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I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

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    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2 46-50 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    cottonbreeze cottonbreeze 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 3 Responses May 5, 2012

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    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 6, 2011

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    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    I am a gay man. I don't think I am especially

    attractive, yet I have men, and women, throw themselves at me. Many call me gorgeous. I don't mind sometimes, but last night I had two men literally fight over me. My roommate is always hitting on me and gets mad when I don't return the favor. The guys I do like, usually don't...
    pk421a pk421a 31-35 Nov 22, 2014

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    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 24 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Social Media exposes a lot of things that wouldn't be exposed had it not existed. People post their every move. Relationships seem to be weaker due to outside influences. People...
    ATLsLadyLuck ATLsLadyLuck 36-40, F 3 Responses May 18

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    It seems a bit ironic saying this on a social media site, but oh well! Sure, it makes keeping in touch and talking to people much easier, but somebody like me who feels isolated...
    RealLifePerson RealLifePerson 26-30, M May 21

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    I dont care about how attractive you think you look, if you have an ugly heart and a bad attitude... you're ugly. Plain & Simple
    15ShadesOfBlue 15ShadesOfBlue 16-17, F 5 Responses May 18

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    Does anyone else intentionally dress down and plain because they want to see who takes an interest in them as is?
    jmaschino12411 jmaschino12411 26-30, F 9 Responses May 17

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    I like personality more than looks. :)
    endlessl0ve endlessl0ve 26-30, F 4 Responses May 6

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    i literally can't STAND people who think looks are what's important and then they act surprise when that 'good looking' person, turns out to have the personality of a sponge, and...
    Anth1290 Anth1290 22-25, M May 25

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    This is my favourite quote of all time. I will try not to go based off her looks.. Even though I will. It is my human nature I think to want to date a beautiful girl. Still this is...
    BenedictJones BenedictJones 13-15, M 1 Response May 15

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    Her beauty caught my eye, her personality caught my heart.
    anonymousdrummer anonymousdrummer 13-15, M 2 Responses May 15

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    I hate it when I'm texting someone and were in a fight and their just like your a b*tch but a beautiful one I'm just like so what about my looks what if I got in a car accident...
    LillyO3 LillyO3 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    In all honesty, why does this experience exist? Have we gotten to such a low point that we need to be told if we are attractive or not. I understand if you are maybe feeling self...
    chasetheweirdo8 chasetheweirdo8 13-15, M 6 Responses May 15

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    Kindness is probably the trait I value the most. I think being nice to each other really is something important, it can bring immense joy to anyone. However, while I do value it...
    Madobsession Madobsession 16-17, M May 25

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    I Want To Know If You Think Im Attractive Lol
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses May 7

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    I failed more times than I’d like to remember. I failed as a son, a student, a worshipper, a friend, and as a member of society. Everything has became a reminder of my...
    thesontheheir thesontheheir 26-30, M May 21

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    it hurts me deeply when my mom says "who needs to learn about parenting. the child is the one who had to understand their parents." I'm closing my heart to my parents now, and it...
    whitenut whitenut 13-15, F 2 Responses May 26

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    Stop trying to call me Stop messing with my mind Oh why can't you see? That there's nothing else you will find cause we'll only keep on fighting And our hearts will only keep on...
    4everrrr 4everrrr 18-21, F 7 hrs ago

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    It's one of the things I hate about being a POC. Blonde hair and blue eyes is attractive to our society. So I think I just don't see appreciation for people like me enough. Does...
    AriTheTechie AriTheTechie 18-21, F 1 Response May 4

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    I love being in love. I love the feeling you get when you see them pass by. When you see their name pop up on your phone. The feeling of uncertainty. Knowing or not knowing if they...
    OneStonedGirl OneStonedGirl 31-35, F 4 Responses May 8

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    My boyfriend handed me his ipod and ear buds at the gym the other night and told me this song reminds him of me: Dark years, brought endless rain, Out in the cold I lost my way...
    Mustalina Mustalina 36-40, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Please be honest. I'd rather have you be mean than lie to me. I've just always wondered if people thought I was attractive or not. The lighting a little of, my camera sucks.
    HG6666 HG6666 18-21, F 19 Responses May 15

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    Stay" I've been sitting here staring at the clock on the wall And I've been laying here praying, praying she won't call It's just another call from home And you'll get it and be...
    mrsskayl mrsskayl 26-30, F May 19

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    Has my world come to this? Been Single for 18months n haven't had any attention in real life. I've lost 3.5stone. My Figure is as good as it'll ever be. I'm 36 n have had two...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 13 Responses May 3

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    Well... This is me XD. Judge all you like, doesn't bother me as you're just random internet people haha
    ReeceDF98 ReeceDF98 16-17, M 2 Responses May 10

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    Hey girls I want to know if you think I'm attractive? :)
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses May 11

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    Nude that is. Id like to know what the women think, am i an attractive person nude?
    Littlejacki Littlejacki 26-30, M May 11

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    Am I attractive please? I personally think I'm too podgy.
    seanisaacparry seanisaacparry 16-17, M 4 Responses May 11

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