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I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

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    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever 21-25, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2 46-50 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 6, 2011

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    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 23 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 3 Responses May 5, 2012

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    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    My personality type: ISFJ (Introversion, Sensing, Feeling, Judging) ISFJ Strengths Very supportive. ISFJs are always willing to help other people, sharing their knowledge and...
    NerdyGirl78 NerdyGirl78 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    Its good to have a great personality but its also important to have good looks. Honestly, i think you cant like someone and be with them if you think they are "ugly". Its not fair...
    ninjadentistinspace ninjadentistinspace 16-17, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    well lets go down the list i blocked, judged and called a rapist by someone who was suppose to be my friend i should have known not to talk to him because he is way to sensitive...
    beachboy14u beachboy14u 18-21, T 3 Responses Aug 1

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    I want to be more than a piece of meat I want to be looked at as the intelligent person I am and not the beautiful eyes or my gorgeous body or my delicate face or how my hair is...
    Ownership Ownership 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    You can find a gorgeous boy with a **** personality or not so great looks and amazing personality. How often is it you find both!! I'm one of them lucky girls then!! When you get a...
    Mollou Mollou 18-21, F Aug 6

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    I believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And if you're true and genuine, I think that's beautiful.
    ireallylikebacon ireallylikebacon 22-25, M 5 Responses Aug 9

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    So...I've been on E.P for a few months now without a profile pic & have had 2 messages & nobody talking to me at all. I decided to do an experiment & put a profile pic up last...
    Lovingmyselffirst Lovingmyselffirst 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I 100% agree with this. Personality lasts forever and looks fade away...
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm a straight male. does any female think Im attractive?
    ollie27 ollie27 18-21, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    No doubt, it probably is. Let us consider why: It requires you to either get pregnant or have to deal with that of a hormonal woman and she may not look as good as she did before...
    4NeonFun 4NeonFun 16-17, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Ever since I first discovered dragons, Ive always wanted to be one. I drew pictures of them every day, played as them in games at school, and other things like that. But now, I...
    VolcanoTheDragon VolcanoTheDragon 13-15, F Aug 5

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    It Seems As If I'm Completely Oblivious But I Probably Pay More Attention Than I Should. >,.,<
    ThatOneGothKidxD ThatOneGothKidxD 13-15, M Aug 5

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    What I don't understand is, beauty isn't all about showing skin or your hair done or the duck face, or sticking your tongue out. If it's you then it's okay, but if your doing...
    EvelynElf EvelynElf 16-17, F 9 Responses Jul 26

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    I just want to know if people find me attractive, so tell me I'm pretty!
    JMatthews99 JMatthews99 13-15, M 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Hello beautiful people. Just wondering which image looks better, and could you also say whether I'm attractive or not, it might cheer me up
    InMiseryWeSeekBacon InMiseryWeSeekBacon 16-17, M 3 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    totally am super gorgeous in my mother's eyes 💁 that's good enough for me haha 😂✌️
    nevermindmeeeee nevermindmeeeee 18-21, F 1 Response 22 mins ago

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    This is not a cry for attention, this is a cry for advice. If I wanted random people to start telling me that I'm attractive I would post this in 'I want to know if you think I'm...
    CheeseBomb500 CheeseBomb500 13-15, M 6 Responses Aug 6

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    About 2 years ago, a friend of mine started becoming very self conscious. Her self esteem lowered to the size of a grain of rice. I tried so many times to talk to her, to help her...
    mcrlegacy mcrlegacy 13-15, F 10 hrs ago

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    Why do you need complete strangers to tell if you're attractive? Obviously you must have low self esteem. It doesn't matter about your looks anyhow. Society wants you to think that...
    xMikayla xMikayla 13-15, F 7 Responses Aug 1

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    I hate how some people post in here saying that everyone in here is an attention seeker or is just posting about their little insecurities. Honestly, posting pics of yourself...
    ItsSarahYeah ItsSarahYeah 18-21, F 7 Responses Aug 10

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    I hate to sound like an attention ***** but I can't hold it in I just wanna break down and cry... I found out today that... My brother is going back to live wit my dad. ( who I...
    werebentnotbroken werebentnotbroken 16-17, F 8 hrs ago

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    I don't normally like to put myself out there but I would really like an honest answer on this. What do you think? =)
    HeartofGold007 HeartofGold007 31-35, M 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Good afternoon. base my appearance off of seeing one section of my face! (I was being sarcastic but thank you for your nice comments!)
    AddyAddyAddy AddyAddyAddy 18-21, F 9 Responses Aug 6

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    I already posted a picture of how I actually look saying how it doesn't matter what people think of you it's all about you. If you don't like yourself how can you love another and...
    EvelynElf EvelynElf 16-17, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Am I attractive? Girls always say I'm cute but does it mean I'm attractive or am I like a little puppy cute?
    brownzugar brownzugar 16-17, M 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    Ok. So when I answer one of these posts for a girl, and say "you're pretty;gorgeous;beautiful" and what not. They find out I'm a lesbian and all of the sudden are all weirded...
    kittykat6918 kittykat6918 13-15, F 8 Responses Jul 29

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    Just wondering if anyone thinks I'm attractive? No rude comments please or sarcastic ones. But hey if you think I'm attractive hmu.
    joshmygosh joshmygosh 18-21, M 6 Responses Jul 26

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    Rates? 1 being ugly 10 being pretty 😊 thank youuuuu
    karianne5683 karianne5683 16-17, F 26 Responses Jul 28

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    I actually do not want to know. I do not care as looks fade but an attractive personality is real. If you need to ask this try working on what's within instead of being vain.
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 29

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    I'm completely comfortable with who I am but I have no idea if the average person finds me attractive so I'm just curious. Good or bad, I can take it :P
    arshar94 arshar94 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 31

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    Who do I look the most like?? Obviously I'm the top right. And how old would guess me at and the one who looks most like me at. Wand who is more attractiver out me and the one who...
    MyDesireIsHim MyDesireIsHim 13-15, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    I don't care if i'm attractive but i just wanna you to tell me if if u like my style wearing those clothed do i look good in them or not :) (this picture was taken in my sister...
    DarkHawkSLO DarkHawkSLO 16-17, M 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Yeah, I'm doing this. Seriously, if you think I'm not please comment, i won't be offended (doesnt mean be rude). I just want to know because I think I'm ugly. No one could like my...