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I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

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    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2 46-50 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    I am a gay man. I don't think I am especially

    attractive, yet I have men, and women, throw themselves at me. Many call me gorgeous. I don't mind sometimes, but last night I had two men literally fight over me. My roommate is always hitting on me and gets mad when I don't return the favor. The guys I do like, usually don't...
    pk421a pk421a 31-35 Nov 22, 2014

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    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    cottonbreeze cottonbreeze 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2014

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    It is a curse. Many years i didn't wear makeup

    or try to dress myself up because i hated the attention. The wrong attention. Before i was 24 years old, without any addition i was an average. Then i liked someone so lost some weight and people call me "hot". Problems arise. People often mistreat me, pay more attention to what...
    Sophialovesyou Sophialovesyou 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 6

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    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 6, 2011

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    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 24 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 3 Responses May 5, 2012

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    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Please be honest. Tell me what u think. Thank you!
    Ghost21z Ghost21z 16-17, M 2 hrs ago

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    yeah, it feels good to be in love.. but it also makes me anxious.. does he love me back as much as i love him? how if he leaves me? etc etc etc...
    cactieandporcupine cactieandporcupine 26-30, F 4 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I really like this tbh. What do you guys think?
    BriGags BriGags 16-17, F 4 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    yah, it has gotten me in trouble at work, started family feuds, terrible things happen to children....I'm leaving that scene bye bye Facebook aka fake book ; p
    StreetgirlnamedDesire504 StreetgirlnamedDesire504 36-40 1 day ago

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    The Dangers Of Social Media https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R3LHKKasNvw
    BkOrY7 BkOrY7 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    WHEN YOUR SOCCER KID DOESN'T GET BENCHED DURING A MATCH FOR ONCE *surprised face* in all seriousness, we should totally turn this into a parody experience. it would be cool to...
    soccerm0m soccerm0m 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have this black friend - a girl - who is a year younger than me and I must admit that I am weaker and a lot more feminine than she is. My black friend is tough and tomboyish...
    iamabigtease iamabigtease 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    I find girls clothes more appealing than guys clothes because they have many more styles and selection. I mean the possibilities is almost endless and one thing that women can do...
    12rak38 12rak38 36-40, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    If this describes you than for the love of God take a couple of minutes and write down a story or two here..It's really not so hard here's an example. I like women with big natural...
    thebustierthebetter thebustierthebetter 46-50, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I raised my two children alone after a seven year marriage ended. I worked a job in retail as a store manager. I had to work 50 hour 6 day work weeks. I had no help raising my two...
    thebustierthebetter thebustierthebetter 46-50, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    Does anyone think I am? Probably not
    beautifulmaggie beautifulmaggie 16-17, F 17 Responses Aug 23

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    How To Turn Six Dollars Into Six Thousand Dollars: I found this on a bulletin board and decided to try it. A little while back I was browsing through newsgroups just like you are...
    manusundr manusundr 46-50, M Aug 22

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    I am on a mission to butt the ******* in my way of reading by his clanging sales pitch. Get off ep my page butthead.
    jaymepopejoy jaymepopejoy 56-60, F Aug 22

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    "Good looks fade but a good heart keeps you beautiful forever" ❤️
    kaitfaust kaitfaust 13-15, F 8 Responses Aug 22

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    Its weird cause I get compliments on my appearance frequently but I really don't see it. Its not that I even think I'm ugly I'm just rather average. And it sucks because I see fine...
    Overtherainbow66 Overtherainbow66 22-25, F Aug 21

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    love is a wonderful feeling,am living the life i meant for me.thanks to dr faust a spell caster i met here..my love life is back..thanks Faust..if u are having issues in any issues...
    rosemyers rosemyers 51-55, F Aug 21

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    Hmm. Being confident is something learned... Thinking you're attractive is another ballpark. I think you can be unattractive but still confident. Just don't be cocky. Stay humble...
    kiMiiLe kiMiiLe 26-30, F 10 Responses Aug 21

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    Where are all the guys do you think I'm attractive posts !! Lol
    roxy20122929292 roxy20122929292 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    Lmfao ok I have a question?? ^~^ why do people post here if they're just going to get mad when someone says no?? Haha I've got blocked and my comment deleted because I said no Cx...
    GrandmamaTemptationCx GrandmamaTemptationCx 70+, F 5 Responses Aug 20

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    I may not be the most beautiful woman in the world. But I'm capable of loving with all my heart. It really doesn't matter to you?? *sigh*.
    PinkyJess1 PinkyJess1 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I may not be the most beautiful woman in the world. But I'm capable of loving with all my heart. It really doesn't matter to you. *sigh*.
    PinkyJess1 PinkyJess1 22-25, F Aug 20

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    Feeling bored, maybe we can all share a good laugh about this one? 😂
    mouaddmou mouaddmou 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 18

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    Well i am pretty and attractive, I already know, but I wanted to share my beautifulness
    GvibesG GvibesG 16-17, F 22 Responses Aug 18

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