I Think About Having An Affair

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    Well...that ended before it began.

    The woman that had indicated she didn't care if I was married suddenly developed a conscious and couldn't deal with the guilt of being a "home wrecker". I told her when it gets to this point, the home is already wrecked. It's bad enough to be rejected by my wife, and now a real...
    bgood79 bgood79
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Feb 4, 2016

    Hello. This is my very first post here.

    Not sure where to begin as there is so much history so I'm going to be as brief as I can. First off I love my wife. She is my best friend. We've shared so many adventures together in our ten year marraige I can hardly believe all the places we've lived and all the things we've...
    Flytolive01 Flytolive01
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Mar 19, 2016

    I have thought about it a great deal,

    but I don't really see myself following thru. I would hate to hurt my family in that way & even if they never found out I would know. Still, I want to feel something again when I'm with my partner; excitement, interest, passion. We are just so different, he's a good guy, I want...
    deleted deleted
    15 Responses Mar 14, 2016

    I've Been Through It, You Don't Want To Do It........

    As you can tell by my title remorseful refusing wife, I'm the one that had low sexual desire and didn't provide for my husbands needs. I would like to tell you and say right off an affair is the worst thing you could do to your family. You will not think about or even realize...
    46-50, F
    13 Responses Jul 26, 2012

    Any BBWs in Portland looking

    for discrete fun? 30/m here
    pdxquietguy pdxquietguy
    31-35, M
    Feb 23, 2016

    I think about this a lot.

    Never pursued. However I have a beautiful man in California that I've been chatting with for 2 years. I want him. He wanrs me. I just need to find a way to get to him. 😏
    Myfunaccount Myfunaccount
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 7, 2016

    Any ladies near the Rockford IL area sound like

    this fits your situation? Married 15 years and despite my best efforts the sex is gone and I don't see it coming back. I miss that spark and sensuality you feel when you just can't keep your hands off your partner. If this sounds like you drop me a line and lets chat and see...
    HubbyInNeed HubbyInNeed
    41-45, M
    Dec 9, 2015

    I have been considering an affair here in West

    Alabama. I have thought through the consequences. I feel it is finally worth the risk to try and feel close to someone. My wife is tuned out sexually and it is very frustrating. I am exceptionally careful, kind, polite and considerate. I am open to just about anything except...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 18, 2016

    Life After Being In An Affair

    Well, Let me first say I found this site desperately searching for help/strength to get out of an affair I had been having for almost two years with a married man. I have successfully done this and want to share my feelings and experience with those out there struggling in the...
    Lazyw2526 Lazyw2526
    46-50, F
    21 Responses Apr 14, 2011

    No. I'm not. But I wanted to say

    that people on here disgust me. Save ONE specific scenario in which there is literally no way out, I personally find it beyond selfish and deplorable for people to step out on their chosen mate. YOU chose them. Why not leave them if you're unhappy? Because you want your cake...
    RationalCutie RationalCutie
    26-30, F
    65 Responses Feb 9, 2015

    Is it only me who finds the thought of having

    an affair with a married man so sexy?
    monstermunch22x monstermunch22x
    22-25, F
    18 Responses Feb 4, 2016

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kerenccaa kerenccaa
    26-30, F
    Dec 15, 2015

    Seeking Anal

                           Being married , I have a want for Anal sex and my husband finds it disgusting. and will not try at all.   I seek men that will be willing to have anal sex with me but will not want regular sex, for that is for my husband.   I have a...
    mrsmarleen mrsmarleen
    61-65, F
    86 Responses Jun 30, 2011

    Before You Cheat

      BEFORE YOU CHEAT....let me tell you my story of my husband going on a similar group or even this group looking for a woman willing to have sex with him. He found such a woman who was willing to cheat on her husband . I can't tell you the excruciating pain and mind...
    internetsluts internetsluts
    97 Responses Oct 9, 2008

    I have been sexless for almost 4 year snow.

    My husband doesn't have any desire to at least please me. I am fed up for always being like this. I'm tired and cannot take to be ignored, neglected and abandoned. I'm thinking to have someone who will treat me special and provide everything I need.
    Yojj13 Yojj13
    31-35, F
    22 Responses Jan 6, 2014

    I think about having an affair all of the time.

    I need the passion and the excitement that I'm missing. I've had a couple of very short experiences in the past and I was left extremely disappointed.
    Lucca9 Lucca9
    41-45, F
    44 Responses Oct 14, 2014

    I've had an affair in the past.

    and yes. I got caught. it nearly destroyed my family. But I still think about having another. As a matter of fact. I've tried a couple other times. Unfortunately the fear of getting caught again. I couldn't perform... I still want too.. I love my wife and my family and I'm...
    705man 705man
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Mar 18, 2016

    I've been married nine years; right

    now we're both in our late 40s. Early in our dating relationship I saw signs of responsibility issues - random broken dates, missing work, etc but in the throes of infatuation those things usually get ignored. Early into our marriage, my wife had a bit of a mental breakdown...
    VanHagar VanHagar
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Dec 23, 2015

    I constantly think about it

    and realize it is not the smart thing to do. Nonetheless, it is an intrusive thought. I honestly think that I am not the kind that should be married. I am always interested in exploring pleasure with other women.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 18, 2016

    I'm a 21 year old college student who's in a

    relationship with a boy who isn't satisfying my needs. I don't want anything serious, just a hot OLDER man to show me what I'm missing. I'm veeeery open to being told what to do.
    audrey67 audrey67
    22-25, F
    11 Responses Jan 21, 2016

    Is it just me or most of the people

    who want to have an affair are male? Is it a flaw in our gender or are we just being lead by our desires and fantasies? Where is a good place to find someone for an affair? How do you let people know (discreetly) that you are looking to cheat? I think women have an easier...
    mlihere mlihere
    46-50, M
    36 Responses Sep 8, 2015

    I've been married for 18+ years now.

    We married young. My wife and I have been through a lot so I do love her, but she's the only women I've slept with. I really want to know what it's like to be with another woman. I've made small attempts, but I'm not really a ladies man so I haven't been able to make anything...
    deived deived
    36-40, M
    1 Response Dec 16, 2015

    I'm a married, educated black female

    and I've been having an affair with a divorced 47 y/o white male. We met online started out as friends just someone to help with my loneliness. He was always attentive we laughed and joked together we realized that we were an hour apart he asked if I wanted to meet for dinner I...
    deleted deleted
    41 Responses May 22, 2015

    Going To Have An Affair

    I am definitely looking to having an affair. 7 years into my lonely marriage, I discovered that my husband is incapable of meaning ful type of communication. He finds conversing with my tortuous and draining. I used to take it personally, but now I understand about...
    survivor23 survivor23
    36-40, F
    128 Responses Oct 21, 2009

    11 years of marriage

    and 3 kids later, I have lost that "being in love" feeling with my husband. I stay, for now, because of my kids. If it weren't for them I would be long gone. I crave intimacy but not with him. I have been having dreams of being with other men. If I could experience again...
    deleted deleted
    23 Responses Apr 29, 2015

    What's not to want on having an affair?

    When you have a boyfriend, you can request many things...kisses there, hugs here...yeah love is on the air.But what's more in store is during occasion like birthdays, anniversaries, Holidays and all...you have someone you can fool around, jest and pick on and imply for a gift.Now...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest
    36-40, F
    14 Responses Aug 26, 2015

    I Would Realy Love An Affair.....

    I would realy love an affair... to have a boy/girlfriend nobody knows about....I love secrets.
    linda linda
    26-30, F
    100 Responses Feb 22, 2007
    OriginalBarbie OriginalBarbie
    18-21, F
    31 Responses Oct 19, 2015
    Iamarunner Iamarunner
    46-50, F
    17 Responses Nov 12, 2015

    I've never had an affair

    but I've fantasize about it. I miss the feeling of getting to know someone for the first time, the newness of a relationship. I love my husband and I love all aspects of him. I just miss the feeling of a new relationship. Plus, I'm more aggressive in bed then I was ten years ago...
    girlygirlyNurse girlygirlyNurse
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Dec 13, 2013

    No Thinking About It Anymore ..... It'S Done

    Ladies Night always tends to bring out a crowd of people at our local bar. My girlfriends and I decided to go last Wednesday night to let our hair down and enjoy a night out on the town.  It was hot and muggy.  I decided to wear a tank top with a pair of tight blue jeans.  We...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126
    36-40, F
    12 Responses Jul 1, 2013
    hihisweetypie hihisweetypie
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 8, 2016

    But I worry about the consequences my husband

    would never forgive me. But I missed being touched. I don't want to hurt anyone. Anyone feels the same?
    estellasauntisbad estellasauntisbad
    31-35, F
    31 Responses Mar 5, 2016

    I have had an affair an I want more!

    See comments for details
    MrsStrangeLust MrsStrangeLust
    41-45, F
    12 Responses Jan 10, 2016

    I'll just cut to the chase.

    as much as I realize that my falling in love is as frequent as a bird poops in a day..I have once again found myself in love. yes every time its happened in the past iv written lovely moving stories and poems to justify and express my emotions when now that I look at it in...
    Unmasked Unmasked
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Feb 17, 2016

    An ex contacted me, somehow we ended up

    intimately texting. We are in the same boat: Happily married with kids but want no strings sex. He wants to meet up, I'm not so sure. Is the fantasy ever worth the risk?
    deleted deleted
    9 Responses Mar 22, 2016

    I love sex. Not always with my husband.

    I love thinking about it, talking about it, and doing it. I am a very sexual woman who "loves" her husband but doesn't like him much. I have had sex with several men during our 7 year marriage. I travel for work and I am always looking for the next guy. I don't know why I do...
    Houzofsex Houzofsex
    46-50, F
    11 Responses Dec 12, 2013

    Think long and hard. Most

    that are thinking of having an affair only think of whether they could get away with it and how exciting it could be. Most never dream of just how devastating the consequences could be. I've known one guy that I grew up with that was shot by the husband of the woman he was...
    kpitup kpitup
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Apr 20, 2016

    Ladies and its with your man !

    !! If you cant take care of business at home and your man needs to use EP to flirt, chat ect with women, well look out im going to get him
    deleted deleted
    54 Responses Feb 10, 2015

    I have had a crush on my best friends husband

    for 16 years. Nothing has ever happened and he has no idea, we both love her very much, but she treats him quite badly and I hate it. Our husbands are also very close, and mine really doesn't like her at all. Lately I can not get the idea out of my head...it is driving me crazy...
    45reasons 45reasons
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Dec 15, 2015

    I'm thinking of bringing another woman into the

    bedroom as my partners 40th birthday present
    lemonadelaide lemonadelaide
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Nov 12, 2015
    kpitup kpitup
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Apr 20, 2016

    Mmmm so today something happened

    that was lovely but dangerous and charming but devious, all at the same time. I didn't tell my boyfriend I got off work early and my married coworker left work early too. We met up at this little bar down the street but the power in the building had been out. The power was...
    Yellowbird1812 Yellowbird1812
    26-30, F
    16 Responses Mar 7, 2015

    Hi are the any fun busty ladies reading this

    thread wanna chat? If so fancy messaging me back?
    teddyboylovesboobs teddyboylovesboobs
    41-45, M
    Feb 1, 2016

    well not in surprise az.

    no women here have them
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 1, 2016

    My husband and have sex infrequently he always

    talks about having more sex but neither of us initiate if. I've never been lustfully attracted to him physically more so his personality and lately in our marriage his personality hasn't been the greatest and therefore I feel like what's there! He initiated sex like doing his...
    arizonabullups15 arizonabullups15
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 9, 2016

    I Do..

    Every time one ends. LOL!
    soulrunher soulrunher
    46-50, F
    13 Responses May 3, 2013
    deived deived
    36-40, M
    1 Response Dec 24, 2015

    I'm a married 37m and I posted an ad on CL

    for a physical sexually based relationship. A 21 year old college student responded and we have clicked very well. I can't help but wonder if she really knows what she is getting into. She gets back from winter break next week and then we have to decide if we are going to do...
    Summitfun Summitfun
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jan 1, 2016
    hihisweetypie hihisweetypie
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 9, 2016

    I Know I Am Selfish

    I have thought about this long before I could admit to myself that our marriage is not getting any better. I have tried total commitment. I denied myself of the glory of what women should have under the blessings of marriage. But I just can't be happy with a man i don't have...
    ladyryan ladyryan
    46-50, F
    28 Responses Sep 27, 2011

    It's not that my marriage is bad

    or my hubby is bad in bed, I just crave something exciting and I just imagine having a fling with someone would be such a thrill!
    sallypaige sallypaige
    26-30, F
    142 Responses Jan 28, 2015

    iam an 18 year old girl.

    .. n a guy whom me n my famly knw had fallen in love with me... he is already married and has a son... i had a crush on him b4...bt nw i dnt knw wht to do... he said tht he wnt me n th relation wll b secret...
    deleted deleted
    9 Responses Apr 12, 2016

    I swore I never would.

    ....but I am so lonely. The desire to touch and be touched is so intense it is crippling.
    SouthernSweetness11 SouthernSweetness11
    46-50, F
    21 Responses Jun 23, 2014

    I Think About It But...

    I don't think I'll do it. I don't think I'm capable of doing this to my husband. But I think about it all the time. I feel bad, because I know I'm lucky that my husband is still very attracted to me even after having two kids. But I'm not attracted to him anymore. I'm bored...
    Maritzi Maritzi
    36-40, F
    18 Responses Sep 2, 2013

    I have an opportunity to have an affair

    and feel desired and wanted for a moment. I'm torn. On the one hand, I haven't felt needed, wanted or loved in any way from my wife in years and even one night would make me feel alive. On the other hand, I know it's wrong. I'm torn because I've repeatedly told my wife I'm...
    bgood79 bgood79
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jan 31, 2016
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