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I Think About Having An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 21,187 People

    I Know I Am Selfish

    I have thought about this long before I could admit to myself that our marriage is not getting any better. I have tried total commitment. I denied myself of the glory of what women should have under the blessings of marriage. But I just can't be happy with a man i don't have...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 31 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    I Would Realy Love An Affair.....

    I would realy love an affair... to have a boy/girlfriend nobody knows about....I love secrets.
    linda linda 22-25, F 104 Responses Feb 22, 2007

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    Ladies and its with your man !

    !! If you cant take care of business at home and your man needs to use EP to flirt, chat ect with women, well look out im going to get him
    ExtremeNext ExtremeNext 26-30, F 80 Responses Feb 10

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    Hi all anyone in Sydney

    that is married think of having an affair want to chat
    penrithguy2774 penrithguy2774 41-45, M Jul 6

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    I think I've gotten to the point

    that I care about my wife but don't love her. I don't feel loved so I'm not sure that I can love in return. I often wonder that even if I was caught having an affair, it might be good. It might help my wife realize how distant we've become or it may end the relationship which...
    bgood79 bgood79 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 4

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    I have been trying to connect on an emotionally

    intimate level with my wife after we went through a "rough phase" (her lying and cheating mainly). She will not open up to me and told me I should, "find someone else". Who says that?
    Wingsuit Wingsuit 36-40, M 12 Responses May 28

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    When I am angry with my husband I think about

    it a lot. But then I don't think i would ever be able to really lay with another man for a one hitter quitter. It would have to be a real connection there between us. But then I would have to leave my marriage and I'm not sure if I'm at my breaking point to so that just yet... I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Apr 19

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    since almost everyone are making challenges up,

    why not me, the frying bacon with out a shirt on challenge l, who dares me
    garry232 garry232 18-21, M Jun 5

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    I have thought about having an affair a bunch

    of times. I have not been able to for a lot of different reasons. I have wanted to have sex with an old friend I found out was a lot like me. He was into cross dressing and is working to be a full girl. We did go on two dates. The second one we got a little bolder. Now I...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 1 Response May 1

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    I think about having an affair all of the time.

    I need the passion and the excitement that I'm missing. I've had a couple of very short experiences in the past and I was left extremely disappointed.
    Lucca9 Lucca9 36-40, F 55 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    good4nothin1 good4nothin1 31-35, M 1 Response May 21

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    It's not that my marriage is bad

    or my hubby is bad in bed, I just crave something exciting and I just imagine having a fling with someone would be such a thrill!
    sallypaige sallypaige 22-25, F 167 Responses Jan 28

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    My wife and I have broken down some barriers

    and have connected on a bit more intimate side of things. It still hasn't changed my thoughts on finding another lover to share some things the wife just can't accept. Thoughts on how to keep another lover from the wife? It would help if she wanted another relationship too. Then...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 4 Responses Jun 15

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    Going To Have An Affair

    I am definitely looking to having an affair. 7 years into my lonely marriage, I discovered that my husband is incapable of meaning ful type of communication. He finds conversing with my tortuous and draining. I used to take it personally, but now I understand about...
    survivor23 survivor23 36-40, F 132 Responses Oct 21, 2009

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    my wife is the only woman I have every had sex

    with. sometimes I wish I had more sexual experiences. Most times I keep thinking about going on one of those sex sites and just go have sex with a random person.
    Aaronns Aaronns 36-40, M 5 Responses Jun 22

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    Just something for some release.

    NSA type of connection.
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M Jun 22

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    I'm very tempted.... I know that

    if someone came on strong, it would be tough to say no. I'm actually hoping by being here and actually admitting it that I can work through it a little. Fortunately (or unfortunately depending on your view, I guess) the friends I hang out with keep me out of trouble. I am...
    JustJon707 JustJon707 46-50, M 2 Responses May 9

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    I wish I could find someone around my age

    who would be interested in something like this. It's not something you want to just come out and ask someone but it would be nice to get some attention from someone who liked me.. Just sayin:/
    jussme91 jussme91 22-25, F 10 Responses Jan 23

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    mowyn mowyn 22-25, M May 14

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    I love sex. Not always with my husband.

    I love thinking about it, talking about it, and doing it. I am a very sexual woman who "loves" her husband but doesn't like him much. I have had sex with several men during our 7 year marriage. I travel for work and I am always looking for the next guy. I don't know why I do...
    Houzofsex Houzofsex 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    No Thinking About It Anymore ..... It'S Done

    Ladies Night always tends to bring out a crowd of people at our local bar. My girlfriends and I decided to go last Wednesday night to let our hair down and enjoy a night out on the town.  It was hot and muggy.  I decided to wear a tank top with a pair of tight blue jeans.  We...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 12 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    Update on my "drama".

    So the wife and I started talking last night. Yes we talked a lot. One of the things we talked about is that little "toy". (Mini vibrator) I got one for us years ago and after a while it broke. So I went and bought a new one. Not a cheap one either. So I have noticed that at...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 13

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    Life After Being In An Affair

    Well, Let me first say I found this site desperately searching for help/strength to get out of an affair I had been having for almost two years with a married man. I have successfully done this and want to share my feelings and experience with those out there struggling in the...
    Lazyw2526 Lazyw2526 46-50, F 24 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    My wife hates sex. Not sure what changed

    but she thinks once every 5 or 6 weeks should be good. She believes that a quick hug and peck on the cheek is intimacy. I explained that her actions would lead me to have an affair and her reply was she would be ok with it and maybe that would be for the best. I have never...
    Geekkillington Geekkillington 36-40, M 6 Responses May 27

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    She did it again! WTH!

    ?! Is it normal for all women to do this to their husbands? I mean let's get real!! I'm not really asking for anything nasty!! No bondage or whips or changes. Just plain sex. I'm not even asking for a BJ! Girls, I flirted with her. Tell her how hot she is. Brush her legs, butt...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 3 Responses Jun 12

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    I've never had an affair

    but I've fantasize about it. I miss the feeling of getting to know someone for the first time, the newness of a relationship. I love my husband and I love all aspects of him. I just miss the feeling of a new relationship. Plus, I'm more aggressive in bed then I was ten years ago...
    girlygirlyNurse girlygirlyNurse 31-35, F 15 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I am married, and we share two mutual friends.

    both are sisters there is our friend, and her sister(woman in question). from the first time I laid eyes upon the woman in question, I developed a instant crush. this was around 8 years ago. my (now wife) was aware of my crush status instantly I never lied to her about it she...
    jtks1987 jtks1987 26-30, M 3 days ago

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    11 years of marriage

    and 3 kids later, I have lost that "being in love" feeling with my husband. I stay, for now, because of my kids. If it weren't for them I would be long gone. I crave intimacy but not with him. I have been having dreams of being with other men. If I could experience again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 27 Responses Apr 29

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    I'm in a lonely place.

    I'm not sure id want sex with anyone, not sure I could do it to my wife but would love to connect with someone and just cuddle and feel that warmth.
    stuographer stuographer 36-40, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    My co worker and I have continued texting

    and exchanging pictures ( his wife is really clingy so we only do it at work or if we know he is completely alone) today he made me feel good--he was checking out my behind and he said how much he wants to grab it...when my own husband won't even stop and grab it anymore! I love...
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 8 Responses Apr 2

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    Are there any ladies out there seriously

    considering it? Im hoping to find someone on here.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 6

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    There's a guy I work with

    that has offered more than once to take me in the back. Why shouldn't i do it? My husband won't touch me...
    HiddenDesires88 HiddenDesires88 26-30, F 21 Responses Jun 28, 2014

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    Hi all I'm looking for someone from Sydney

    Australia if anyone is keen
    penrithguy2774 penrithguy2774 41-45, M 5 days ago

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    I think about it constantly.

    .but I just feel dirty and disgusted with myself for even thinking about it..
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 26 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    I think about this all the time now.

    I want someone to connect with and spice up my life either in person (California Bay Area) or online with pics and fun. I love my wife, but there is no intimacy or really doing anything together anymore... We are both 28 and we only have sex every other month.......... I need...
    jmiloc87 jmiloc87 26-30, M Jul 20

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    Mmmm so today something happened

    that was lovely but dangerous and charming but devious, all at the same time. I didn't tell my boyfriend I got off work early and my married coworker left work early too. We met up at this little bar down the street but the power in the building had been out. The power was...
    Yellowbird1812 Yellowbird1812 26-30, F 19 Responses Mar 7

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    I think I might have already cheated.

    I have never had a chat like that. It turned me on so much. My husband has been turning me down and making me feel like wanting sex is wrong. It just felt good to know I'm not alone. Or some over sexed crazy lady. Or if I am it's not a bad thing. Im having Ideas of going out and...
    beautifly917 beautifly917 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 20, 2014

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    I met my husband four years ago

    and we have been married for two. I am 24 and he is 30. There are 3 babies under the age of 3 involved but so much tension. I feel like we don't get along and we can't agree on anything. While he is the soul provider and I am grateful for how hard working he is he just tears me...
    AmayaHoo AmayaHoo 22-25, F 11 Responses Jun 1

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    I'm craving an emotional online affair,

    is that what it's called lol? I don't want to cheat on my husband, but id like to fulfill my needs as a woman of feeling desired. I'd like to sexually tease someone who actually enjoys it, unlike my husband. I am only 5 lbs over weight from my pre pregnancy body, and last time I...
    Sarahi7 Sarahi7 26-30, F 16 Responses Jul 21

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    I've Been Through It, You Don't Want To Do It........

    As you can tell by my title remorseful refusing wife, I'm the one that had low sexual desire and didn't provide for my husbands needs. I would like to tell you and say right off an affair is the worst thing you could do to your family. You will not think about or even realize...
    RRRW RRRW 46-50, F 15 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    I Do..

    Every time one ends. LOL!
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 14 Responses May 3, 2013

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    So, I struggle with this.

    A few days ago I passed 5 solid unbroken years with no sex. Why? I really don't know. For that you'd have to ask my wife. I'm here for two very small, adorable reasons. My twin boys. But that human imperative tugs and tugs and tugs, doesn't it? The need to feel another human...
    writermonkey13 writermonkey13 46-50, M 8 Responses Jun 16

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    Seeking Anal

                           Being married , I have a want for Anal sex and my husband finds it disgusting. and will not try at all.   I seek men that will be willing to have anal sex with me but will not want regular sex, for that is for my husband.   I have a...
    mrsmarleen mrsmarleen 61-65, F 87 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    Iv been talking to a woman on here

    for a couple of weeks we are both married but we have just clicked we txt each other all the time and talk for hours. She asked me would i be up for an affair as she thinks im hot, i think shes hot to and have loads in common. I agreed to meet her for a drink but i told her i...
    Mysteryman35 Mysteryman35 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 4

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    The Truth Hurts

    I have lived with a man who shows little to no intimacy. He does nothing to try and make me happy. Or does and only returns to the same person he was. I know we can't change ourselves but we can try to make someone happy. How hard is that??? I want love, I want someone I can...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 69 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I mean I don't think I can.

    But I have thought about it. And have tried. I have a guy friend that I have gotten close to. We might even do more than touch each other some time. I want to hold hands. Drink from the same beer bottle. Flirt and flirt some more. I want to hold hands at a bar or touch each...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 1 Response May 27

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