I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 146 People

    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42
    46-50, F
    3 Responses May 5, 2012

    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2012
    cottonbreeze cottonbreeze
    41-45, F
    1 Response Nov 22, 2014

    I am a gay man. I don't think I am especially

    attractive, yet I have men, and women, throw themselves at me. Many call me gorgeous. I don't mind sometimes, but last night I had two men literally fight over me. My roommate is always hitting on me and gets mad when I don't return the favor. The guys I do like, usually don't...
    pk421a pk421a
    31-35
    Nov 22, 2014

    It is a curse. Many years i didn't wear makeup

    or try to dress myself up because i hated the attention. The wrong attention. Before i was 24 years old, without any addition i was an average. Then i liked someone so lost some weight and people call me "hot". Problems arise. People often mistreat me, pay more attention to what...
    Sophialovesyou Sophialovesyou
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jun 6, 2015

    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08
    26-30, F
    24 Responses Jul 15, 2008

    In some ways it can do more harm

    than good... Sometimes people treat you a lot better or worse. A lot of the time the good guys don't come and approach bc they are intimidated or think you are some type of way.
    beautybeyondforever beautybeyondforever
    18-21, F
    Nov 2, 2015

    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 24, 2011

    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 12, 2008

    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

    I don't know if girls are mean to me

    because they are jealous or i'm just crazy. Also, everyone assumes if you're attractive your life is perfect and you're not allowed to have problems.
    Stucky99 Stucky99
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 21, 2015

    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jul 6, 2011

    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 27, 2012

    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess
    36-40, F
    14 Responses Jul 11, 2008

    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21
    31-35, M
    1 Response Oct 3, 2008

    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2
    51-55
    1 Response Mar 13, 2013
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