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I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

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    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever 21-25, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 6, 2011

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    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 23 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2 46-50 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 3 Responses May 5, 2012

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    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Its good to have a great personality but its also important to have good looks. Honestly, i think you cant like someone and be with them if you think they are "ugly". Its not fair...
    ninjadentistinspace ninjadentistinspace 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 19

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    Take any journey for about an hour into a city and I can guarantee you will find a girl you think is good looking. It never ceases to amaze me just how common good looks are lol...
    surfdas surfdas 22-25, M 3 Responses Aug 23

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    Truthfully I do believe that looks are not everything considering a person can be beautiful, but that does not mean they are a good person. Personality can go a long ways with some...
    Ahaizzy Ahaizzy 16-17, F Aug 25

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    I've met both people; who doesn't look the most pretty or handsome but they are nice. And some who looks cute and handsome with darkness inside of 'em.
    lydiasangi lydiasangi 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 7

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    I find this to be really true :) There was a time in my life when I was super shallow and only talk to the prettiest of girls or the guys that don't have ache and braces. However...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    I 100% agree with this. Personality lasts forever and looks fade away...
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 18

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    I like the adams family a lot, the way they dress, the way they behave and their house!
    alma70 alma70 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 31

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    Life, you get removed from your mothers womb to grow up in a hostile world. You're told to grow up get a job pay your bills get married have children and now your expected to be...
    EternalSolitude EternalSolitude 13-15, M Sep 8

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    I'm a straight male. does any female think Im attractive?
    ollie27 ollie27 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 18

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    Just want to say that there's no need to idolize the people we see in the media or have to critique ourselves based on impossible standards. Every single One of you is beautiful...
    helloimdeupi helloimdeupi 16-17, M 5 Responses Aug 25

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    Does red lipstick look good on me, or what?
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    No doubt, it probably is. Let us consider why: It requires you to either get pregnant or have to deal with that of a hormonal woman and she may not look as good as she did before...
    4NeonFun 4NeonFun 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 21

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    Oh i think i'm deffo hotter naked than clothed. Not before anyone thinks oo lets have a look do i look particuarly good naked. But clothed I look like a fat geek lol. Naked i don't...
    surfdas surfdas 22-25, M Aug 26

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    Its more difficult than handling 25 people. My son is a good kid but can be a brat too. Of course i have to make sure he'll be guided.
    Elleshore81 Elleshore81 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    There are 14 posts on the popular page posted by females. And guess how many there are by males? 0. Apparently females are a lot more creative than males. It's either that or...
    ray9725 ray9725 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 27

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    It isn't about your body, not how big your boobs are your how tiny your waist is or big butt. It's not about the make up or if you have blue eyes. It's not about if your black...
    EvelynElf EvelynElf 16-17, F 6 Responses Sep 6

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    So here is a new one. Don't usually take selfies but whats the harm, about to go to the Gym :)
    EBestest EBestest 18-21, M Aug 28

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    Worth a shot๐Ÿ˜‚ Cant do much harm in asking
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 3

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    This Bothers Me... Everyone Honestly Tells Guys Their Opinion. But If Its A Girl.. Everyone Has Something To Say Like... โ€ขShe's Fishing For Compliments. โ€ขInsecurity Isn't...
    Eriannaa Eriannaa 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 2

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    If you're asking the question to the whole wide world of the interwebs, don't get defensive and throw a fit when one person out of 100 says "Eh, not so much". Be thankful that 99...
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Who do I look the most like?? Obviously I'm the top right. And how old would guess me at and the one who looks most like me at. Wand who is more attractiver out me and the one who...
    MyDesireIsHim MyDesireIsHim 13-15, F 7 Responses Aug 18

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    I don't care if i'm attractive but i just wanna you to tell me if if u like my style wearing those clothed do i look good in them or not :) (this picture was taken in my sister...
    DarkHawkSLO DarkHawkSLO 16-17, M 6 Responses Aug 19

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    You know what bothers me? When people post things saying how they don't like this group and blah and blah. If someone is looking for attention, who cares? It's none of your...
    EvelynElf EvelynElf 16-17, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Just Give Me A ReasonHow easily do miscommunications happen between people, especially when emotions are involved? I think this song tells the story well. I know I can relate...
    livelaughlovedream3 livelaughlovedream3 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 30

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    I'm noticing a trend of youngsters asking if they're attractive. The answer for the 2500 of you is yes, some one is out there waiting for you. Now get back to your studies. Cause...
    Emojinoid Emojinoid 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 5

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    Why do people care so much about this topic?? Most people on here don't give you the real answer, they lie and say you are when you're not to make you feel good. I'm honest with...
    lykkeismyname lykkeismyname 16-17, T 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Actually I wanna know if you think my Chevys attractive ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ dat *** tho
    Karianne6614 Karianne6614 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    I want to know if you think I'm attractive lol.
    themFeels themFeels 13-15, F 12 Responses Aug 18

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    I want to know if u think I'm attractive ๐Ÿ˜Ža
    Anthonyverdin Anthonyverdin 13-15, M 5 Responses Aug 18

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    My 20-year old son hates me. We have been so close his whole life. He really did not seek out the company of others his age. He grew up in the company of adults and with his IQ and...
    zepha123 zepha123 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 21

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    Well actually, my dog wants to know if he's attractive or not. So what do y'all think?. (Ladies, he's single btw) ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‰
    DaltonCraig DaltonCraig 18-21, M 11 Responses Aug 23

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    What do U guys think? Am I attractive? Just give the Truth I can handle it I just wanna see what people think.
    ToxicTurtle ToxicTurtle 13-15, M 5 Responses Aug 24

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