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I Think About Having An Affair

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    No Thinking About It Anymore ..... It'S Done

    Ladies Night always tends to bring out a crowd of people at our local bar. My girlfriends and I decided to go last Wednesday night to let our hair down and enjoy a night out on the town.  It was hot and muggy.  I decided to wear a tank top with a pair of tight blue jeans.  We...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    I Know I Am Selfish

    I have thought about this long before I could admit to myself that our marriage is not getting any better. I have tried total commitment. I denied myself of the glory of what women should have under the blessings of marriage. But I just can't be happy with a man i don't have...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 32 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    I think about this a lot.

    Living in a sexless marriage with a refuser husband is hard. It's sad feeling this alone when he is laying right next to me.
    Eclipsedheart Eclipsedheart 46-50, F 17 Responses Feb 26

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    Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce

    and half of the married couples cheat. And my observation is that many of the 25 percent left are on EP searching for an emotional or physical connection. I am a college professor. It is so interesting to view the college student perception of marriage. Many do not see it as a...
    intimatelycrowded intimatelycrowded 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 27

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    I think about it quite a lot.

    If you want to know why read my other stories. I can't live like this and I don't think I should have too.
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 5 Responses Oct 4

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    I have a great wife,

    but I am constant thinking about having an affair. I do not know if I rally can do it if the posibility is there, but I still think of it all the time. Why can't I just love my wife and live happily ever after... Is this normal?
    lekenchris lekenchris 41-45, M 7 Responses Sep 18

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    I swore I never would.

    ....but I am so lonely. The desire to touch and be touched is so intense it is crippling.
    SouthernSweetness11 SouthernSweetness11 46-50, F 31 Responses Jun 23

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    I Think About It But...

    I don't think I'll do it. I don't think I'm capable of doing this to my husband. But I think about it all the time. I feel bad, because I know I'm lucky that my husband is still very attracted to me even after having two kids. But I'm not attracted to him anymore. I'm bored...
    Maritzi Maritzi 31-35, F 18 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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    I think about having one with my class mate.

    She's brunette, Spanish name. Olive skin. I don't know how she feels about me. She could be attracted to me. I'm bad at these things. I just want to feel affection sometimes. Not often. I'm conceited enough to want an admirer, one I find worthy. She's interesting enough. Not as...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 12

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    I'm so in trouble if a woman at work comes on

    to me, I'm going to be that deer in the headlights being led to slaughter. I'll go, I'll obey willingly, welcoming any touch. I'm so weak from so much neglect. Fortunately, my Ohio community is very conservative. I'm sure it happens, it's just very well hidden. It's like...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Seeking Anal

                           Being married , I have a want for Anal sex and my husband finds it disgusting. and will not try at all.   I seek men that will be willing to have anal sex with me but will not want regular sex, for that is for my husband.   I have a...
    mrsmarleen mrsmarleen 61-65, F 83 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    I Would Realy Love An Affair.....

    I would realy love an affair... to have a boy/girlfriend nobody knows about....I love secrets.
    linda linda 21-25, F 104 Responses Feb 22, 2007

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    I love sex. Not always with my husband.

    I love thinking about it, talking about it, and doing it. I am a very sexual woman who "loves" her husband but doesn't like him much. I have had sex with several men during our 7 year marriage. I travel for work and I am always looking for the next guy. I don't know why I do...
    Houzofsex Houzofsex 41-45, F 13 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    leanncc11 leanncc11 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I've never had an affair

    but I've fantasize about it. I miss the feeling of getting to know someone for the first time, the newness of a relationship. I love my husband and I love all aspects of him. I just miss the feeling of a new relationship. Plus, I'm more aggressive in bed then I was ten years ago...
    girlygirlyNurse girlygirlyNurse 31-35, F 15 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I think about the excitement.

    The raw passion of animals in heat. Longing for a release from the everyday reality of life. The secret life that belongs to only you. No worries of your job, kids, spouse, housework. Just living in the moment of pure sinful lust. The joys of someone else wanting to use you for...
    kaigeshadowwalker kaigeshadowwalker 31-35, F 7 Responses Feb 13

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    I thought about it with my last serious bf.

    ..he didnt want to know anything about sex,yet I loved him.I remain by his side for 6 years and then...at the last part it became unbarable.All was wrong,not even emotional gain,positive things...nothing.All problems and all about himself.I was treated really wrong...Then the...
    4biandu 4biandu 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 31

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    I am about to start an affair with a beautiful,

    sexy, intelligent women I met on EP. I have been with my wife for about 13 years & she has turned into a real *****. I fed up & want to do this (my W had an affair). Should I go ahead?
    LondonKiwi LondonKiwi 46-50, M 9 Responses Nov 23

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    I have thought about it every single day

    for the past year,I am getting closer to actually doing it.
    withoutshame withoutshame 46-50, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I seriously thinking about having an affair

    because i dont think im am happy with my marriage anymore.
    Prulla Prulla 26-30, F 15 Responses Jul 29

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    Still Recommend It But Use Caution

    I've been seeing the other man for about three months now. We still see each other for lunch mostly or after work. We go to a secluded area and talk and make out for the hour or so. We have only gotten a hotel twice. The times we have were totally amazing. We got a hotel...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 8 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    It's never the person you think.

    About six months ago, a colleague and I began some heavy duty flirting. I loved the attention since I wasn't (and am still not) getting any at home. But when he started getting scared of being caught, things between us cooled off significantly. We never did anything...
    andie2007 andie2007 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'll be heading to California

    for business in about month and I keep thinking that will be the perfect time to have a little affair. I can't get the thought out of my mind. I will be all alone, in a nice hotel room, wife will be hundreds of miles away. There is no chance that my wife could walk in or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 19

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    Yep. I do. Obsessively.

    Difficult to find the right person alas....
    ThisCharmingManUK ThisCharmingManUK 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 13

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    I've Been Through It, You Don't Want To Do It........

    As you can tell by my title remorseful refusing wife, I'm the one that had low sexual desire and didn't provide for my husbands needs. I would like to tell you and say right off an affair is the worst thing you could do to your family. You will not think about or even realize...
    RRRW RRRW 46-50, F 15 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    So this is where it sucks.

    ....I've been seeing my other guy for over nine months now. I am very much in love with him. I know your not suppose to do that in an affair but I am. Anyway I want him all the time now, not just a few hours a week when we can. And days like today, where I miss him and I'm...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 8 Responses Apr 2

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    To all you Guys and gals out there thinking of

    having an affair... have a cyberaffair! Its the absolute next best thing to the real thing without all the associated heartache!! Believe me I've had both and know now what I prefer!
    BUBBLYBOY BUBBLYBOY 56-60, M 8 Responses Jun 24

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    Bull2014 Bull2014 51-55, M 1 Response Nov 18

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    Last Night

    Last night was probably the best nights in a long time ..... Well since NYE...... I went out with a couple that are friends of mine. My oldest daughter babysits their children. The husband invited his friend to come along with us. His friend is going thru a very nasty...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 12 Responses Jan 20, 2013

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    Women are beautiful and I am wanting to start

    an affair but this wife thing is in my way
    rustr8 rustr8 51-55, M 1 Response Sep 6

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    Are there any UK based women with similar

    thoughts?? (He asks hopefully)
    ThisCharmingManUK ThisCharmingManUK 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 18

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    Love sweet love.... I know

    when you have an affair you are not suppose to fall in love but I did and it gets stronger everyday. I know what people will say, that its a fantasy and everyone has a right to his or her opinion. When I started an affair I did not intend to fall in love. I just wanted to...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 31

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    I'm 35 and in Arizona,

    I travel all over the state and just wish I could have some fwb that understand my situation
    unp12 unp12 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 21

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    Can I ask people's opinions.

    Is an emotional affair cheating?
    mhawkings mhawkings 31-35, M 9 Responses Nov 30

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    It seems that relationships

    that start on here is nothing but a game to so many. Don't lead anyone on with a promise of having an affair when you know darn well that you are not going to go through with it.
    InTheDogHouse InTheDogHouse 51-55, M 3 Responses Aug 27

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    My wife and I have a good sex life

    but something is missing with the emotional connection.
    Handsome78 Handsome78 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 18

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    I don't quite know how to approach the

    situation. On one hand there's uncharted territory. Boundaries to be explored, methods to be taught. On the other hand, my right. The scandal...
    s0undgarden s0undgarden 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 21

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    I've thought about having an affair almost

    constantly for quite some time now... I've even searched again and again for the right woman, but nothing has ever come of it. There aren't many ways to find the right situation... Even on EP, with so many of us searching, it seems like the perfect match is either hundreds or...
    2feetApart 2feetApart 36-40, M 7 Responses Dec 4

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    Something Very New I don't think about having

    an affair anymore, I'm having one. Its been one of the best experiences of my life. I forgot what it felt like to have a man want me and actually want to make me happy. Today reminded me of that. I'll explain. Today I mention to the other guy something that had bothered me...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    I Do..

    Every time one ends. LOL!
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 14 Responses May 3, 2013

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    So it didn't play out

    as planned... Her family was there to some degree and it made sexual thoughts abit awkward (even for me:/) That said, I chatted quite abit w her friend. Conversation started getting intimate... She was definitely game and seemed beyond "fun." Had concern with my wedding ring...
    CuriouslyIntrigued11 CuriouslyIntrigued11 31-35, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I think about having an affair all of the time.

    I need the passion and the excitement that I'm missing. I've had a couple of very short experiences in the past and I was left extremely disappointed.
    Lucca909 Lucca909 36-40, F 57 Responses Oct 14

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    I think about Sex constantly

    and can't get enough....
    Salesguy2121 Salesguy2121 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 12

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    His anger issues have just pushed me away -

    each time he gets more angry I drift further and further away. I'm done with making my entire existence revolve around how to please him and successfully walk on egg shells. I have compatability staring me in the face and ready for the taking, which makes drifting twice as easy...
    Luckylotus013 Luckylotus013 26-30, F 21 Responses Mar 13

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    I wish I could be on a site like this

    and be honest, without all the pervs...sheesh
    LauraTm504 LauraTm504 31-35, F 45 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I became the other woman this weekend.

    Not like a love affair, more a FWB. I just ended a 17 year marriage and this guy made me feel like someone would want a mid 30s woman with kids. I did so many things wrong I don't even know where to start. He showed me just how naive and inexperienced I am. It's funny how I...
    Oldhigh96 Oldhigh96 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 22

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    Life After Being In An Affair

    Well, Let me first say I found this site desperately searching for help/strength to get out of an affair I had been having for almost two years with a married man. I have successfully done this and want to share my feelings and experience with those out there struggling in the...
    Lazyw2526 Lazyw2526 46-50, F 23 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    Is there anything wrong with looking

    for fulfillment? In my SM for so long, I have desires and passions that go nowhere except to my employer. Is that the best? I have been paying more attention, flirting and trying to have fun. And the fact that I am married is the problem. So I am completely confused, must I be...
    JackFlirts JackFlirts 51-55, M 6 Responses Aug 30

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    I want to wake up one morning in a hotel room

    with her beside me. I slowly lean over kissing her and thanking her for last night. Instead of finishing my thank you I deeply kiss her again running my hands up along side of her. Both of us knowing that in a few hours we have to go or risk being caught by our partners. The...
    Maximus08 Maximus08 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 19

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    How many of you women would prefer this instead

    of cheating? Read the article: http://livefastmag.com/2011/02/hot-wives/
    cucksome cucksome 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 1

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    Note: No, I will not do it.

    In fact, I don't even plan or consider it. It's just a small temptation. It's funny because I really hate cheaters(and other women/men) with a passion. So I'm a huge friggin' hypocrite. But he hurt me so badly with having an affair, and all the messed up **** he did to me...I...
    PerspectiveDetective PerspectiveDetective 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 18

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