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I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 102 People

    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2 46-50 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 3 Responses May 5, 2012

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    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 6, 2011

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    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 23 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever 21-25, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    I am a gay man. I don't think I am especially

    attractive, yet I have men, and women, throw themselves at me. Many call me gorgeous. I don't mind sometimes, but last night I had two men literally fight over me. My roommate is always hitting on me and gets mad when I don't return the favor. The guys I do like, usually don't...
    pk421a pk421a 31-35 2 hrs ago

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    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    We put so much emphasis on the way someone looks but really? Why? The person literally has no control over how they will look like in their natural state. Its just already decided...
    LoveCove LoveCove 18-21, F Nov 3

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    I think that beauty has overtaken the world right now, and definitely not in a good way. Everything is sexualised which kind of makes me lose my ****, especially when it comes to...
    LuciLeft LuciLeft 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 5

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    I agree. I think some people here are looking for "models" to converse with? I might be talking to someone and they ask for a picture and when I send, they stop talking to me. (It...
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 1

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    I'm the coolest guy there is ,people who me say that. I am immature BC being mature is boring and normal. my Dachshund is Jewish.
    racistdick racistdick 41-45 1 Response Nov 10

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    Our society is so mess up today, that everyone decides that its would be great to say something about someone's look. I'm not wishing bad, but only if we were blind, than maybe we...
    gorgeusgirlSky3 gorgeusgirlSky3 13-15 1 Response Oct 29

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    I just believe that one must be celebrated for what they have achieved rather than what they were born with. Appearances, race, nationality, relatives are some of the things you...
    tejaswini4588 tejaswini4588 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    We are attracted by appearance but we can only live with the character.
    ladybug96 ladybug96 16-17, F 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    Despite people that are on here. Please don't ask for phone numbers or where I live . I'll block you. I had a guy tell me that we were meant for each other in 6 sentences. Well...
    jeankachew jeankachew 51-55, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    You know, I'm just super shy and I've never been a wallflower. Guys have never really given much attention either, so I wanted to know what you guys think.WHICH IS A LOAD OF...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 23

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    am i attractive??? everyone's attractive in their own way.. if you think iam attractive, just heart 3 this post and give a response why.. LOLS.. ^_^
    joethangbali joethangbali 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 6

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    Idk I don't see myself as being attractive but I wonder what you all think
    gmolina8 gmolina8 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 14

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    I totally disagree with this. I make more money than my spouse. It doesn't bother me. I actually really like that I hold a higher income than he does. I do not, however, like...
    BeThinXsin BeThinXsin 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 11

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    My dad always asks me "When are you going to grow up or be mature?" Also my man sometimes tells me to "grow up." I just ignore them and be me. I'm more mature than most people...
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    Not attention seeking, promise. How can I make myself more attractive to girls? What do girls like? Please don't make comments saying "you're attractive enough already!!!!" When I...
    TheWonkyRook TheWonkyRook 16-17, M 2 Responses Nov 12

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    I think this group should go from being called "I want to know if you think I'm attractive" to "I know I'm attractive and I want you to know it too" lol since most people who post...
    sugarcakes143 sugarcakes143 18-21, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    Just kidding, I don't really care if you find my face attractive. There's more to me than my face. But isn't Ginko the cutest? :3
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 3

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    It's difficult because of time. I want more time to give to my kids. I don't have it cause I work a lot. I'm doing better with that by spending time with them on the weekends...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 24

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    I've posted this before... But PLEEEASE read it.. Okay.. I highly dislike the people that comment on these picures saying "you just want attention" Girls and guys want to feel...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Well.. I know most people would ask this KNOWING they are attractive and just wanting attention but.. I honestly don't know if I'm attractive or not. I've dealt with low self...
    Armyhopeful Armyhopeful 16-17, M 5 Responses Nov 13

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    I'm not very attractive to girls at my school thy just think I'm ugly and don't stand a chance and have been shot down by so many lol I really have no idea why? :(
    PabloBoyyyy PabloBoyyyy 16-17, M 5 Responses Oct 23

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    What does everyone think? Please be nice:)
    Leopard3487 Leopard3487 18-21, F 92 Responses Oct 24

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    I still don't think i'm attractive even when you girls say i am
    jjjbq5 jjjbq5 18-21, M 16 Responses Oct 25

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    If you don't think so, be brutally honest and constructive criticism will be appreciated. Or if you do think so, well thanks lol
    lostsoul412 lostsoul412 18-21, M 4 Responses Oct 27

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    Well do you think I'm attractive?
    rubenr1002 rubenr1002 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 3

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    Like this if y'all think he is attractive By the way he is Mexican :)
    LoneLegend LoneLegend 13-15, M 5 Responses Nov 3

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    Kinda need help :/ in all honesty I have no idea if I'm even pretty or anything. I don't think I'm ugly. But I don't think I'm really attractive either so..
    brimc7 brimc7 16-17, F 12 Responses Nov 3

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    No one here is ugly. Don't be manipulated into believing the ideal of beauty that the media portrays. Beauty lies within your imperfections. It's what makes us human and 1!!a...
    DansSin DansSin 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 4

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    I know this doesn't really work for guys but can I have some honest opinions?
    Jbt619 Jbt619 18-21, M 5 Responses Nov 9

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    why should I care if someone I never met or will meet think I am attractive? oh right I do not care because it will make me seem like I am seeking attention.
    mikotomisaka mikotomisaka 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 9

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    I have problems with my body image and facial features, and I don't find myself very "attractive". I'm just wondering what you think.
    zoesykes zoesykes 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 11

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