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I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

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    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 6, 2011

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    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    cottonbreeze cottonbreeze 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2 46-50 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    I am a gay man. I don't think I am especially

    attractive, yet I have men, and women, throw themselves at me. Many call me gorgeous. I don't mind sometimes, but last night I had two men literally fight over me. My roommate is always hitting on me and gets mad when I don't return the favor. The guys I do like, usually don't...
    pk421a pk421a 31-35 Nov 22

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    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 23 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever 21-25, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 3 Responses May 5, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Having a person who loves you like you are the best, the most beautiful, the smartest and the most amazing girl in the world is something that can be bought. Yes, it is wonderful...
    rockettothemoon08 rockettothemoon08 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Beauty comes from within where people would appreciate you and when you grow older they love you even more.There is something deeper than that layer of skin. And you might say hey...
    ladybug96 ladybug96 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 13

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    Yeah everyone would say that thing but everyone would want a hottest guy/girl in the town !!
    iamjustbeingme iamjustbeingme 16-17, M 1 Response Nov 25

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    Well I'm not gonna be one of those people that say looks don't matter, because honestly they do. You can not completely be with someone unless you're attracted to their physical...
    DepressingKayla DepressingKayla 18-21, F Nov 29

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    Everyone I've seen who posts in this group is attractive. Are attractive people more insecure about their looks or do unattractive people know they are unattractive, and don't...
    dub000 dub000 26-30, M 7 Responses Dec 9

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    Im so in love when i look at these so let me know if u think its attractive if so comment and message me there is more where that came from
    hwcock hwcock 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 30

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    Underwater noise pollution is harmful and has been devastating for marine life. Dolphins and whales have died from cerebral hemorrhaging from the deafening sounds from sonar...
    Nyxii Nyxii 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 10

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    I really need to know if you think I'm attractive, I always feel like at a distance people trying to squeeze my head. I look over and they are doing this finger pinching movements...
    orchids2blu orchids2blu 36-40, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    Hayy y'all find me attractive??? Lol i just went through a painful breakup and it sent my self esteem to new lows :/ So rates? What's my best feature? {And don't harass me about...
    kittykattt6918 kittykattt6918 13-15, F 17 Responses Nov 24

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    Omg my 2 year old is sleeping in his own room, on his own bed for the first time ever!! .. I'm not saying he's gonna last there all night but it's a start!! I'm suppose to be the...
    Anngeleyes Anngeleyes 26-30, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    "Miss Independent"Kelly ClarksonMiss independentMiss self-sufficientMiss keep your distanceMiss unafraidMiss out of my wayMiss don't let a man interfere, noMiss on her ownMiss...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    I hate how people who know they are super attractive post things asking if they are attractive just to be an attention wh*ore. Just saying.
    brownzugar brownzugar 16-17, M 1 Response Dec 9

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    So here is the real me for once no more poses for a picture or any **** to look good
    LostInLife19 LostInLife19 18-21, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm probably the sexiest man alive than any of them fools who think they are especially the girls. What do you think?
    Javenm88 Javenm88 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 22

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    Why doesn't anybody love me D:
    Lovelaurenx3 Lovelaurenx3 18-21, F 20 Responses Dec 4

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    Thought? Do I look dope... Oh wait I already know! YES YES I DO! ;* Idk if I get the hate for looking this dam good... I guess looking good comes with a price xD haha
    XXburnttoastXX XXburnttoastXX 13-15, F 9 Responses Dec 7

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    I've been told I'm attractive and photogenic, but only by people who know and like me. I think they're trying to be nice, and I still feel self-conscience
    JakobyM27 JakobyM27 18-21, M Dec 8

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    I dont want you t see my pictures but i want you to judge my personality. I am a teenager so please no harsh words, I am a shy person who doesn't like hugs or talking about...
    Cheshirecupacat Cheshirecupacat 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 8

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    i dont think im atractive at all i am light skinned (im as light as beyonce) im chubby, 5'9, have shoulder length silky flowing brown hair, a soft voice, dimples, and big brown...
    ihatefakepeople ihatefakepeople 13-15, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    *doesn't care what people think about me* *wants everybody to love me*
    trashspice trashspice 16-17, F 23 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Do I look attractive or nahh? 😊
    Latinopapi16 Latinopapi16 16-17, M 4 Responses Nov 22

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    Do you find me attractive?
    FreudianSlip13 FreudianSlip13 22-25, F 51 Responses Nov 24

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    Am I attractive or nah? :p
    Latinopapi16 Latinopapi16 16-17, M 3 Responses Nov 24

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    Alright be honest am I attractive or nah
    Jbt619 Jbt619 18-21, M 8 Responses Nov 25

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    am i attractive 
    jjjbq5 jjjbq5 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 30

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    Am I attractive? Yes or no? :)
    Latinopapi16 Latinopapi16 16-17, M 2 Responses Nov 30

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    Am I an attractive French gay guy ?
    aksouille aksouille 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 30

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    So tell me am I attractive or nah and be honest
    Jbt619 Jbt619 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 1

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