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I Think About Having An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 21,155 People

    I've Been Through It, You Don't Want To Do It........

    As you can tell by my title remorseful refusing wife, I'm the one that had low sexual desire and didn't provide for my husbands needs. I would like to tell you and say right off an affair is the worst thing you could do to your family. You will not think about or even realize...
    RRRW RRRW 46-50, F 15 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    I Think About It But...

    I don't think I'll do it. I don't think I'm capable of doing this to my husband. But I think about it all the time. I feel bad, because I know I'm lucky that my husband is still very attracted to me even after having two kids. But I'm not attracted to him anymore. I'm bored...
    Maritzi Maritzi 31-35, F 17 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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    Hi all anyone in Sydney

    that is married think of having an affair want to chat
    penrithguy2774 penrithguy2774 41-45, M 1 day ago

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    I've never had an affair

    but I've fantasize about it. I miss the feeling of getting to know someone for the first time, the newness of a relationship. I love my husband and I love all aspects of him. I just miss the feeling of a new relationship. Plus, I'm more aggressive in bed then I was ten years ago...
    girlygirlyNurse girlygirlyNurse 31-35, F 15 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I think about this a lot.

    Living in a sexless marriage with a refuser husband is hard. It's sad feeling this alone when he is laying right next to me.
    Eclipsedheart Eclipsedheart 46-50, F 17 Responses Feb 26, 2014

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    I Do..

    Every time one ends. LOL!
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 14 Responses May 3, 2013

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    No. I'm not. But I wanted to say

    that people on here disgust me. Save ONE specific scenario in which there is literally no way out, I personally find it beyond selfish and deplorable for people to step out on their chosen mate. YOU chose them. Why not leave them if you're unhappy? Because you want your cake...
    RationalCutie RationalCutie 22-25, F 78 Responses Feb 9

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    I think I might have already cheated.

    I have never had a chat like that. It turned me on so much. My husband has been turning me down and making me feel like wanting sex is wrong. It just felt good to know I'm not alone. Or some over sexed crazy lady. Or if I am it's not a bad thing. Im having Ideas of going out and...
    beautifly917 beautifly917 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 20, 2014

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    mowyn mowyn 22-25, M May 14

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    Going To Have An Affair

    I am definitely looking to having an affair. 7 years into my lonely marriage, I discovered that my husband is incapable of meaning ful type of communication. He finds conversing with my tortuous and draining. I used to take it personally, but now I understand about...
    survivor23 survivor23 36-40, F 132 Responses Oct 21, 2009

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    The Truth Hurts

    I have lived with a man who shows little to no intimacy. He does nothing to try and make me happy. Or does and only returns to the same person he was. I know we can't change ourselves but we can try to make someone happy. How hard is that??? I want love, I want someone I can...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 70 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I think we have all thought about it at one time

    or another. When you make poor choices you're always left wondering, what if. I just want to feel something have a real connection. I would just like to meet a woman who thinks and feels the same. Sex doesn't have to be the motive but if it was right I think it would be amazing...
    jaymic64 jaymic64 51-55, M 3 Responses Apr 13

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    I met my husband four years ago

    and we have been married for two. I am 24 and he is 30. There are 3 babies under the age of 3 involved but so much tension. I feel like we don't get along and we can't agree on anything. While he is the soul provider and I am grateful for how hard working he is he just tears me...
    AmayaHoo AmayaHoo 22-25, F 12 Responses Jun 1

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    since almost everyone are making challenges up,

    why not me, the frying bacon with out a shirt on challenge l, who dares me
    garry232 garry232 18-21, M Jun 5

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    I wish I could be on a site like this

    and be honest, without all the pervs...sheesh
    LauraTm504 LauraTm504 31-35, F 45 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    My wife and I have broken down some barriers

    and have connected on a bit more intimate side of things. It still hasn't changed my thoughts on finding another lover to share some things the wife just can't accept. Thoughts on how to keep another lover from the wife? It would help if she wanted another relationship too. Then...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 4 Responses Jun 15

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    I have thought about having an affair a bunch

    of times. I have not been able to for a lot of different reasons. I have wanted to have sex with an old friend I found out was a lot like me. He was into cross dressing and is working to be a full girl. We did go on two dates. The second one we got a little bolder. Now I...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 1 Response May 1

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    My wife hates sex. Not sure what changed

    but she thinks once every 5 or 6 weeks should be good. She believes that a quick hug and peck on the cheek is intimacy. I explained that her actions would lead me to have an affair and her reply was she would be ok with it and maybe that would be for the best. I have never...
    Geekkillington Geekkillington 36-40, M 4 Responses May 27

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    So, I struggle with this.

    A few days ago I passed 5 solid unbroken years with no sex. Why? I really don't know. For that you'd have to ask my wife. I'm here for two very small, adorable reasons. My twin boys. But that human imperative tugs and tugs and tugs, doesn't it? The need to feel another human...
    writermonkey13 writermonkey13 46-50, M 8 Responses Jun 16

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    My husband is a workaholic he is unromantic

    and thinks that life should be all about working so our grandchildren which we don't have (I'm 29) can have a better life. I'm all about saving and planning but he forgets about the family he has now. Additionally I find in his phone that he is inappropriately texting other...
    StilettoEsquire StilettoEsquire 26-30, F 30 Responses May 16

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    No Thinking About It Anymore ..... It'S Done

    Ladies Night always tends to bring out a crowd of people at our local bar. My girlfriends and I decided to go last Wednesday night to let our hair down and enjoy a night out on the town.  It was hot and muggy.  I decided to wear a tank top with a pair of tight blue jeans.  We...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 12 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    I have been sexless for almost 4 year snow.

    My husband doesn't have any desire to at least please me. I am fed up for always being like this. I'm tired and cannot take to be ignored, neglected and abandoned. I'm thinking to have someone who will treat me special and provide everything I need.
    Yojj13 Yojj13 31-35, F 23 Responses Jan 6, 2014

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    I'm a married, educated black female

    and I've been having an affair with a divorced 47 y/o white male. We met online started out as friends just someone to help with my loneliness. He was always attentive we laughed and joked together we realized that we were an hour apart he asked if I wanted to meet for dinner I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 57 Responses May 22

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    I wish I could find someone around my age

    who would be interested in something like this. It's not something you want to just come out and ask someone but it would be nice to get some attention from someone who liked me.. Just sayin:/
    jussme91 jussme91 22-25, F 10 Responses Jan 23

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    Life After Being In An Affair

    Well, Let me first say I found this site desperately searching for help/strength to get out of an affair I had been having for almost two years with a married man. I have successfully done this and want to share my feelings and experience with those out there struggling in the...
    Lazyw2526 Lazyw2526 46-50, F 24 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    I love sex. Not always with my husband.

    I love thinking about it, talking about it, and doing it. I am a very sexual woman who "loves" her husband but doesn't like him much. I have had sex with several men during our 7 year marriage. I travel for work and I am always looking for the next guy. I don't know why I do...
    Houzofsex Houzofsex 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I mean I don't think I can.

    But I have thought about it. And have tried. I have a guy friend that I have gotten close to. We might even do more than touch each other some time. I want to hold hands. Drink from the same beer bottle. Flirt and flirt some more. I want to hold hands at a bar or touch each...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 1 Response May 27

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    I have been trying to connect on an emotionally

    intimate level with my wife after we went through a "rough phase" (her lying and cheating mainly). She will not open up to me and told me I should, "find someone else". Who says that?
    Wingsuit Wingsuit 36-40, M 12 Responses May 28

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    Before You Cheat

      BEFORE YOU CHEAT....let me tell you my story of my husband going on a similar group or even this group looking for a woman willing to have sex with him. He found such a woman who was willing to cheat on her husband . I can't tell you the excruciating pain and mind...
    internetsluts internetsluts 46-50 103 Responses Oct 9, 2008

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    secrettCD secrettCD 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 28

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    Ladies and its with your man !

    !! If you cant take care of business at home and your man needs to use EP to flirt, chat ect with women, well look out im going to get him
    ExtremeNext ExtremeNext 26-30, F 79 Responses Feb 10

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    My co worker and I have continued texting

    and exchanging pictures ( his wife is really clingy so we only do it at work or if we know he is completely alone) today he made me feel good--he was checking out my behind and he said how much he wants to grab it...when my own husband won't even stop and grab it anymore! I love...
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 2

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    I think I've gotten to the point

    that I care about my wife but don't love her. I don't feel loved so I'm not sure that I can love in return. I often wonder that even if I was caught having an affair, it might be good. It might help my wife realize how distant we've become or it may end the relationship which...
    bgood79 bgood79 36-40, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Mmmm so today something happened

    that was lovely but dangerous and charming but devious, all at the same time. I didn't tell my boyfriend I got off work early and my married coworker left work early too. We met up at this little bar down the street but the power in the building had been out. The power was...
    Yellowbird1812 Yellowbird1812 26-30, F 20 Responses Mar 7

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    11 years of marriage

    and 3 kids later, I have lost that "being in love" feeling with my husband. I stay, for now, because of my kids. If it weren't for them I would be long gone. I crave intimacy but not with him. I have been having dreams of being with other men. If I could experience again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 28 Responses Apr 29

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    I think about having an affair all of the time.

    I need the passion and the excitement that I'm missing. I've had a couple of very short experiences in the past and I was left extremely disappointed.
    Lucca9 Lucca9 36-40, F 57 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    Update on my "drama".

    So the wife and I started talking last night. Yes we talked a lot. One of the things we talked about is that little "toy". (Mini vibrator) I got one for us years ago and after a while it broke. So I went and bought a new one. Not a cheap one either. So I have noticed that at...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 13

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    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 30

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    good4nothin1 good4nothin1 31-35, M 1 Response May 21

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    I have this trip planned

    for Las Vegas and will be there for 7 days total however I will be alone for the first 4 days until my brother flys in to join me. I am keeping myself open to the idea of some crazy vacation sex. I am withering and dying in my sexless marriage and wanting revenge at the same...
    007jeep 007jeep 41-45, M 7 Responses Apr 8

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    I Know I Am Selfish

    I have thought about this long before I could admit to myself that our marriage is not getting any better. I have tried total commitment. I denied myself of the glory of what women should have under the blessings of marriage. But I just can't be happy with a man i don't have...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 31 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    Lupitar69 Lupitar69 46-50, F 13 Responses May 11

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    Are there any ladies out there seriously

    considering it? Im hoping to find someone on here.
    CorC1990 CorC1990 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    I'm very tempted.... I know that

    if someone came on strong, it would be tough to say no. I'm actually hoping by being here and actually admitting it that I can work through it a little. Fortunately (or unfortunately depending on your view, I guess) the friends I hang out with keep me out of trouble. I am...
    JustJon707 JustJon707 46-50, M 2 Responses May 9

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    I swore I never would.

    ....but I am so lonely. The desire to touch and be touched is so intense it is crippling.
    SouthernSweetness11 SouthernSweetness11 46-50, F 26 Responses Jun 23, 2014

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    Just something for some release.

    NSA type of connection.
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M Jun 22

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