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I Think Bdsm Can Be Healthy

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 639 People

    Bdsm Adds Challenge to Sex

    Bdsm adds spark and creativity to a fun activity. I find, especially as the Dom, that it requires me to be aware of what the sub is experiencing and to have a plan for making the most of the opportunity.  That means more then just for me. I want my subs to *** and *** and...
    licketysplit00 licketysplit00
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2008

    How To Negotiate A Bdsm Relationship, Part 2 : Http://sevdasub.blogspot.co.uk/2012/12/how-to-negotiate-bdsm-relationship-part_12.html

    Ownership and lifestyleThre are many good Master/slave relationships n BDSM. They have a specil kind of bond, which I believe to be very different from those of a Vanilla relationship.While it is obvious why a Dom would want to own a slave, but the strongest drive comes from...
    owmerofsevdaslave2 owmerofsevdaslave2
    41-45, M
    Dec 12, 2012
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Dec 28, 2015

    Finally!

    I've been into some areas of BDSM since I can remember. Back when I was a child, I didn't realize what I was doing and thinking, but when I was about 10 I started being conflicted about it. At 13, I read about ******* and realized my interest in those things I did was sexual...
    naranja naranja
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Mar 19, 2010

    Bdsm Can Be Extremely Heathy

    There will always be those who get into BDSM for the wrong reason. There are always predators and there will always be broken bottoms who do little more then create drama but generally for those called to this sort of thing it is wonderful and fulfilling. I have found that most...
    foxshadow foxshadow
    41-45, F
    13 Responses Nov 12, 2011

    hi every body i am sadist i live in egypt .

    some ppl here do not know what bdsm mean and others know about bdsm but just think thats disease and bdsmers are murders or criminals and some mad people .may be tv some times make the imagination of the people so high and unlimited .so its whole misunderstanding .if your gf...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jun 23, 2014

    Sex Bondage, Torture ..... Http://darkwolf40.blogspot.co.uk/2012/12/sex-torture-and-bondage.html

    Clamps and ClipsThere are a variety of clams and clips to be bought from Sex Shops. If your slave is new to this kind of punishment five minutes can seem like an eternity: you need to exercise judgement, 15 minutes is quite safe. However we are all different, some can bare far...
    owmerofsevdaslave2 owmerofsevdaslave2
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

    Bdsm As A Stress Realever

    I think the power exchange is great for both sides as tention and stress realever.As the submissives gives up all control, there is a great feeling in letting go.The dominant gets the power over another human and does as he/she feels like it.The dominant gets pamper, loved and...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Dec 28, 2011

    Scarred

    I have spent the better part of my life hiding the scars of what has happened in my past. In doing so I buried aspects of myself that hold the capability to bring me great joy. Before I discovered this ever-evolving part of myself I was controlled by old wounds. While I was busy...
    Hislittleone Hislittleone
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 5, 2009

    In Trust...

    As with everything, the relationship depends on the individual. To me, being a submissive, I only submit to someone that I trust completely, that I know will cherish me and protect me yet delight in knowing how far the exploration of intensity can be made. It cannot exist...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    8 Responses Feb 3, 2009

    Healthy Release

    I think it can be a healthy and productive way to relax and let your guard down after living day to day in a world that seeks to put restrictions on behavior and puts us through one stressful situation after another. When practiced among consenting adults, it can let the mind be...
    Leatherheart Leatherheart
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jan 30, 2010

    Fake Doms, Fidelity And Fuckery

    Ladies and gentlemen, My dilemma: I despise drama. Oh, how I despise it. I like EP. Therefore, what does one do when the two inevitably meet? Oh yes, compose a diatribe on the subject. Fortunately, I am a great fan of diatribes, and will eagerly grab my quill in anticipation when...
    RedRubies RedRubies
    36-40, F
    40 Responses Aug 2, 2011

    Has A Slave A Right To Her/his Independent Life?

    http://sevdasub.blogspot.co.uk/2012/09/has-slave-right-to-herhis-independent.htmlIn my opinion: It depends on the Master/Mistress and slave/sub rules - what they agree on - but in general a slave has no right to a free choice of friends or social life. However a Master/Mistress...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Sep 23, 2012

    Should Your Master Use Fear Or Should He Gain 100% Voluntary Consent And Submission?

    Should Your Master Use Fear Or Should He Gain 100% Voluntary Consent And Submission? http://sevdasub.blogspot.com/2012/10/should-your-master-use-fear-or-should.html In my opinion:  A  Master can use fear to control his slave, of course he can. Any Master can beat his slave to...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Oct 7, 2012

    If It's What You're Into

    if you like that kind of thing, then yes, it's very healthy. and if you do like it, then it's unhalthy to deny, supress, or ignore it. especially the Dom/sub aspect.
    AngelaDark AngelaDark
    31-35, F
    May 13, 2008

    How to Negotiate A Bdsm Relationship, Part 1

    In my opinion, I'm going to talk about in his post what is the best way to negotiate a BDSM relationship, as this is one of the most difficult things to do. Often verbalized as in grunts moans oh god please never stop, at this stage in BDSM you will be in a relationship. You...
    owmerofsevdaslave2 owmerofsevdaslave2
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Dec 11, 2012

    All In Moderation...

    ...as long as it isn't what you base your relationship on, then it can be healthy. A little extra kink in and out of the bedroom does wonders for your complexion, and sex-life
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    20 Responses Jan 9, 2009

    As a Domme, of Course I Do...

    My boys and girls are Mine, because they feel safe with Me. I do not harm them in any way, but give them the guidance and agreed discipline they desire. When I was Pro, My cards said "Mistress ____, sensual psychologist and Guardian".
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 10, 2009

    Mistress Jocelyn

    i know bdsm is a healthy lifestyle as a dominatrix with more than 30 years experience living with and training male and female slaves i can make this statement with certainty. If you are living as a straight or vanilla lifestyle secretly desiring to be controled and disciplined...
    sassieangel sassieangel
    51-55, F
    Apr 29, 2012

    Good Relationships And Bad Ones Http://sevdasub.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/good-relationships-and-dangerous-ones.html

    So you decide to live a D/s lifestyle where do you go from here?Or maybe you have a partner who isn't into BDSM, or D/s, what do you do?Have you ever liked bondage, or slapping your partner, how do you do that? If one of you is into D/s, or S/M, what do you do?My advice : if...
    owmerofsevdaslave2 owmerofsevdaslave2
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Nov 12, 2012

    Spank Me!

    I live in South Africa.Need a whitefemale21-42 to tie me up,take a Rattan/paddle and Spank me till tears in my eyes!Around here they are Scarce.Found 1 who charge a High fee and live too far away!CAN ANYONE HELP ME FIND HER!NEED DISCIPLINE SERIOUSLY!CALL:ZERO SEVEN THREE,THREE...
    Fdekoker Fdekoker
    36-40
    1 Response Jan 3, 2012

    I Think Bdsm Can Be Healthy

    bdsm is healthy. The role of a submissive and a dominant partner is sexual fulfillment. It is practiced as a way to get closer to the spouse. I don't find it wrong at all. Bondage empathizes trust and limits.Both partners must have two elements to engage in bdsm roles. For...
    dave0903 dave0903
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jan 23, 2010

    Human Rights And Bdsm

    In my opinion:I recently had a conversation with somebody about BDSM and your "Human Rights" to be honest I really don't give a **** for "Human Rights" or Political Correctness. I know many folk do care about these subjects. I was talking to this person about myself and my...
    owmerofsevdaslave2 owmerofsevdaslave2
    41-45, M
    1 Response Oct 21, 2012

    Restraints: Www.sevdasub.blogspot.com

    Restraints Rope  You can buy many kinds and types of rope. You can buy special Bondage rope, designed for the purpose, which comes in different thicknesses and colours. Me personally we use what in the UK is called "Sash Cord" available in all good DIY stores. I...
    owmerofsevdaslave2 owmerofsevdaslave2
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Jan 9, 2013

    Can, Not Will.

    I joined this group because I believe what the group title says, but I have delayed writing here longer than for most groups I join, because I think this is a touchy subject, and I fear to be misinterpreted. First, let me say that anything two mature, consenting adults choose to...
    EBunbury EBunbury
    46-50, M
    12 Responses Jun 7, 2008

    Bdsm Adds Challenge to Sex

    Bdsm adds spark and creativity to a fun activity. I find, especially as the Dom, that it requires me to be aware of what the sub is experiencing and to have a plan for making the most of the opportunity.  That means more then just for me. I want my subs to *** and *** and...
    licketysplit00 licketysplit00
    51-55, M
    Mar 13, 2008

    Trust

    My first boyfriend introduced me to some light bondage. He bought these soft ropes from a sex toy website and used them to tie my ankles and wrists. Sometimes I love feeling vulnerable and being submissive during sex. It's fun being spanked and "choked" a little. I enjoyed being...
    paperalias paperalias
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 25, 2010

    Any Time Sex Is Enhanced, It's Healthy

    Not only, can it be, it usually is, IMO. Providing both sides agree, that is. When I am on the Dom side, it makes me think more, brings out my creativity more. Let's see if I do this, how will she react? Hmmmm . . . . In short, it's hotter than plain old vanilla sex. When I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 3, 2011

    Finally Pushing My Limits - And Trying To Understand Why...

    I'm somewhat new to BDSM. I have had many 'amateur' experiences in the past, of various flavors, and they always left me wanting more and dissatisfied with the intensity of the experience. Dealing with casual Doms, my wife and some of her lady friends, I always was asking for...
    niceguy1958 niceguy1958
    51-55, M
    Aug 16, 2010

    Sado Masochism : Http://sevdasub.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/sado-masochism.html

    You see sado-masochism in nearly every culture in their myths. You see people from out lifestyle in every culture thse who have the imagination to explore their seual and other desires. "Sex" is as important as eating or drinking and we ought to allow the one appetite to be...
    owmerofsevdaslave2 owmerofsevdaslave2
    41-45, M
    1 Response Nov 6, 2012

    Healthy because it is a creative outlet

    for those who aren't satisfied with a life in the other world. This reality, this BDSM, is a real world. For me and many more like me. Most of us work hard at our jobs, tend to be go-getters and self-motivated. We just express ourselves a little different than that other...
    rickie53 rickie53
    41-45, M
    Feb 10, 2014

    How Important Is Obedience To A Master/ Mistress

    It seems to me, in my opinion, not many slaves/subs seem to know what obedience is any more. Seems to me that the majority of slave/subs are obedient to the point when they are asked to carry out a task they don't want to do and prevaricate as much as they can. In recent...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 16, 2012

    Any Advice for An Inexperienced Dom taking On An Experienced Sub?

    i have been researching taking on the role of a dom over a sub i have been friends with for awhile. ive decided i definately want to take on this responsibility. any advice for handling a sub with all the experience? i know this can cause problems.
    siggy53551 siggy53551
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Nov 27, 2010

    Humiliation Mindfuck Http://Sevdasub.Blogspot.Co.Uk/2013/02/Humiliation-Mindfuck.Html

     http://sevdasub.blogspot.co.uk/2013/02/humiliation-mindfuck.html Verbal Abuse Often we call our partner "pumpkin", or "sweetie" however of you are into BDSM you may prefer "****", "*****" "*****" or slag", and for some this is a sexual turn on, and sex is fun, and...
    owmerofsevdaslave2 owmerofsevdaslave2
    41-45, M
    Feb 28, 2013

    I Am Playing A Role When I Pretend To Be Anything Else.

    I am secure with my masculinity. I am proud and honorable. I am a dominant male. This is evident in every aspect of my life, this is just who I am. I am not playing a role as dom, This is one of many ways that I express love to my female a female who loves being dominated by...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 25, 2012

    Cages : Www.sevdasub.blogspot.com

    Cages   There are all sorts of different cages, they all serve a purpose. I will write what I know, I am not an expert. BIRD CAGES: These are used in play, in a BDSM relationship, they are used for a short time.  They are constructed of wire mesh and a...
    owmerofsevdaslave2 owmerofsevdaslave2
    41-45, M
    Jan 13, 2013

    A Thank You!

    I am not an eloquent speaker let alone writer. Please be patient with me. I feel compelled to say “Thank You” to special few. Those of you know who you are. I did not realize how much an online friendship could mean to me. I found a Father, a Friend, a Lover, and a Dominant...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 24, 2011

    Absolutely

    After more then 2 decades involved with bdsm and D/s, it seems quite obvious that most people have a ying/yang personality:  some sub, some dom; some sadist, some masochist, some male, some female.  But most people, fearing that societal norms will disapprove, stay...
    parkslopeluver parkslopeluver
    61-65, M
    Mar 31, 2010

    Can You Be Into God And Into Bdsm?

    from: http://sevdasub.blogspot.co.uk/2012/10/can-you-be-into-god-and-into-bdsm.html In my opinion: There is a lot up for debate about whether BDSM and religion are compatible and some very religious people of all religious faiths believe that BDSM is a perversion, barbaric and...
    owmerofsevdaslave2 owmerofsevdaslave2
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Oct 15, 2012

    How Can A Slave Say No?

    In my opinion: I think "can a slave say no" is a big discussion point among many sub/slaves. As I live under Absolute Power Exchange rules the only time I think a slave can say no is at the beginning when the Master asks you to become his slave. In this period of time you...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Sep 18, 2012
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