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I Think About Having An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 21,243 People

    Because of the way our marriage have turned out

    I have been thinking about other women more and more... Last time we where intimate with each other was early 2013 (this I wrote in August 2015). Somehow I have come to a point in our marriage that I don't care so much about the affair being cheating, but I am still not sure...
    SteinHansson SteinHansson 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 26

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    I wish I could be on a site like this

    and be honest, without all the pervs...sheesh
    LauraTm504 LauraTm504 31-35, F 45 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    this is something i really want to do

    especially with a women older then me whom i can give all me attention to. If any women from london pls Message me.
    vidzzz vidzzz 18-21, M Jul 26

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    I Know I Am Selfish

    I have thought about this long before I could admit to myself that our marriage is not getting any better. I have tried total commitment. I denied myself of the glory of what women should have under the blessings of marriage. But I just can't be happy with a man i don't have...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 32 Responses Sep 27, 2011

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    Ladies and its with your man !

    !! If you cant take care of business at home and your man needs to use EP to flirt, chat ect with women, well look out im going to get him
    ExtremeNext ExtremeNext 26-30, F 80 Responses Feb 10

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    I Do..

    Every time one ends. LOL!
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 14 Responses May 3, 2013

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    justusat justusat 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 10

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    I think about this all the time now.

    I want someone to connect with and spice up my life either in person (California Bay Area) or online with pics and fun. I love my wife, but there is no intimacy or really doing anything together anymore... We are both 28 and we only have sex every other month.......... I need...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 20

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    I don't know if I want a full-blown affair.

    I think I would be happy to just meet with an open minded lady for conversation and a cuddle.
    melbonly melbonly 51-55, M 2 Responses Aug 15

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    I've Been Through It, You Don't Want To Do It........

    As you can tell by my title remorseful refusing wife, I'm the one that had low sexual desire and didn't provide for my husbands needs. I would like to tell you and say right off an affair is the worst thing you could do to your family. You will not think about or even realize...
    RRRW RRRW 46-50, F 15 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    I'm a married, educated black female

    and I've been having an affair with a divorced 47 y/o white male. We met online started out as friends just someone to help with my loneliness. He was always attentive we laughed and joked together we realized that we were an hour apart he asked if I wanted to meet for dinner I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 53 Responses May 22

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    I have been sexless for almost 4 year snow.

    My husband doesn't have any desire to at least please me. I am fed up for always being like this. I'm tired and cannot take to be ignored, neglected and abandoned. I'm thinking to have someone who will treat me special and provide everything I need.
    Yojj13 Yojj13 31-35, F 22 Responses Jan 6, 2014

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    So, I struggle with this.

    A few days ago I passed 5 solid unbroken years with no sex. Why? I really don't know. For that you'd have to ask my wife. I'm here for two very small, adorable reasons. My twin boys. But that human imperative tugs and tugs and tugs, doesn't it? The need to feel another human...
    writermonkey13 writermonkey13 46-50, M 8 Responses Jun 16

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    Hi all anyone in Sydney

    that is married think of having an affair want to chat
    penrithguy2774 penrithguy2774 41-45, M Jul 6

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    Mmmm so today something happened

    that was lovely but dangerous and charming but devious, all at the same time. I didn't tell my boyfriend I got off work early and my married coworker left work early too. We met up at this little bar down the street but the power in the building had been out. The power was...
    Yellowbird1812 Yellowbird1812 26-30, F 19 Responses Mar 7

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    Iv been talking to a woman on here

    for a couple of weeks we are both married but we have just clicked we txt each other all the time and talk for hours. She asked me would i be up for an affair as she thinks im hot, i think shes hot to and have loads in common. I agreed to meet her for a drink but i told her i...
    Mysteryman35 Mysteryman35 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 4

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    No. I'm not. But I wanted to say

    that people on here disgust me. Save ONE specific scenario in which there is literally no way out, I personally find it beyond selfish and deplorable for people to step out on their chosen mate. YOU chose them. Why not leave them if you're unhappy? Because you want your cake...
    RationalCutie RationalCutie 22-25, F 75 Responses Feb 9

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    The Truth Hurts

    I have lived with a man who shows little to no intimacy. He does nothing to try and make me happy. Or does and only returns to the same person he was. I know we can't change ourselves but we can try to make someone happy. How hard is that??? I want love, I want someone I can...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 67 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I'm in a lonely place.

    I'm not sure id want sex with anyone, not sure I could do it to my wife but would love to connect with someone and just cuddle and feel that warmth.
    stuographer stuographer 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 27

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    amelcc11 amelcc11 26-30, F Aug 3

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    Are there any ladies out there seriously

    considering it? Im hoping to find someone on here.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 6

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    my wife is the only woman I have every had sex

    with. sometimes I wish I had more sexual experiences. Most times I keep thinking about going on one of those sex sites and just go have sex with a random person.
    Aaronns Aaronns 36-40, M 5 Responses Jun 22

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    I'm craving an emotional online affair,

    is that what it's called lol? I don't want to cheat on my husband, but id like to fulfill my needs as a woman of feeling desired. I'd like to sexually tease someone who actually enjoys it, unlike my husband. I am only 5 lbs over weight from my pre pregnancy body, and last time I...
    Sarahi7 Sarahi7 26-30, F 17 Responses Jul 21

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    Indeed I do. Frequently.

    (And in the past have done rather more than think..) The years are passing. Life is passing. A little surreptitious joy? Too much to ask for? Maybe. Time moves ever faster it seems.. ...is that the tick of a clock I hear?
    Newnameuk Newnameuk 46-50, M Aug 26

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    Any ladies near the Rockford IL area sound like

    this fits your situation? Married 15 years and despite my best efforts the sex is gone and I don't see it coming back. I miss that spark and sensuality you feel when you just can't keep your hands off your partner. If this sounds like you drop me a line and lets chat and see...
    HubbyInNeed HubbyInNeed 36-40, M Jul 11

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    since almost everyone are making challenges up,

    why not me, the frying bacon with out a shirt on challenge l, who dares me
    garry232 garry232 18-21, M Jun 5

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    What's not to want on having an affair?

    When you have a boyfriend, you can request many things...kisses there, hugs here...yeah love is on the air.But what's more in store is during occasion like birthdays, anniversaries, Holidays and all...you have someone you can fool around, jest and pick on and imply for a gift.Now...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 20 Responses Aug 26

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    tallmale1011 tallmale1011 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 26

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    I think about it constantly.

    .but I just feel dirty and disgusted with myself for even thinking about it..
    143ily 143ily 22-25, F 26 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    Update on my "drama".

    So the wife and I started talking last night. Yes we talked a lot. One of the things we talked about is that little "toy". (Mini vibrator) I got one for us years ago and after a while it broke. So I went and bought a new one. Not a cheap one either. So I have noticed that at...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 13

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    I think about having an affair all of the time.

    I need the passion and the excitement that I'm missing. I've had a couple of very short experiences in the past and I was left extremely disappointed.
    Lucca9 Lucca9 36-40, F 54 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    Seeking Anal

                           Being married , I have a want for Anal sex and my husband finds it disgusting. and will not try at all.   I seek men that will be willing to have anal sex with me but will not want regular sex, for that is for my husband.   I have a...
    mrsmarleen mrsmarleen 61-65, F 87 Responses Jun 30, 2011

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    I Think About It But...

    I don't think I'll do it. I don't think I'm capable of doing this to my husband. But I think about it all the time. I feel bad, because I know I'm lucky that my husband is still very attracted to me even after having two kids. But I'm not attracted to him anymore. I'm bored...
    Maritzi Maritzi 31-35, F 17 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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    I think about this a lot.

    Living in a sexless marriage with a refuser husband is hard. It's sad feeling this alone when he is laying right next to me.
    Eclipsedheart Eclipsedheart 46-50, F 16 Responses Feb 26, 2014

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    Just something for some release.

    NSA type of connection.
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M Jun 22

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    No Thinking About It Anymore ..... It'S Done

    Ladies Night always tends to bring out a crowd of people at our local bar. My girlfriends and I decided to go last Wednesday night to let our hair down and enjoy a night out on the town.  It was hot and muggy.  I decided to wear a tank top with a pair of tight blue jeans.  We...
    southernbelle93126 southernbelle93126 36-40, F 12 Responses Jul 1, 2013

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    I have been trying to connect on an emotionally

    intimate level with my wife after we went through a "rough phase" (her lying and cheating mainly). She will not open up to me and told me I should, "find someone else". Who says that?
    Wingsuit Wingsuit 36-40, M 12 Responses May 28

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    I've never had an affair

    but I've fantasize about it. I miss the feeling of getting to know someone for the first time, the newness of a relationship. I love my husband and I love all aspects of him. I just miss the feeling of a new relationship. Plus, I'm more aggressive in bed then I was ten years ago...
    girlygirlyNurse girlygirlyNurse 31-35, F 15 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    It started about four years ago.

    I've been married over 10 years, some history in my other stories, but my wife withdrew physical affection and later any sort of intimacy as a result of illness. We're working on it with various doctors, but as example from the other night... we were talking about why she can't...
    jp20156 jp20156 41-45, M 8 Responses Aug 19

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    I think I might have already cheated.

    I have never had a chat like that. It turned me on so much. My husband has been turning me down and making me feel like wanting sex is wrong. It just felt good to know I'm not alone. Or some over sexed crazy lady. Or if I am it's not a bad thing. Im having Ideas of going out and...
    beautifly917 beautifly917 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 20, 2014

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    11 years of marriage

    and 3 kids later, I have lost that "being in love" feeling with my husband. I stay, for now, because of my kids. If it weren't for them I would be long gone. I crave intimacy but not with him. I have been having dreams of being with other men. If I could experience again...
    deleted deleted 26-30 26 Responses Apr 29

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    My wife and I have broken down some barriers

    and have connected on a bit more intimate side of things. It still hasn't changed my thoughts on finding another lover to share some things the wife just can't accept. Thoughts on how to keep another lover from the wife? It would help if she wanted another relationship too. Then...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 4 Responses Jun 15

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    ilovebustyfemales ilovebustyfemales 41-45, M Aug 10

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    Hi all I'm looking for someone from Sydney

    Australia if anyone is keen
    penrithguy2774 penrithguy2774 41-45, M Jul 24

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    She did it again! WTH!

    ?! Is it normal for all women to do this to their husbands? I mean let's get real!! I'm not really asking for anything nasty!! No bondage or whips or changes. Just plain sex. I'm not even asking for a BJ! Girls, I flirted with her. Tell her how hot she is. Brush her legs, butt...
    Bird500 Bird500 41-45, M 3 Responses Jun 12

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    I masturba*e frequently to my wives friends.

    The scenarios are becoming a lot more vivid now and i'm worried im enjoy sex less because of it
    liquidylow liquidylow 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 2