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I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

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    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever 21-25, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 6, 2011

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    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 3 Responses May 5, 2012

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    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2 46-50 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess 36-40, F 13 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 23 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I don't care how good looking a person is, after all looks fade with time. I think it is much more important to have a great personality. I am far more interested in someones...
    jmc39 jmc39 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Yes people tell me everyday I am Beautiful Sexy Gorgeous etc but what I really care about is Personality I am a good listen and nice sweet caring and I want a honest relationship...
    Angel2345 Angel2345 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    When I think back to the first time I meet some one I remember seeing them differently than I do at the moment. Personality can change the way someone looks. I know a lot of...
    mountainseal mountainseal 13-15, F Jun 22

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    I wish society was less centred on looks, I wish that people didn't ridicule others because they don't match up with their definition of "perfect" and I wish people got to know you...
    RebeccaLouise224 RebeccaLouise224 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    ...like I understand people have preferences and ****...but like c'mon, looks fade...some worse than others...your personality stays :) plus...who wants a cake without the flavour...
    sawahdwaine sawahdwaine 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    It infuriates me that after spending my precious time getting to know someone they go and delete themselves . I don't mind people reinventing them selves I find it quite amusing...
    LexiMX81 LexiMX81 36-40, T 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    An open post to females 13-18 So many girls ask this question on EP. The pressure on your age group to be attractive must be exhausting. Thank you for making me aware of the...
    WizardOfAahs WizardOfAahs 41-45, M 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    Okay so Im posting again. Some people told me that they cant really give me their opinion because the last photo had effects and makeup on it. So this time... Its an ordinary pic...
    gotawishy gotawishy 16-17, F 16 Responses 1 day ago

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    When i say this group i laughed , but i said hey why not . So to the woman on this site may i ask . Do you think im attractive?
    Aniceguyforyou Aniceguyforyou 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 6

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    If you honestly think im attractive i want you to tell me so i can show you the true ugly in me lol jk but let me know (:
    verox3 verox3 13-15, F 27 Responses Jul 13

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    Do you think im attractive?
    cheysweetheart cheysweetheart 13-15, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Most of the time my friends would go cray cray without thinking the consequences and stuff. They just wanna have fun and being immature. I dont know but i feel like i am always way...
    blissfulserene blissfulserene 16-17, F Jun 26

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    I believe the eyes language is more powerful than words could ever be.. Have you ever felt shaken by someone solely by the look of their eyes? Felt a connection even though you...
    layla911 layla911 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    i become more rich thanks to my father
    ibecamerich ibecamerich 41-45, M Jun 23

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    Last time pople were so nice . Although this pic is for about a year ago . But iam soooooo young in it . Whatever . What do u think ?
    patrickpatterson patrickpatterson 18-21, M 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Who doesn't want to know the answer to this question. You must admit that you've longed to post on this subject; you've seen this topic and you've wondered who will find you...
    TheSmartestManOnEarth TheSmartestManOnEarth 16-17, M 2 Responses Jun 30

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    Am I doing a good job w the eyeliner ? I don't even wear makeup so idk if It makes me look attractive๐Ÿ˜‚, but make up does make me feel better .. So Idk ๐Ÿ˜ญ #firsttimer
    stephhunny1 stephhunny1 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 2

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    I am being told that i look good and handsome and kinda attractive sometimes :P
    Es989 Es989 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 8

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    Apparently the human brain makes you 5x more attractive than you actually are lol xx
    The0Fox The0Fox 16-17, F 29 Responses Jul 10

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    Does anyone think I'm attractive because I have really bad insecurities with myself and I really wanna know if I am :) be honest wanna know the truth
    brittyb97 brittyb97 16-17, F 48 Responses Jul 8

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    In the name of curiousity, do you think im an attractive? Somehow i always doubt it when my friends told me so. Thanks for the answer.
    gomezonfire gomezonfire 22-25, F 30 Responses Jul 13

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    I know it's not a good picture you cat see my eyes but am I attractive ?
    heyheyhe heyheyhe 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 11

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    If you post a picture in this group you're an attention seeker.. You know no one is gonna call you ugly.. No one ever does.. Which is good to be nice but come on, you're giving...
    akaShaun akaShaun 16-17, M 13 Responses Jul 12

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    So I've been through a lot of mixed messages from people. In high school i was bullied for being chubby, ugly, awkward etc etc etc but then i grew and got thinner (woo puberty...
    coldavenue coldavenue 18-21, M 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    I don't want to know if I am attractive I just want to know if I look okay with stubble. It's only a little bit but I am iffy so help please and thank you ๐Ÿ˜ also please excuse...
    TRMB TRMB 18-21, M 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    This picture is pretty lame but I guess it fits the 'attractive' pose altho Im having doubts if I really am...uh attractive? Loool ใ… ใ… ๐Ÿ˜…
    gotawishy gotawishy 16-17, F 29 Responses Jul 12

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    Haha everyone else is doing it so I may as well! Am I attractive? I don't find myself attractive but I wanna know your thoughts :)
    CharlieSGisenburg CharlieSGisenburg 16-17, M 12 Responses Jul 12

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    I would just like to say my cat is prettier than me, sigh. Now, good day! :-))
    julie0300 julie0300 13-15, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm a ninjaaaa lol but it was for a drama club and sorry if half my face is covered I think you can still make out if I'm attractive or not ๐Ÿ˜‰
    ajz4569 ajz4569 13-15, F 5 Responses Jun 23

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    I know I am attractive to some extent. Yet I wonder what you will say. My hair is strawberry blond and naturally wavy. This is all natural. What do you think?
    BeautifulBianca666 BeautifulBianca666 13-15, F 51 Responses Jun 23

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    K guys, I'm very insecure so I don't think I'm attractive but anyways I'm curious to know your opinion. Comment? Or nah? Lol. I fail at smiling or taking serious pics so yeahhhh
    XxbixtchybellaxX XxbixtchybellaxX 13-15, F 13 Responses Jun 24

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    I'm just feeling kinda low right now and one tiny compliment would honestly make my day... So do you think I'm attractive?? Lol Be honest hehe cx this isn't the best picture but...
    aliy14 aliy14 13-15, F 29 Responses Jun 28

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    I honestly have no clue whether I'm attractive but I'd like an honest answer I think I'm about average.