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I Think About Having An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 21,048 People

    Going To Have An Affair

    I am definitely looking to having an affair. 7 years into my lonely marriage, I discovered that my husband is incapable of meaning ful type of communication. He finds conversing with my tortuous and draining. I used to take it personally, but now I understand about...
    survivor23 survivor23 36-40, F 133 Responses Oct 21, 2009

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    I think about this a lot.

    Living in a sexless marriage with a refuser husband is hard. It's sad feeling this alone when he is laying right next to me.
    Eclipsedheart Eclipsedheart 46-50, F 17 Responses Feb 26, 2014

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    His anger issues have just pushed me away -

    each time he gets more angry I drift further and further away. I'm done with making my entire existence revolve around how to please him and successfully walk on egg shells. I have compatability staring me in the face and ready for the taking, which makes drifting twice as easy...
    Luckylotus013 Luckylotus013 26-30, F 21 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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    I think about it constantly.

    .but I just feel dirty and disgusted with myself for even thinking about it..
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 25 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    It's not that my marriage is bad

    or my hubby is bad in bed, I just crave something exciting and I just imagine having a fling with someone would be such a thrill!
    sallypaige sallypaige 22-25, F 177 Responses Jan 28

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    There's a guy I work with

    that has offered more than once to take me in the back. Why shouldn't i do it? My husband won't touch me...
    HiddenDesires88 HiddenDesires88 26-30, F 21 Responses Jun 28, 2014

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    honestly girls love me

    and my girlfriends cheating, I have. a lot of close girl friends I could talk into doing a little something with me but I don't. I try not to until were broken up but its hard when my shirts of and women touch me in seemingly innocent ways b it then get more feely to push them...
    skythuss skythuss 18-21, M Mar 31

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    Seeking Anal

                           Being married , I have a want for Anal sex and my husband finds it disgusting. and will not try at all.   I seek men that will be willing to have anal sex with me but will not want regular sex, for that is for my husband.   I have a...
    mrsmarleen mrsmarleen 61-65, F 87 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    i feel my husband doesnt love me like a lover.

    he s least intersted in sex ..its jus the 3rd year of marriage but we have sex once in a week or two..im bored of our sex life.i hate that he makes me feel this way.this often leads me to missing my ex bf..the times he made love to me and i keep goin bak in time..ive tried...
    angelangel198727 angelangel198727 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 29

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    I think I might have already cheated.

    I have never had a chat like that. It turned me on so much. My husband has been turning me down and making me feel like wanting sex is wrong. It just felt good to know I'm not alone. Or some over sexed crazy lady. Or if I am it's not a bad thing. Im having Ideas of going out and...
    beautifly917 beautifly917 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 20, 2014

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    Well the person I want to have the affair with

    is willing, as am I. Both r ready to take this step. I have thought about it and want to go for it!! Now it's all about trying to arrange everything! I won't have any problems (even have a friend who will let me borrow her apartment) he, on the other hand, will have some issues...
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 31

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    My co worker and I are currently exchanging

    secret "pictures" and texts. We only do this at work/because home could get us caught! (I am also married but I don't worry about anyone knowing my personal business) we both made it clear it would be strictly "friends" with benefit situation...a part of me wants to go further...
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 29

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    I can't stop thinking about having an affair

    with a guy from work..I know it's wrong but I am so "frustrated" because my husband I I have not been intimate in well over a year (he has medical problems) it won't be emotional nothing but physical! I didn't seek this out it just happened! (Never thought about it before nor...
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 30

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    My missis started out really nice

    but 3years down line she turnd into right *****, we argue nearly every day she kicks right off if don't get her own way and makes me feel as bad as poss about nearly every thing just to get her own way, for example cuz whole house was untidy I spent the whole of last night...
    smashley69 smashley69 26-30, M 4 Responses Jan 28

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    Life After Being In An Affair

    Well, Let me first say I found this site desperately searching for help/strength to get out of an affair I had been having for almost two years with a married man. I have successfully done this and want to share my feelings and experience with those out there struggling in the...
    Lazyw2526 Lazyw2526 46-50, F 23 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    zoecc11 zoecc11 26-30, F Dec 24, 2014

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    I Would Realy Love An Affair.....

    I would realy love an affair... to have a boy/girlfriend nobody knows about....I love secrets.
    linda linda 18-21, F 104 Responses Feb 22, 2007

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    My co worker and I want to have an affair.

    .both married with children. It's will be nothing more after..can we really go back to being friends?
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 24 Responses Mar 29

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    I've been married 13 years.

    For the last 8 years sex has been impossible due to my wife's chronic illness. Lately I've thought about an affair. Some days it's all I can think about. I fantasize about the "what ifs", but know it's never going to happen. How do you even begin something like that? I wish I...
    02K30 02K30 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 30

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    Ladies and its with your man !

    !! If you cant take care of business at home and your man needs to use EP to flirt, chat ect with women, well look out im going to get him
    ExtremeNext ExtremeNext 26-30, F 77 Responses Feb 10

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    Mmmm so today something happened

    that was lovely but dangerous and charming but devious, all at the same time. I didn't tell my boyfriend I got off work early and my married coworker left work early too. We met up at this little bar down the street but the power in the building had been out. The power was...
    Yellowbird1812 Yellowbird1812 26-30, F 21 Responses Mar 7

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    My husband and I have been on

    and off for the last four years and he finally asked for a divorce before leaving for nine months. It was hard to deal with at the time, but I managed to accept it and move on emotionally and physically. He changed his mind about the divorce and now I'm living in a sexless...
    gradstudent11 gradstudent11 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 6

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    The Truth Hurts

    I have lived with a man who shows little to no intimacy. He does nothing to try and make me happy. Or does and only returns to the same person he was. I know we can't change ourselves but we can try to make someone happy. How hard is that??? I want love, I want someone I can...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 51 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Socalman310 Socalman310 51-55, M Jan 7

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    My mind my heart my gut all want different

    things!!! I met this man an amazing man and there is some serious tension there sexually. He cares for me he makes me feel beautiful he is so nice and sweet. I love my husband more then anyone in this world tho. I had the talk with him about maybe us seeing other people but...
    Fullofsunshine Fullofsunshine 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 30

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    Before You Cheat

      BEFORE YOU CHEAT....let me tell you my story of my husband going on a similar group or even this group looking for a woman willing to have sex with him. He found such a woman who was willing to cheat on her husband . I can't tell you the excruciating pain and mind...
    internetsluts internetsluts 46-50 103 Responses Oct 9, 2008

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    Well the the man I am texting

    and sharing "pictures" with is a great guy! (He is my co-worker) I also know his wife and he knows my husband! I don't feel weird about it, neither does he. We know it will be nothing but a one sided relationship....that's it! Is it wrong I am starting to feel NO guilt!!????
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 31

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    I'm married in a sexless marriage,

    very smart with discreet phone apps and just out of a year long affair with a woman that wanted to get married & have kids with me, but I'm staying in my marriage to be a good dad to my kids. I need an affair with someone in a similar situation, who get it. I gained a lot of...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 23

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    I think about having an affair all of the time.

    I need the passion and the excitement that I'm missing. I've had a couple of very short experiences in the past and I was left extremely disappointed.
    Lucca9 Lucca9 36-40, F 61 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    Getting caught...if it never goes beyond

    talking about doing something--and all we do is text and send pictures, would that count as an affair??? Just in case on of us backs off...
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 31

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    No Thinking About It Anymore ..... It'S Done

    Ladies Night always tends to bring out a crowd of people at our local bar. My girlfriends and I decided to go last Wednesday night to let our hair down and enjoy a night out on the town.  It was hot and muggy.  I decided to wear a tank top with a pair of tight blue jeans.  We...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 13 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    I was pretty adamant about not cheating on my

    wife, but after sparking a friendship with a woman on this board, who also is in a sexless marriage (Our relationship is purely platonic), I really feel the need to connect with someone. While sex would be nice, (I don't think I quite ready to take that step yet) I'd be...
    chuckdaly chuckdaly 36-40, M 4 Responses Feb 20

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    I think about the excitement.

    The raw passion of animals in heat. Longing for a release from the everyday reality of life. The secret life that belongs to only you. No worries of your job, kids, spouse, housework. Just living in the moment of pure sinful lust. The joys of someone else wanting to use you for...
    kaigeshadowwalker kaigeshadowwalker 31-35, F 7 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    I've never had an affair

    but I've fantasize about it. I miss the feeling of getting to know someone for the first time, the newness of a relationship. I love my husband and I love all aspects of him. I just miss the feeling of a new relationship. Plus, I'm more aggressive in bed then I was ten years ago...
    girlygirlyNurse girlygirlyNurse 31-35, F 15 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    My boyfriend currently has 3 months left in

    jail. Whilst he's been gone, there has been someone else I have got close to. I didn't go looking for it, or expect it, but there is something there that won't go away. Nothing more than a kiss has happened between us, but that doesn't mean there haven't been times when I've...
    MsVioletta MsVioletta 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 9

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    I swore I never would.

    ....but I am so lonely. The desire to touch and be touched is so intense it is crippling.
    SouthernSweetness11 SouthernSweetness11 46-50, F 30 Responses Jun 23, 2014

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    I wish I could find someone around my age

    who would be interested in something like this. It's not something you want to just come out and ask someone but it would be nice to get some attention from someone who liked me.. Just sayin:/
    jussme91 jussme91 22-25, F 11 Responses Jan 23

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    I am thinking about it.

    I have been with my girl 2 years and love her more than anything. I have a couple of men I am emaing and sending pics to... One of them I hooked up with a few times a couple months back.. My girl knows about him and is fine with it. Lately I have been thinking about doing it...
    ashie1980 ashie1980 31-35, T 1 Response Mar 16

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    The Paradox Of Marriage

    So after all I ask myself, who doesn´t think about having an affair, except for those people with an extremely low sex-drive or those few who seem to have found the perfect match. This leads me to wonder why marriage is still such an ideal, one partner for all your lifetime...
    Jaypanther Jaypanther 36-40, F 21 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    I have been sexless for almost 4 year snow.

    My husband doesn't have any desire to at least please me. I am fed up for always being like this. I'm tired and cannot take to be ignored, neglected and abandoned. I'm thinking to have someone who will treat me special and provide everything I need.
    Yojj13 Yojj13 31-35, F 23 Responses Jan 6, 2014

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    I've Been Through It, You Don't Want To Do It........

    As you can tell by my title remorseful refusing wife, I'm the one that had low sexual desire and didn't provide for my husbands needs. I would like to tell you and say right off an affair is the worst thing you could do to your family. You will not think about or even realize...
    RRRW RRRW 46-50, F 15 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    I love sex. Not always with my husband.

    I love thinking about it, talking about it, and doing it. I am a very sexual woman who "loves" her husband but doesn't like him much. I have had sex with several men during our 7 year marriage. I travel for work and I am always looking for the next guy. I don't know why I do...
    Houzofsex Houzofsex 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    My story is detailed in other posts

    but just summing up my last 20months of struggle... Unfortunately I couldn't handle my wife's affair and the fact she had sex with someone else... Special they way it happened! I swear I tried every day to let it go but it is way too much for me to handle and for our own good...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 14

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    I have this trip planned

    for Las Vegas and will be there for 7 days total however I will be alone for the first 4 days until my brother flys in to join me. I am keeping myself open to the idea of some crazy vacation sex. I am withering and dying in my sexless marriage and wanting revenge at the same...
    007jeep 007jeep 41-45, M 7 Responses Apr 8

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    I think we have all thought about it at one time

    or another. When you make poor choices you're always left wondering, what if. I just want to feel something have a real connection. I would just like to meet a woman who thinks and feels the same. Sex doesn't have to be the motive but if it was right I think it would be amazing...
    jaymic64 jaymic64 51-55, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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