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I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

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    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 3 Responses May 5, 2012

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    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess 36-40, F 13 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX 36-40, M 2 Responses Jul 6, 2011

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    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever 21-25, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 22 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2 46-50 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    Someone who has a great personality makes them instantly more attractive. It's usually the people who are often over looked by others because they may not be as attractive as some...
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 1

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    The most beautiful person becomes ugly to me if they have an ugly personality and someone who I may not initially find attractive becomes so when I get to know them and their inner...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Mar 28

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    A pretty face can make me blush, but intelligence and a good heart can make my heart flutter and mind fill with them. I've looked at so many people on here thinking they were...
    Naxxaras Naxxaras 16-17, F Mar 25

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    Sometimes I wonder how many people would actually like me if they never knew what I looked like. Why do people only care about appearances? Sometimes I wish we were all faceless so...
    MissMisunderstood1 MissMisunderstood1 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    Ladies and Gentlemen of the class of ’99 If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by...
    ifilayhere ifilayhere 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    I'm a straight girl, but i find women's bodies are way more interesting than men's..
    Loyalty91 Loyalty91 22-25, F Mar 25

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    I think that you shouldn't need to change your natural color. If you're white, be white. If you're black, be black. If you're Hispanic, be Hispanic. Everyone is beautiful in their...
    ashbomb132 ashbomb132 13-15, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't really know what happened? The first 6 months was so much fun. We did things together, we partied and our sex life was amazing. When we moved away together that all changed...
    teeballz teeballz 18-21, F Mar 28

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    This is the truth. But we all have the option of doing this ourselves. Finding the good people of the world and helping those that are beaten down by those who slide by in life...
    crazynam321 crazynam321 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 12

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    Hello dawn. It's good to be. I had a love, but little luck. I don't bleed any more 'cause my heart's been crushed. And now I'm free - lucky me.
    Dove9 Dove9 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    "Little Miss" Little miss done on love Little miss, I give up Little miss, I'll get tough, don't you worry about me anymore Little miss checkered dress Little miss, one big...
    KortneeAnne KortneeAnne 22-25, F Mar 28

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    The Kills "The Last Goodbye"It's the last goodbye I swearI can't rely on a dime a day love that don't go anywhereI learn to cry for someone elseI can't get by on an odds and ends...
    KatzeB KatzeB 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    I can't get this song out of my head. ❤️ http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=c7NLq5Soq_E "Everybody Knows" It gets harder everyday, but I can't seem to shake the pain. I'm trying to...
    golden8003 golden8003 31-35, F Apr 6

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    Hey hey, my my Rock and roll can never die There's more to the picture Than meets the eye. Hey hey, my my. Out of the blue and into the black You pay for this, but they give you...
    seasalticecream seasalticecream 16-17, M Apr 10

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    JOHN MAYER LYRICS "Vultures" Some of us, We're hardly ever here The rest of us, we're born to disappear How do I stop myself from Being just a number How will I hold my head...
    KortneeAnne KortneeAnne 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    I'm beginning to believe that we aren't given the gift of a child/children to teach them about life but more because of the fact that we still have things we need to be reminded of...
    7t5HATgirl 7t5HATgirl 36-40, F 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    Bubbles. Bubbles are great fun → I keep a small bottle in my purse at all times. Lately I've been going on long walks with my family, and I will occasionally just pull out my...
    teach82 teach82 31-35, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    I am the mother of 4 I am also pregnant all my kids are good and make diecency choices however my 13 year old has a problem he is so mean and entitled all he wants to do is be...
    Jackie85 Jackie85 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    When I’m stressed or in emotional pain, I need physical comfort. A hug, a gentle kiss, a compassionate touch. But my man, he’s the complete opposite…When he’s stressed and...
    dragonflEYEfly dragonflEYEfly 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    My boyfriend of 7 years has no respect for me. We have a beautiful little girl that's about to be 2 next month. I always catch him spying on his exes and other random girls. I've...
    Ireallycantsay Ireallycantsay 22-25, F 11 Responses Mar 27

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    It's not a skill, it's just good software.
    xSCARx xSCARx 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    You can recover from weed quicker than alcohol.
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    Yes I do, even as a gay male I find them to be very interesting. I've never had a problem making friends with some of them, straight or gay. I think they find me non threatening...
    TanTwink TanTwink 22-25, M 6 days ago

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    Belle: There's something sweet And almost kind But he was mean and he was coarse and unrefined But now he's dear, and so unsure I wonder why I didn't see it there before Mme...
    KortneeAnne KortneeAnne 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    I feel like my boyfriend doesn't love me anymore. Hello everyone, me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for 2 months now. In the beginning, also before we became a...
    blakexoxo blakexoxo 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    Five Finger Death Punch - Battle Born. ******* amazing song. Once upon a time, I swore I had a heart, Long before the world I know, Tore it all apart, Once upon a time, There was...
    Emeraldsky222 Emeraldsky222 18-21 1 day ago

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    you may not think it but i always understand situations and what is going on around me i just choose not to except what i have seen or heard if it is something i do not like :(
    Hemanwar Hemanwar 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 23

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    i am a very quite person. its surprising how often this angers and/or intimidates people. i am constantly asked why im so quite. you learn more from listening than talking. people...
    ambular1006 ambular1006 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    I cashed in all my chips tonight and combed my hair till it was just right. Cause I've been thinking about you and me girl, and we got something going on. You told me you can't...
    catchphrasejones catchphrasejones 18-21, M 6 days ago

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    Said all I want from you is to see you tomorrow And every tomorrow, maybe you’ll let me borrow your heart And is it too much to ask for every Sunday And while we're at it, throw...
    seasalticecream seasalticecream 16-17, M 4 days ago

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    I spent my time, watching The spaces that have grown between us. And I cut my mind on second best, Oh the scars that come with the greenness. And I gave my eyes to the boredom...
    ifilayhere ifilayhere 31-35, F 4 days ago

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    I love the lyrics! It makes me stronger as a person... http://youtu.be/o8pQLtHTPaI The Story -by Brandi Carlile All of these lines across my face Tell you the story of who I am...
    Optimistic34 Optimistic34 31-35, F Mar 26

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    I'm not a parent, and don't plan on it ever. Because I truly do believe it's the most difficult job. I don't think I will ever be able to properly care for someone. I mean I could...
    caseylouise caseylouise 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 27

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    Um, yeah.... "Somebody That I Used To Know" Now and then I think of when we were together Like when you said you felt so happy you could die Told myself that you were right for...
    SpiritQuest2014 SpiritQuest2014 46-50, F Apr 1

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    The Rose -- Bette Midler ...  Some say love, it is a riverThat drowns the tender reed.Some say love, it is a razorThat leaves your soul to bleed.Some say love, it is a hunger...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 7 Responses Apr 3

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    I don't see it as depression I just like remembering old girlfriends or people who where in our lives I like listening to sad songs being Mellow u know
    Farandaway1 Farandaway1 31-35, M Apr 11

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