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I Think About Having An Affair

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    I have been married for 20 years

    and often seek out the advances of other woman. Is this normal?
    thomassamuel thomassamuel 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 16

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    The Paradox Of Marriage

    So after all I ask myself, who doesn´t think about having an affair, except for those people with an extremely low sex-drive or those few who seem to have found the perfect match. This leads me to wonder why marriage is still such an ideal, one partner for all your lifetime...
    Jaypanther Jaypanther 36-40, F 21 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    I married but I wanna know

    if I "still got it"
    cgezzy cgezzy 31-35, M 4 Responses Jul 9

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    I want to wake up one morning in a hotel room

    with her beside me. I slowly lean over kissing her and thanking her for last night. Instead of finishing my thank you I deeply kiss her again running my hands up along side of her. Both of us knowing that in a few hours we have to go or risk being caught by our partners. The...
    Maximus08 Maximus08 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 19

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    I wish I could be on a site like this

    and be honest, without all the pervs...sheesh
    LauraTm504 LauraTm504 31-35, F 45 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    My wife and I have a good sex life

    but something is missing with the emotional connection.
    Handsome78 Handsome78 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 18

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    Still Recommend It But Use Caution

    I've been seeing the other man for about three months now. We still see each other for lunch mostly or after work. We go to a secluded area and talk and make out for the hour or so. We have only gotten a hotel twice. The times we have were totally amazing. We got a hotel...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 8 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    My husbands idea of romance is watching Big

    Bang Theory on the couch together. I need more!!! I crave to be touched, to be kissed. To just freaking make out with someone and have the physical contact. Not just anyone, I would not do that with a stranger, but I know a few men that could fill this need. But I can't...
    nevadagurl nevadagurl 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 25

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    I'm 35 and in Arizona,

    I travel all over the state and just wish I could have some fwb that understand my situation
    unp12 unp12 31-35, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    His anger issues have just pushed me away -

    each time he gets more angry I drift further and further away. I'm done with making my entire existence revolve around how to please him and successfully walk on egg shells. I have compatability staring me in the face and ready for the taking, which makes drifting twice as easy...
    Luckylotus013 Luckylotus013 26-30, F 21 Responses Mar 13

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    I love sex. Not always with my husband.

    I love thinking about it, talking about it, and doing it. I am a very sexual woman who "loves" her husband but doesn't like him much. I have had sex with several men during our 7 year marriage. I travel for work and I am always looking for the next guy. I don't know why I do...
    Houzofsex Houzofsex 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I've never had an affair

    but I've fantasize about it. I miss the feeling of getting to know someone for the first time, the newness of a relationship. I love my husband and I love all aspects of him. I just miss the feeling of a new relationship. Plus, I'm more aggressive in bed then I was ten years ago...
    girlygirlyNurse girlygirlyNurse 31-35, F 15 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Note: No, I will not do it.

    In fact, I don't even plan or consider it. It's just a small temptation. It's funny because I really hate cheaters(and other women/men) with a passion. So I'm a huge friggin' hypocrite. But he hurt me so badly with having an affair, and all the messed up **** he did to me...I...
    PerspectiveDetective PerspectiveDetective 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 18

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    I think about having one with my class mate.

    She's brunette, Spanish name. Olive skin. I don't know how she feels about me. She could be attracted to me. I'm bad at these things. I just want to feel affection sometimes. Not often. I'm conceited enough to want an admirer, one I find worthy. She's interesting enough. Not as...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 12

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    I Do..

    Every time one ends. LOL!
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 14 Responses May 3, 2013

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    I Would Realy Love An Affair.....

    I would realy love an affair... to have a boy/girlfriend nobody knows about....I love secrets.
    linda linda 21-25, F 103 Responses Feb 22, 2007

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    Yep. I do. Obsessively.

    Difficult to find the right person alas....
    ThisCharmingManUK ThisCharmingManUK 46-50, M Sep 13

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    Are there any UK based women with similar

    thoughts?? (He asks hopefully)
    ThisCharmingManUK ThisCharmingManUK 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 18

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    Seeking Anal

                           Being married , I have a want for Anal sex and my husband finds it disgusting. and will not try at all.   I seek men that will be willing to have anal sex with me but will not want regular sex, for that is for my husband.   I have a...
    mrsmarleen mrsmarleen 61-65, F 82 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    To all you Guys and gals out there thinking of

    having an affair... have a cyberaffair! Its the absolute next best thing to the real thing without all the associated heartache!! Believe me I've had both and know now what I prefer!
    BUBBLYBOY BUBBLYBOY 56-60, M 8 Responses Jun 24

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    Shoot I thought of having one 3 years into this

    past relationship. That's probably why it ended. Bad communication. I didn't think he appreciated me and he didn't think I appreciated him. So sad. Wish I told him how I cared. I'm just so bad with words. Wish I saw that he loved me. He shut down though. He would just shut down...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    Love sweet love.... I know

    when you have an affair you are not suppose to fall in love but I did and it gets stronger everyday. I know what people will say, that its a fantasy and everyone has a right to his or her opinion. When I started an affair I did not intend to fall in love. I just wanted to...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 31

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    Going To Have An Affair

    I am definitely looking to having an affair. 7 years into my lonely marriage, I discovered that my husband is incapable of meaning ful type of communication. He finds conversing with my tortuous and draining. I used to take it personally, but now I understand about...
    survivor23 survivor23 36-40, F 134 Responses Oct 21, 2009

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    No Thinking About It Anymore ..... It'S Done

    Ladies Night always tends to bring out a crowd of people at our local bar. My girlfriends and I decided to go last Wednesday night to let our hair down and enjoy a night out on the town.  It was hot and muggy.  I decided to wear a tank top with a pair of tight blue jeans.  We...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    I think about having an affair all of the time.

    I need the passion and the excitement that I'm missing. I've had a couple of very short experiences in the past and I was left extremely disappointed.
    Lucca909 Lucca909 36-40, F 60 Responses Oct 14

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    I think about the excitement.

    The raw passion of animals in heat. Longing for a release from the everyday reality of life. The secret life that belongs to only you. No worries of your job, kids, spouse, housework. Just living in the moment of pure sinful lust. The joys of someone else wanting to use you for...
    kaigeshadowwalker kaigeshadowwalker 31-35, F 7 Responses Feb 13

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    Is there anything wrong with looking

    for fulfillment? In my SM for so long, I have desires and passions that go nowhere except to my employer. Is that the best? I have been paying more attention, flirting and trying to have fun. And the fact that I am married is the problem. So I am completely confused, must I be...
    JackFlirts JackFlirts 51-55, M 6 Responses Aug 30

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    I think about it quite a lot.

    If you want to know why read my other stories. I can't live like this and I don't think I should have too.
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 6 Responses Oct 4

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    I Know I Am Selfish

    I have thought about this long before I could admit to myself that our marriage is not getting any better. I have tried total commitment. I denied myself of the glory of what women should have under the blessings of marriage. But I just can't be happy with a man i don't have...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 32 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    It seems that relationships

    that start on here is nothing but a game to so many. Don't lead anyone on with a promise of having an affair when you know darn well that you are not going to go through with it.
    InTheDogHouse InTheDogHouse 51-55, M 3 Responses Aug 27

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    I thought about it with my last serious bf.

    ..he didnt want to know anything about sex,yet I loved him.I remain by his side for 6 years and then...at the last part it became unbarable.All was wrong,not even emotional gain,positive things...nothing.All problems and all about himself.I was treated really wrong...Then the...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 31

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    I swore I never would.

    ....but I am so lonely. The desire to touch and be touched is so intense it is crippling.
    SouthernSweetness11 SouthernSweetness11 46-50, F 32 Responses Jun 23

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    I've Been Through It, You Don't Want To Do It........

    As you can tell by my title remorseful refusing wife, I'm the one that had low sexual desire and didn't provide for my husbands needs. I would like to tell you and say right off an affair is the worst thing you could do to your family. You will not think about or even realize...
    RRRW RRRW 46-50, F 15 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    Almost non existent possibilityEven lesser

    probability.But that doesn't keep me from thinking.
    Lifeisacaveat Lifeisacaveat 56-60, M 3 Responses Aug 12

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    I became the other woman this weekend.

    Not like a love affair, more a FWB. I just ended a 17 year marriage and this guy made me feel like someone would want a mid 30s woman with kids. I did so many things wrong I don't even know where to start. He showed me just how naive and inexperienced I am. It's funny how I...
    Oldhigh96 Oldhigh96 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 22

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    Before You Cheat

      BEFORE YOU CHEAT....let me tell you my story of my husband going on a similar group or even this group looking for a woman willing to have sex with him. He found such a woman who was willing to cheat on her husband . I can't tell you the excruciating pain and mind...
    internetsluts internetsluts 46-50 103 Responses Oct 9, 2008

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    Life After Being In An Affair

    Well, Let me first say I found this site desperately searching for help/strength to get out of an affair I had been having for almost two years with a married man. I have successfully done this and want to share my feelings and experience with those out there struggling in the...
    Lazyw2526 Lazyw2526 46-50, F 23 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    I have been sexless for almost 4 year snow.

    My husband doesn't have any desire to at least please me. I am fed up for always being like this. I'm tired and cannot take to be ignored, neglected and abandoned. I'm thinking to have someone who will treat me special and provide everything I need.
    Yojj13 Yojj13 31-35, F 26 Responses Jan 6

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    Bull2014 Bull2014 51-55, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I seriously thinking about having an affair

    because i dont think im am happy with my marriage anymore.
    Prulla Prulla 26-30, F 15 Responses Jul 29

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    I think I might have already cheated.

    I have never had a chat like that. It turned me on so much. My husband has been turning me down and making me feel like wanting sex is wrong. It just felt good to know I'm not alone. Or some over sexed crazy lady. Or if I am it's not a bad thing. Im having Ideas of going out and...
    beautifly917 beautifly917 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 20

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    Something Very New I don't think about having

    an affair anymore, I'm having one. Its been one of the best experiences of my life. I forgot what it felt like to have a man want me and actually want to make me happy. Today reminded me of that. I'll explain. Today I mention to the other guy something that had bothered me...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    Last Night

    Last night was probably the best nights in a long time ..... Well since NYE...... I went out with a couple that are friends of mine. My oldest daughter babysits their children. The husband invited his friend to come along with us. His friend is going thru a very nasty...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 12 Responses Jan 20, 2013

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    I'll be heading to California

    for business in about month and I keep thinking that will be the perfect time to have a little affair. I can't get the thought out of my mind. I will be all alone, in a nice hotel room, wife will be hundreds of miles away. There is no chance that my wife could walk in or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 19

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    tennguy55 tennguy55 22-25, M Jul 3

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    Women are beautiful and I am wanting to start

    an affair but this wife thing is in my way
    rustr8 rustr8 51-55, M 1 Response Sep 6

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    L has been my friend

    for a number of years, mostly from work. We were acquaintances before, but developed into friendship as a shift in job roles entailed I work with her closer. We were part of a group that would visit a local pub that held a happy hour for folks from our company. Through the...
    qcrash qcrash 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 14

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    I think about this a lot.

    Living in a sexless marriage with a refuser husband is hard. It's sad feeling this alone when he is laying right next to me.
    Eclipsedheart Eclipsedheart 46-50, F 17 Responses Feb 26

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    I think about having a live affair

    when bored. I imagine going to the movies and eating chocolate tarts and laughing. I even think about how it will end, at a bench by a bridge. He'll leave me sitting alone looking at the sunset. Haha this is probably from a French movie.
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 6

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    I think about Sex constantly

    and can't get enough....
    Salesguy2121 Salesguy2121 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 12

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    I Think About It But...

    I don't think I'll do it. I don't think I'm capable of doing this to my husband. But I think about it all the time. I feel bad, because I know I'm lucky that my husband is still very attracted to me even after having two kids. But I'm not attracted to him anymore. I'm bored...
    Maritzi Maritzi 31-35, F 18 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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