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I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

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    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 3 Responses May 5, 2012

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    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 6, 2011

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    It is a curse. Many years i didn't wear makeup

    or try to dress myself up because i hated the attention. The wrong attention. Before i was 24 years old, without any addition i was an average. Then i liked someone so lost some weight and people call me "hot". Problems arise. People often mistreat me, pay more attention to what...
    Sophialovesyou Sophialovesyou 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 6

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    I am a gay man. I don't think I am especially

    attractive, yet I have men, and women, throw themselves at me. Many call me gorgeous. I don't mind sometimes, but last night I had two men literally fight over me. My roommate is always hitting on me and gets mad when I don't return the favor. The guys I do like, usually don't...
    pk421a pk421a 31-35 Nov 22, 2014

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    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 24 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2 46-50 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    cottonbreeze cottonbreeze 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    What do you think?????????????????????????????
    zbd840 zbd840 16-17, M 51 mins ago

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    parenting realization #679: the older your kids get, the harder and more expensive their birthdays become
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    everyone is beautiful that's it no more to say
    mickeymic mickeymic 46-50, M 7 hrs ago

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    Legitimately am i even slightly attractive
    ptvpiercetheturtle ptvpiercetheturtle 13-15, M 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I can't sleep tonight Wide awake and so confused Everything's in line But I am bruised I need a voice to echo I need a light to take me home I kinda need a hero Is it you? I never...
    TiredOfBeingHurt TiredOfBeingHurt 18-21, F 16 hrs ago

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    Ahh people. Why are you so rude? This tag is called "I want to know if YOU THINK I'm attractive". Not "I want to know that real beauty is on the inside" or "I want to know if I'm...
    equinoxxx equinoxxx 13-15 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Lol. No thanks. I'm very super attractive I know it. I have a certificate n all ;)
    newstartnow15 newstartnow15 26-30, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Attention seeking and insecure is not attractive just stop already
    Notquitesurewhatimdoinghere Notquitesurewhatimdoinghere 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm going to look hot for me. If you don't like it, move onto the next girl. Because I'm all me, and there's nothing that's going to change my video game loving, weird clothing...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    Alot of people say tht am not attractive i don't think so .... Friends tell me am attractive or not ! ?
    Mehdii007 Mehdii007 22-25, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'd like to thank both God and Jesus for this opportunity to be called vain and obsessed with my appearance. Vanity shouldn't be the main pursuit, but I'm truly curious what people...
    Blancpaper Blancpaper 18-21, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've read a lot of bullshit on this thread - lmao. LIARS - SHUT THE **** UP - YOU ARENT HELPING. ATTENTION SEEKERS - NO ONE LIKES YOU, YOU KNOW YOURE GOOD LOOKING. PEOPLE WITH...
    Nuhinbuttrolin Nuhinbuttrolin 66-70, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I want to know if I'm good looking or not
    bMerciful bMerciful 13-15, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I don't think I'm attractive, I've had not had a girlfriend yet and I don't get any matches on tinder (dating app).
    kallan89 kallan89 26-30, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Hey girls I want to know if you think I am attractive? :)
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    Hey girls I want to know if you think I am attractive? :)
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Well lol, that anyone else besides my mom think im good looking lmao
    Delta465 Delta465 18-21, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Am I good of the looking???
    flowerbomb13 flowerbomb13 13-15, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    I want to know if you think I'm attractive
    Americandoglover Americandoglover 13-15, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I really want all the people who are different races to know how hard it is to be black. You dont know how lucky you are you dont have to go through your life being black. Being...
    ineedhelp122 ineedhelp122 18-21, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    Well, please excuse the weird lipstick stain but am I attractive?
    sugasugaa sugasugaa 18-21, F 13 Responses a week ago

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    Personality makes or breaks. An okay looking man can have a great personality, that would make him so much more attractive to me. Same with a good looking man, crappy personality...
    nunezquinnad nunezquinnad 18-21, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    Am I attractive?…please tell me the truth.
    Psawyer1 Psawyer1 22-25, F 16 Responses Jun 22

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    I'm the one laying in the bed with black and white fur, laying next to the girl, what do you think? Am I an attractive kitty? 😅 (I'm actually the girl)
    EvelynElf EvelynElf 18-21, F 12 Responses Jun 21

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