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I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

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    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    I am a gay man. I don't think I am especially

    attractive, yet I have men, and women, throw themselves at me. Many call me gorgeous. I don't mind sometimes, but last night I had two men literally fight over me. My roommate is always hitting on me and gets mad when I don't return the favor. The guys I do like, usually don't...
    pk421a pk421a 31-35 Nov 22, 2014

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    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    cottonbreeze cottonbreeze 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 3 Responses May 5, 2012

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    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 24 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2 46-50 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 6, 2011

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    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I think the problem with social media is that every statement can be taken out of context on what the person is saying.
    peppit peppit 36-40, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    so often,, a word misspelled, a phrase turned bad.. and people get all butthurt
    amylynne17 amylynne17 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    I don't own any social media except this website/app. Kind of irony but here, you don't have to be judged or have to talk to people you know.
    trismason trismason 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    If the wrong people get a hold of social media, it ruins the purpose and positive sides of it. I have some friends who abuse the he** out of social media privileges. Lieing...
    choxie22 choxie22 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    I myself do not look all that great. I'm well over 200 pounds and weight is a big thing for a lot of people. But, there are a lot of people who can't get past my looks and prefer...
    Good4It Good4It 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 11

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    whom do you prefer : shy or talkative person.
    lav1234 lav1234 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 16

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    Would you date me if I looked like this for real or would you turn and run?!
    OhItsYou OhItsYou 18-21, F 23 Responses Apr 17

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    Oh sure, surrogates abound. Money, power, fame, things: pretenders all. Lovemaking (and I mean that in the most solemn sense of sexual love between two deeply in love persons), is...
    Polyamory55 Polyamory55 56-60, M 1 Response Apr 12

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    im attracted to nice lips hahaha
    thoughtless17 thoughtless17 16-17, F Apr 19

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    It's one of the things I hate about being a POC. Blonde hair and blue eyes is attractive to our society. So I think I just don't see appreciation for people like me enough. Does...
    AriTheTechie AriTheTechie 18-21, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    So this is my friend and she never really believed how she always looked adorable... Can you please give out your most honest opinion so i would screenshot EVERYTHING and show it...
    TheLeftBehind TheLeftBehind 18-21, M 9 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    love the way you lie- Just gonna stand there and watch me burn But that's alright, because I like the way it hurts Just gonna stand there and hear me cry But that's alright...
    mrsskayl mrsskayl 26-30, F 12 hrs ago

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    Scale from 1 - 10 how attractive am I and why :)
    AbsolutePerfection AbsolutePerfection 13-15, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    so am i attractive? lol
    supermario6449 supermario6449 22-25, M 2 hrs ago

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    I'm gonna live like tomorrow doesn't exist Like it doesn't exist. I'm gonna fly like a bird through the night, feel my tears as they dry.
    AthenaSimone AthenaSimone 31-35, F 17 hrs ago

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    Who thinks I'm attractive? Rate 1-10 1 being bad 10 being good Just wondering Don't hold back
    Clarkcor1990 Clarkcor1990 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 8

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    I suffer with depression, anxiety and BDD i am always worried about what i look like i am obsessed withparts of my body constantly trying to change them ive had 2 eating disorders...
    PreponLovato PreponLovato 18-21, F 11 Responses 5 days ago

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    My mail lady is named Toni. If I had to guess, she doesn't like the name Antoinette, and went to Toni, but that's completely a guess. Anyway - she is SO SWEET! She's about 50...
    milehighHeartbreak milehighHeartbreak 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 17

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    I don't know if this is the right board or forum to write this in so please excuse me if its not. Since the age of 12 i have required my son who is now 16 to wear girls clothes. At...
    Amywonders Amywonders 41-45, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I don't know if this is the right board or forum to write this in so please excuse me if its not. Since the age of 12 i have required my son who is now 16 to wear girls clothes. At...
    Amywonders Amywonders 41-45, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    "Done think, 'cuz I understand, I care. Don't think, 'cuz I'm talkin, we're friends." Exactly.
    AthenaSimone AthenaSimone 31-35, F 17 hrs ago

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    Honestly, people say I look good. What do u guys think, am I attractive???
    randomart4lives randomart4lives 13-15, F 5 Responses Apr 7

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    I'm very nervous about asking this, but please be honest and rate how attractive you I think I am. This was the best selfie I could find! Thanks!!
    TheFarSweetThing2 TheFarSweetThing2 18-21, F 7 Responses Apr 16

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    ‚ÄčI was always the shortest kid in class, I wore glasses, before braces I had a gap between my teeth, and my smile was nowhere near "nice". I was bullied unmercifully by peers and...
    ashleeloraine ashleeloraine 22-25, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    nunupanda-just joined today, posted a picture stolen from the web, asking if "she is attractive or not"...I don't get it... Maybe you should ask yourself what exactly you gain by...
    randompersonn11 randompersonn11 36-40, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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