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I Think About Having An Affair

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    I've thought way to much about having an affair

    & now the shoe is on the other foot, a guy I could call my husband now messing around with another girl.... Or at least I think he is
    briyonnamobley briyonnamobley 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    Both of us are married,

    me happily and he seems so too, obviously interested in each other (lingering contact, flirtatious smiles), but we haven't talked yet. Connected through our children's sport. Any advice on how I can make things progress? I'm tired of just thinking about touching him.
    boobsandboots boobsandboots 36-40, F 12 Responses Jan 29

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    My husband wants me to get into **** & he works

    & I don't. I'm just a housewife! I use to work @ a ***** club & he didn't mind. He always wanted me to go to work. He says my ***** is big but I have a tight *** that he always wants to ****!
    Animallover69 Animallover69 36-40, F 10 Responses Jan 11

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    After so many years I think it's about time

    now what does one do one definitely takes care of a situation that needs to be addressed immediately and I think at this point I think it's necessary.it has been over 10's since I had sex with my wife ,she never talks about sex or makes any notions of wanting to. There has been...
    Marv063 Marv063 66-70, M 5 Responses Feb 3

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    I have been sexless for almost 4 year snow.

    My husband doesn't have any desire to at least please me. I am fed up for always being like this. I'm tired and cannot take to be ignored, neglected and abandoned. I'm thinking to have someone who will treat me special and provide everything I need.
    Yojj13 Yojj13 31-35, F 32 Responses Jan 6

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    Why an affair can be a necessary evil - from

    the point of view of a man. (see story in comment area below due to content restriction)
    FiremanforYou FiremanforYou 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 24

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    Going To Have An Affair

    I am definitely looking to having an affair. 7 years into my lonely marriage, I discovered that my husband is incapable of meaning ful type of communication. He finds conversing with my tortuous and draining. I used to take it personally, but now I understand about...
    survivor23 survivor23 36-40, F 137 Responses Oct 21, 2009

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    I think about this a lot.

    Living in a sexless marriage with a refuser husband is hard. It's sad feeling this alone when he is laying right next to me.
    Eclipsedheart Eclipsedheart 41-45, F 16 Responses Feb 26

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    A Line Crossed

    My best friend invited me to go out with her last night to "just get a couple of drinks" ..... with the 2 of us .... there's NEVER just a "couple of drinks" lol..... She texted me & said she was waiting for me at the restaurant's bar & to hurry up because there was a couple...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 16, 2013

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    I really would like not to think about an affair

    but given my current situation with a sexless marriage and no relief in sight (you can read all about it in the 'I Live in a Sexless Marriage' group) I think about it constantly. That said, I have a question about age and is probably directed more at female members. I'm 53 yo. I...
    lookingforanswers1 lookingforanswers1 51-55, M 2 Responses Mar 14

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    Thinking About It

    we've only been married for about 4 years but i am miserable. My husband is so verbally abusive and tells me i'm dumb, i'm getting fat etc. He doesn't work and has me to where i am afraid to leave him. I know i should leave blah blah blah but it isn't an option right now. i just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 21 Responses Sep 5, 2012

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    I just want more! I want dangerous,

    hot, fast! It starts with a look, then conversation and ends with......
    tenatena tenatena 31-35, F 10 Responses Jan 26

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    Hazelsapphire Hazelsapphire 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 13

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    I always wonder where I could meet attractive

    people - when I'm single. I'm successful, fit, attractive. It seems like there aren't any men that are a good match for me out there?
    wrightlover wrightlover 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    Seeking Anal

                           Being married , I have a want for Anal sex and my husband finds it disgusting. and will not try at all.   I seek men that will be willing to have anal sex with me but will not want regular sex, for that is for my husband.   I have a...
    mrsmarleen mrsmarleen 61-65, F 90 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    No Thinking About It Anymore ..... It'S Done

    Ladies Night always tends to bring out a crowd of people at our local bar. My girlfriends and I decided to go last Wednesday night to let our hair down and enjoy a night out on the town.  It was hot and muggy.  I decided to wear a tank top with a pair of tight blue jeans.  We...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 11 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    I Wish..

    it has been 20 years...everyone see me as a happy mum/wife with 3 beautiful kids... but deep down inside only i know whats the true story behind my life.. i have to support for all my family needies .not that i am complaining...cos i always have in mind that being a husband/wife...
    enchantingjade enchantingjade 36-40 12 Responses Jun 29, 2012

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    I love sex. Not always with my husband.

    I love thinking about it, talking about it, and doing it. I am a very sexual woman who "loves" her husband but doesn't like him much. I have had sex with several men during our 7 year marriage. I travel for work and I am always looking for the next guy. I don't know why I do...
    Houzofsex Houzofsex 41-45, F 15 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    rachelle1972 rachelle1972 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 29

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    I spent a lot of time thinking about having an

    affair ...... My husband who I thought I could be true to while he is in prison.... Has turned into a venomous jerk abusive and nasty..... So I guy that I met that I've liked a long time .......I gave him a shot and wow what was I thinking staying with the same person who was...
    TrueBecca TrueBecca 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 21

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    I've had one night stands not

    even knowing their name or where they're from, but I want a full on affair with the same person. Someone in the same situation. Knowing if I pass them in the street while they hold hands with their boyfriend/husband I know I can smile at them and think to myself I'm ******* your...
    andy8669 andy8669 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 22

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    I think about the excitement.

    The raw passion of animals in heat. Longing for a release from the everyday reality of life. The secret life that belongs to only you. No worries of your job, kids, spouse, housework. Just living in the moment of pure sinful lust. The joys of someone else wanting to use you for...
    aprilsums aprilsums 31-35, F 9 Responses Feb 13

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    The Paradox Of Marriage

    So after all I ask myself, who doesn´t think about having an affair, except for those people with an extremely low sex-drive or those few who seem to have found the perfect match. This leads me to wonder why marriage is still such an ideal, one partner for all your lifetime...
    Jaypanther Jaypanther 36-40, F 24 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    I have been married for 6 years now

    and working with my co worker for 1 1/2. So it's weird that just now I'm starting to have these thoughts. My thoughts just started the other night and I haven't been able to stop them. My co worker is Good looking, And I can't stop thinking about having an affair with him. I...
    eyes4you2 eyes4you2 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 27

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    Last Night

    Last night was probably the best nights in a long time ..... Well since NYE...... I went out with a couple that are friends of mine. My oldest daughter babysits their children. The husband invited his friend to come along with us. His friend is going thru a very nasty...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 14 Responses Jan 20, 2013

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    I am only 2 months out of my last affair

    and slowly getting back on my feet. I think I need more time really, but I miss being in a relationship so much. There is nothing like the sheer happiness of finding another who you connect with mind body and spirit. I miss it all...the messaging, calls, stolen hours together...
    Stormie01 Stormie01 46-50, F 10 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I think about having an affair with a woman.

    A deliciously sensual torrid affair. I want to be passionately caressed and kissed, everywhere. I want for us to become fluent in one another's body language. I want to whisper sweet nothings and all the things I'm about to do to her, then feel that tiny chill of excitement roll...
    LovesDeceit LovesDeceit 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 26

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    I Do..

    Every time one ends. LOL!
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 17 Responses May 3, 2013

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    There is someone I have worked with

    for over 10 years. She is funny, fiery and gorgeous. She is a really great friend and I love being around her. I sometimes drunk txt and she too but only jokingly or so I think. I'm unhappily married and she has a long term partner. I'd hate to make a move in case things...
    smartini smartini 36-40, M 5 Responses Feb 16

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    Life After Being In An Affair

    Well, Let me first say I found this site desperately searching for help/strength to get out of an affair I had been having for almost two years with a married man. I have successfully done this and want to share my feelings and experience with those out there struggling in the...
    Lazyw2526 Lazyw2526 46-50, F 23 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    I know it's so wrong

    but I can't help but think about it.
    ocmomof4 ocmomof4 31-35, F 8 Responses Feb 15

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    I had an affair before with a married man

    but i ended it. Left him because the relationship was just impossible as we live in the same village and apparently we are in the same family tree. But the feeling is always there, the feel of wanting him holding me is always there whenever i see him in any of our family...
    Prulla Prulla 26-30, F 11 Responses Jan 31

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    I think about starting an affair with a married

    man everyday. It's wrong on an ethics standpoint, not even going into morality and religion. But he just makes me think about it, it's the first time it has ever happened to me, never felt this compulsion with any other guy. I'm single and he'a married with kids. When we met...
    porfavor porfavor 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 17

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    Is this normal to think about this

    or even right? Ever since my wife first cheated on me I've always wanted to start an affair. I want to know what it feels like..
    Northwestmale11 Northwestmale11 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 17

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    So this is where it sucks.

    ....I've been seeing my other guy for over nine months now. I am very much in love with him. I know your not suppose to do that in an affair but I am. Anyway I want him all the time now, not just a few hours a week when we can. And days like today, where I miss him and I'm...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 2

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    Still Recommend It But Use Caution

    I've been seeing the other man for about three months now. We still see each other for lunch mostly or after work. We go to a secluded area and talk and make out for the hour or so. We have only gotten a hotel twice. The times we have were totally amazing. We got a hotel...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 8 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    I Know I Am Selfish

    I have thought about this long before I could admit to myself that our marriage is not getting any better. I have tried total commitment. I denied myself of the glory of what women should have under the blessings of marriage. But I just can't be happy with a man i don't have...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 32 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    This is the 3rd time i reconnect with the one

    person i cant get over. He was my first boyfriend my first love my first kiss and the first guy i ever had sex with (this was at 14 he was 16&1/2 we started dating when i was 12) I brk up with him at age 15 b/c i was forced to by my stepdad who was trying to abuse me, he told...
    MunecaTrizte MunecaTrizte 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 1

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    I am going through a separation,

    divorce is going to take a while, and I have a long term relationship but it is long distance. I am commited to the relationship, and have no intention to leave him, but I would love to have an affair. I would want to have a friendship type connection as I don't like cold...
    Hotcocoa15 Hotcocoa15 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    Ugh it's so frustrating not being able to

    quench my sexual thirst. I've tried everything with her. It just sucks. If she doesn't want to enjoy the satisfaction I can give her, than somebody else should.
    AlbuquerqueJay AlbuquerqueJay 31-35, M 3 Responses Jan 27

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    A Chance To Cheat

    When I had or still have the chance to cheat on my husband. I thought I would go forward with it till I felt guilty. I started to think my husband has been nothing but a good person to me yes we don't sex like I would like but over all his there for me. Not to say he spoils me...
    hiswife12 hiswife12 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 25, 2013

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    I think I want to cheat.

    I love the person I am with but I need something more.. Can someone talk to me ??
    runaway03105 runaway03105 22-25, F 35 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    My wife is asleep and every single night I

    think about having an affair , I'm 27 years old and I know she cheated on me so I have thought about doing the same to her , sex life has went down a lot to
    nick214486 nick214486 26-30, M 4 Responses Feb 17

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    I think about it constantly.

    .but I just feel dirty and disgusted with myself for even thinking about it..
    iDntCurr iDntCurr 22-25, F 12 Responses Feb 12

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    I've never had an affair

    but I've fantasize about it. I miss the feeling of getting to know someone for the first time, the newness of a relationship. I love my husband and I love all aspects of him. I just miss the feeling of a new relationship. Plus, I'm more aggressive in bed then I was ten years ago...
    girlygirlyNurse girlygirlyNurse 31-35, F 19 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I wish I could be on a site like this

    and be honest, without all the pervs...sheesh
    LauraTm504 LauraTm504 31-35, F 49 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I think about having an affair

    because I can see how he looks at other women I notice a change in his behavior and how he acts rude towards me he antagonizes me , ignores me He puts me down in joking annoying way And he is inconsiderate .I think about cheating out of anger
    uanni uanni 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 19

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    I think I might have already cheated.

    I have never had a chat like that. It turned me on so much. My husband has been turning me down and making me feel like wanting sex is wrong. It just felt good to know I'm not alone. Or some over sexed crazy lady. Or if I am it's not a bad thing. Im having Ideas of going out and...
    beautifly917 beautifly917 26-30, F 12 Responses Jan 20

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    Before You Cheat

      BEFORE YOU CHEAT....let me tell you my story of my husband going on a similar group or even this group looking for a woman willing to have sex with him. He found such a woman who was willing to cheat on her husband . I can't tell you the excruciating pain and mind...
    internetsluts internetsluts 46-50 102 Responses Oct 9, 2008

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    I am happy with my man,

    but he works different shifts each month. We are having a baby in 6 months and I spend time home alone a lot. Lately I am thinking/fantasizing about having a guy or more then one guy come over at the times that my fiancée is working. The more I think about it the more I want to...
    Innocent85 Innocent85 26-30, F 21 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    I feel neglected ,controlled

    and unable to stay focused . I find myself questioning myself
    brownsugar2014 brownsugar2014 46-50, F 7 Responses Feb 17

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    His anger issues have just pushed me away -

    each time he gets more angry I drift further and further away. I'm done with making my entire existence revolve around how to please him and successfully walk on egg shells. I have compatability staring me in the face and ready for the taking, which makes drifting twice as easy...
    Luckylotus013 Luckylotus013 26-30, F 25 Responses Mar 13

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    I've Been Through It, You Don't Want To Do It........

    As you can tell by my title remorseful refusing wife, I'm the one that had low sexual desire and didn't provide for my husbands needs. I would like to tell you and say right off an affair is the worst thing you could do to your family. You will not think about or even realize...
    RRRW RRRW 46-50, F 15 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    Something Very New I don't think about having

    an affair anymore, I'm having one. Its been one of the best experiences of my life. I forgot what it felt like to have a man want me and actually want to make me happy. Today reminded me of that. I'll explain. Today I mention to the other guy something that had bothered me...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    I Would Realy Love An Affair.....

    I would realy love an affair... to have a boy/girlfriend nobody knows about....I love secrets.
    linda linda 21-25, F 104 Responses Feb 22, 2007

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    I don't trust girls anymore.

    This site gave me so much new insight on you guys. But I guess this is how humans work so it's only natural. Wanting someone to yourself is greedy anyway and that creates pain. Do we have a need to feel special to someone? Is that why we're greedy? Haha, illusions are great.
    liquescent liquescent 18-21 3 Responses Mar 27

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    The Truth Hurts

    I have lived with a man who shows little to no intimacy. He does nothing to try and make me happy. Or does and only returns to the same person he was. I know we can't change ourselves but we can try to make someone happy. How hard is that??? I want love, I want someone I can...
    saltyorsweet saltyorsweet 31-35, F 18 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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