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I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

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    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    It is a curse. Many years i didn't wear makeup

    or try to dress myself up because i hated the attention. The wrong attention. Before i was 24 years old, without any addition i was an average. Then i liked someone so lost some weight and people call me "hot". Problems arise. People often mistreat me, pay more attention to what...
    Sophialovesyou Sophialovesyou 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 6

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    I am a gay man. I don't think I am especially

    attractive, yet I have men, and women, throw themselves at me. Many call me gorgeous. I don't mind sometimes, but last night I had two men literally fight over me. My roommate is always hitting on me and gets mad when I don't return the favor. The guys I do like, usually don't...
    pk421a pk421a 31-35 Nov 22, 2014

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    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 6, 2011

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    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 24 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2 46-50 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    cottonbreeze cottonbreeze 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2014

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    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 3 Responses May 5, 2012

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    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Just wondering what u all think
    jdoe99 jdoe99 16-17, M 2 hrs ago

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    Here goes nothing! I'm just a curious person lol. Do you think I'm attractive ???
    nicole2020 nicole2020 18-21, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    See sisters Or pals. Big. They escort a kid. From the library. And a twin fantasy forms. But my inner brat says loudly. What if they bark. But my inner lover...
    Converted Converted 46-50, M 22 hrs ago

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    Okay ha so I was just wondering if people think I'm good looking or not lol so yeah please be honest. And just to be clear, I am completely straight, so I'd mostly appreciate girls...
    JaySmith9999 JaySmith9999 16-17, M 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I don't think I look good what do y'all think
    mariner31 mariner31 22-25, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I want to know if you think I'm attractive cause I don't think I am
    butterflypink butterflypink 16-17, F 12 Responses 3 days ago

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    Over here I can complain about my neighbors and their need to spend so much damn money on everything, as I can't compete. Can't join them, for they are more advantaged, not doing...
    jaymepopejoy jaymepopejoy 56-60, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    The answer to you question people is YES & NO. Not everyone one in the world will find you attractive. But looks only count for the first few minutes of meeting someone. It's the...
    Morninglory69 Morninglory69 26-30, M 4 days ago

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    All I have to say is I get some people like attention and they can wear whatever the hell they want but there is also a point where you pass the line of self-disrespect. Yea you...
    amrosi amrosi 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    This is fun! Do you think I'm attractive?
    CandiReal CandiReal 18-21, F 21 Responses 4 days ago

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    Does the blue make my eyes stand out? I wouldn't feel like a real EP member until I contributed to this experience in some form haha.
    HISkip HISkip 26-30, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I attract others like flies. It doesn't matter what I'm wearing, or what I'm doing. Unless I am looking down and am avoiding eye contact and smiling, people catch my eyes and...
    AlwaysNastasya AlwaysNastasya 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Because all the fu¢k people care about it looks and a good body on a woman. I know it, I feel it, and I even see it on my posts with photos of me. But if you only KNEW what's...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses a week ago

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    Murder lives forever And so does war It's survival of the fittest Rich against the poor At the end of the day It's a human trait Hidden deep down inside of our DNA One man can...
    hannahthepizza hannahthepizza 16-17, F a week ago

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    Yes, on line friends are more intimate, because in real life we screw things up royally, and there's no way to repair brokenness. So in real life, we repress and forget, we move on...
    jaymepopejoy jaymepopejoy 56-60, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Sometimes it's just nice to hear a few people tell you your beautiful. It's a boost of confidence. So I want to know if you think I'm attractive.
    Ariesgirl81 Ariesgirl81 31-35, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    "Gone too far and yeah, I'm gone again, It's gone on too long, tell you how it ends, I'm sitting on the edge with my two best friends, One's a bottle of pills, one's a bottle of...
    GeneticTrickster GeneticTrickster 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I am becoming friends with someone I work with. No, don't think incorrectly, this is two talented women with similar writing and photojournalism capabilities. Sometimes, that in...
    jaymepopejoy jaymepopejoy 56-60, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    Does my makeup look good in this pic? Idk about it
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Jul 18

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    Eww😷😷... Comment... I don't think it looks good
    emlovesriding emlovesriding 13-15, F 10 Responses Jul 17

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    Exhausted and tired Adila. Been a really tough couple of days for me, finding it really hard to keep that smile on my face which is pretty sad since it's the end of Ramadan and the...
    TheWestlifer TheWestlifer 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 17

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    why you guys ask these questions? it doesn't matter if you're physically pleasing to the eye. if you're pretty but a bi.tch you're not gonna get to anything in life.
    saraxc saraxc 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 16

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    When I was little I was told 'look after your brother.' Its a job I did as best I could. I was only 4/5 but I remember standing at the school gates saying "mum says get this from...
    moyesp moyesp 51-55 1 Response Jul 16

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    Hey girls I want to know if you think I am attractive :) hehe
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 15

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