrarian 36-40, F Feb 23, 2008

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    Expendable By All

    The title says it all. My only purpose in life seems to be for everyone I encounter to use me. I'm 19 and going into my sophomore year of college. Ever since I was considered smart by everyone in high school, I've been an academic asset to "friends." People who haven't spoken to...
    AlwaysUsed AlwaysUsed 18-21 Jul 5, 2012

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    Not So Much Anymore

    I guess that's what happens when you're a natural care-giver like me. I just want everyone to be safe, fed, sheltered, and happy. I often over-give of myself to make that happen, and sometimes it bites me in the ***, but as I grow older, I'm learning how to set better boundaries...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 29, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    I ended things. We are now friends only. The events leading up to that were convoluted and confusing as usual. So a few days ago we went over to some friends of ours. Our...
    starflower1 starflower1 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    I'm upset with one of my family members. I'm a Christian, and so is my aunt but it seems like our worldviews are completely different. I have a hard time keeping my patience and...
    ifyouseekamyxxx ifyouseekamyxxx 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    It's taken me and my sister a very long time to realise that our mother is passive aggressive. We always thought our mother was selfish and wanted the world to revolve around her...
    Cupcakes95 Cupcakes95 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 31

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    I'm 55 and a 22-year survivor of ovarian cancer. I'm also a 55-year survivor of a passive-aggressive mother. My mom had a pretty tough childhood, and I am sad to know the awful...
    Katsez01 Katsez01 51-55, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    My mother's always been the same way, but I'm not enabling that kind of behavior anymore so anytime she says anything in the form of passive aggressive bs** I call her on it by...
    misternobrain misternobrain 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 31

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    Growing up, I was surrounded by a steady group of friends that loved each other and loved me for who I was. I never felt excluded or judged, or that I had to act as someone I wasn...
    snowflake11114 snowflake11114 22-25, F Aug 15

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    Why do so some people who have backyards never use them? Instead, they insist on doing everything out front, on the porch, and annoy the hell out of me and the rest of the block in...
    Cristofori Cristofori 41-45, M 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I have recently moved and I am attending a new school. I made two great friends who I trust very much.but as soon as summer came they started ignoring me.they don't answer any of...
    reg212 reg212 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    My wife isn't really getting fat at the moment but rather has always been plump. She was only 5'0 tall and 190 pounds when graduating from highschool in 1993. By the time we met in...
    hsnpman hsnpman 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 18

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    I love having a friends with benefits but it can be so nerve wracking. In the past, I have had feelings for a friend with benefit & that didn't turn out so well. I would go over...
    PeaceBatman PeaceBatman 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 3

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    He used to date my best friend, but I also dated his best friend and actually am now :) We really got used to it lol
    DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    I've always have this dream of opening a flower shop near my place because there isn't none over here that's good enough. My plan was to do it together with my best friend. She...
    maryjaneb maryjaneb 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    My first post about my passive aggressive mother, an explanation: EP Link I've been doing some research on passive aggressiveness and found that it's an actual personality...
    Cupcakes95 Cupcakes95 36-40, F 2 days ago

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    I have had many women I have dated and especially two that became friends with benefits. I was more serious on my end with these two and was contemplating initiating the "L" &"M...
    xmannos xmannos 36-40, M 1 day ago

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    I share an apartment with my friends little sister (she's 24). She has just started a full-time (albeit low-paying) job, and I'm doing my phd. All our bills come out of my...
    Lentel Lentel 26-30 1 Response Jul 31

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    At least not on ep. I have yet to meet someone who I would like to get to know more about and who genuinely wants to know more about me.
    iiArial iiArial 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    About four years ago my brother told me he wanted to be female. We have never been really close because he is several years older than me and we have never really tried to hang out...
    lilymonet lilymonet 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    I know a lot of people with depression. And I love them all so much. But sometimes I feel like a really useless a a friend for them.
    YangXiao YangXiao 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I started talking to her awhile back on here because after reading her stories i was confused, i didnt know what to think of what i was reading, so i messaged her and began to chat...
    HowLongWillWeBeWaiting HowLongWillWeBeWaiting 22-25, M Aug 1

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    I have done everything and more and he still wants to die. When my brother came out as FTM you couldn't ask for a more supportive family. My mother and I bought him a new wardrobe...
    imitosis imitosis 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    My dad just started telling me about his College Life and how he used to have really coservative girlfriends. But because they were more into ambition, and my dad supposedly wanted...
    damnwestcoast damnwestcoast 13-15, F Aug 12

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    This topic really interests me. I have had a couple but unfortunately they have fallen for me. At the moment I have a potential two, it's difficult to find someone who does all...
    formieyesonly formieyesonly 41-45, F 12 Responses Aug 16

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      My name is Marie and I am 13 years old. I have a 15 year old sister that's bipolar. Everyday she is really mean to me and she says horrible things. She hits me, screams at...
    Miragesnow Miragesnow 13-15, F Aug 19

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    And I seriously could not be happier. Almost two months and he's made me happier than my previous ex's and that's without material objects. Just seeing him makes me feels better...
    EmoSakurachan EmoSakurachan 16-17 1 Response Aug 19

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    I have a guy friend who's willing to help me with my sexual needs. But I also my have my bestie to have fun with if we feel inclined to indulge in some girly fun. I love having...
    lacess lacess 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Well I have so many friends on here that are that I think makes me eligible to join this group lol Actually I do seem to find them particularly attractive :o)
    chrismarlboro chrismarlboro 51-55, M 3 hrs ago

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    I don't know what to do. I'm at a loss. One is Suicidal, and his father, who has given him everything, had a stroke, is mentally deteriorating, and if his dad dies, he will be...
    hsd73 hsd73 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    This is the way I have come to view my mother at this point. Until recently, I thought it was just bad events in her life that caused my mother to be angry and gloomy everyday...
    SamiSquare SamiSquare 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    I have a feeling that my relationship with my boyfriend is coming to an end. :( He seems very distant from me. I have not seen or really talked with him in a week. When I text...
    nicolem84 nicolem84 26-30, F Aug 19

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    My boyfriend is getting ready to go to college in the fall. He lives about a half an hour 45 minutes away from me. But. I can’t drive. I don’t have my licence yet. I have to...
    maromis maromis 16-17, F Aug 3

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    I'm tired of his stories and false promises and hopes he feeds me. I have given too much and look past him too much.
    Cagedbird2 Cagedbird2 16-17, F Aug 6

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    She's cool and sexy (a lesbian) I secretly like her for her very attractive personality, she always got her perfect gesture with no certain purpose. We've built a perfect...
    Luluge Luluge 22-25, F Aug 7

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    I have one and love it! We both are and let our gfs that visit enjoy the freedom as well.
    wendy4k9 wendy4k9 31-35, F 7 Responses Aug 12

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    She and her new found lover do not know that I know... The question for me is when I confront them both and destroy his wife's world as well... I will have my day...
    HPage HPage 46-50, M 6 Responses Aug 15

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    Danny has LOTS going on. He has a few disorders, OCD, ADHD and depression and he has some other weird things going on from doing bad drugs. The ocd he doesnt like clean everything...
    QuinnMac12 QuinnMac12 13-15, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I seriously f*cking hate sex addiction! It has ruined my life-and my families life! I just beat the crap out of my husband. I didn't even know I had it in me. I left bruises. I'm...
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I have just told my girlfriend that i like to crossdress and would like some advice from a girl
    JohnnyGpoint JohnnyGpoint 36-40, M 1 day ago

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    Painter: I am far from a word nazi....but the word Bestie really bothers me. and BFF isnt far behind! On the other hand, If you frequent the word splendid or braggard feel free to...
    PaintedPoemCpl PaintedPoemCpl 36-40 3 hrs ago

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    It is what it is..........................................unfortunately
    sisi19 sisi19 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    We were really close a while back but now it seems like we're just drifting away. Well. It seems like I'm drifting away from them. I hate being alone so knowing this makes me...
    musicislifeandlove musicislifeandlove 13-15, F Aug 23

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    It was back in grade 1. I really had to go to the bathroom but my teacher wouldn't let me. I peed inside my desk & pants. Then she let me go to the bathroom. I got into trouble...
    baraccio baraccio 26-30, M Aug 19

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    Usually not a big deal bur when it's someone you actually care about it stings anyway.
    warentucker warentucker 22-25 Aug 21

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