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I Think About Having An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 21,024 People

    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    zoecc11 zoecc11 26-30, F Dec 24, 2014

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    I Know I Am Selfish

    I have thought about this long before I could admit to myself that our marriage is not getting any better. I have tried total commitment. I denied myself of the glory of what women should have under the blessings of marriage. But I just can't be happy with a man i don't have...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 31 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    I have thought about it every single day

    for the past year,I am getting closer to actually doing it.
    withoutshame withoutshame 46-50, M 5 Responses Dec 18, 2014

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    The Truth Hurts

    I have lived with a man who shows little to no intimacy. He does nothing to try and make me happy. Or does and only returns to the same person he was. I know we can't change ourselves but we can try to make someone happy. How hard is that??? I want love, I want someone I can...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 48 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I think about having an affair all of the time.

    I need the passion and the excitement that I'm missing. I've had a couple of very short experiences in the past and I was left extremely disappointed.
    Lucca909 Lucca909 36-40, F 61 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    I love sex. Not always with my husband.

    I love thinking about it, talking about it, and doing it. I am a very sexual woman who "loves" her husband but doesn't like him much. I have had sex with several men during our 7 year marriage. I travel for work and I am always looking for the next guy. I don't know why I do...
    Houzofsex Houzofsex 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Socalman310 Socalman310 51-55, M Jan 7

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    leanncc11 leanncc11 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 18, 2014

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    Ladies and its with your man !

    !! If you cant take care of business at home and your man needs to use EP to flirt, chat ect with women, well look out im going to get him
    ExtremeNext ExtremeNext 26-30, F 77 Responses Feb 10

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    I've Been Through It, You Don't Want To Do It........

    As you can tell by my title remorseful refusing wife, I'm the one that had low sexual desire and didn't provide for my husbands needs. I would like to tell you and say right off an affair is the worst thing you could do to your family. You will not think about or even realize...
    RRRW RRRW 46-50, F 15 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    I Think About It But...

    I don't think I'll do it. I don't think I'm capable of doing this to my husband. But I think about it all the time. I feel bad, because I know I'm lucky that my husband is still very attracted to me even after having two kids. But I'm not attracted to him anymore. I'm bored...
    Maritzi Maritzi 31-35, F 17 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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    I am thinking about it.

    I have been with my girl 2 years and love her more than anything. I have a couple of men I am emaing and sending pics to... One of them I hooked up with a few times a couple months back.. My girl knows about him and is fine with it. Lately I have been thinking about doing it...
    ashie1980 ashie1980 31-35, T 1 Response Mar 16

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    Before You Cheat

      BEFORE YOU CHEAT....let me tell you my story of my husband going on a similar group or even this group looking for a woman willing to have sex with him. He found such a woman who was willing to cheat on her husband . I can't tell you the excruciating pain and mind...
    internetsluts internetsluts 46-50 103 Responses Oct 9, 2008

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    I think about it constantly.

    .but I just feel dirty and disgusted with myself for even thinking about it..
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 24 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    Bull2014 Bull2014 51-55, M 1 Response Nov 18, 2014

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    I've thought about having an affair almost

    constantly for quite some time now... I've even searched again and again for the right woman, but nothing has ever come of it. There aren't many ways to find the right situation... Even on EP, with so many of us searching, it seems like the perfect match is either hundreds or...
    2feetApart 2feetApart 36-40, M 7 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    I think about the excitement.

    The raw passion of animals in heat. Longing for a release from the everyday reality of life. The secret life that belongs to only you. No worries of your job, kids, spouse, housework. Just living in the moment of pure sinful lust. The joys of someone else wanting to use you for...
    kaigeshadowwalker kaigeshadowwalker 31-35, F 7 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    I became the other woman this weekend.

    Not like a love affair, more a FWB. I just ended a 17 year marriage and this guy made me feel like someone would want a mid 30s woman with kids. I did so many things wrong I don't even know where to start. He showed me just how naive and inexperienced I am. It's funny how I...
    Oldhigh96 Oldhigh96 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    I have been sexless for almost 4 year snow.

    My husband doesn't have any desire to at least please me. I am fed up for always being like this. I'm tired and cannot take to be ignored, neglected and abandoned. I'm thinking to have someone who will treat me special and provide everything I need.
    Yojj13 Yojj13 31-35, F 26 Responses Jan 6, 2014

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    I think I might have already cheated.

    I have never had a chat like that. It turned me on so much. My husband has been turning me down and making me feel like wanting sex is wrong. It just felt good to know I'm not alone. Or some over sexed crazy lady. Or if I am it's not a bad thing. Im having Ideas of going out and...
    beautifly917 beautifly917 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 20, 2014

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    My boyfriend currently has 3 months left in

    jail. Whilst he's been gone, there has been someone else I have got close to. I didn't go looking for it, or expect it, but there is something there that won't go away. Nothing more than a kiss has happened between us, but that doesn't mean there haven't been times when I've...
    MsVioletta MsVioletta 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 9

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    Can I ask people's opinions.

    Is an emotional affair cheating?
    mhawkings mhawkings 31-35, M 10 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    My husband and I have been on

    and off for the last four years and he finally asked for a divorce before leaving for nine months. It was hard to deal with at the time, but I managed to accept it and move on emotionally and physically. He changed his mind about the divorce and now I'm living in a sexless...
    gradstudent11 gradstudent11 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 6

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    I thought about it with my last serious bf.

    ..he didnt want to know anything about sex,yet I loved him.I remain by his side for 6 years and then...at the last part it became unbarable.All was wrong,not even emotional gain,positive things...nothing.All problems and all about himself.I was treated really wrong...Then the...
    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 31, 2014

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    I think about this a lot.

    Living in a sexless marriage with a refuser husband is hard. It's sad feeling this alone when he is laying right next to me.
    Eclipsedheart Eclipsedheart 46-50, F 17 Responses Feb 26, 2014

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    I'm married in a sexless marriage,

    very smart with discreet phone apps and just out of a year long affair with a woman that wanted to get married & have kids with me, but I'm staying in my marriage to be a good dad to my kids. I need an affair with someone in a similar situation, who get it. I gained a lot of...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I swore I never would.

    ....but I am so lonely. The desire to touch and be touched is so intense it is crippling.
    SouthernSweetness11 SouthernSweetness11 46-50, F 31 Responses Jun 23, 2014

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    i feel my husband doesnt love me like a lover.

    he s least intersted in sex ..its jus the 3rd year of marriage but we have sex once in a week or two..im bored of our sex life.i hate that he makes me feel this way.this often leads me to missing my ex bf..the times he made love to me and i keep goin bak in time..ive tried...
    angelangel198727 angelangel198727 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 29

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    Going To Have An Affair

    I am definitely looking to having an affair. 7 years into my lonely marriage, I discovered that my husband is incapable of meaning ful type of communication. He finds conversing with my tortuous and draining. I used to take it personally, but now I understand about...
    survivor23 survivor23 36-40, F 133 Responses Oct 21, 2009

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    I've never had an affair

    but I've fantasize about it. I miss the feeling of getting to know someone for the first time, the newness of a relationship. I love my husband and I love all aspects of him. I just miss the feeling of a new relationship. Plus, I'm more aggressive in bed then I was ten years ago...
    girlygirlyNurse girlygirlyNurse 31-35, F 15 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    His anger issues have just pushed me away -

    each time he gets more angry I drift further and further away. I'm done with making my entire existence revolve around how to please him and successfully walk on egg shells. I have compatability staring me in the face and ready for the taking, which makes drifting twice as easy...
    Luckylotus013 Luckylotus013 26-30, F 21 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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    So it didn't play out

    as planned... Her family was there to some degree and it made sexual thoughts abit awkward (even for me:/) That said, I chatted quite abit w her friend. Conversation started getting intimate... She was definitely game and seemed beyond "fun." Had concern with my wedding ring...
    CuriouslyIntrigued11 CuriouslyIntrigued11 31-35, M Dec 19, 2014

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    I wish I could be on a site like this

    and be honest, without all the pervs...sheesh
    LauraTm504 LauraTm504 31-35, F 45 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    The Paradox Of Marriage

    So after all I ask myself, who doesn´t think about having an affair, except for those people with an extremely low sex-drive or those few who seem to have found the perfect match. This leads me to wonder why marriage is still such an ideal, one partner for all your lifetime...
    Jaypanther Jaypanther 36-40, F 21 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    To all you Guys and gals out there thinking of

    having an affair... have a cyberaffair! Its the absolute next best thing to the real thing without all the associated heartache!! Believe me I've had both and know now what I prefer!
    BUBBLYBOY BUBBLYBOY 56-60, M 10 Responses Jun 24, 2014

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    I Do..

    Every time one ends. LOL!
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 14 Responses May 3, 2013

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    There's a guy I work with

    that has offered more than once to take me in the back. Why shouldn't i do it? My husband won't touch me...
    HiddenDesires88 HiddenDesires88 26-30, F 22 Responses Jun 28, 2014

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    Mmmm so today something happened

    that was lovely but dangerous and charming but devious, all at the same time. I didn't tell my boyfriend I got off work early and my married coworker left work early too. We met up at this little bar down the street but the power in the building had been out. The power was...
    Yellowbird1812 Yellowbird1812 26-30, F 18 Responses Mar 7

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    I Would Realy Love An Affair.....

    I would realy love an affair... to have a boy/girlfriend nobody knows about....I love secrets.
    linda linda 18-21, F 104 Responses Feb 22, 2007

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    I'm 35 and in Arizona,

    I travel all over the state and just wish I could have some fwb that understand my situation
    unp12 unp12 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 21, 2014

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    My story is detailed in other posts

    but just summing up my last 20months of struggle... Unfortunately I couldn't handle my wife's affair and the fact she had sex with someone else... Special they way it happened! I swear I tried every day to let it go but it is way too much for me to handle and for our own good...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 14

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    I was pretty adamant about not cheating on my

    wife, but after sparking a friendship with a woman on this board, who also is in a sexless marriage (Our relationship is purely platonic), I really feel the need to connect with someone. While sex would be nice, (I don't think I quite ready to take that step yet) I'd be...
    chuckdaly chuckdaly 36-40, M 3 Responses Feb 20

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    Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce

    and half of the married couples cheat. And my observation is that many of the 25 percent left are on EP searching for an emotional or physical connection. I am a college professor. It is so interesting to view the college student perception of marriage. Many do not see it as a...
    intimatelycrowded intimatelycrowded 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 27, 2014

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    I met L again recently.

    I keep telling myself it’s nothing more than 2 friends getting together for drinks and some bar food. Nothing more physical than a friendly hug hello and goodbye. I tell myself this, even though I don’t tell anyone about the meetings, least of all my wife. She changed...
    qcrash qcrash 41-45, M 18 hrs ago

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    It's not that my marriage is bad

    or my hubby is bad in bed, I just crave something exciting and I just imagine having a fling with someone would be such a thrill!
    sallypaige sallypaige 22-25, F 177 Responses Jan 28

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    Seeking Anal

                           Being married , I have a want for Anal sex and my husband finds it disgusting. and will not try at all.   I seek men that will be willing to have anal sex with me but will not want regular sex, for that is for my husband.   I have a...
    mrsmarleen mrsmarleen 61-65, F 86 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    It's never the person you think.

    About six months ago, a colleague and I began some heavy duty flirting. I loved the attention since I wasn't (and am still not) getting any at home. But when he started getting scared of being caught, things between us cooled off significantly. We never did anything...