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I Think About Having An Affair

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    good4nothin1 good4nothin1 31-35, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I think we have all thought about it at one time

    or another. When you make poor choices you're always left wondering, what if. I just want to feel something have a real connection. I would just like to meet a woman who thinks and feels the same. Sex doesn't have to be the motive but if it was right I think it would be amazing...
    jaymic64 jaymic64 51-55, M 3 Responses Apr 13

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    My co worker and I have continued texting

    and exchanging pictures ( his wife is really clingy so we only do it at work or if we know he is completely alone) today he made me feel good--he was checking out my behind and he said how much he wants to grab it...when my own husband won't even stop and grab it anymore! I love...
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 2

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    I'm very tempted.... I know that

    if someone came on strong, it would be tough to say no. I'm actually hoping by being here and actually admitting it that I can work through it a little. Fortunately (or unfortunately depending on your view, I guess) the friends I hang out with keep me out of trouble. I am...
    JustJon707 JustJon707 46-50, M 3 Responses May 9

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    I have been trying to connect on an emotionally

    intimate level with my wife after we went through a "rough phase" (her lying and cheating mainly). She will not open up to me and told me I should, "find someone else". Who says that?
    Wingsuit Wingsuit 36-40, M 12 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    My wife hates sex. Not sure what changed

    but she thinks once every 5 or 6 weeks should be good. She believes that a quick hug and peck on the cheek is intimacy. I explained that her actions would lead me to have an affair and her reply was she would be ok with it and maybe that would be for the best. I have never...
    Geekkillington Geekkillington 31-35, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    No Thinking About It Anymore ..... It'S Done

    Ladies Night always tends to bring out a crowd of people at our local bar. My girlfriends and I decided to go last Wednesday night to let our hair down and enjoy a night out on the town.  It was hot and muggy.  I decided to wear a tank top with a pair of tight blue jeans.  We...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 12 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    I am thinking about it.

    I have been with my girl 2 years and love her more than anything. I have a couple of men I am emaing and sending pics to... One of them I hooked up with a few times a couple months back.. My girl knows about him and is fine with it. Lately I have been thinking about doing it...
    ashie1980 ashie1980 31-35, T 1 Response Mar 16

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    I mean I don't think I can.

    But I have thought about it. And have tried. I have a guy friend that I have gotten close to. We might even do more than touch each other some time. I want to hold hands. Drink from the same beer bottle. Flirt and flirt some more. I want to hold hands at a bar or touch each...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 1 day ago

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    Seeking Anal

                           Being married , I have a want for Anal sex and my husband finds it disgusting. and will not try at all.   I seek men that will be willing to have anal sex with me but will not want regular sex, for that is for my husband.   I have a...
    mrsmarleen mrsmarleen 61-65, F 87 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    I think about this a lot.

    Living in a sexless marriage with a refuser husband is hard. It's sad feeling this alone when he is laying right next to me.
    Eclipsedheart Eclipsedheart 46-50, F 17 Responses Feb 26, 2014

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    I have thought about having an affair a bunch

    of times. I have not been able to for a lot of different reasons. I have wanted to have sex with an old friend I found out was a lot like me. He was into cross dressing and is working to be a full girl. We did go on two dates. The second one we got a little bolder. Now I...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 1 Response May 1

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    I've been married 13 years.

    For the last 8 years sex has been impossible due to my wife's chronic illness. Lately I've thought about an affair. Some days it's all I can think about. I fantasize about the "what ifs", but know it's never going to happen. How do you even begin something like that? I wish I...
    02K30 02K30 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 30

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    The Paradox Of Marriage

    So after all I ask myself, who doesn´t think about having an affair, except for those people with an extremely low sex-drive or those few who seem to have found the perfect match. This leads me to wonder why marriage is still such an ideal, one partner for all your lifetime...
    Jaypanther Jaypanther 36-40, F 21 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    Getting caught...if it never goes beyond

    talking about doing something--and all we do is text and send pictures, would that count as an affair??? Just in case on of us backs off...
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 31

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    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 30

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    I think about having an affair all of the time.

    I need the passion and the excitement that I'm missing. I've had a couple of very short experiences in the past and I was left extremely disappointed.
    Lucca9 Lucca9 36-40, F 58 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    I am a married guy...

    I am 45 , professional , happy . I find myself incredibly attracted to big bbw woman ... I want to have an affair with a bbw ... I'm in Miami
    despino123 despino123 41-45 Mar 16

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    Mmmm so today something happened

    that was lovely but dangerous and charming but devious, all at the same time. I didn't tell my boyfriend I got off work early and my married coworker left work early too. We met up at this little bar down the street but the power in the building had been out. The power was...
    Yellowbird1812 Yellowbird1812 26-30, F 20 Responses Mar 7

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    I have been sexless for almost 4 year snow.

    My husband doesn't have any desire to at least please me. I am fed up for always being like this. I'm tired and cannot take to be ignored, neglected and abandoned. I'm thinking to have someone who will treat me special and provide everything I need.
    Yojj13 Yojj13 31-35, F 23 Responses Jan 6, 2014

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    The Truth Hurts

    I have lived with a man who shows little to no intimacy. He does nothing to try and make me happy. Or does and only returns to the same person he was. I know we can't change ourselves but we can try to make someone happy. How hard is that??? I want love, I want someone I can...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 64 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    secrettCD secrettCD 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 28

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    When I am angry with my husband I think about

    it a lot. But then I don't think i would ever be able to really lay with another man for a one hitter quitter. It would have to be a real connection there between us. But then I would have to leave my marriage and I'm not sure if I'm at my breaking point to so that just yet... I...
    aurismith aurismith 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 19

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    Any women in Seattle

    that can help me with this :-)
    bluebirdday bluebirdday 51-55, M May 12

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    I wish I could be on a site like this

    and be honest, without all the pervs...sheesh
    LauraTm504 LauraTm504 31-35, F 45 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I Do..

    Every time one ends. LOL!
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 14 Responses May 3, 2013

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    I think I might have already cheated.

    I have never had a chat like that. It turned me on so much. My husband has been turning me down and making me feel like wanting sex is wrong. It just felt good to know I'm not alone. Or some over sexed crazy lady. Or if I am it's not a bad thing. Im having Ideas of going out and...
    beautifly917 beautifly917 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 20, 2014

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    No. I'm not. But I wanted to say

    that people on here disgust me. Save ONE specific scenario in which there is literally no way out, I personally find it beyond selfish and deplorable for people to step out on their chosen mate. YOU chose them. Why not leave them if you're unhappy? Because you want your cake...
    RationalCutie RationalCutie 22-25, F 80 Responses Feb 9

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    honestly girls love me

    and my girlfriends cheating, I have. a lot of close girl friends I could talk into doing a little something with me but I don't. I try not to until were broken up but its hard when my shirts of and women touch me in seemingly innocent ways b it then get more feely to push them...
    skythuss skythuss 18-21, M Mar 31

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    I swore I never would.

    ....but I am so lonely. The desire to touch and be touched is so intense it is crippling.
    SouthernSweetness11 SouthernSweetness11 46-50, F 28 Responses Jun 23, 2014

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    I Think About It But...

    I don't think I'll do it. I don't think I'm capable of doing this to my husband. But I think about it all the time. I feel bad, because I know I'm lucky that my husband is still very attracted to me even after having two kids. But I'm not attracted to him anymore. I'm bored...
    Maritzi Maritzi 31-35, F 17 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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    Lupitar69 Lupitar69 41-45, F 11 Responses May 11

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    My co worker and I want to have an affair.

    .both married with children. It's will be nothing more after..can we really go back to being friends?
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 23 Responses Mar 29

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    I love sex. Not always with my husband.

    I love thinking about it, talking about it, and doing it. I am a very sexual woman who "loves" her husband but doesn't like him much. I have had sex with several men during our 7 year marriage. I travel for work and I am always looking for the next guy. I don't know why I do...
    Houzofsex Houzofsex 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I wish I could find someone around my age

    who would be interested in something like this. It's not something you want to just come out and ask someone but it would be nice to get some attention from someone who liked me.. Just sayin:/
    jussme91 jussme91 22-25, F 10 Responses Jan 23

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    mowyn mowyn 22-25, M May 14

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    To all you Guys and gals out there thinking of

    having an affair... have a cyberaffair! Its the absolute next best thing to the real thing without all the associated heartache!! Believe me I've had both and know now what I prefer!
    BUBBLYBOY BUBBLYBOY 56-60, M 10 Responses Jun 24, 2014

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    Going To Have An Affair

    I am definitely looking to having an affair. 7 years into my lonely marriage, I discovered that my husband is incapable of meaning ful type of communication. He finds conversing with my tortuous and draining. I used to take it personally, but now I understand about...
    survivor23 survivor23 36-40, F 133 Responses Oct 21, 2009

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    Life After Being In An Affair

    Well, Let me first say I found this site desperately searching for help/strength to get out of an affair I had been having for almost two years with a married man. I have successfully done this and want to share my feelings and experience with those out there struggling in the...
    Lazyw2526 Lazyw2526 46-50, F 24 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    11 years of marriage

    and 3 kids later, I have lost that "being in love" feeling with my husband. I stay, for now, because of my kids. If it weren't for them I would be long gone. I crave intimacy but not with him. I have been having dreams of being with other men. If I could experience again...
    greeneyedgirl276 greeneyedgirl276 36-40, F 26 Responses Apr 29

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    There's a guy I work with

    that has offered more than once to take me in the back. Why shouldn't i do it? My husband won't touch me...
    HiddenDesires88 HiddenDesires88 26-30, F 21 Responses Jun 28, 2014

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    Before You Cheat

      BEFORE YOU CHEAT....let me tell you my story of my husband going on a similar group or even this group looking for a woman willing to have sex with him. He found such a woman who was willing to cheat on her husband . I can't tell you the excruciating pain and mind...
    internetsluts internetsluts 46-50 103 Responses Oct 9, 2008

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    I can't stop thinking about having an affair

    with a guy from work..I know it's wrong but I am so "frustrated" because my husband I I have not been intimate in well over a year (he has medical problems) it won't be emotional nothing but physical! I didn't seek this out it just happened! (Never thought about it before nor...
    ldsmommy2015 ldsmommy2015 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 30

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    It's not that my marriage is bad

    or my hubby is bad in bed, I just crave something exciting and I just imagine having a fling with someone would be such a thrill!
    sallypaige sallypaige 22-25, F 172 Responses Jan 28

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    I'm a married, educated black female

    and I've been having an affair with a divorced 47 y/o white male. We met online started out as friends just someone to help with my loneliness. He was always attentive we laughed and joked together we realized that we were an hour apart he asked if I wanted to meet for dinner I...
    shessopeachy shessopeachy 36-40, F 58 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm married in a sexless marriage,

    very smart with discreet phone apps and just out of a year long affair with a woman that wanted to get married & have kids with me, but I'm staying in my marriage to be a good dad to my kids. I need an affair with someone in a similar situation, who get it. I gained a lot of...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 23

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