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I Think Being Attractive Does More Harm Than Good

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    Yes......

    It's been a curse for me all my life.
    lilyofthenile lilyofthenile 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    Has Always Been An Advantage For Me

    It's helped with jobs, life and relationships. Maybe it's different for men.
    user21 user21 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    My Own Experiences Of Late

    One of the things I've noticed is that other people expect good-looking people to be happier than they are, which I find to be extremely shallow. As my daughter put it, 'they expect you to be happy because you are better looking than they are, so you should be smiling or happy...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    Your Thoughts Matter

    Of course you can go for the "aurea mediocritas" - the golden middle way - and say that extremes can bring troubles. Being too beautiful might scare the others, make them feel insecure, accentuate their flaws etc, and here comes your loneliness ! But it's wrong. Being beautiful...
    ArianX ArianX 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 6, 2011

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    Yes Really!!

    you go 4 a job interview and u know instantly you will get the job not because you are necessarily good at it or are qualified 4 it but that the interviewer fancys u! u just want 2 get on with the job bu the boss who interviewd u  wants more so u leave. what a waste. you get...
    blondiesindy blondiesindy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    Beauty Is A Curse

    Personally Ibeing beautiful has brought me pleasure but I have spent my entire life being treated like an idiot, an object and being surrounded by people who seem to be capable of nothing else but hate and jelously. They have made my good fortune a curse.
    Bleck2 Bleck2 46-50 1 Response Mar 13, 2013

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    Being Attractive Can Be a Curse.

    Being born attractive can confer advantages on an individual but it can also provide lots of life obstacles. Growing up can be bewildering for a child who is attractive but not told so by her family network, as she can have a hard time understanding the reactions she draws from...
    DancePrincess DancePrincess 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    Being Attractive Is Almost Like A Curse

    Being good looking is not always great! Yes, you might have the benefits when people want to get you something, compliment you or let you in at clubs without paying for anything, you are being starred on the street from strange men and women. You might feel special for a little...
    Marisa74 Marisa74 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    High School

    Definately in high school it was a different story as far as popularity went, however, once i messed up and had a baby "just to see what it was like" I realized how irrational and thoughtless i was and I dont know if that would have happened if I would not have been...
    marriedwomanforever marriedwomanforever 21-25, F 1 Response Jan 12, 2008

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    cottonbreeze cottonbreeze 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    I am a gay man. I don't think I am especially

    attractive, yet I have men, and women, throw themselves at me. Many call me gorgeous. I don't mind sometimes, but last night I had two men literally fight over me. My roommate is always hitting on me and gets mad when I don't return the favor. The guys I do like, usually don't...
    pk421a pk421a 31-35 Nov 22, 2014

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    Damaging Perceptions

     I have an older sister who was tallest in all her classes, bookworm, had bifocals and was always picked on for one thing or another by all the bullies. My sister is not ugly but people did treat her that way and called her ugly. So she believed it even when we told her it...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2008

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    I Thought Being Attractive Would Make Me Happier, I Was Wrong.

     When I was in middle school I was overweight. Needless to say I didn't have any boys attracted to me in the romantic sense, but I was however respected by them and had friends that sincerely Loved me. I would lay awake some nights thinking how much easier and better my...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 24 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    I'm Fine the Way I Am

    i've never been admired for my beauty. i've never had men fight over me. but i also have never been dumped. have never been cheated on (as far as i know). and i've never been treated like a trophy girlfriend to be tossed aside as soon as something prettier or younger came along...
    hairylady hairylady 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2008

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    Professionally, I Am Not Taken Seriously Because of My Looks.

    I personally don't think I am all that attractive but others seem too and for that, in the work force I am not taken seriously.  I either get a job because it's a male doing the hiring or I don't get the job if it's a female.  I have had numerous male bosses hire me on...
    monkey007 monkey007 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Not What It's Cracked Up To Be.

    When someone is attractive, they don't get taken seriously as often. When someones attractive, yes they may get that job, but they may also have other conflicts. Sometimes, when you're beautiful/handsome other people are jealous of you. This leads to hate crimes, violence, rape...
    LylaRocks LylaRocks 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2011

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    Still Single!!!

     Well here goes, I am a 25 year old very attractive young woman.  I moved to the states 7 years ago from Ireland with my now x boyfriend (thank God) but I have been single since!  I have so much to offer, not just my looks I am not big headed in any way I just...
    Louiselulu Louiselulu 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 3, 2008

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    Scientific Evidence

    Wilson & Eckel (2006) and Andreoni & Petrie (2008) conducted separate analog studies that shed light on the intra- and interpersonal dynamics behind what seems to be a disappearing beauty premium. Their data suggests: we have higher expectations of the beautiful; the beautiful...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 3 Responses May 5, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Ugh I hate how mom is so obsessed with how I look YES I cld be a reflection of how I feel/ what I'm going through HOWEVER I feel like she is being rude if she comments on how I...
    Hey4yu Hey4yu 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    Even though i dress nicer and i use make up. It doesn't improve anything, i don't get more attention and people don't treat me better for it.
    Mikaela1920 Mikaela1920 16-17 3 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    I didn't realize I have been comparing myself to my friends my entire life. I am on the left. I feel very insecure because my 3 year old daughter said my friend here on the right...
    tlee5001 tlee5001 22-25, F 47 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    I DONT REALLY GIVE A FUCKK IF YOU THINK IM ATTRACTIVE OR NOT
    teehee342 teehee342 18-21, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Wear sunscreenIf I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be itThe long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientistsWhereas the rest of my advice...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    One of the best things that I discovered while being alone is that you have a greater perception of things and people around you. You see them as they are, you observe their work...
    TheMisanthropeOtaku TheMisanthropeOtaku 18-21, M Jan 6

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    I think being sane is a crazy response to a sane world
    NewBeginnings5 NewBeginnings5 22-25 Jan 17

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    When you're alone, do you think of me? And my diamond ring's thrown out to sea. And when you love, do you love for me? Like harmony, a never ending dream. Oh well, oh well. I...
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F Dec 28, 2014

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    Its strange that how so many peoples here , want to know that either they are attractive or not .. so many peoples i met in life specially girls, are always speaking about they...
    Feelslike90sagain Feelslike90sagain 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 2

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    For all of you losers who constantly come to this experience category that clearly states "I want you to know if I'm attractive" and write the exact same meaningless comments "get...
    3dayweekend 3dayweekend 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 9

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    No...I didnt forget to post a photo of me... What I would like to know doesnt have to do at all with looks, by the way, the ones posting their photos, most of them taken from...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    I just would like to know what every one thinks because apparently I am not attractive in any way if I have never had a serious relationship or actual boyfriend so please help me...
    bdsmlover009 bdsmlover009 13-15, F 16 Responses Jan 5

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    Well, it's been awhile since I posted my last experience about this topic. During that time, I became legal- finally!!! So, I would like to know if you think I'm attractive. Please...
    Leopard3487 Leopard3487 18-21, F 14 Responses 3 days ago

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    I was wondering what face would be most attractive in my circle of friends. I'm doing this PURELY because I am legitimately curious. So, if you don't mind, rate them in order of...
    OBuddyOpal OBuddyOpal 13-15, F 11 Responses 3 days ago

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    I did this once before but it wasnt a good picture kuz i was so nervous i didnt wana give a good one does that make sense??? Please be serious...
    Xychorite Xychorite 16-17, M 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Why is it that when guys post a picture of there selves, its just a few people responding but when a girl does it she gets more attention then the guy. Is it me that's thinking...
    TheDesireToDance TheDesireToDance 22-25, F 8 Responses 1 day ago

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    Seriously... Don't post here and ask for opinions on how you look if you can't handle the fact that different people have different opinions on what is attractive. NOT EVERYBODY...
    jo5h jo5h 22-25, M 6 Responses Jan 2

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    I hate photoshop lol!!! Can make you look so perfect, turn ugly into dreamy, make the old look young etc. I was wearing fancy cloths and I was thinking " hey you look good" well...
    Mixedemotions2k Mixedemotions2k 13-15, M 6 Responses Jan 10

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    Most of the girls posting this crap are so worried about what other people think. I'm not the most confident girl but I don't go around posting a picture of myself for old horn...
    kkam34 kkam34 13-15, F 5 Responses Jan 11

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    Tbh I don't understand this lmao. This is for trolls wanting to get a whole bunch of attention or for people who are way too insecure and need someone to tell them they are good. I...
    unicornwrestler unicornwrestler 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 19

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    Hey everyone do u think this is a good body just started working out and would like to know what u all think :)
    MRDeclano MRDeclano 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 1

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    Do you think I'm attractive? I've been told I am and told I am not
    funmonday funmonday 36-40, F 10 Responses Jan 2

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    I saw everyone else doing this so i wanted to try ... do you guys think I'm attractive? Don't tell me I'm attention seeking or need to realize it for myself >.< I just wanna...
    Dreamscape98x Dreamscape98x 16-17, F 16 Responses Jan 2

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    I honestly don't care of people find me attractive or not I love the way god made me Everyone needs to understand that god made us all beautiful in our own way :) So everyone is...
    RainbowWolf13 RainbowWolf13 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    Vanity aye? Never been the most attractive guy but I feel like my personality picks up the slack, or maybe thats just wishful thinking lol
    Kafkadreams210 Kafkadreams210 16-17, M 2 Responses Jan 4

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    Hi! Ladies, do you think i´m attractive? :) Be honest please! :)
    buzus buzus 31-35, M Jan 6

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    I am attractive?. My family tells me I am a dog. I think I am princess.
    reydog reydog 46-50, F 20 Responses Jan 7

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    Be honest please guys. Do you think I'm attractive? :p
    kaleidoscopic21 kaleidoscopic21 13-15, F 18 Responses Jan 8

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    FOR R WITH A Y.... Sam smith feat. Mary J Blige Stay with me. Guess it's true, I'm not good at a one-night stand But I still need love 'cause I'm just a man These nights never seem...
    idleheart idleheart 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 8

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